How to Speak Up at Work Without Getting Fired | Tea with GaryVee Ep #79 PART 1

0:00We have a question from Michael. How do you go into a new position with little influence within your organization and communicate with a little grace and dignity that they're doing it wrong? By communicating with grace and dignity. He's got it. You know, like by not being scared of the ramifications. What he's really asking is, I'm a little bit scared to do that because they might fire me. Or they might think I'm a complainer. Or they might think I'm a problem. And he's not wrong. But here's my thing. Do you know why VaynerMedia became the largest independent global agency in the world? It's because that's the only thing I do.

0:33You know why? We don't get clients all the time because of it.

0:40We, for a lot of you on Team Gary here or VFriends, you don't know this. We do not get clients a lot because I tell them directly the truth and they don't like the truth. But here's the punchline. We get a lot of clients because of that. And so if Mike does this and gets fired, he wouldn't have won there anyway so you and I love him because he asked you know the problem with a lot of people is they come in and they're like 23 and they think they fucking know everything and they're like you don't do social right and they like you know and they do it audacious they do it classless they do it with like entitlement but notice how great that question was you know so I think he's on it and I could not encourage people more to respectfully and humbly communicate observations because that will give you an indication of where you work.

1:40Right? You know, Aaron, you already know this. Actually, Aaron, you really know this. We don't really know each other like that yet. We're about to get to know each other because of where I'm going with my personal brand come in the fall. But you've come in and you've pushed back and I would argue, I'm just guessing here now and I'm not trying to put you on a spot, but I've been almost like too open to the feedback, which gave you an indication of who you worked for.

2:10Right? So for you, it worked. But if I was like, shut the fuck up. Who the fuck do you think you are? Do you understand? I'm Gary. I got 55 million dollars. How many of you fucking got? If I did that shit, you'd be like, I need to get the fuck out of here. Okay, this question is from Talyn. I'm struggling with quitting my job. I absolutely hate. I've been flipping items on eBay for almost two years. I turned$20 into 4 ,400 revenue monthly. One more time. I've been flipping items. No, I heard that part, the math. Oh, I turned$20 into 4 ,400 revenue monthly. I've also started another business on the side.

2:48I work 14 hours a day. I haven't been able to make my full income yet. I've been stuck with not having more time for meetings and sourcing due to my job. My theory is if I quit and risk it double down i can at minimum double my revenue to live on that's right but i'm stuck because my debt is high and i pay for my house what the fuck does that have to do with anything think about how he broke that down my into anybody that can make that kind of money part-time while having a job when they quit their job and go all in he's gonna triple his revenue also he's 27 years old yeah he has to quit this i'm honestly i'm deciding not to go on a rant because i all the rants are the same at this point.

3:24Everyone's a fuck face and just needs to fucking stop being scared of shit and stop judging everyone else. Start judging yourself and being accountable. As a matter of fact, I'm never doing this show anymore. Here we go. I'm going to break it down. All of you are scared because you overvalue people's opinions. All of you are judging everybody but yourself. You're not fucking accountable. You point fingers, not thumbs, and you don't realize how lucky you are. Thank you. I'm never doing this show again.

3:56No, but I miss the show. I miss the show. I miss the show. I mean, Jesus. Oh, God. He needs to jump. He will win. I've seen this movie a hundred times, Aaron. Can I just say something to everybody? Friends. Friends. Jobs will always be there for you. Jobs exist. for the people that can't take the risks or don't have the talent, or, which is amazing, like, jobs are amazing. I don't look down on jobs. And by the way, real talk, and all the entrepreneurs in here, including the successful ones like me, are about to say yes. Do you know how many times a year I wish I was the employee? The amount of stress at the top is really gangster.

4:45And if you don't realize it, let me tell you how. every parent here, remember when you had that child, how shit changed that fear you have every day, that stress you have every day to make that person live and be happy. So anyway, I, um, I just think that there's such an opportunity for more happiness. This, this guy, if he quits is likely could have quadruple his revenue, not double the debts, the debt, whether he has the job or not have the job. If he quadruples his revenue, it sounds like he's gonna be able to pay off the debt quicker. And what he doesn't realize is that 27, if he fails at 29, he'll go get the same kind of job paying the same amount of money.

5:28There's almost no risk in quitting a job because there's always another job. Next question, Aaron. Okay, the next question is from Ava. What advice would you give someone that struggles to do the mindless daily tasks that need to be you need to do to be successful because the lack of immediate gratification is like eating glass

5:48i i do not understand the lack of resilience in society life is about eating glass what's her name ava ava why are you why are you the chosen one that should have life so easy ava why are you the chosen one that should have life so easy and so great we all have to eat glass there's not a single person that you know everyone that isn't eating glass oh i know what you all do you look at kourtney kardashian and have decided she doesn't eat glass. You look at Novak Djokovic. You look at Cindy Sweeney and you decide they don't. You look at Mr. Beast. You don't think those motherfuckers eat glass? Those motherfuckers eat a lot of glass.

6:43You know what it's like to live in the public eye and have judgment at scale daily? Do you know what it's like to have almost every human being you interact with want something from you and not interested in giving you anything?

6:58Who doesn't eat fucking glass? Who the fuck doesn't eat glass? Every single human being on earth eats glass. Who the fuck doesn't eat glass? Bug bite says eating ass. Yes, some people eat ass too. It's like, that's real life. That's, Victoria, you like that one? Victoria's usually locked in. Yes, it happens. I mean, we're all grownups here. Yes, that happens too. All right, let's keep it going. All right. Question from Sean. Gary, I'm 21 years old. Hate going to school. Pumped doing my side hustle being a video editor. What advice would you give for me as a third year college student trying to balance school and work?

7:44Quit school. Quit.

7:52Do companies even look at college anymore? Do you know that I'm looking at all of you and you could couldn't? I. if you told me Victoria's the most important person in my professional life if you asked me what school did Victoria Emily Anna Hannah if you said to me I will give you one billion dollars in cash right now to tell me what colleges they went into they went to I'd have no clue I barely know that Ross went to LSU when he wears LSU stuff every fucking day

8:30I have no clue if, ready for this one? I don't have a clue if LSU's a good or bad school. I don't know what LSU's good for. I know that Shaq went to LSU. I know that Joe Burrell went to LSU. I know that a tiger is a mascot. I know it's in New Orleans. If you told me what is LSU good at, like what's it known for? Accounting, nursing, technology. I don't fucking care. That's not real life. Quit school. Especially if that dude's taking on debt. If you are taking on debt in college, mommy and daddy aren't paying for it, the state is not paying for it, and you hate it, and you don't need it for your profession, you need to be a lawyer, you need to be a doctor, yes.

9:17Your mommy and daddy are paying for it, or you got a full ride because you're good at fencing, yes. You're fine with it, and it's kind of like a vacation and you're like doing keg stands and hooking up definitely but if you fucking hate it and you're collecting debt quit now yesterday period all right a question from jacob 31 years old your video about building fast versus building slow really resonated with me and gave me the push to pursue my passion i was i was laid off from my fire alarm job two weeks ago and decided to go all in on sports and collectible cards i post daily on x facebook youtube instagram and tiktok using hashtag peak pull daily but sales have been slow lately and rents coming up i do better at card shows but they only happen monthly i'm all in and working hard every day would love any advice from you sell them whatnot 24 hours a day next okay uh shiva asks how do you market a product or app that you haven't built yet but you want to first validate the desirability and viability by building it you're not gonna be able to get the answer she's looking for.

10:23Learn what AI engineering is. You can build MVPs now with AI, even normal people go to chat. She beat him. Say I'm a normal person. Gary V told me to build an app. This is the app. How do I build that? It will literally walk you through it. Next question. Okay. Um, from Tootsie jr. Looking to find my next gig post 70, uh, post 67 years old love in 18 months, my corporate risk management job, it will be over. Not sure where to start. Not about the money more about what do I want to do? You know, it's so funny. Like this question's interesting to me. Like the answer is what are your hobbies? Like, do you love golf?

11:00Do you love cooking? Do you like watching whatnot? Do you like, like everybody does know the answer to this and everybody's scared of the answer because they don't think it's a job. You know, like, like, again, like, do you like garage selling? Because like, it is a job. You can make like 200 ,000 a year buying a garage sales and flipping on one night and ebay like do you like poker like you could make content about poker like everyone does know if he's he said he's not the he did well right he did well enough that it doesn't have to be about the money like it could be anything you like the horse track like go to the horse track every day and make content about horse betting and that can lead to sponsorships that can pay for your betting you like ice cream go work at an ice cream shop make$19 an hour working at a fucking ice cream shop in Palm Springs and serve the kids like I don't know like everyone actually knows the answer to these questions everybody fears leaning into their happiness there's this almost inherent subconscious misunderstanding that you can't like do it like you can't this is why I'm I'm how I am like I just fully do what I want it comes with eating glass every minute of my life but it's what I want to do this goes back to like nothing's perfect, nothing's easy even doing your dream job or your dream thing has its ramifications there is no perfection there's just life Melissa found my dream job at 61 but always wanted to retire at 65 any thoughts?

12:39Yes, I have huge thoughts. It's called, you're allowed to be adaptable and change your mind based on the circumstances of the reality of your life versus the subjective ideology you created for yourself at some point in your younger life. I stayed disciplined there. I didn't go crazy. That's the actual answer to the question. You arbitrarily in your 20s or teens or 30s decided that you were going to retire at 65. You're now 61 and you found something that makes you happier. You're now allowed to go to 73. You're also allowed to do it for the next four years and in four years, by the way, shit changes.

13:21It might not be as fun as it is or dream as it is now and then you can achieve your life goal of retiring then. Oh, by the way, when you decided 65 was retirement, probably 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago, people didn't live to 100 the way they do now. You might want to rethink 65. Do you know what I think I'm going to be doing at 65? The same shit I'm doing right this second. Do you know how funny it's going to be when I'm like 78 and clearly 78 years old and still like going to garage sales and still like pounding and still doing tea with Gary? Like the same shit. I'm going to be such, I'm a ridiculous 49 year old.

14:00Imagine how ridiculous this is at 78. And it's going to be the same shit. I'm in the dirt. I'm a worm from the dirt. Next question. Question from Sonny. I own a fitness business and I'm closing my brick and mortar to go fully online. How do I stand out in a sea of online fitness businesses and influencers who charge nearly nothing for their content? By understanding that the market is the market is the market. Like supply and demand, like shit changes. By giving better content and by having people care more about them. Everybody who's got a personal brand wants to speak. I get paid more. People feel more connected to me.

14:41Give back more. Give back more. Look what I'm doing with Tea with Gary Vee right now. Have something to offer, which is yourself. People will pay for things that are free out there if they like the person more, but that's the game. Next question, Erin. Question from Deanna. How do you reinvent yourself at an older age? For instance, if you have always done sales, how do you pivot to marketing or something you know you would be better at? Nobody gave a shit that you did sales. You're allowed to do marketing. People are in their feelings too much. It doesn't matter if they did sales. Now you do marketing.

15:11By start making content and just changing your LinkedIn profile, you're like, I do marketing now. Nobody cares about these things. That's old thinking. You just need one person to say yes. Do you know that's what life's all about, everyone? Like everyone's like, oh, I can't get a girlfriend. You sure can. Ask out every girl you see in the world, one will say yes. Are you, do you like that one? It's true. Gary, nobody will take me serious because all my LinkedIn is sales and I want to do marketing. Email 4 ,000 people on LinkedIn and say you do marketing and you learn these things from sales and one person will say yes.

15:55I'm trying out here, folks. I'm trying. Like, life is so simple and yet everyone decided to make it so complicated. I would say humans great skill is complicating simplicity life simple you just made it hard next Caden asks I'm a 25 year old guy I have a YouTube channel with around 500 subscribers but I haven't posted in years and my personality and interests have changed drastically is this a lost cause do I start a whole new channel I need someone to slap me in the face with reality Start a new channel. 500 zero anyway. Who gives a shit? Non-question. Next. Okay. How do you deal with a franchisor who micromanages their brand?

16:43I'm the consultant and all creativity and innovation gets blocked by controlling founder. By not being a consultant.

16:54I love when consultants complain. You're an opinionator, not the executor. you want to control shit, own your own shit. And guess what you do? You own your consulting business, which means in this scenario, he can fire the client. They're allowed. Leave. Oh, but you want to keep taking the money. Well, if you're taking the money and somebody else has the control, you have to deal with their shit. There's an old Russian saying that my dad used to love to say. whoever pays for the music gets to pick the song you don't want mommy and daddy to tell you how to live your life because you're 24 stop taking their money

17:44you don't want to have mommy and daddy have power on you and tell you who you should date how you should live where you should work because you're 25 I've got a big secret for you stop taking their money and you got all the control back.

18:06Yeah, Ronald. It's not harsh. It's actually liberating. Ronald said, damn harsh. Actually, not really. Actually, profound. What's harsh is all the kids right now that are 26 that hate that their parents are in their business and don't realize by not taking the money, their parents are totally out of their business. Last question. Okay. this question is from Darren Gary I'm a realtor you mentioned about going live on Instagram TikTok when you have no one watching what should I be talking about any ideas first make content so you build up a couple hundred followers text Andy all the way to Zach Nadler in your phone and everybody in between ask them to watch your content build an audience of seven when I started Wine Library TV, I had 30 watchers.

18:57Then 41. Then 57. Like, I don't, like, you know. Like, just make content. Make content. Put in the words, put in the actions to the words I'm saying.