1327: Eric Zimmer | Making Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life

24:26That's article.com slash Jordan for$50 off your first purchase of$100 or more. Don't forget about our newsletter, We Bit Wiser. It's very practical. A lot of the drills and exercises from the show end up in the newsletter, and it's an under-two-minute read just about every Wednesday. You can find it at jordanharbinger.com slash news. Now, back to Eric Zimmer. So when I first read this in your book, I was like, well, is this real? or is this one of those like once upon a time, right? And nobody knows who it is. And I actually just looked this up. It is a real story. This happened, his name is Dasrath Manji.

25:00I'm probably butchering that, but he was a poor laborer. He spent 22 years. So it was 1960 to 1982, chiseling a 360 foot long, which is quite impressive, 30 foot wide passage. Okay. This is not a crack you can slide through. Now you could drive a car through here. through the Galaur hills in Bihar, India, probably again, not saying that correctly at all, hopefully not too bad, using only a hammer and chisel. So no power tools. It's not like later on somebody gave the guy a bulldozer. But yeah, he was motivated by the death of his wife due to lack of immediate medical access. He reduced the travel distance to the nearest town from 55 kilometers to 15 kilometers.

25:41There's a little graphic, and I guess he had to walk around this thing in order to get there. And he basically, she died in 1959. He worked daily from 1960 to 1982. Unbelievable. 7.7 meters deep, so 25 feet deep, 30 feet wide, 360 feet long. This is a tunnel. This man dug a tunnel by hand. And he got a state funeral in 2007 when he passed away because obvious reasons. Because he should have one, yeah. Right. That is quite a feat. I'm going to ruin it right now by saying, okay, fine, Eric, cute story, but what if I pick up one piece of litter a day off the ground? That's not going to do anything.

26:19No, it's not. Unless people stop littering, in which case I'll eventually clean it up. I guess that's where my analogy breaks down. But you probably could. I was actually, it's funny that you bring this example up because I was just walking last night and I've got this little trail that goes around where I live and there's a fence and there's a freeway over there. On the other side of it is just trash, Lots of trash. Yeah. And I came around and there was just this little corner. And it occurred to me like, you know what? I could clean that corner up. You know, if every time I came by here, I picked up a piece or two of trash, eventually this little corner would not have litter in it.

26:57So no, I cannot solve all the world's litter problems by picking up a couple of pieces of it. But we're all faced with that to some degree. There's nothing we can do that solves a lot of problems in general, but it doesn't mean that we can't make situations better. And it certainly doesn't mean that we can't make our lives better by doing little things. You know, a 15-minute meditation practice a day done very consistently over a long period of time, if meditation is the right thing for you, so I'm not saying it's right for everybody, but for some people, it's very beneficial, will make a really big difference.

27:33Why do we resist change so much? I mean, it seems like my brain, even when I know something is wrong, is kind of like, hey, maybe don't change anything ever. And not for even a good reason. Just like homeostasis just feels good to me, maybe. I use the example in the book of the biological idea of homeostasis, which means that our systems are always trying to balance themselves out. Your body doesn't want to get too hot. It doesn't want to get too cold. It kind of wants to keep you in the same place. And I think that we, particularly in today's world, can find a little place that's mostly comfortable, that we don't really want to leave.

28:11Because it kind of feels good in there, and it's easy, and it doesn't demand anything more of us. And yet, for a lot of us, there's a nagging feeling underneath it that says like, oh, I could be more than this. I could do more than this. I want to do more than this. I want to be different than this. I don't know why we always have resistance. I mean, I've asked this question a ton of times on my podcast because I'm like, like you, every single time I do a workout, when I'm done, I'm like, I'm so glad I did that. Yeah. A hundred percent. Yes. Every time. Like there's not been one time where I'm like, oh, I shouldn't have done that.

28:48And at this point in my life, we are talking thousands upon thousands of repetitions. You should think I would run to exercise every day. Yeah. I still think about what excuse I can come up with that would be convincing. And yet I don't. Yes. Which amazes me. And the best answer I've been able to come up with is, you know, from evolutionary psychologists who are like, look, the body just does not put out more effort than it needs to unless there is a very clear, tangible, survival-based reason to do it. I'm going to run if I'm being chased by a leopard. But otherwise, I'm not doing it, man. forget about it.

29:26Or there's an entire field of strawberries over there that's going to supply me and my family with food for two weeks. It's worth the caloric output. But if you just ran around all the time back then and you didn't, it didn't gather your caloric input, you die. You see it in animals. They just don't do anything they don't need to do generally. They tend to just sort of hang out. And I think we're a little bit the same. So I do think that we need nudged into places that we want to be because there is a better, wiser part of us that wants more, wants things to be different. And there's an animal inside of us that's like, eh.

30:05Yeah, I hear that. Some of it's biological, right? Like you want to eat better and suddenly you're craving potato chips or carbs or whatever the heck it is. There's a biological reason for that. But there's other things I do that I just can't wrap my head around the level of self-sabotage. So I wanted to go to bed earlier. This is a while ago before I had kids. Now I go to bed with my kids. I don't have a choice. And actually, this has been the best thing for my sleep ever in some ways. But before I'd be like, I'm going to go to bed and I'm going to be in bed before 10. and then I'm scrolling on my phone for hours until the normal time I would go to bed and I'm like, oh, I slept the same.

30:39Well, I did look at Instagram for two, it's just the dumbest thing in the world or I would wanna be productive and I would go and sit in this, like lock myself in my office and I would come out and I'd be like, okay, I didn't do anything but you know what, my desk is clean, it's organized, everything is parallel and perpendicular in all the drawers, I got some boxes I threw away, I replaced the Kleenex box. I mean, just the dumbest busy work. And it's like anything to avoid sitting down and typing the notes for this podcast, basically. Yeah. A lot of the book is about that question. Yeah. Less about why, because I don't know always why, but more about how do we solve it.

31:17Yeah. And I think there are two things we have to figure out when it comes to making a behavioral change. And the first I call structural. This is like knowing why you want to do something. knowing exactly what you're going to do, how you're going to do it, being very specific about it, making sure you have the tools to do it, making sure you have people to support you in doing it, setting up your environment to make it easier to do it. It's all structural. And that often solves a lot of problems. It's stupid things. Like if I look at my task list, the things that sit on there for a while are the things that are not one task.

31:53They're actually like five tasks that I've called one thing. Oh, I've made this mistake before. Your to-do list has like write book on it. Exactly. It's ridiculous that I should need to deconstruct getting taxes done into the first step, which is go gather up all the mail that's in the eight different places in my house. Right. But it does matter when I do that. When I get that specific, I do it. So the structural carries us a long way. And then there is what I would call the inner, meaning I know exactly what to do, I know how to do it. It's all clear. The moment is here. I call it a choice point.

32:30I'm at that moment and I don't do it. That is something that's happening inside me. I'm saying something to myself or I'm feeling something in that moment that I don't know how to get over and I just turn away. And so in the book, I identify, I call them six saboteurs of self-control, which are like six categories of the sort of things that go wrong in that moment. And all we have to learn to do is not change our entire psyche. We have to learn, how do I navigate that moment? So writing a book for me, a big one was I just doubted I could do it. If I'm going to be more specific, I doubted I could write a good book.

33:11I mean, I was sure I could get a book out, but I doubted I could do a good book. And so that I call, you know, in my little six saboteurs, I call the self-doubt stalemate, which can stop us from doing something. I just find myself not writing. And until I really pause and get myself to the point where I'm like, it is time to write right now. So I'm not procrastinating generally. I'm procrastinating very specifically. I can then look and go, all right, what am I thinking? What am I feeling? And when I would do that, what I would see is there's a voice in me that was like, you can't do it. And so nobody wants to feel that.

33:48You turn away. That's a yucky feeling. Instead, I could learn just to say to myself something along the lines of, well, I don't know if you can write a good book or not, but I do know that if you sit down and write, you're going to feel better about yourself and you have a way better chance of getting better at writing in order to write a book. I didn't have to give myself a pep talk like, look out Hemingway, here comes Zimmer. I just needed to get that voice to just settle down just enough to do it. But most of us are not aware of what that is because either we haven't gotten specific enough to push us to a choice point or we blow right by it without really understanding what we're thinking or feeling.

34:31You talk about this behavior model in the book, motivation, ability, and prompts. And most people think motivation is the key, but you're, You kind of make the argument that motivation is unreliable at best, which I would completely agree with. I think a lot of people, I should include myself, we think we get motivated and then we do something. But often, as we alluded to with our gym analogy, we often act and then the motivation follows after that. Yeah. I do think motivation is part of the equation. You can't take it out of the equation. We do things for a reason and we need to feel like what we're doing matters and we need to reconnect to that.

35:04And it is very fickle, right? If you don't feel good one day, your motivation is naturally going to be lower. So what we need is to be able to make the ability, how hard something is to do, easier to do. So for example, if we go back to our exercise one, if I'm not feeling particularly perky in the morning, which is pretty much every morning, and I need to go get on the Peloton bike, that's my goal. my brain tends to do like i'm sort of oversimplifying but i think what it does is i think it does this little calculation it's like all right we're going to go get on the bike for an hour that's going to take 10 units of energy and i check in and my brain is like well but wait we've only got one that's not going to work and i keep scrolling sub stack but when i change it to like just get your bike shoes on my brain can sort of do the math like oh yeah that takes about a unit of energy I've got a unit of energy.

35:58Okay, maybe we can do this, right? And I get there. Getting started is a surprisingly powerful trick because once I get that far, I almost always keep going. And then about 10 minutes in, I'm like, I'm so glad I'm doing this. Oh yeah, this is the whole, like, instead of saying you're gonna go run five miles, just put your running shoes on. As cliche as that is, that's when I ran, I don't anymore because I decided I didn't like it after two years. But that was what I did. I mean, that's a fair shake, right? Two years of running. and then I was like, I don't like it. Yeah, that's fair. At some point, you have to admit to yourself that you're allowed to tell yourself that something sucks.

36:33But yeah, I remember I would get up in the morning, this is while I was in law school, and I was like, oh, it's snowing, it's Michigan, this is terrible. All right, I don't have to go run. I just have to put my shoes on and then go stand outside and get that initial blast of cold air. And if I'm like, screw this, and I go back in the house, I did it once, it was like freeze sleet, we call it, so freezing rain. and I was like, it's so dang cold. It's still dark. It's freezing rain. Everything is slippery. I almost fell. This is just dangerous. I'm not doing it today. But every other time I ran and I would run five miles in the stinking snow in Michigan in the winter.

37:09So you're not saying try harder though. You're basically just saying make it easier, which sounds almost too simple. But it does sort of hack that part of our brain, that motivational part. Yeah, I mean, it is a cliche. It's been talked about a lot. And yet I accomplish a good 50 % of anything I accomplish in life basically using that trick. I'd like to think I don't, you know, oh, I wouldn't need it anymore. I don't need it anymore. Yeah, no, not the case. You know, because resistance is real. And so how do we get started? There was a line that I heard early in recovery, and it said, sometimes you can't think your way into right action.

37:44You have to act your way into right thinking. and that really made a big difference because I could not particularly then control whether or not I wanted to get high. My thinking was just all messed up but what I was given was clear things to do. Go to the meeting then when you get to the meeting shake hands and then afterwards clean up the coffee. I mean I was given actions and what I found though is when I did the action my inner estate started to change. So my sponsor might say, go to the meeting and walk around the room and shake hands with everybody, which sounds like the worst possible thing I could ever imagine doing.

38:25Why? Why would he ask me to do it? Why is it so bad to shake hands with people in a room? I'm confused. Well, because A, I'm a shame filled introvert addict and doesn't who's shy and feels like I don't belong anywhere, but I would do it. And suddenly what I would feel is now I would feel more like I did belong there. Not by thinking, oh, I belong, I belong, I bet I belong, but by doing something that shifted my inner state into feeling like I belonged. And that's often the case. I think about it this way sometimes, like we know that, you know, emotion, thought, and behavior are all kind of interwoven with each other.

39:06Emotion doesn't have a lever on it. You can't just reach out and pull the feel better, feel happy lever. It doesn't have one. You tried that. It's called heroin. It's not good for you. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Thoughts, we have a little more control over. You can't control what shows up in your head, but you can control what you do. But behavior is absolutely something we do have control over. So it is often a really useful starting point, even if what you want is to change emotion, behavior is a useful way to do it. It's a starting place. Now, it's not always the starting place, and you do need to work on all three, and that's what the book is really trying to bring together.

39:46But behavior is a very useful starting point. So essentially, we pull the lever that we can easily reach, or the one that exists, I guess, in this case. Yeah, it's the easier one to pull. Now, not always, because our emotion controls, you know, dictates our desire to do behavior. So I'm not trying to oversimplify something, but I am saying it is a more reliable lever. It's the exercise. Once you start, once you do the behavior, you pull the lever, suddenly you feel like doing it now that you're doing it. So if somebody is sitting there right now, it sounds like we're talking essentially about momentum.

40:24If somebody hasn't worked out, hasn't been productive, hasn't done anything, whatever it is, someone sitting there with zero momentum, what is the first move? Not something aspirational, but something that somebody can actually do. What that's going to be is going to be different per person. Sure. But what I would start with is I would start with what is a small version of this that I can do right now or in an hour or as soon as possible. What is a version of this that gets me moving towards where I want to be, that I can get myself to do. Yeah, this is smart. I've heard people tell me they don't have time to work out.

41:02And I said, what are you talking about? And they're like, well, if I'm going to work out, I'm going to go all in and I want to do it every day. And I want to do it for an hour. And I was like, okay, so you're waiting until you're retired, I guess, to start exercising, even though you could just do something for 20 minutes. It's not a real excuse, kind of. It's fake, I think. It's to keep them from having to do anything. Well, I can't do it my way. So, you know, one of my friends was like, oh, I can't work out because he's overweight. Said I can't work out because I go all in on everything and I'm going to be doing like protein powders and peptides, which I can't afford right now in working out like two hours a day.

41:37And I'm like, so your other choice is to be literally 200 pounds overweight. Like I just don't buy it. It doesn't make any sense. And people are this way. There's a lot of all or nothing thinking. I mean, I've seen this for a number of years. I did a lot of coaching and I called myself a behavior coach essentially. And people would hire me and you only hire someone like me when you just are not being successful at doing something. I mean, the number of people that were like that, that were either they're doing it perfectly or they're not doing it at all. And that is a huge trap because it can stop you from even getting started.

42:13And it can also knock you off track because if we're going to do anything like exercise over a long period of time, you've probably noticed this to some degree, you've got to have some degree of flexibility in it because your life changes. You're traveling, your mom gets sick, your kids get sick, your dog gets sick. Our lives are not simple enough that we can be like every morning, 8 a.m., no matter what, I'm exercising. Not if you've got kids. There's plenty of mornings at eight o 'clock, chaos is going to rain. So my mantra is a little bit of something is better than a lot of nothing. So if I plan to exercise in the morning and I don't for whatever various reasons, I won't give up on the day completely.

42:54I might say, you know what? All I can do today is a 15 minute walk after dinner, but I've honored the underlying desire to be healthier. And I've kept a little bit of momentum going because I've done something and avoids that all-or-nothing trap because once we are in nothing, when we are totally stopped, it's harder to get started than it is when we have some degree of momentum. So I'm always just adjusting and being flexible in order to keep moving. Your brain does not want you to change. Your brain wants snacks, scrolling, and the same bad decision in a slightly different hat. Luckily, our sponsors are more useful than the deranged raccoon operating most of our impulses.

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46:19Someone here will surface that code for you. It is that important that you support those who support the show. Now back to Eric Zimmer. You know what? I just had a realization here in real time. I think this is kind of why I'm a little bit of a workaholic, I think, because if I completely unplug, which I occasionally do, but is very, very rare, I almost always go like, oh, I don't want to start working yet. I just don't want to. I'm not in the mood. I don't want to like read a book and I don't want to sit in my office. I just want to play video games and hang out with my kids. But what if I go on vacation and I check my email for half an hour every morning and I just, you know, to keep the inbox down, my wife's like, you really need to unplug you.

46:57And I know I do, but I also don't want to, because I know the amount, it's like just a cold start in January when I have to get back to work. For example, if I unplug over Christmas, like a sane person would do, I just can't do it because I'm like, Oh God, it's going to be so, I'm going to look back at this inbox in January. And if I do a little bit every day, there's going to be 30 emails in there. And if I don't do any, there's going to be 300. And I really don't want to see 300. Yeah. My old joke was, Nobody needs a vacation more than the person that just got back from vacation because you just are rolling in.

47:31Now, I have gotten to the place where I do turn off completely, give myself time away. I need that. And I face the dread that you're talking about. It starts to come. And I just try to remind myself, like, you'll feel that way for like six hours and then you'll just get past it. Yeah, if that. Honestly. It's worth it to take the time away to face that six hour misery. Yeah. But I'm just like you. I love what I do. But give me two weeks off. I will coming back. I'm like, it's terrible. It's funny you should mention that because I was like, how long is the dread? And so last time I timed it and it was under two hours for me to feel like I basically had caught up.

48:10I basically need to go to a coffee shop, get one of those Vietnamese coffees that is like 18 shots of espresso in it or something. One of those drippy ones. And then I go through my inbox and I make a huge ass to do list. And then I that sort of erases my panic. But and yet knowing that I'm basically 90 minutes away from feeling like I have my head on straight, I still have trouble taking time off. I guess what I'm trying to say is I almost have too much momentum. It's not a good thing. I'm not bragging about that. I mean, I need like I should not be building a Lego tractor with my son and thinking about how to, I don't know, optimize some workflow on Google Drive.

48:47That's not healthy. I mean, you know, to each their own as to what works for them. Right. I know some people who are like, maybe they, you know, they should be able to completely unplug, but they're like, you know what? If I check my email for 30 minutes a day while I'm gone, it reduces my anxiety about what's happening back there enough that I can be present the rest of the time here. I mean, everybody's got to do what works for them. We are not all the same. I hadn't really thought about that, but you're right. I do feel like an itch, which is anxiety. If I don't just go, there's nothing important in there.

49:20I know because I looked, I got rid of a lot of low hanging fruit that I won't have to deal with later. I delegated a few things. Now I can go to the beach and watch my kids throw shells at each other or whatever. And I don't feel guilty or like there's some kind of water tank filler. Like I'm in a water tank that's slowly filling up at my neck level, which is kind of how I sometimes feel if I don't do that stuff. And there's some awareness happening in real time here, I think, for me, which is making me feel a little bit better. All right. So how small, you said do something small that makes you feel like you've got some momentum.

49:54People are going to game this because I would have gamed it, I think, if I had no momentum. How small is too small? You don't want people to go, I want to read more. And then they open a book and read one page and then close it and say, okay, growth achieved. I mean, that's a ridiculous example, but people are going to do that in some fashion or another up to the point where they can convince themselves that they're still moving forward, even if they're not. Well, yeah. I mean, I think I would be questioning, you know, what's the point of gaming that? To trick ourselves into doing something we know we have to do when we secretly don't want to do it because homeostasis?

50:26Yeah, yeah. Well, so I would start, though, to make sure like we actually do know that some part of us wants to do it. I see. What's too small depends. It's different for everybody. But my experience is not that people start too small and trick themselves. My experience is almost always that people start too big and fail. That totally makes sense. Yeah. That's been my experience with people who are sincerely wanting to make a change and are reasonable people who are not locked in deep self-denial all the time. Those people tend the error is I try and do too much because to be like, hey, I'm going to meditate for three minutes sounds stupid.

51:05You're like, that's dumb. And the reality is if you meditate for three minutes a day, it's probably not going to change your life. you do it every day you might get a little bit more peace but three minutes can become five minutes which can become 10 minutes and that's often the path right we start small and we get some momentum and we're better able to do it while keeping it at the same difficulty level so meditation is a good example i had tried to meditate on and off for a long time this is pre-internet. The only way to learn meditation was from a book or the weird guy in Columbus, Ohio, who taught TM.

51:44Dude, I'm telling you, that's the same experience. That's it. There's one weird guy that your parents are like, is he a pedophile? And you're like, no, he's just really weird. And you're like, at his trailer staring at a wall. And everyone's like, if you're not back at two hours, I'm calling the police. 100%. And so I would pick up these books and they would say, you know, you should meditate 30 minutes, 45 minutes, an hour a day. And so I would try that. And that was incredibly hard for me because my brain was pandemonium. I would sit down and it was like the dark circus came to town. It was misery for me.

52:18I couldn't get myself to keep doing it. I might be able to do it for a week, maybe a month, but I would eventually give up. And then I would come back around. I'd pick up the book again. I'd start reading. It would say you should meditate for 30 to 45 to an hour. I would try it. I would fail. This happened two decades, perhaps. Yeah. Okay. That makes me feel a little bit better. I think a lot of people probably feel a little bit better. A long time. Yeah. So finally, at one point, once I started, it was after I started the podcast and I started to get introduced to some of these ideas a little bit more and get some clearer thing.

52:49I was like, you know what? I'm going to meditate for three minutes, but I'm going to do it each day. I can do three minutes. There was a dignity level for me where I was like, I can't, no excuse I can make is going to pass muster for why I can't spend three minutes. And so that was easy enough to do. It was low resistance and I didn't need a whole lot of motivation to do it. Well, what turned out to happen was that before long, I could sit for five minutes and it was the same level of difficulty because I was getting better at it. Then I could sit for 10 minutes. Then I could sit for 15 minutes and then I could go on week-long retreats.

53:24Oh God, that feels horrible even thinking about having to be quiet for a week. Yeah, well, you don't have to. That's the good news. The good news is you certainly don't have to, but that was where I wanted to get with it. But I got there by starting stupidly small and establishing consistency and momentum. And then as I got better at it, as I became more capable, we all know this, it's the way you work out. You don't start by bench pressing 250 pounds. You can't do it, but you can start wherever you're capable of. Ears and eyes would be different. If we both took six months off and we came back to bench press, you might bench press 150 pounds and I might bench press 110 pounds.

54:04If I tried to do what you were doing, I would give up because it would be too hard. But I could start where I'm at and get better and better and better. Have you ever done a darkness retreat? Have you ever tried one of those as opposed to a silent retreat? I have heard about them, but I have never tried one. For people who don't know what this is, my friend Akshay, do you know Akshay Nanavati? Is that name ring a bell? Yep. Yep. So he's been a friend of mine for a long time. He's crazy, I guess is the best way to put it. He's a decent description. His last thing that he did was he told me that he was going to go to Antarctica and cross over land, which he tried to do, which no one has done before.

54:40There's one guy who like kind of says he did it, but there's like no proof or something like that. I can't remember. But anyway, he's got to push his food on a sled across Antarctica and he almost made it. In fact, the reason he didn't was not because he wasn't tough enough or whatever. It was because it was snowing and instead of walking across like ice pack, he was in deep snow, which made it a million times harder. So he ran out of time because you basically have to pay a rescue crew to like wait for you on Antarctica. Oh, I imagine. You can't just be like, yeah, I'll call you when I need. It's like, no, we need to be on the continent that you're on when you're dying or fall into a crack.

55:14So he just basically ran out of, I think, money and also, you know, I'm sure he was sore. But anyway, so he does these darkness. I'm sure he was relatively sore. He does these darkness retreats where he'll be like in Germany, which is because I don't even know if it's legal to do this kind of thing here because you're basically imprisoned by someone. You've got to go to the Black Forest for that. Yes. And there's no noise and there's no light. And they feed you a smoothie a few times a day to keep you from dying, basically. And it's the most tasteless thing that they can find because the point is you're not getting any stimulation.

55:48And you mentioning that the darkness comes into your head. this is like the whole point for him, right? Is you can't get away. There's nothing to distract you from these thoughts and things that are in your head because there's no light. There's nothing you're tasting. You're not looking forward to anything. You're in there for a lot, like a week or 10 days or whatever. And you can't even see anything. You can't even start looking at things to distract yourself. And he said, it's just like, you're just facing all of your demons in this dark room alone, which sounds awful to me, but we're built different.

56:17There's a part of me that's like, huh, I'm going to do that. But it does sound awful. I mean, you know, the thing about like on a silent meditation retreat is oftentimes you're encouraged also not to read anything. So there's no stimulation. You find yourself like looking at like, oh, can I go read the emergency evacuation instructions on the back of the door to have anything? Yeah. Anything except my own thoughts. But at least you get to see things. Right. Yeah. You can look at a butterfly and that's like, that's kind of the point. You're enjoying nature and enjoying the wonders of nature. No, you're in a dark room, which I guess has carpeted walls somewhere in the suburbs of Frankfurt.

56:54And you're dealing with that. But Akshay is legitimately like on another level with this stuff. This is an interesting tangent, I hope, for people listening. But like, I met up with him for breakfast. I don't know, it was probably three years ago now. We're at like Soho House, which is like bougie, you know, whatever, New York or LA, can't remember, London, whatever club. And we're having breakfast. I'm like, let me buy you breakfast. And he's like, all right, now that we're done eating, I got to show you something. And I'm like, what could it be? And he had just gone on like a training trip to Antarctica or some other cold, or maybe it was Iceland.

57:24He went somewhere where he was practicing whatever he was going to do. And he goes, check this out. And he puts his hand on the table. And it's like, you know, when you see something that you've never seen before, but you're an adult and you think what I'm looking at can't be real because I'm 46 years old. I've seen everything. Like, what am I looking at? And is it real? And on his hand, it was a regular hand. And then two fingers were totally black, except for the tips, which were bones protruding out of the black, like a zombie. And I was like that. It just looked fake to me. And I said, what is that?

58:01And he goes, oh, they're frostbitten. So they're dead. And the tips have fallen off, but the bones are still there. And I'm like, why have I never seen this and he goes, oh yeah, usually when this happens, doctors amputate them. But I just decided to let nature take its course. So his doctors were like, hey, we should saw those off. And he was like, no, bro, I want to walk around with this for, I don't know, 18 months or whatever, as they become necrotic, turn hard, fall off and leave only bones that look like old bones that have been buried for a while and had been in a shower hundreds of times that are just sticking out of my hand it was like looking at a zombie hand it really honestly except part of it was like perfectly healthy and then part of it was dead and i'm like thank you for waiting until we were done with breakfast done eating yeah exactly but that was the reason i'm telling you this and telling everyone this is because this is the kind of person that goes to a darkness retreat for 10 days right like that's somebody that hardcore because if i get frostbite they're sawing it off that's final i get frostbite if it has to happen and they do have to saw it off yeah i'm never going anywhere that's under 50 degrees again.

59:07That's right. That's it. I'm moving to the desert in Arizona, and that's it. Like, I'm never leaving. Precisely. But not him. I haven't connected with him in a while, but it does not sound like he's changed one bit. No, he's not changed one bit. He's just looking for the next hardest, most impossible thing to do. So speaking of unique folks, you tell the story in the book about this woman whose hand literally fights her, which again, speaking of things that sound fake, alien hand syndrome, apparently a real thing. Tell me about that. Yeah, well, if you go in and you sever someone's corpus callosum, I think is how you say it.

59:41Although now that I say that out loud, I feel like I've just done a Harry Potter spell. So perhaps I'm not right there. It's a thing that connects the two sides of your brain together. And if you have epilepsy, one of the ways that they help treat that is they get rid of that. They still do that? That sounds like bloodletting, but with your brain. You know what I mean? It sounds like... No, I think they still do. Yeah. Wow. Because it generally works, but it will cause some unusual things. And one of those things is that the different sides of your brain can get up to different things. And so this woman had had this happen, and a doctor went to see her shortly after, and one hand was buttoning up her shirt while the other hand would turn around and just unbutton it.

1:00:23And he was like, uh-oh. Yeah. Called some people in to look at it. Well, it's called alien hand syndrome. And what it basically means is that the hands, which are mapped to a side of the brain, have a different agenda. Your right brain, your left brain, they want different things. There's all sorts of, look into like the split brain studies. They are fascinating. Yeah. You think you're like a rational, unified creature. And then you start reading this stuff and you're like, oh, man, we are weird. So, yeah, alien hand syndrome. You know, one hand's lighting a cigarette, the other hand puts it out, that kind of thing.

1:00:55And I use it because it's a it's a great story. And to sort of say that we all have a little bit of that. We talked about it very early on where we want lots of different things. I want to exercise and I want to sit on the couch. I want to write this book and I don't know what's the way and I want to play video games. Yeah. Or yeah, I want to play my guitar or whatever, whatever your thing is. Sure. We all want multiple things. We're motivationally complex creatures. And so starting to unravel that a little bit can be really helpful because if we don't, it does feel a little bit like the alien hand thing.

1:01:30Some part of me is going this direction. and another part of me is going in another direction, and that doesn't feel good. What do we do if the things we want conflict with each other? It's probably good to give an example of this because alien hand syndrome essentially says about the brain that those two conflicting wants coexist. It's just that usually our brain, I don't know, figures out one way to pick one, whereas with her, which by the way, that sounds like a Batman villain, someone whose one hand does one thing and then the other hand does the opposite thing. I mean, that would be, I don't even know who could play a complex role like that, but that would be incredible, right?

1:02:00They light a cigarette and then in a menacing way, in the other hand, puts it out immediately or like takes it out of their hand before they can take a drag. The fact that that's real is mind blowing. Totally mind blowing. I'll give you an example. So even when we think about what's most important to us, like we get down to the levels of like values, like what do I value? We still have conflict. One of the things I've realized is I have a value on adventure. Like I feel most alive. I feel most myself. I feel happiest when I'm out on some sort of adventure. Now, not an Akshay adventure, a normal type adventure, right?

1:02:38A normal adventure is when I feel most alive. I also have a real value on being content right where I'm at. Those are two things that are, they pull on each other. And I don't think there's a resolution to the two of them. Knowing that they're both there and they're each pulling and that that's totally normal helps me to work with it more skillfully. Recognizing that we want multiple different things and that that's normal, I think, can be very helpful instead of thinking there's something wrong with me, that I'm that way. Sort of acknowledging that there's a war inside our head and that all of us have this.

1:03:13It's just that we don't all have a hand that can think with the other mind that's back there is an interesting way to look at this. In the book, though, you do a pretty good job. You mentioned values. You broke this down into values are what we want most, but desires are what we want most right now. Yeah, the question that I use is, you know, oftentimes of what a lot of us will look at is we're trading what we want most, what we value for what we want right now. And that's a pretty common thing that most of us wrestle with. You'll notice that a lot of your day-to-day struggles fall into that camp.

1:03:47And so that's a particular type of thing that we have to learn to work with. And then there is the example I gave is like, what do you do when two things that you really do want most that are really valuable to you are in conflict? You know, anybody that's got children in a career feel some degree of this. You value both. You value your career and you value your children. And there is a tension there. There is a natural tension there. It's why everybody talks about work-life balance because it doesn't go away. And that's okay. I wish it went away. I wish it was simpler. but knowing that everybody feels that I think does make things better.

1:04:27But when we look at like, what do I want most versus what do I want now? What we're really dealing with is how do I make the future more real? Because what I want most is the thing that's out in the future usually. And what I want now is the thing that's like right here. You know, how do I make that more real in recovery? We called it playing the tape all the way through as one of the, I mean, I learned it my first week of recovery. What my brain did was just think about how good it would feel to get high. Right. I see. I have to keep it going. I have to go, okay, well, then what? Oh, yeah. Well, what'll happen after that is I'll feel good for 20 minutes.

1:05:02And then the shame will rush in. The despair will rush in. The desire to use even more will rush in. Oh, and then the fact that I don't have money, that's there. Oh, and I'm already facing 50 years in prison. And you roll it all the way through. Were you really facing 50 years in prison? I was, yeah. For what? Multiple charges of grand theft and forgery. Oh, okay. Because I'm like, 50 years, those are murder numbers, man. No murder. And those are max sentences. Yeah. But yeah, I had something like six of each. Future You is always going to wake up early, work out, meditate, meal prep, answer emails, and become fluent in Spanish.

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1:07:18I would like to think there's no chance you would have gotten that, but who knows? Yeah, yeah. Well, what I got was this, I got the sweetheart upper middle class white kid deal, which was diversion. They basically said, if you complete this program, we'll make this all go away. And the program was, I had to, you know, probation officer. I mean, just all the normal things. And if I did that, they made it go away. And if I didn't, then I would be facing a very stiff sentence. But I got that opportunity, thank God, because my life would have been radically altered if I had been toting around eight felonies.

1:07:58I don't mean to get sidetracked here, but there's a guy who listens to the show who sent me an email. He was a Mormon, but he became a drug dealer. That's, of course, we're going to talk about that at some point. But basically, you mentioned the upper middle class white kid deal. And I think a lot of people bristle when you say things like that. But he told me that this is very real. He went to court for he had, I don't even know, pounds of drugs, like a ton of drugs. Right. And the guy before him had a little bit, a couple of bags of drugs. And that guy got like multiple years sentence. And he was like, oh, my God, I have 10 times more than that guy.

1:08:29I'm never getting out of jail. And the judge was like, what's a nice boy like you doing in here? Probation. And he was like, I won the judicial lottery and I cannot screw this up. And that's one of the, how he got out of it. But he was also like, but wait, that other guy, he had way less than me and he's in prison now for like five years. What happened there? Yeah. A hundred percent. I will always take a Mormon drug user story if I can get one. There you go. Yeah. Mormon drug dealer. That's what I meant. That's even better. Mormon drug user is kind of boring, but drug dealer, that's interesting.

1:09:01So we play the tape through. And the key is we have to try to make it is real. We have to see it. We have to feel it. You know, really trying to embody the future situation. Because most of us don't really do that. We may recognize like, ah, yeah, maybe I should put the phone down and stop scrolling. But in your case, right, you would have to really imagine, put yourself in the morning person's shoes like, oh, God, I'm going to feel like shit again. And I'm going to feel like an idiot because yet again, I scrolled. Embody those feelings if we can, because our job is how do we make the future feel more real?

1:09:42Because the present is always very real to us. And as humans, we're not good at this. There's a reason we all struggle with it, right? It's not easy to do. The way you put it is perfect. the present is always it's more urgent right that this is what's happening now so i do have a lot of sympathy for people who say like i want to build a business but i also have bills and i have the stability of this career and it's like yeah you could step into the wild unknown and take a ton of risk or you could stay at your job and there's all these influencers that are like burn the ships and i'm like easy for you to say pal you're a multi-millionaire what are you doing telling this teacher who's a single parent to burn the ships.

1:10:21Like you have no place, you've no right to do that at all. It doesn't make any sense. No, this podcast, like I, you know, I knew I wanted to do this show, but I had a job in the software business. There was no way I had two kids in high school. I had a mortgage. I mean, I had all that stuff. I kind of picked the middle route for me, which was like, I was like, all right, I'm gonna, I'm gonna do the job and I'm gonna kind of noodle away at this thing over here. And I was lucky enough that the podcast went well enough that eventually, and I did that for five and a half years before I was able to do it full time.

1:10:55But yeah, I agree 100%. Telling people to burn the ships is advice that most often comes from the people who already are set. Yes, exactly. I know. It sort of reminds me of Scott Galloway, who you probably know, says something like, the person on the podium telling you to follow your passion made their billions in iron smelting or inherited most of it. And it's like, yeah, that's exactly right. That's fair. Yeah. In the book, you add another layer to the values thing, which is that half the stuff we want or values and desires for that matter, half the stuff we want isn't even ours, right? We absorb it through social media, status games with other people or whatever.

1:11:30So how do we tell the difference between I want this and I saw somebody else want this on Instagram and now I think I want it, but I'm not sure. The thing for me that I can tell is how much does it change? So I was in LA recently and I got invited to a party up in the Hollywood Hills. And when I was there, what I was thinking of was money. You know, it's an incredible house. I'm looking around and the people there, they all have money. And suddenly what I really want is money. And then two nights later, I was at a different event with more the starving artist type person. And I found myself wanting that.

1:12:10You wanted to be broke? I don't think that sounds right. Tell me. I wanted a bohemian, cool, creative life. Right. Okay. In Echo Park or whatever. Yeah. Yeah. And so if I look back and forth between those two, which of those tends to be more steady in my desires, right? And for me, it's almost always been the more authentic life where I'm doing something that I like doing that feels valuable to me. That's the part that doesn't change. Now, would I love you to heap a bunch of money on top of that? Sure. Yes. The rock star method where you're super loaded, but you can pretend that you're broke and wear ripped clothes.

1:12:49And I tried that for a number of years and it did not work. So I'm looking oftentimes trying to discern like what patterns hold over time because I do tend to want what you put in front of me and make look good. It's part of the reason I do not like TV commercials. I feel like I'm unusually susceptible. Really? I never pay attention to those at all. Yeah. Well, no, I mean, like I, when they're on, I'm looking and I'm suddenly like, yeah, I really do need to be on a beach with a beer and I need a, I need a woman that hot. And you know, everything I'm doing up till now has been a waste of my time.

1:13:23Let's redirect until the commercial's over. And then you've got Pampers commercial and I suddenly think I need two more kids. Maybe you are susceptible. None of these things occur to me. I've totally tuned these things out. Sheesh. Yeah. I think we all have different levels of that, but I, I tend to get influenced by what, what is around me. So I have to come back to like, what do I consistently want? What do I consistently value. And that tends to work for me because you go on social media and I mean, our whole culture is based on how do I get you to want something you don't have so you will spend money on this thing.

1:14:02That is the engine that drives a lot of it. I'm not saying that's bad. I'm just saying that's kind of the reality of it. So I come back to what things do I consistently over a period of time keep thinking are valuable to me and important. On that same token here, sometimes it seems like my values kind of fight each other. I mean, you mentioned this earlier, money versus, I don't know, cool bohemian lifestyle. So security versus freedom, family versus ambition is a common one that I see in the inbox. Maybe the original, the OG, health versus enjoyment, right? I should stop drinking and smoking, but it's fun.

1:14:38If there's no clear right answer, how do you decide? Ideally, you find a way that you do both. I think that's the ideal world. The ideal world is one in which, yeah, you're mostly healthy, but you go have a few drinks if you want to have a few drinks once in a while. You do eat the chocolate ice cream when you're on vacation. You do those things in the same way that ambition and family don't get sorted. Most people are not in a position to, you don't just go, well, you know what, it's going to be ambition, and that's going to be the one, and screw you, family. I mean, some people do, right? Some people do.

1:15:13But most of us are not going to make that choice, nor are we going to be like, well, you know what? I'm just going to stay at home with the kids all day and, you know, we'll live under the bridge. Who cares? For most of us, we're finding the place in between those two things that is best for us. But I don't think they resolve. As I said earlier, I think you it's an ongoing negotiation. It's an ongoing dance between those two things. Now, sometimes you find yourself like me with mind-altering substances where the answer is none. But I don't think that's ideal. If I could be in the middle, I would.

1:15:48Because having a few drinks is enjoyable. Lots of people love it. I'd do it if I could. My experience just shows that doesn't work for me. And so you might be that way. There's certain people that are this way that like once they open the sugar genie up, it just takes over every time. And they're like, it's easier to have none. And so there are times that that is the wiser move. Gretchen Rubin came up with an idea that I thought was useful. She was like, are you a moderator or a abstinence person? And I think it's an interesting question to ask yourself about different things. Would it be easier to just have none of this than trying to do an ongoing negotiation?

1:16:32For me, there is a beautiful clarity to zero when it comes to substances, right? I mean, it's just, it's zero. There's no debate. And I know a lot of people who might do better with that, but they stay in the middle. But I don't think there's a simple answer for how we do it, except we find our place and we continue to negotiate it and think about it is really the key thing, right? To bring some consciousness to it. Yeah, this is true. It's funny that the moderator idea, I always assumed you had to be abstinent or you were going to get addicted to something. But when I got older and people started putting drugs in front of me, I was like, oh, I can just do this and stop.

1:17:10And other people were like awake till seven or eight in the morning. And I was like, I don't, why are you doing that? And they're like, you don't want more? And I'm like, no, I kind of do. But like, also, I want to go to bed. So I'm just going to go to bed. And like, I remember later as I got older and older and older, I was like, oh, this is not the usual way people's brains react to, you know, white powders, for example. Yeah. Although strangely, even with white powders, the vast majority of people do not slide into what we would call addiction. Yeah. Otherwise, everybody in my law firm would have been.

1:17:39All of LA would be in a treatment center. Yeah. There's some additional points that I'd love to highlight here. Values don't matter unless they show up in behavior. So you would kind of have to ask yourself, you know, what does this look like on a random Tuesday night? Not the final product, not the way that I want this to look or how pretty I want to make this, but like, what does this look like at 8 a.m. tomorrow when you don't want to work out again, for example? Do you think people lie to themselves about their values? Because it sort of looks to the casual observer that this happens constantly.

1:18:07This is an interesting one because there is a certain school of thought that says if you look at what somebody does, you'll know what they value. And there's a certain logic to that. But I also think it's reductive because even though, yes, On one hand, I did value drugs over everything else in my actions. That's not what I truly valued. I didn't have the skills to do anything different. I didn't have the ability to do anything different. I do think we can lie to ourselves about our values. I think it's really important to do our best to get to, like, honestly, like, what do I really value? Like, adventure.

1:18:50Adventure is not anything that would have made it on my values list earlier in my life because I would have thought that's not a good value. Like, who cares? I need freedom and justice and compassion. And but as I looked at who I was, I was like, no, I do value that. I do want that. That feels important to me. So I think being clear about what we really do value is important. It's hard to do. Values work is challenging. I have a bunch of different exercises in the book because I think it reveals itself to people differently with different exercises. The least useful is usually to be given a list of 100 values and circle the 10 that you like most because you agree with everything that's on the page.

1:19:35And we used to say in project management, if everything's a priority, nothing's a priority. And so we have to make some choices about those things. So I don't think that our behavior is always a reflection of our values, but it is a reflection on some hand of our ability to live into our values for sure. I wanted to mention, I know we're out of time. There are a ton of drills and practicals in the book. And if you buy the audio book, there's like a PDF that it comes with. So you're not going to miss that stuff. But a lot of stuff about habit change, willpower, setting up your environment for success, because we didn't even get kind of just don't have time to get into all that stuff.

1:20:13If people liked Atomic Habits or BJ Fogg, who was on the show, they're going to like that stuff as well because that stuff is also important. You don't have to rely on willpower to make change. You've got your little system there for that as well. Thank you so much, man. I know we sort of blew past this scheduled time, but that's usually a good sign. And, yeah, thank you very much for coming on, man. I'm glad you're not a heroin addict and that you're a successful human being. Congratulations. Me too. The fact that you mentioned James Clear, I'll just say my publisher pitched the book as Atomic Habits meets Think Like a Monk, right?

1:20:45So it's got that whole practical side of habit and behavior and also a deeper side to it also. And yes, thank you very much for having me on, Jordan. I'm really appreciative of it. What if the safest way to send a secret is something anyone can hear but no one can trace? You're about to hear a preview where former CIA officer Andrew Bustamante pulls back the curtain on a hidden world where global conflicts are quietly connected. There's actually 161 active conflicts around the world right now where bullets are being fired and explosions are going off. When you look at each of those conflicts, it's not just one group against another group in the same country or even across a state boundary.

1:21:26it's multiple countries engaged in supporting one side or another side. Proxy conflicts. Right now in the United States, we're focused on Israel. We're focused on Ukraine and Afghanistan and Russia. And then sometimes we're focused on something else. When people think World War III, the common misconception is that a nuclear weapon must be used. If you're waiting for a nuclear weapon to go off, that's not going to be World War III. It's a whole different evolving landscape, and that's what we need to understand. And I don't think our chances of a nuclear weapon going off are getting less each year.

1:21:59I actually think they're getting to be more each year. But I don't know why people think it's going to look like a thermonuclear weapon being launched from a missile silo and going off in the middle of a first world country. That's not what it's going to look like. Israel's MO is to do incredibly brazen acts of violence and take public credit for it and then air footage and everything else. because they know that there's a fear-mongering element that deters its enemies even further. Whereas China goes in and just breaks everything, and they don't really care if they get caught, and Russia doesn't want to get caught.

1:22:31The United States also doesn't want to get caught, which is why the United States denies everything. It seems to me like we have more indicators that we are in a world war rather than we are not in a world war. To hear more on why Cold War tech still outsmarts modern surveillance and why Andrew Bustamante believes World War III may already be happening, check out episode 1220 of The Jordan Harbinger Show. big thanks to eric zimmer what i really appreciated about this conversation is that eric doesn't sell us the usual self-help fairy tale hit rock bottom have a breakthrough become a walking ted talk with abs his point is harder and way more useful change is not usually dramatic it's small it's repetitive it's annoying it's unglamorous and it works because you keep choosing the next slightly better thing before your brain can talk you into doing the dumb thing again and that question he comes back to, what do I want to do?

1:23:19Who do I want to be? It sounds simple, but it's a hell of a filter because your values are not what you post, preach, or privately fantasize about becoming after you finally buy the right notebook. Your values are what you do when you're tired, hungry, triggered, resentful, bored, or staring directly at the bad decision and already negotiating with it like it's a used car salesman. So maybe the move today isn't to reinvent your life. Maybe it's just to make the next good choice easier. Remove the friction. Set the prompt. Shrink the action. Stop relying on willpower like it's a superhero who keeps showing up drunk.

1:23:52And remember, the smallest move that actually happens beats the grand transformation plan that you abandon by next Thursday. Thank you for listening. Share this one with somebody who's stuck, starting over, or pretending that I'll get serious next week as a strategy. We've all been there. Hell, some of us have leased office space there, present company included. All things Eric Zimmer will be in the show notes on the website, advertisers, deals, discount codes, ways to support the show, all at jordanharbinger.com slash deals. Please consider supporting those who support the show. Our course, Six Minute Networking, is at sixminutenetworking.com.

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1:24:51And in the meantime, I hope you apply what you hear on the show so you can live what you learn. And we'll see you next time.