The Hidden Part of You That's Blocking Everything You Want | Katie Clarke

31:28We have an essence, we have like a fractal of that divine essence of God within us, each and every one of us. And I think a lot of people, the reason they aren't able to change is because they don't believe that they have this power. They don't believe that they have so much power over their circumstances. And so what ends up happening is they end up treating their circumstances as totally definitive rather than them realizing, oh, hey, I'm the one who's creating this situation. I'm the one who's energetically corresponding with the reality of lack. And so when people want to manifest, I think the first thing they have to get into their head is the order of creation in reality.

32:06Lewis Howes:What is the order of creation when manifesting a new reality for yourself? You can look at this from a few different perspectives, but everything that exists physically in the physical world has come from the non-physical okay so everything physically that exists is just particles vibrating at different frequencies right before they exist as particles they exist as waves of potential in the quantum fields so there's infinite potentials in this unseen field that is beyond our senses what we call physical reality is less than one percent of what exists in the entire universe right and so us as well as human beings we exist on the physical plane, but we also exist on the mental plane, the plane of thoughts, which is beyond the physical.

32:48And we also exist on the spiritual plane where infinite possibilities exist because we are one with the creator. And this, the reason I think this is so important for beginning to shift your frequency is you've got to open up your mind and realize that you are so much bigger than physical reality. Because we've been gifted mental faculties like imagination, intellect, intuition, reasoning, will, we have the power to direct our creative consciousness at certain possibilities in the quantum field and then bring those into form. There's an experiment in quantum mechanics, it's called the double slit experiment, which essentially shows that electrons exist as waves of potential, so many possible states in the quantum field, until they are observed by an external observer.

33:35And then they start behaving as particles, OK, so what that shows us is our consciousness and what we call the material world is intrinsically linked and we are influencing everything around us constantly through our focus, through our awareness and through our perspective. Right. And so the first thing you've got to notice, OK, I am playing an integral role here. I am not just this physical body. I always say to people, you do not just fall out of a coconut tree. you are consciousness embodied in physical form you are consciousness being directed into the mental field at your neurological tissue that's created mind so you're existing in the mental field and you're also consciousness existing in a physical body and so the way you start rising above and shifting your frequency is you start to harness and realize the power of your energy and the power of your thoughts your perspective what you focus on and your beliefs so you want to start really defining that stuff for yourself from the energy of as soon as I change my beliefs, as soon as I change my perspective, as soon as I change my attitude, as soon as I change my identity, everything around me will start to change because that is the way that it works.

34:41Lewis Howes:So first, even if we've never experienced success or the feeling of abundance or the feeling of I'm putting in an intentional thought out in the world of wanting to create something and it comes to me. Although we're manifesting all the time, no matter what, we're constantly manifesting what we're creating in our life. But if it feels like what we really desire, we're not able to manifest. First, it's shifting the belief that it's possible. Is that what I'm hearing you say? Yeah. Because if you never believed it's possible, it's going to be hard to create it. Exactly. And is that the order of creation?

35:15So the order of creation, if we break it down simply, is we do have. I know you had Myron

35:19Lewis Howes:golden on a little while ago and he spoke about this yeah so in genesis it says be fruitful multiply have dominion says it right there in genesis so essentially you have to become be the version of you who's there already before you can do take the actions before you can have the material results that is the order it's not have do be it's be do have so even if you've not ever experience something in your physical reality. Manifestation is not about experiencing something physically or getting something in the physical world. When you look at it on a deeper layer, manifestation is about getting something internally so that you can see it reflected externally to you.

35:59Because what you're perceiving is just a mirror reflection of your state, of your energy. That is all.

36:06Lewis Howes:That's it. Yeah. So you're perceiving in the physical world what you're experiencing in the internal world. Exactly. How does someone know what frequency they're actually operating at right now in life? By looking at their life, by looking at their results. So you can very quickly tell what your beliefs are, what your identity, self-concept is by looking at the results that you have in your life. You look at your finances, your relationships, your career, what you feel you're worthy of, all of these things. That can tell you really quickly where you're operating at. So look at your life, look at your relationship, look at your bank account, look at everything around, look at your health, look at your body and say, okay, is my life have the results that I desire or am I kind of mirroring the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions inside of me physically around me?

36:55Yeah.

36:56Lewis Howes:Okay. So first do an assessment, your frequency, your energetic frequency, it sounds like, and assess where you're at in your life. Yeah. And at one point in my life, I was sleeping on my sister's couch for a year and a half. I had no money. I was broke, living off three credit cards. and it probably was a reflection of kind of where I was at in my life internally. And once I started to shift that belief around myself of what I'm capable of, I started to see external results as well. That's what I'm hearing you say is first take a look at your life and see where that is. Then look at the order of creation, which is instead of wanting to have something and feeling a certain way once you have it, feel that way first.

37:36Lewis Howes:Be that way first. Be the love you want to be. be positivity, be joy, be fun, be playful. And you'll start to create more of that around you as well. Absolutely. And it's not easy to do. Why is it hard for people to be before they have? Because we're conditioned to focus on the external, to define our value, our identity from what we see around us. We've forgotten that we are inherently creative beings and we're not taught how to use the power of our minds our imagination belief intention none of that we don't even know about our intuition we don't know about any of that all we know is what we see so we base everything off what we see with our eyes not realizing that that's just a tiny fractal of what exists and not realizing that we are so much bigger than what we see and so it's it's a kind of a conditioning thing it's it's a lack of awareness really we don't have the awareness to realize that we can be so much more than what we've been experiencing.

38:34Lewis Howes:What's the one thing that you see people do that keeps them stuck, even when they're consuming all the right content, going to the right courses and events that are teaching them something about creating what they want. They have the coach, they're investing in the books, they're watching your content, but they're still stuck. What is blocking them from creating that breakthrough? Fundamentally, people get stuck when they know they don't want to be who they've been, but they're not ready to be who they're supposed to be yet. Right. So if you almost think of it like every outcome that you desire in physical reality, there is a version of you that corresponds with that version of reality.

39:11And your ticket to getting to that version of reality, that level in this game of life is becoming that version of you now. That's the only way in. That is the only way. There's no other way in. you have to become that version of you first then you can start living within that level in that game of life right and so a lot of people get stuck because they're learning they're getting all the information they're learning all the stuff but they're not embodying it they're not actually living it okay so they could know okay i need to set these boundaries i need to have new standards i need to cut all of this stuff out i need to cut these people out i need to show up more you know courageously or i need to show up more authentically or whatever it is but they just can't do it and so then a person will enter what i call the in-between phase which is a really painful phase if you've ever been in the in-between phase it's not nice that's where you're stuck because you're not who you were and you're not that new version of you yet so you're just kind of floating in the middle and the only way that you can get unstuck is to figure out why are you resisting becoming that version of you like what is it within you that fears that or thinks you're not worthy of that because nothing you do is random.

40:19Every behavior that you have is driven by a belief or a part of you or a past trauma or something like that. And so oftentimes we're blocked from stepping into that next level version of us and therefore that next level reality, because there's parts of us that are just resisting that, that are not ready to go for it.

40:36Lewis Howes:Well, it's almost like you have to kill off the person you once were in order to become the version of you that can attract everything that you want. It's maybe not kill off, maybe it's a bad thing, but it's like something needs to, you need to let go of something, whether it's like killing off or letting something die that was once inside of you to start living in a certain way that attracts the things you want. Yeah. And it's stepping into the alignment of what you want and the way of being that's necessary, that's required to attract what you want in the physical world. Right? Yeah. So when we see people growing a lot and they have a lot of success in the world and they keep reaching new levels.

41:15You can look at that person and just know what they're doing is they're changing into different versions of themselves constantly. That is a person who's constantly evolving, which means constantly letting go of parts of the old self. That's the journey.

41:28Lewis Howes:You can't bring that with you. You can't bring that with you. No. So I always say for every next level that you go to, you're going to have to sacrifice a part, if not multiple parts of you, because let's zoom it out for a second. Okay. We're all, we all came into these physical bodies, our souls descended into these physical bodies, we opened our eyes, we started to get conditioned and programmed by the world around us. We started to have different experiences, different traumas, different things happen. And we start building this identity. Okay. And oftentimes the identity that we are embodied within for most of our lives is not the vehicle.

42:01It's not the identity that corresponds with our dream life. Okay. So we end up with these characteristics and traits that are not aligned with who we really are. They're not aligned with our true path and our true purpose. And then we want to get in alignment with our true path and our true purpose. I'm like, this is going to be great. We don't realize we have to kill off a whole lot of this old identity in order to actually resonate energetically with this purpose, with this, with this dream life.

42:25Lewis Howes:And where does the ego play into all this? The ego. Oh my goodness. The ego gets a lot of, um, the ego has a lot of negative connotations. To me, the ego is not, is not negative. You almost want to think of it like this, right? The ego is just like the character that you're playing, right? It's your consciousness at your essence. You're not just this physical body. You're not just your mind. You know that because you can observe your mind, your thoughts. You can observe your body. So you're actually the observer, which is the pure consciousness within you. Okay. And the ego essentially is the character that your consciousness is playing in this physical world.

42:59So it's like light filtering in through a stained glass window. I think I heard someone say that before, but that's such a good analogy. you're the light but you're also the projection through the stained glass window which is the ego the character and even if you want to think of it like a video game you're the character in this video game but you're also the player of the character so the ego is kind of like your vehicle throughout this reality it's not negative it can be very limiting though because if you're playing in an ego character that's not aligned with the life that you desire then that is going to be standing in the way of you resonating with it vibrationally.

43:34Lewis Howes:So how does someone harness the power of their ego to be an alignment for good rather than something that's hurting them? Personally, I believe the most powerful first step for being able to manage your ego, you want to think of it like a wild horse because it will control you if you're unconscious of it. You need space from it. You need space. That is the ultimate step one. When you don't have space from your ego you think you are just the way that you are you don't realize that you have the power to change your characteristics and even if you look at you know when you wake up in the morning and you open your eyes and your consciousness flows into your brain you automatically start firing and wiring the same thoughts that you did the day before automatically it happens on autopilot you have like these well-trodden neural pathways in your head that are just they've been used for so long that the brain will just use them because it conserves the most energy to use them it's the easiest route.

44:28So you'll think the same things about yourself, about your life, about everything. And it's very difficult to step into a new version of you, a new way of thinking about things while you're still entrenched in the old one. It's like trying to jump across the Grand Canyon. It's like, it's really difficult. But if you can take your conscious awareness away from your old thought patterns and away from this old version of you and you can enter stillness, present moment awareness, you can realize I'm not just these thoughts. I'm not just this version of me. And then from there, you have the power to direct your awareness down a new pathway, one that corresponds with a new version of you, a new way of looking at the world.

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47:20Lewis Howes:You know, people say that you have a limiting belief and that's one of the things that's holding you back. What would you say is the opposite of a limiting belief and how can someone start to embrace that opposite? it i love this question okay so the opposite of a limiting belief is an empowering belief most people never have empowering beliefs because they doubt themselves and put themselves down constantly so how do we step into empowering beliefs first of all you need to realize that you have limiting beliefs and how you start to identify your limiting beliefs like we said earlier is you you look at your life and your results and you look at well what do i need to believe about money for this to be the case in my reality for me to be running out of money every month or what do I need to believe about myself and what I'm worthy of for me to not be able to attract more money in my life so you almost do like a case study of yourself and again it helps a lot if you're in that like observer energy that neutral state and you look at okay the results that I'm having in my life they are in direct flexion to my subconscious beliefs so if I want different results I need to figure out what am I believing here that's creating this experience from me you start to identify it the other way you can identify your limiting beliefs is to notice when you are speaking something over you that makes you feel limited notice when you say something that like shrinks you or makes you feel small or makes you feel like you can't do something like what like i can't or that's not possible that's not me i could never do that must be nice that kind of stuff like if you see someone else succeeding you're like oh yeah they could have it but I could never those are all pointing to limiting beliefs so that step one is to you have to identify first when you have limiting beliefs once you have realized oh wow okay I have a limiting belief you want to kind of figure out what the narrative is and where it's coming from oftentimes we have limiting beliefs that get into our subconscious mind at a very young age because when we're young our subconscious mind is like a sponge when we're children especially below the age of three or two years old we just take in all the information from our parents we don't have like that conscious part of the brain that can like divide out what we want to take in or not it's just automatic it's kind of a survival thing actually we need to in order to survive we need to just learn quickly and absorb information but if you grew up in a household where your parents were constantly stressed about money and they were saying money doesn't grow on trees that kind of stuff that gets right in there to your subconscious mind and once a belief is in your subconscious mind it gets to work automatically creating your perception of reality because if you think about it okay what is a belief a belief is a thought backed by emotional conviction typically like if all the thoughts you were to think were to get into your subconscious mind that would be crazy because you could think about a giraffe and then all of a sudden you'd just be perceiving all the giraffes in your environment it would just be mad so the only things that really get into your subconscious are the beliefs that are backed by a lot of emotional intensity or repetition, which cause an emotional intensity over time.

50:18That's what creates your subconscious beliefs, other than the beliefs that are formed in childhood when you're really young. And so when we think about a human being who has a certain set of beliefs, that's essentially the information that you have perceived throughout your life that your body has registered as important because you had an emotional reaction to it. And your subconscious stores that basically as a program to make sure you focus on that stuff because you've signaled that this stuff is important because you're emotionally tied up in it and so you will perceive in reality that which is in the box of your subconscious beliefs and nothing outside of that that'll be your experience and it will also dictate what your body does it will dictate the actions you take automatically and people have a hard time like believing this like oh if i change my belief things won't just change but your body is automatically already taking actions based on your subconscious beliefs like if you have a belief that i'm i'm not good with money you're automatically not going to be good with money.

51:12But if you switch that belief to, I am good with money, your body will automatically start being good at money because your subconscious mind controls your body. Right.

51:22Lewis Howes:Yeah. What for you then was the biggest limiting belief that you had to break through? And the moment you broke through it, you started creating a whole new world for yourself. For me, it's been constant, honestly. I'm constantly changing beliefs. I think one of the biggest ones and this seemed like a subtle one at first was believing that i couldn't make youtube content because i didn't have a prior qualification that stopped me for years really years how many years oh i would have been on youtube probably at the age of 15 if i did my life oh wow yeah okay and i remember i was i was getting to the point i was getting so fed up with not starting on youtube and i was like right what is it why can't i start what do i believe about myself what was it it was this belief that you you can't get on youtube because you don't have a qualification for what qualification for what i don't know this is beliefs sometimes they don't make sense yeah but i thought you know i need to have a super successful business or i need to have some kind of accolade for people to take me seriously or to feel like my voice matters or anything like that um so i sat down with that this is one of the clearest ones i can remember and by the way if you're rewiring a belief you just get your journal out and just write down okay where is this coming from what is this narrative what is this based on i was looking i didn't realize but i was looking at stuff in my reality that backed up this belief i was only really watching people who had achieved a lot of success before before so i was thinking right i'm not then so i can't do this i can't make content um then i looked a little bit deeper and i was like okay what do i want to believe instead so to answer your question about how to rewire belief we're going to go back to that now to this example essentially you reprogram a belief you You identify it, you figure out where it came from.

53:05And then, because when you figure out where it came from, essentially you start to reduce sometimes the emotional weight that it has. When you figure out that you have a belief from something ages ago that maybe it wasn't even yours, maybe it was your parents, a lot of the emotional intensity you felt before in that belief, it starts to drop off because you realise, oh wow, that's actually not really true or that doesn't have to be true for me anymore. So rewiring a belief, you essentially, you've got one belief that's already in your mind, right? That's the one that you've got. say that's your limiting belief.

53:33To get rid of this one, you need a new, more empowering belief that totally contradicts the old one. So if you have a belief, I'm broke, you need to have a belief like I'm abundant because that's an opposite belief. And if you can believe in that more, i.e. buy into your emotions more than the old one, it will displace it. I've called this the law of displacement. I don't know if I made that up. I feel like I have. But essentially, you rewire a belief by displacing it.

53:55Lewis Howes:So break it down. So give me an example of like a belief around something and how to displace it. Okay, so let's take the example of someone who thinks they're bad with money, right? They're going throughout their life. They're very bad at money. They realize, oh, hey, I have a belief that I'm bad at money. They want to look at, right, where did that come from? Maybe it came from times where they saw their parents be really bad at money and we just are not good with that kind of stuff. We're not like that, right? So they have this narrative instilled into them that they're bad at money. They're just not the kind of person who's financially - It's hard to make money.

54:26Lewis Howes:It's hard to manage money, whatever it might be, yeah. So from a young age, they might have this belief instilled into them that they are bad with money. And what they can do practically, just see where that comes from and then go, okay, what do I want to believe instead? This is like the pivotal point when it starts to shift. What do I want to believe instead? So I have a certain belief that I'm bad with money. Yeah. Now, what do I want to believe instead? I want to believe this. Yeah. You have to figure out what an opposite belief is in that same category that could replace it. Right. it. So an opposite belief is I'm good with money.

55:00Now, what a lot of people make a mistake with when they're trying to rewire a belief is they're trying to pick a belief that feels a million miles away. So someone who has the belief I'm bad at money, they might want to bring in a belief. I'm amazing with money. I'm like Warren Buffett, but that's not going to work because you can't buy into that with your emotions. So it's not going to rewire it.

55:16Lewis Howes:It's not believable. It's not believable. Right. No, your body doesn't believe it. You're lying to your immune system and everything. It's like, that doesn't feel right. I'm just lying. So how do you create a new belief that you've never experienced without lying to yourself? These are questions I've asked myself so much. I'm lucky for you to have an answer. You pick a belief you can believe in, even just like a little bit believe in. Pick the lowest hanging fruit belief that's more empowering than your old one. I don't know if you've heard of the law of polarity, but essentially you're moving up the spectrum from the negative end of a particular belief or a particular energy.

55:52into the positive end. It doesn't mean you have to go from I'm broke to I'm super wealthy. It could be I'm broke to I'm improving every day in my finances, right? It could be I'm bad at money to I'm getting better and better with money. I'm not as bad as I used to be at money. So you're trending along the spectrum into the more positive range. But the key thing is the moment you buy into the belief that you are getting better with money, that replaces the belief of I'm bad at money because the two can't exist at the same time because they're opposing each other. So you pick something you can believe in and then you buy into that with your emotions.

56:28How do you buy into that with your emotions? There's a few ways. The first thing you can do is close your eyes, calm yourself down, slow down your brainwaves, relax your body completely. Let your consciousness come out of your thinking mind and into your subconscious mind where it can connect to a new possibility, to your imagination. and then you just visualize what it feels like for you to live in this new belief as your new reality and you get your emotions involved so you picture in your mind using your imaginative powers what reality feels like how you feel in this new belief of I'm getting better and better at money you might play out a scene where you're doing up a budget or you're deciding not to splurge on something or you're deciding to invest in something and you key point you feel how that feels in your body what you're doing in that moment is you're bringing in the new thought of i'm getting better at money you're bringing in the emotion that's associated with that thought and the more you can feel that emotion the more it wires in the new belief because a belief is just a thought backed by emotion right so you have the frequency of the thought the frequency of the emotion when they come together, they get wired in.

57:40And when it reaches the threshold that you're feeling that more than you felt the old one, then it displaces the old one and enters your subconscious mind.

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1:01:04I think for me, when, when, when I'm personally trying to learn something, and this is what I feel like helps a lot of people, you kind of have to understand what you have to lose from operating the way that you're operating. Right. So for me working on impatience, I have to look at, okay, what is it costing me being impatient? It's costing me the present moment. It's costing me my power right now in this present moment. It's costing me my happiness and fulfillment right now in the present moment. And it's also blocking me from surrendering and allowing things to unfold actually as they need to.

1:01:42There's a really great verse I love. It's with man, this is impossible. With God, all things are possible. and essentially the meaning that i interpret from that is when we're forcing all the time in our logic and we're trying to figure everything out we're trying to think 20 steps ahead we typically get in the way of the divine path unfolding in the best possible way because whatever future outcome that you want it's going to be a different version of you at that outcome as we spoke about And what's logical to that version of you is very different to what's logical to this version of you. So you're trying to figure everything out from this old version of you.

1:02:23You're not even the version that's going to be at this new reality. So you're typically not going to know the ways how. Like you don't have all the information yet of how this thing is going to unfold. so a lot of people they stress themselves out getting impatient getting frustrated thinking 10 steps ahead when the only step you can really have control over and you can really figure out is the one that's right in front of you and i always say to people the path illuminates as you walk it you're going to know what next step to take and when you step on that step then you're going to know the second step to take and when you step on the second one then you're going to know the third one but you're not going to know all 20 steps when you're on the first step why because every step that you take that who you are who you're embodied in changes a little bit your energy changes a little bit your perspective changes a little bit and then when your perspective changes the steps that you can perceive to take change right so who you are on step zero is not the same as who you are on step five and that is why you need to be patient because you have to go all in on the step that's in front of you so that you can keep stepping forward as this new version of you.

1:03:30Your energy keeps shifting, your perspective keeps shifting, and then the path just unfolds as you walk it.

1:03:34Lewis Howes:It's so hard for people that want to know exactly what to do in the future. They want to strategize everything. I mean, I'm guilty of that as well. It's like, okay, I want to know exactly. I have a goal. I want to know all the steps it's going to take to get there, at least a semi-detailed plan. But a lot of time, the plan's going to change. Yeah. You know, so it's so someone has a goal in mind. You know, they're listening to this, they're watching this and they say, OK, I want to create this specific outcome in my life, my health, my relationship, a new career, business, a certain amount of money.

1:04:08Lewis Howes:And here's my detailed 10-step plan. What should people be thinking differently around accomplishing a goal instead of trying to have everything figured out from now until that goal happens? It depends on how different the goal is to where they are right now. If you're going to a reality, an experience in reality that's very different from where you have been, it's going to be a very different version of you. that's able to correspond energetically with that. And again, that version of you has a whole different perspective. What's logical for them, the ideas that they have, the actions that they take is very different from this version of you.

1:04:51That's why they can have those results and this version of you can't. So what I say to people, when they're trying to manifest a big change in their life, you write down the vision, you get it as clear as possible from what you know now, but you write that down so that you can then extract from the vision who is the version of you who's there already because that is the vehicle to get there that is the path don't worry about the path that your old mindset is making up your old mindset has gotten you the results that you have right now it's not going to get you to the new reality because essentially your logic has just been programmed by what you've experienced up until this moment it can't tell you how to get somewhere it's never experienced before okay so and that old version of you that old way of thinking it's not coming with you to this new reality so you don't need to listen to it okay so a lot of people they shoot themselves in the foot because they start trying to think oh my god i have this big dream i have this big vision but it doesn't make sense they're trying to make it compute with what they've experienced in the past when it's a totally different vibration it's a totally different reality and it's not going to make sense to the old version of them and it's okay that it them because that version of them is not coming with them.

1:06:00So tangibly, what can someone hold on to then? They hold on to becoming the new version of them. They go all in on becoming the version of them who's there already. And when they do that, their identity begins to shift, their beliefs begin to shift, their thoughts begin to shift. And then what they think is logical, the ideas that they perceive to take, the actions they perceive to take, that all changes automatically.

1:06:23Lewis Howes:If someone's in a breakdown right now, how do they even know there's a good version of them inside of themselves when all they feel is shame, guilt, embarrassment, loss, like they're not enough? And no matter what they do, they're never going to be enough. I think it starts with just educating yourself on why you feel the way that you feel. None of us were born ashamed. None of us were born traumatized. We're not feeling good enough. Okay. So we're all inherently whole. We're all inherently good enough. We're all inherently abundant. We're all inherently very connected. At our essence, we are, that can't be touched, that cannot be touched.

1:07:04But as we go throughout life, we go through different experiences that program us into believing that we're not good enough. we might have different like trauma experiences and when I say trauma experience I don't mean it doesn't even have to be a big trauma right a lot of people do have big trauma but a trauma is just something that was distressing it's a distressing experience that was not resolved in the moment so a trauma for a person could literally just be as a baby not getting enough eye contact that could be a trauma and as a baby you need a certain amount of eye contact Otherwise, you start to feel like you're not seen, like you're not important, like you're not valid, like you're not safe.

1:07:45That's a trauma. So a person as a baby who just didn't get enough eye contact from their mother, they might have an integral belief that I'm not worthy. I'm not enough just from that. OK, so I think it starts with understanding that we all have trauma. We all have trauma, except maybe like the enlightened masters that have walked this earth. I think they're pretty clear. but all of us as human beings we have inherited a lot of trauma and it's not to point the finger at your parents or your family and say oh this is their fault no because they had trauma so this world is operating in a certain state of consciousness that makes it quite difficult to meet all the needs of children and of people around us we're quite separated from each other and we're quite disconnected from the heart and from connection and from meeting our needs together as a collective and so naturally we inherit these traumas because of that when we're very young and those are the things typically that cause us to hold on to shame self-doubt feelings of not good enough i read recently that 80 of millennials don't feel good enough or more that is a problem right because every like and when you start to dig into the reasons why someone doesn't feel good enough this is the crazy thing you start to realize there's there's really no basis for it right so it starts with understanding that this you're not alone if you feel this first of all you're definitely not alone that you're in the majority and the reason so many people feel that way is because of the experiences they've had throughout their life that have not been

1:09:20Lewis Howes:resolved yet so it comes down to healing and and creating a a space for yourself to heal the different big or little traumas in your life that have been unresolved and resolving those and creating new meaning around those experiences or new relief around those experiences where they don't define your beliefs anymore. And when the past is defining who you are and your beliefs around what is possible for your life, then you're always going to feel stuck at some level, or you're always going to be repeating a pattern in a new environment, just replicating an old belief until you shift and start to heal the past so you can create space for new beliefs.

1:10:00Lewis Howes:You know, you hear this, you hear this thing about people saying like, take your power back. Like you got to take your power back. Does taking your power back, meaning starting a healing process, creating boundaries, doing shadow work? Like what is taking your power back actually mean? And where does your power live? I love this question. I only answered this question in my journal two weeks ago so you're like connected to me we're constantly entangled okay so a lot of people think that taking your power back is about saying affirmations and repeating to yourself i am confident i am powerful yes that stuff can can help you it can help direct your focus but really your power is found in facing all the parts of you that believe you don't have power really that's where your power is because that's the stuff that's keeping your power locked up and hidden away from you.

1:10:54Okay. So the ashamed parts, the parts that fear that you'll never be enough. Facing those, meeting those, integrating those is the path back to your power because inherently you're powerful. You are inherently very, very powerful. Bob Proctor used to say, you have enough power in your body to fuel an entire modern city for a week, right? We're very powerful beings. We were born powerful, but we've forgotten it because of the experiences that we've gone through throughout our life that cause us to believe that we don't have power.

1:11:26Lewis Howes:On a scale of one to 10, 10 being ultimate power for yourself, not in terms of like ruling the world or something, but you feeling ultimate power within yourself. One feeling like you have no power. Where are you currently on that scale? I'd say I'm about an eight. Okay. Yeah. Where were you a few years ago oh um a few years ago well about three years ago I was living in my mother's house in the spare room so I was about a two I would say yeah I was about a two and the journey from a two to an eight and it's ongoing it's constantly ongoing uh was really just getting honest with myself about why I was where I was and beginning to get curious about why I felt so bad about myself why I felt so disconnected from myself and how I could start to make my way back and you know you asked a question earlier when someone's at rock bottom within that rut how do they start to move out of it someone gets in a rut when they have been forcing living their life out of alignment for too long and running from themselves and forcing for too long.

1:12:43And so the only real way to get out of it and never get in it again is to start to actually meet yourself. When you're in that rock bottom, when you're really disconnected from your power, you need to come back into your body. You need to call your energy back, call your power back from all these things outside you, all the distractions, all the noise, all the social media, all the things that you're tying your value to, all of that. You need to come back into your body, regulate your nervous system, connect with yourself, begin to talk to yourself, begin to get to know yourself. That is how the journey begins.

1:13:14The most important relationship that you will ever have for your whole life is your relationship to yourself. It's the only person you're going to be with till the day that you die and then after with your soul is eternal, right? And so, you know, the things that you're thinking about yourself, the way that you speak to yourself, that connection you have to yourself. It's the foundation for everything else in your life. So if someone is in that phase, like where I was a couple of years ago, where I was so lost, so disconnected at that rock bottom, the way back to your power is by realizing you have the answers inside you and you need to come back to yourself to find them.

1:13:48Lewis Howes:Yeah. But a lot of people don't feel like they have the wisdom inside of them, right? They don't feel that way. What do you think is the biggest thing blocking you from your next level? And whatever that looks like doesn't mean it has to be creating more money or more followers or more results externally, but whatever that next level is for you. Mine is quite niche. Um, I'm going to answer honestly, even though it's quite niche for me, I'm, I'm a bit of a dance at the moment with balancing my masculine and feminine energy. I've been in my masculine for a really long time and I naturally have a good balance of both that like left and right hemisphere.

1:14:23But I think my next level is going to require me to be more in my feminine.

1:14:28Lewis Howes:What does that mean? So what we were talking about earlier, the impatience, more in that surrender, that slow, that present moment, more in my creative element. And that's going to require me to trust a lot more. Why is it hard for you or some women to trust and step into their feminine nature? Well, because we live in a masculine world. Masculine energy runs supreme in this world at the moment. Feminine energies are not prioritized so much. So we're in the realm of intellect, of logic, of reason, of will. Those are all masculine energies. So women, when we are born into this reality, and men and women have both masculine and feminine energies, right?

1:15:08So the ideal man is like 51 % masculine, 49 % feminine, and vice versa for a woman. We each have these polarities within us. That's our creative power, right? We need both of them. They balance each other out. And in fact, your inner masculine can't be at his most powerful if your inner feminine is not her most powerful. Because your feminine energy is like the gas. It's the one that visualizes, imagines, creates, plays. It's that presence, that regulation. And then your masculine energy is the action taker. It's the car, okay? So it's the one that's going to actually drive, make the plans, take the actions, execute, figure out the logical, how it's going to happen.

1:15:45You need both of them. It's the one that initiates as well, your masculine. So you need both. And what we see in the world today is most people are totally burnt out in their masculine. They're totally disconnected from their feminine because we're trained to just kind of hustle and hustle and hustle and sacrifice ourselves and our authenticity and everything just to make money or get success. When actually, if you were to come back and balance out these energies and connect to a meaningful vision for yourself and for your life, you would be far more successful. You would be successful on your own terms because you'd be feeding from your feminine energy a vision that feels aligned and lights you up.

1:16:22that's a lot of gas for your masculine and so naturally your masculine will want to take big actions and stuff to bring that vision to life because it's actually meaningful that's masculine and feminine energy and harmony but to answer your question why women feel like it's difficult to connect to their feminine is because masculine energy is is the dominant energy in the world and a woman typically she's more connected to her feminine than a man but if she's in a stressful situation if she's in survival mode the default is to go to the masculine control yeah or a sense of control yeah so the mask the the burnt out survival mode masculine looks like controlling things you can't control overworking procrastinating all of that is is like the kind of wounded

1:17:06Lewis Howes:masculine energy that we see so you feel like you've been more in the masculine energy yeah in the last few years well for me it's kind of gone up and down i was in my masculine energy for my whole life up until I had a little bit of a spiritual awakening. And then I was like, I don't need my masculine energy. I'm just going to live, laugh, love and flow throughout life. And everything's just going to come to me, which that doesn't work either, because yes, you can manifest certain things without taking too much action. But if you want to manifest your dream life where you're living in your purpose and your power, you need to take action.

1:17:38You need to have initiative. So for me, I've found that I need to basically every time my feminine grows, my masculine needs to grow and every time my masculine grows my feminine needs to grow again and so now I'm in a season of strengthening that inner feminine again nurturing a new vision again dreaming bigger again because I've kind of grown a lot within this level but now it's time for me to kind of evolve into the next level which means greater levels of trust connected to myself and

1:18:06Lewis Howes:then greater levels of action what are those ways of being look like then for you stepping into your feminine energy more frequently? What is that? Is that playing more trusting people to do certain jobs for you instead of you doing everything? Like what does that energy look like? So feminine energy is the energy of yes, receiving. So allowing yourself to receive support or anything like that. It's also just the energy of being, it's the energy of presence. And so for me personally, what that's going to look like going forward is operating even more from my heart, from my intuition than my intellect and my logic.

1:18:43Because I'm grateful I have a strong intellect. It allows me to break things down and break concepts down. But, you know, there's different types of intelligence. There's mind intelligence and then there's heart intelligence. So I'm tapping more into the heart intelligence where I'm leading more with, you know, connecting more to people, feeling more into what people need and just moving more from a place of intuition rather than trying to make everything make sense all the time.

1:19:06Lewis Howes:Yeah, yeah. From your heart. Yeah. more from your heart. That is feminine. That's feminine energy. Yeah. If you could go into the future 10 years from now to the version of yourself who is living a bigger dream in reality, in present time, 10 years in the future, what would she say to you right now that you really need to hear? She would tell me to have more fun in the process and enjoy the process more. It's interesting you ask that question because before this interview today, I connected with that version of me my like higher self in the future and i said do you have any like in a state i imagined her in front of me and i said what would you say to me and she was like just have fun today and every day from now on when you're doing something that's in alignment enjoy it rather than thinking into the future um so for me personally i think that's what my future self would say to me what's something you've been saying lately that has resonated with a lot of people just the more frequently you say it it's just like everyone resonates with it that you are not this persona that's been created from your past and from your conditioning you are so much bigger than that there's so much power within each and every human being and it's not going to be found from looking outside you looking at other people chasing all the things that don't matter to you it's going to be always found by coming back to yourself facing the things within you that are causing you to be disconnected from that power and the good news is you can do that you have all the tools that you need to do that you can heal anything that's happened to you you just have to have the courage to do it and that is where you will tap into like tremendous reservoirs of potential, of talent, of insight.

1:21:00It's all there within you, within each and every person waiting to be unlocked.

1:21:06Lewis Howes:Yeah. That's powerful. You've got a lot of great content over on YouTube, Katie Clark 2100 over on YouTube or on Instagram as well. Katie Clark official, people want to get more content, a lot of great, you do these great kind of whiteboard explanations, breaking things down. So I don't know if that's more in your masculine or feminine, And when you do that, but you're analytically breaking things down, which is great because people learn based on how you're creating it. So I think it's really cool. But maybe that's just something to look at, how you can step into this energy while you're creating those videos more in the future.

1:21:40Lewis Howes:But they've been really effective and helpful. So I want to acknowledge you for, one, having the courage to show up for your 15-year-old self, even if it was many years later, and create the thing you wanted to create, even when you didn't feel like you were ready. and two for sticking with it after you quit for a period of time sabotage yourself and coming back to it which is also a scary thing to do so i acknowledge you for doing that because you've been helping a lot of people over the last few years and your content the way you share it from your unique experience and your personality is of service to a lot of people so i acknowledge you for being consistent katie and for for helping a lot of people with your message you also got a meditation app coming out called presence.

1:22:24Lewis Howes:It's coming out pretty soon. So if they go to your YouTube channel, they can learn more about that. If they want to learn more on how to tap into this power that they have inside of them, they can check out the app as well. I've got a couple final questions for you, Katie. This one's called the three truths. Imagine you get to live as long as you want, but it's your final day on earth. And, um, you get to have everything manifest in your life and you get to create whatever you want to create. But on the last day in this hypothetical scenario, you have to take all of your content with you. So we don't have access to your message anymore.

1:22:56Lewis Howes:But you get to leave behind three final truths, three lessons that you would leave behind where we would get to keep and have access to. What would those three truths be for you? You are so much bigger than your circumstances. And the only way that you're going to find out that you're bigger than your circumstances is to start acting like you're bigger than your circumstances. So you are either defining your circumstances or your circumstances are defining you. That is the first one. The second one is the answers that you are looking for are within you. They're always going to be within you. And when you feel yourself getting lost or straying from the path or not knowing what's going on, getting caught up in things outside you, just remember that all of the answers, all of the clarity, it's all right there within you waiting for you to come back to yourself to be able to connect to it again.

1:23:52Well, the third one is that you are incredibly powerful and your power will be found in meeting, facing, healing, integrating all the parts of you that believe that you don't have any.

1:24:04Lewis Howes:And final question, What's your definition of greatness? To me, greatness is having the courage to be authentic, to be who you really are, to be who you were divinely designed to be. No matter what that requires you to face or get rid of or change, that to me is greatness because greatness is different to every single person. Yeah. But it depends on what you were designed to do in the flesh. Yeah. Katie, thanks so much for being here. Thank you. Appreciate you. Thank you. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.

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