Sex Robots, Sofa Fires And Secret Situationships

5:19Romesh Ranganathan:You can, some of them you can.

5:23Shanthi Ranganathan:I don't like the way the story goes.

5:26Romesh Ranganathan:There's no story, we're having a conversation. No. John started laughing, he's embarrassed because he has one of these.

5:33Shanthi Ranganathan:Oh no.

5:34Romesh Ranganathan:So ignore his reaction. No. Ben, what were you going to say? I think there was a woman, the first person to marry a robot was a woman, not a man. So it's not just a male occupation. No. but I think if we were looking at who's more likely to get a fuckable robot even though the first was a woman I think probably the data supports the idea that more men have got them than women don't you think I guess so fuck robots

6:07Shanthi Ranganathan:so the ladies it's easy to make

6:10Romesh Ranganathan:a wally that you can shag a smashable C-3PO

6:19a fellating r2d2 i think it's much more likely

6:25Romesh Ranganathan:that men are buying those don't you think by the way a fuckable c3po i reckon there's a market for that oh sir it's so big i oh my goodness i like it when you do that what a surprise It's incredibly enjoyable. That's me doing an impression of C-3PO getting it.

7:04Romesh Ranganathan:Anyway, yeah, so I think, yeah, I don't think it's that bad. No. Well, I do think it's that, but I actually have got mixed feelings about it.

7:12Shanthi Ranganathan:I want to die as a normal human being.

7:15Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah.

7:15Shanthi Ranganathan:I don't want these things in my house. So I'm happy as I am.

7:20Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah. So you don't want a robot.

7:21Shanthi Ranganathan:No, no. I don't want a robot. All right.

7:24Romesh Ranganathan:Thank you for settling in that debate. Now it's time for a special part of today's show, Stories That Make You Feel, and it's brought to you by Hulu on Disney+. Now, last time we spoke about Alice and Steve, but Hulu on Disney +, has got so much more great stuff that we're back again. to chat even more incredible stories. Mum, have you watched Modern Family? No, I haven't. Okay, cool.

7:46Shanthi Ranganathan:You've never watched it? I never watched it. I don't know which one to choose.

7:50Romesh Ranganathan:How would you describe Modern Family? In fact, Ben, do me a favour. Could you describe Modern Family to Mum in a way that you think she would find enticing? It's probably the perfect sitcom, I would say. It's a depiction of modern family life. So it's an extended family shot in a documentary style with some of the funniest comic writers and performers in America. Set in LA. Everyone's very attractive. Looks lovely. I like the content. I thought your tone was a bit patronising. But he's right. It's one of the best shows ever. It's consistently funny. Everybody nails their performances, don't they, pretty much.

8:33Romesh Ranganathan:there's a I feel loathe to describe this bit there's a bit where him and his wife are going on a bike ride and then they bump into the new neighbour who's just recently divorced and she's quite trapped I just love that he keeps his helmet on the whole time and him trying to talk to her he clearly thinks she's really attractive and he's sort of flirting in a bumbling way and then in front of his wife it's amazing not relatable though that's never happened to me but it is really it is really funny mum like really funny like I think that's a show where you I think you're doubled over like you know sometimes you want something to stop because you're laughing so much

9:25Shanthi Ranganathan:yeah

9:26Romesh Ranganathan:you'd love it I would love that

9:29Shanthi Ranganathan:yeah

9:29Romesh Ranganathan:you can watch it on Hulu on Disney Plus

9:32Shanthi Ranganathan:Okay.

9:33Romesh Ranganathan:And can I just send a personal note, if you haven't watched Modern Family, you need to watch it. Like, not right now, watch the end of this episode and then check out other other episodes that we've done. And then after you've gone through all of the whole back catalogue of the Romesh Ranganathan show, then why not head over and watch Modern Family. Like and subscribe first. Like and subscribe please. It really does. It helps everyone, doesn't it? It really helps everyone. Copyright 2026, Disney and its related entities, 18 plus subscription required. Now, moving on to listener questions.

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11:03Romesh Ranganathan:This is the bit of the show where we discuss your questions, suggestions. If you've got any problems with indigestion. We have a little discussion session. It doesn't quite work. What were you going to say, John? I was going to say we pick the best ones. Yeah, we pick the best ones. But you shouldn't do it like Ramesh did, didn't you? Suggest Johns and Quest Johns and we make sure we pick the best ones. Is that what you're... Yeah, that feels appropriate for me. Keep sending us your WhatsApp message and voice notes to 07731 623 355 or email podcast at rangaby.com and we'll try our best to answer your dilemmas and you can also share any funny stories slash observations.

11:47Romesh Ranganathan:And don't forget if you haven't already, please like and subscribe Saib, wherever you get your podcasts, we have got a voice note from John. Assuming it's a listener, not John the animal that we have here. Okay. Hello, Ramesh and Shanti. Long time listener, first time caller. Nice. I've got a bit of an issue that I'd like to get your thoughts on. So after years of saving me and my girlfriend, we bought our own house last July. We met our neighbours. They're a lovely older Bangladeshi couple. They often drop off treats for us like biryanis, chili peppers, samosas, even flowers and really nice stuff.

12:29And of course, we've returned the favor. It's a really good relationship we've got. But the problem is I do not know their names. Every time I see them, they say, hello, John. And I just have to reply. Oh, hi, mate. I feel pretty guilty about it because the man himself he introduced himself when we first met but I didn't catch it and it's been it's been over a year now so do I find a way to get his name sneakily maybe for a letter or parcel or something do I accept defeat and ask him for his name again or do I just go on for the rest of my life here calling him mate or man let me know your thoughts keep up the excellent work all of you best podcast out here right now cheers

13:19Romesh Ranganathan:didn't think it needed the right now thank you so much for your voice note John so mum they've moved in I got incredibly nervous as you started to tell the story that there wouldn't be any relevance to them being Bangladeshi and you just thrown it in for the hell of it but actually it turns out the treats are Bangladeshi

13:39Shanthi Ranganathan:consistent

13:42Romesh Ranganathan:but they don't know their name, what should they do?

13:45Shanthi Ranganathan:Hello my dear I tell you don't worry about a thing just go there that's what I will do please forgive me I'm sorry I don't know how to spell your name could you please write it on the paper and it'll be helpful to me where are you looking? we've got three cameras and you're directing

14:10Romesh Ranganathan:at the fucking iPad

14:11Shanthi Ranganathan:please and can you write it to me because I don't want to spell your name wrong and I hope you understand they will happily do that for you

14:22Romesh Ranganathan:so you think just be honest

14:24Shanthi Ranganathan:just be honest that's what I do now I will just point blank ask them

14:29Romesh Ranganathan:they have been exchanging things for a long time now

14:32Shanthi Ranganathan:so what?

14:33Romesh Ranganathan:so like so he's been so essentially John's just been lying this whole time right where he's sort of been pretending that he knows their name and he doesn't

14:42Shanthi Ranganathan:how does he pretend?

14:44Romesh Ranganathan:well what I'm saying is like he's not he had the opportunity early in the day like back when they first moved in to go oh sorry just I didn't quite get your name last time what was it again he could have done that by the way this is not a criticism

14:57Shanthi Ranganathan:certain Bangladeshi names you had to be careful how to spell it so I will rather a goal and can you spell it for me? I leave, and I won't send a card.

15:09Romesh Ranganathan:And then what if he says it's Raj?

15:13Shanthi Ranganathan:There's no Bangladeshi.

15:15Romesh Ranganathan:There's no Bangladeshi called Raj? No. Okay.

15:19Shanthi Ranganathan:That's what I think.

15:20Romesh Ranganathan:Okay.

15:21Shanthi Ranganathan:By the name, you can guess where they come from.

15:24Romesh Ranganathan:Okay. It's a fun game. If you were a teacher, you would have noticed at school. I would have noticed that, yeah. Yeah.

15:31Shanthi Ranganathan:I will point blank. I will go and ask them. you have to forgive me for asking this could you please write it down and I don't want to pronounce it wrong nothing wrong with that what if he says

15:41Romesh Ranganathan:my name's Dash right oh thank you how do you spell it how the fuck do you think you spell it I'm just assuming he's got an accent I think you two should it might be worth role playing this because I think you're right he could be quite upset couldn't he at this yeah

16:00Shanthi Ranganathan:oh the reason they have been living in that place for so long that this guy doesn't know the name. Doesn't matter. Start being friendly.

16:10Romesh Ranganathan:Okay, you be...

16:11Shanthi Ranganathan:Or buy a packet of seeds.

16:14Romesh Ranganathan:This is a great idea. I can see this is going... Okay, buy a packet of seeds. Yeah, go on.

16:19Shanthi Ranganathan:I thought of you because some are coming. I'll give this packet. By the way, I didn't know how to spell your name. That's why I did write the name on this thing, the packet.

16:32Romesh Ranganathan:I'm not convinced the seeds are helping.

16:34Shanthi Ranganathan:He's a plant. Bulbs. Bulbs.

16:38Romesh Ranganathan:Bulbs. Bulbs. Bulbs. Bulbs.

16:41Shanthi Ranganathan:Yeah.

16:41Romesh Ranganathan:Okay.

16:42Shanthi Ranganathan:Okay.

16:42Romesh Ranganathan:All right.

16:43Shanthi Ranganathan:I know you have no knowledge of gardening.

16:45Romesh Ranganathan:Right, mum, let's role play this.

16:47Shanthi Ranganathan:Yeah, okay.

16:48Romesh Ranganathan:You're mum.

16:49Shanthi Ranganathan:Yeah.

16:49Romesh Ranganathan:I'm the neighbour.

16:50Shanthi Ranganathan:Okay.

16:51Romesh Ranganathan:Okay. Go. Action.

16:54Shanthi Ranganathan:Hello. Hello.

16:56Romesh Ranganathan:Hi, John. How are you? Let's just hear me Oshanti. Do you want to be John or Shanti?

17:04Shanthi Ranganathan:Shanti.

17:04Romesh Ranganathan:Okay. All right. No, no, no. No, no, no.

17:08Shanthi Ranganathan:You are the neighbor. I'm the neighbor.

17:10Romesh Ranganathan:I'm the neighbor.

17:12Shanthi Ranganathan:Bangladeshi neighbor. Yes. Okay. All right. Okay.

17:15Romesh Ranganathan:All right. Oh, hello, Shanti. How are you?

17:18Shanthi Ranganathan:I'm fine. Thank you.

17:20Romesh Ranganathan:Good to see you. Did you enjoy the snacks we brought over the other day?

17:24Shanthi Ranganathan:Beautiful. And I really enjoyed it. Yeah. Thanks all.

17:29Romesh Ranganathan:No problem. Thanks for the seeds.

17:32Shanthi Ranganathan:Oh, seat. Thanks for the seat. All right. Then during the conversation, I will say.

17:42Romesh Ranganathan:No, no, we're role-playing. We're role-playing. Carry on, carry on.

17:46Shanthi Ranganathan:You are John, I'm getting a film. No, you're Shanti.

17:50Romesh Ranganathan:John is not in this. I'm the Bangladeshi neighbour.

17:53Shanthi Ranganathan:Okay.

17:54Romesh Ranganathan:Okay.

17:57Shanthi Ranganathan:Hi. Sorry. By the way, I forgot how to spell your name. Could you please get it? I got the paper and pencil. Can you write here?

18:08Romesh Ranganathan:Oh, you don't need me to do that. It's spelled as it sounds.

18:11Shanthi Ranganathan:Okay. Then you write it down then.

18:14Romesh Ranganathan:Well, honestly, it's just how it sounds.

18:18Shanthi Ranganathan:Am I pronouncing your name?

18:20Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah, please. I'd love to hear you pronounce it, yeah. Go for it.

18:24Shanthi Ranganathan:God.

18:28Romesh Ranganathan:Will you tell me how you pronounce it? I'll tell you if it's right or not.

18:32Shanthi Ranganathan:What's the name do you want me to pronounce?

18:33Romesh Ranganathan:Mine?

18:34Shanthi Ranganathan:Yeah.

18:36Romesh Ranganathan:Yours? Yeah.

18:37Shanthi Ranganathan:Hi, John.

18:38Romesh Ranganathan:No.

18:41Romesh Ranganathan:You've got to get John out of your head. I'm the Bangladeshi neighbour. Okay. Okay.

18:46Shanthi Ranganathan:How to pronounce your name? Can you tell me?

18:49Romesh Ranganathan:How to pronounce my name? Yeah. You know my name, don't you? How do you think you pronounce it?

18:56Shanthi Ranganathan:How do I... I don't pronounce it. Because in case I get it wrong.

19:05Romesh Ranganathan:I know, but I'm not... Honestly, I'm unoffendable.

19:12Romesh Ranganathan:How do you think you pronounce it? And I'm sure... You know, just give it a go.

19:18Shanthi Ranganathan:Just forget it. I didn't want to...

19:28Shanthi Ranganathan:Please, shall we play a game?

19:34You write it down, I'll pronounce it.

19:38Romesh Ranganathan:So what's the game, you read what I've written down?

19:41Shanthi Ranganathan:Yeah, can you write that?

19:42Romesh Ranganathan:Please, can you put the spelling there? Shanti, you don't remember me saying, I don't understand this game.

19:49Shanthi Ranganathan:I'm not asking you to play a game. You directly said. I'm not kindly asking you to write you. Because, forgive me for saying these Asian names are a bit difficult to pronounce.

20:08Romesh Ranganathan:But this one isn't. Obviously, it's not. It's a short name, isn't it?

20:12Shanthi Ranganathan:What's Raj?

20:14Romesh Ranganathan:It's not Raj.

20:16Shanthi Ranganathan:What's your surname? Can you pronounce it?

20:19Romesh Ranganathan:Pardon?

20:20Shanthi Ranganathan:Can you write it down for me?

20:21Romesh Ranganathan:Sure, my surname is Akbar.

20:24Shanthi Ranganathan:Bangladesh is... There's no Akbar.

20:26Romesh Ranganathan:Really? Yeah. Not Ishan Akbar, Bangladeshi comedian? Anyway, go on. OK.

20:31Shanthi Ranganathan:So, I just... Forget all that. I don't know your name. Could you write it down for me? From... I'm so horrible.

20:44Romesh Ranganathan:We haven't actually helped him here. John, I think you should intercept the postman or woman and pretend that they're away and say, they've asked me to pass the post on for them and then just read the name. Land registry. What does that mean? Oh. Is that your guess at their name? It doesn't sound very Bangladeshi. You can go on the land registry and see the last purchase and who bought it, can't you? Oh, okay, well, there you go. Land registry. Well done, Ben. Yeah. Should she say that about the kisses? Is that weird? She doesn't care. She presses send. This is the love story of real hinge couple Daniel and Roisin, written and read by me, Rufy Thorpe.

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22:13I was just wondering if you could let me know if kids are still annoying when they're older. So I've got three kids, they are 10, 7 and 4 and obviously I love them but I do find them pretty annoying. um mommy can you watch me do this mommy can you get me a drink mommy look at this slug mommy how long does it take to get to the moon like all of that sort of stuff pretty annoying um but i was wondering if obviously ramesh your kids are a bit older now teenagers um are they still annoying as teenagers or because they shun you a bit does it make you want to spend more time with them And Shanti, when they're adults, are they proper adults?

22:58Are they still irritating? Or is it just that Ramesh doesn't come and visit you that much? Okay, cheers, guys. Love you, bye.

23:08Romesh Ranganathan:Well, anonymous sounds lovely. Lovely. Okay, mum, annoying kids. Did me and Dinesh ever annoy you? Because I didn't have siblings, I didn't find it that you were annoying me.

23:23Shanthi Ranganathan:I loved all the naughtiness and everything because in my head, they are going to grow one day and I'm going to miss all that. And they keep you busy. That's good. That's good. That's all the childhood is. Enjoy.

23:38Romesh Ranganathan:What about when Dinesh set fire to the sofa?

23:41Shanthi Ranganathan:And he was standing around and clapping.

23:47Shanthi Ranganathan:I didn't get angry. It's an experiment. Sorry, what was this? I haven't ever heard this. Yeah.

23:54Romesh Ranganathan:when we were little me and Dinesh were I mean it was a textbook not bad parenting but like my dad had left his cigarettes and matches the lighter or lighter or something so we just wanted to see we wanted to see if we we could burn some paper and so we set fire to a sheet of paper and it went up quite quickly as paper tends to and then we panicked and then threw it onto the sofa and then the sofa caught light. And then mum, we shouted for mum, but mum came in and basically she had a go at me because I looked so relaxed about the situation.

24:37Whilst the sofa's on fire? Yeah.

24:40Romesh Ranganathan:I was like, oh, bloody hell. I was like that. Nightmare. I wasn't panicking. And so mum was annoyed about the sofa being on fire and then also saw the child that obviously would not be good in an emergency situation, which it was, arguably. So, yeah, I got a double bollocking for that. How did you put it out? We didn't. The whole house went down. No. We had to move, didn't we? How did we put it? Oh, you just bashed it out, didn't you? She shouted at her.

25:09Shanthi Ranganathan:Tea, tea, tea.

25:10Romesh Ranganathan:She just said really self-esteem, destroying things about the fire. Call yourself a fire? She'll be ashamed of herself and gradually. I'm sorry. Extinguished. No, you battered it, didn't you? Yeah, I did, yeah. So you've never found me in Dinesh annoying?

25:27Shanthi Ranganathan:No, I never complained because I enjoyed every bit of it. Maybe I didn't have any siblings. I never experienced holding a baby when I was little because I'm the only child. And my father passed away when I was three years old. So when I had the babies, I think I was really enjoying holding the baby, kissing. and everything. So I didn't find it annoying or anything. I thoroughly enjoyed it.

25:55Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah. First of all, I don't think you should feel guilty about finding your children annoying. Children are annoying. Well, they can be annoying. That doesn't mean you don't love them. I think sometimes people, when their kids are frustrating them, you get frustrated with your kids and then you get a second bout of feeling bad about it because then you feel bad about the fact that you've found your kids annoying. There's nothing wrong with finding your kids annoying. I mean, I love the boys so much, but like they are, they do not stop insulting each other just all the time. We're at dinner. Oh, my God.

26:28Romesh Ranganathan:Imagine having that face. Oh, my God. How do you feel about the fact you're going to die a virgin? Oh, my God. Is it mad that you've got the worst mix of genetics from mum and dad? Like you could have looked like me, but you look like you. It's nonstop. Imagine going outside looking like that. who here's never going to have sex you it's that all the time all the time even when we're out it's just non-stop just vicious and that is a bit annoying but then you say to the boys our boys and AJ if you tell them it's annoying that is a fucking catnip to them they're absolutely delighted they just do it more so yeah they can be annoying but I kind of like it I find it funny It's one of those things where sometimes you can find it annoying, but you know you'll miss it when it stops.

27:20Romesh Ranganathan:Do you know what I mean? Like when they go off and get older and do whatever they're doing. So, yeah, I think it's just a bit of a mixed bag. But I think people fall into the trap of thinking that if you've got children, every day is magical. Do you know what I mean? And, oh, my goodness. Oh, my God, they've set fire to the sofa. Isn't that cool? Oh, my God, he just got into bed and then – anyway, it doesn't matter. Okay, next question. I hope that helps you. Next question is an email from Anonymous. Hi, Ramesh and Shanthi. Greetings from LA. Oh, lovely. I'm a massive fan of the podcast. Of someone who struggles with depression and anxiety, I often tell people my one happiness in life is British comedy.

28:01Romesh Ranganathan:The joy you and your fellow comedian, I don't give a fuck about them, have brought me over the years has truly saved my life in so many ways. So thank you for what you do. You're very welcome. What a lovely opening to this message. Over the last few years, I've been in a secret situationship with someone I love. He's completely wonderful and loves me back. But the reason why it's a situationship and not a relationship is because after his divorce, he's been unwilling to entertain the idea of entering into a romantic relationship or marriage again. I'm happy with who we are, but even happier if we could be a legit couple.

28:31Romesh Ranganathan:My question is, given that I'm nearing middle age, would I just embrace being happily situated? Even though to society in my family, I'll be viewed as single. would it be wiser to move on and seek out a new life partner by way of a conventional relationship and marriage would love to hear your thoughts thanks again Anonymous what do you think mum

28:48Shanthi Ranganathan:what is stopping them to have relationship the lady is free okay she's single so he got a divorce she got the divorce now enjoy your life

29:04Romesh Ranganathan:yeah but that's the whole problem He doesn't want to have an official relationship. He's happy with it being kind of underground.

29:11Shanthi Ranganathan:What does he want from her then?

29:14Romesh Ranganathan:I'm working off the same information.

29:16Shanthi Ranganathan:Think carefully. He want to have a relationship.

29:19Romesh Ranganathan:Only for sex? Don't know, mum. Again, I'm working. Whenever I read these emails, I get the feeling that you think that I'm relaying something. I know these people. I've only gone for the information.

29:29Shanthi Ranganathan:That's the way you can get the right answer.

29:31Romesh Ranganathan:Okay, what should I do?

29:33Shanthi Ranganathan:He's asking us what to do?

29:35Romesh Ranganathan:They're asking. She's asking us, he or she's asking us what to do, yeah?

29:39Shanthi Ranganathan:Then stop having relationship. Just go home, cover yourself and sleep. What's the problem? If he wants to have a relationship, let him have it.

29:52Romesh Ranganathan:He doesn't.

29:54Shanthi Ranganathan:He doesn't want to have relationship.

29:56Romesh Ranganathan:The other person doesn't want to have a relationship.

29:57Shanthi Ranganathan:Other person?

29:58Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah.

29:59Shanthi Ranganathan:That means, what does he mean? You answer me.

30:03Romesh Ranganathan:I don't know.

30:04Shanthi Ranganathan:Maybe she doesn't like him. She doesn't like the way he looks or the way he talks.

30:11Romesh Ranganathan:Okay. I mean, I didn't think the most challenging thing from this would be getting you to understand the situation. I think she's sort of onto something, though, isn't she? How do you mean? Well, I think Chanty's circling is the idea that if he is able to have that relationship, he's just not willing to, so there's clearly an issue there beyond just the fact he doesn't want it. There's a reason he doesn't want it. We don't know what it is, but it feels a little bit... I don't think that's what Mum's saying, though. No, I thought I'm trying to get it. Okay, what are you trying to say?

30:39Shanthi Ranganathan:If there's nothing stopping you, why can't he have a relationship? Openly. That suggests he wants to keep his options open? Well, I think, yeah,

30:49Romesh Ranganathan:I think that if this guy, this person really, really liked you, they'd want to have a relationship. It's a bit hard to hit, but I think if this person really wants... This, I've got divorced, so I don't want to be in another relationship. That is... I just don't buy it. Do you know what I mean? I just think that as soon as somebody that you really like comes along, then you go, yeah, I want to be in a relationship with this person. So this is, I think the idea that in principle, they don't want to be in a relationship, I just don't, I don't personally buy it. I think you're, I actually, sorry, I misunderstood.

31:20Romesh Ranganathan:I think you're probably right. I think that there's something else going on there that they want to keep it a secret.

31:25Shanthi Ranganathan:That's why I asked, he's not married, he's divorced.

31:29Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah.

31:29Shanthi Ranganathan:The other person, we don't know.

31:32Romesh Ranganathan:Single.

31:32Shanthi Ranganathan:Yeah, single. What's the problem there?

31:35Romesh Ranganathan:I know. So I think...

31:38Shanthi Ranganathan:I think he's still in love with his wife. Okay?

31:42Romesh Ranganathan:Okay.

31:43Shanthi Ranganathan:He wants the wife to think, wife or partner, to think that he's a clean man. He wants to get back to the person.

31:50Romesh Ranganathan:It's not a bad theory.

31:52Shanthi Ranganathan:That's what it is. We don't definitely know that.

31:55Romesh Ranganathan:I would say there's some speculation in there. Okay. But it's a good theory. But in answer to your question, should I move on? Yes, you should. You deserve to have a proper relationship where you're allowed to say, hello, this is my partner. Do you know what I mean? So I think my advice to you would be to walk away from this situation. If you possibly can, those things are often easier said than done. But, you know, we all deserve to, not all, there's some people that I know. Have a good partner. That deserve to be alone. But most of us deserve to be in a relationship where you can tell people about it.

32:31Shanthi Ranganathan:More than a relationship, you need a companionship.

32:34Romesh Ranganathan:Yeah.

32:34Shanthi Ranganathan:have a cup of coffee cake or tea or tea whatever friends

32:40Romesh Ranganathan:friends to have a lovely friend I quite like just getting a whole cake and then you just dole out the slices that's a bit that's a bit

32:51Shanthi Ranganathan:no kinky

32:52Romesh Ranganathan:I'm sorry that's kinky no you're right no you're right the cake thing is kinky do you ever worry that I didn't I know this is the format of the show that when we're giving advice people might actually follow it I think this person should, I hope they do. Walk away. Well, I think it's like, if the relationship isn't serving you, I think, isn't it? He's still in loving the partner. If she wants something that he is not able to give. She clearly does. Otherwise, she wouldn't have sent the email in. Like, if you're happy with that situation, you don't email in. You just do the first bit. I want the person to be happy.

33:22Romesh Ranganathan:I really enjoy the thing. Thanks. Yeah. Peace out. You don't then go, what should I do about this? So, like, obviously, they want something more than that is being made available. The other thing I'm thinking, he doesn't want the relationship.

33:37Shanthi Ranganathan:He would love to have sex and hide it. That's bad. You mustn't do that.

33:44Romesh Ranganathan:You mustn't hide sex? If he wants to have sex, if he fancies the opposite sex,

33:51Shanthi Ranganathan:why don't you go openly and admit that you're having a relationship? He's a bit of a...

33:58Romesh Ranganathan:What? I don't know what that face means.

34:02Shanthi Ranganathan:I don't want to say any nasty words.

34:04Romesh Ranganathan:Okay.

34:04Shanthi Ranganathan:It puts me into trouble.

34:06Romesh Ranganathan:All right, but what do you want to say? And then we can decide whether we're going to... He's a bit of a...

34:12Shanthi Ranganathan:Womanizer?

34:12Romesh Ranganathan:Right, okay. I honestly thought you were going to say pedo.

34:16Shanthi Ranganathan:No, I will never use that. It got me into trouble.

34:18Romesh Ranganathan:No.

34:20Shanthi Ranganathan:You were the one who told me off.

34:21Romesh Ranganathan:It's weird that you won't use it for this guy, but you would use it for somebody with a small wallet on a train.

34:32Shanthi Ranganathan:I'm careful with my words. I know you are. I'm guarding it. Yeah. Okay.

34:37Romesh Ranganathan:You're like a vocab condom. You're so safe. That is all from us today. Thank you so much for listening to the episode. See you on Monday for another great episode. Mum, do you want to say goodbye?

34:47Shanthi Ranganathan:Bye-bye, everybody. Bye-bye. See you soon.

34:50Romesh Ranganathan:Tug a ball back. See you later, bitches. If this please come to our podcast. Suck it. Sharing a cake is kinky.

34:58Shanthi Ranganathan:It is kinky.

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