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The GaryVee Audio Experience: Episode Summary
Episode Title
Losing Your Job, Finding Your Purpose, and Why Posting on LinkedIn Changes Everything
Overview In this episode of *Tea with GaryVee*, Gary Vaynerchuk discusses navigating life changes such as job loss, the significance of LinkedIn as a modern resume, and the importance of embracing challenges. He also emphasizes the need for action rather than complaints, highlights the rise of live social shopping, and encourages self-compassion to avoid burnout.
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Key Themes and Discussions
- Navigating Job Loss
- Listener Inquiry: Matthew, a 44-year-old who lost his job after 10 years, asks for direction on his next steps.
- Gary's Response:
- Job Market Dynamics: Anticipates an increase in job losses due to economic changes and AI.
- LinkedIn as a Tool: Advocates for creating content on LinkedIn to showcase expertise rather than relying solely on traditional resumes.
- Actionable Strategy: Encourages listening to the market and promoting oneself through content to attract job opportunities.
- Passion Projects vs. Business Viability
- Listener Inquiry: Tara shares her experience with a children's book brand and asks when to commit fully to her project.
- Gary's Insights:
- Balancing Regret and Financial Anxiety: Advises listeners to assess their situation critically and look for tangible progress.
- The Danger of Premature Decisions: Warns against quitting too soon or continuing without recognizing signs of viability.
- Mental Health and Job Satisfaction
- Listener Inquiry: Joe struggles with stress at his banking job and contemplates quitting.
- Gary's Guidance:
- Practicality in Decision Making: Suggests applying to other banks while still in the job, emphasizing the need for a backup plan.
- Avoiding Complaining: Critiques a mindset of dwelling on dissatisfaction without taking the necessary steps to change one’s situation.
- Embracing Hard Work
- Philosophy on Challenges:
- Falling in Love with Hard Tasks: Gary encourages listeners to embrace difficulties as a part of personal growth and success.
- Action Over Complaints: Reiterates that taking action is preferable to merely complaining about circumstances.
- Entrepreneurship and Risk
- Listener Inquiry: Jake discusses a side hustle involving animatronics for educational purposes and seeks guidance on committing full-time.
- Advice Offered:
- Jumping into Entrepreneurship: Gary believes the business is viable and urges Jake to take the leap, emphasizing the importance of risk-taking in entrepreneurship.
- Identifying Signs of Success: Encourages assessing the business’s current performance and the potential for growth.
- Content Creation and Personal Branding
- Listener Inquiry: Annabelle, with limited funds, seeks advice on creating content but feels insecure about her platform.
- Gary's Perspective:
- Insecurity as a Barrier: Highlights that many people hesitate to post due to insecurities rather than a lack of content ideas.
- Starting Small: Encourages starting to create and share content without being overly critical of one’s abilities.
- The Importance of Self-Compassion
- Listener Inquiry: Kayla, who suffers from a chronic illness, seeks advice on managing her ambitions while dealing with health issues.
- Gary's Emphasis:
- Grace and Understanding: Advocates for giving oneself grace during tough times and acknowledges that everyone has their struggles.
- Realistic Expectations: Suggests that one shouldn't push themselves too hard when facing health challenges.
- Protecting Personal Brand in the Age of Deepfakes
- Listener Inquiry: A question arises regarding personal brand protection amid the rise of deepfakes.
- Gary's Response:
- Leveraging Technology: Encourages creators to embrace new technologies, including deepfakes, as tools for enhancing engagement rather than fearing them.
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Conclusion & Key Takeaways
- Action is Essential: Whether facing job loss or considering entrepreneurship, taking decisive steps is crucial.
- Content is King: Sharing knowledge on platforms like LinkedIn can significantly enhance job prospects.
- Self-Compassion: It’s important to give oneself grace during tough times without dwelling on failures.
- Embrace Hard Work: Finding fulfillment in overcoming challenges can lead to personal and professional growth.
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By synthesizing Gary's advice and insights, listeners are encouraged to take action, embrace challenges, and prioritize their mental well-being amid the complexities of work and life transitions.
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Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00This is the Gary Vee Audio Experience. Welcome to another episode of Tea with Gary V. I'm ready to go. Erin, you got something for me? Yeah. First question is from Matthew. I'm 44 years old and after 10 years I was let go from my job. I'm fully ready for whatever is next. In my next steps, what should I do first? 44, let go of a job. What should I do next? I mean, I don't know. There's a little more to that question that I need. Obviously, you want to get another job. My biggest belief is that an enormous amount of people are going to be surprised and let go over the next 18 months because of not only AI, but just in general, you know, companies, you know, trying to be more efficient.
0:46Just the reality of the business world, it's getting more competitive. The biggest companies are getting bigger. You know, every day that Amazon gets bigger is another day that a retail store with 11 stores gets smaller, right? So we're going through this time of change and the AI thing is a really big deal. And I think the best way to get a job, if that's what that person wants at 44, and again, so many of you have heard this over and over from me, but I have no idea why people continue to lag on this. We must put out LinkedIn content around what you know, what you like, what you care about. That's just like it.
1:27You must share your information, your knowledge, your understanding of your craft in these environments. That's the issue, right? Like, I don't think people understand that fucking LinkedIn's your answer. I do not understand that you're not going to send resumes. We have to put out content on LinkedIn around your expertise, around coding, around management, around being an electrician, whatever the fuck it is. We need content on LinkedIn. That is how people will get jobs. You must put out content on LinkedIn to get jobs. Jobs are going to be more competitive than ever and your basic resume is not going to cut it.
2:20And so that's that. you know simple as that Aaron alright let's move on alright next question is from Tara I started as Charlie Safari a kids book brand that teaches about endangered animals and helps parents connect with their wild little ones we've got one book out and two almost ready to launch it's still early we're learning as we go and making some costly mistakes but how do you know when to keep something as a passion project versus when to double down and make it a full on business after two years we have not made a profit yet it's the toughest question The amount of people that quit three weeks before their shit that they spent four years on pops off, it's a real number.
3:00It's happened quite a bit in the world. And then the amount of people that are like, oh, one more year, one more year, one more year, and have spent another three years, quote unquote, wasting their time, that's also real. It's a really hard question for me to answer on this show. but what I will tell you is you have to balance your regret with your tolerance for financial anxiety. That is the framework and I think that too many people
3:31are delusional and think they're rappers and try to be a rapper for 20 years and it's not there. You have to look for signals. You need to make some level of progress but it's also okay to go backwards. So this is a very tough question to answer generally. I always err towards the place of putting out more social media content to drive sales. Like are you good at the marketing? Businesses need marketing. Marketing is the offensive business. And the reason I spend so much time talking about marketing is because it is the savior to so many people out here. My last question was marketing. Like you're going to lose your job.
4:08I want you to get another job. I think you're more likely to get a job if you put out good information and videos showing your knowledge and skills on LinkedIn than spamming people on LinkedIn in message form or sending in a resume. In this scenario, selling those books, if they, can we pin garyvee.com slash attention? If you've not, team, if you have not read this 40 page plus deck and implemented it, and so many of you, of the people on this show, have, and everybody on Instagram, please come over to garyvee.com slash whatnot. I just, I really need people to push themselves on this because this fixes the issue here because the sales are not gonna come miraculously to this book and then they are gonna quit.
4:52So I focus on offense.
4:58Next question. Zoom or? We're gonna get in two minutes. Okay, next question from Joe. I make a nine to five job at a bank and I've been more stressed out than ever lately. Why? It's to the point that I call out of work just to not feel the stress. I've watched a lot of your videos about quitting your job if you're miserable, but in my case, I have no savings and I'm actually in the process of filing for bankruptcy. What would you recommend to mentally prepare for this job? I'm at the point where I don't enjoy it. My manager is a micromanager and it's slow season for my pressure washing business.
5:29To go apply to other banks. You know, quitting your job when you're in his situation is not practical. quitting your job after you've applied to 900 banks on LinkedIn and Indeed and putting up your Indeed profile, that's practical. Again, we need to, Angel says, say something in Spanish. I took Spanish. Can you get me my report card? Sid, can you put my Spanish? Can you put my, I just need people to understand. This is my report card. I don't know if this is gonna zoom in here. It is, but it will. Like, I took Spanish twice. I got nothing but Ds. Look at, I took a junior and senior year. That's on the right side because if you look at my full report card, I actually failed German freshman and sophomore year.
6:24And in New Jersey, if you don't pass two years of language, you can't graduate high school. So I literally, literally the only word I can say in Spanish is hola. Anyway, by the way, my eighth grade Spanish name was Geraldo. I just thought that was a fun fact for everybody if you wanted to know.
6:43Yeah, so yes, you should quit that job because you hate your manager. It doesn't sound like you hate the banking job per se. People don't realize like, I just don't understand this dwelling thing. Like if I hated my job, I'm applying to a, this is all about practicality. You know, yesterday we talked about A-O, right? We talked about accountability and optimism, but there's a PEO part of it as well because if you actually get into practicality, the practical answer to this question is fucking go apply to every bank in a 40-mile radius. Do you know, Aaron, I had a real conversation like this with a friend and when I told them some version of this, they said no because the other bank, in this scenario it was a hardware store.
7:38I was like apply to every hardware store and he's like yeah but this hardware store is an extra 20 minute commute.
7:50This is what, you understand this is what's going on out there right? Like it's just Complainer City USA. How many of you live in Complainer City USA please put CC USA own it right now be vulnerable on fucking Halloween don't go eat a fucking Snickers and a Hershey Kiss come in here and fucking own it with me and put CC USA in here because you realize you just are looking to fucking complain and I appreciate all of you Queen Elizabeth 444 I appreciate you Jared J let's fucking own it stop being a complaining bitch stop it complaining doesn't work It's all you do is you're fucking, you're rolling in your own shit.
8:32You're rolling in your own shit. You hate your fucking banking job? You're bankrupt? Get another fucking banking job.
8:45Man, that's it. You know, like, I don't know. Like, it's just real out here. Like, do shit. Like, everything's hard. I don't know. I do not know why everyone thinks everything should be easy, it's always been hard. It's always been hard. It's hard. And once you fall in love with hard, it gets good.
9:11Just fall in love with hard things. Like rips. All right, let's keep it moving. Jake. Hey, what's going on? Can you hear me? I can, my brother. More importantly, can they hear you? Can you guys all hear him on Whatnot? there we go all right Jake talk to me so my cousin and I started a small side hustle about a year and a half ago in the children's bed you tamed it's just a system teach kids about dinosaurs and fossils and paleontology and we use animatronic costumes and puppets to get that across. We have a large 12 foot long, eight foot tall walking T-Rex. We call him Terry the T-Rex. We bring him to schools, libraries, daycares, etc.
9:58So we're currently doing it on the side, a lot of hustle on the weekends. My wife's a teacher. She helps me on the weekends. I work in New York City. We're out of Cranford, New Jersey. So like my cousin, he's worked scheduled four days on, four days off, and we're constantly battling. Like can't, you know, what are some indicators we should look at where at least one of us takes the plunge, goes full-time versus still trying to do this on the side. How much money is it making? First year, we did about$80 ,000. And then this year, we're on pace to potentially double that. We're getting there. And how much profit on that$150 ,000 will you do?
10:3970%. And what's making? We're putting a lot of it back in. We got another costume coming from overseas. I got it. And who's making the least amount of money or is the most miserable of the three of you?
10:58It's probably a toss-up. I would probably say my cousin, but he has three kids. I have no kids. It's probably like I could take more of the risk, I guess, going full-time. But I don't know. It's a toss-up. I think one of my stuff needs to be all in. And I have the fear factor of leaving my full-time job and trying this. What's your full-time job? I work in city marketing comms in the city. At an agency? No, it's for a fintech company. But you do marketing? Yeah, marketing and comms. I'm on the internal comms team. like old bullshit like comms life like pr press releases and like hitting up media some of that yeah how much do you make uh about 130 140 bonus yeah i mean i think you should quit and if it doesn't work out you should email me and i won't give you 130 because it sounds like you're doing old bullshit but i'll give you like 95 and teach you.
12:07That sounds great to me. I mean, I love the kid, love playing with the kids, with the dinosaurs, teaching them. I mean, it's so much more fulfilling, I feel like. You're making 170K in top line revenue on a business where no one's being able to really go in on it. Like, if you went full time, like, it sounds like you're putting in the least, right, of time, or like, not that much because you're nine to five-ing, right? Yeah, I mean, yeah, we're probably putting in, I mean, mostly weekends, a couple things during the week that my cousin will do because of his work schedule, he's off. But, yeah, if we were able to go five days a week, I mean, just the summer alone, we could go three jobs a day, five days a week.
12:54Yeah, I just think that you need to quit, bro, because the numbers look good to me. like 170 could you imagine if you put 70 hours in yeah i do think about that a lot well what the fuck are you thinking about i think about a lot of shit too but you need to do shit bro yeah you gotta you gotta backdrop now that like you've got a backup plan you're gonna go hard for a year and if you fucking suck you're gonna work at vayner media all right that sounds great to me. I mean, listen, it's something I've been thinking about a lot. I don't give a fuck. Who gives a shit if you've been thinking about it a lot?
13:41Just do it. Yes. That's like, I've been thinking about working out for three years. That's nice. But you're chunky. Not you, Jake. I mean, I'm just saying this as an overall question. You thinking about it means nothing. I've literally given you a full parachute other than you have to live a little bit more conservatively for a little while and prove that you can do something modern here at Vayner because of the big leagues. It sounds like you're a T-ball in marketing. But, you know, you should probably quit right now. Do you have any savings? Yeah, yeah, I got savings. Yeah, yeah. Jake, like you're pissing everyone off right now.
14:22You know that, right? Like the amount of people that are pissed in the chat right now. And by the way, they shouldn't be pissed because you fucking earned it. I'm proud of you. It's a lot of work. I mean, like I said, my wife's a teacher. We're hustling on the weekends. I'm going to say it again. Did you hear the words? Fucking proud of you. They shouldn't. They're pissed. But I don't think they should be pissed at you. I'm proud of you. But I think you should jump. $170 ,000? $150 ,000? Excuse me, top line revenue with you not spending any real Monday through Friday time on it? Yeah. Are you fucking kidding me?
14:58You're going to crush. Plus you should get out of the job you're in anyway, because you're the marketing you're doing is going to fall behind and you're going to get fired and you can get fired anyway. Yeah. It's not, I'm not, it's not stability at all. Yeah, exactly. Everyone's like, I don't want to leave my stability. I'm like, that's not stability doing fucking press releases and hitting up media in 2026 in an AI marketing world. You're fucking a young kid doing old shit. You're basically in your career walking around with a cane. hey kids you're not doing marketing bro yeah you know you know that right yeah no i know it's i do the reason you like your job is it's easy and stupid right yeah yeah it's it's easy yeah it's not it's not not crazy difficult no right so it sounds like you're completely mailing it in jake sounds like you're choosing to go to a nine to five that does nothing like work that you're not growing you're decaying and you're choosing the easy path you have savings you have you you say you're hustling but the reason you're able to side hustle is your job's a fucking joke you're looking like you're like adjusting your fantasy football team at like 1 to 3 p.m on a wednesday right jake yeah yeah okay so what the fuck are we talking about here I'm fucking adjusting my fantasy team From 1 to 3pm on a Wednesday dude No do you even have a fantasy team There's not And not because I'm so busy but because I can't play fantasy football because the Jets are my love And I'm not gonna fucking adjust My love for fantasy football My fucking son has Drake May on his Fucking team and it's pissing me off
16:51Jake Yeah, this was helpful. Do you now understand what's happening in your life? Yeah, I get it. I get it. And I can jerk off Monday through Friday instead of going living your dream. You've chosen easy. Yeah. The reason you don't want to leave your job is, you know, it's a joke.
17:12I agree. Where you're way better off to go take this jump. If it fails, you learned that you're not an entrepreneur and you come to work at Vayner, you make less money, but you'll learn. I'll be paying you to teach you.
17:28All right. All right. Jake the Snake, don't forget it. Jump Jake Jump is your new name. We'll come in. We'll do your next take your kids to work day at the headquarters. You're no longer Jake the Snake. You're Jump Jake Jump. All right. Jump Jake, I like that. Jake, if you don't quit next week, we're not friends. All right. Thanks, Gary. I appreciate it. What's laughing in the back with your cousin? That's my brother. My brother's. What just happened? What happened? What happened? I think he said his brother. They deleted. I think somebody, that boss, I think it was his boss that he killed him.
18:04I think Jake's dead, guys. Fuck. All right. Poor Jake. Went young. All right, let's keep it going. All right, this question is from Annabelle. I am 30 years old and have less than$100 in my account. I want to start creating content, but I'm lost. I started working with someone where I've logged their daily life experiences. Do you think this is a niche to start from and how do you think I can start putting myself out there because I have no social media presence?
18:35Your money means nothing. Like whether you have$100 in your bank account or a billion, that meant nothing to the question. Posting on social and starting is completely based on self-esteem and insecurity. Almost every single person watching this right now is not posting because they're insecure. Period, end of story. Well, I don't have anything to add. Well, I'm not that smart. Well, I don't look that good. Well, I don't this. I don't that. I don't this. I don't want my neighbors to say something. Well, Gary, it's my social. My friends are on this. I don't want them to judge me because I'm a cool girl, but what I would post about is Legos.
19:12None of my friends know that I'm into Legos. If I'm listening to you right with the niches and this and that, Lego, like it's all the same shit. You know, like, so do I think it's a good niche to film someone? If that someone is me, worked out for fucking DRock, and Caleb, and Babin, but if you fucking followed DRock, Caleb, or Babin, it probably would have not worked out.
19:40Or maybe it would have. I don't know. So, that's that. Insecurity, you're insecure. The hundred bucks means nothing to me. and is it a good idea to document someone and follow them around? Yeah, they're good. You know? You're 93 years old, oh my God, you're a fetus. I'm so into this, like I really believe it, man. I believe 80 year olds are young. What do you want from me? If you don't, fuck it. What's this guy's name? Vibov, what's good, bro? Hi, Gary. First of all, I'm very nervous and I can't believe I'm here. Thank you so much for all the things that you do. I have been following you since 2017.
20:25And I discovered you through your book, Crush It. Then I got your videos. My question for you is that I have been practicing as a psychotherapist in India. I have been creating content for seven to eight years. And my Instagram blew up in 2022. 22 yeah and i've got like 22 000 followers there and occasionally some videos blow up to like 500k 1 million or something but recently the reach has been very low and i've got a few clients so my question to you is like how do i approach content to build my business and presence on social media as a psychologist in india you've got to get better meaning you know something's going on right now with my team, we've gotten better in the last three months.
21:15Like we just, and that really started with me because where my energy was, it always starts with you back to accountability. And then it goes on to Sid, his accountability, and then it trickles down. We're better right now. We're trying harder. Like, I don't know what else to say. We're not quote unquote mailing it in. I think a lot of people that have your situation win and then just get into old behaviors and are doing the same shit. V, you have to try new shit. You've got to try different angles. You've got to try different styles. You've got to write out your thoughts on mentality and mental health in the notes pad and then post that with a video following it up.
21:54And now you did a two post carousel that started with iPhone notes and then your video. You've got to read garyvee.com slash attention, the deck. And you've got to like really learn the details. You know, my answer to you and everybody who's watching is you've got to get better at the craft. The algorithm is not hurting everyone. It's hurting everyone who's not good. Do you understand? The reach is down, not because something happened to Instagram in India. The reach is down because you're not as good right now as you were in 2020. That's all. And you know it. And then when that works, you will get more clients, just like you did before.
22:34Because if you're at 22 ,000 followers and occasionally get 500 ,000 views, when you start getting one every week that gets a million views and you get to 100 ,000, you'll get more clients. You've already seen that the attention gets you clients, right? And so you've got to think about PAC, platforms, algorithms, and culture. Platforms are, you know, you're lucky. You're in India. There's like a billion platforms, right? All the different dialects and languages, all the, you know, TikTok's banned. So there's all the TikTok clones. You got YouTube shorts. You got LinkedIn. You need to be on more platforms.
23:06Then there's algorithms. that's understanding how the algorithm works I already just explained that to you go read garyvee.com slash attention uh adrian please pin that for everyone everybody who's on instagram and other places i am on whatnot it's garyvee.com slash whatnot and and then finally culture brother you know what's going on in india in or maybe you don't but you need to know what's going on with what people are thinking about right like are they worried about the economy are they excited about a new band on TV? Is there something happening? Is there a restaurant chain that's crushing?
23:39I don't know. It's really that simple. You have to know what's going on in popular culture. So platforms, algorithms, and culture is how you get great at social content. Social content posting is free. Awareness comes from that free posting when it's done well. Awareness leads to relevance. Relevance is how you get awareness. Relevance is the first way that people consider buying something from you. Oh, I like Courtney. I like what she says that's relevance to me oh now I'm considering things that come out of Courtney's mouth that she recommends I might want to buy relevance consideration purchase that is a framework that is true please understand it if you don't chat J.P.T.
24:16it what did Gary V. mean when he said relevance consideration purchase and fucking cook B you have to be better V. You just have to be better. Got it. Right makes sense to you I'm sure because you've been able to do it once. and you're you like listen if i can get stuck in ruts like i did for the last year prior to the last couple months anyone can i was busy i was focused on being an operator for vayner x and v friends more than being gary v you know i'm stretching sid into ops at vayner and other random things you know it's just there's a million things that go into it but we're better today I'm dialed in.
25:01Like a dog. This hat is fucking fire. The wool too. Do you see this? I need it. This is right. This might be my favorite hat that we made. No, I still like the ninja but and the yellow. Who's got the yellow rare one? Say I've got the yellow rare one. That's it B. I wish you well man. Go at it hard because you know it requires that. I'm such a pleasure. You got it. All right. Let's keep this going. Erin, what do you got? All right. I'm a 70 year old woman. You're a 70 year old woman. Okay, keep going. I'm eager to learn AI, which I'm doing, but I don't have particular skills to go on YouTube and post some videos, et cetera.
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25:37I do want to make some money for my retirement, so I am not struggling for my expenses, but I don't know where to start and what I can do to start something on social media. Live social shopping. I believe that the best way to make money on the internet right now is live social shopping. Whatnot and TikTok shop. Twitch now has it. There's something called District you can check out. Talk Shop Live. There's all sorts of places you can go. I believe live social shopping is the number one way that people can make. Who here has more than 10 ,000 followers on social media and has made no money on whatnot?
26:13Please put up that in the chat. Say 10K. Say 10K. Say 10K in the chat if you're that person. All right, all these people, you see this, Aaron? All these people that say 10K, I believe that if they were good enough to get 10 ,000 followers on social, that if they're also comfortable selling, actually, let's go with that. Everybody, if you're in the 10K crew, who's in the 10K crew and also comfortable selling something? Because some of you are not. A lot of people hate selling. Rips, you like selling? Yeah. Sid? Yes. Court? So-so? Aaron? No, right? Everyone's different. And that's great. Because, you know, Aaron's remarkable at production for YouTube.
27:01Massive skill. But for the people that are at 10K and like to sell stuff, live social shopping is the biggest opportunity in the world right now. I was with a guy yesterday who's one of the biggest wholesalers to flippers. For 15 minutes. He wanted to say hello. He's built a huge community of people that flip. If you sell like 14 items a day, I think he said something really cool. like if you sell 14 items a day like on eBay for a year you make 150k like it was I don't remember I don't want to but he said all the people that pay him to be in his mastermind he said like 80 % of them started because of my 2017 flip challenge that's how impactful that was and that was eBay now we have live shopping easier easier now it's and you want to be on eBay and these live shopping platforms but I I could not, I could not, could not push you all harder, harder to learn about live social shopping.
28:04And I love the 70-year-old. You know what I like about a good 70-year-old and a retiree? They can get into that antique thrift store, flea market, garage sale life. It can get very lucrative. This guy, Ted Coe, I was talking to yesterday, talked about a guy in his group that in North Carolina this weekend bought a box for$5. that had original inaugural season, Chicago Bulls, original jerseys and warm-up gear, sent it to Heritage. One of them's$30 ,000 with a bid on it already. The thrill of the hunt that you can get into wholesale, dollar stores, start buying from China and India. And now with the tariffs, you've got Indonesia and Vietnam and all these new places that popped up that can do supply chain, you know, not to China's level, but become alternatives.
28:51And it was like, there's so much opportunity. Please, everybody, learn what live social shopping is. Please learn what live social shopping is. Aaron, I believe in Aaron. Aaron, ask me a question. This question is from Salvatore's mom. If your 16-year-old son wants to be a mechanic, but has never tried to actually put anything together or take anything apart, what advice would you give him and how would you support him? I would make him do it. I think my advice would be like, Salvatore, you know, I love you, boy. But if you want to be a mechanic, you have to work with your hands. Like, hey, if you're someone to be good at basketball but's never dribbled a ball, what would you tell him?
29:29Dribble a fucking ball, Salvatore. Fuck. Mom, you know the answer to this. What kind of question is this, Salvatore's mom? Make the fucking kid trinket something. Fucking make him do something. Salvatore's mom, I got an idea. Bring your fucking dishwasher, like break it. And then say, yo, fucking Salvatore, fix it. Mom, I don't know how. You shachi-me-ti, bitch.
29:57I'm right. I'm right, Sid. What do you want from me? Can you hear me, Gary? I can hear you, Jim. I heard you last time. And it sounds like Whatnot's going to be able to hear you. They can hear you. And can everyone hear me? Start from the top, Jim, with those beautiful accolades that made my heart feel so good. Well, as I mentioned, you are a humble person, despite everyone thinking otherwise. No? You can't hear me? Oh, I can hear you. I was agreeing with you that you're clearly very emotionally intelligent because you're right. I have so much bravado in all this stuff, but in my actions, my humility is my superpower.
30:39Right. So let me start at the beginning. When I was a kid, my aunt sent me a Jets jersey. So I've been rooting for the Jets since I was seven years old. Wesley Walker. blind in one eye my favorite receiver I loved him and then number 85 my favorite my one of my favorite players of all time I went to St. Louis University and one of the few players to ever come out of St. Louis University is Pat Leahy number five I've been carrying around I've been carrying around this card to give to you for a really long time because I know number five is important for you right I love Pat Leahy he was our kicker my whole childhood and he wore number five and because five was the jersey my mom knitted for me.
31:14I felt a kinship to him. Other than his hairline was very similar to what your hairline is right this minute. Remember, he was like baldish. It was weird. Well, he works now at the Home Depot in St. Louis. So he, my friend got me. Fuck you. He literally works at Home Depot in St. Louis. I'm literally going there on a vlog to shake his hand. We're going to clip this. We're booking it. I'm going to St. Louis in Q1 to the Home Depot. Jim, I need you to tell me which Home Depot. Email me at Gary at vfriends.com. I'm literally going to go there just to shake Pat Leahy's hand. I might bring my friend Al.
31:49He'll enjoy it too. I'm fucking going to St. Louis, everyone. All right, go ahead, Jim. So when I read Crush It!, I've done everything that you've said. I have documented the journey. And after you started Tea with Gary V., I started the Immigration Answer Show. So I have done 935 five episodes hour hour and a half where immigrants can just call and ask me whatever question they want well in the last year or so it has shifted very much so from um technical questions about the law to like they're scared they're worried they're nervous and so i i number one i'm getting ready to hit episode 1000 so i was wondering if you would come on for like 20 minutes one day.
32:34We could record it. Five, five. Five minutes? Yes, sir. I'll take it. I'll take five minutes. That would be great. But what advice do you have? I love whenever you talk about immigrants and I love your immigrant story. I talk about you all the time on the show and everyone on the show knows who you are. What can I do to help immigrants sort of feel safer or messaging that you have? By telling them what life's actually about, which is you can't control what you can't control. You know what I mean, brother? Like, it's a very challenging time. People see this issue on both sides. I'm empathetic to how people see the world.
33:13Everyone's allowed to see it differently. No question, immigrants, not only in America, but a lot of places around the world are in fear mode, right? And the reality is, is that my number one thing to say to both people, by the way, to both people who deeply, deeply are scared of immigrants, sadly, because people have weaponized that narrative or in reverse, immigrants that are scared to be deported is you cannot control anything actually and you must adjust to reality and that's that. There is, watch this, watch this Jim. Hey everybody in the whatnot chat, how many of you are struggling financially and emotionally right now?
33:56Please say struggling in the chat, like real talk. Like real life, you know, let's be vulnerable. How many people said they're struggling live in America? Struggling financially and emotionally and live in America. Say America in the chat. This is what I tell my immigrant friends, Jim, who are struggling. Like, living in America, listen, I think living in America is remarkable. Land of opportunity, I still believe it at the highest levels. Even more with what's going on with AI and everything while people think less. They're like, I'm gonna get fired and it's over. In fact, you're gonna get fired and then start your dream life.
34:29For a lot of people. A lot of people know. But a lot of people, yes. But you cannot control everything. And so, Jim, you gotta get to the root. The reason you like me is, and you've been following for a while, is I go to the root canal, not to the surface level. I'm not worried about getting you like some toothpaste that does white, you know, whitening. I wanna get into the fucking root canal. Rips. So you need to get to the root canal, Jim, and tell them that you can't control how this is gonna play out. You just can't. And you can't spend every day in fear. And you must wrap your head around that if you are no longer in the United States, you will go back to the country you were born in and you will make a remarkable life and you may find yourself back in the United States or in Portugal that's taking a lot of people right now or in Canada.
35:27There's so much opportunity around the world. America is not the only place to find happiness. In fact, we just watched more than half of the chat speak about struggling both mentally and financially right here in America. So America is not the variable of happiness. You are the variable of happiness and making your happiness. And that's that. That's the real answer. Gary, thanks so much. I got my first VFriends resourceful Robin. I took the quiz, so I was really excited. I got a hoodie coming. So I'm excited about that. Thank you for everything that you've done. Thank you for literally changing my life and the life of all the immigrants that I've been able to help.
36:05You get credit for all that. You get credit. No, you get credit, brother. I might have been a seed, but you fucking you executed. And I cherish all of you in the chat and all of you watching right now that have taken a word or a video of mine and actually done something with it in a world where millions don't. And I applaud you, sir. And I can't wait. I hope to see you at that Home Depot with me. And I can't wait for my five minutes to be on the podcast. Please email me at gary at vfriends.com and we'll set it up. Thanks, Gary. I appreciate it, brother. Take care, brother. Stay well. You're the best.
36:41Jim Hacking. All right, everybody, let's keep it going. Okay, question from Kayla. What would you recommend to somebody who is passionate about being a business owner, but also has a chronic illness that makes them bedridden for one to sometimes two weeks per month? Give themselves grace.
37:00I admire them so much. Like, don't beat yourself up. You have a chronic illness. You know, I really want to talk about grace this morning. And the graceful goldfish, one of the underrated V friends, and I can't wait to develop that character. I don't know if there's any graceful goldfish collectors in here. I want, I want, that was a woman. What was her name again? Kayla. Kayla. Kayla, I want you to give yourself grace, Kayla. like you have a chronic illness. You didn't control that. That was God's plan. And I think that you should give yourself grace. You can't hustle 18 hours a day, 365 days a year.
37:38You just can't. I want people who lost a loved one, like a parent, someone they really love. God forbid a child or a spouse. If you're struggling right now and you're watching, I want you to give yourself grace. Of course you can't go grind. If that happened to me, I'm not fucking building V friends the next day. I'm dwelling, I'm mourning. Please give yourself grace to mourn, right? If you're starting your journey to building yourself back up and you've realized that you were suppressing very deep angers or upsetness towards a parent or an inappropriate uncle or an illness that your mother had with alcohol, like give yourself a little grace.
38:24now don't dwell in it don't dwell in it and lay in it forever but give yourself some grace everyone like you can't go hard if you don't have fuel people ask me like you know yesterday it was like what drugs Gary V on? gratitude fuck face happiness of course I can go hard 15 hours a day I'm not weighed down sigh I really want you to give yourself grace when I make mistakes big mistakes when I Mr. Gratitude and Happy like wake up on a gloomy day I'm like I'm not like oh shit I suck now you don't suck someone said I suck earlier in here when I was saying who's struggling what I saw it in the chat you do not suck
39:15Mr. Santino said my mom died at 48 from a stroke she's all I had not true brother Mr. Santino, yes and no. Your memories of her are what you have now and your ability to find love in other areas, whether it's through companionship or even friendship. How many people here really love their best friend like that? Like really love them like that? Court? Sid? Do you know that the only time I get choked up is when I talk about my parents at award shows publicly and the only other time I've ever, ever in my life got choked up that way was when I talked about Brandon. Even right now I just said it as I said his name.
40:00That's how much I love him. So, you know, like there's the people you're born into and there's the people that, I did retire yesterday, but I'm back, unretired. I did retire here live on this show, but I'm back one day later. You know. Ayo.
40:26By the way, I can see it already. Is anyone here in doubt that I'm going to be in a stadium with 40 ,000 people and be like, Ayo. So give yourself grace. Fucking, I can't sell this hat. It won't be out for a long time. The dialed in dog. This is fire. And it's wooly. It's wooly too. Anyway, that's where I'm at. Give yourself grace. please, please. I'm not tired. I just, the bag's under my, you know, I'm 50 in two weeks. What do you want from me? And I've had the bags, you know, like, and yeah, I haven't slept as much last month. I've been fucking, a lot of red eyes grinding. All right. Next. Okay, question from Jimmy.
41:09How do I protect my personal brand as deep fakes are becoming an issue with popular creators?
41:18That's undecided. In fact, I am about to send a big push to all of you to follow me on Sora 2 where you guys can all make videos of me. I'm going the other way. I am going to use deepfakes to build my brand. So, for example, here, Sid, can you take this and play it over? This is something Brayden made on the team. We're testing.
41:49Yeah, I can push your patience. All right, I got it, I'll lock it. You don't need to yell it in my ear. Yes, it's a great word, it's my favorite word still. How about that, three notches? Yeah, I can push your patience. All right, I got it, I'll lock it. You don't need to yell it in my ear. I'm watching that they can hear it. They can hear it? I think they can. Good, can you guys hear it? Yeah, I can hear it. You think ice will ever slow me down? You don't know your boy. C, A. You think ice will ever slow me down? You don't know your boy. All right, there's that. And which one? The screen. The screen one.
42:29Oh, this is amazing. Yeah. I'm gonna be a baseball out here tonight. Hello. Oh my God. Dude, sorry man, didn't think I'd scare you that bad. You got me, my heart is racing my best. Seriously, good one. I'm gonna be a baseball out here tonight. Hello.
42:46So I'm going the other way. I'm going to soon give you guys all an invite code. I'm going to post on my Instagram and all my socials. You're all going to follow me on Sora too. And I'm going to open up my entire IP and you guys can make videos of me all day.
43:10You know, so. That's that. So I don't know. How do you protect your IP? You can lawyer up or you can take a surfboard and ride it. Big announcement. As you probably heard at this point because I had John from Stan on the show, I'm an investor advisor to an incredible startup called Stan, stan.store. I'm sending you right now to garyvee.com, garyvee.com slash stan. Go check this out. we've done a Gary Vee Stand Store challenge, which actually has a weekly call with me. This is built for everyone who's been affected, honestly, by my overall content. The tech stack, all these features, and the minimal costs per month that Stand Store has built is really the tool that was needed for this world that I envisioned when I wrote Crush It, when I wrote Crushing It, and this overall thing I'm thinking a lot about lately, which is the individual empire, right?
44:10this creator entrepreneur slash entrepreneur creator economy that I think is gonna eat up the oxygen, very honestly, the thing that so many of you want in your life and the reason so many of you are not there yet is you've got the strategy for me, you've got the ambition within yourself, but you don't have the tools for you to fully maximize it and I believe you can find that at Stan's store, Stan.store, but specifically, I want you to sign up for it through my challenge because I wanna get access with you and plus there's a bunch of cool things, so if you want to go see those cool things go to GaryVee.com slash Stan S-T-A-N
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In this episode of Tea with GaryVee 93, I talk about what to do when life forces you to make a change, whether that’s losing your job, starting over, or finally going all in on your side hustle. I share my two cents on why LinkedIn is your new resume, how to turn passion into profit, and why falling in love with hard things is the real unlock. I also share thoughts on complaining vs. taking action, the rise of live social shopping, and how giving yourself grace can help you build momentum instead of burnout.