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22:14And so, you know, going back to what we were talking about, like there was definitely times in my childhood, and I know if you heard you said it before, where like, we thought we were dumb. And that thought alone, especially from a child, eight, nine, 10 years old, is like, I am dumb. I am like I'm a stupid kid and I don't understand it. So then I would sit there in class and the teacher would teach something and I'm like, yeah, this isn't going through. Like this isn't, and it must not be going through because I'm dumb. And so I'm actually reinforcing that at every single moment. When does that pattern break?

22:45For a lot of people, it never does. Like if someone's listening, the good thing is if someone's listening to this podcast, there's been a moment in their life where they've gone, yeah, I don't like this anymore. Like there must be something else because for the, for most people, they're still in the patterns that you meet. And that's, that's one thing that's really important. Like I was, I was driving yesterday and you know, I was driving past a lot of homeless people and, um, and I was like, man, that's so sad because I, I just wonder what happened in their childhood. Like that's, I'm never judging anybody.

23:14I mean, my dad was, was kind of homeless for a little while and in and out of jail. And so I never look at somebody and judge them, but I look at them and I'm like, I wonder what patterns and things happen to get them to where they are. And I think everyone just needs to become aware of the patterns that they have. So you say autopilot. There's a study that Harvard did that found about 48 % of what we do is autopilot. Like I wouldn't even think about it. 48%. 48%. So half of what we do in the day is just very, I'm just going through the actions. And so, you know, like I love, we've talked about it before, Dr.

23:44Joe Dispenza, where he talks about this as well, where it's like, you could take yesterday and place it on tomorrow and it will be exactly the same unless you change. Same conversations, same thoughts, same actions. It's like 90 % of your thoughts are the same as they were yesterday. And so I think the first thing that's important for people is the awareness. Like it's simple. There's really three steps. The first thing is the awareness. Like who am I? What are the thoughts going through my head? What do I like about myself? What do I want to change about myself? You develop that awareness. The second thing you should do is when you find the things that you want to change and you become aware of them is you got to have some sort of practice, right?

24:17And the practice you decide now, not in the moment. and then you've got to have a lot of repetition around it to start to change so like for me one of the things i realized in myself that came from my childhood is i was i noticed about six seven years ago i was very judgmental in people i didn't like it like i don't i'm like i love people like why do i immediately see somebody and in my head talk trash about them like why it just popped up and it wasn't it was a and i always say you can't change it's a pattern it's a pattern right you can't always change your first thought you can always change your second thought and so i remember there was one time I was in a grocery store and this guy had that, you know, this huge Bluetooth speaker at a grocery store ordering, you know, meat in the meat section.

24:54He had the big one that came across in his mouth and immediately I judged a guy and I forced myself to sit there. That was the awareness. I noticed, I noticed that was the awareness. I noticed I'm being judgmental. I'm aware that I don't want to be this way. My practice is I will then take three things that I like about the person. I'll say it in my head, stop what I'm doing. And I will say it. So I sat there. I hope I didn't look like a creep, but he didn't know I was there doing it. And I'm looking at the guy. I'm like, he looks like he's really nice. I've really liked what he's wearing. And at the same time, he's got a really good physique.

25:28He looks like he works on himself. And I was like, that was a practice. And then I was like, okay, cool. Now I can go about my day. So I stopped it in the moment because that was a pattern that I want to stop and I want to change within myself. And the practice is I was going to do the three things that I like about them. I said it. And then the last part is the repetition. So every time I did it, I noticed myself start to do this. I taught this to somebody who was in one of my groups and she was like, oh my God, I'm so judgmental as well. So when I noticed myself judging somebody, I'm immediately going to say, and I love them.

26:00And that's how I'm going to end it. And so then she, like six months later, she comes in and she's like, I was at a coffee shop the other day. And I noticed this woman, she was like, you know, she was taller than all the guys. She was just a big boned woman. She was like six foot two. And my immediate thought was, holy crap, that's a big woman. And she said, without even thinking, I immediately went, and I love her. And she was like, and I noticed myself go from judgmental to the love side of it. So she could notice six months in the transition of herself. She does that for another six months.

26:28She's just going to be able to look at people and be like, I love this person. I love this person. And that's what we're trying to do is identify the patterns we want to change. And then have a practice that we decide of what we're going to do when that awareness pops up. Why do you think so many people are judgmental of others? I mean, I could tell you from myself and I could tell you from a lot of people I've worked with is I think we have a low self-worth, you know, and I think that it was it was easy for me to bring somebody down because it made me feel better about myself. Right. And it's easier in the moment to be like, oh, yeah, screw this person.

26:57Oh, yeah. That whatever it is that I'm jealous of, whatever it is that they have that I don't have my low self-worth they came from. And I could tell you where it came from, from my dad not being around because I didn't feel like I got my dad's love. My dad was an alcoholic and so he wasn't really around. He passed away when I was 15 for being an alcoholic. And I always felt, I ended up finding this out like years down the road when I started working on myself, that I felt like I came second to my dad's love. I came second to my dad's love to alcohol, right? And so alcohol - So he cared more about drinking than spending quality time with you.

27:30When in reality, as an adult, right now that I can look at, I was like, he had traumas that he never overcame. But I felt as a kid, he loves alcohol more than he loves me. That's why he's not showing up for me. And so that's the thought, the subconscious thought that I had, I never was aware of until my, my twenties. And so what happened was I, because I felt second to him, I felt second to everybody else around me. And so how do I make myself in the moment feel better than everybody else? Judge them. Talk. I wouldn't say anything bad to somebody's face. But in my head, I would judge them. I would be jealous.

28:02I would want what they had. Whatever it might be. Because I need to make myself in this moment feel better than the other person around me. Because I just never overcame that pattern at that point in time of feeling like I was second. So the way that I make myself not feel second and feel better than and feel number one was I would judge everyone that was around me. how did it make you feel when you judged others and what is that what do most people feel when they're in judgment of other people i mean we think that it's going to make us feel better if it makes us feel worse right like i never felt like man i'm so glad i judged that person right right i never felt that way and so it was like i feel like what happened with me is it was it was like a momentary like hit of dopamine okay i'm better than this person but then in reality and made me feel more disconnected from people, right?

28:46So I felt more disconnected. And I started pushing my feelings away for years and years and years. There was a moment where I finally came and understood, like, I put my walls up so much that I'm letting nobody in at all. And it was ruining all of my relationships. And so I think what I did was I would judge other people first. I would try to cut them down in some sort of way because I was so afraid of being vulnerable and being seen because in my mind, I thought with what happened with my father, like you can't trust being close to somebody like someone who loves you is going to leave you. And so you can't let somebody in because that's just, you know, when you look at the root word of vulnerable, it's vulnerable, which means to be wounded, right?

29:31I didn't want to be wounded. So I would put up these walls and there was a moment in my life where I was like, do I just have no feelings? I actually thought that at one point. Yeah. I was like, do I not have feelings for people? And I was like, no, I'm actually, what I, years down the road realized I have so much feelings that I, I think a lot of people feel this way. I've had people, one lady specifically, I remember she's like, I have no feelings towards anybody. And I was like, actually, I think it is as you have so many feelings, you're afraid of what, what could happen if you let them out.

30:00Wow. Like I'm like, I'm about a half a second away from crying my entire life. Like I feel things so much. I was, I swear to God, this is a true story. I was on the way over here and I was listening to Lewis Capaldi or whatever his name was. And I started thinking about like how amazing life is. And I started tearing up on the way over here because I was like, I can't believe I have this life. Like, this is so amazing. Like, I'm so grateful for everything that I have. So I think I'm so close. And I guess from my mom, my mom's very emotional too. Like I'm so close to like emotions pouring out. And as a man, like we're taught a boy, you know, big boys don't cry, especially in sports.

30:33Right. So we build up walls, build up walls. Things happen with my dad. I build up walls, I build up walls, but then I get into relationships, ruined every one of my relationships with women because of it. And so when I started working with my wife on it, like I had to, okay, she's getting close. I need to be okay with her getting close. So how did you break the pattern with her versus ruining all the other relationships? Yeah. I can literally look back on all my other relationships before her and be like, yeah, I screwed that up. Yeah, I screwed that up. And I think that's the point of relationships.

31:02and the point of everything is to screw things up so that you can try to get better. Screw it all up so you can figure it out. And so with her, luckily she's incredible. And the thing I love most about her is she just gives love, right? And she's this space of love. And we went to a friend who is inside of, in Austin, about two years into our relationship and he's a couples therapist. And he's like, hey, if you and your girlfriend want to come by, just come on by. And I was like, cool, that sounds fun. Let's see what it's like, right? And what he ended up talking to us about is like, we have two different love styles.

31:34There's the love languages, which is important, but we have two different loving styles, which is hers is an anchor, which means she's good. She's good in love. She shows love. Both of her parents are still together, so there's that aspect of it. She's secure, right? And she's very secure. Me, on the other hand, is I was what he calls an island, which is like, I'm okay with being alone. And so the one thing that he said to me that was really interesting is he's like, he's like it's not just about how you relate to each other like mentally and talking to each other you also have to be very aware of your nervous systems and rob's nervous system lights up whenever you come in too too fast like with someone who's an island you take time to warm up in someone's presence so that was one thing that really helped us is i'd be sitting working trying to grow the business and stuff she would come in with all this love and i'd be like red flag red flag red flag like you know someone's attacking the the fort just loving you just by giving me love.

32:30That was it. Because it was like, I don't know if this is safe, right? Because I never felt safe with that, right? And so what happened was we started learning like, okay, it takes me a little bit longer to warm up. So there'd be a few minutes where she would come in, she talked to me and stuff, and then she started giving me love. And it was like, oh, now I can receive this. And so for me, it was just like understanding like, okay, there's hers love style. There's my love style. There's definitely five love languages that go in there. And really, I think it's more anything else is like, I, um, I think that when I look at like what love is, like we see love and as, as on, on TV is like head over heels and it's more lust than anything else.

33:07And you fall for each other. So much love. What I think love is, is feeling safe in the presence of somebody else where, you know, you have so much to work on and they have so much to work on. And I feel safe. I feel safe in my wife's presence to work on all of my childhood trauma with her through her and being able to try to rewrite that story through her. That's cool. Yeah. And that's, that's the way that I see it. It's like, I love her. She's amazing. She's like the rock in my life. Like she's a glue of everything. But at the same time, it's like, I have never felt in a moment unsafe and that she doesn't want the best for me.

33:42And she wants to help me with whatever it is that I'm working through. It's pretty sweet. It's pretty nice. But it's hard to get there. It's hard. It's hard. You know, it took years of opening up. Really? We've been together for 10 years now, right? 10 years? 10 years yeah we celebrated 10 years last month when did it start to switch over for you we felt emotionally safe in the relationship with your wife i mean it was it's slowly like last process i'm still working on that one um no i would say probably probably six years man like it took it took time in in the the thing that that i'm grateful for is that she saw me working on it me trying to get better and me opening up that she, uh, didn't leave because like she wasn't getting what she wanted or something like that.

34:26And so I think that, that it was me opening up and it's, you know, it's a relationship. We both have things that we need to work on. So, you know, there's definitely times where she's working on things that I'm like the, the one that's solid for her. And so I think that for me, it probably took like six years. It took, it took until we went, we went and traveled, um, about three years into our relationship. we went and traveled for six months overseas. We were completely out of the country for six months. And I didn't realize it, but I was like a make or break moment in our relationship where she was like, I don't know if this is going to work.

34:55Yeah. And then after she was like, this is definitely working. She's like, because there was no fights, there was nothing and it worked. And so she's like, okay, I think that after we came back from that is where we really were a whole lot tighter. And so probably about three years in there and then six years where it was like, I'm going to keep opening myself up. And I'm sure I'll look back in 10 years to this conversation and be like, oh yeah, there was still a lot that I wasn't open up to, you know? So it's like, I feel like I'm the most open, but I'm sure that over years, um, I'm going to keep finding more aspects of myself that I need to work on.

35:23You haven't arrived yet. No, that's, that's an important, and that's an important thing, man. Like, I think that everyone listening to this podcast needs to, to realize like, I, for years of self-development, you know, I've been working on myself now for 19 years is when I first got into self-development. What is 19? I'm about to turn 38. Um, 19 years. And for, I would say the first 17 years, I was like working towards a destination of like getting there, whatever getting there was. And now I've come to the realization of, um, I hope I live to a hundred years old. And if I live to a hundred, I'm still going to be working on myself.

35:58And it's like cliches are cliches. Cause I think they're true where it's like, not about the destination. It's a journey. Like it's not about getting there. It's about this process of like, you know what? I'm going to work on myself. and I'm going to love myself while I'm working on myself. And it's a journey. And as soon as one thing, I get better at one thing, there's probably going to be another thing that I need to work on. What do you think are the three energies that are blocking people the most from success, love, and fulfillment in their life? I think the main thing is people feel like they're not good enough.

36:30We feel like we're not worthy of it. We feel like we're not smart enough, not pretty enough, you know, when I look at people's paradigm and their identity, they have of themselves. I always say it's like, it's like ice cream, but it's where it's all, all ice cream is ice cream. It's just different flavors where it's like everybody's core. And I've worked with thousands and thousands and thousands of people in this, and I still haven't found one person whose core feeling is I'm not enough. And if I'm not enough, I won't be loved. And that's, that's what I found with every person. The way it shows up in other ways is like, um, I'm not smart enough.

37:02I'm not worthy of love. I'm afraid of failure. I'm afraid of success. I'm not going to be able to provide for my family. All of those stem back to because you feel like you're not enough. I won't be able to provide for my family because you feel like you're not enough to be able to get there. I feel like I'm going to fail because you feel like you're not enough to succeed. And so then the next question that pops up with people is, well, why does everybody feel like they're not enough? And so this is, when I say like I spent a lot of time in silence, this one thing that took my wife a long time to get used to is my silence.

37:31Like, I'll just go outside and I'll sit for two hours. She was like, what did I do wrong? Like, that's what she thought you like. That was her thing she was working on. But I'll sit there and I'll just think. And I'll think for a long time. And the thing that drove me the craziest was like, why do we all feel like we're not enough in some sort of way? And I have a couple of theories and ways that I think that it pops up. The first thing is that, you know, if you look at a child, if a child, you know, is six months old and you have your drink next to them when you're changing them and they kick it off and they spill coffee all over the ground.

38:03You're not going to yell at a six months old, right? If they're one year old, they're learning how to walk and they knock your coffee off onto the ground and they spill it onto the floor. You're not going to yell at them at one years old. But at some point, a parent treats a child as if they're an adult and they think they should know it by now. And this is not me judging parents in any sort of way. That's the hardest job in the world. But at some point, we all have a break where the parent goes, what are you doing? It could be three years old, it could be four years old. And the child immediately thinks there's something wrong with me because they feel a retraction of their, their, their parents love, which is the most safety that they can feel.

38:36And then there's a break off and the average child is reprimanded eight times more than they're praised. And because a lot of times, a lot of times parents are trying to keep their children alive. You know, like kids are wanting to jump off of big walls. And so what we do is we, we parent those same way that our parents did, which is usually yelling at the child. And so the average child is reverberated eight times more than their priest. Fear. Yeah, fear. Which goes to, I'm not smart enough. I'm not good enough. Eight times more. I'm not doing it right. I'm not doing it right. I don't know what I'm doing.

39:05And a lot of times we have this built into our system after a while of looking over our shoulder and being like, mom, am I doing this right? Am I doing this right? Am I doing this right? And we develop this, I don't know what I'm doing on my own. I can't do this. I'm not smart enough. I need somebody else to tell me what to do. someone else's approval. Right. All of that. And so in, in turn, what happens is we start to develop this, like I'm not enough. And it's all just different flavors of I'm not enough. And so what happens is, and I can speak for myself is what made me think that I would finally be enough is achievement, right?

39:37Success. Success. Once I make a certain amount of money, once I have a certain amount of followers, once I get to this level of success, then I'll finally be enough. And then I got there and I realized, yeah, you're still that hurt little boy inside, right you're still that there's nothing that's different about you and uh you know we spoke about this the last time on the podcast where you were talking we we kind of spoke about it and you said there was a guy that was in your your building that that just jumped off the building right super successful and so we think like so many of us think that success and money are going to get us a point of fulfillment you'll never get there nothing external will ever fulfill you so like my my path has been external external external my path from now on like what i'm working on and it's a daily process is, can I feel like I love myself and I'm fulfilled without having to do anything?

40:25And that's a process and that's really hard to get to. And I meditate on a journal on it and I sit in silence and I just think about like, think about how far you've come, think about all that you've done. And even though you've done all of these things and you have stuff to show the world, you still feel like you're not enough. Why is that? And so I've been working on that and just being like, you know what? There's nothing that you need to do today. I can if I want to, but there's nothing you need to do today. Nothing that you can accomplish today that can make you more of who you already are.

40:56And as you are, you deserve love. And so instead of going and seeking for that love, why don't you just actually try to do it right now in the moment that you're sitting with yourself? And so there could be three energies, but I think they're all just different moldings of that one energy of I'm not enough. And so I think that if most people can realize, like there's a meditation I used to do from a guy named Muji. And he used to always say, he said, you have no pockets, you have no storehouse, which basically means like, no matter what you do until the day you die, you cannot be more or less of what you currently are.

41:30And so why don't you just decide to give yourself love and acceptance in this moment without having to achieve anything and then go out into the world and achieve from the feeling of already feeling like you're whole versus you feel like there's a void inside of you. What happens when we achieve something when we feel like we're not enough? I mean, it's usually not that great. Like, I don't know about you. Like, I had this moment two weeks ago, I think it was, with my VP of operations. And she was like, she was like, she was like, you ever sit back and like think about what you've done? And I'm like, you're already laughing because you're like, yeah, I don't even do this enough either, right?

42:10and she's like she's like you ever like think about like like we were talking about coming out here to LA and like how I'm on your podcast and all these amazing podcasts like things that I've wanted to do for years are like all come she's like you wrote a book last year like very few people write books and she's like have you celebrated any of that and I was like no and she's like why and I was like I mean all of my friends have podcasts all of them have books so it just seemed like which is kind of a good thing because it's like the five the people which you spend the most time with. Like, you know, I'm spending time with you.

42:39You've written three books and I can be like, Oh my God, I'm not good enough. Cause I've written three. Right. But it's like, even with all of the, all of the achievement and success, there's like, as soon as you get there, there's the next thing. Before my book even came out and it was like about to launch, I already had the idea for the next one. I was like, this is so stupid. Like, why don't you just sit there first and be like, yeah, you wrote a book. This is amazing. You never thought you would write a book. It was never a goal of yours. You know? And you, and then, and so that's why I I started kind of like tearing up this morning as I was driving.

43:09Listen, Lewis Cabaldi and whatever you spell his last name. I don't even know what it is. But I was sitting there, I was driving and I was like, man, there was a time when you were sitting in your friend's house that you were renting a room from him and you were like, I'm going to start this podcast thing. And at first it was me and my friend together. And then he ended up before he launched it, he's like, yeah, I don't want to be a part of it. I was like, okay, I guess I'll do this alone. But they were terrible and they were horrible. And I would never, I can look back at that and be like, man, you've come so far.

43:37You've done so much. But a lot of times we're like looking out of the front windshield saying, what's next? What's next? What's next? What's next? Versus like, take a moment every single day to look in the rear view mirror and go, you know what? I've done a lot and I'm proud of myself for what I've done. Yeah. I have a photo. I'm going to pull it up real quick. that my sister sent me recently. And it's of myself when I was probably like five or six, right? Oh my God. So it's like there's a little car, you know, I'm playing with. Yeah. My sister sent a video of me like playing with this little toy car.

44:15My grandmother is filming it. Yeah. And it's, you know, I was watching this video and then she sent me a screenshot of me like smiling at the camera as this little kid. And I showed this to my fiance, Martha. You probably won't be able to see it in the camera here, but I showed this to my fiance, Martha, the other day. She goes, wow, I would have really liked this kid. Like this little boy, you would have been like a good friend of mine. I was like, really? I just felt like I was worthless. I just felt like I was the youngest. I was stupid. Everyone was better than me. And I just didn't feel like I was enough.

44:46She was like, nah, you had blonde hair. I would have been attracted to you, right? And I was like, okay. But she goes, you know, the interesting thing is like, isn't it crazy that your soul was in this little body and you've transformed and changed over the last 35 years now. And this is a past life. She goes, past lives doesn't have to be before you were born and thinking about like past lives. But 35 years ago was a past life. Your cells were different. The way you thought was different. Your environment was different. Your habits were different. It was a past life. And your soul has stayed inside of this body that has transformed and ascended from what it was 35 years ago, five years ago, two years ago, three months ago.

45:32We're constantly changing and evolving, whether we like it or not. But we have to ask ourselves, do we want to change our thoughts and our habits and our actions? And it's crazy to think, Like I never, you know, as a kid, I'd always dreamed of having a life where I felt loved and I loved myself and felt like I was able to make an impact and fulfill the dreams that I had. Right. And so Martha, she'll look at what she does is with me every week. She'll look at me. We'll just be walking down the street and she'll just look at me and start crying. She'd be like, wow, life is so amazing. Like we're so blessed.

46:06She starts tearing up and just like almost every week. She's like, I'm so grateful for life. I'm so grateful for the life we get to live. I'm so grateful we have each other. we both get to follow and pursue things we enjoy. I'm like, yeah, it's beautiful. And I think a lot of people don't recognize, even when they're in a bad situation or they're stressed out or struggling, I don't think people realize how much of a gift it is to experience life. And you and I both have been in times where we've been stressed out, broke, not feeling enough, all these different things for years. And even then, it took me a while.

46:41I remember when I started to shift my mindset and shift my energy around the situations I was in, where I was on my sister's couch, not making any money, had a surgery and just feeling like, what's the point of life? And I remember when I started to shift it from a depressed state and a victim energy into more of, let's experiment and let's have fun with where I'm at. Everything started to change for me when I shifted that energy of victim, stress, overwhelm. And it doesn't mean it wasn't still challenging, but I made it more fun moment by moment. I made it an adventure. I think having that mindset really allowed me to take actions from a more positive state.

47:22Those positive states created more positive results day by day, which eventually led to something over time that was more positive. And I think if people can start thinking that way, it will help them to attract what they want quicker. And you talk about this concept, this exercise called future pacing. And I'm curious if you can explain what future pacing is, how we can apply this today to start manifesting what we want in a faster and better way. Yeah. I was like getting a little bit teary-eyed when you were talking about your walks with Martha, because my wife does the same thing. I know. And she keeps me grateful, right?

47:59Like it's good to have that where she's like, she'll start tearing up too. And I'm like, what is it? Because she's like - It's random moments. And then my wounds go, what am I doing wrong? I'm like, what did I do? And she's like, and so it's like, life is just so good. It's so amazing. It's amazing. Do you ever think about how beautiful it's like, I'm like, oh my God. Yeah. Thank you for reminding me of this. And so, um, so yes, I definitely agree with you. Um, the thing that, that is the reason why I actually changed the name of the book from the psychology of taking action to level up is because of kind of what you're talking about, which is my view of the world is I feel like the world is a video game.

48:34And it happens to work for me because I'm real competitive. So I'm like, let me see how I can get to the next level. And so when you look at like future pacing, I'll kind of explain it and I'll explain it in the view of the video game itself. So I always look at life as if I'm in a certain level, you know, like I'm at a level, I'm at level 37 next month, I'm gonna be a level 38 of this game. Right. And at level 37, there's been many challenges that have come to me. And I used to be the same way where I was definitely a victim and I would make excuses. And I had a conversation with my, when I was 19, I hired a one-on-one coach and we met every single week.

49:12And he was trying to help me get better at sales and get better at taking actions like I was supposed to. And I was always late for calls. I was always making excuses why I didn't take the actions. And then he had a legitimate conversation with me. And he goes, hey, if a business fails, whose fault is it? And I was like, the CEOs. He said, if a business succeeds and somebody's able to get all thousand employees to go towards one mission, they succeed. Whose fault is that? And I was like, that's the CEO's fault. He said, now, if you get to the end of your life and you are just regretting it and you don't like what it's become and you feel like you wish you would have done more and you wish that you would have had more potential that you would have brought out to light, whose fault would that have been?

49:48And I was like, that'd be my fault. He goes, but if you get to the end of your life and it's everything that you wanted it to be, and you saw every single challenge as something that was built for you to improve and you improve with every single challenge you get to the end of your life and you look back and you're like, man, I'm so glad everything I did. Whose fault would that be? And I was like, that would be mine. He said, the problem is Rob, you're acting like a victim and you're making all of these excuses. Your life will not change until you decide to be the CEO of your life and blame everything on yourself, good or bad.

50:17We talked for two years. That's the only conversation I remember. All of them were good. That was the most probably life changing moment that I've ever had in my entire life. Cause I was like, I get it. It's all my fault. And so with every challenge, it went from the challenge that would come to me and then I make excuses to why I was folding. Oh yeah, it's because of this. And then it became, oh, this challenge is coming to me. It's my fault. I need to be the one that ends up, you know, doing something with this. And so the way that you look at that of the whole course of life is I remember, and the way I came up with future pacing is I was planning this in 2019 2019 before stuff got real crazy, right?

50:54I was going to do a big event in 2020, right? That didn't happen, but I didn't know at the moment. And so I felt all of these fears. Oh my God, I'm the only person on my team. I don't have a team. I'm not good with logistics. I don't know how I'm going to do this. I got to get people to fly in. I got to find a hotel. And all of the reasons why not, which usually happens with us, came into my head. And I said, okay, let me, this is, I don't feel good. Let me flip this. And I was at a coffee shop in Austin at Lazarus is what it's called. I remember exactly where I was doing it. And I said, okay, the moment I'm going to write from the moment where everyone's leaving the event.

51:28I had 300 people show up to event in Austin, Texas. This is how I did it. And I started writing from the future version of me that just accomplished that thing. And I started writing it as if it was just a journal entry. And I started writing it and I was just like letting it flow out of me. And then what happened was, it was really interesting. I got done. It was like entire plan. Like it was literally the entire plan that was hard for me to access because I was in so much fear. When I put myself into the future version of myself, it was like all of the downloads. And said, how did I do this?

51:59Right. Which we ended up doing the event just a couple of years later. So it ended up working, which is what's awesome. Once again, time didn't work out the way I wanted it to. That's the way the universe works. But it did eventually happen. And so what happens is a lot of times when we decide that we want to change, the immediate feelings of fear pop up because our ego wants to keep us in the exact same place because that's safe, change is a threat to the brain. So it's all unknown. We don't know what's going to happen if we get outside of our comfort zone. But if we can take ourself and put ourself into a future level or into a future where we accomplish this thing and say, I just, you know, if someone's goal is make$100 ,000 a share, I just made$100 ,000 in 2024.

52:37This is exactly how I did it. And just let it flow out of them. One thing that I've told people many times, it's really interesting, the feedback I get. Some people say that the exact words of, I was still writing, but I didn't feel like I was writing it anymore. It was just kind of flowing out of me as if I wasn't the one doing it. It was just God of the universe just flowing out of me and saying, this is what it is. And then a lot of times people look at it and they go, oh my God, this is the exact plan of how to do it. And then when you look at that, it gets so exciting to look at that plan where you're like, all right, yeah, I kind of want to take some action now because now I'm not thinking about the failure of it.

53:11I'm thinking about the success of it. And I'm thinking about what that would be like. So it's just the flipping of looking at the future in fear versus looking at the future in excitement, which is really interesting. One thing I talk about a lot, and I don't know if people truly get it in their bones, is that we are so incredible as humans. Our brains are so incredible that you and I right now can sit in this moment in your basement and think about a future. And no matter what that future is, our brain can actually make our body feel the feelings of it's happening right now. The problem is we sit here and we go, I'm going to start this business.

53:47And then our brain immediately flips to, well, the business could fail. These are all the reasons why it could fail. And we feel the feelings right now in this present moment where there's no problems of a business failing. It makes it really hard to take action when you feel the feelings of failure and fear and anxiety inside of you, being broke, all of that. And so it's a lot harder. But we could also sit in this moment and we can, this is what the power of visualization is, and visualize what it could be, what we want it to be, what it's going to feel like when we do end up hitting that goal.

54:16And we can feel those feelings. And so instead of having to like white knuckle our way to our goals, which I did for years and push and push and push and bash my head into walls and just go anyways. Instead of having to push, I can actually feel pulled towards my goal because I'm being excited by what's about to come down. what's about to come for me because I'm feeling the feelings of the success versus feeling the feelings of the failure. Interesting. Yeah. What do you think is everyone watching or listening right now, what do you think is the number one thing they need to hear in their lives?

54:49Yeah. Something that I've been working really hard on that's not the easiest, you just need to learn to accept reality. And I find that most of the time what we're doing is we're just, like I just said, we're kind of like white knuckling our way through life. And one of the things I've been really working hard on recently is accepting every aspect of myself. So for years, there was like parts of myself I wanted to change, right? And now it's me looking at those parts and saying, I love this part of me as much as I love the other parts of me. Could you still want to change those parts of you? Sure.

55:28Well, the thing is when you actually accept them, they start changing. We think like, okay, what's the next step? What's the next thing that I have to do? And so what's really interesting is like, let's say for instance, that I'm very selfish, right? And I'm like, okay, so I've understood this conflict inside of me of selfishness, right? And I want to change this aspect of selfishness. So inside of me, there's a conflict, which is selfishness. When I want to change an aspect of me, I create another conflict. So now I'm fighting two demons at one time, which is the selfishness and the aspect that I want to change the selfishness inside of me.

56:03But if I look at myself and I say, like Alan Watts says this, like he always says, like, all of us are just rascals. Like there's parts of you that is a rascal. Like there's a part of me that is amazing. There's a part of me that's loving. There's a part of me that's sweet. There's a part of me that wants to give love to every person that I meet. There's also a part of me that is selfish. There's a part of me that's judgmental. and there's a part of me that could be, you know, sometimes like there's, there's parts of me that I don't necessarily enjoy as much and I want to change them when I want to change them.

56:35It creates another conflict, which is now I'm fighting, I'm fighting aspects of myself versus saying, you know what? Yeah, there's parts of Rob that are selfish. And I can see from his childhood why those parts of him exist. And I know what that kid was going through where he said, there's no one else that's going to be taking care of me. I'm alone at this. I need to develop is selfishness. And I can go, you know what? I can still love that part of me. And what's interesting is when you stop resisting it and you start accepting it, it just kind of fades away a little bit more. And it's not about getting rid of it.

57:06It's about if it's at a seven out of 10, it starts getting to a four out of 10, a five out of 10. And so if I can just accept myself fully and I can go, yeah, there's parts of me that are beautiful and there's parts of me that are not beautiful. The outward world is just a reflection of all of us in the internal. There's parts of this world that are beautiful or parts of us that are not beautiful. And so I can look at the world and be like, I want to change this aspect of the world. I always go, does that aspect of me live inside of me? And I'm like, it does. Okay. So how can I love that part of me?

57:36And so the biggest tip I can give people that I am unconsciously trying to work on as much, this is what I'm spending the majority of my time in silences, is when I identify parts of myself that I want to change, instead of trying to change, can I just accept? And what's really interesting is when you accept, it makes it way easier to love yourself. Which when I said like, we're all, our biggest fear is I'm not good enough. And if I'm not good enough, I won't be loved. Whatever we're searching for from the external, we're actually searching for from ourself. And so what's keeping me from loving myself is wanting to change myself.

58:09And so if I can go, I don't want to change myself. I want to love myself more. There's so much less resistance to the world and everything just seems a lot easier. That's big. So stop trying to change yourself, start accepting yourself, and then you'll start to change. Right. And you'll start to love yourself. So a lot of people are like, I want to get better at self-love. Well, I want to get changed so I can love myself. Right. Exactly. As opposed to accepting and loving yourself and knowing you still have work to do. Love, I believe, is if you look at a child, love is a natural state of a human, which has accidentally been programmed out of us, I think, through a lot of parents and society and all that stuff.

58:49And so a lot of people are like, I want to work on self-love. How do I love myself more? The key to it is not trying to change yourself to love yourself. The key to it is to self-love is self-acceptance. If I accept all aspects of myself and I stop resisting, the natural state that I flow back to is just a state of self-love and it's love for myself, but it's also love for everyone else around me. We're talking about patterns here. and your whole show, Mindset Mentor, really gets people in a framework around how to think differently to support themselves for success and more peace and abundance.

59:25We talked about money briefly the last time you were on. Yeah. I'm curious. That video went crazy viral too. Did you see that? It went crazy, yeah. I like that people like that. That was awesome. I know. I'm curious, you know, since most of our life is about the patterns we live in and we're on autopilot, How important is our mindset around money? And what are a few things we can do every day to start cultivating a different mindset of abundance versus a pattern of scarcity that we've had our entire lives around money? yeah i mean this is one thing i've worked on a lot which is i and i'm still currently working on it i'm probably working on it till the day i die i'm accepting that right is um is that uh the universe is abundant and i think scarcity only lives in the human mind like when you look at i when i sit outside and sit in silence i have a backyard and a bunch of trees and some property stuff.

1:00:21And I always look at it and I go, okay, I'm a part of nature. I'm not separate from nature. And so there's aspects of me that were the same. And I look at nature and I go, what can I learn from nature? And I've started asking myself and trying to figure this out. And if you look at an apple tree, the point of an apple tree is not to give a human apples to eat. A point of an apple tree is to reproduce and make more apple trees. And so the way that it does it is not by... An apple tree does not make one apple to try to make another apple tree. It makes, on average, about 800 apples a year that could fall off, go roll down, be outside of the shade of it, and it could get in the sun and they could turn into an apple tree.

1:00:58That's abundance. If you look at the universe that we live in, I think there's 200 trillion stars that are in this universe that's constantly expanding. There's abundance in everything, all over the place, all the time. And if you look at like, even just to go to like a human creating another human, I think it's like hundreds of millions of sperm that men create every single day to go to one egg. And so it's like there's abundance to try to make this reproducing thing happen, right? So it's like there's so much abundance everywhere. What I found for myself is that I was always looking through this like myopic viewpoint of scarcity everywhere.

1:01:35And when I look through the viewpoint of there's so much scarcity, then it makes it a competition. And it makes it, oh, well, you know, Lewis is making a bunch of money. He's stealing money from me. is the way a lot of people feel like he, if he succeeds, that means I'm not succeeding. That's what a lot of people think. Oh, this person just, just became successful. That means that there's less in the world for me. But in reality, it's not that way at all. There's so much abundance everywhere around you. So if you're looking through the viewpoint of scarcity, and this is just a simple challenge for people.

1:02:03If you've, if you notice, yeah, I have a scarcity mindset. I've been looking through, okay, I don't like when this person succeeds because I feel like they're taking away from me. I don't like when that person, when my sister succeeds because then my parents are going to love her more than love me because there's a scarcity of love. There's a scarcity of everything around. When you realize that there is no scarcity anywhere around you, the only place that scarcity exists is in your mind. Then you can start to say, okay, well, let me actually look and try to find abundance around me. Going back to the example, if my mom loves my sister a lot.

1:02:37Does that mean that she has less love for me? Like I've never met somebody who has a bunch of kids and they go, well, I ran out of love for my children, right? There's no scarcity around it, but we think, oh yeah, it's a competition between me and my sister. And we think when someone else succeeds, like, oh, they just made a million, they signed a million dollar contract. That means there's a million dollars less for me, right? Money's constantly being used and circulated. And so when you look at it, you realize that nobody, just very few people take money and just put it into their bank account.

1:03:05That eventually gets spent somewhere. It goes somewhere else. So it's constantly circulating all the time. And so just because somebody else succeeds doesn't mean that you can't. There is enough room for every single person in this world to succeed in whatever it is that they want to succeed at. And so what I would say is, and I think I've been saying with a lot of people is test the validity of your thoughts. And this is what they say in cognitive behavioral therapy, test the validity of it. So if I have a thought of there's not enough to go around. Okay, let's just test the validity of it. And the way that you do that, people always ask me.

1:03:37The example I give is, imagine that you're on the debate team in high school, right? And your whole life, you've been on the viewpoint of there's not enough money to go around. Now, what I want you to do, just for fun, just go ahead and try to debate the other side and say, there's more money than to go around for every single person. And just debate it for a minute and see if you can find any proof that the other side might be true. Because what happens is our beliefs are just a set of patterns and thoughts that we've done over and over and over and over and over again. And because we've had it happen so many times, we believe that that's actually true.

1:04:13And true means like written into the fabric of the universe, right? Is it true that there is not enough to go around? Okay, well, let's test it. Let's say, is there a possibility that there's enough money to go around for every single person? Is there isn't enough love to go around for every single person. There's enough happiness to go around for every single person. Is there a possibility that there's enough for every single person? And if there is, your belief is complete BS and there's never been true in the first place, which is like, our beliefs are like a house of cards. You just need like one good flick and it all crumbles.

1:04:41And once it crumbles and you see the other side of it, you go, all right, let me start opening myself up a little bit more to it. And so, you know, I can give like tips and tricks and tactics around it, but I think people just need to understand is that the most important thing is just what is your perception of life? And is it possible to just look through another viewpoint to see what it could be? What would you say is the number one thing you did to heal your relationship with money and start bringing in more financial abundance? Gratitude, being grateful for it. And I'll say it again. I think this is what I said on the last podcast, but I think that I, for the longest time, had this viewpoint of there's not enough money to go around.

1:05:22and I didn't know I had it, but it was just like scarcity around money because money was scarce when I was a kid. Right. I remember hearing things like my mom saying, we don't have enough money. Right. I can't buy you that. Cause we don't have enough money. I did a lot of, I did a lot of shame around money too. Like I remember the most, I remember the first moment I had shame around money was I wanted, remember a GAC when we were kids at GAC, it was like that came in like an egg and it was like kind of like a Play-Doh thing. I want a GAC and my mom was like, we don't have enough money for it. I was like three or four years old.

1:05:50I remember throwing a fit right on the couch to the point where she's like, all right, fine, let's go. We went to Target to go get it. And I remember feeling so much shame at like four years old because we didn't have money and my fit made my mom go buy money that we didn't have. Like go, go, go buy it with the money that we didn't have. So I felt shame. I was like, shame's first was that feeling around money and scarcity around money because we don't have enough. There's not enough to buy these things. right? And so for me, what happened was with the scarcity mindset around money was in every single time money would come in because my energy around money was scarcity, it was never enough.

1:06:27It was, okay, I'd make whatever,$2 ,000. And I'd be like, I want to make, why am I not a millionaire yet? Why don't I have$100 ,000? You know what? I only got 2 ,000. I'm just going to be able to pay my bills. I don't have anything extra. And so it was immediately because the energy of it was scarcity, when it would come in, it was scarcity. When I would spend it, it was scarcity. I would be afraid to check my bank account because there was times when I checked my bank account and it was not enough. There was negative money in my bank account many, many times. I went back in my old email account a couple of years ago to 2011.

1:07:02And I think in the last three months of the year, 2011, I had seven overdraft fees. So I know what it's like to not even have$0, but to have less than zero dollars in my account, right? So the energy around money was scarcity. And then what happened was I remember hearing a podcast one time where somebody was saying, your problem with money is that you think too scarce. Whenever you walk past a penny on the ground, do you pick it up? I was like, no, I don't. Most people don't because it's just a penny. But if you pick it up and think, oh my, this is the universe trusting me with this penny. Thank you so much for this.

1:07:38and I put it in my pocket, if I can be trusted with a little, well, then maybe I can start to be trusted with a lot more. And so then, you know, with having an online business, payments come in at random times. And so I would set my notifications on that. Every time a payment would come through, I would stop everything that I'm doing. Once again, awareness, practice, repetition. The awareness was I have scarcity around money. I want to change this. The practice is I'm going to feel grateful every time this money comes in. So I'd close my eyes and I would say, God, I'd see the person's name too.

1:08:06So I'd say like, Joseph, thank you so much for trusting me in your transformation. God, please give me whatever guidance I need to help this person get to wherever they want to be in their life. That's good. And then I would go back into what I was doing for the day over and over and over again. So the awareness was I had the scarcity. I wanted to change it to abundance. I want to change it to gratitude. So the practice was every time a pain would come in, I would force myself to stop anything that I would do and close my eyes and I would cultivate the feeling of gratitude. And then the repetition, I would do it over and over and over and over again.

1:08:35And over years and thousands of payments, it just became a thing now where it's like, I have this feeling of so much gratitude towards it. And what I have found is that if you can be trusted with a little, you can be trusted with a lot. And that also comes with like sharing it. And I was, you know, very cheap and I don't want to give anybody anything. And I was notorious for being the cheapest person out of all of my friends 10 years ago. A hundred percent. Right. Why? And I was like, I need to change that. I need to start seeing what I can do. And so sometimes we'll go on. I'm like, I'll pick up the bill and I'll do these things.

1:09:05And so it's like, you go by people. One of the things that I've done since I was probably 20 years old is I like to keep water and crackers and$1 bills inside of my car. So when I see a homeless person, I don't go, oh yeah, I'm going to judge them for the money that I give them. I say, hey, this was given, I think in my mind, this was given to me to give to them. And so it's just flowing through me to give them. So I'm going to give them water. I'm going to give them crackers. I'm going to give you a couple of dollars. And what I found is that my brain has started to realize if I can give to this other person and I can still eat, then there must be an abundance.

1:09:35I have an abundance in my bank account. And so that's just been like the way that I've cultivated in myself the change of scarcity mindset around money to abundance around it. And it's still something I'm working on. I don't expect it to ever be gone, but I'm trying my best to work through it. What do you think is the number one story blocking people from creating abundance, the story they tell themselves? I don't think that most people feel like they are capable or worthy of success, whatever success means to them. And so I think that first off, people need to actually describe what success is.

1:10:08For some people, for me, what success was, was being, you know, making millions of dollars and stuff. For some people, success might mean being a really great father or mother. For some people, it might be something different, whatever that might be. And so I think what it is is to say like, well, where is it that I want to be in life? And the thing I love about being human is you can create anything that you want to create. You know, like I don't expect that I'm going to be in the NBA, right? I think those times have passed and I wasn't that good. I was decent, right? So like I understand that's something I can't create.

1:10:41But there are other things I can say with where I am now in life. What is it that I want to create? If I live to 98, I've got 60 more years. So the next 60 years, what is it I want to create? And then I figure it out. And then I just sit there and I say, are there any fears or limiting beliefs that are coming up while I'm thinking of this? And they'll come up and you'll feel them. And then you just start to feel them. And what I like to do is journal through them. Because I always tell people like, life is complex. Like it's very complex. Like if I were to say, you know, what's three plus seven, most people are going to say 10.

1:11:11But if I say, what's 246 times 398, most people are going to be like, I don't know. but if I said, hey, if I give you a pen and paper, do you think you could figure it out? Most people can go back to like fourth, fifth grade and start to do long multiplication. I couldn't do that. I still need a calculator. I could see the fear coming out as soon as I said it. I'm an idiot. I'm dumb. I can't do this. So it's like, I know, I saw a click in your head, but I don't know if I could do that. But if I give most people a pen and paper and they started writing it out, they could start to go back and figure it out.

1:11:39Our life is a million times more complex than that math problem. There's thoughts, there's feelings, there's emotions, there's programs, there's patterns, there's things that we have to do. There's other people in our life. I always say for most people, like just go to a pen and paper. Where is it that I want to be? One of the most important questions people can ask themselves is what do I want? And to get really clear on it, just write it out and journal it out. And then say, ask yourself another question. Are there any fears or limiting beliefs coming in the way of that? And you write out those fears and your limiting beliefs and then go, like I said, try to play the other side for a second.

1:12:12is there a chance that this fear is completely false? And one of the things I found that works with people is to do something like, it's called pre-mortem in a business, where when you start a business, plan the failure of the business and ask yourself how the business is going to fail. I did this when I brought in my VP of operations. She goes, before we do anything, I want to do a pre-mortem, which is how does this business fail? And I was like, okay, this is cool. So we planned out how my business could fail. And then what we did is we had a game plan of everything that we needed to make sure that we worked through so we wouldn't fail.

1:12:42And so it's the exact same thing where it's like, where do I want to be? I figure it out. I figured all my fears, my limiting beliefs. And then what you do is you go, what's the worst that could happen if I take this path? What happens is there's a study that found that psychologists did that 85 % of what we worry about never happens at all. The remaining 15%, only 12 % of it, I'm sorry, 12 % of that doesn't happen as bad as you think it's going to, which means the remaining 3%, 3 % of what we worry about happens as bad as we think that it's going to. So 32 out of 33 times, it doesn't happen as bad as you think that it's going to.

1:13:15And so let's just plan out the absolute worst that could happen if I decide to change my life and take it on a new path and plan out the whole thing and say, what's the worst that could happen? Now, if I'm going to ask myself that question, what's the next question I need to ask myself? What's the best thing that could happen? And then I say, is it worth it for me to go and try to make a change and try to create my life into what I want it to be? Usually you find your fears and the worst that could happen is not really that bad. And the best that could happen is like beyond what you could possibly conceive.

1:13:42It's good stuff, man. Thanks, man. I want to ask you one final question. Okay. You know, in the previous interview we did, we talked about your three truths and your definition of greatness. So people will link that up so people can go watch that. You've got the Mindset Mentor, which I want people to go check out, subscribe, follow, listen to four times a week now. Is that right? What are you doing? Yeah, Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. Amazing content. I told a friend of mine that I was having you on today. He goes, man, I listen to his show almost every single day. Really? Yeah, 20-minute episodes.

1:14:11That's awesome. Great mindset inspiration. What's his name? His name is Humble. Humble? Humble the Poet. Humble the Poet? Yeah. Oh, that's awesome. Humble? What's up, man? Yeah, exactly. I need to get a conversation with him. That's my morning conversation is listening to your show. Oh, that's awesome, man. I love that. So make sure you guys check out Rob's show, Mindset Mentor. He's a part of the Greatness Network now, our first show within the Greatness Network. We're assembling the Avengers of inspiration. That's right. And Rob was the one we wanted first on the network. So you can check it out, part of the Greatness Network.

1:14:43Got to figure out what Avenger I am. The Avenger of mindset? I don't know. The Avenger of gratitude? Yeah. We got time. Self-love, you know, all these things. Abundance. Yeah. But here's a question I want to ask you about. You're also all over social media. Rob Dial everywhere on social media. What's your main platform right now? Is it Facebook? Is that where your biggest is? My biggest is Facebook, but the one that I'm growing the most on and that seems to be doing the best is Instagram. Instagram. There you go. Instagram's going crazy. We're growing like 50 ,000 a month at this point. There you go, man.

1:15:13Keep it going. What is that strategy? Reels? Videos? Reels, videos, just trying to put the best content out. That's right. I sit down and I plan it. I mean, to make a 15, 30 second reel, I might spend 20 minutes scripting the entire thing. Wow, really? Yeah. Spend a lot of time just trying to make - It's not just random. You're actually strategizing. Strategize, 100%. Okay, yeah. Yeah, there's a whole lot of strategy that puts in these little things, you know? It's great, man. Yeah. It's great. Okay, so check them out everywhere. This question I ask you is, well, actually, first, before I ask you this, if you guys are enjoying this, feel free to leave a comment below.

1:15:47If you're on YouTube, leave a comment below. Subscribe and share your biggest takeaway from this episode with Rob. What was the thing that stuck out with you the most? Leave that below. You can also timestamp that in the comments so other people can see what you enjoy the most. So share that below. We'll have Rob's channel linked up as well. My question for you is this. If you could step into the future 10 years, you're 38. Yep. About to be next month. There's going to be a lot of changes and transformations that happen in the next couple of years, but also over a decade. If you think back almost 10 years ago, right before you launched this show, you were a completely different person.

1:16:25For sure. And if you could step into the future and think 10 years out and you're there right now, you're 48, imagine your life, everything you've created, failures you've overcome, the life you've lived, all these different things. And if you could give your current self one piece of advice from that future self, 10 years out, what is it that you need to hear from the future you right now? 48 year old Rob, what do you would say to 38? He would say,

1:17:01make more space for yourself. Make more space for your family. Focus on loving yourself. Focus on loving your family. I think if I do that, I think the next 10 years are just going to be amazing for me. I think when you just come from that state, it flows out of you. Inspiration, creativity, which I think is our natural state. I mean, I've never met a non-creative child. You know, I think it's kind of programmed out of us. I think that when you come from that state of, hey, no matter what happens, I love myself. And no matter what happens, I'm loved by the people around me. Then I have no fear of going out and failing because I've already won.

1:17:37Right. Like there's a, there's a line of a, um, there's a line of a guy that I listened to that his name's, he used to be a lead singer of Surfaces. And his name is Forrest Frank. And he's got this line and it says, I just turned a Millie down to be home with my son. Y 'all don't get it. I can't gain a thing if I've already won. Ooh, strong. He's like 27 years old. And I was like, this dude's got it. I think if I just have that viewpoint of like, I've already won. Like what? Wow. Why don't I just enjoy the fruits of it? Not saying that I'm going to sit back and do nothing. and I don't have that built inside of me.

1:18:14But it's like, I've already won. Like, why don't I just have fun with it? That's great, man. Rob, I'm in. Thanks, brother. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me personally, as well as ad-free listening, then make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel exclusively on Apple Podcasts. podcast. Share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on Apple podcast as well.

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