Live Shopping Is the New 2012 Social Media

16 Jan 2026 · 42 min · 19 chapters

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Episode Title

Live Shopping Is the New 2012 Social Media

Episode Description In this episode, Gary Vaynerchuk discusses the potential of live shopping, positioning it as a major opportunity for the future, much like social media was in 2012. He emphasizes the importance of adopting a "maybe" mindset, the impact of insecurity on decision making, and the need for personal accountability as one matures into adulthood.

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Key Takeaways

  1. Live Shopping as a Major Opportunity
  2. TikTok Shop Affiliate Marketing: Gary suggests that live shopping in 2026 will be as transformative as social media was in 2012.
  3. This is a "gold rush" opportunity for content creators and marketers.
  4. Affiliate Work: 90% of TikTok Shop is affiliate-based, allowing individuals to create content for products they promote and earn commissions.
  1. Adopt a "Maybe" Mindset
  2. Gary encourages listeners to adopt a "maybe skewing towards yes" mindset to overcome fear and initiate action.
  3. This approach counters the common inclination to dismiss opportunities due to self-doubt.
  1. Insecurity and Overanalysis
  2. Root of Overanalysis: Gary explains that insecurity leads to overanalyzing situations and perfectionism, which can paralyze decision making.
  3. Action Over Analysis: He encourages taking action instead of getting stuck in the analysis phase.
  1. Originality and Niche
  2. No Original Ideas: Gary asserts that originality is a myth; all ideas are recycled and it's the individual’s unique perspective that matters.
  3. The Creator is the Niche: Success lies not in finding a new niche, but in being authentically oneself.
  1. Multiple Business Ventures
  2. There is no need to limit oneself to a single business endeavor; success can come through multiple side hustles.
  3. Gary himself engages in various businesses ranging from media to sports.
  1. Accountability After Age 25
  2. Age of Accountability: Gary proposes that turning 25 should mark a transition into personal accountability, where individuals stop blaming external factors (like parents or society) for their circumstances.
  3. Personal Growth: At this age, one should start taking responsibility for their life decisions and outcomes.
  1. Forgiveness and Humility
  2. Emotional Well-being: Cultivating forgiveness and humility is key to achieving happiness and emotional balance.
  3. Gary emphasizes the importance of letting go of grudges to foster personal joy.

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Discussion Highlights

Live Shopping and Affiliate Marketing

  • Gary highlights the potential of TikTok Shop and the importance of engaging in affiliate marketing as a lucrative side hustle in the evolving digital landscape.

Mindset and Personal Development

  • A significant portion of the discussion revolves around shifting mindsets from fear and insecurity, promoting a proactive approach to life.

Originality and Content Creation

  • Gary stresses that individuality is what makes content special, rather than striving for originality.

Accountability and Life Stages

  • The conversation addresses the transition into adulthood and the importance of taking ownership of one's life after a certain age.

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Conclusion In this episode of The GaryVee Audio Experience, Gary Vaynerchuk presents a future-focused perspective on live shopping, the importance of mindset in achieving success, and the necessity of personal accountability. His emphasis on forgiveness and humility as pathways to joy offers listeners a comprehensive guide to personal and professional growth in the rapidly changing digital marketplace.

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Chapters

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New Year, New Goals

0:20 to 1:26

Gary interacts with the audience, sharing optimism for the new year.

“We are live and we are going to answer people's questions.”

Bartering and Business Advice

1:26 to 3:39

Gary shares a personal story about bartering for a sign and giving business advice.

“I found this gentleman who's in the chat right now.”

Opportunities in TikTok Shop

4:25 to 6:41

Gary discusses the potential of becoming a TikTok affiliate and the opportunities it presents.

“Would love to know how to get started on TikTok Shop.”

The Business of 'Yes'

6:41 to 7:39

Gary explains the mindset of saying 'yes' and how it can lead to success.

“I'm in the business of maybe skewing towards yes.”

Originality in Ideas

7:39 to 14:02

Gary emphasizes that originality is an illusion and shares strategies for success.

“They always think it's only for people that made it without realizing the people that fucking made it were in the business of maybe skewing to yes.”

Overcoming Labels: The Trust Fund Debate

14:02 to 14:45

Gary confronts common misconceptions about privilege and success.

“I made my parents trust fund kids because I built a business for them.”

Navigating Content Creation: Niche vs. Broad Appeal

14:46 to 17:03

Exploring whether content needs to be niche or if broad topics can succeed.

“I don't understand how people don't understand that everything works.”

The Paralyzing Fear of Inaction

17:04 to 19:42

Understanding the roots of overanalysis and the importance of taking action.

“We just had a thousand viewers, now we're down to 733 because for some reason TikTok algorithm thought I did something.”

Defining Adulthood: When Do We Grow Up?

19:43 to 21:35

Discussing the age when individuals should take accountability and stop blaming others.

“about what I'm mad about, how I've been wronged by my family and others.”

The Transition to Adulthood: Age and Expectations

21:36 to 23:12

Debating what age signifies the transition into adulthood and societal expectations.

“Everybody double click and hit the share button.”
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Shifting Perspectives on Life in Your 20s

23:16 to 27:32

Discussing societal pressures and personal fulfillment in your 20s.

“You're in such a fantasy land if you go to college.”

Accountability After 25: No More Excuses

27:33 to 28:01

Highlighting the importance of personal accountability after turning 25.

“That's the rule I think we can establish.”

The Nature of Competition and Governance

28:01 to 28:35

Understanding how competition and governance influence human behavior.

“I can't wait for Mondani's four years to work out.”

Personal Growth and Family Dynamics

28:36 to 29:40

Reflecting on the challenges of changing family members and personal growth.

“At the end of these next four years, there's gonna be a lot of people that voted for him that are gonna be complaining.”

The Impact of Society on Individual Behavior

29:41 to 30:25

Discussing societal issues and their effects on personal development.

“in me which I'm proud of, it makes me very likable, but it doesn't necessarily bring as much value to the individual as maybe my ideology has thought.”

Engaging the Audience: Live Interaction

30:26 to 30:56

Encouraging audience participation and sharing personal stories.

Reactions to Others' Actions and Emotional Control

32:00 to 35:02

Exploring how to control reactions to others' behaviors and decisions.

“Jim, thank you, thank you, not first time, thank you Tinker.”

Navigating Difficult Relationships

35:03 to 37:49

Discussing the complexities of relationships with family and loved ones.

“Even though he directly to my face, the Tyler.”

The Power of Forgiveness

37:50 to 39:58

The emotional benefits of forgiveness and letting go of grudges.

“Please say in the chat who that is and how long.”
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0:00There is no original ideas. There's no niches. There's no original ideas. There's no originality. People want to be original. I want a breakthrough. I want my own niche. I want my own lane. They're all fucking taken. They've all been done. What's not been done is you. Fully you. This is the Gary Vee Audio Experience. We are live and we are going to answer people's questions. Happy 2026 everybody. Hanging out in my office again for a little Q &A session, a little jam session, a little hangout session. Cynthia, great to see you. Dylan, almighty, thank you Shannon. Thank you so much for joining. Really appreciate, actually let me see something here.

0:42No, no, I don't wanna do that. Everybody hope you had a great, great new year. Hope everybody's super well, excited to answer your 2026 questions. Hope everybody is focused on making this the year that they decide to get really going and living the life they actually want to live. Long Island Sign Guy, great to see you. Talk about someone who's really affected. Long Island Sign Guy, so I'm a big fan of bartering. Like I think a lot of bartering should be done more. And my dad needed a new sign for his liquor store. And my dad is, you know, cheap. And he's like, I don't want to pay for this sign.

1:20I was like, well, let me, I have an idea. Like everybody wants my business and marketing advice. Let me see if I can find one. I found this gentleman who's in the chat right now. He came in, I did a bunch of consulting for him. He crushed, in my opinion, because I know what people pay for me. But also you have to kind of value something that's not black and white. He put up the sign and there's a lot of costs in that. But what he has done is he's actually executed on my advice and has absolutely annihilated Long Island. Basically I feel like everybody in Long Island's buildings are now his signs.

1:54But he'll answer that in the chat if that's true. So, Mean Man, thank you. Olivia, great to see you. Boy with the OZ, good to see you. Wolverine, great to see you. The chat is blocked by that camera right now. Like, that hasn't happened in the past. Can we do something about that? Yeah, let me just. Yeah, thank you. Look, the big cheese, Bellmore says Long Island Sign Guy has done sign for me. That's awesome. Anyway, everybody, thank you so much for being here. Everybody, can we pin my book? Yes. I wanna pin the book. That's been very, that's been probably the most exciting thing. we do live commerce on this show as well and a lot of people have bought this book.

2:31What's that? Oh, Meet Me in the Middle is Penn, right, the kid's book. I got it. You are right, Courtney, sorry. This has also been, these are the two big massive wins. You can see right down below, if anybody has a kid in their life between the ages of two and seven, put the number seven in the chat. Two and five, two and five, put the number five in the chat. if you are one of those people or you're an awesome aunt or an unwavering uncle or a grandparent, this is the book to get. This is your opportunity to check out. Do we have a discount or coupon? Nothing like that right now, right? Okay, this is in the shop right down here below, but let's get into the questions.

3:11Looks like it's 25 % off right now. Is it 25 % off? I love it. Very nice. 25 % off. Let me know if you pick up a book. I can see if you go into the cart, so click it and just learn. This is less about you buying the book, though if you have a two to five year old, I think you should, because it's awesome. This is more about you seeing how live shopping works and then you can do this for your business. So, alright, we're here to answer questions. The mics are on, the team is here. If you have a question for me that you would like answered, please ask the question in the chat. Use five question marks.

3:43Also, join the fan club. You just saw it. Join the fan club. That's the bottom right little gift box, right? Yes. At the bottom right of the screen, there's a little gift box. bottom right, it's the second thing in. There's the share button all the way, and then there's that little, right down below, that bottom pink red gift box. Click that box, join the fan club, join, join, join. There we go, I love fan clubby. I like Fanny up there. I like Fanny over my head all day long. I want Fanny over my head all day long. Also, I need one massive double tap right now from all 500 of you. Double tap, double tap, double tap, double tap, double tap, double tap.

4:18I want the hearts going. And now, I need you to actually ask your questions. Let's fire away. Let's go into it. I'm ready. Someone said, currently out of work. Would love to know how to get started on TikTok Shop. You know, so TikTok Shop is, 90 % of TikTok Shop is affiliate and only 10 % is what I'm doing right now. Has anybody not bought the book yet? Alright, I'm pretty upset right now. I need someone to buy the book just so I can show everybody an example. You need this book to read to the kids.

4:5190 % of it is affiliate work. So you're literally making content for things that people have affiliates for. So I think you need nothing now. It used to be 5 ,000 followers. Now it's much less. There's an approval process. Everybody should go to ChatGPT and just type in TikTok affiliate. TikTok affiliate. How do I become a TikTok affiliate? We're living in this amazing world where I used to have to give details here, but now I can just tell everybody if you actually want to do it go to ChatGPT or Perplexity or Gemini type in how do I become a TikTok affiliate in Germany in America in Canada because a lot of people there's some places you can and can't but you're literally just making content for product and then if your organic post sells some of that product you're making a affiliate fee this is a massive industry I think TikTok affiliate is a huge opportunity for people here everyday people that don't even have a lot of followers, don't forget how TikTok works.

5:50You make one good video. You don't need 15 million followers like me. You can have 800 followers. You make one video around hair care or a fan or a clay play set that you just like. You make a good piece of content. You post it. For some ungodly, unknown reason, it gets 9 million views and you just print. This is real stuff, my friends. How many people in the chat have made money as a TikTok affiliate? How many people in the chat, I made an AI video of a mask and sold 40. Look at that. That's real life. This is real life, my friends. This is real life. I believe the content affiliate commerce live shopping and affiliate shopping content thing is the 2012 version of social media content creator.

6:37So many of you will have your life changed if you go all in on this and I cannot recommend it more. please everyone look at Trend Sniper I made 17k on December in TikTok shop please share more of your treats in here everyone so that the people that are saying nah like a lot of you how many of you just said no how many of you were just like nah that's not Gary's wrong like that's a pipe dream own it say I said nah N-A-H I said nah I need to know that you said I said nah because everybody who is struggling on earth is in the business of saying no when approached or presented something of optimism and work.

7:23I'm in the business of maybe skewing towards yes. Many people on earth are fully in no. They live in nah. That's not for me. I'm not pretty enough. I'm not smart enough. Or Gary's full of shit. It's for people. They always think it's only for people that made it without realizing the people that fucking made it were in the business of maybe skewing to yes. That's an article, Matthew, as you join the team. I want to have a conversation of why no is definitively a loss and why maybe skewing towards yes is a pondering strategy based on practicality and optimism that could change your life. I know for a fact that so many people here could change their life by being a TikTok affiliate and live shopping thing.

8:12I know that for a fact. I've watched more everyday normal people pop off last year on this and I need more of you in the chat that I know are living this life to actually say what details, what's happening right now. TikTok, shop, affiliate is a gold rush right now similar to social media in 2012. I believe it, I believe it, I believe it and I think it's one of the best side hustles in the game. I think everyone's capable of making content. Don't forget. Insecure about how you look? You don't want people to see the bags under your eyes? Good news. You could do this. You could literally be a content creator that does this.

8:56Hey everybody. So it's me Gary. Obviously the camera's not going to be very good. Hey everybody. It's me Gary. These new little Gary V replicas of the jersey his mom knitted that are really fun, they're really awesome. I think you'd get a lot of good luck and love from this. As you can see on the link below, it's$9.99. I highly recommend you get one of these. It will bring you great luck for five years. If you want five years of luck, if you want five years of luck, guaranteed, get one of these things. Literally, literally, the amount of people that can do what I just did is literally almost everyone.

9:33What did you just do? Sorry about that. Train's big thumb, touch something. I should have just done it myself. Get out of my face train. Let me do this. I'm good. I got it. Don't worry. Everybody, what I just did is something all of you can do. You don't even have to be on camera, McKenzie. You don't even have to be on camera, Charlie. Like, I don't, like, Jesus. People can make AI content to be affiliate. Like, this is an amazing opportunity. Right? And I highly recommend it. I highly recommend it. And I think so many people struggle with the negative feedback. Somebody just said, this guy's rude, doesn't understand my humor and my jam.

10:15Another one said, this guy fell off. So many back-to-back comments in the chat right now. There's so many people that would literally stop screaming by hearing those two things or they would lose their focus and they would lose their energy. I'm invigorated by those comments, not because I'm like, oh, I'm gonna show you and battle, but because I am strictly here, because I am the corner of the internet that is positive and practical and I want to bring love to those two individuals who literally feel like communicating negativity is going to make them feel better in a world where I know that doesn't work.

10:52In fact, why so many people feel so much tension going into 2026 is everybody is on full tilt right now on like just deciding to be mad about something. People are just looking to find something to be mad about or to be insulted by. And people are talking all sorts of rhetoric and conversations about shit they don't know versus choosing positivity and understanding where they're at. Anyway, nonetheless, great to see everybody. And oh, interesting. Someone said, it's hard to read the comments with my sweater. Interesting. Is that true? Can you guys see that? That's interesting. Yeah, that's so incredible.

11:37Good call. All right, hold on one second. We're always looking for media buyers. You know, by the way, there's always a fucking solution. And you can always adapt in real times. So, Ninja, great to see you. What happens if a larger creator steals your idea? No, so. So there is no original ideas. There's no niches. There's no original ideas. One of the biggest reasons, Mona and I, my wife and I were walking on Sunday and we were talking and I actually made a note, which I rarely do because I want to make a piece of content about this. There are no originals, ideas. There's no originality. People want to be original.

12:20I want a breakthrough. I want my own niche. I want my own lane. They're all fucking taken. they've all been done what's not been done is you fully you there's like 800 people I can listen to right now live talking about sports but I pick the person that I like their vibe, their energy their slang terms, their uniqueness their visuals their subtleties my friends so many of you are not looking to post because you think You think you need some crazy strategy of originality or niche, they don't exist. Because the second you create it, someone will replicate it. There's a million Gary V's from the shit I did in 2013.

13:08You think you knew something original? You think Alex Earl was the first person to ever get ready with me? Thank you, thank you everyone for that giggle. The fuck do you think is happening? You're the originality, you're the niche, you're it you so don't worry about people stealing anything it's not yours you stole it from someone I love these people what happens if a bigger person steals my shit you stole your shit what do you think you just fucking never consumed everything everyone's affected by everyone the fuck you think Michael Jackson made up that shit James Brown you think James Brown came up with fucking Little Richard this is just how it works it's 2026 bad news You weren't fucking born in 807 BC.

13:54You can't be original, it's over. It's a wrap. And people got unlimited complaints. You're a trust fund kid, I'm sure not. I made my parents trust fund kids because I built a business for them. People are gonna look for their all sorts of excuses. You don't know my story, bro. I'm the furthest thing from a trust fund kid. You know nothing. This is what, you know, This is where people don't get it. It's so interesting. Anyway, nonetheless, I mean, I'm a perfect mother kid. I got here on the back of my mother being a remarkable parent. That's real. So anyway, ooh, I own a mustard company. I like that, the mustard life.

14:39Good for you. Emily, great to see you. Yeah, let's go. Let's go to questions. For short-form content, does niche matter anymore? or can you just post whatever you want? You can post whatever you want. Niche. Wide. I don't understand how people don't understand that everything works. Broad works, niche works. But again, I just talked about it. The reason it works is you're uniquely you. You're uniquely you. I don't understand how people don't get this. Name me every person out there. name them all and I'm gonna like Josh Hart and Jalen Brunson's podcast you know obviously it's niche by nature that they're Knicks players and Knicks fans like that content but there's a million athletes doing stuff how do I pick one lane and go after it if I'm finding a lot of success in so many side hustles that I start you don't have to I have a million lanes too what's the goal is the goal to maximize financial upside well then you pick the lane that has the most financial upside.

15:47If the goal is to live your best life and be happy in what you do, well then you pick that lane. That's what I do. I'm a juggler. V friends, VaynerMedia, Gary V brand, Fly Fish and Capons for the VCR group, Wine Text, Fives Pickleball, Vayner Sports, VaynerWatt TV and film production. Do you want me to keep going? Like who does what I'm doing? And I enjoy it. Now if I put 100 % of my energy into any of the companies I just mentioned, would that company do way better? Yes. Of course it would. But that doesn't make me happy. You know? That doesn't make me happy. So that's it.

16:34Let's keep it going. I'm feeling paralyzed by over analysis. Okay. What are the first couple things I can do to get out of it? By realizing you're just insecure. The reason people overanalyze is they're scared to do. They're scared to do because they might lose.

16:56Like PPL3 just said how to be confident in the camera. By being willing to go in front of the camera and get one view. Like nothing hurts my feelings. Like nothing scares me. Right? We just had a thousand viewers, now we're down to 733 because for some reason TikTok algorithm thought I did something. Somebody comes on, goes this guy has 15 million followers, why does he only have 723 viewers? That doesn't affect me. I don't understand why everyone's so affected by optics. Most people lease a car that they can't afford because they're worried about what people are gonna say about their used car.

17:39I don't know what to say. You know, I really don't know what to say. The reason you're overanalyzing is you're scared to do. You're using analyzing as the excuse to not play. I'm a perfectionist. You don't get it, Gary. I'm a perfectionist. I'm like, no, you're fucking insecure. Life is basic. Confidence, insecurity. Confidence, insecurity. Confidence, insecurity. Pessimism, optimism. Pessimism, optimism. Pessimism, optimism. This is why your youth is so impactful. Your framework of how you see the world is so impactful. But this is also why accountability is so impactful because if you blame your parents or your circumstances and you're 25 years old, when the fuck are you a grownup?

18:32Friends, can everybody answer in the comments right now on when you become a grown-up? What's the official number? 18. You think it's 18, Court? Yeah, I mean, you're allowed. I mean, you feel like, no, no, I know, legally. When do you think, I'll say it different. Court, when do you feel like it is time to stop blaming your parents and everybody else, the government, the world, and you can say, I can maneuver around it no matter what shortcomings I'm dealing with. Like, I am capable. Like there's so many people crying, rich people, I love it. Eh, Mondani, move.

19:13Move. So, or like, but that's like politics. Let's talk parents. Let's talk like, I'm not capable because of my parents. When does that stop? When do you think, general number, just for fun, everybody please answer in here. What age does, are you like actually a grown up and it's time to shut your fucking mouth? By the way, it doesn't mean you're wrong. This is the part that I don't think people understand. I have unlimited things I would love to tell you about what I'm mad about, how I've been wronged by my family and others. I just don't think it's good energy. Therapy good, meditation good, but crying around people all day long on social media and your loser friends, or that one person that's an enabler of you because they love you, nothing changes.

20:04So what age is that in the world that you need to make that line in the sand be like, no more crying, more accountability and adjusting? What number do you have? We'll go reverse. What's your number? Real talk.

20:2124. Cool. 21, 22. 21, 22. Kenz? 25. 25. 22. 22. 22. 22. Norea? 16. 16. That's fine. Raghav? That's so funny. I actually, this may surprise people, I'm actually on 25. I'll tell you why. I think 16 to 22 for most people, you're still really transitioning from a child to a grown-up. And I kind of want to give grace to everybody for a couple of, like I'm talking about me. You guys know me. I'm talking about my level. Like no complaining. None. Zero. It even shows up in how I play basketball, right? Like you know our pickup games. Like when someone calls, like you have to literally murder someone with a gun to get maybe a foul call when we play.

21:13Like it's my favorite thing. I joined pickups that call unlimited fouls and a year later like through my life, no fouls. No fouls. I like 25 because I think it gives people 22 to, it gives them 36 more months to be a bitch. and I like that because then you can be like okay but you're 25 now you know what I mean? So I like 25. Ooh appeal approved let's go. Let's go. This is a big day. 2026 is off to a huge chart. Everybody my appeal was approved. We're gonna start growing. Everybody double click and hit the share button. We're back everyone. We figured out the algorithm. You know so I'm I'm a big fan of 2025.

21:56I really excuse me of 25 years I was a big fan of 2025 but I'm a bigger fan of being 25. This is only$14.99? Yes. Oh, everybody, real quick, now I feel good about this. I need you to literally buy this. If you have a two to five year old in your life, put the number five in the chat. Tino Toys, Kenneth, Orlok, Van Locke, J-Mail, thank you all for buying this book. Thank you all for buying. When it says number two and number 10, is that their number of purchases in the history of the store? That's a great question. I'm not sure. Find out for me. No, it's... Tino Toys purchased the number... I think it's the product that's in the store.

22:29Got it, okay, got it. Everybody, please check this out. All right, let's keep it going. Let's answer questions. Wait, let's go back. Can we please go back to the age? You can go to anything. Go, Trent. Can we go back to the age of 25 becoming an adult? Let's finish that thought. Finish that thought? I just think that 25 gave you, like I want to get everything out of the system. Like I feel a bit, I view it as a cancer. And like if you get most of the cancer out, but there's still cancer cells, God forbid, right? I feel like 22 to 25 is a great number because at 25, I feel like you had those last three years of like wah-wahing it out.

23:03Hey everybody, I hope you're enjoying the podcast right now. Make sure you follow the podcast. That's why I'm interrupting. Let's keep going on this show but follow the podcast. It'll make my mom super happy. And like 25, you know, there's a lot of research around the brain developing. You've kind of lived in the real world. You're in such a fantasy land if you go to college. Like you're not in real life. Like look what's happening to so many people that first year after college. Especially now with what's going on in college we have you know mckinnon's obviously got a huge degree like like i'm watching a lot of content right now like like somebody was trying there was a college football thing where like university of georgia fan was making fun of the other fans like their degree and i was like fuck georgia like ivy league students are like realizing like everything's shifting and like whether you're a great student a poor student like for both of us 22 was like whoa new new regime right and for me that was great because i was horrible didn't even understand the system didn't know how to thrive in it.

23:58Others really know. Fuck man, we lived through 50, 60 years where if you knew the school system, you were fucking coasting into something very cushy that you understood. I always say this, this is a good opportunity for me. I do not look down at great students. I don't look down or think that people that have good educations are bad. My big rant for the last 10 years was I was just worried that it wasn't guaranteed. For two different groups, definitely the one that I most talk to, which is if you collect debt and you're entrepreneurial and or creative, yikes. And then if you're not going to a specific field, nursing, legal, right, those kind of things, that a generalist in a top school was coasting, but I thought was walking into an era where it was not as obvious, and I think we're there.

24:47I think historically I've looked right on this issue. and that doesn't mean anything to me per se but it's just an interesting observation and so in general, I think we can win something here, especially with everyone here. Who's under 25 in the chat? Put under 25 in the chat right now, everybody, please. I think everybody under 25 realizing two things. You know how like at 18 to 22, back in the day you knew you were gonna get married, you knew you were gonna go to college, all those things. I actually think the healthiest thing we can do is actually make a big deal about 25 being the year you're now grown, no more complaining.

25:25Kind of like, I think, for everybody who's under 25, could you imagine if it was that accepted by eight billion people that 25, when you turn 25, you're now grown and shut your fucking mouth? Don't you feel in some weird way that would help everyone? Yeah. Right? Right? It'd be like, then you could like, because I feel like a lot of 22-year-olds kind of know they're complaining, so they feel shitty about themselves. McKenz? I was gonna say I feel like it would take the pressure off. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I feel like it would take the pressure off because I feel like people come out of college and they're freaking out like, I don't know what to do.

25:58Correct, which is insane. But if you felt like, all right, I got to 25 to feel like what I am without a syllabus in my life. That's right. Then you could level some. It gives a little grace. And I will say this, like too many people are caught up into, I don't have a significant other, I don't have a child, I don't have cash. Right, let's talk about the 20s more. what's fucking up 20s? I don't have a significant other I don't have a child or I don't have and child's kind of now pushed into 30s but don't get it twisted there's a lot how many people here live in a culture whether it's your own house or your neighborhood where you're a woman and you're expected there's social pressure to have a child in your 20s how many of you are there?

26:41say that's me so I think there's again not in LA and New York but look, look, right? You know, there's a lot of people that feel that so you've got to, everybody I think feels in their 20s especially as they get older, I don't have a significant other I don't have as much cash as I wanted. Some add another thing, I don't have a child. My other friends have children, I don't. So we've got these three things that are really there and you know, I I wish we could, I don't have anything to say on that. I have one thing to say on something much more narrow. When you're 25, all the things you're upset about, money, significant other, anything else, that's the year you can't blame your parents anymore.

27:33That's the rule I think we can establish. That's, you can't blame your parents. You can't blame the system. like that's what's look this happened in the 60s with the hippie movement and it's happening again right now in youth culture everybody wants to blame the boomers the government and corporations and it's not going to work out because they always exist and they're everywhere like what are you going to do it's like I don't you know it's like trying to eliminate competition it's a human trait there's going to be government there's going to be corporations there's going to be politicians and my big thing that I don't understand is the people that have been crying for 10 years in New York City.

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28:17I can't wait for Mondani's four years to work out. I have no clue how good or bad of a job he's gonna do. I just don't know him well enough. It's a huge job for a young dude. I wish him nothing. I wish everybody. By the way, wish everybody well. Why wouldn't I? Why would I not wish someone to do well? I'm aware that people see things different but here's my simple question. At the end of these next four years, there's gonna be a lot of people that voted for him that are gonna be complaining. Just like there's a lot of people that voted for Trump that are complaining right now. Trump's had six years now.

28:52So like politicians, you know, parents, I just like 25 being the year where you're like, I can do it. All that is, yes, your parents are fucked up. By the way, one of the great mistakes of my life is trying to change a parent. I've spent 25 years of my life excuse me, 35 years of my life trying to change my dad. Big mistake, I've learned. Real talk. I've had a great positive impact on my dad but the energy put in. And I would do it again but I would do it more thoughtfully. I would do it in a manner of like, it would be less looking for an outcome. And I'm bringing that to work too. Like I'm trying to be a little bit more thoughtful.

29:40I have way too much of a superhero therapist syndrome in me which I'm proud of, it makes me very likable, but it doesn't necessarily bring as much value to the individual as maybe my ideology has thought. And it's come at the detriment of me emotionally at times. So I don't know, it's super fun, but I think this 25 year old non-blame thing is really powerful. It doesn't mean that society's not fucked up. America or New York City has 17 ,000 things wrong with it. But so does every other corner of the world. It just depends on what you want to think is fucked up. I think 8th place trophies is fucked up and leads to deep depression.

30:23Most people don't believe that. Now it's starting to get a little momentum. So Warboys said, I finally stopped. Hey, actually that's a good one. anybody here who's under 50 who stopped blaming everyone at some point in their life and it changed their life dramatically like in a real real way can you please give that story real now in the chat while I say hi for a minute hi Kevin Forey thank you for joining Josh 2.0 thank you for joining Patrick Gen Z thank you for joining Tina E thank you for joining India thank you for joining Coach Andy thank you for joining Next thank you for joining Install Tanya Lurs Colleen Hunter everybody thank you for joining I'm Gary Vee I'm an entrepreneur I'm a content creator I'm extremely excited about being here with all of you Savage Fiji thank you for I'm good trained thank you though because I'm going to go to something else everybody top left corner in the top left corner of your screen right now if you click my face top left full top left if you don't follow me on TikTok please click my face and follow but more importantly hit the bell hit the bell hit the bell so you get notifications who here has just joined for the first time who's never seen me before or doesn't really follow me and is enjoying themselves.

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32:12I changed my answer from 22 to 25. You did? You liked my logic? Yeah, because I think, because I mean like me personally, like I stopped complaining at 25, well. Ish. I stopped complaining at 25, and I think like that rule would have helped me I stopped complaining more just by giving grace to myself. That's, you know, when you give grace to yourself and when you realize, this is a big one for you, Court, not to call you out, but I just, I want this for everyone and it's a big one, it's a huge one for my dad and sister, too, and it's the thing that I got lucky that I really understood naturally and I didn't understand a lot of things, I made a lot of mistakes.

32:47When you realize you can only control how you react to someone else's energy, like that changes everything. and especially if you're lucky enough like you were lucky enough to have someone like me saying hey don't worry about XYZ or XYZ you can come to me if you can control like because you don't like none of you you know Matt you just joined a team like none of you none of you really know why someone's doing something you've made up a narrative to why they're doing something they're trying to get closer to Garrett like take my job like it's all that stuff right but you don't really know and I think For example, why my life is happy is I just default into they're hurting or that's not even the intent.

33:33I'll give you a great story. 90 out of 100 times in incidents in my career with my father in the liquor store, something would happen and I would say, Ricky wasn't coming from a bad place and my dad would say, Ricky was coming from a bad place. Got it? 100 things happened. My dad says, Ricky's coming from a bad place, trying to get us, trying to get us. I'm coming like, no, no, no, he's not even that smart. It's all just good nature to just, right? 90 out of 100 times I was right. My dad hangs his hat on the 10 times he was right. I didn't even care the 10 times that someone was trying to do something wrong because I was in control of how I'd react.

34:15One of my best friends at Wine Library, a kid that, like, I'll give you the comp. the Tyler of Wine Library in shipping figured out a very minuscule loophole and stole almost a half a million dollars worth of product and money from our company over 18 months. My dad wanted to put him in jail immediately and I wanted to know what was wrong with him. Punchline of the story was he hurt his back at the store and he started taking pain medicine and then he got addicted to pain drugs and then he needed to fund his drug habit. So he blamed the store. Got it? Right? That's just a story of life. I reacted to that gentleman with love.

35:04Even though he directly to my face, the Tyler. Not the train who's new, right? Not the Charlie who's, the Tyler of Wine Library stole that. And company can't really afford all that stealing. It's a low margin business. I'm in control. You know?

35:27Louder, Raghav. When you said that you would change your dad but not do it based on outcome, how would you do that? The way you did it with me the other day, Raghav. The other day, you and I had a meeting and you said, Gary, I want you to be less passive aggressive and razzing. I don't think your whole life is in me being less passive aggressive. I think you'd like me to be more candorous, you think it's gonna be good for the team and where we're going, but I don't think you're whole, I think you'll deal with me, first of all, I'm a pretty good guy, you know what I mean? I think there's a lot of good that comes with me, sorry, what court?

36:04I, like, but like, you were, like to me, my whole life was wrapped up in getting my dad happy. and that's just too big of a task for a child plus you can't be a full like you can't even be a great even if you are naturally a good therapist you can't be the therapist of your father like there's too many dynamics there's too much baggage my dad says anything about my mom I'm gonna fucking destroy his face you know like and that happened a lot so you know like anyway nonetheless you see what I mean? a little bit like Raghav you know this in business why am I a gangster? I'm detached I'm detached.

36:44I'm detached. Like people come in here, Gary you're the goat. Detached. Hence I have humility. Gary you fell off. Gary you look old. Gary you suck. Gary you're a scammer. I'm detached. Thus I have confidence I can keep going. But with my father I wasn't detached.

37:08with clients with employees I'm detached enough I do fall in love with my team but like I can be it's not my father and so there's it makes it palpable makes it easy for me to navigate you know what I mean if I don't deliver for your request Raghav as an advancement of my role you have the ability to quit but if I was your dad You don't quit your dad. You don't quit your dad. Even when you no longer speak to a parent, a sibling, or a child. You do not speak to them. You have not spoken for 10 years. You didn't quit them. They're in your mind all the time. Who here is unfortunately in a situation where they have not talked to a loved one for more than two years?

37:51Please say in the chat who that is and how long. Because I'm gonna use you chat to help everybody else. There's a thousand of us in here. You know? Which is really tough. Ask, airstrick, my dad five years, my dad three years, my mother 26 years. For everybody who just answered with times, can you also tell everybody that you haven't completely, like you're not completely detached. It's still there. It's still there. You may not be physically talking, but it's there. And a lot of people, by the way, a lot of you have just answered. A lot of you are keeping that poison and pain in your body. You being the bigger person, even if you're 100 % right on the conflict, and texting them and saying, I'm sorry, I miss you, and I wish you well, will liberate you.

38:50It's not them winning the fight. It's you winning a happier life. Poison is bad. You've drawn a line in the sand. And in fact, most of you are similar to the person you canceled.

39:09Because it's two to tango. I've been wronged plenty. I just have the emotional capacity to be the bigger person and swallow my pride. Because it's not that serious. It's really not. Even some of the scary shit. Here's my thing. Some people fight over money. Like literally money. Or like pride, ego. There's people that have been able to forgive their parents for real heinous shit. Heinous. Heinous. Do you know what kind of emotional strength and grace and humanity you have to have to forgive a parent that has done the stuff that I'm not even gonna say out loud from an energy standpoint? Like the heinous stuff.

39:55Heinous. there are humans that have been able to forgive with leaning on religion or therapy have been able to forgive heinous acts and you haven't talked to your cousin for seven years because he tried to hook up with your girlfriend and you haven't talked to your mom because she stole 500 bucks from your bank account

40:20you're hurting you don't see it forgiveness my friends I'm gonna end with this. Everybody, please click top left corner, click my face follow. I'm gonna be on tonight. I'm gonna be on tonight around 8 p.m. So please click top left corner, hit my face, hit the bell. When this ends, there'll be a screen for you to get notifications. So as soon as this ends, you can like click the middle of the screen and get notifications. I'm gonna end with this. Forgiveness and humility. Ooh, I like that. F you. The F you. My friends, the F-U is the great opportunity for joy in life. Forgiveness, right? And what was the other one?

41:01Humility. Oh, humility, it's F-H. F-H. Guys, this is why I got bad grades. H-U though. Humility and forgive. F-H-U, F-U. I get it still, but it didn't work out the way I wanted. Anyway, nonetheless, listen, my brain broke in the end here. The F-H opportunity is tremendous. If you lean into forgiveness and you lean into humility, your life will be remarkable. Thank you for this ghost that's pulling my face. My confidence, my conviction, my competitiveness, my energy, my charisma, my smarts, all of it is garbage compared to my forgiveness capability and my humility. I stand on the shoulders of my mother's DNA and parenting that allowed me to be a monster at forgiving and a monster in humility.

41:48All the other stuff is amazing. but I promise you those two will matter. So love you guys. Everybody, if you enjoyed this podcast, please go back and look at the prior episodes. They're loaded. I appreciate your attention and thanks for being part of this journey. See you later.

From the publisher

In this episode of the GaryVee Audio Experience, I go live on TikTok to talk about why live shopping is the biggest opportunity of 2026, how adopting a maybe mindset can lead to the results you’re looking for, and how there’s no originality in the world. I also discuss how feeling paralyzed by overanalysis is directly related to your insecurity and most importantly why it’s important to stop blaming your parents, the government, and the rest of the world once you turn 25. 


You’ll learn:

  1. TikTok Shop Affiliate Marketing is a "Gold Rush" Live Shopping in 2026 is Social Media in 2012.

  2. Adopt a "Maybe Skewing Towards Yes" Mindset 

  3. Insecurity is the Root of Overanalyzing and Perfectionism Overanalyzing and perfectionism are you being "scared to do"

  4. The Creator, Not the Idea, is the Niche There are no original ideas or niches.

  5. You Don't Have to Pick One Business Lane Finding success in multiple side hustles does not mean you have to choose just one.

  6. Age 25 Should Mark the "Age of Accountability"

  7. Forgiveness and Humility Lead to Joy 

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