Master the Law of Attraction: 4 Techniques for MASSIVE Change

0:00There's abundance of life all around you. You can feel the life within you also. You're focusing on abundance. It's in the law of attraction or nature. As you give, it must come back to you in another fall. Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

0:38Welcome to this special masterclass. We brought some of the top experts in the world to help you unlock the power of your life through this specific theme today. It's going to be powerful, so let's go ahead and dive in.

0:56I would love to hear your thoughts on your definition of the law of attraction, but also So maybe the three habits that you see people doing the most that hurt them from attracting effortlessly using the law of attraction. Right. Well, the main mistake perhaps that people make is not coming from a place of fullness, but coming from a place of neediness. and putting too much attention on what is the undesirable conditions that they want to get rid of, but mentally almost continuously focusing on the undesirable condition, like not enough money, for example, which is a problem for many people. So let's use money for the example then, the law of attraction with money.

1:55how could we attract more wealth or financial abundance in our life using the law of attraction? Yeah. Well, first of all is the acknowledgement of abundance that is already here and now. And not focusing on the lack of abundance that is here now, which you could find by thinking about it, but to actually focus on where is the abundance that I can find here and now, and that is all around you. It is in nature. When you look at the abundance of nature, the multiplicity of life forms, the wonder of nature, the abundance of evil, or let's say you're in a city, you can look at, appreciate all the things that you see around you.

2:50You don't need to necessarily own it or buy it, just appreciate it. So this, the appreciation of the goodness of life that is always all around you, even if you have no money, there's still the goodness of life is all around you. You see it all around you. the sunshine, I mean, the sun is the ultimate symbol of abundance because it gives energy of itself almost eternal. I mean, eventually the sun will die, but as far as we are concerned, it's virtually eternal. It pours out energy continuously. At some point, we will realize that even on the level of energy, the universe is infinitely abundant.

3:42So we will no longer need things that we're using now, fossil fuels and those things. We have access to other forms of energy that are more helpful. But the abundance is all around you. Let's say you walk your past in the city. You're walking past a flower shop. You look at, wow, such beauty, appreciation, even seeing a beautiful man or woman, or even a beautiful car, all that, I love it. Not, why don't I have that car? Why does he have that car? It's all egoic, much narratives that make you unhappy to appreciate. No, nature, of course, is very powerful. And then you to appreciate the aliveness in your body, that you're breathing, and you can actually feel that your body, many people can't feel that.

4:40I call it the inner body awareness. You feel that every cell of your body is pervaded with a sense of aliveness, energy. And you can feel that. That is abundance. So there's abundance of life all around you. You can feel the life within you also. And so we could, some people call that gratitude. I call it more appreciation, the appreciation of the abundance of life that is always around you. That's a wonderful starting point. Okay. So you're not focusing on lack. You're focusing on abundance. Even when you don't have any, if you feel like you don't have anything, you can find abundance around you.

5:24Yes. Acknowledge it, the good things of life. acknowledge, but even the seemingly insignificant things like when I look out of the window, sometimes this tree is out here. Right now I can look out this. I can see there's a slight breeze and the branches are swaying slightly in the wind. It's beautiful. And there's the tree in all its majesty and stillness. It's been there for a hundred years. And that's wonderful. I don't need to own that tree. I mean, owning in that sense is ultimately a bit meaningless anyway. Yes, I own this house where I am right now, but at some point I'll be gone. And so what does it mean?

6:11The house with that, somebody else will own the house. Own is a secondary. I'm not saying to let go of ownership. Sometimes you can give stability to your life on the practical level, but there's something more important. So, this appreciation, or if you want to call it gratitude, some people recommend, I think Oprah said that she has had for many, many years a notebook or journal where she writes down every day things that she's grateful for. And these are usually seemingly insignificant things, but it's important not to overlook that. And I don't think she's writing down, I'm grateful that I have a private jet, or I'm grateful that I have$2.5 billion in the bank.

7:07She writes down the small things. I'm grateful for my garden. I'm grateful I get to plant a flower today. I'm grateful that I get to go on a walk with my friends. I'm grateful that I woke up Yes, yes, yes. The next thing is, the second thing, I would say, is giving. To give energy to other people. Appreciation itself is already a form of certain outflow of energy. When you appreciate this tree, beauty, there's an energy connection with the tree. The consciousness connects you with the tree. and kindness is part of giving kindness to another person not because you want anything from that person but because it feels so good to have this sense of we could call it goodwill that flows out of you towards another person even if you just hold the door open for somebody or it's a remark or it's lovely I love your dress, or whatever you say, if it's genuine, or to say an encouraging word to somebody, or to whatever it may be, a smile, a smile at somebody, even that is a form of giving.

8:35This connection with another, kindness, is a very powerful thing, so you are giving, You're not, the more you give, it's in the law of attraction or nature. As you give, it must come back to you in another form. But it doesn't work if you give out of obligation that you feel you should be giving. Or it needs to be a genuine sense of wanting to give and feeling how good it feels to give. Not because mentally you feel you always need to help people because otherwise you don't think of yourself as a good person or something. That's all mind stuff. But to experience how good it feels to give. So we have on the one hand appreciation, gratitude and appreciation.

9:37not kind of saving, giving every day in whatever form. And the next thing is that obviously Jesus already, in one sentence, one could say, told us the essence of manifesting and how it works. And he said, whenever you pray for something that you want, believe that you already have it and it will be given to you. There's the key. Now, the important thing is he did not say, believe that you will have it. He said, believe that you already have it. Now, this may not be immediately clear to people, how do I do that? How do I believe that I already have it when I know that I don't have it? Right, right, right.

10:42How do you get that belief of having it before knowing, feeling, tasting, smelling the thing that you want? Yes. So you feel the thing. It is already a mental reality in your mind. How do you feel now that you have it in your mind? How does it feel? And this feeling is really where the power of manifestation lies. But what is that feeling? Because that feeling of having it already and feeling this deep sense of satisfaction is really connecting with the deeper power within yourself, which is the part where all sense of aliveness originates there. It's a deeper sense of aliveness that comes from consciousness itself.

11:37Right. It might differ from person to person. One person might think, okay, what I want is a big house overlooking the ocean or whatever, and then you feel yourself, you're already there. experiencing that. Another person might think, well, what I want is to have this great company that does good things in this world. How does that feel? But you might find that the feeling is actually basically always the same, whether your mind says, but it's a house overlooking the or why, or the other person says, well, this is the company that I'm well ahead of that's doing great things in this world. The feeling is basically the same feeling.

12:34And the feeling is a feeling of fullness of life. Yes. Of completeness. That is power. So when you feel this feeling of fullness and then you associate it with a mental image, that is the power of manifestation there. But the feeling itself is beyond the mental image and is beyond whatever form you are able to manifest in this world, because that is the feeling of the inherent sense of aliveness that comes when you go deeper into yourself and experience the presence that you are. To know yourself as the presence is inherently joyful and powerful.

13:23You manifest from a place of fullness, not from a place of lack. The fullness is already there. That also means if for some reason it doesn't manifest, because not everybody's desires manifest. I mean, I don't know if it's still happening. LA, for example, if you go to any good restaurant in LA, it's more than likely that the waiter or waitress will act as waiting for their big breakthrough. It's just not possible for so many people to have the big breakthrough in LA, actors. Some may do, a few may do, but most probably won't. But they probably have other pressures that perhaps are much more important than what their ego tells them is important.

14:16And to add to that, I love what you're sharing here, because I want people to really feel this and understand this and embrace it. Because when we try to manifest from lack, it's going to be this needy energy, which was your first point, that kind of kills the dream of the law of attraction. And when we manifest from a place of fullness, like you spoke of, like feeling a feeling of fullness, wholeness, excitement, abundance, joy inside of us. And if it doesn't happen, if that dream doesn't come to us in the next year or five or 10 years, then we've lived a full rich life every moment till that moment.

14:57Like we've, we've lived a full year of feeling excited and passionate and good about ourselves. And that energy is magnetic. You will draw in great people, partners, relationships, opportunities that maybe you couldn't have dreamed of because the energy you gave into the world like you talked about. And I think that's the big point for me is the dream and the idea that you have maybe your ego wants, Maybe you won't have it. But man, you'll live a great, beautiful, rich life in the process of pursuing it. Very good point. In other words, the journey is what matters. The arriving at some destination is the end point, but it's secondary.

15:43It's always the journey. It's always now. That's what matters. And so sometimes what you wanted to manifest doesn't happen, but something else manifests. that could be even better. In many cases, it's much better than what you were. Absolutely. Yeah, I always wanted to be a professional athlete, and I played professional football for about a year and a half before I got injured. In the injury, I broke my wrist, and I was wearing a cast, and I had a surgery, and I had a cast on for six months. And it took about a year and a half for me to use my wrists again from the injury. and during that time I was in a state of extreme sadness and a loss and a grief of this identity that I once had and this dream that I once had that I was working so hard for my whole life to manifest to create and then all of a sudden this injury broke the the my abilities to do that and I remember thinking what am I going to do with my life like what's the point 23 24 years old, I'm like, what am I supposed to do now?

16:49And it led me to this journey that I'm on now of doing this interview series and podcast for the last 10 years that I'd much rather have this life than the life of a professional athlete now. And sometimes, like you said, going back to the beginning of this, if we can accept and surrender in the positive way to see what good can come, It may be challenging in the moment, but it's been a blessing since then. Yes, that's a lovely story. That's how it actually works. And another thing to mention is, let's say you do manifest what it is you wanted to manifest. when you come from this place of fullness, you do not have, yes, you have an appreciation of what you have achieved, but you don't have an excessive attachment to what you have achieved.

17:46So let's say you are able to manifest that you have a house overlooking the ocean and you manifest it, there you have it. And one day, when you get home, you find your house has fallen into the ocean. It's gone. So the whole thing that you worked so hard for to achieve is suddenly gone. But this place of fullness that enabled you to manifest that is still there. It's beyond outer forms. Yeah. And you feel full in life. Maybe there's a moment of sadness during that, but if you're not attached to the physical things you've manifested, I'm sure if I lost my home, I feel like it's a sanctuary. It's a beautiful, peaceful space.

18:40But I've lived in two-bedroom apartments for most of my life, and I felt like those were peaceful places for me. I'm sure I'd be sad for a minute, but then I could also create the sense of fullness in the next space. Exactly. And I have this, let's see,

19:00for a long time, until my 32nd year, my main form of transportation was except other than public transport, was a bicycle. That's beautiful. So I got my driver's license when I was 30, in my first car when I was 32, and that was a very old What city were you in? What country? London and Cambridge I lived at that time and I loved my bicycle I appreciated it I loved it I just looked at it I was standing there and then somebody gave me I was poor at the time somebody gave me an older car and I loved that and then I was able to I got a little bit of money I was able to buy the cheapest car I could find it was called Lada it's a Russian make they still make them but they're a bit better now than they used to be people would laugh at these cars because they were notorious for breaking down but it was very very cheap and I bought this and it never broke down I loved that car it never broke down I must admit very embarrassing on hills because you couldn't you were holding everybody you had to get out and push it yeah yeah i loved that car and um the and then i i eventually left england and i sold it a friend of mine was interested i sold it to him and two or three weeks after he bought it it broke down and and couldn't get repaired anymore.

20:43It was incredible. It's almost, at least, because I have this kind of relationship even with so-called inanimate objects. I think that even there, there is a glimmer of consciousness in everything. Really?

21:03How you hypnotize yourself for success, what that was like, and I guess just that process. Look, I think the vision at a young age wasn't, I wouldn't call it as much, it was the early development of manifestation. And it was drawing, I have a self-portrait of myself from when I'm 14 years old where it's me, this is no joke, it is me in a matching hat and shoes. like like with a skateboard on the side all of these like this art easel and then just stacks and stacks of money really and i'm drew this i hand drew it right and it's like the most fascinating aspect is it's this bizarre matching hat to shoes combo you know and into me like i always like could feel intuitively the law of attraction really and so even when i look at Like I needed I was lost at 25 years old when I was like searching for some sort of way to I was like a fix to help like redirect me and get me re-motivated and refocused.

22:16And that's why I was looking for a hypnotist. Right. And then I found a hypnotist who was at the Scripps La Jolla Hospital. And like and so to me, I'm like, OK, this is this is like a clinical psychologist. This is real. Right. And so when I got in there. Not some stage performer. Yeah. And so to me, it was like, when I got in there, I was looking for, make me focused on skateboarding so I can win contests, whatever my vision was. And he immediately did this test and said, you don't believe you were meant to be successful at your subconscious level. That's what he discovered after doing some tests with you.

22:53And then the initial hypnosis was just reinforcing at the subconscious level that I was meant to be successful. That I believed that. How do you learn to believe that if you hadn't believed it until then? Look, I would say that I grew it and built it at an early age and was starting to lose it. Okay. So you got it, which made you a professional at 16 and kind of go to the next level. But then somewhere you lost it. Right. He reinforced it and then boom, you know, and most recently I went to his house, you know, like a year ago. Really? Yeah. I went to his house. He's like, this hypnotist now is lifelong friend.

23:35You know what I mean? I found him in the yellow pages. It was pre-internet. The great Dr. George Pratt. And so, you know, I will, you know, I've sent friends there. I go see him all the time. You know, on my five year anniversary, he presided over the five year anniversary of our, when we renewed our vows. but I'm like hey can you just give me a check real quick I just want to verify that I'm going to be a billionaire he's like come on in here he's like come on stop it you know that's going to happen his like psychological power he's like stop it and it's just like you're right Dr. George but look I think even you know we were both in Think and Grow Rich that we had shot before we did the initial interview together too he was in the movie?

24:19No, no, you, me and you. Oh, yeah, yeah, gotcha, yeah. Right? And it was, even back then, like, now I'm evolving and getting more intuitive of things being attracted to me. But it wasn't until 2018, I was in a bit of a, you know, like, a bit of a pit of chaos, right? Because here's these great plans that I have built that were unfolding. 2016, it was all coming alive, right? And our interview was at peak youthful energy of like, the world is mine. I just moved to Beverly Hills. I'm having my first child. Got my new office in Beverly Hills. Like my forever estates just launched the machine that month, right?

24:58All of these things like I'm going to build and sell all these companies still had never done it. Just the vision, the hope, everything. The energy of what was going to become. and and so um but in 2018 like things got sideways right the energy got sideways how so is this the NBC show that didn't work no this was them talking about like ridiculousness going away right really and I had built super jacket for it to be acquired and it was just like wow it's like this entire thing that I've got like built up and this is the first company I'm building to sell is going to kind of drift away here and my wife suggested like why don't we just watch the secret wow and so i'm like you know like what you know and i kind of remember the secret you know i sort of like remember the secret and then i mean the first 15 minutes it just shifted my being really it shifted my being in way of thinking of like like stop it like look at who you are what you've done and look at like like the good that has constantly like found its way to you don't lose sight of that like and i began to practice belief and literally like a month later my my internal medicine specialist is talking about meditation and i'm like i have to meditate and she's like oh i in my office we have this new company that has these meditation pods the soma dome right and i'm like, can I try it out?

26:33And inside this Soma dome, it's a guided meditation about manifestation. Really? And so what I started doing in 2018 is I was like, I'm not going to like hope for the law of attraction. I'm going to begin to practice it. So I would go to sleep every night watching the secret. So it was the last thing I went to bed. And then when I would get up in the morning, I would get in my dome, right? And I would just like think of all the things I wanted to happen, right? And so instead of thinking in 2018 when they were talking about ending ridiculousness and I was in season 12, I wasn't – I decided I wasn't going to manifest season 13.

27:20I was going I kept manifesting walking on the stage introducing season 30. Holy cow. So you weren't thinking about the next season. You're thinking about 20 seasons away. Right. Right. And and so for me, like like it then evolved and like it literally began. It was like the the the seas began to part. Right. Because what happened is because I own the production now, I was able to negotiate directly with the head of the network on the unit economics of the show rather than talent and producing fees. And so we got to a place where we decided from a business perspective what was best for the network and the ever-changing landscape of linear cable.

28:08And I gave him the – I'm like, give me the price you want and then let me go and try to make it happen. Because you used to have a talent fee that was bigger and then you said let's work it. else would produce it now i produce the entire thing own the entire production so i understood where all the opportunity was to get it to his cost and that it's a nuance now right so i negotiated with him on the unit economics where most like even big celebrities and producers are still like like it's fees you know like you don't have the ability to get in that into depth because you don't you don't understand or own the production company at that level and so it goes from right there i got it to his number we negotiated and i was getting uh 30 episode seasons at a time back then and i said i can only do this price if we get to 42 episodes and you gotta pick up multiple seasons wow and i was hoping for two he picked up four right and so it went from thinking that it was completely like I'm going to have to regroup and like televisions over here to like now you're shooting 186.

29:22And the beauty of it was is I had built the company up to that point. You needed three years of EBITDA to take it to market and sell it. The entire plan was like we got to get through the third year and take it to market and on the third year they were like we don't think the show is coming back. Basically like okay that means the production companies going out of business after I was getting ready to take it to market and be my big first win. And instead, that 186 order, I took it straight to market. Now I took it to market. Here's the three years in EBITDA. And we have the biggest order in the history of cable television, right?

29:57That's the biggest order? One of the biggest ones, right? And so that is how huge that changed. And then what happens? Now they have more episodes, they air more. It gets this new entirely new life then they're like can we get more then by the by the following year you know and keep in mind in that time i sold the company what year was this now uh the company was acquired in 2019 right so um and then it was like it had this explosion so then it's like how many can you uh give us and i'm like so i went through all time management all aspect because keep in mind i'm still doing all of this while living super balanced happy normal life so i could do 250 max 250 in a year yeah and then i was like but in order to do that like can you pick up two years and then they were like what no brainer let's do it so they then ordered 500 500 eps yes it's two years in two years and that put me to 30 seasons right so it's like so you know oh my goodness again so you're visualizing 30.

31:12Visualizing 30 and I'll tell you one thing you know I actually spent some time with the great Dr. Joey Dispenza right and the one thing I heard from him is this idea of don't try to think it try to feel it you know don't when you're when you're trying to to like tap into the quantum field and and and generate energy in the law of attraction the things that you are thinking about think about the feeling that's why i thought of i like went through the feeling of like what it feels like to be on stage welcome to season 30 right so it's a much more richer sort of existence so now now it's like i practice it every single day i am i am in um you know that somadone meditation pod like feeling what i want to happen seven days a week almost never miss a day right and i track it super extensively and like literally it's like 97 97, like almost every like, like 97 % of this entire year I have been in there just visualizing what I want to happen.

32:29So how does someone believe it even though it hasn't happened yet? So I don't love the statement fake it till you make it. I don't like it either. But I will. I like face it till you make it. I like that too. I would say, believe it until you are it. You know, that's kind of what neuroplasticity would say. So with neuroplasticity, it's psychological work, right? But it's actually not. It's actually physiological work. And so I work with a lot of guys in financial services who, you know, emotional intelligence is a big thing that we need to work on. and I've had you know these people who are very very successful genuinely be so frustrated I don't understand like what am I supposed to do people say I'm not nice to them you know um what what am I actually supposed to do so this is what I say to them imagine you imagine a field of grass and on day one you walk through the field and the grass is high and you know you're sort of flattening as you walk.

33:39And then you walk there every day until you've trodden a little path into the grass. And then you keep walking there until it becomes like a muddy path. Then you might lay some paving stones. And then you build a proper path. That's what you're doing in your brain when you change any behaviour. And I remember when I learnt Danish, which was super hard. Oh, my gosh. Yeah. And I've mentioned to you that I prefer to eat healthily, but I was literally taking like a can of Coke or like a bag of Maltesers to the Danish lessons. And it was 90 minutes. And by about an hour, I would feel so tired and so hungry.

34:21It's exhausting, isn't it? Exhausting, yeah. I'm learning Spanish right now. And I'm trying to change my language around it being exhausting and being hard. Because I think the more I say that, it's going to continue to reinforce that it's exhausting and challenging. So I've been trying the last few months to say, you know what, this is a fun experience. You know, this is an experiment. It's challenging, but it's a good challenge. And I'm learning every time. It's hard for me. And it's trying to add a positive reinforcement as opposed to, man, this is hard. Because it has been challenging up until now to learn Spanish fluently.

34:57And I also think I have this huge expectation, like I'm going to be able to speak like a native, you know, Mexican speaker. But and I think sometimes we forget how far we've come, you know. Yeah. Acknowledging that is so important. Yeah. Can I give you a bit of inspiration? Give it to me. So I did eight weeks of lessons. I then went to Denmark for some holidays and I came back and had a lesson. And at some point she said, OK, great. You know, see, we're done for now. See you next week. And I was like, was that 90 minutes? And so basically the 90 minutes had got, I hadn't got hungry. I hadn't got tired.