#126: Josh Goldy: The Biggest Superpower In A World Of Chaos

28:12And I just go, nah, mate, I just love this abundant slow life here in Malibu. I don't want to do this. But anyway, I think the moment I do go there and experience it, there will be a different sense of appreciation for it. Yeah. But I want to read you something. It's what I call the flashy life epidemic. It's a life built to be seen, not necessarily to be lived. We've shifted from experiencing life to curating it. From asking, am I fulfilled? To asking, does this look impressive? In the past, status was land, family, and legacy. Now it's a 15 second reel. If it doesn't photograph well, it almost feels like it didn't happen.

28:52People make decisions not for themselves. but for the hypothetical viewer that's seeing them. What would this look like online? That imaginary audience becomes the compass. Flashy lifestyles are dopamine heavy, but dopamine spikes crash. So you need a bigger car, a bigger watch, a bigger flex. It escalates. And the most fascinating contradiction, many people chasing the loudest life are the most anxious because when your identity is built on show, you're only as valuable as your last display. Wow. Wow. And so many people chasing the loudest life are the most anxious. If we tie that into what we were speaking about at the very, very start, if you're living in the future, what lies there?

29:36Anxiety. And so the past depression, future anxiety, the flashy things are great. They inspire you. The people doing great things around you, they're great. They're inspiring you. But I do believe, and I could be wrong as a naive 23 year old man, I could be wrong, but I do believe that if you are chasing that, it's never going to reach a point where you're ever going to be happy because there's always going to be another crash of dopamine that you need something bigger to feel the same high, the same buzz that you felt when you make your first thousand dollars online to then X, Y, and Z, X, Y, and Z, X, Y, and Z.

30:15And so I feel like it's a great way to slingshot you from one to a hundred. But for true life mastery, I feel there has to be a point in your life in which you break free from that and you can search for meaning and fulfillment in things that don't require you to be progressing at such a fast rate. Yeah, no, I agree. I think that Miami is obviously great for opportunity and to be able to, and that's a spot on quote, by the way, that's incredible. But I think it comes down to, you know, I grew up in a small town as well, right and I'm from the northeast I'm from the Boston area and no one really leaves everyone's still in my hometown they're getting married to each other we went to high school with you know it's just like it's very much like that and I think when I started to travel at a young age for sports and when I started to see the world I was like there's so much life to live and there's so many other opportunities and things you can create so that was inspiring to me and then once I got to Miami obviously you know you can do anything that you want which is a blessing but at the same time, it's a curse, like you said, but it comes down to like, what do you actually want?

31:22And I think when I was younger, as I was starting out, like, because I've come from such a small town, like, I think the best compliment I receive to this day is when I go home or if I see my home friends or see people I grew up with, they're like, Josh, you haven't changed at all, you know? And for me, that means a lot because in what we do, and especially my industry, people change they change based off of their status or they change who they are based off of what they have and like I just don't understand that I really don't get it and I think that being a good person is more important than you know anything you could buy and for me it's like it's goals to have right it's like okay if I hit this mark which I think I can by x I'll treat myself with x or if I hit that mark i'll treat myself with y But it's not the things that really matter.

32:16It's for me because i'm so competitive. It's like I said I was going to do this and I did it and I accomplished it And that's the outcome and I can check it off and I can move on to the next thing So it's like it's not the thing that really matters It's it's the process to get the thing that I get the high off of because I know that how hard it is to do But you're right. Miami obviously has this culture of like, what do you have? I like to describe it as like, you know, being in California right now, not necessarily Malibu, but LA in general, because that's usually where I come. It's LA is who you know.

32:49Miami is what you have. And I still think that is true, no matter what anyone says, just from what I've seen. But I agree, like leaving home was the best decision I ever made. And I think that you could probably say the same thing. right and for a lot of people that are just scared to leave their hometown or leave their families or leave like I talk to my family every day but I see them maybe like four times a year you know and it's just me my mom and my dad now and I know they miss me every day and they lost you know their daughter and then six months later I moved to Florida and they barely saw me so they basically lost two children you know so I just know that like that was the best decision for me in what I was trying to pursue you know I think if you know who you are and you're disciplined and you're grounded in your morals and your character.

33:35Like I grew up with two amazing parents who instilled in me hard work, the value of money, being a good person, you know, and like that stuff never changes no matter what I accomplish or what I have. Yeah. And it's that, it's that, it's that saying around unteachable lessons, right? You still need to embark on the journey. I think the big thing that I've just been trying to check in with is, is if I feel a calling, like answering it. So if I want to sprint and I want to make a billion dollars and I genuinely want to, go and do it. No matter the pain, no matter the hardship, let's go. How awesome, what a gift it is to be able to have something to strive towards and genuinely want the outcome of the thing.

34:22How awesome is that? But equally, how awesome is being able to be okay with where you're at? and so I think it's about listening to that calling because if you if you want it and you don't get it you know you can get it and you know it's possible and you would never achieve it and that's a slippery slope that's the worst place to be in dreaming without action is the worst place to be in because you know it's out there like I would rather just not dream at all if I'm not going to act but but I think listening to whatever comes up whether that is speed up start that business, slow down, write in your journal, write a book or marry the love of your life, whatever it is.

34:59I think you should listen to it and then let that kind of soul-led version of you dictate your actions because if not, you're just going to be liked for someone that you're not and you're going to get praise and it's going to feel hollow. And I think that's a slippery slope that people in the industry that we're in and being so public facing and having so much engagement and things online, it can get slippery to the point where you feel like you're getting so much praise, but you equally just feel alone at the same time. Yeah, it's very lonely. I think social media is very lonely. I think being an entrepreneur is very lonely.

35:32It's a unique journey, right? And I think only a select few of us understand it. But I agree with you. Like I said at the beginning, I think we live in a world with, we are fortunate enough to be in the United States of America. And I think that there's so much opportunity. You can literally do whatever the fuck that you want. And that is a blessing. And I think, like you said, you know, saying it's one thing, but actually doing it is another, like you might as well not dream if you're not going to act on it. I love that because I completely agree. Cause I think that creates more anxiety, to be honest with you and more depression.

36:06But you can literally do whatever you want. And like you said, if you want to go out and make a billion dollars as fast as you can, no one should tell you otherwise. If that's what makes you happy. That's great. But I think truly being happy is just like fulfilling things that morally is in your compass, you know? And like, if you stay true to like your morals, like I realistically, Chris, like I could die tomorrow and I would be happy. I am happy with what I've done with my life. I can, I can stand here and tell you like, I'm happy with the person that I am, how I've treated people and what I've tried to pursue, you know, and I can say that, right?

36:47Obviously, I always want more. Obviously, I have so much more things I want to accomplish. But I think that if everyone was to sit there for a second and think if they would be happy if their life was taken, they didn't wake up tomorrow, I don't know how many people would would say they would be oh it's quite a deep thing to think about uh we're all gonna think about it when we're on our deathbed so we might as well think about it now right because tomorrow could you know it could be your last yeah and that's like that whole thing around keeping death close and going like if i were to die would i be happy with what i've done yeah it's deep dude well I actually love when people say, like, I think Gary Vee says this a lot, or he said it one time and it really stuck with me.

37:36It's like, why are you like thinking so heavily about what you're posting is like, we're all literally on a floating rock. And in a hundred years, no one's going to know who you are. Like, why are you fixating over like, oh, is this a good or what are people going to think on that? And like, I think I saw that like a year and a half ago. And ever since then, I've just annihilated content. I didn't even think about it, just posted everything. And I was able to like really relay a message and like grow the brand. But before I was so stuck in my head of like what other people were going to think, because like I said, you probably too, where I grew up, no one does this stuff.

38:13So like, I always thought like, who's judging me, you know, what do they think? And then you just shift your perspective on like understanding what you want to do. And like, no one cares yeah you know i think it's better yeah i on the whiteboard in the house in there uh it just says one thing spinning rock that's all it is i love that it literally says it it takes up the whole whiteboard spinning rock and and uh we're really we're really on a spinning rock and we just fill our days with things to do so we don't get bored yeah like that's what we're That's the best. I love that. Like we really are.

38:52And I think it's a good reminder when you stub your toe, you can be like, ah, it's okay. It's fine. I mean, stubbing your toe is a bit annoying, but at the same time, like it's fine at the end of the day. It's not, it's not the end of the world. Earlier in the chat, you said one of the things you learned from your sister passing was to be a bit more open and vulnerable. You're explaining that growing up in a sporting, you know, athletic background, I'm the same. it's like don't share your problems man like hard enough no one cares like eat some cement and so and so it is a culture where you know you don't want to open up but when you say be more vulnerable be more open what specifically are you meaning by that yeah i think that um in that process of grief four years ago like i said before i learned a lot about myself I realized I had more depth than I had let on the first 22 23 years of my life and in that process You know, I I did therapy for a little bit and that helped open up to a stranger luckily I had good support from family and friends and things like that, but I think when I started to be open and vulnerable with my content and share my story more I saw it relate to so many people and like I said before I think that we all have a story We all have bad things that have happened in our life, but I think at the end of the day People buy from people right like whatever you're trying to do In the world like they're not buying your product.

40:26They're buying your service They're not buying your product or buying your service. They're buying you right people buy from people and people want to buy from people they can relate to. And I was scared to share my story because I didn't want to look weak. I didn't want to look vulnerable. I didn't want to think that people, you know, question my mental health or things like that. And then when I shift my perspective to like, I can help people on this journey because I've done the work myself now and I know what it's supposed to look like. It was a game changer for me because then I went into like the mode of, I just want to help as many people as I can impact their life in a positive way.

41:03And if I can do that, I will feel fulfilled with my purpose. And I don't know, I think as a man talking about being vulnerable and your mental health is not normalized. I think it's becoming a little bit more normalized now into 2026. But like you said, we grew up on this culture of like, eat nails and, you know, don't talk about your feelings. And that's how I grew up as well. But I think it's, I've realized like, it's okay to feel those feelings. It's okay to talk about them. And I think you'd be surprised how many other people are going through the same thing that you are. Yeah. It's not only okay to talk about them, but no, it's not only okay to feel them, but it's quite important to feel them.

41:45Not just like push them down and be like, no, they're not a thing. I think what is really important though, as a man, specifically too, when you're on a mission is the problem isn't talking about them. The problem is dwelling in them. You can talk about the problem, but when your alarm goes off the next morning, you get up and you go to the gym and you keep back on your mission. Let it out, have your sob, but don't dwell in that thing. If I come back to you a week later and you're still sad about that thing that happened, that's the problem. How do we shorten the gap between feeling sad and moving on?

42:23That should be the goal. I think You have to hit it face on or else it's going to keep on resurfacing. And that's why feeling it's important and feeling it in its entirety. Like if you need to feel sadness, feel that sadness. But get back on the horse and keep going. I think with trauma, like I said at the beginning, you can go one of two ways with it. It's like you can use it as a crutch and always talk about it and always think about it and always have that thing be the reason why you can't accomplish that goal or that thing that you want to do. right which most people do or you can use it as fuel and understand it sit in that pain sit in that feeling and then take action on it in a positive way not a negative way not drugs alcohol this that and the third but like with purpose with passion with a mission with a vision and try and leave this world a better place than you came into it i think is is really the ultimate goal yeah i i agree i agree the the someone asked me on a podcast i said do you think trauma is a progresser or a regressor.

43:27And I said, are you a hero or a villain? It's like you can choose if you want to use it, use that fuel to put in your car and drive to the shops or to burn your house down. It's all perspective. And I mean, ultimately you can choose. What would you say would be the biggest distraction in your life?

43:50Currently or in the past? Currently. I think what happens and the reason I think this is a powerful topic to talk about is when you achieve stuff like we have and you're a good looking man, you can kind of get what you want a lot easier. Like you do really have a bit more influence whether you want to hate it or not. Like there'll be some green haired person screaming down this podcast saying that you're privileged and that you shouldn't talk about it. But the reality is I think it's important that when you are obtaining this quote unquote like high value status, money, looks, physical health, kindness, calm, stoic, nature, you kind of do have a bit of influence on your life, which means there's, you know, comfort can creep in and opportunity can creep in.

44:44And I find distractions can be very present. I'm just wondering if there's a distraction in your life that's the biggest one. Yeah, two parts of that. I think currently the biggest distraction in my life is probably opportunity, which most people would say that's a blessing, right? Which it is, right? But I think us as creators and us as, you know, having things we want to pursue, it's hard to say no to a lot of things. you always want to do that next thing or be a part of that or seek opportunity right and just kind of like shiny objects exactly exactly let the chips fall where they may but i've noticed um recently i've had a lot more discipline in saying no to things and i think there's a huge power in saying no to things that you know you could do um and you gain that perspective but the more i say no to things the more empowered i feel and the more i'm more focused on the things that i'm currently doing and I'm able to do those way better.

45:44So I think that opportunities lately within the last six months have been the biggest distraction for me. And then previous to that, I think my biggest distraction before was women. And I think that I'm very selective on who I give my energy to now. And that's a blessing. I think not I know what I want, but I know what I don't want at this point in my life. And I'm not gonna change that for anyone. And you either add value to my life or you don't and there's no middle ground so that's really where I'm at with like women at this point in my life I'm not in any rush you know I'm not not dating but I'm just not really like looking fully for like that person I think it's just something that should happen naturally but for me like opportunities I say at this current point in my life is probably the biggest distraction I'll say yours and mine is flipped I'll say that mine was opportunity um i i had i had what i would call and i've never called it this but it's coming to my mind now i have what i would call over plate over full plate syndrome where i i i have an addiction to overflowing my plate so i have like a plate of stuff and maybe 40 of it is like good shit that lights me up that excites me but there's still free space on the plate and i get slammed with all these opportunities, you're doing cool shit.

47:06People want a piece of it. So you say no to most, but you still say yes to too many. And then what happens is by saying yes, too many times, you fill this plate. And all of a sudden, all of the gold is just covered with shit. And you can't work on any of the gold that helps you actually achieve the things you want because you're too distracted with all these things. You've got your hands in too many pies. So then you go through this process of getting rid of all the shit. You have this realization, my plate's overflowing. I've got to cut it all out. And then you cut it all out and you feel so free.

47:38You're the most productive you've ever been. You've had the most peace you've ever had. Then what happens is you onboard more and you keep getting this overflowing plate. I feel like that happened with me a lot for the last seven years, I would say. I just kept overflowing my plate. And then the women piece was probably last year, Fresh in America. women biggest distraction and um and i think i think honestly the women pieces is most men's biggest distraction yeah and and the thing is is is uh you know there was a quote that i read out on the michael smoke episode and it was the biggest thing that will kill a man's dream is wasting time chasing the wrong women with the wrong intentions and it just sums it up perfectly It's like our life gets filled with lust so easily.

48:33There's so many things that are short term and are gratifying in the short term, but then you finish them and go, why have I done that? And women, I think for a lot of men, that is the problem. And so, yeah, being able to have trust in the process of finding one person that you actually love. there you can because because equally if you can find the the one that's there to support you that's when you get home from work and she's there right like that's the greatest blessing for your mission but equally if it's short term and it's fleeting they're the biggest distractions you will you will push back that meeting you will drive an hour you will fly them here you will go on things you never thought you would ever do like after the fact you go why did i just do that you just took all my energy.

49:23I'm sapped. Literally. I need to have two naps a day. Oh, I've, um, I've had too many of those experiences with the wrong people that I thought were the right people. So it's like, I think that with what we do, right? Like bringing peace at the end of a day is like money can't buy that. And I think it's so fucking valuable and that's all I'm looking for. Yes. You're going to have your problems and things like that, but like you choose to be in a relationship and you choose to be single. Some people are like, whoa, you're doing this, this, this. You are this person. Like, how are you still single?

49:56Because I choose to be single. I'm not dating. I'm not going out doing things. But like, I'm choosing to do that in my life because I think there are seasons in your life where, you know, it's kind of like putting too much on your plate, right? Like, I can't, in my head, this is what I think about. I can't accomplish the things that I want to accomplish and be so focused and give all my time to that while trying to pursue a relationship because for me, it's not fair to that person. And I think with the right person, you're right. It becomes easier and they add value to your life. And it might be easier to still accomplish your goals.

50:30But me personally, I think that right now where I'm at in my life in the season, that is more important to me than trying to fit somebody into my life that might not fit. Yeah. Even if it's the right person though, it takes so much energy. It does. because you want to be a good boyfriend but also it's the most magical thing in the whole world like loving someone right and so that's feeling it's it's the greatest feeling and so if that's the greatest feeling and you meet that person of course you're going to want to do that and nothing else right yeah like i met someone last year and i'd been sprinting we caught 49 flights last year and um just recordings travel like interviewing doing all this thing absolute shit show it was great we we absolutely blew up and got the chiefs far beyond what i thought was possible and um and and i met this woman and i i i turned my my laptop off for a whole week man i like what is going on i like was like dude this girl has possessed me yeah like it i don't there's nothing else i want to do i want to sit on the couch and look at you in the face and talk.

51:44Sex is a hard drug, man. I tell you what. But not even sex. I didn't even have sex with her. She's Christian, no sex till marriage. And that was the crazy part. When you actually love someone, dude, that's the biggest distraction. The only thing that makes it worthwhile is the fact that you're seeing a future with them and realizing that, okay, we have another 70 years on this earth and I've met someone that I could see myself spending every last year with. I think spending this time cherishing this is probably worthwhile. Still a distraction. So if you're not where you want to be yet, then it is a hard one to balance.

52:24I think women fall in the same category as opportunities, right? We say we live in a world where there's so many opportunities out there and you can go shiny object syndrome and this, that, and the third. Women fall in the same category where I see so many people get divorced because they think there's so many options out there with social media and the world we live in, right? So I have so many friends in their young mid-30s that are divorced with children because it's just easy to give up nowadays because people feel like there are so many options for them, right? So it's like, it's scary, you know?

52:58It's very scary to like give your all to someone because, you know, I've been in that situation that I thought was my forever and it didn't work out and I gave so much time, effort, attention, money, opportunity. I think to myself, how much further ahead I would be if I didn't spend X amount of time with that person. And it makes you second guess a lot of the things that you're trying to look for in a partner. But as I go up in my career and I consume more content from successful entrepreneurs, they always say, the most important decision you're ever going to make in your life is your life partner and it can either break you or it can make you and i think that that for me is really kind of like what sticks and something i'll never i'll never compromise on yeah it's a it's a battle it's it's one of those uh uh like privileged battles where you go yeah hi baby i've got options but the actual challenge with it really is it's very hard to not think the grass is greener it's very hard to commit to someone knowing that there's more of a perfect person out there and that you can get them it's very hard yeah um and so the commitment part is like the the biggest thing i think the number one thing um men one is freedom at the end of the day and so that does that does uh initially in the mind it actually makes us feel like we're losing our freedom um but i interviewed this this relationship um masculine feminine expert he's trained tony robbins and his name's danny morell massive massive guy and he talks about when you find the right one you know and he said he said when you find the right one and you realize that she loves herself so much that she will let you go and when you realize that you find this like deep love to her and when you can access that you find the freedom in the connection so you can access freedom in the deep connection because when you're in there you know you don't need anyone else you don't need to chase anyone else you don't need to get distracted so and and she's aligned with your mission so so you know that you can pursue the things you want to do and you're going to have someone there ride or die that's going to support you.

55:22And that unlocks the ultimate freedom. And so freedom in the short term is the commitment phase of when we're trying to commit to this person. It's a very scary thing. It's very hard. But being able to find freedom in the connection is where we need to be in order to actually feel sane in a loving relationship. I love that. I love that quote. You said earlier about seasons that you're in. How would you view the season of your life that you're in? And how would you describe that? Yeah, I think the season currently that I'm in in my life is just a season of building. You know, I think I've had seasons of learning.

55:58I've had, you know, seasons of a little bit more less opportunist mindset in my life, seasons of grieving. But I think right now, like, because I'm so locked into my core values and like the mission and vision that me and my team are trying to pursue. There's no one that can take me off that path right now. There's not anything you can tell me that I don't already know about myself. And, you know, I think that I find so much peace in that where I can choose to pursue other things, but I don't want to, you know, like I'm so happy with where my life is right now and what I'm trying to pursue that that this season excites me.

56:42It does. And it's really, really cool. And I wake up ready to just like crush every single day. And I don't even know how to describe the feeling, to be honest with you. I just, I feel so high on life right now, you know? Yeah, yeah. Oh, see, I was writing about this the other week around you're so sure with what you're doing. It's not that you're, it's not that that's the only thing you can do. you know you're capable of other things but you don't feel like you need to do any other things yes and that's a freeing place to be then so free so you feel you feel you have so much power in that because it's like you can choose to do something else but you don't want to because you know you're exactly where you're supposed to be and i think if we tie in happiness to that that's really one of the key goals knowing you're capable but not feeling like you need to yeah That could stop the chase.

57:39That could be the thing that makes you go, yes, I'm chasing. Yes, I have goals. I don't need them though. And I don't need to do anything else. The happiness can come from that ability of knowing who you are, knowing what you're capable of, being able to see certain mountaintops, know you can climb them, but go, I might just walk around that one. I might just like take a different route because I don't need that thing. And that comes into that alignment piece of like what you're aligned with, what you want to do. A hundred percent. I think if you're truly happy with who you are, where you're at, then there's really nothing that can distract you or nothing that you could think to chase that would make that any different.

58:24You know, I think a lot of people buy stuff because they have some type of insecurity about who they are and their identity or what they're trying to do. So they need validation from other people. You know, I think when you're truly grounded with where you are or what you're trying to pursue, it doesn't really matter about anything else. And like if you truly have self-confidence and like do what you say you're going to do, that's where true happiness lies really. Yeah. What about navigating friends and maintaining relationships and friendships in pursuit of growing? Like you've grown so much in your career, in your business and in your life in the last four years.

59:04And I'd imagine that with that becomes a potentially a challenge to maintain the same friends. Has maintaining friends during this rapid growth been a challenge? Have you been able to navigate that well? It's been a huge challenge for me. I think that I've really thought about the term friendship more in the last four years than I did in the first 24 of my life. There's a difference between a friend and a drinking buddy or someone that you grew up with or someone that was a part of this team with you. You know, like there's a huge difference. And I think I didn't know the term as much, but for me, the last four years, I have lost so many friends, but I don't see it as a loss.

59:54I honestly, I did at first, but I think that now I'm so aligned with, I have the core people in my life that I know are like family to me. And I have my family. And those are the only people that I need to feel joy in my life right now. I mean, you know how it is. Like when you're building something and you're so locked into what you're doing, you miss everything. I've missed birthdays, weddings, you know, funerals, holidays. Like I've missed it all. People that I was really close with, family, friends, everything. And when you're sitting there working on the thing that you're trying to accomplish alone on Christmas Eve by yourself, not with friends and family, you really start to think, and you're like, is this worth it?

1:00:41So it puts it into perspective and I think it comes down to really truly loving what you're doing and knowing your purpose because then it is all worth it. But I've lost a lot of friends in the process, a lot of friends that I don't really associate with anymore because they don't just align with where I am in my life. Well, understanding what friendship actually means. Shit. because friend is such a loose term, you know, but you don't think about it until you actually need a friend. Yeah. Fuck. Defining what friendship actually means. I'm looking at this and going, the ones, so true friends are the ones that understand that they don't need a call every day to realize that you care about them.

1:01:36and true friends are the ones that are going to be there for you even when the launch of that business didn't go the way you wanted it to because they believe in you and they know that you're going to crush it at some point um and so maybe when you pursue a route that is you know public facing that is extraordinary you're going to get tested and your friends are going to get tested and it's going to force you to go, okay, like what actually is a real friend? And what does that, what does that mean? Yeah. And that's quite a powerful thought to ponder on because it does, you can get in your head for me, it's been my biggest challenge is maintaining friendships.

1:02:17You know, Chris Williamson talks about that lonely chapter, but I feel it's not a chapter. It's chapters with every single leap that you take because you grow away from old friends into new groups of friends. But then because you're growing so quickly, you do it again and again and again. And so it's actually coming to peace with finding people that are not there for what you can do for them, but what you actually are and who you are. Yeah. You know, I think I really learned the value of friendship when I met my business partner and manager who's here, you know, with us today. And, you know, we met at a business dinner a few years ago and didn't know each other from a hole in the wall.

1:02:58and it was like we knew each other for the last 15 years. It was the most out-of-body experience I think I've ever had and we were so aligned on everything. And I think, like you talked about before, as you walk up the ranks of success and fame and whatever, everyone always wants something from you. They're like, how can I benefit from Chris's success? And I think he was the only person in my life at the time who didn't do that. And he, I brought him into my business. He didn't ask for anything. He, all he wanted to do was make sure I was okay. You know, how I was doing and how we could grow this thing.

1:03:40He didn't ask for anything. We didn't talk about any of that. Like that's how our friendship started. He was the first person in my life that didn't take anything from me or didn't need anything from me, just wanted to help. And he believed in me. And I think that's not really friend. That's family. It really is. yeah and it's not to disregard the fact that he probably thought that there was some upside in it for him as well it's not about disregarding the fact that there is a transactional element of going like i do believe in this guy and if i do stay around him it's probably going to benefit me it's not about disregarding yeah no for sure you know it's because like at the end of the day we do want people that add to our lives and so if a focus for our life is business and we meet someone that we get along with.

1:04:25It doesn't mean that we don't need to ever do anything with them or make any money from what they're doing. But I think the moment it becomes the priority and it becomes the thing that overtakes you as a person, that's where I'm not, it's not a price I'm willing to pay. You know, one of the one things that I wrote down for this year as a price that I'm not willing to pay, I got clear on prices that I wasn't willing to pay in order to achieve the things that I wanted. And if it meant that I needed to take a longer route, I'm happy to take that longer out. And one of the prices I was not willing to pay was transactional relationships.

1:05:01And those people that treat you like the most amazing person and are so lovely. And then the moment they put a price tag in front of you and you don't buy it, they don't text you, they don't message you, they don't hang out with you. It's flooded in LA. This is why I'm in Malibu. It's like, it's like, get me out of that noise. And I call it noise because it's just, it's so consuming. You look at them and then you don't want the thing because it's not aligned with what you're trying to do. And then they're a ghost. Yeah. Like you're done out of their life. Yeah. And one of those things was like, I could play that game and I could win it and I could crush everything.

1:05:41And I was like, but what's the point? Yeah. What's the point? Yeah. And so that's cool to understand friendship and defining that as a whole. Yeah. It's very interesting when you really start to look at it from a different perspective. What's exciting you at the moment? There's a lot. I mean, like I said, opportunity is probably my biggest distraction right now. Saying no to things I've been doing a better job of, but I think this year is going to be really special. I think the last few years, we were putting the pieces together, and this year, we're just going to explode. And I think the brand is going to do some amazing things this year.

1:06:20I have some cool opportunities that I can't really talk about yet that's going to come to fruition this year that I'm really excited about. I think it'll definitely push me physically and mentally in ways that I maybe didn't know that I could. So I'm excited about that. I love challenges. I love doing new things. So there's a lot of cool things with the brand. there's a lot of cool things with, you know, just really everything as a whole. I think I'm excited to spend a lot more time with my family this year. I've made that, you know, a big priority in my life as one of my first two goals on my goal sheet for 2026.

1:06:59I was very into my purpose last year, and I want to make sure that I take a trip with my family and I take care of them. And, you know, getting older, you know, and that's something that is really value to me and something that is of my morals. But yeah, I mean, it's, I think this year is exciting. Like I said before, we live in a cool world where if you have a cell phone and wifi, there's no excuse not to pursue your goals. And that excites me. Unreal dude. I appreciate you coming on. I think it's really cool. I'm grateful for the connection. I'm grateful to be able to help each other grow and and support each other wherever we can.

1:07:38But I appreciate you. And I'll leave all of your details in the show notes description below. You mainly focus on women with coaching. I'll leave all of those links in the description. So if you're a woman and want to have the best team, help you get in shape and change your life and turn it around, then you can find that in the show notes in the description below as well. But I appreciate you coming on, man. Thank you so much. Thank you, brother. I appreciate you. Respect you. Thank you. Thank you. Signing out. We'll see you guys very, very soon. Bye-bye. Love it. Stitch Fix. Stop shopping. Get styled.

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