How to Stay Confident When No One Believes in You | Tea with GaryVee Ep #79 PART 2

0:00This is a question from Daniel, who's 28 years old. he says literally two days ago my girlfriend broke up with me because she claims i'm financially irresponsible in my eyes i'm investing in a career that i want i work a steady job as a freelance videographer and make anywhere from 2k to 5k a month depending on the clients and workload my success is definitely coming in a lot slower than i'd like or better yet she would like but i'm determined and i communicated that i don't plan to stop also for more context this is my second time dumping money on a passion project this year we're not even talking about last year lol I mean look the answer is both of you can be right in this scenario like there doesn't have to be someone who's wrong or right like she's allowed to make a subjective opinion if she thinks your strategies on how you handle your money don't work for her for the kind of financial partner she's looking for in her life she's allowed you know and long term she may regret this decision or it might be the best decision that ever happened.

1:01You're also allowed to not conform and get a regular job or do something. You are not in a place where you have to make a certain amount of money or do a certain thing to appease a partner either. There are unbelievable amounts of women in the world that will love you for what you do, for how you do it financial. What is financial success? It's different to everyone. Is$100 ,000 a year enough to make for many women and men? It is. For many women and men, it's not. I don't judge what people are looking for. They're gonna have to live with that. If a woman is only looking to marry a man who makes a million dollars a year and she breaks up with a couple guys along the way that treated her better, at 62, she may regret that.

1:49Maybe she doesn't. She's allowed. Same for men. Same for men that marry. We always love to say women are gold diggers. You know how many men are gold diggers? There's a lot of men who are trying to marry rich girls or girls that have rich dads. There's a lot of shit going on in the world. The answer to this question is all of it works. Neither are necessarily right or wrong on surface level. Both could be wrong in real life. I just don't have all that context, but it will all play itself out. But I would say, but what I would say is, you know, like don't cry. like don't cry don't cry when someone leaves you that's where I'm that's the shit I'm about do not cry when someone leaves you be self-reflective think about if there's something you want to do different and be better be accountable like be accountable but don't cry there's I don't know if you guys know there's 8 billion people on earth

2:54there's literally 8 billion people on earth if you are broken up with there is a high percentage chance that the next partner you're going to have is better for you if you are fired there is a good chance that your next job is going to be more fun and pay you more stop being scared of adversity being ghosted being dumped being fired are often the best thing that ever happened to you everyone has just decided universally that it's the worst the end you like that one Mike that one hit you a little bit I know you that one hit that one hit for you you're happy right that was good right I actually felt that on you right now good good shit and Mike's huge garage sale coming up this Saturday or he is fired we all know that oh man I'm in a really good mood.

3:47I love doing this show. I'm gonna do this show a lot. Brandon O 'Neill, my girl cheated on me. Good, Brandon. That's good. I'm being serious. I know everyone, like a bunch of youngsters work here. I'm looking at all of you. Who cares? My point of view on that is you got lucky that you got to the truth. Now you get to make a decision. How about this? I wouldn't even judge you if you've decided to forgive her. and get, everyone's allowed to do everything. Everything's allowed. Who the fuck are you living by? What's the, do you know how many people right now have lived happily and successfully and prosperly and happy for the last 50 years after one of the spouses decided to forgive the other spouse for an infidelity?

4:35That's profound. Who the fuck makes the rules?

4:42good for Brandon that she cheated on him it's given him clarity of the option by the way some of you need to get cheated on to fucking kick you into fucking gear a lot of motherfuckers on this show this morning need to get cheated on to wake them the fuck up because they're taking their fucking partner for granted because they fucking got lazy they need to wake the fuck up but this show puts me in a very different mood right this show puts me in a very different mood than my normal self all right let's go to the next question okay this question is from david um i'm 32 single a cpa mba and i feel like i've wasted the last decade 32 or 42 32 oh here we go go ahead i've wasted the last decade addicted to weed and just surviving i'm finally ready to change and build something meaningful i've said it before but i have no choice what's your number one advice to someone trying to reinvent their their life from scratch for real this time by realizing that 32 is 22

5:46i'm pumped for this guy what's his name david i'm so proud of you bro here's what i would say like when you're 90 you'll be like yo 22 to 32 was fucking epic i smoked weed every second like you're gonna be fine like yes you haven't you know like you you over you know you misplayed certain parts of your life. I'm sure there's certain parts of your life that you've done well with. And good news, you're 32, you're a fucking kid. Like, you know, you're a child. And by the way, when I was answering that question about 32, somebody in the chat and whatnot said, what about 47? Same thing. Here's my thing.

6:24If you're 47, 57, 67, and you're like, what about me? I've blown my whole life. Here's my point. There's never a bad time to start doing good shit.

6:37like if you're 67 and you're like, well, it's too late. I fucked up everything. And you're destined to live to 92. You're telling me you're like, you know that you can make the next 25 years a hell of a lot better and enjoy it. Do you know how many teams are losing in the fourth quarter? Do you guys know sports? Do you know how many teams are down 28, seven going into the fourth quarter and win? We're all at sport. We're all a team. Life is sports and you as a human are a team. And there are many fucking teams. Do you know what those pieces of shit in Indiana Pacers did? The Knicks were fucking winning by 12 with one second left and lost.

7:15I'm literally going to Oklahoma City tonight to sit courtside to boo the Pacers. You'll all see me tonight if you watch the game. I will be courtside tonight booing the Pacers. Those motherfuckers were dead and pulled it out in the last second. You could be 90 and a piece of shit and a fucking loser your whole life and pull it out in the last three years and reconcile all your relationships, have some fun. What is this? What about 47? What is this? What about 32? And you motherfuckers under 30, I'm gonna kill all of you. What are you worried about? Nothing is bad. You've got unlimited time to make everything awesome.

7:56What are you crying about? And you know what you're all crying about? Oh, but I'm a 29-year-old girl and my friend Heather is already married and just had her first, what the fuck does Heather's life have to do with you? Next question. Okay, this question came through your text. It's from Samantha, who's 25 years old. She says, I'm an actor and my life is not going in the direction I want it to. The reason for me reaching out is to ask if you offer life coaching sessions. Listening to your videos has been giving me so much inspiration and motivation and sometimes I even feel like you're speaking directly to me.

8:32I started disconnecting from friends I grew up with lately because I no longer feel connected to them. I've realized I want to hang around people with big ideas and who see me and my ideas as a possibility. I don't know. I thought I'd reach out and see if I could get even like five minutes with you. I guess I feel like I am directionless. It has been feeling like no one gets me in my dreams, not even my family. Samantha, I'm so pumped. I'm so proud of you. you said as a 25 year old, as a 25 year old, you have realized one of the great lessons of the human life. I'm about to change thousands of people's lives in this moment and millions over the next three decades that watch this clip.

9:17If you are unhappy, you must do the following. You must audit and limit and replace the people and the content you are consuming. Who you spend time with and what you listen to is the fundamental reality of your emotions. My friends, if you are unhappy, you must break up, quit, or if you love your mom, but she's a negative Nelly and you guys talk twice a day, you need to move to twice a week. You must cut out or limit. I'm not saying you got to like never talk to your dad again, but if your dad, every time you call him is like, dad, how are you doing? Oh, my back, my boss. I think I have cancer.

10:09Like how's your idiot boyfriend? If that's the combo, you need to get the fuck out of there. you need to go surface level you need to start thinking about therapy you need to start consuming positive content my friends you are only unhappy because of who you spend time with let me give an example when my homies tell me they're unhappy with their job yo bro like this is real life when a friend of mine's like yo i fucking hate my job i go positive i don't i'm not that friend like all All of you are the same kind of friends. Most of you are not me. Most of you are enablers. Your buddy's like, yo, I hate my job.

10:46They're like, yeah, that boss a dick. No, no, no. I go to like, let's take a step back. What can you do about it? And then I remind them, you got a beautiful fucking daughter who's an Olympian. You've got a fucking great wife. You're going on vacation for two weeks next week. You love your softball team. I just go positive. And then I go accountable. I'm like, you can quit. but we're just in this culture of fucking enabling. Everybody here, actually what I'm feeling right now is something I don't say often. I'm asking if everybody's ready to be a better friend. Please put in the chat, better friend.

11:24If you're ready to stop enabling your dwelling unhappy loser friends and are willing to do what I'm doing on this show for you every morning to your friends. I get that you're homies but you can't just be like yeah you're right when your girl's like oh Rick's such a dick he like he like went bowling too late last night you need to be like Karen shut the fuck up Rick's a good dude Rick's better looking than you Rick's providing let the fucker bowl not like yeah Rick's a dick do you understand enough enabling

12:08next question okay this is from a comment on one of your youtube videos um does passion really build billion dollar brands or do you need to be a little obsessed like v friends to pull it off what's your take heart or hustle both passion is often the reason people go out of business because they just think i'm passionate about this golf business it'll do great and it fails Passion is fuel, but your business is the car and you have to know how to drive it. Ooh, shit. Yeah, whoa. Clip that, whoa. Yeah, that was it. That was it, y 'all. I got that one. Passion is the fuel, right? The business is the car.

12:47You have to be a great driver. So passion is just one of the elements. But I do believe that passion allows you to get crazy. Like I think a lot of people build very nice businesses businesses because they just want the money oh i know i can sound i'm good at math i can start an accounting firm i'm i i'm not passionate about it but i'm gonna build a 10 million dollar business and i'm gonna make 800 000 a year and i'm gonna have this good life and that's fine but i think that blows for me for me i think it's wonderful for others but not having passion not waking up and being pumped that's what leads to unhappiness i'd rather make so in fact i do make so much less money than I could because I choose happiness and I do that now and people are gonna be like well you can now that's what my number one passion and happiness from 22 to 30 was building a company for my parents you guys know how I feel about my parents it makes more sense to you the more you get to know me like I love my parents different I got lucky and I think everybody else who has remarkable parents loves them like that too but we were also immigrants and we went through it together you know what I mean I was born in the old country and all those dynamics so that was my My passion, that was financially horrible for me.

13:58I started this company at 34 in another company's conference room because I had no money. I was 34, I had no money. I'm gonna say it again, I was 34, I had no money. Because I was living my passion, I was happy as shit doing it. And then I wasn't. Then I wanted to build some more monetary gain for me and I changed my mind and I started my own company instead of building my dad's for him. So, you know, to answer, no, passion is not the only thing. I'm passionate about being a professional athlete. I, Gary, am passionate to be the quarterback of the New York Jets. I am more passionate to be the quarterback of the New York Jets and win a Super Bowl than I am in anything I do in my life.

14:35I cannot pull that off. I do not have the talent or capability to do that. Nor did I ever have that talent or capability.

14:46I have the talent and capability to potentially buy them one day. That I believe.