Why You Can't Manifest With an Old Identity | Jim Curtis

25:16Lewis Howes:For someone who feels like they've tried everything around manifesting, They've tried journaling, therapy, affirmations, visualization, hypnotherapy, and nothing works for them. What's the very first thing that you'd have them do today that's different from everything they've tried to allow them to start manifesting better? They should go to a better hypnotherapist. Exactly. So here's what I would start to try. One is forgiveness, right? We talk about forgiveness. We've written books about forgiveness. We've listened to Instagram reels ad nauseum about forgiveness, right? But I want to change let them to forgive them.

25:51I just want to change let them to forgive them. Because once you forgive yourself first and you say, I am going to forgive myself for not achieving, for not manifesting, for letting myself down, for shaming myself for not doing any of that stuff. You put yourself immediately into more of a flow state. And now I want you to look at others and say, oh, I've been holding anger and resentment towards a number of people in my life. And that's been keeping me at a low vibrational frequency. I'm going to forgive mom and dad. They were doing the best they could, even if they did horrible things. Right.

26:26They were corrupt. I'm going to forgive all those people growing up. Right. And it's not to say that you're going to put yourself in harm's way. It's not to say you're letting them off the hook. Maya Angelou said this. It's like the best gift you can give yourself is to forgive.

26:41Lewis Howes:You've got a quote in your book, the Book of Possibility, on page 93, that says, If you hold onto anger and blame, dwelling on how things should have been, you're living in a low vibration that can physically harm you. Your stress rises, your mental health declines. Unforgiveness places a burden on your heart. And I think, you know, at the essence of a lot of your work and what you're continually going through with physical challenge, it sounds like if you don't have forgiveness in your heart, nothing good will come. It sounds like if you hold on to anger, rage, or blame, or dwelling on how things could have been from your past.

27:23Lewis Howes:I wish my parents did this way. I wish I'd made this opportunity. I wish I didn't get hurt from this divorce, whatever it is. Yeah, because it keeps you in an identity of abused child, divorced person that has been injured, the trauma of this, right? The wound. It keeps you in this survival mode. And through that survival mode, that tending and surviving and healing, right, it doesn't allow you to step out and truly experience the bliss of being. Yes. So when you start to say, I forgive all that, and it really says it's time to move on. From that old identity, that old story that you're holding on to, right?

28:07Because I'm no longer tied to you. I've cut that cord through forgiveness. We do cord cutting ceremonies too, but I cut that cord through forgiveness. The science shows it, right? And now emotionally, I cut that cord to forgiveness, and therefore I can now move on without the tethers into my new way of being into my new identity which is more powerful more loving and a much higher frequency which guess what lower inflammation in your body more oxytocin more endorphins and which sends you on a path you know so i always say that neuroscience and science is really changing the mind and spirituality is healing the heart that's

28:50Lewis Howes:beautiful because unforgiveness places a burden on your heart. And if your heart is being weighed down, physically burdened in a cage and reflecting towards the past pain, it's hard to create a vision of a future possibility of manifesting what you want when you're always burdened by the past. I've heard you say that people would be surprised who they need to forgive first before anything else can start to shift. So who is the person we need to forgive first? And why does everything else stall until that happens? I know that people listening saw an image in their mind of the person they need to forgive first.

29:31That bastard, mom, dad, the husband, the wife, whatever. Yeah. And now I want you to look in the mirror. Ooh. Right? Oozing. Oozing. Look in the mirror because you are the person you need to forgive first. Wow. You've been terribly difficult. You've been terribly hard on yourself. You've been feeling that. You've been telling yourself you're not good enough. You've been shaming yourself for those decisions you made. You've been wondering why you just can't get it right. You've been so angry with yourself because your body's broken. You've been so withdrawn because you feel stuck or your depression has you.

30:15And so first of all, just stand in front of the mirror. Look yourself in the eye and see that beautiful soul that's within your body. That's you. That's your conscious awareness of the soul. And just say, I'm so sorry. I forgive you. Thank you. And I love you. And just feel yourself transformed. You are the first person that you need to forgive anybody that's listening.

30:38Lewis Howes:Again, unforgiveness places a burden on your heart. You say that in your book on page 93. Yeah. When you forgive yourself and then you forgive others, it's like you create a sense of peace in your heart. Your heart starts to mend. And hopefully that sends a signal of healing energy throughout your body as well. The heart has a higher electromagnetic frequency than the brain. And that's what they talk about, your heart going into coherence. Yes. And your heart can't go into coherence if you're holding on to anger and resentment. When you look at your eyes and you own it and believe it, it's like receiving someone else's apology, the truest, sincerest apology and what that feels like.

31:23Lewis Howes:Sure, maybe for the first moment you might be like, yeah, but you should have apologized a year ago or you shouldn't have done it in the first place. But when someone truly apologizes to you, it kind of releases the tension as well for you. So imagine doing that for yourself. And I want everyone watching or listening to try this today, tonight, right now. Find a mirror and sit with yourself, whatever you need to let go of, whatever you need to release and align and become. I'm telling you, forgiveness. It sounds so simple. It's extremely courageous and vulnerable to do. And so hard. And so hard.

32:00Lewis Howes:but it is such a simple tool that if you learn to forgive others by forgiving yourself first and receive the forgiveness you give yourself and then doing it for others, you at least create peace and harmony alignment in your body. And that goes a long way. It goes a long way. Now, it doesn't mean you let go of boundaries. It doesn't mean you bring people back into your life. It doesn't mean you hang out with people or do harmful things to yourself again. We go into the science of forgiveness. We go into the exercise of forgiveness. I love the idea of doing that exercise. We talk about the mirror exercise.

32:36I do this with a lot of the groups and it's staring at yourself in the mirror, right? And then listening. First, you take off all your clothes, get in a full length mirror and you stand in front of the mirror, get close. So you can see the wrinkles, you can, and so the insecurities, the insecurities, boy, why is one hip higher than the other? Why is my stomach so big? What's, what are those veins? What are those wrinkles? And you listen to your mind go crazy. Judgment. All the judgment. Shame. All those, you're too old, you're too young, you're too fat. Some people come back and say, you know, I had the nicest things to say about myself.

33:14I say, that's beautiful. Majority of people don't. And then the next step is to apologize to yourself and forgive for each one of those terrible things that you had thought of and said. It becomes, like you said, like this story, a really cathartic moment. Yes. And within that energy shift, you raise your frequency to be more in a frequency of love. Because what that is, is compassion for yourself. And that compassion for yourself puts you in a loving frequency, one of the highest frequencies that you can be in. And through being in that love frequency, everything changes. Take me, for example.

33:57I wouldn't go out I wouldn't do many things If I had to be in front of an audience Or definitely not on any kind of Public TV appearance or anything like that Because I was incredibly Self-conscious and shameful Of the way that I walked And so now I had pain in my body And then I was creating even more anguish by like, you know, I'll never be loved if I'm walked this way. If I can't hike up a mountain, then, you know, every woman that I ever wanted, you know, probably doesn't want me. It turns out that not every woman wants to hike up a mountain, but it wasn't, thank God, but it wasn't until I truly accepted and loved myself and apologized and forgave myself for being so mean to myself that my life dramatically, dramatically changed.

34:55More love, more wealth, more success, more ability to contribute to the world.

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37:23Because until you do the exercise of really listening to your thoughts, it just plays. And so this is what the release part is, is building awareness around what you're saying to yourself. Because what I realized when I was building awareness is I was restricting myself. I was embarrassed of myself. I was shameful of myself. I wasn't allowing myself to have fun. I wasn't allowing myself to fall in love. I wasn't allowing myself to feel safe or I wasn't allowing myself to be vulnerable. And I think that is terribly mean. right and when i did allow myself to do all that stuff you know because i forgave myself and then on top of that i started to say i love you i love you part of that prayer i love you the whole world opened up my body released the pain but it didn't release the physical limp but my entire world changed regardless so the belief and the identity of who i was instead of being shameful and guilty and bad.

38:25I became, you know, someone who was trying to help in the world and through my own pain, you know, driven and mission oriented. And so my world changed just by changing my belief. And, but to do that, as we talk about in this book, the tools, it's about getting beyond the mundaneness of forgiveness and gratitude. For example, water is mundane, except for the people in the part of the world that are listening to us that are in water scarcity. They have no water. Right. They have no water or it's polluted or whatever. But in the majority of the world, right? It's abundant. It's free. It's abundant, right?

39:04It's clean. It's like, it's kind of boring, right? You're like, no, I want, yeah, I want a drink. I want like whatever it is, something, you know, we're always putting like flavors in water, right? But water besides air is the only thing that you can't go very long without dying. it is literally we're made mostly of water it has all of our intuitive innate wisdom within it you know but it is not only functioning on an intuitive level but on a physical level and so i believe forgiveness and gratitude are the same thing we start to take it for granted but when we really dig in those things can change your entire life so what is the prayer then the

39:44Lewis Howes:process that you were just talking about the thank you i'm i forgive you i'm sorry it's called The Honoponopono prayer. Okay. And the Honoponopono prayer was a prayer that was, as the story goes, it was an energetic prayer that had the process. It's more of a, besides, don't think of it as words. Think of it as a code, a frequency that you're expressing through the tone of your voice into the world, right? And the story goes that the man who kind of created this was praying over pictures of inmates in a very violent prison in Hawaii. And when he did this violent crime within the prison went down so dramatically, most of the prisoners were transferred into a lower security.

40:30Lewis Howes:Yeah. He was doing a remote prayer. Remote prayer. And so this prayer was the first thing. When I started to do it the first time, I would break down in tears. Wow. And you don't need to focus on where it goes. It will go to the place it needs to. And you center yourself and breathe. And you simply start to repeat as a mantra. Do it 10 times, 20 times. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. thank you i love you make it a mantra keep doing it keep doing it and i'm certain it's going to crack something yeah would you say that this is the ultimate prayer for manifesting i think it's the ultimate prayer for forgiveness but you can't manifest without your own forgiveness anyway right so it's the starting prayer yes yes exactly okay that's interesting we're talking about creating a new identity, letting go of the old identity so you can step into the new identity.

41:37Lewis Howes:How can someone start to rewire their identity then to attract, create, manifest abundance and wealth in their life? Good. So we're talking about a couple of things. One is how do we release that old identity, which we just talked about, release that old identity by forgiveness, by awareness, by really bringing to light those limiting beliefs within the subconscious mind that need to be released. The second part is how do we step into a new identity that is more abundant? Yes. Right. And I call it the three G's. Three G's. The three G's. And the three G's are

42:23grounding, giving, and gratitude, right? And this gets into a subconscious and conscious. It hits on both levels. It hits on the neuroscience of it, and it hits on the spirituality of it, which are really the same thing. Quantum physics is showing that really neuroscience and spirituality are the same we can get deeper into that but so the first one is grounding emotional regulation from a place of a grounded emotionally regulated stance you get out of fight or flight you get out of freeze and fawn and you're able to make decisions that are clear and not focused on panic you make decisions that are clear and they're not anxious driven they're not worry driven they're grounded here and now decisions and they become more powerful and clear right so from that place of grounding emotional regulation you're not going to be in scarcity if you're not in scarcity then it's okay to save you don't need to buy all the material items now you don't need to take a loan that it may not behoove you you can just save for what you need knowing that you are abundant and you don't need that now.

43:41We're talking about money. The second part is giving. When you give money to a charity, when you give money, I had a teacher and he said, you can never give it all away. It comes back to you. You become in an abundant frequency that says, I can give, I have more than I need. And so some people will say, oh, good. That's not true. Like I can't give money. I don't have enough, find an amount that you can give and it will come back to you. It is the ultimate frequency of abundance. When in doubt, focus out, give. The third part is gratitude. So there have been studies done on gratitude, and we're not even talking about the frequency of love and feeling good towards yourself.

44:29There have been studies that have shown that when we feel gratitude, we are in a high vibrational state allows us to make the best decisions lower our material need increase our ability to wait prolonged need for something and so that allows us to save money and to do and so we start to say okay if i have a gratitude practice every day for what i have then i am in a state where more will come i am in a naturally abundant state right and the last part is i always i wrote about it in my book i wrote about your book because it really affected me it says if money was someone at a party how would you treat them yeah that really goes to your identity yeah it goes to your identity and i remember i remember thinking how would i treat money at the party.

45:22How would you? I think. How would you before versus now? Before I would, I would, I put them on a pedestal and try really hard to be nice to them. Impress them or yeah. Yeah. I remember hearing Gabby Bernstein talk about it. She'd be like, money be my best friend. I'm like, that's what I need to do. And so that's your identity. What are you worthy of? And so we can use somatic exercises. We can use neuro-linguistic programming and hypnotherapy in the read, write, listen format of this book that will change that, that will start to open up and create new neural pathways and new ways of being.

46:03Lewis Howes:I've heard you say you can't attract a life your subconscious doesn't believe you deserve. Exactly. So if someone doesn't believe they are deserving and worthy of love, of abundance, of health, and they're trying to take all the actions to create them, but there's a gap. Or maybe they create them, but then they still don't believe they're worthy of them. They have them and they don't believe they're worthy of them. What typically happens next? So you can't create a life that your subconscious mind doesn't believe you deserve. Exactly right. So even if you hustle and you get it, you'll sabotage it.

46:40Yeah. You will sabotage it. And so that's why you see people that had everything, had a man that had the relationship of his dreams and then he cheats, or someone that gets their job that they always want and then they get fired because they just can't get to work. And it's like, okay, if your subconscious mind isn't in line with what you want, it will sabotage until you lose it. And this is, you know, both with the fear of failure and the fear of success. And so we have to really go in and re-envision, reprogram, and who that child is. We all have these childhood wounds. And we have to go in and re-experience those experiences, I think, within a transcendental state, a trance state, so that we can retrain in the best possible light.

47:35For example, I have a client. She was very successful at business and never got into a relationship. Now she sold her business, wants a relationship, can't find one, and is also having an identity crisis because she's no longer running a big business. Right.

47:54Lewis Howes:Well, I don't have my identity around my business where I was leaning on. Now I don't have a relationship. I don't have my business. So now I consciously want a relationship. I can't, I can't hold one down. And also. I'm going to start a new business now. Right. Should I start a new business? But you know, I don't have my business. I don't really want to start a new business, but I feel like I'm not good enough without a big business that I've started. And so what we got to was all the way back, she was riding in a car with her father at a young age. And the father said something like, no one's here to take care of you.

48:29I'm not gonna you may have a silver spoon in your mouth now but I'm not going to take care of you forever and you know one day if you don't take care of yourself you'll be homeless and then maybe I'll take care of you right right when so that and her little mind said I need to take care of myself hyper independence hyper success and if I'm not making money I'm not worthy and also no way I'm going to rely on someone else be vulnerable enough to rely on a partner to help me and so we had to unravel that what we did is we went into state of hypnosis and we re-experienced that except for i guided into the state of the father saying something completely different she was crying crying crying and then when she came out of it she felt as though the world has shifted wow yeah and so we start to say oh we need to start to do the inner child work we need to do shadow work and inner child work, both such important pieces to becoming who we want to become.

49:29What is shadow work? Shadow work are all those shadows, those monsters that lurk within all of us that were created to protect our child. So as a child, right, we have all these experiences that we don't understand, our emotions that are hurt, no way of really expressing. And the shadows Those are those things that were there to protect us, but now come out in ways that we're not proud of. Like our anxieties, our anger, our jealousies, our sabotaging others, our resentments, right? All those negative ways of being. And so what we do is we hide those shadows. We don't want anybody to know. But the funny thing is we all have them.

50:16So we're all hiding the same shit. We're all hiding the same stuff. And so we don't want anybody to know it. So we think we're hiding it. But the more we hide it, the louder that monster gets. You're only as sick as your secrets, as they say.

50:29Lewis Howes:Or it'll explode at some point. Exactly. So Shadow Work says, I'm going to recognize that I just reacted in this terrible way. Out of jealousy, I did something terrible to that person. I went out and wrote something online about them because I was jealous of them. I'm going to recognize that I did that. I'm going to recognize that it was probably from a pain or hurt as a child, and I'm going to forgive it. And I'm going to integrate it within me with love, this part of me. And Carl Jung said, shadow work is the only real way to expand our own being. Otherwise, we're just lying to ourselves. And so through shadow work, we're able to integrate both sides of us, even those ugly things and love it.

51:22And with that, start to do the inner child work that heals all the guilt wounds. The guilt wound in inner child work is children that have been abused or come from difficult families. And then now they're always like wondering if you didn't text them back because they did something wrong. or someone who asks you, are you mad at me? Often that's the guilt wound from childhood or the anxious attached wound or those different wounds within childhood. These are all the inner child work that we can start to do to change it.

51:55Lewis Howes:It's so interesting. When I reflect back on childhood stuff, I really struggled with, I didn't really have any friends or at least that was the story I was telling myself. And I remember something changed in high school. Like I started to not be like so tall and goofy looking. I started to like fit in my body. Right. I became more athletic. I was like, oh, I'm, you know, a starter on the sports teams and the MVP. And I was like, oh, now I'm getting attention. Yeah. For the thing that drove me to try to get attention, which was, all right, no one's my friend. I can't get attention from girls. Like no one wants to hang out with me.

52:33Lewis Howes:They're all making fun of me. So let me be so good that people want to be around me. And it worked. That strategy protected me and it helped me survive, right? In like school to the fact that I was like, oh, now I'm like the big man on campus, right? But I didn't know how to navigate that. I didn't know how to like navigate having friends and people wanting me a part of their ecosystem now. And so I was almost like afraid of it. And I almost was like hyper-villagent, like, is everything okay? Am I doing the right things? I want to make sure I don't lose this. Yeah. Now that I've got it, I want to go back to being alone and having no friends.

53:12Lewis Howes:So that's where the fear and the attachment is. What do you need? How can I be here for you? Ah, how can I be the funny guy? And then this guy. That's another one. People pleasing. All this stuff. I gave every strategy of survival. I wasn't even aware. I wasn't conscious of it. I was just doing it so that I didn't feel like I was alone and had no friends again. But you became conscious. How did you become conscious of it? In my late 20s, it was like right around before I started the school of greatness. I was like, started to reflect because all these things were breaking down in my life. You know, an intimate relationship was breaking down, you know, business partnership was breaking down, friendships were breaking down.

53:46Lewis Howes:And that was the common denominator of everything. Yeah. So I was like, oh, I can't just point the finger that everyone else is wrong because I'm involved in all this wrongdoing. So there's something I'm bringing to the table that is also causing these things to happen in this relationship. Isn't that powerful? or I'm attracting these people that are bringing this on to me. Maybe I'm not doing anything wrong, but I'm attracting something. I'm staying in relationships. I'm not creating boundaries. I'm giving too much, whatever it might be. And I was like, oh, I need a lot of reflection. And so there was the time before I had a lot of ego where I was like, everyone else is bad and wrong.

54:23Lewis Howes:I'm not going to change. Like, why should I change? They're the one who did this. Yeah. And then a number of instances made me feel so kind of overwhelmed and like stressed that I was like, I think there's something wrong with me. You know, it's like, I think I'm the problem or part of the problem. And why am I attracting people in this way? And why am I allowing this to happen? Why does this keep happening? Let me take a look in the mirror psychologically. And that's when I started to go to emotional intelligence workshops. I started to get coaching, kind of emotional coaching, and really started to just dive into inner childhood wounds and the stories that I had attached my identity to.

55:07Lewis Howes:Everything you're talking about here in the book of possibility where I would had, I hadn't released the old identity. I carry the old identity into an adult body and an adult way of looking and being, but I was still carrying energy of scarcity, of fear, of not enoughness, of survival in adult scenarios. when I'd had millions of dollars at this point in the bank, when I had, you know, lots of relationships with successful people that I knew when I had an audience, when I had a business, all these things, but I didn't have peace. I didn't have, I didn't have love for myself and I didn't have freedom.

55:55Lewis Howes:And that was a beginning. It was around 13 years ago when I started the show was the beginning of a healing journey that will continue forever but it's been so many that first kind of unlock released a lot of forgiveness from the past but it's been an ongoing you know 13 year journey of unlocking different layers it took that awareness yes right and without that pain you know people often think that their pain is the worst thing that ever happen. And the truth is that pain is the biggest catalyst you could have if you're willing to be aware of why it's happening. Yeah. And, you know, I'm grateful that my ego finally let go because for a long time, 10 plus years, my ego was like, no, I'm just going to win more.

56:44Lewis Howes:I'm just going to make more. I'm going to like grind. I'm going to not sleep until I'm like, I'll show them showing everyone. It was like, ah, I'll show them. I'll just become even more powerful. Exactly. And it worked, but it left me feeling more sad and stressed and overwhelmed than ever. Like I got the external results, but I had no internal freedom. That's why these things aren't bad or good. Yeah. Right. There, there, you know, there was some good, the strategy worked to get external results, but not internal freedom. And it got you to a place where you felt secure enough where you can then do the deep emotional work.

57:19Exactly. Right. And you know, I had that same kind of scenario with romantic relationships really where i was at one point i had to say okay now i've been in a lot of failed romantic relationships and i can't be all these women i can't i can no longer say that it was this small thing about so and so um and i had to take a real look at myself and say okay oh is this my avoidance is this my attachment is this my inner child wound from you know my father being abusive and, you know, the guilt of, you know, the child that always feels like they did something wrong when they don't understand why their father is so mad at them.

58:04And so that allowed, you know, me to be very safe in relationships. And then when I realized that that was my wounding and that was my shadow, I had to make a change.

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59:35Lewis Howes:Join their 20 million customers today at Empower.com. Not an Empower client paid or sponsored. You work with a lot of top entrepreneurs, public figures, creatives, artists. What's the most common subconscious pattern that you see running for high achieving individuals? Confidence, low confidence and imposter syndrome. Really? Yeah. That's the most common subconscious pattern for high achievers, successful individuals is I'm not enough. Yeah. Really? Yes. Yes. I see it with the people that you would say, no way, but they are feeling like, you know, they have to do more prove more be more because don't they already have it all they're celebrities and businesses and billionaires and success and yes exactly but fame but really they're all so many people are wondering when are they going to figure me out really yes and then the comparison to others right the comparison to others of but this person may have done it better if they have more.

1:00:45And so that becomes so difficult in just being happy when you're always worried someone's going to find out that you're an imposter and perhaps you'll never have what this person has over here.

1:01:00Lewis Howes:Who do you think is more unhappy? People that make over a million dollars a year or people that make less than$50 ,000 a year? Less than$50 ,000 a year. I think there's a point where like an amount of wealth doesn't accumulate to more happiness but there is definitely a point where you're like okay um this has definitely changed my life for the better yeah now the question is how are you spending your money because if all of a sudden you went out and like bought the best bmw and like the fancy house and your million dollars is gone and you know whatever it is like having nothing yeah and and so i think it all it goes back to your behaviors yeah of course into holding on not sabotaging yourself so a lot of these individuals not everyone, but a lot of these individuals who are high achievers, they feel like they aren't enough or they're comparing themselves to someone else in their industry who might be doing it better from their point of view.

1:01:55Lewis Howes:So if you could speak to every high achiever, celebrity, multimillionaire, billionaire, who on the outside, most people would think they have it all, but on the inside, they look at themselves in the mirror and they feel like they're worth those piece of crap and they aren't smart, aren't funny, aren't talented, and they're not enough. What would you say to those individuals right now? I'd say to them and I'd say to everybody listening, you're not your body. You're not your pain. You're not your job. You are nothing that you can identify as an object like this glass, this body, this, this job, your accolades, your followers, your money.

1:02:35And instead you are something far more worthy. You are your conscious awareness. You are meant to be here, right? You're meant to shine your light. You don't have to worry about anything other than that. The more you shine your light in terms of your joy and your love, then the more that you'll have. And so we can release the worry for a minute, right? We can just be here now. And in that here and now, knowing that we are inherently worthy, inherently enough, inherently deserving, and we don't have to prove it. That's what I would. That's beautiful. If I could get everybody to feel and believe that, then lives would shift.

1:03:18Lewis Howes:You mentioned something before that neuroscience and spirituality are the same. Love it. Why is neuroscience and spirituality the same? Well, we need both of them because we are not just spiritual or human. We are a spirit having a human experience. So to not focus on science would be missing out on a big part, and not focusing on spirituality would be missing out on a big part. So the neuroscience is really shifting of the mind, whereas spirituality is healing and shifting of the heart. And so it is so conjoined like that. However, now start to look at what's happening in science today. We have quantum physics that is talking about this idea that with our own observation, things shift.

1:04:17And that those things are shifting in a large void of nothing until we actually see it. So this quantum field, the void, right? And so spirituality has been talking about God, the universe, has been talking about the universal mind forever. So the Tao used to say everything is the Tao and the Tao is everything. Same as the Sufi text would talk about so above is below. And now quantum physics is talking about this idea that we are all entangled and connected. so the more that we get into science the further we progress the more we realize that it's always been speaking the same language of the of the mind and the heart forever if someone watching doesn't believe in god what would you say to them believe in science and if you don't believe that god is the creator then you know we have this funny thing that says you know there is this field and quantum mechanics, quantum computer and quantum physics has proved that it exists and you can't see it.

1:05:30It's invisible. It's invisible and you need to actually have just faith that it's there. And doesn't that sound a lot familiar? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So if you don't believe in God or any of this stuff that I've said today, all the woo-woo stuff, just look to science because it's all proven.

1:05:48Lewis Howes:How old are you now? 50. If you could go to 60 and give yourself three pieces of advice now and just quantumly leap into the future, you're 60 and you're seeing yourself now, what three pieces of advice would you give yourself? I'm giving my 50-year-old self advice. Have more fun. It's not always this good. Right? Have more fun. It's not always this good. Appreciate your body. It's only getting worse. and stop worrying so much. Yeah. It's all working out. What do you worry about the most? My body. Yeah. Yeah. My body or whether I'm going to be on time, I'm going to be in traffic. Right. You know, with this work that we do, it doesn't say that worries stop.

1:06:38It's a natural way of being. It's just to say that you can settle yourself down a lot quicker. Yeah. And those lessons that worries trying to teach you can go away much faster and a snap instead of getting stuck in the overthinking mind.

1:06:53Lewis Howes:Your new book is called The Book of Possibility. Release, Align, Become by Jim Curtis. If you guys want more on how to transform your life and your mind and feel peace, harmony, make sure to check out the book. Get a copy for your friend as well. The Book of Possibility. You got an event around it that people can get access to if they go to jimcurtiscoaching.com or if they follow you on Instagram, JimCurtis1 on Instagram, they can get more content, learn more about the launch, get access, things like that. And I'm sure you'll be doing other things as well around it. So if they follow you and subscribe, they'll be able to get access to all that stuff.

1:07:34Lewis Howes:Who should be getting this book? And what do you think is available for them on the other side if they actually go through it and apply the principles? I wrote this book for people who are ready for a change, who know there's something more and are wanting to be freed to do it. Those people that have been feeling stuck, those people with chronic pain or an illness, those people that want to manifest in a more powerful way. It comes with a companion app. So you actually listen to the hypnosis so it changes your mind. So those curious people who know that there's something more to life and want to wake up happier and go to sleep easier.

1:08:09Most of the people say that one of the things from this work is, I can just go to sleep. I don't worry anymore. Yes. And if you want to step into the most powerful version of you, that's what this book is for, despite all the challenges around you.

1:08:24Lewis Howes:That's beautiful, man. I want to make sure people get the book, The Book of Possibility. I asked you this before, but I'm curious what your three truths are again. So imagine you get to live as long as you want. But on the final day, you have to take all of your work with you. The book, this content, everything has to go with you. And you only get to leave behind three lessons to the world. I call it three truths. What would those truths be for you? You're not doing it wrong. You are living life. It's supposed to be challenging. All these issues that come up, your reactions, poor, good, whatever, you're doing it exactly right.

1:08:59That's one. The second one is kindness towards yourself and others will go much further than you could ever possibly imagine. And you can't give it all away. the more you give in money and time and life, the more you receive. Yeah.

1:09:17Lewis Howes:Just don't give it all away at once. Right. Make sure you have something. Yes. There's everything now. Yeah. I think it's a great distinction. Yeah. Jim Curtis, thanks so much for being here, man. Thank you. Thank you again. My friend, I hope you're enjoying this episode right now because we are on a mission to impact a hundred million lives every single week. and every follow here on this podcast helps us reach more people. Make sure to hit the follow at the top of this show's page right now. It's the single biggest thing that you can do to support the show and the impact of us reaching you every single time we have new episodes.

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