Rewire Your Mind To Attract Abundance In Your Life TODAY with These 7 Keys

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0:58What if I told you that the way you are chasing love and success is the exact reason why you don't have either of them. And there are a few key things that you need to be thinking about in order to attract the things that you want, because you'll never find love or wealth if you keep chasing it like this. And the first thing is to stop seeking and start embodying, because you don't attract what you want, you attract who you are. It's a quote by Wayne Dyer, And I love that quote because you don't attract what we want in life. You attract who you are, what you embody, what you're made up of, the energy, the attitude, the thinking that you have.

1:44That's a reflection of what you attract in your life. And if you're ready to start creating the relationship, to start creating the financial abundance that you want in your life, make sure to like this video right now and leave a comment saying, yes, I'm ready in the comments below right now. So you can start unlocking this embodiment for yourself. You want to stop searching for what you think you're missing and start becoming someone who already has it. So instead of chasing after a love or a relationship or chasing after money or something external, we need to start to begin to embody the feelings associated with already having them.

2:31So what does this mean? How do I associate the feelings of already having a beautiful relationship, a partner who cares about me, a partner that speaks positivity into me, that supports my dreams, that supports me in becoming a greater version of myself, that supports me in staying healthy and doing healthy activities, that supports me and dives into my love language so I feel loved and seen and validated? What does this mean to embody the feelings associated with already having something like that? What does it mean to embody the feelings of creating a wealthy life, of having more financial opportunities, of people with money wanting to come hang out with me, wanting to surround themselves with me, wanting to teach me, mentor me, coach me for free, and start creating an opportunities of flow for financial abundance in my life?

3:25What does this mean to really embody the feelings associated with already having them? An example would be to feel grateful, feel gratitude, feel appreciation, as if you're already in a loving relationship or you're already in a place of financial peace and freedom. And the way you can do this is to visualize your life from the destination, not toward it. Because a lot of times we're, we're searching, we're seeking, and we're striving for something from a destinational place. And we're like, when I create this thing, when I have the relationship, then I'll feel loved. Then I'll feel worthy. Then I'll feel enough.

4:08Then I'll feel ready to chase my dreams, ready to take on the next step, ready to step into this greater version of me when I have the relationship or when I have more money, then I can go do the things that I want to do and start to feel like I'm worthy of more. A lot of times we are, we're not visualizing our life from the destination. And that's what we need to be doing. Not I'm once I get here, then I'll feel good about me. And this isn't crazy or delusional. It's aligning what you want with the energy that attracts it. So let me say it one more time. This is about aligning what you want with the energy that attracts that thing.

4:50And for many years, I was chasing the feeling of a relationship to try to feel better about me. I was chasing building my business to try to feel like I was lovable and enough in life and that people would see me and validate me. So I wanted to accomplish. I wanted to build a following based out of this wound or based out of the need or the desire of feeling a lack. And I accomplished those things. I was able to get into relationships. I was able to build my business and make lots of money, but something felt off consistently. And it was because I was creating from a lack. I was creating from a wounded, needy place to feel like, okay, now I have this thing.

5:38I have this relationship. I have the business growing. now I can start to feel better but the feeling better never came it didn't come until I started to shift this mindset the feeling better when I had the thing didn't actually happen it actually made me feel more insecure more scarce more in lack because I felt like oh I don't feel what I thought I would feel by having this relationship by having this money something's wrong with me So let me go make more money. Let me go get more followers to try to fulfill this lack inside of me. And I did that for a long time in my 20s and 30s. And it took me a while to start breaking the pattern that was holding me back.

6:20You don't want to attract anything from a desperation, from neediness or a wound. You want to attract it from a state of being, a whole state of being that attracts peacefully. You also want to attract from a place where you feel like you can say no to everything that comes your way that is not in alignment with your purpose, your mission, or your greater self. Because when you create a sense of embodiment energetically, and the people that see that within you are going to be attracted to you. They're going to want to hang out with you. They're going to want things from you. they're going to want you to be a part of what they're up to because they want that energy.

7:04I don't know if you've ever experienced this in your life where maybe you've gone to a workshop or you've gone to a yoga retreat or you've gone on a vacation for a week and you really just kind of got grounded. You were off your phone, you were learning something new, you were letting go of a limiting belief that used to hold you back or maybe you went through a breakup and a transformation or maybe you got let go from a job but then you stepped into the thing you wanted to create and you were creating from a sense of inspiration. You were creating from a sense of creativity. You were creating from a sense of freedom.

7:36You were walking around in life like you were meant to be there. I don't know if you've ever experienced this or you've been around someone like that. It is infectious. It is magnetic. It is like you wanna be around that person and people wanna be around you. If you know what I'm talking about, leave a comment, leave a yes in the comments and like this again, just to lock it in. Because once you realize that everything you ever want is already within you, you are going to start seeing love, seeing relationships, seeing money and opportunities come your way is going to be a flood, a river of abundance coming to you.

8:15And that's a beautiful thing, but it can be also overwhelming if you don't have the ability to create boundaries, if you don't have the ability to be discerning and slow down, because sometimes you want to say yes to everything because it all seems exciting. But then it gets you back into a place of, oh, I'm overwhelmed. I burnt out. I've said yes too quickly without actually getting to know the people. I fell in love too quickly in the first week or two without actually knowing about the person and just thinking of the idea of the person being amazing without actually seeing all of them. And so we need to learn discernment when we start to create from a place of peace and alignment.

8:58And when you can do that, then you can really say yes and no to the opportunities financially and relationally that make sense for you. Because everything you've always wanted has always been yours. You are just finally realizing it when you start to align yourself to healing, peace, and abundance. And you have to realize what it is you truly want. What is it that you want? Do you just want a relationship because you feel alone and you want to feel a sense of love and find someone who can give it to you, that's not the best place to create from. But if you're feeling you want a relationship to amplify the joy, the love that you already feel within you, now we are talking.

9:42Now you're creating from a space of feeling enough, feeling good with you, and you just want to amplify things. and then you can find someone who can mirror and match that alignment as opposed to I don't feel good and this person's going to make me feel better when I'm around them that is a recipe for disaster because when you are choosing to be with someone because they make you feel better and you don't feel good with you it's almost always going to be dysfunctional there's always going to be a bad breakup because you're creating from a wound you're bonding from a wound and people call that trauma bonding.

10:19And therefore it is so hard to unravel. And that's usually a two to three year relationship that gets entangled early on. Entanglement happens and you trauma bond. And from a place of bonding, you create connection. And connection is a beautiful thing. It's not that you don't want to create connection with other people, but if you're not creating a connection with yourself first, if you're not really building relationship with you and aligning with you in a vision for your life, aligning with your finances, aligning with your inner relationship. If you're not aligning and you only connect with someone out of fear or out of neediness or scarcity, typically there's going to have to be some healing down the line.

11:05And you might hurt each other too much where you'll have to let go of the relationship at some point. I've learned this lesson. I don't I went through this process many times in many relationships and it's painful. It's not fun. It's not enjoyable. And it takes a lot of time and energy from you creating from a space of peace. So once you start to heal and align, then you can create from a space of peace in relationships and in your finances. So to finalize this first key, train your nervous system to normalize the state you desire. This shifts your attraction point. And when you start to align your nervous system as a peaceful, safe space, you normalize that state you desire from peace.

11:56I am peace and therefore I attract someone who brings more peace to my life. Not I am stressed, I am overwhelmed and therefore I need to find someone to help me feel better about me. And that's going to attract from a wounded place. And typically you're going to have to do a lot more healing work in that relationship or the relationship will end at some point in order for you to learn the lesson of healing so that you can create again from a space of a calmer nervous system. So that's the end of the first point for this. Stop seeking and start embodying. If this resonates with you, if this supports you, if this unlocks something inside of you, let me know in the comments.

12:40Just say that this is unlocking something inside of me. And already in the first key, it's supporting your mission. the second key we're going to talk about is letting go of the timeline let go of the need of having something right now this is probably one of the hardest things i have been known to be a very impatient person it's a lesson i'm constantly learning in a in a space that i get to constantly step into and when you can let go of the timeline so much will start to unfold and will start to accelerate for you. And a lot of times we want things now. We want the relationship now. We want the healing now.

13:23We want the money now. But these things are meant to have their own timeline. You're not behind. So stop rushing a timeline that isn't yours. Meeting results quickly is a form of lack. So I want you to trust in divine timing and release the sense of meeting this goal to happen right now. It doesn't mean you don't have to create urgency in your life. It doesn't mean you're not supposed to work hard on a daily basis. You are. But needing the results to happen right now is going to only hurt you in the long run. It's going to make you more frustrated. You want to live in intentional alignment. And by doing this, things will come to you so much faster.

14:10You don't need things to happen right now because you are in alignment. And when you are in alignment, you feel like, I know this is going to come to me at the right timing, the right season, when I'm ready. And I just need to keep doing the reps, keep taking the actions, and keep showing God, the universe, my environment, people around me, that I'm ready for this thing. So instead of asking, when will I meet someone? Ask, how can I deepen my love for life today and my love for myself today? When you do that, again, you just become a magnet. People want to introduce you to men and women around the world who think would be a great match for you because, man, you're showing this energy consistently.

14:55And it's not fake, false ego energy. It's like, I'm good with me. Sure, I would love a relationship, but I'm not going to get into a relationship if it's not the right timing and not the right fit because you don't want to just give your love to anyone who doesn't deserve it. You want to give all of your love to yourself and then pour that out in service of the people around you on a daily basis, whether it be at your work, whether it be, you know, strangers walking down the street. And I'm not talking about, you know, loving someone on the romantic side of things. I'm just talking about loving someone with a smile, with a kind gesture, with a hello and being a positive energetic force in your environment and in your world.

15:39But first you have to do that in your inner world. You have to do the work to help you heal and know that you are enough, that you are lovable, that you're worthy of creating that relationship in your life. I'm going to give you an example from a business standpoint here. Early on in my career, I really wanted to be an author. I really wanted to write a book. I'd actually written a self-published book with another co-author of mine. And it was in 2009 when I wrote this book. And I remember being really excited to write this book. We printed it. We found the printer. We uploaded it on Amazon. We did all this work.

16:22And I would buy hundreds of these books at a time in boxes. and I would sell them one by one as I was hosting these kind of networking events around the country. And I did 20 events within the country within about 12 to 14 months. And I would go around the country with boxes of books and I'd sell them one by one. And I remember thinking, gosh, wouldn't it be amazing to be a traditionally published author? And if I'm dreaming big here, wouldn't it be amazing if I was a New York Times bestselling author? Wouldn't that be just be incredible? It was like this incredible big goal that I had, this dream that I had, that was a desire of mine.

16:59And we should all be dreaming about what we want. This is not a bad thing to desire something. But when we do it from a place of, I need this right now, it's probably not going to work out for us. Long story short, I met Tim Ferriss' agent early in my career. And I was like, hey, I'd love to do a book with you. And I was kind of pitching this to him. But at the time I had a very small following. My business wasn't doing what it is today. And I wasn't ready. Just long story short, the timing didn't line up for where I was at in my life and where I wanted to be. I wasn't ready. And he was like, Hey, you know, you're not ready.

17:43Essentially. He told me that. And I remember kind of feeling down. I was like, Oh, I really want this thing. I want it to happen now. I want it to just be amazing for my ego, all these different things. But essentially, I said, all right, I'm going to work on who I need to become. And when the timing happens, it'll happen at the perfect timing. And years go by, three and a half years go by. And I just say, I'm going to start working on myself every day. I'm going to keep working on myself, developing skills, building my audience, learning about business better, learning how to write better, learning about marketing better, all these skills I still need to master, public speaking better, everything.

18:21How can I build relationships for the right people to promote me when the book is ready? Because I was doing one by one book sales and I only sold a few hundred copies of my book in the first year. So I wasn't ready. I didn't have the platform. I didn't have the relationships. I needed the skill sets. I needed to be ready to be on TV and do press. I needed all this. I need all these things to happen before the next big book. And five years later, essentially, he finally comes to me and says, hey, I think it's time we do a book together. And he reached out to me because we connected on social media and he saw the journey that I was creating where now the timing was lining up.

19:03And I did a massive book deal. We went out and sold the book. I did a massive book deal. I launched the book. Now my platform, my audience, my skills, my confidence within myself was just light years ahead because I'd done the reps and I'd taken the action. And by the time the book came out, it hit the New York Times bestseller list and it was a big hit. Later, because of that book, I got on the Ellen show, I got tons of press, Good Morning America, Today Show, all these things lined up at the perfect timing. Now, five years prior, I really wanted that thing, but I wasn't ready for it. And I don't know if you've ever had this feeling where you're like, really want something.

19:47Maybe right now, you're like, oh, I really want this thing to happen for me. If I could get on talk shows or big press or launch a big platform, but maybe you're just not ready for it at this moment. It doesn't mean you won't be ready for it in the future. And so it's important to create goals. It's important to have these dreams and a vision, but we've got to be willing to take the actions every day and be in alignment with what we want and where we're at. And the timeline that you're obsessing over is often the very block to what you desire. So I want you to start shifting this energy, this timeline.

20:23It doesn't mean you can't create something faster, but I want you to be creating from a place of, I have this goal and I, yes, I want it to happen in six months, but it may not happen. And I don't want to get let down because it's not happening right now. Instead, focus on what you can control, how you can show up developing more skills that by the time you're ready for it, this will come to you. Another thing is when I was broken on my sister's couch, I had a mentor that I was working with. And I was like, man, I could really use some money right now. And he said, money comes to you when you're ready for it.

21:00I was like, I'm pretty ready to receive some money. I'm pretty broke. Like I'm ready. And it wasn't until about a year and a half, two years later, I actually started making money about a year and a half, two years after that. and I reflected back and I was like, oh, had I made a lot of money back then when I was emotionally bankrupt, I would have blown this money. I would, I was not ready for it. And that's the hardest thing to say when you're broke and living in scarcity. You don't want anyone to say this to you. You're just like, shut up, give me money. I don't want to hear it. I need this money.

21:32And there's a difference from needing something and then being ready for something. You might need something because you feel like you're living in fight or flight mode or survival mode. But when you're ready for something, it's because you put in the reps, you've started to come from a more of a patient place. It doesn't mean you're not living in urgency and taking the actions, but you're okay with the timeline being when you're ready. And this is hard. You've got to really be trusting God, the universe, whatever you believe in, you've got to be trusting, okay, hey, I'm going to keep doing the reps and I'm going to keep adding value to people around me and I'm going to keep showing up and eventually good things will happen.

22:13But if you're coming from a place of, I need this now, usually you're not going to get what you want. Otherwise you'll sabotage it. So the timeline you're obsessing over is often the very block to what you desire. And this is let go of the timeline number two. The third thing is to replace lack language with empowering identity. Your problem isn't others holding you down. It's your language blocking your abundance. It's your language that is blocking your abundance. I want you to write down a few limiting phrases that you say often. And this is going to help unlock something for you. I want you to write them down.

23:00You can put them in the comments if you want to below and say, here are some of my limiting phrases. And then I want you to reframe them into empowering truths. So some of the limiting phrases that people say are, I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough. I'm not good looking enough. I don't have enough connections. I don't live in the right environments. My parents hold me back. Whatever it is, I am not what? write that down as a limiting thing that you've said in the past because your words shape your reality they shape them they shape your personality which is your personal reality what dr joe dispensa says and so the more you speak something as i am not this you are that thing you are embodying that thing so you're out of alignment with what you want with what you desire by speaking those false truths.

23:58And I am the poster child for speaking negative self-talk about me to myself and to others. Most of my childhood, most of my teen years, 20s, and it probably wasn't until my early 30s where I started to make that shift. And so if you're in your 20s or your teens or your 30s right now, you know, it's not the end of the world because you can start shifting this now and start aligning to more positive self-talk. Again, your words shape your reality. So I want you to replace I'm broke or I'm unlucky in love or I'm unlucky with money or any of these limiting thoughts to something else like I'm learning to manage wealth or I am healing and preparing for conscious love.

24:49So instead of saying I'm unlucky with love or all guys hurt me or all guys leave me and abandon me or all girls just ruin my life, whatever it is, I am healing and preparing for conscious love. When you start saying these things, it doesn't mean you're saying some false affirmation that you're shouting at the rooftops of, I'm worthy of all this love and perfect relationship. You may not feel that. You may be ready for that, but you can be ready for I'm healing, I'm learning, and I'm preparing for conscious love. Man, what a space to create from. What an empowering place to speak into existence versus, I'm just never going to figure this relationship stuff out.

25:40Every relationship hurts me. Everyone cheats on me. Everyone lies to me. I mean, I used to say the most horrible things to myself, you know, that I would never amount to anything, that people always abandon me or abuse me. I just, and then I would recreate that in life because your personality creates your personal reality as Dr. Joe Dispenza says. So your identity evolves through your vocabulary. And I want you to speak your future into the now. So I want you to replace lack language with empowering identity. That's a big step for all of us. Again, I get this constant reminder for myself, but it's a big step for all of us.

26:19Number four, heal before you hunt. Heal before you hunt. You're not being rejected. You're being redirected to heal. You're not being rejected. You're being redirected to heal. If you don't heal what hurts you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you. Ooh, that's a zinger. I love that quote from Isabella de Bruno, who's the author of A System of Deception. If you don't heal what hurts you, you'll bleed on people who don't cut you. And again, I've probably done this too many times in the past. The people that I felt picked on me or abused me or took advantage of me from childhood stuff, I felt like I let that anger get the best of me and I reacted in situations and environments.

27:12when I probably didn't need to react. And until I started to heal, I started doing less of that. So chasing wealth or love from a wound in place leads to sabotage. And I want you to prioritize emotional healing first. An example of this could be something about the past within you. If that past betrayal still hurts you, I want you to pause and process it before entering a new relationship or business venture. So if you feel like a previous, you know, boss screwed you over or previous employee screwed you over or previous relationship, you know, ended things with you or lied to you or hurt you in ways that really are still painful today.

27:55Don't just jump into the next thing without processing it before you enter a new relationship or business venture. If you do that too quickly, you're likely to bring the wound with you into the future and just be more guarded from a wounded place rather than being discerning from a healed place. And there's a difference between guarded and discerning. And when you're guarded, you're typically, it's because you've been hurt and you're still wounded. And so you're clenching, you're not trusting, you're not engaging, you're not expressive and open, loving and joyful because you're worried that someone's going to repeat what something else happened in the past.