The Money Expert: “If I Was Broke Today, This Is EXACTLY What I’d Do To Become Debt-Free” | Anthony O’Neal

26 Feb 2025 · 53 min

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Podcast Summary: The School of Greatness - Episode with Anthony O'Neal

Episode Title

The Money Expert

“If I Was Broke Today, This Is EXACTLY What I’d Do To Become Debt-Free”

Episode Description In this episode, Lewis Howes interviews financial expert Anthony O’Neal, who emphasizes that financial freedom stems from taking control of one's money story rather than obsessing over credit scores. O'Neal shares personal anecdotes about his financial mistakes and outlines a transformative framework for reclaiming financial ownership, aiming to help listeners build genuine wealth and abundance.

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Key Takeaways

  1. Rethinking Financial Health
  2. Credit Scores Are Misleading: O’Neal argues that a high credit score does not equal financial health. Many people feel trapped in debt cycles due to their focus on credit rather than ownership of assets.
  3. Ownership Equals Freedom: True freedom comes from owning assets and making decisions free from debt obligations.
  1. The EARN Method for Debt Elimination
  2. Evaluate: Assess your financial situation, including debts and expenditures.
  3. Arrange: Set a vision for where you want to be financially in the next 12 months to 5 years.
  4. Render: Develop a practical strategy for achieving that vision.
  5. Navigate: Take action based on the strategy and hold yourself accountable.
  1. Emotional Support Systems
  2. The importance of having emotional coaches or therapists to prevent poor financial decisions driven by unchecked emotions.
  3. Emotional management is crucial for making sound financial decisions.
  1. Entrepreneurship vs. Employment
  2. Not everyone is suited for entrepreneurship, despite popular narratives suggesting everyone should be their own boss.
  3. Many can find success and fulfillment in traditional employment or by leveraging skills to create side businesses.
  1. Defining Abundance
  2. Abundance goes beyond finances; it includes love, wisdom, and community support.
  3. The concept of stewardship extends to managing all resources—time, relationships, finances—effectively.
  1. Financial Education and Awareness
  2. Emphasizes the need for financial literacy and awareness to make informed decisions.
  3. Encouraging the younger generation to seek knowledge rather than conform to societal pressures regarding credit and debt.

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Key Concepts Discussed

  • Financial Mistakes: O’Neal shares his own financial missteps, including a costly landscaping project that underscores the importance of vetting contractors and understanding value versus price.
  • Legacy and Teaching: O’Neal plans to share his financial lessons with his future children through a journal documenting his mistakes and lessons learned.
  • Mindset Shift: He stresses that adopting an abundance mindset is vital for financial freedom. This involves viewing money as a tool for greater good rather than just personal gain.
  • Spiritual Stewardship: O’Neal links financial stewardship to broader spiritual principles, emphasizing that everything we have is a responsibility from a higher power.

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Additional Resources

  • Anthony O'Neal's New Book: *Take Your Seat at the Table: Live an Authentic Life of Abundance, Wellness, and Freedom*.
  • Lewis Howes' New Book: *Make Money Easy: Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life*.

Conclusion The episode provides a comprehensive look at rethinking financial health, the importance of emotional support in money management, and practical steps to attain debt freedom through the EARN method. It encourages listeners to view their financial journey as a path to abundance, not just survival.

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0:00My friend, welcome back. If you are looking to create abundance in your life, then you are in for a treat today. we have Anthony O 'Neill, who is here to explore what it truly means to take control of your finances and live authentically. Through candid stories and practical advice, he's going to share with you why true wealth isn't about credit scores or appearances, but about creating a life of abundance on your own terms. Anthony provides a clear roadmap to reclaiming your power and building genuine wealth that can be passed down for generations. He's got to talk about all the mistakes that so many people make today around money, and it is going to blow you away.

0:41If you're enjoying this at any time, please share this with a friend that you want to see succeed in their abundance, in their mindset, and in their thinking around money, so they can actually behave in new ways to support them in their financial growth. And speaking of financial growth and abundance, we have a new book coming out very soon. March 18th, it drops, you can pre order it right now. It's called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life. This has been a 10-year journey of research and putting together some of the top millionaires and billionaires advice in the world to break down how to unlock financial freedom for your life, but more importantly, live a richer life because there are some people who have lots of money but who are also not free because they haven't figured out how to create richness in their life with their money.

1:34And that's what this is all about, creating that inner richness so you can have a rich outer life. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. You can pre-order your copy and also see the cities that I'm going to on book tour and podcast tour. It's gonna be a two for one in seven cities in 10 days. So go to lewishouse.com slash tour to check out the book. Please pre-order your copy ASAP and get a ticket. Bring your friends to one of the cities where we are going to around the country. And I am so excited to see people. I'm going to be out on tour. I just got married. Me and Martha had a beautiful wedding.

2:11Been posting about it on social media. And I'm excited to get out there and promote this message and this book because for the first part of the year, I was planning a wedding. And now that that's complete, I can go out in the world and see all of you. So I'm very excited, very grateful, very blessed. I hope you're feeling blessed today as well. And without further ado, let's dive into this episode right now. Welcome back, everyone. School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Anthony O 'Neill in the house. My man. What's up, man? Good to be back, man. Listen, it's going to be back on the Lewis Howell Show.

2:49But I mean, we're at the table. So I'm really excited about it. We are at the table. You got a new book called Take Your Seat at the Table. Live an authentic life of abundance, wellness, and freedom. Yes, sir. Most people are not free today. They are living in a lot of debt. They're living in a lot of stress and a lot of anxiety. And we all know that money problems are one of the main things that cause anxiety, stress, overwhelm, and a lack of freedom for people. Would you say that people being in debt and not knowing how to get out of debt is one of the biggest things that causes them stress around money?

3:21And if so, how do people start to get out of debt when they just feel overwhelmed by it? I think people are in debt because of the lack of knowledge. People perish for the lack of knowledge and wisdom. Right. And so I think we have programmed in our minds that the way to be successful in life is to have this amazing credit score is to have all this amazing debt. Right. Because we're using other people's money. But then when we wake up, we have this 800 credit score. We have this debt, but then we don't have any freedom and we don't have freedom because we don't have ownership. So when I step back and I look at my life, if I'm going to take a seat at the head of my table, I have to have a level of ownership.

4:03And ownership means that particular banks, because we're on the school of greatness, I won't name any banks. But if I'm if I'm with this bank, this bank gives me a personal loan. I have a credit card with this particular bank. I have a car loan with this particular bank. I have student loans over here. Now, all of these institutions now sit at the head of my table and they're telling me what to do. And I'm thinking, well, I was using other people's money so I can build wealth. Well, no, you were using other people's money, and because you're using other people's money, now you're in bondage. So now when you wake up.

4:35To those debtors. To those debtors. To those creditors. So think about it. I can't go to my son's basketball game because when I get off of work, I have to go get another job because I have to pay them back. Interest. Interest. And I'm oversaturated with how much money I've got to get back. And so I think with people, the reason why we're so stressed is because we really have a step back and ask ourselves, like, wait a minute, do I have ownership to this day? I still believe in 100 percent being consumer debt free. Right. Consumer debt free means that, you know, anything outside of my real estate, anything outside of an asset, I'm going to pay cash for it because I want to have ownership to where when I'm blessed to have a family, when I'm blessed to have kids, then I can wake up and decide what I want to do with my life, not what do I have to do because I owe every woman.

5:25That's just the bottom line. So debt is one of the big things that holds people back. What do you think is the number one thing that's stopping most people then from becoming debt-free? I think it's because they don't want to sit back and be honest and be different. It's easy to blend in with the world because everyone is doing this. Everyone is talking about an 800 credit score. Everyone is saying, even like with me, you're engaged to an amazing woman, I'm getting married soon. I'm still single, right? One of the top questions I get when I'm dating is, what's your credit score? Really? Yes. Come on.

5:57Hey, man, listen. People care about that that much? What is your credit score? No way. Yes, Louis. Women are asking you what's your credit score? Absolutely. Come on. Hey, Louis, I'm going to be real. You and my brother, I can say this. In my community and culture? Yes. And I'm like, but the credit score doesn't mean that I'm successful with money. It simply means I'm good at paying back the people who I borrowed from. Right. Because I can have an 800 credit score and not have$800 inside my savings account. Wow. Interesting. But when I answered that question, I remember the first time a young lady asked me that question, Louis, and I told her the truth, that's like a 530.

6:32Because I had just finished paying off all of my debt. So you know when you pay off all your debt, they penalize you for that. Really? Yes, your credit score drops. They don't reward you because you're debt free. They penalize you. So I'm like, well, I got a 530. She was turned completely off. You could be like, well, I got 100 grand in the bank still. Never asked a question. Interesting. Right? So the whole night, I saw how the mood shifted because of my credit score. She started looking for an out, texting her friends, hey, come be here. Listen. And the truth of the fact is, this was years ago.

7:04I mean, I was in my 20s then. I remember her telling her friend that she was like, yeah, girl, he got a 530. on credit score he can't he bad with his money and i never responded because i wasn't financially mature then to respond in the correct way uh but as i evolved i said man wow like a credit score does not mean that i'm good with my money i think a lot of people are stuck because they're trying to to have this perfect three-digit score but you can't pass down the three-digit score you can't give your son or your daughter and build a legacy with that score so i'm focused on okay how do I take the seat at the head of my table?

7:41How do I position my family who's at the side of my table, who's at the opposite side of my table, my wife, what is the best thing I need to do with my finances to make sure that when I am transitioning to heaven, that I can leave them with something. And I can't do that with the score. Really? Can't do that with the score. So for me, it's all about what am I investing? How much debt do I have? How do I eliminate that? What's my insurance policies and also to what wealth am I leaving behind and when I say wealth it's not just about the finances it's about what wisdom and knowledge am I leaving behind and this is something that we do not talk on social media influencers don't talk about this Lewis to this day I started this about four years ago man every mistake that I make and that I have made I write it down and it's in a journal so when my kids get of age when they're like i want to say uh if i'm blessed to have some right around freshman sophomore year i'm giving them my journal your mistake journal my mistake journal hey this is these are the mistakes that i made while dating this is the mistakes i've made within my christianity walk these are mistakes i've made with my money these are the mistakes that i've made in life in general so they're going to see a letter of what here it is a letter to them a mistake that I made the consequence of that mistake what I learned from that mistake and then I'm forest what did I do to make sure I didn't do this again I was gonna ask you a question about the credit score thing I thought this is interesting I mean maybe I I don't know no one's ever asked me like what's your credit score but that's that's interesting so your fiance's never actually that question no because I have money yeah but I've made money and I saved my money.

9:21Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I remember talking in like the first, maybe it's weird, but either the first night I met her or within the first couple days of like hanging out, I was just talking about money more openly. Not like, oh, I have all this money and let me spend it on all these things. But I was just speaking about it in a way where it wasn't taboo. I was speaking about it in a way where it was more open. I was just like, oh, you do products, you're an actor, like, oh, that must be awesome. What are most actors making these days? Not like, what are you making directly, but like how is the industry what is it going on or here's what i'm doing in podcasting and here's what i was when i started out broke on my sister's couch so good here's what i've kind of created over the last 15 years you know so it was more of an open conversation about it yeah of where i was to where i am now not like oh open my bank account here's my money right right right but i think because i came from that space i don't know maybe she's mexican and they don't that culture they don't ask about credit score I don't know but I'm interested when when a woman asks someone about their credit score and say it's an 800 credit score that the guy has and the woman thinks to himself oh that's good he's got a high credit score what does she learn about the man with that high credit score or low credit score and what does she not know about that man based on a higher a lower credit score.

10:39Well, with me being a man, I can't specifically say what every woman will learn and know, because I think that's a great question for a woman. So ladies, please answer that question inside the comments. But here's what I perceive, Luis, is that within, you made a good call out that your fiance, soon to be wife is Mexican. Well, within my particular community, let's go back a little bit. We're taught within our culture that when you graduate high school, go to school, right? Keep your credit score good. Work 40 years. While you're working 40 years, get a good job. I'm not getting a good job. Get a good home.

11:16And so that way, that's the life. You got a good credit score. You got a real good job with benefits. You're a homeowner. That's the American dream within the black community. I was talking to at a younger age. So I think what ladies are looking for, okay, wait, if he has a good credit score, this means that he's doing good with his finances. Within our particular community, I don't want to say within our particular community, I think within the world in general, we're not really taught money lessons. We're not really taught, hey, do you budget? We're not really taught, do you invest? We're not really taught, are you an entrepreneur?

11:48We're taught, hey, once you have a good 800 credit score, you can always get financed. And so I think when ladies hear a man has a good credit score, it's like, okay, so we can get a home. We can get a car. We can get this. But for me, I'm like, yeah, but you're not really understanding. what you're simply saying is we can get a lot of debt that's not good and that's not good if you're buying like consumer stuff if you're not using it to invest in smart assets or something yeah you know what i'm saying so i mean if we're talking about hey yes you need an 800 credit score so we can get into the real estate game i'm all for that but if we're talking about we need an 800 credit score so we can buy the latest miles of rider the latest you know bentley okay wait a minute we have a problem i need to have this so i can go get me a credit card so i can get all these reward miles.

12:31But the truth of the fact is, when I look at all of my millionaire friends, they're not bragging about their reward miles. They're bragging about the investments that they're buying and that's making them money and that's paying for their liabilities, that's paying for their toys. But when I hear them having this conversation, and this is what I really get excited about, it's like, wait, man, I just bought a duplex. I just bought a situation with 24 doors. I'm like, 24 doors? Wait, what? Like, yeah, got finance and did this and did that. I'm like, okay, cool, great. And that's one of my philosophies that has changed over the years is that, wait a minute, if I can use other people's money to get into the real estate game the correct way, then I'm getting 24 doors and I'm getting inside of, you know, the real estate game, I'm buying an asset that will then fund my toys, my wants, and my desires.

13:18And so when I hear ladies say that, I'll be honest with you, man, it is somewhat of a turnoff for me but i also understand the lack of education behind that question yeah yeah and so what i tend to do now is say you know what my credit score is good because i have real estate and that's the only thing that's on there and it's being paid for so i am in the 800 bracket i said but darling girl let me tell you something though i mean i make money and i invest a lot yeah and my real estate my credit score comes from real estate which is assets and i really start having that conversation i love how you know i know we were talking about my book but your book you know make money easy i think we really do have to make money such an easy conversation yes and just have it really really if we if it's an easy conversation that i think we can make it easy i haven't read your book completely yet uh but by the time you come on my show i will have it read but it's like i love the title of your book because i think we make it so difficult that's that's why i made the title people we make it so hard because it is hard if we're not educated facts and it feels scary and overwhelming if we don't have the information the education like you're talking about yeah and i think debt feels daunting for a lot of people does and if you were broke today and if you were in debt let's say let's say you made a bunch of challenging financial decisions you made all you know your mistake journal is filled up to the brim yeah uh and you're broke and in a lot of debt yep what is the exact process you would take then from going from broken in debt to creating a financially free life oh i get excited about this all right very first things i'm stepping back and before i even look at my debt i'm talking okay where i want to be within the next 12 months after 12 months next three years five years so you think a game plan first i'm getting the vision for the next five years of my life right so if i say hey listen i want to be in california living in my dream home debt free like whatever that vision is i'm casting that vision below that vision i'm writing down the why you know one of my good friends uh pastor darius daniels mentioned something he said man if your why doesn't make you cry then the price of commitment for the next five years is going to make you cry let's go and it's going to make you quit and so for me once i write down the vision i'm going to write down a why why do i want to accomplish this vision so if i'm drowning in debt and i know i want to be out of debt i'm going to be in my home while i went to home i don't want the home just because it's nice sitting on the beach.

15:41I want the home probably because you know what, man, growing up, me and my siblings had to share a room, right? You know what? We never were a homeowner. Maybe I'm the first homeowner in my family. So I'm getting a deep enough why that when it gets hard, when I feel like giving up, it's going to make me cry and make me push through. So I'm doing that. So that's number two. Then number three, I'm looking at, I'm pulling credit card. I'm pulling the last three months of my bank statements and I'm getting on a very detailed budget. I'm writing down everything and I call this a zero base budget. But for me, I know a lot of people get turned off by the word of budgeting.

16:15So I call it what's the vision now I have for my life? What's the vision for my money? So if I'm saying, OK, cool, I want to be debt free. Well, I got to go look at my credit report. I got to pull Equifax TransUnit Experian. I got to pull the last three months of my bank statements. And this is something I do in a regular. Lewis, I'll get five highlighters, different colors and I'll go through and highlight, okay, food is one color and I want to see how much money over the last three to six months have I spent on food. Wow. And if I'm seeing, okay, dang, I was talking about barber. He spent two grand on food in one month.

16:47Wow. Just eating out. I'm like, two grand. I'm like, bro, it's just you. Yeah, right, right. What are you eating for$2 ,000? Wow. I'm like, I know it's expensive out here in the streets, but it's not that expensive. so I'm like two grand in one month okay we need to cut that off by like three-fourths you need to be down to five hundred dollars including groceries and eating out boom when it's just you so like I'm highlighting everything and I'm assessing making sure that I know exactly where my money is going because here's the truth you cannot manage your money if you're not measuring it you can't really understand what you're doing and where you're going if you're not tracking what it's doing and for the majority of the people who are watching this show i'll say i won't say the majority but if you're with the school of greatness we're going to say a majority y 'all should be winning for those of us who are watching this show a lot of us are probably saying dang i just got paid last week but i don't know where the money went and it's because you're not you're not managing it well because you're not measuring where your money is going so that's number three i'm gonna i'm gonna list out everything and watch this before i put it on the budget i'm gonna write it out yo i owe this bank this i owe that bank this i'm gonna list out every every all the debt out of all the debt i'm gonna list out all of my monthly expenses then i'm gonna take that information and i'm gonna put it on this budget and here's the truth if we're gonna be honest it is gonna frustrate you yeah it is gonna make you feel depressed a little bit you're gonna feel discouraged a little bit because what's gonna happen is you're gonna say you have more debt then you have income.

18:23That's going to be my number four. Once I see that I have all this debt, I'm going to measure, okay, what is the income strategy that I need to come up with that is going to create margin and help me pay off my debt. And I tell everyone that's going to be a job. And instead of getting a second job, listen, man, the content creation space, I just think right now is a healthy place to get into. But I think a lot of us have a lot up here that people were paid to have. and so like for example I had a school teacher come to me and uh she was like man Anthony I'm in$238 ,000 in debt oh 140 of them are um is uh is her student loans because she has her doctorate yeah uh then two of them are cars her and her husband then the others just credit cards and stuff from here I said okay all right let's write it down and so um as I was talking with her I said listen she said I'm gonna get another job working at Walmart part time I said I think that's a that's It's not a good use of your time.

19:21I say, why not? You're a school teacher. Why not go home? You're making good money over here. Why not go home and create maybe a course or an academy that helps get kids ready for the SAT? She goes, what do you mean? I say, why not use the skills that you're giving to the job, to the school system and build a side business that now parents can buy to help them get ready for the SAT? She was like, Anthony, I've never thought about that. So she went home and she started dreaming with her husband. But when she came back to me, not only did she come up with a business that is going to help kids with the SAT, but she also came up with a business that helps school students in school to be a teacher to help them graduate in college.

20:07A year later, her side business is paying her more than what the school teacher is doing because she took her wisdom and her knowledge and turned it into a side business. So not only is she creating more income, now she's able to use the tax benefits that the wealthy are using. And I said, okay, are you going to quit your job? She was like, no, because my side business is funding this thing. I honestly love teaching students. So what happened? Husband quit his job. He runs the business. Wow. He does all of the marketing. He does all of the stuff. And this is what I love. It puts them back at the head of their table.

20:46Yes. because now it's like, wait, we're now controlling our life. Now she went from having to be a schoolteacher to wanting to be a schoolteacher. She went from having to work to, you know what? I love what I do. And that's the freedom that you have when you're at the seat at the head of your table is that you get to decide what you want to do in a direction or wherever you want to go. What would you say is the number one piece of financial advice you're seeing online that people should ignore? You know, there is a lot. You know, it's not just one. I'm like, man, there's so many Lewis that I could say.

21:26But I think the number one financial advice that I would say, and I talk about this inside of the book that I would ignore, is that everyone has to be an entrepreneur. Ignore that. Ignore that. Yeah. Because that's not the case. I think everyone should have an entrepreneurial mindset but not everyone should be entrepreneurial because if if you want to be a when they say be an entrepreneurship what they're talking about is they're selling you hey man I could work on the beach hey man I'm flying in the private jets hey man you know I'm able to go buy this g-wagon and ride off 100 % of it because it's over 6 ,000 pounds they're lying to you I've been doing this for four years I mean you don't have several conversations offline this entrepreneur world is not for everybody and it's frustrating and i have not to this day worked on the beach because you weren't you worked at a career before and now you're you're an entrepreneur now yes and if i'm being honest in the corporate america space in the corporate space man i'm working harder today than i was then of course right so i'm i'm not flying on private jets and just not working for a month or two that that's not happening and so i think some of the worst advice is looking at these enforcers and they're selling you on hey i can coach you to be a your own boss and you'll be working at the beach and not saying it can't happen because have i gone on vacation and work absolutely but what i am saying is out of 365 days a year these people say you only got to work 20 of them that's a lie and so i think for me it's it's really we got to start teaching how to how to have the entrepreneurial mindset but not everyone is called to be an entrepreneur because i think i need a real good assistant if i'm going to be effective and i think people are made as a christian i do believe people are made to be the number two the number three the number four to be the team player because an effective business cannot run without effective team members and you can be just as wealthy you can be just as successful if you are living the authentic life of yourself.

23:39I think one of the greatest mistakes of that I see in people, especially this younger generation, they want to rush to be their own boss, but they haven't really done anything to learn how to be an effective boss. And I'm so grateful that God put me through the seasons of serving in the church world, serving in a corporate America space, because I would not be successful today if I didn't learn up on any different people. And I think for me, I think that is one of the dumbest mistakes that I've seen people make. And I think another mistake I saw online, and it was so frustrating to me, is take your student loans and go buy real estate with it.

24:19I was like, go borrow money. Take out a Parent Plus loan. Oh, man. Have them sign on it. Have them sign on it to go buy real estate? and the real estate was just a down payment on all. It's not the whole house. So what I'm looking for is I gotta pay double interest now? High interest on the student loan, high interest on this? I'm like wait a minute. So there's so many different things man that I can really adjust to. But I think one of the things I learned from you man, I gotta give you credit for it. I think it was like a year and a half ago, lures because i'm always watching your shows and always growing from you your advice and the people you had on and man because of you i have an interchangeable seat at my table i have an interchangeable seat between my therapist and my emotional coach and you talked about that like a year and a half i want to say i mean and what i learned was that my emotions i was making financial decisions based upon my emotions when my emotions shouldn't be making decisions i should be managing my emotions.

25:29But my emotions should not be managing me. And I've made bad financial decisions because of how I felt off of my emotions. And if I'm being honest and vulnerable, I've lost out on great relationships and friendships because I didn't manage my emotions. And I'm like, whoa, so when I heard you say that, like, bro, I got convicted. I was like, look at Lewis over here preaching. I was like, Lewis, does he know he's a private? So I literally stepped back and started looking for emotional coaches because I realized, man, if I'm being honest, to this day, I still meet with him. And to this day, it is still a struggle for me to control and manage my emotions.

26:13Because when you have that feeling, you got to be like, no, this is my emotions. I cannot make a decision in this state. Yeah. And I've made decisions in that state that has cost me a lot of money that has. I probably lost out on an amazing woman because of that. I probably lost business relationships and even friendships because of that. But I think I hear this often within the world. And if you're feeling bad, man, just go to the mall and just do some window shopping. That's your emotions talking. You know what, man? And we tend to go buy things when we're feeling a certain kind of way. That's your emotions talking.

26:54And so I would encourage people, man, to get that interchangeable seat between the therapist and the emotional coach, and they work together. My therapist helps me understand the practical reason of why I made the decision. My emotional coach is helping me understand why I'm feeling the wind that I'm feeling and how to control that. Yeah, it's interesting. I mean, I can definitely relate to that. And for me, I've learned that regulating the emotions, like allowing yourself to feel it but not act on them necessarily until you regulate and understand them, gives you more sense of freedom, gives you more sense of power and peace in the decision.

27:28And it doesn't mean you're always going to feel good and you're going to have to go through uncomfortable situations. But when you can learn to regulate them, you can have more peace in the decision you make after you feel the emotions. and one of the challenges you know some people spend their money on things when they feel overwhelmed or excited or stressed yeah I was more of an emotional eater where it's like I would just go eat food I didn't need things I wasn't like let me go buy the shiny thing to feel good or winter shop or go on Amazon that was never my thing but it was like let me get the ice cream let me get the pizza to comfort me so whatever your vices of comfort yeah you luckily I I wasn't a spender on things to go into debt, which takes years to get out of.

28:09Is this my water? But I was a spender of food that created physical debt. It created physical weight that I then had to carry with me constantly. So whatever the weight is you're carrying or whatever the thing that you're spending to add more weight into your financial pocket or to your physical bucket, whatever it might be. or your weight might be like, oh, I'm going to go sleep with a bunch of women because I want to just feel good because I don't feel good right now. You're picking up that relational baggage, whatever it might be, or spiritual baggage from being in all those relationships. It's just learning how to regulate it better so we can have more abundance, wellness, and freedom, like you talk about in your book, Take Your Seat at the Table.

28:56And I think that's a big challenge for people. When you talked about, you know, if you're in debt$100 ,000,$200 ,000 from student loans and other two cars, it might seem daunting. You talked about this, okay, get clear on a 12-month, three-year, five-year vision. And understand why you want that vision in these 12 months, three years, and five years. Some people might say, oh, man, I have to cut all of my fun out of my life for the next five years. I have to live so below my means and cut all the food I'm going out, all the fun, all the activities and trips. I have to cut it all out because of the financial baggage and debt that I'm in in order to in five, seven years be debt free.

29:39And that seems exhausting. Most people don't have the discipline emotionally, mentally or financially to go so below their means when they've gone into debt for years. And they've created an identity of debt and spending. Yeah. How does someone wrap their head around that complete death of an identity on who they have been to say, oh, in order to be debt free, I want to take five years of my life to be, you know, so below my means, cut out everything. And then I can finally be free. This is a school of greatness. I would ask them, how are you feeling right now? Yeah, probably trapped, probably stressed, anxious, avoidant.

30:19they probably even know how much death they're in because they don't want to keep looking at it because it doesn't feel good it's like it's like when you gain weight you don't want to look jump on the scale because you're like i don't want to look at that but well i gotta say this respectfully i don't have to jump on the scale to know that i'm in a bad situation i need to change my life the scales is going to confirm what i already know yes and i think what what what i when i hear people say that oh man i gotta do all this i said okay cool don't do that live this for the rest of your life then yeah live the life scared to look at your checking account live the life for the rest of your life scared to go to to the to the mailbox i was there bro i was there to where i would drive by the mailbox knowing that the mail is probably packed because i knew there was bills in there that i didn't want to see but i still knew the bills were there but the thing was going into the mailbox was just confirmation of what I already knew.

31:13And man, I'm telling you, I felt the heaviness of, I know my money is not free. I felt the heaviness of, I know I'm not free. I can't live this free life because I know it. And I was just scared to face reality of, I have to change. And so here's, here's what I teach, you know, within, within my world, you know, at the table with Anthony O 'Neill and even with this book is that, man, if you can give me 18 or 24 months, we can change your life. I can't change it. I'm not the hero. You are the hero. I'm going to guide you through the process. But if you do not change anything, you're going to sacrifice the rest of your life living in misery, living with with no freedom, with no ownership, because you're fearful to be uncomfortable for 12 to 24 months.

32:04And so if I'm uncomfortable a little bit for 12 to 24 months to get the rest of my life to live a life of abundance wellness and freedom i'm taking 12 to 24 months because what i'm doing is i've got adjusted oh that's so good right there i've got adjusted to being uncomfortable like i i feel i've made this messy life of mine comfortable and i'm like man like i deserve a home but because my life style right now i've only warrant a an apartment but i can get a house but but but i cannot ah no no no you know what anthony i'm gonna change 2025 i'm gonna get on a plan and i'm being realistic with it you know it's gonna probably take me to the end of 2026 to get out of debt but here's the thing 2026 comes two years flies by quick.

33:00Boom. It flies by crazy quick. It seems like forever, but when you're there, it's like, man, what happened the last two years? Just the first month of this year just flew by, man. I've been out on my own for four years. You cannot ask me. Like, it doesn't feel like four years. Now, because we wake up every single day and we start over, it's okay, but wait. But before you know it, two years have gone by. and I ask people to imagine themselves yes I'm gonna be honest with you I'm not gonna sit here and sell you a bunch of you know oh no no listen you're right you're in 150 ,000 dollars in debt I know you feel that stress how do we what is a system and what is a process to get out of that I have this method that I teach it's called earn and I teach people how to earn their freedom how to earn a different level of finances and the e stands for listen you got to evaluate where you currently are in life and with your finances because we talked about earlier like hey pull your credit report pull how much debt that you have and watch this debt is not just on paper but do you owe family and friends money right if you told me i'm gonna pay you back get all of that on a sheet of paper and evaluate where you are the a stands for now you gotta arrange the vision we talked about the vision okay now um now that we know how much we are what is the vision where we going right and our sense for render the strategy this is where people fail at we do not get a proven strategy on how to make money easy we don't get a proven strategy on how to get out of debt we don't get a strategy on how do we change our life within the 12 to 24 months what we'll do is okay i know i got some debt i know i want to be debt free let me go on tiktok that's not a strategy to go on TikTok.

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34:48That's not a strategy to go on YouTube and just follow your favorite YouTuber. But you got to get with someone who has done it, who has the fruit of their labor, who has put together a proven strategy that you can follow and you may have to adjust for yourself. But here's the key where I think a lot of people fell at and that is the end. They don't act. So the end is now act. So you can get the vision. You know where you are with all your money. You know that you need to change. You got a proven system and a proven strategy. A proven book that will work but now you don't want to do nothing because it's been easy to sit there and just swipe the credit card it's been easy to sit there and just go spend all this money and you've gotten so used to this this this i call it a horrible life because a horrible life has just become so normal to you to where you can't even imagine what it feels like to be debt of free and i and you got the money man we both doing living this life man it feels so good to wake up louis and you know what i think i'm gonna go there man you don't get dressed you don't go to mexico right you know it just feels good to know that i can do that it feels good to know that i'm gonna get the call when you tell us do the show i was like all right bet i fly out there a couple weeks boom i didn't have to worry about okay wait i'm gonna do this money It feels good to know that on the first of the month I pay my mortgage payments And I pay my utility bills That's it And all the rest of the money comes in And it feels good that I can give to my local church I can give to this area And it feels good that when I do meet my wife I can look at her and say You know what, babe You know I feel like going to Ghana today Let's go to Ghana next week What are the kids doing?

36:37They out of school? Take them with us It feels good to do that But if I don't evaluate where I am in life and with my finances, if I don't arrange the vision of where I see myself and my family going, and if I don't render a strategy, and I think that's key, you've got to find a strategy that works. Because if you don't find the strategy, you're going to be stressed, continue stressed about the situation that you're in. And you've got to act. Because if you don't act, now it's just a dream. Yeah. I love that earned principle. Yeah. What's the biggest financial mistake you made in the last year?

37:11In the last year? That's a good question. He's asking the money guy. Within the last year, money mistake. Oh, yeah. That's a good one. How do I say this the right way, Lewis? I wanted a, I've been saving up to, if you know anything about me, man, I'm very big on landscaping. yeah I see you put up the pool and the whole thing yeah social media yeah so I'm very big on landscaping so I saved for a couple of years to do the pool and to do a golf thing I think the biggest mistake that I made is I had the opportunity to do a golf thing I interviewed a particular person who quoted me uh I would say about uh 15 ,000 to do the pool and be honest he was a white guy black guy comes in and quotes me 7500 says that he's never done it before but he says he can do it Louis I chose him because I wanted to support a minority owned company and he was half the price but he's never done it before this guy has done it and does it well yeah and he knows his worth he knows his worth for his experience and his product he told me it would take me two weeks he told me I haven't done it in three days oh my god the guy for 7500 said three days Lewis so I'm like in my head oh it's a black guy I'm a supportive black old company and to the day I die I'm always going to figure out how can I support and support my community right where I can you're thinking also I'm going to be swimming in six days exactly I've not been waiting a month exactly so I'm like okay cool I do it man I could send you pictures and i was so hurt because the money mistake it wasn't selecting an african-american company it was selecting a company that doesn't know what to do and because i went with that route i had to call the guy back the other guy called the other guy back he wouldn't touch it really no because he said man you aren't having someone else don't cost you even more money so i had to find another company that could come in and do it right and thankfully because they were fans and they knew of me they came in and so to do my whole situation cost me about twenty two thousand dollars man when it could have been only about 14 and it took more time more energy more stress man listen and it was just it was a i felt real bad at myself because facts on table was you've never done it before you told me that he was a contractor he did landscaping but he's never done that particular thing before and i was like okay i'm gonna give you a shot and the biggest money lesson that i've learned is yes support minority-owned companies but make sure that they are qualified to do the job sure sure and that was a huge money to say because i ended up wasting another seven eight thousand dollars oh man and that just wasn't good stewardship on my head curious about two-part questions what is your definition of abundance and what is blocking you and most people from abundance oh man so good man my definition of abundance and i'll break it down a little bit shorter but i give a real real real good definition inside of the book um abundance for me it's just that man i have so much that it's an overflow that it's not just for me abundance is that that that man there's an overflow of life of love of resources of money that is it is i can't if this was the water like it has to be some other things out here to catch it so when i feel as that from my spiritual perspective when god is pouring into me it's overflowing into my kids it's overflowing into my community it's overflowing into my wife it's overflowing into my family into my friends and to me that's abundance when i have so much that I can't keep it all, that I gotta give it to everybody.

41:18And so I think what's blocking people from that is that we're not positioning ourselves to receive abundance. How do we position ourselves to receive abundance? That's easy. That's an easy question that I think, that's not an easy question, but that's an easy conversation. I think a lot of people will want a deep answer for it. Just wake up and say, I'm ready. Just wake up and say, you know what? I'm changing my life today. and I'm going to position myself to where I can do it. But if you're drowning in debt, if you don't have an emotional coach, a therapist that can get your mind fixed, you're never going to receive abundant.

41:56I was sitting down with a couple and this particular couple, Louis, made me cry emotionally on the inside. Because the guy said, yeah, man, no. He said, when I get my paycheck, I got to go buy a suit. I got to go buy something. He's in his 60s and he's like, man, yeah, growing up, because I mean it was just so tight that you know I couldn't enjoy my money so now when I get my money as long as I got a roof over my head clothes on my back shoes on my feet food at my table I'm gonna enjoy having my money I don't need this I don't need we don't need all that I'm like yeah you don't have an abundance mindset you just have a very shallow mindset that man every check you gotta spend it on material things and i understand that because of the season that he grew up in was that man we couldn't we couldn't really enjoy like he had to give his money to his parents growing up to help them live to help the family survive now that he has his money he's like yo i have to buy something for me and i'm like yeah man i could teach you how to how to invest let your investments buy real nice things for you but for his mindset was i don't need all of that and i don't i don't need to he literally said this my kids ain't getting none of my money because i work for it wow and i'm like yeah that's the i need to bond that's why i said my kids will reap the fruit of my hard work my my community will reap the fruit of my my family my nephews my meats were reap the fruit of me sitting at the head of my table and I got in the abundance position not just abundance but keep in mind authentic is super important because when you are authentic to who you are it opens up way more doors and I think a lot of people are fearful to be authentically them and for a while I was fearful to be the authentic Anthony O 'Neill because I allowed and shut me up this is your show but I allowed social media to tell me how to think and how to talk I allowed friends and peers to tell me what I should wear what I should do I allowed previous bosses and companies to tell me what I should read and how I should talk and how I should present it wasn't until I said okay I'm going to be the authentic version of me and if you can't handle me then you're just not welcome at my table doesn't mean you're a bad person doesn't mean you're a bad company doesn't mean you're a bad organization doesn't mean you're a bad girlfriend or a bad boyfriend it just simply means that no in order for me to fulfill and really feel that level of freedom i gotta be the authentic anthony o 'neill and so for me the authentic anthony o 'neill talks like this thinks like this um acts like this man like you listen to me and my show and y 'all probably heard my grammar is not the perfect thing but man i used to be like okay wait let me talk like this and do them but i've learned no not everyone's gonna like me so if everyone's not gonna like me why am i trying to please everyone there's so much freedom and there's so many you can do so much more with your resources get the job that you really desire get the credit you really want to get and even build the business that you really want to build when you are your authentic self.

45:20And the truth and the fact is, Louis, I've made more money being the authentic me than when I wasn't the authentic me. I made good money. I didn't make this much money. Powerful. Speaking of authentic money, and we might have time for one or two more questions and we got to get you to the airport. I'm curious your thoughts or beliefs around the spiritual path to being able to steward money and your beliefs around or what you've been taught around what you think God or the universe wants us to become in order to be good stewards of money so we can receive an abundance and overflow of it. Amen. You know, I think that money answers all things, right?

46:05And so for me, when I think of the spiritual connection of stewardship. Stewardship has been on my heart a lot lately, and I'm really excited about this word stewardship because I'll tell you the truth now that I really want to get back into serving in a local church and becoming a stewardship pastor because I think within the body of Christ, we've kind of taken the word of stewardship that it only means money, but that's not the case. Stewardship means I steward, I manage what God has given. So stewardship is not just money Stewardship, if you're going to be successful in money You got to be a good steward in other areas as well Stewardship means I manage what's not mine So the time that I have on this earth as a Christian It's not my time, it's God's time These clothes that I have on, these are not my clothes They're God's clothes, I'm stewarding that Watch this, the wife that I have That I will get, that's not my That's my wife But it's his daughter, I'm called to Steward her and protect her The kids that I have it's not mine from a biblical perspective I'm just stewarding them for 21 years it is my responsibility to raise them and train them in the way that they should go to fulfill the assignment on their life so I think if we're going to be good stewards with money so we can receive abundance we have to understand that everything that we have in life is not ours and it's just called for us to steward so the time that I have with you I didn't do a whole bunch of podcasts on this book because I was like I think that's bad stewardship for me to go over there but it's good stewardship for me to come to Lewis Howes because that's my brother I know we're going to have an intellectual conversation that's good leave here go over here and do that but it's like now in the season of my life I'm stewarding every hour of my day well because I want to make sure that I'm not wasting that time on something that doesn't get me closer to the assignment that I need to fulfill right and so if we're going to be good with money if we're going to receive all the abundance we cannot not solely focused on the money.

48:03We got to focus on everything that God is giving us in our life and be good stewards over every single thing. One of the prayers I'm really praying for right now is like, God, and I'm practicing it. God, when I'm blessed to have a family, God, let me steward that family well. Well, Anthony, how are you going to do that? And I told you this before, before the show, I was like, man, I lost out on a good woman because I didn't make her a priority. I wasn't being intentional. I didn't steward that season well with her. So now what I'm doing is, meant I don't work on Fridays. I'm positioning myself to when that comes, I can steward that relationship well.

48:38And I believe that if we can steward that well, right, and get the right partner, man, like, I mean, your wife is amazing, and I've seen her work. I mean, y 'all just gonna make more money together because of the true partnership. Right? So the Lewis house we see today, this time next year, it's gonna be a different Lewis house because now you're married, you have a true partnership, y 'all are stewarding that well and i just believe god is just going to bless it man so that's that's my thoughts that's beautiful man and when your next book comes out around money we'll have to do a whole thing about how engaged couples should be how they should merge spiritually and financially their asset together so that'll be the next conversation we gotta do it but for now i want people to get a copy of your book take your seat at the table live an authentic Life of Abundance, Wellness, and Freedom by Anthony O 'Neill.

49:26Also on social media, YouTube, Anthony O 'Neill. Make sure to check out his channel, his show, and all the good things. Any final thing on your heart or mind that you would like to finish before we jump you out of here? Amen. Listen, number one, thank you so much, Louis, for always opening the door for me to come on, man. It's always an honor. And y 'all, I gotta say this, I know we're promoting my book, but I would be remiss to not encourage you all to pre-order my brother's book, Make Money Easy. Come over to my show. We'll dive deep into it at the table because I can't wait to have this conversation.

50:01But I would definitely like to end with this, that if you're going to take a seat at the head of your table in 2025, there's a key thing that you got to do that I believe that a lot of people skip over. We tell everyone to mind your business. Like, hey, get out of my business. Just mind your business. But I think the key thing for 2025 is you have to mind your business because our mind is your number one business and so i i want to encourage people that if you don't take a seat at the head of your table the only way you can honestly build a successful future is to grow your number one asset which is your mind read the right books get my book take your seat at the table get lewis new book make money easy get other folks listen to podcasts it's going to grow your mind because what we put in here goes into our heart what comes into our heart is going to naturally flow out of our pores and when that naturally flows out it's going to be good stuff flowing out that is going to produce abundance, wellness and freedom but if we're always filling our stuff up with what the shave room says what this says what gossip, bloggers then we're just we're going to pour that out and we're not going to see our life progressing forward and so if you want to take a seat at the head of your table mind your fitness and come check me out my man thank you brother love you brother appreciate you man sir thank you so much for listening to this episode if you enjoyed this and if you found value make sure to share this with one friend just copy and paste the link and text a friend where you feel would be truly inspired by this episode as well and also make sure to click the follow button on apple or spotify wherever you're listening to this episode because we have a massive episode coming up next that I do not want you to miss.

51:42So make sure to follow this and be on the lookout for the next episode coming with some massive content and guests. Also, I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you were looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you wanna make it easier. you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to MakeMoneyEasyBook.com right now and get yourself a copy. I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up.

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Financial freedom begins with taking control of your money story, not your credit score. In this transformative conversation, bestselling author Anthony O'Neal shatters conventional financial wisdom by revealing how credit-obsessed thinking keeps most people trapped in debt cycles and prevents them from "taking their seat at the table." Anthony vulnerably shares his own financial mistakes—from a disastrous landscaping project that cost him thousands to the relationship opportunities lost because of society's misplaced focus on credit scores over actual wealth. His powerful framework for reclaiming ownership of your financial destiny offers a path to freedom that isn't about deprivation, but about making strategic choices that align with your authentic self and deeper purpose. Whether you're drowning in student loans or simply want to build lasting generational wealth, this episode provides the roadmap for creating a life of genuine abundance.

Anthony’s new book Take Your Seat at the Table: Live an Authentic Life of Abundance, Wellness, and Freedom

In this episode you will learn:

  • Why your credit score is a terrible indicator of financial health and how focusing on it keeps most people trapped in debt
  • How to implement the EARN method to systematically eliminate debt in 12-24 months without feeling deprived
  • The critical importance of creating an emotional support system to prevent financial decisions driven by unchecked emotions
  • Why entrepreneurship isn't for everyone and the dangerous myth of "working from the beach" that influencers sell
  • How to define true abundance as creating overflow that benefits not just yourself but your family and community
  • The spiritual dimension of stewardship that extends beyond money to how you manage your time, relationships, and resources

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