In short
Vasectomy reversal counseling and surgery, including when reversal vs IVF/ICSI is appropriate, how success is assessed, and myths (especially antisperm antibodies).
Guests
Dr. Jesse Mills (urologist, microsurgeon; hosts “The Mailroom”); Dr. Jay Sandlow (urology department chair, Medical College of Wisconsin; returns from prior vasectomy episode). Jordan Runtal is the producer/host, not a guest clinician.
Key claims
Reversal success depends on partner factors (e.g., premenopausal vs age), prior fertility history, time since vasectomy (no absolute cut point), and intraoperative findings. Two reversal types: vasovasostomy (fire-hose to fire-hose; higher success) vs vasoepididymostomy (garden-hose to fire-hose; harder, lower success). IVF/ICSI is needed when sperm are not viable/moving enough for IUI.
Notable examples
A man hid a prior vasectomy; reversal failed but sperm were retrieved and IVF produced a daughter. Another patient on testosterone didn’t disclose it; intra-op sperm were low until later treatment (HCG/clomiphene) enabled pregnancy. Antisperm antibodies myth: antibodies don’t make reversals impossible; clumping may reduce motility and can be treated.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOUnderstanding Vasectomy Reversal
4:02 to 6:34
Discussion on what vasectomy reversal entails and patient motivations.
“Jesse Mills and Jordan Runtal, producer extraordinaire.”
Surgical Techniques and Success Rates
6:34 to 11:28
Insights into surgical procedures and factors affecting success rates for reversals.
“And again, the Brewers, such a scrappy team.”
Consultation and Patient Decision-Making
11:28 to 14:01
Guidance on how to counsel couples considering reversal, including alternatives.
“The analogy that I use is a vasovasostomy is like coupling two fire hoses together.”
Understanding Vasectomy Reversal Decisions
14:01 to 15:00
Explore the factors influencing choices between vasectomy reversals and IVF.
“And I'm like, whoa, you were having issues before you even had the vasectomy.”
The Nuances of Sperm Extraction
15:01 to 18:24
Learn about the different sperm extraction methods and their implications for fertility.
“And I think this is because of your wisdom and experience.”
Patient-Centered Care in Reproductive Health
18:25 to 19:36
Discuss the importance of prioritizing patient needs and options in treatment.
“But I do have some couples who were never aware that there are options.”
The Importance of Humility in Medicine
19:37 to 20:36
Understand why humility is crucial for medical practitioners in reproductive health.
“And you and I both know that, you know, at least I know personally that I've had one or two vasoepithetomomies over my 20 odd years that didn't work.”
Differences in Reversal Rates by Demographics
20:37 to 21:46
Examine how socioeconomic factors impact vasectomy reversal practices across regions.
“I also will say that the demographic is important.”
Patient Stories: The Ethics of Disclosure
25:00 to 28:00
Hear real patient stories revealing the complexities of vasectomy and honesty in relationships.
“Go ahead, find your next favorite thing.”
Uncovering a Patient's Secret
28:00 to 30:24
Learn about a surprising patient experience and the importance of honesty in medical care.
“I mean, that's just that they had to do something to fix my balls after I got beaten up on both sides.”
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A Mid-40s Patient's Journey
30:24 to 32:22
Explore a case of testosterone use impacting a vasectomy reversal.
“So got a guy, mid-40s, second marriage, again, you know, younger, attractive wife, comes in, wants a reversal.”
The Importance of Communication
32:22 to 33:39
Understand why open communication between patients and doctors is crucial.
“It's just a little hand sanitizer that they're on.”
Myths Surrounding Vasectomy Reversals
33:39 to 40:17
Debunk common myths about vasectomy reversals and discuss real-life implications.
“And then yesterday was normal, you know, just a few months later, right?”
Debunking Myths About Vasectomy Reversal
42:02 to 43:20
Explore common misconceptions around vasectomy reversals and IVF.
“Yeah, because I think that does turn a lot of people away, especially when they hear it from another physician.”
Celebrating Successful Medical Fellowship
43:20 to 44:12
Discuss the success of medical fellowships and their impact on the field.
“So yes, I said, okay, we'll do that much.”
Transcript
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3:50Dr. Jesse Mills:Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it, the mailroom. Welcome to the mailroom. Welcome back to the mailroom with Dr. Jesse Mills and Jordan Runtal, producer extraordinaire. It's such a delight to be back with you. Last episode, we had Dr. Jay Sandlow, chair of the Division of Urology at Medical College of Wisconsin. Is it a division or department, Jay? Department. It is a department. and I'm so sorry. That's a big distinction. Department. I wasn't going to correct you, but yeah. No, no, no, no, you please do. This is, it's, you know, we, we only do one take, whether it's good or bad. So that's, that's kind of called one take mills around here, but, but yeah, so the Department of Urology Medical Council of Wisconsin, and we'd had a great talk about vasectomies last time, which always goes right into the next conversation, which is whenever I talk with guys about vasectomy, I say it's the most definitive form of permanent birth control from a male until it isn't.
4:50Dr. Jesse Mills:And that's where reversal comes in. So welcome back to the mailroom, Jay. Jordan, thanks for joining us again. And glad you got your color back. We almost lost you from that last episode. And yeah, next time don't wear a red shirt because I can tell the difference between your face and the rest of you so that we know when we get in trouble. A little squeamish around blood, a little squeamish on blood. Well, okay, well, we didn't even talk. Okay, we said hematoma. That's it. Other than that, it was bodily fluids, not blood. when jesse and i do vasectomies there's no blood anyway so you don't have to worry exactly right i'm very empathetic you know just hearing about these kinds of surgeries it's just i i instinctually i clamp up i cringe i i run back you know what i mean it just sounds painful to me which i'm as you've said many times you said this in the last episode i'm sure we get more into this one is actually nowhere near as painful as i'm making it out to be as i assume it is i will and i don't know jay do you i started a couple few years ago using nitrous for my vasectomies do you have that or tell me what you know i wish um i've heard nothing but good things but you know i work out of a hospital-based office right which means that um i would have to have anesthesia privileges yes yeah we so i don't talk offline but there i did actually get a it took me eight or nine months of to get it all the way through the uc region so that we now have a way to do it because it's not technically anesthesia, it's analgesia, but not for the listeners to listen to and bore ourselves with hospital policies.
6:19Dr. Jesse Mills:But bottom line is that, yeah, with nitrous, it's even a little bit less painful than in the old days. But anyway, that's a vasectomy. That's past news. Now, I'm that same 42-year-old Dodger fan that has changed my mind. And we decided, in fact, after we won the World Series again, that the world does need more Dodger fans. So talk to me about... I'm sorry. He's shaking his head. And again, the Brewers, such a scrappy team. And the Blue Jays, too. You know, low payroll baseball is probably where we should be at. But on the other hand, gosh, it's so good to watch those guys win. Enough baseball.
6:56Dr. Jesse Mills:Talk to me about a reversal. So I've changed my mind. Walk me through what that looks like. And is that the only way that I can get pregnant after a vasectomy? And then what's your average patient? I mean, tell me some patient stories about what you've seen over the years. So when patients come to me to talk about reversals, you know, there's a couple of things that I think are really important to understand. First of all, is this the same relationship or is a new relationship? How many kids did you conceive before your vasectomy? Because we do see a fair number of guys who never had kids had a vasectomy.
7:36now they've met someone and they want to have kids. And how old is their partner? Because that obviously is going to really impact the actual success of the reversal. You can do the best reversal technically. And if you've got a partner who's premenopausal, she's not going to get pregnant. Doesn't matter how good of a job you do. I do let couples know that besides the reversal, There is an option to get sperm either from the testicle or the epididymis, but that sperm has to be used with in vitro fertilization that comes with its own set of costs and risks and whatnot. But assuming that this is a couple, and let's go with the couple you were just talking about.
8:23So they've got, you know, they've got two kids and the wife is, you made her 41, let's make her 38. Done. And you did his vasectomy three years ago, and she's not ready to just be done. And, you know, he's like most guys, he wants to keep his wife happy. And, you know, he's got a good job, so he can afford to raise a third kid. But reversal is a really good option in a guy like that. and then and so what I do is after I go through all that I sort of explain the two different types of reversals that there are and how we really can't determine which type they're going to get until we get in there and do the procedure so when I counsel them I always say you know I'm going to give you sort of worst case scenarios and then if you still want to proceed great.
9:19So what I do is I have a big poster in my office that shows the male reproductive system, and I show them how sperm are made in the testicles, go through the epididymis into the vas deferens, and then after a vasectomy, the sperm don't have anywhere to go, so your body breaks them down, reabsorbs them. But over time, you get a buildup of the breakdown products from those sperm and they back up into the epididymis. The epididymis can swell somewhat to sort of accommodate that. But if you are making sperm faster than your body can break them down, it is possible that with the backup of that fluid, with all those sperm parts that you can rupture the epididymis and cause a second blockage.
10:06The longer the time since the vasectomy, the greater the chance of that happening, but there's no absolute cut point. So I've had guys who are 25 years out from their vasectomy that did not have that second blockage, and I've had guys who were one or two years out that have. And so what we do is at the time of the reversal, we find the two ends of the vas, we open up the end attached to the testicle, and we look at the fluid coming out. And if that fluid is clear fluid or kind of cloudy fluid, and it's got, we look at the fluid under a microscope. If we see sperm, they can be dead sperm, live sperm.
10:46They can be parts of sperm because sperm only live about four to six months within our body before our body breaks them down. Then we know that things are open all the way back to the testicle, we can hook the two ends of the vas deferens back together. That's called a vasovasostomy. On the other hand, if when you open up that end, you just get a bunch of crud that comes out and there's just, when you look under a microscope, you just see a bunch of white blood cells. You don't really see any sperm. That means there's probably another blockage closer to the testicle in the epididymis. Then you have to do what's called a vasoepididymostomy, where you're taking one end of the vas and plugging it into the epididymis.
11:30The analogy that I use is a vasovasostomy is like coupling two fire hoses together. They match up pretty well, and the success rate is really pretty high. But a vasoepididymostomy is actually like plugging a garden hose into a fire hose. There's a big size mismatch. So it's a harder procedure to do, and it doesn't work quite as well, although it definitely works better than if you did that first procedure, the vasovasostomy, when there was already a blockage in the epidermis. Those almost never work.
12:06Dr. Jesse Mills:I'm so glad you didn't say rupture again for Jordan's sake. Yes. Secondary blockage. I like that. Right. And that's why it's important to go to someone who is a trained microsurgeon because a lot of people can put the vas deferens back together in the office, even just using magnifying glasses. But if you can't put the vas deferens into the epididymis, then you're pretty much going to just get one type of reversal that may or may not even work. Yeah, I think that's critical. And you touched on a couple of things there, which was my next question for you is how do you measure success? And one of the things that I think we, and I'd almost call this a myth based on what you just said, but it is in the literature, which is time from vasectomy.
12:54Dr. Jesse Mills:And so I think a lot of our reproductive endocrine colleagues read that paper from 91 or 93. 1991. There you go, 91. And it stratified success by age. But you just said it, you know, 25 years out. Same, I've done a VV, or I'm sorry, vasovasostomy, I got 30 years out. I think they sent him to me to fail. And he had modal sperm and his vast deference 30 years afterwards, which made me look like a hero, but I'm not. It just, you know, I was able to put two pieces of fire hose together instead of a garden hose to a fire hose, as you said, with your analogy. So it's not only time. So what else, how else will you cancel a couple when they come to your office?
13:34Dr. Jesse Mills:Do you say, well, look, you guys, you should just go right to IVF and sperm extraction. You said age of the partner makes sense. But what else? Is there anything else that you say, look, I don't think we should try this. You know, one question you have to ask is how easy was it for you to get pregnant first time around? Because I've had some guys who actually had fertility issues that male factor fertility issues that then got a vasectomy. Now they're coming back for a reversal. And I'm like, whoa, you were having issues before you even had the vasectomy. You may have even bigger issues after.
14:09Also, I will ask couples, how many kids do you want? You know, if you want to be one and done, maybe you do want to do IVF so that you don't have to then go through another vasectomy after your reversal. That's the snip, snap, snip, snap from the office. Right. And then I take some things into consideration like insurance coverage. There are some people who have coverage for IVF but don't have coverage for reversals or other way around. Who wants to go through what? But a reversal is at least the way that I like to do it. It's a general anesthetic. It's not a major surgery, but it's certainly a bigger deal than the vasectomy.
14:52And honestly, a lot of it, I always tell couples, there's no wrong answer. It's really your choice. Yeah.
15:00Dr. Jesse Mills:I'm glad what you didn't do there. And I think this is because of your wisdom and experience. And one of the things we find in early career urologists and reproductive specialists is quoting percentages. And it is dangerous because if you want to just put it out in the literature and say, look, chance of a vasovasostomy pregnancy is 70%. Chance of IVF working is 70%. Those numbers are published somewhere multiple times. But it really doesn't give anybody any good decision-making capacity. I mean, this is what happens if you put in to chat GPT, should I get a reversal or go to IVF? That's probably what they're going to quote.
15:39Dr. Jesse Mills:But there's so many other factors that are nuanced that really does become that dialogue with the procedure list, as well as somebody like you or I that is very plugged into the reproductive endocrine community, too. So we can help steward them through. Because one of the things you said earlier, and I'd love for you to unpack a little bit more, not unpack really, they just explain is when you do a testicular or an epididymal sperm extraction, whether it's after vasectomy or whether it's for other reasons, you said you can only do IVF with that sample. So walk me through what are the assist, this is just going to be sort of a sidebar, but it helps because I get this a lot where why can't you just do IUI with an epididymal aspiration?
16:23Dr. Jesse Mills:So first of all, I'll teach us the alphabet soup that I just threw at you. And second, what that looks like to a patient in terms of making those decisions. Yeah. So, and that's actually one of the more common questions I get. Well, can't you just stick a needle in the testicle and pull sperm out and then just put it up inside my wife? Well, artificial insemination, intrauterine insemination, same thing. Basically, all that is taking sperm, spinning it down, and then putting it up inside the uterus. So you're bypassing the vagina and the cervix, the two biggest barriers to pregnancy. The problem is you need lots of highly moving sperm because those sperm aren't just floating around in the uterus.
17:05They've got to swim up the tubes. They've got to find the egg and then fertilize the egg. So if you've got a bunch of sperm that are just kind of shaking and not really moving anywhere, they're never going to find the egg. So we can't get enough sperm from the testicle or even from the epididymis that are moving well enough that they're going to be able to get up and find the egg. So in vitro fertilization, you only need one sperm for each egg. So now the sperm don't even have to be moving. So that's why you can, we only use testicular sperm, but there are some labs that require epididymal sperm because the epididymal sperm move better.
17:44We've just found that the testicular sperm work just as well, and they're a lot easier to get. I can do that in the office under local, but you have to do in vitro fertilization or IVF where you're actually taking one sperm, injecting it into the egg. That's called ICSI, yet more alphabet soup, intracytoplasmic sperm injection. And then a certain percentage of those eggs will fertilize, and then you can put one or two of the fertilized eggs back inside. So it's a much more extensive procedure. And again, we see a select group of patients where they're coming to see us for a reversal. They've probably, not all, but probably have done at least some homework and have said, you know what, we want to go down the reversal route.
18:31But I do have some couples who were never aware that there are options. Similarly, because I work very closely with my reproductive endocrinology partners, they will get couples who will come in having been told by their local gynecologist, oh, you've had a vasectomy, you have to do IVF. And my REIs will say to the couple, have you thought about a reversal? And often send them to me and then, you know, So with the way our system works, there's no huge incentive for one of us to do one thing or the other. So we just want to do what's best for the couple. So I've had patients who came to see them that I end up doing a reversal.
19:18I've had some of my patients that I send to them to do IVF. It's really whatever works best for them.
19:25Dr. Jesse Mills:You made a ton of really good points in there about keeping the patient centered and being in a system that, you know, the incentivization is there to how you best get a successfully end with a pregnancy. And I think one of the things that I caution patients if they come to me is if they're reading adverts for I'm going to the world's greatest vasectomy reversalist ever. And, you know, they're out there. There's so much that goes into this. And you and I both know that, you know, at least I know personally that I've had one or two vasoepithetomomies over my 20 odd years that didn't work. And I've also had couples where there's no reason I should ever do reversal because of maternal age, because of prior fertility issues in the first place where a guy had oligospermia.
20:12Dr. Jesse Mills:So there's so many things that go into it that it isn't just, you know, a chest thumping match about, you know, if you see any guy that or any physician that wants to, do your reversal and they spend more time bragging about how awesome they are, you probably should turn around and find a new physician because, you know, humility is what should drive all of us to do better by our patients. And if you lose that humility, then you're probably not operating enough. So that's great. And I think it's awesome that you're part of that system and that you have reproductive endocrinologists that are willing to refer you patients for reversal, which has also happened in my career over the years, but not as much.
20:46Dr. Jesse Mills:I also will say that the demographic is important. Here in Milwaukee, the difference between my practice in Colorado, I did a lot more reversals in Colorado than I do in Los Angeles. Part of it is socioeconomic. There's a little more affluence here with the price tag of IVF, which we haven't really talked about, but it's about three times more expensive to do a cycle of IVF than a reversal. But also the maternal age tends to be creeping up a little bit on the west side of LA. So that seems to match you're saying as well. Yeah.
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25:20Dr. Jesse Mills:so tell me i have a story for you but but i'll see if you can if you can up me and i'll have you go first is there been sometimes guys don't always tell the truth right and they're in your office yep and yes you're already thinking of a story yeah and they're saying you know duck i I don't know why I can't get somebody pregnant and I'm there with my partner. What can you do to fix me? And they refuse that they've ever had a vasectomy. Is that a, okay. So tell me, tell me what are your best stories about that without, you know, remaining HIPAA compliant. Yeah. So, so I'll never forget. I probably hadn't been in Milwaukee more than about five years.
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25:57Had an older gentleman. He was about 59, denied any previous surgeries, never had had any children. He was dating a very attractive 38 year old. She really wanted kids and got the history and then went ahead to do the exam. And he's like, could you ask her to step out? And I'm like, okay, that's fine. I mean, most of the time I do the exam, the partner's in the room, but yeah. So as I'm examining him and I'm feeling these two defects in his vas deferens, he goes, Hey doc, I had a vasectomy, but I haven't told her because she really wants kids. And I don't want to mess up this relationship. And I said, honestly, you know, you should probably tell her if it's real, she'll understand we can talk about a reversal.
26:56And he's like, no, no, I just can't do it. I said, all right, well, she came back in, we talked about a surgery that could potentially restore his fertility. We didn't talk at all about, you know, I said, well, it's possible you have a blockage on both sides. And, you know, it was just very, very careful about never using the term vasectomy or vasectomy reversal. And, you know, ultimately, they did get married. And ultimately, I did do a reversal. Unfortunately, the reversal didn't work. He was pretty far out from his vasectomy. But we did get sperm at the same time, and they ended up doing IVF.
27:38They had a beautiful little girl. And somewhere along the line, he either came clean or she figured it out. But we had notes all over his chart to make sure that nobody would say anything to her about his reversal, that it was his surgery. Yeah. But yeah, it was tough.
27:57Dr. Jesse Mills:It is tough. You know, it's an ethical dilemma for us because, of course, we have to prospect patient autonomy and he's your patient and she isn't. And so you bring up that story. And that's very, very similar, though my guy committed to the bit a little bit longer than your guy and he he and I have a few of these stories but when I remember years and years ago it's still in in Colorado and he was working as a bouncer and was assaulted on the job where he had to go to the hospital had to have some kind of surgery to to fix the assault to the testicles and that's what that was the story he went with and that was a story that she knew and I met and examined him and same deal and exam I said, gosh, it feels exactly like you have clips, like you've had a vasectomy.
28:40Dr. Jesse Mills:And she was in the room. He said, no, doc, I don't know. I mean, that's just that they had to do something to fix my balls after I got beaten up on both sides. I said, that's a very, I've never heard of a urologist attacking somebody outside of a bar and doing a vasectomy as a form of assault. But this is exactly what happened. and so he committed to the point where I said well look uh okay then I I think the best thing is to is to actually do a biopsy of your testable to make sure you're producing sperm because you didn't have kids before we don't really know and he committed to it so he actually we did it we doubled down this is a this is it so so I do the biopsy come out she's in the waiting room said that's great news sperm everywhere the guy still never admitted to me that he had had a vasectomy.
29:27Dr. Jesse Mills:So I said, I think there's a reconstructive procedure that I can do to help you guys. He said, oh, doctor, this is a miracle. This is fantastic. And so then on the day of the reconstructive procedure in the pre-op holding year, he said, doc, I got a level with you. I said, oh, do tell. I have all ears. He said, I had a vasectomy. I said, well, have you told her yet? She said, I'm gonna, but I want to make sure this works first. I said, well, okay, if you come clean. Great. We'll, we'll, but I mean, you went through an unnecessary procedure because you lied to me. You've realized this. Yes. Yes.
30:03Dr. Jesse Mills:Well, I'm here now. And so I thought that guy was committed enough that, that, um, you know, we all make mistakes or we don't want to hone up to what we've done before. So, so yeah, it's, it's truly amazing. The power of, of what I would say, new relationships. So let's look at this positive and say, okay, this, this person is finally, they've met each other and they went on to, you know, to have kids. Well, I have one that I am sure you see a lot of. Talk to me. So got a guy, mid-40s, second marriage, again, you know, younger, attractive wife, comes in, wants a reversal. He's like seven, eight years out, so not super long, not super short.
30:45And we get into the OR, and he's got no fluid coming out of the testicular end either side. I'm like, all right. I mean, even with epidermal obstruction, you usually see something coming out, some paste. A lot of times if you irrigate towards the testicle real gently, you can get a little bit of sperm to come out, nothing. So call out to the wife in the waiting room. I'm like, hey, he said he wasn't on any medication. Do you know, is he on any testosterone or anything like that? And she's like, no. I said, okay. So I biopsy him. I look under the microscope and he's got some sperm in his tissue, but not tons.
31:33I'm like, well, I'm just going to hook him back together, do a vasovasostomy because I don't think he has epidermal obstruction. I think maybe he's just not making a lot of sperm. So do a VV on both sides. He goes back to recovery. I start my next case. After that case, I come back, see how he's doing. I walk in. She's like bawling her eyes out. He is just got this look on his face. Like I just messed up so badly. Turns out he'd been on testosterone. Oh boy. Didn't tell anybody. He was at one of the local clinics getting, you know, T replacement. And I had to talk both of them off a ledge. Ultimately, you know we got him on hcg and clomid and ultimately ended up getting sperm they got pregnant look at that it was really like you have to think as a guy we have to think of everything
32:31Dr. Jesse Mills:that guys may or may not tell you right you bring up an amazing point that actually i i will add that pearl because it's a really good one but but yeah that some guys that they put on the gel because we had a whole podcast on how to do testosterone, how it's a great form of male birth control. They don't think of it as a medication. It's not a pill. It's not an injection. It's just a little hand sanitizer that they're on. Still works as birth control. But one thing that I found in my guys on testosterone therapy is that I've always been able to do a VV, that there's something about, and we've never done the clinical study.
33:07Dr. Jesse Mills:We've talked about it year after year of somebody that's long-term post-vasectomy, why don't we put them on testosterone, clear out all of that paste, all of those byproducts of sperm degradation and see what happens. But yeah, in some ways, that's, you know, had you known that ahead of time, you would have had a less stress, you wouldn't have had to biopsy the guy. You would have had a much less stressful day in the order to figure it out. So yeah, guys, be honest with your doctors. It's just you and us in the room. And we've heard it all. We've seen it all. So just make sure that we're on your side because we are and that's what we're all about so yeah i mean i will say one of the most gratifying things even after all these years and it probably dates back to when i watched you do your the first reversal i ever saw in my life was the one that you were doing and and there's nothing more gratifying than seeing that guy just had it a few days ago who was in i think in june and we did it had a unilateral vasoepi and a vv on the other side for the same fluid characteristics and you know, to see his first essay come back, semen analysis come back and he had maybe 3 million and he comes back a month later and it's five.
34:12Dr. Jesse Mills:And then yesterday was normal, you know, just a few months later, right? You can't fake that. Like you're taking somebody that you have a lab test that shows zero and then you make it not zero. And as a surgeon, there's nothing more gratifying and knowing that then that's going to help somebody on their pregnancy goals. I mean, that's one of the coolest things we do as microsurgeons. Yeah. It's funny because the cancer docs are always, oh, you know, we're saving lives. We're curing cancer. And I'm like, I'm saving more human lives than you are. I'm creating a whole new life. That's right. 70, 80 years.
34:47You're giving some 75-year-old guy an extra five years.
34:51Dr. Jesse Mills:That's right. I love this. This is the urological pissing matches between individual specialties is right. And we're making a family tree, for God's sakes.
35:22Dr. Jesse Mills:We'll see you next time.
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39:01Dr. Jesse Mills:All right, Jordan, you managed to not pass out. So that's a good sign that we made it through. But you're still conspicuously quiet for yourself. So what did we miss on vasectomy reversal? What is it that you want to know that you think we didn't cover in this half hour? I mean, I'm just still in a state of shock by some of the stories you've told me. I mean, these sound like episodes of House to me. I mean, just the, I mean, your view of human nature must take a knock, I imagine, in a way that I did not expect. That's the opposite. No, I mean, because we're so forgiving, you know, we, and I think that's the thing.
39:37Dr. Jesse Mills:We don't judge. We don't judge. There's no judgment. One of the things you learn in residency, and I don't, you know, when I was in residency, we took care of a prison. And one of the first things you're told is that you never ask what they did. Right. Because you never went to cloud your judgment. But I carry that through every patient encounter I see because, A, I don't think I would do things differently. I'm still going to give, you know, a convict the best procedure I can because it's the right thing to do as a human being. So, yeah, it's actually the opposite, I think, is that, you know, it just makes for good stories, Jordan.
40:10Dr. Jesse Mills:That's all it does is it makes for, yeah, what did you see today? And that's the fun part about what we do as physicians is we get to take care of everybody. You're a good man, both of you. I mean, I guess thinking about approaching this episode, I realized that so much of the focus has been on vasectomies and myths about it. I realized that I knew very little actually about reversing vasectomies. Are there myths about that that you would like to clear up about that, things that maybe didn't naturally occur to me? Antisperm antibodies. Oh, yeah, good. The OBGYN is always talking about, no, you don't want a reversal.
40:45It won't work because you're making antisperm antibodies. Oh, wow. Our immune system does not recognize our sperm as ourselves because the sperm don't develop until we go through puberty. So our immune system has already formed. So the testicle has a way of walling off the sperm from the bloodstream so that your immune system never sees your sperm. Any kind of injury, including a vasectomy, will now expose sperm to the immune system, and you will make antibodies against your sperm. So there's this myth that reversals won't work because these antisperm antibodies will attack and kill all your sperm, and so it just isn't going to work.
41:33And I mean, I don't know about you, Jesse, but it is rare, like probably less than 10 % of guys who I see who have successful reversals, but can't get pregnant because there's so much clumping of the sperm from the antibodies that they don't move. Right, right.
41:51Dr. Jesse Mills:Now, that's one of the things you look for under the microscope, for sure. Yeah, yeah. But again, we have a fix for that anyhow. So you put them on a little prednisone if they need it, and they're right as rain. So no, that's a great myth. Yeah, because I think that does turn a lot of people away, especially when they hear it from another physician. They go, well, this doctor is telling me this. So obviously Sandlow doesn't know what he's talking about. So I guess I'm going to do IVF instead. Yeah, makes sense. Well, I think you've done it again. You've wasted another 30 to 40 minutes with a bunch of urologists talking about vases and vasectomy reversals.
42:27Dr. Jesse Mills:But boy, I sure had a lot of fun with you, Jay, as always. I can't wait to hang out with you at the next meeting. I agree, Jess. First of all, like I said, I'm so proud of everything you have accomplished. And, you know, this is why we do what we do, right? And I mean, you do the same thing. You turn out residents and fellows, and then you watch them go on to do bigger and better things. And I just, you are incredible. Well, you know, I don't, first of all, I'm going to start listening to this podcast because I have a feeling I'd really like it. But, you know, Jordan, I don't know if you know, Jesse runs one of the most successful fellowships like this for infertility.
43:12And it's great that we finally got you to come on board with the match, which was a really big deal.
43:19Dr. Jesse Mills:Yes, well, yes, I think you forced me at gunpoint to eating my young. So yes, I said, okay, we'll do that much. No, I mean, this is great. And I will tell you what you said. I got texted from one of my fellows that just graduated last year on her second day in the office. She did 17 vasectomies yesterday to keep this au courant. I said, geez, Nancy, that's more than I've done in a week. And I thought I did a lot. 17 in a day. She's yeah, they set them up, set them up and knock them down in that practice. But but yeah, good for her. Exactly. So. So, no, this is great. This is why we do what we do.
43:57Dr. Jesse Mills:I appreciate your time away from your family and from the gym. You might be able to let me catch up to your bench press if I keep you on any longer, which would be nice. And yes, we'll we'll let the cool Stratocaster guitar stylings of Long Transit take us out. Jordan, thanks again for another episode. You can't wait for everybody to tune back in and see what we got coming up next.
44:25Dr. Jesse Mills:Let's talk about it Let's talk about it
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In Part 2 of our vasectomy series, Dr. Jesse Mills and Dr. Jay Sandlow dive into what happens when “permanent” birth control isn’t so permanent—breaking down the science, success factors, and surprising complexities of vasectomy reversals. From the difference between surgical techniques to the real-world variables that impact fertility—including partner age, prior history, and timing—they walk through what couples need to know when considering their options. Along the way, the conversation veers into jaw-dropping patient stories, common myths, and the emotional, ethical, and human realities behind these deeply personal decisions. It’s an honest, fascinating look at modern fertility medicine—and the second chances it can offer.
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