Date Night Ideas For 2026: New Restaurants, Sober Activities & Couple Challenges | SheerLuxe Podcast

0:00On this week's pod, we are talking all about my marriage resolutions for 2026. I mean, they're super simple, but like go to a new restaurant once a month. Yeah. Do something fun once a month that isn't around booze or food. That's hard. Yeah. Really hard. Like get a hobby. We see a side of Maya that we've never seen before. Wow. I actually say I love you a scary amount of times a day. But you just say it like love you. I'll get really close and give him a hug and get to his ear and I'll just say, I love you so much we are talking about our fashion finds from Mango and H &M like a polo top with shoulder pads we're so in tune have you just bought it it's like fastest thing at first with H &M yeah yeah yeah and also your dilemmas maybe have an honest conversation with your partner and say oh no don't do that no don't do that that's the worst advice I would say it's a really fun one and good for the soul chicken soup type of one so definitely give it a whirl

1:08welcome to the share likes podcast i'm your host hodge and today i'm joined by laura black and maya lucky we are talking about things we're loving our fashion picks of the week and as always we'll be answering your dilemmas but before we jump in please hit subscribe it's the fastest way to stay up to date with all of our latest content hi girls hello we've just spent the whole day together.

1:32We've just moved from the desk to here. Yeah, our desk does literally transfer. It's quite nice. What are you two hotties wearing? Who wants to go first? I am wearing a maybe shirt with some great shoulder pads. So good. I love it. Good white shirt. Some ASOS Barrel Leg jeans, a de-horche belt, and my all-faithful mint velvet boots, which... So you're matching. I know. I know. Feminine velvet shoes. Good boots. yeah so comfy i actually like these so much i bought them twice what in different colors no same ones trini does that doesn't she she buys if she loves something she buys like it three times so that it never runs out so good do they come in the gold hardware just silver just silver i think what about you mucker my mucker mucker over here

2:21i'm wearing h &m lacy big frilly sleeve top so cool so good i've got that too I bought it for like, basically like Christmas season, end of last year, and I never got to wear it. So this is its first outfit. Oh. Excellent. Nice with dark denim as well. Yeah, good idea. Then a Coz blazer, my Abercrombie Sloan trousers, and my June Adele boots. So nice. So good. I've got my Minerva boots on, patent. Can you actually walk in those? Yeah, they are super high though. Yeah. But they are really comfy. They look amazing on you. 100 denier tights underneath. Keep them warm. is going to be hold ups but sometimes you've got to give in i'm laughing because my new resolution was to wear to be sexier is that even possible no i feel you might become inappropriate in the office but i used to wear more like pencil skirts you do tight top and now i sort of just wear i feel i just wear jeans and a jumper no you are the sex symbol of sheer luck so you're You're doing the job, don't worry.

3:26I love that. You can leave now. Flagging it for the 40s. And a pencil skirt from Frankie Sharp and a marino polo neck from Arquette. And my bargain of last year, 2025, the by Georgia Asda bomber jacket. Such a good jacket. So good. Yeah. You've got to go oversized. Yeah. Because then it adds a bit of drama. You're ticking the sexy box. You look great. You did not look sexy when you walked into the office today, I might add. which we all relished in. I could not feel less sexier. But I did come in this morning with a raincoat and a hood because I can't find any umbrellas in my house. But it wasn't just a raincoat.

4:05It was like you were wearing a full-on tent.

4:12Okay, should we get to it? Things we're loving. What have you got for me? I'm actually loving not wearing foundation in January. I haven't worn any foundation this month. I have a lot to say on this topic. because a how your skin is so flawless I know glowy as really but also I do sit on the same desk as you and there's a lot of oh I put makeup on but not so what we put it what are we putting on caveat I still wear makeup just not wearing foundation foundation in the daytime for me doesn't sit on my skin properly so now I've just gone back to basics so I'm putting on a Charlotte Tilbury flawless filter like it's my glowy base and that's your base that's my base instead of a foundation and then this has been a game-changing product it's the um nyx glaze comes in like a yellow and brown bottle it was fairly new last year and i sort of underpaint you know how people were doing that so i do like a brown sort of underpainting a little bit just put it here like wearing a bronzer but just do that and then i put concealer nars radiant creamy concealer just here here and a bit on my chin and then i blend all of that in and that just forms my base instead of wearing one full foundation color across my whole face okay i think it just makes me look much more like it's more my natural face nothing sort of sits and cracks and creases yeah doesn't dry up no and you can reapply it which is what you see me do yeah yeah all day and when as soon as mine starts putting out makeup then i stop putting it's like a domino effect and then we all leave here like drag queens she knows something something's coming What's happening?

5:48A camera's going to be here any minute. Quit. I just have to, like, after, if I eat something or drink something, I have to do a quick touch-up afterwards. Okay. Well, you look gorgeous, babe. Thanks. Hodge, what are you loving? Okay, well, listen, I know this is not the audience, but I'm going to talk about a book. That is so bad of us, isn't it, Maya? We don't read. But I'm just going to talk about it super quickly. Some of us don't have extra dates in our week like you. so hodge came back from holiday and i saw on her instagram she'd read six books yeah that's crazy i know but it's because anyone well the kids i don't see the kids because they're just off but you're not with you're with grown-ups too aren't you yeah but no one really talks unless like you know until like lunchtime oh you're just like laying by the breakfast and then we just chill we were on a family holiday um at christmas which is what i'm referring to and i read six books that's so impressive yeah but i could read a book a day i can only get through about half a book on a two-week holiday i can do a book what do you do when you're lying down watch i know my thoughts this girl can commute without listening to anything so she can yeah what do you think about everything anyway tell us what is this book i can't wait to hear about it i feel like that chat was more interesting than what we're about to hear give us a tap when you're done i feel like for the book lovers out there I feel I have to share this because it is it really touched my soul I was like crying my heart out on the flight on the way home it's a love story it's called Broken Country by Claire Leslie Hall it's a Reese Witherspoon book club pick and I always think she's got good taste basically about this girl called Beth and her there's a love triangle her husband Frank and then her first love is this guy called Gabriel based in the UK and it's set in three timelines and they run alongside each other so it's the past when she's with Gabe the first love it's then her relationship with her husband and then it's the present and the present is set in a trial for murder oh so you sort of reading them all three alongside her at the same time but you don't know who's on trial for murder oh my god okay so you get to that right at the end it's funny because she's the villain but you really root for her because of sort of these tragic things that have happened but it is so worth reading like please read it it's so good for your soul i quite like crying you read it you'll get through you're like hooked instantly you'll get through it so quickly you won't be able to put it down like you know when you keep thinking about it when you don't you won't know i do when i read the nightingale i carried it around like a pet for like another hour after because i was so sad it was over yeah just came with me maybe you've got the power to do this yeah honestly it's good anyway i highly recommend it what's it called again it's called broken country by claire leslie hall it will definitely be a netflix drama apart from the uk bit it does sound like something that reese weatherspoon would yeah it could it could be anywhere it's just it's just it's like heartbreaking and you know there's good sex in it you do like a book she's next i know we were laughing earlier because we we've been told that heated rivalry is super horny but I just haven't given me the horny but this book will I find it so different I have got she's like my secret weapon this lady she is called Renata Noon she'll do massage but she combines it with acupuncture she was a physio and she combines it all with a bit of cupping and it's literally an hour and a half of absolute oh an hour and a half that's lovely heaven wow and she's at 180 this round i've been to her she's so nice yeah i really really trust her and you just leave like you know when you have a massage you have a massage and it's like really it's like nice isn't it but you leave and you feel like she's done good like she's realigned you and i just leave with like an extra spring in my step and i feel like my body is all in the right place but she's heaven she comes to your house oh she came to my house but i've also seen her in my locations and it's just it does sound pretty dreamy okay should we delve into a bit of celeb let's do it the thing that's piqued my interest is i was reading the saturday times and there was an article talking about brooklyn beckham and that he has taken legal action against his parents issued a legal letter to say please can they not contact him on social media or comment or like any of his posts because it causes him mental distress but is that very recent the letter yeah yeah it's because she liked one of his posts isn't it she liked a recipe there's been so many rumors but you know i think it all started when apparently about the wedding and i think there was like disputes between victoria and Nicola throughout the wedding and you know famously she didn't wear one of Victoria Beckins wedding dress designs which you know each of their own but I can imagine for Victoria that maybe there was a conversation she thought she was and then she changed her mind like he knows how it played out yeah but it's been since then but then they seem to be back together and there was a couple of appearances where they were there I just feel like we probably don't know much yeah and a family fallout is so i think it's so sad and hard anyway it's just it's just to me it feels like crazy that as soon as you you know and i think about me with my three children that as soon as somebody else comes in the family dynamic changes yeah which is natural you know as the mum of the son whose wife is probably the boss yeah in terms of you know let's see my parents this weekend or let's see your parent like you've got to be nice to the daughter-in-law you've got to play the game totally it's very megan and harry very diana and harper's what she's 14 yeah it's a weird thing for her to navigate how long has it been going on i it's at least since they got married i'd say at least well i think last year sort of escalated because they did their vow renewal which was extraordinary they've only been married about six months and then he commented he made like an Instagram post saying I love you baby you're my whole world I only need you I hope they reconcile to be continued I know to be continued um okay talking about relationships our other celebrity topic of the week is PDAs yeah there's been quite a few recently obviously Timothy and Kylie yep with his announcement at the Critics Choice Award that thank you so much to my foundation, my partner for three years.

12:48Side note. Yeah, that's a whole lot of conversation. How have they been together that long? I feel that we have been sold down the river then by keeping up with the Kardashians because I thought they were supposed to document all of their life. And I did not know about that. He obviously didn't want to be on. How dare they keep that up for you? I need to have a chat with Chris. I think they're super cute though. I'm very team Tim and Kylie. So it was very sweet. So he said, my foundation, my love, I love you. And then she mouthed back as well. I love you. I know. It's so cute. I love PDA. Love it.

13:23You love PDA? I don't know. Yeah. I don't know about that. I don't know how much I believe it. Really? No. Come on. You think it's still a real relationship? I think it's like a solidifying to everybody. Yeah. She's mine. Yeah. Which is nice. you know i love it but it could be like look remember tom cruise and katie holmes when he went on the oprah's sofa and went crazy and jumped up and down and said i'm in love i'm in love can you remember that no i don't remember that that sounds extraordinary what can you remember that was massive anyway then they got married and then they got divorced pretty quick but maybe like is it because she said to him right i need you to tell the world that we're together like do you think she said listen now is the time you're about to get an oscar like i want to be there about that i don't think so she's like she's a billionaire age whatever she's super successful i don't think she needs that but like there's that and then there's stephen grim love him and his wife and there's something so much more that does feel more genuine i would agree with but it's like because they've been married for 25 years maybe not three and they're older even if it's three that is like he genuinely wanted to like yes party with her and I know so sweet so Stephen Graham won best actor the golden boat so his role in adolescence and he got up in his acceptance speech he was like he said she saved his life oh I love him he is so sweet and he he I was watching something else which he'd done and somebody was like if you could have six people put a dinner party who would you have He said, my wife and my mum and dad.

15:01Because I want my mum, I want my dad, I want to see my dad see my mum again. Oh my God. That's so sweet. I know. That is true. He's so gorgeous. He's such a lovely man. He's nice. And she, yeah, because she's a producer and director and an actress and he suffers from horrendous dyslexia. So I think they really work together as a team. But it's funny, that isn't icky. No. But I don't know, is it because they're older? I don't know. Did you find Timothy and Kylie icky? I found it quite a statement. Yeah. Yeah, I did too, but I just think that's the same. Like a contrived statement. It's not saying that I don't believe it, but it felt like it was PR.

15:38Yeah. She was primed to go. The cameras were ready on her. Yeah, exactly. Like, what would you say if your husband was on stage and said, I love you? Would you not be like, I'd say, I love you. I would do the same. I didn't know that I could, you know. I'd probably go like this. He'd stand up and shout, I love you too, baby. I mean, I think I just go. Yeah. I don't know what I do. I don't think I could laugh a bit. I don't think I could either. I could. I don't think I could. Well, you're pretty many right. I actually say I love you a scary amount of times a day. But do you just say it like, love you?

16:12No, no, I'm like, I love you. Oh, creepy. I actually, because he works at home all the time. He works from home. I often will just go up to him and go.

16:26I'll get really close and give him a hug and get his ear and I'll just say I love you so much Wow I do that all the time Maya that is another side of you You are so not needed Wow I'm obsessed with Callum Wow Two wholly different vibes Oh I'm crying I'm not into that if edited that to me I mean get away you creep I would be more likely to do James the gag is that I'm like I love you more than you love me oh my god the gag is in our house is that he comes towards me and my hands go up like this I literally what a fence I just don't want to be touched and hugged and I'm so cold what a bitch oh Laura yeah no I'd like no I would love more affection no don't need any more.

17:21I'm always like you know I want you to squeeze my ass as you walk. Do you actually? Yeah. So annoying. But I don't want, I love you. Okay, you want more sexy time. I want to swear to affirmations. Laura doesn't want to be touched. We're all so different. He's going to be Yeah. I think he's secretly he loves you. He loves you. Do you know, if you stop doing it, he'll be, don't do it for two weeks, he will be so scared. He'll probably be like, why don't you love me anymore? Do it, do it. Let's make a test. Watch this face. Let's see if we can play with him. Let's hope he doesn't listen. We just like, But it's so funny because Maya is such a badass at work.

18:09Do you know what it means? Yeah. You've really like, your nails. Totally. Baffling. Like, we're probably like, sweeter. We're like, no, it's fine. I mean I'm still quite cold but yeah but I'm nice to everyone I mean it is so nice to like be so does he like it in love yeah he does I bet he really loves it yeah and it doesn't like you know you're pretty hot yeah lucky gal I don't say it's sexy though just put like it is a very like keepsy eye loving you don't go it's not a little girl voice no no I think we might have to stop that if it was Do you do baby voices? No. No. Do you? No. No, not real ones.

18:56Baffled. Not real ones. What does that happen? I thought I knew. What's the name of the law? Like what? Like would James not put on a funny voice if he was like. Yeah, but you wouldn't do a baby voice. Come on, an example. Come on. Come on, kill me. I think it's actually just his way of manipulating me into doing stuff though, to be fair. Oh, he's like. Because you crumble. Please, baby, baby, baby.

19:21I'm like, okay. She's going to try and make me add it. We're not addicting any of it. Wrapped around his little finger. Yeah. That's why he takes my whispering, because you know. Yeah. Okay, so we are pro - PTA. I am not. I'm still not. No, but like no snogging and stuff in public. Okay, no. None of that. Okay. draw the line up there yeah but you can say nice things in front of other people about your partner I really agree with that I really agree because that raises them up too which is really nice yeah okay well let's give my a break do you feel like you've just laid yourself there yeah because I feel like we've really let's do a bit of fashion yeah let's go back to something we're comfortable okay what are you loving it's hard this time of year isn't it because there's a you wouldn't even go to the shops no but what have you found online what are you loving so mine is about reinventing what i've got a bit and i've mulled over i've been watching trini for a while and she always she loves shoulder pad yeah i love a shoulder pad i'm quite small i like that it gives me a bit of structure yeah but anything with a shoulder pad i know there are a couple on the high street at the moment but usually comes with quite a hefty price tag I always think anyway her um tailor lady has created for Trini and she now sells them these like vests with a shoulder pad in so suddenly like all your you know generic knitwear high street knitwear whatever suddenly feels quite elevated and I've worn them to death is it a body no it's not a body it's like a tight vest and it's got a deep V so you could wear it with you know something does it feel like you're putting underwear on rather than like a top on yeah yeah okay so you don't have to wear a bra no you do there's no support in it okay yeah and do they wash well because I have found some of the high street tops of shoulder pads in don't like the shoulder pads don't wash very well so they come out a bit misshapen yes so far I've only washed them both once and so far so good but I always hang on a hanger so that they get the oh that's smart i'm too much for russia yeah you've got to keep the shape okay i'd probably hand wash now no i've done the washing machine i what delicate yeah or how much short delicate amazing i'm gonna get those i always have um shoulder pads uh if i find like a vintage blazer i get shoulder pads sewn in but with the top so good so good my next is h &m denim which i love but they do an ultra high waist denim what under the boobies i love them where's the bell have you got them on now no it's not these but they come probably about here i like it high i think it's quite flattering i think it's flattering makes your legs look longer and but you've got to go they go quickly and they're in stock at the moment wow so yeah go go what color i've got black but i've actually got them in quite a few colors i literally i thought you wear them quite a lot i always wear them yeah they're so good yeah um and my third is i am going skiing in a few weeks and i haven't been for a while i really wanted good snow boots and i was looking at moon boots because i love them on other people but i think I'm a bit too short they're like quite a lot quite big aren't they yeah and emu have got these super cool like slightly more delicate snowboob but still chunky enough in like gorgeous different color browns the black salt and then you get the cream for the toss oh nice that's nice really like chic yeah that sounds chic yeah they're super cozy they're lush okay love looking forward to the ski looks yes what about you babe oh i've just seen olivia atwood wear the most insane faux fur coat on her instagram in paris oh my god isn't it good so nice what is it it's from helsa oh yeah it's floor length it looks like those vintage those really old school vintage like italian honors yeah and a bit you know a bit shoulder yeah shouldery and the um 80s ish what do you call that where it sort of goes down lapel i guess it would have been like foxtails in the back.

23:40Oh, yeah. Do you know what I mean? The ridge. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's so nice looking. I'm not going to buy it, but I think it looks absolutely insane. Oh, mega. Some pre-order on Revolve if anyone wants to go. I found it because I was so obsessed. And then, talking about shoulder pads, there's, H &M have just brought out two colours of like a polo top with shoulder pads in. We're so in tune. We are so. Have you just bought it? It's like fastest thing at first with H &M in the eyes. Like, go. Oh, my God. Race to wear it first. When should we wear it? I'm excited for that. I think they're only like 35 quits there.

24:15Yeah. They're good price. Mine are, do you guys know the brand Fiori? Yes. Love. Best leggings ever. I'm obsessed. So soft. James and I got matching sets, which is probably icky. That's so cute. Yeah, I was going to say, sorry. You're judging me. He probably wouldn't wear it. He looks like a teddy bear in it. He probably wouldn't wear it out. but on mine it's the is it leggings yeah i feel like i've seen him in leggings before no i mean it's the same color matching is okay strong um so mine is a quarter sip hoodie and then matching like wide leg joggers oh you've gone joggers rather than work out oh my god it's the best thing it's so i what they how they make their material i have no idea so cozy and our house is freezing and it's so toasty anyway i'd highly recommend looking at their active wear and i got quite a few like nice scoop neck like pilates tops like long sleeve anyway they're really good they also i've had mine a while and they really wear well i know so scared to tumble dry would you tumble dry i yeah all the time and i wash mine a few times a week and they are really really good they're not the cheapest but i would say they're absolutely worth the investment.

25:35Okay, amazing. And they suck you in, suck you up. Yeah. And then my other thing was a mango quarter neck, another quarter neck sweater. Quarter zip. Quarter zip. We're trying to channel Chanel. Yes. And it's like a sweatshirt material, but oversized, like a khaki brown, but within, you can see the seam is exposed. Nice. Nice. I haven't seen that. Yeah, it's new in mango. so you guys slacking and it's really good but what's interesting it's got a pencil skirt to match it oh that's cool yeah are you gonna rock it i think maybe yeah socks and heels yeah if anyone can it's you oh yeah socks and heels um and then some goldie white barrel leg jeans which is so good i quite like them with the sock yeah i think white denim in winter is lush like cozy white denim yeah like good to wear at home i'm a bit scared to go out in it though you're in your bory when you're at home if other people are in the house if you invite someone over like with people coming for lunch i wouldn't wear my viore no standard yeah it's like cozy yeah like your camels yes and like a elevated mule all right i love it white denim and also with nothing underneath I've done these gorgeous sort of brushed flannel shirts and they're so cozy yeah I've worn mine so much well I've got the caramel one to go the white denim

27:15okay let's talk about hot topic now this came up yesterday because we were sort of planning of what we were going to talk about basically we've just got a ring doorbell which I feel like were the last people in the world to have one but we got one and I was working from home on Friday and I'd gone to Pilates and I'd come home and James sent me a picture of somebody outside the door saying be careful somebody is lingering outside as in the ring doorbell is that somebody is lingering outside and then james screenshot it to me and said be careful this person's outside anyway the scream is that it was me but i look like such a tramp i was are you gonna please but it made me feel oh my god i can't like i'm i'm always being found you're being watched yeah i've got no respite from people knowing where i am all the time and now there's video I do think those ring door, not that I've got anything to hide, but I don't think I really want everyone in my household knowing every time I come and go through the front door.

28:23I know. I want to be able to tell a white lie in case I've popped home for whatever reason. I know. It's quite useful with deliveries. Yeah, I've managed fine with my, without one. But yeah, I can see it being useful. I do think it's a bit too. Because I've been pushing for it because we had a few packages get nicked before Christmas. But now I didn't really think it through. and now you're being watched. Now you're going to go through the back door if you want to sneak in. Or go super low. With the key. I know and it made me think because we have 360, Live 360. Yeah, we have that too. Because Zach and Ava have got phones and they know where I am all the time.

29:02Yeah. So annoying. I don't like it. But we need to know where they are. But we need to know where they are. But James is like, what have you got to hide? Why don't you want to know? But not in like, are you having a fair way? In a like, but what's the issue babe I don't get it like I don't know it's funny and I was so I was looking into tracking this morning and they say approximately one in five of young adults now consider a reasonable expectation to track a romantic partner's location roughly 13 % of all adults surveyed to find it acceptable to monitor a partner using apps like 36 life 360 also studies indicate a privacy paradox where mate guarding through location sharing can positively associate with relationship satisfaction for some i guess it must be like for in a newish relationship it could be like oh they're serious about me i'd be freaked out yeah relationship yeah you've got to earn that i don't think it's normal but maybe this is a new wave of normal type thing yeah for young people and i do have too much time on their hands I think that are doing a survey no they don't I feel like that might be their job we don't really care yeah but I think you don't like I'm not tracking where people are in the day do you know no it's yeah the kids and I suppose they're not really going out yet but I get a notification when they arrive yeah and when they and then they leave Ed does ride a motorbike and I do always get a notification saying he's he's completed a risky drive oh gosh so he gets a message slow down that's a whole other subject I'm not sure I could cope with a partner on a motorbike no I don't even like James Cycles and I don't like that either yeah I've known it forever I know so how does it work with you and Ed then you just don't we just got a circle on Life360 which has well we're like the only one that's got a phone yeah and you can just see and I get notifications yeah like if she's moving around yeah not for you I'm surprised babe you love him so much yeah exactly We don't actually, when we're apart, we don't really communicate that much.

31:07Oh, do you not? No. Yeah, I don't really hear you speaking to him on the phone. I speak to Shane's quite a lot. No, we don't. We never have done. Even when we did long distance Amsterdam to the UK, we didn't really talk that much. I forgot about that. Yeah. We were just, when we saw each other, spend lots of time together, but. Yeah. He was reserving his conversation energy. We would have gone out of chat. Yeah. No, we're just not very online like that to each other. I'm not very good on WhatsApp anyway. Like, I barely stay in touch with my friends. it's a running joke that I can't reply to any whatsapp messages but I can post 10 instagram stories I can't reply to emails within seconds um okay last topic January what's your take on it babe I love January controversial I know everyone's like oh it's the most boring month it's the longest month I love it I think it's super cozy I find it very motivating yeah yeah I always feel very inspired in January yeah I agree with that makes you reset yeah but I do find like the order I get the more goals I like try and set like yeah realistic goals yeah but then like I do find now on year's eve I get this like anxiety that's coming and then I try to put it all in place and I like clear the house yeah I do everything and I get frustrated with myself when it doesn't happen straight away so yeah this year I'm gonna try and go a bit easier slightly more gentle yeah what are you gonna do like still make it happen but make it like you know just achieve not that like pressure on day one yeah that's fair you gotta you're there for the long game yeah i like reflecting on the year before and like looking at what i did achieve or maybe some things that didn't quite hit the mark or whatever and then really goal set like what's your financial goal what's your relationship goal like i love that yeah and then i would say nine times out of ten i do achieve get there and that feels so good yeah look back at the end of the year and you're like yay me yeah yeah i love that yeah what are your goals then most of my goals are around career relationships actually so i think i would like to be much close not closer because i'm very close to my family i would like to concentrate on spending more time with my parents and my sister and my nieces in particular because I just, life goes by so far from that time.

33:24And you don't know what's coming. And it's everyone's first life on this planet as well. Do you know what? I feel this so heavily at the moment. What do you mean? I didn't get it. It's your mum and dad's first time. Even if you get annoyed with your mum or whoever, it's their first time being at that stage. So be a little bit more forgiving when they don't get it right because they're also figuring it out. expect them to know everything yeah i love that yeah go a bit easier on people yeah yeah that's what yeah exactly that's what i'm taking to 2026 i also feel like we all have one life so yeah balance yeah there is that balance yeah you've got to stay true to what you thinking because i know nobody knows what's coming but like we're like grown-ups now you've got to make the most of it yeah this is it this is it you're not going to be this age again there's in move and i can't remember what it's called i'll think of it i'll put it up but it's um about how in five years time the people you spend most of your time with you'll never see you won't see oh my god that's so sad i know so as in just like don't sweat the small stuff yeah like you know and choose the people that you want to be with yeah as in you know like like the peripheral people that you're making the effort with now but you're like i'm never like yeah we move kids move school or yeah we move or whatever we're not gonna see you and stop worrying about them yeah and focus on the core and the people who are in your life and make the effort with those people make the effort yeah do you have a goal for 2026 i feel like i got swept up in life and so we were like let's this year have some marriage resolutions so i mean it's super simple but like go to a new restaurant once a month yeah do something fun once a month that isn't around booze or food like get a hobby yeah like you know have a paddle lesson or like use it to try new things the new things yeah exactly it might even not even be going out it might be him trying to teach me bridge yeah you know something like just something like that yeah yeah um and and also work towards a challenge together that's really cool yeah that is cool like a challenge that we have to train for together.

35:39So that's my resolution. Yeah, great. Can you hold me accountable? We've booked a date night. Well done. What's your first restaurant that you're going to? Oh, the Dover. I haven't been there with James. I've been there with girls. So you're going to the Dover and then what's your first activity? I haven't got that yet. I need to do that.

36:02Okay, let's do Dilemmas. For next week Dilemmas, we always put a question box out on social media but we're also going to ask you guys to tell us in our community app what do you want us to talk about do you have any dilemmas are there any hot topics you want us to talk about let us know first one I didn't cheat but I thought about it I'm in a long-term relationship and somebody at work has completely scrambled my brain nothing's happened but I can't stop thinking about them is this a red flag or am I just being human I think it's different between thinking somebody's hot than somebody's scrambling your brain.

36:37Yeah, and can't stop thinking about them. That's a red flag. Completely. If you can't stop thinking about a person. I think, how long has it been going on? Is it like you've just met them and you're like, oh, they're hot and then it will die down and you get to know them, really? Yeah, it doesn't say. I mean, I would be careful because like work affairs are, like it's where most people have affairs. Oh, it's messy. Yeah, messy. Messy, but also. It's a small environment. Yeah, and people are putting their work persona forward and it might not necessarily be who they are in real life. That's true.

37:08I would just proceed with caution. I would say don't act on it. And maybe have an honest conversation with your partner and say... No, don't do that. That's the worst of my life. I would say... Because if they fancy some jazz, are they ending it? No, I think she needs to... That would be the end of it. She needs to invest in time with her current boyfriend. And see if they still fancy them. And if he's kind of giving her the ick, then that is also a red flag. Okay. I outwardly support my friends, but privately I'm spiraling with jealousy when good things happen to them. Promotions, engagement, babies, all of it.

37:48I hate that I feel this way. How do I stop competing with people I love? That's so sad. Very honest as well. So honest. that's a hard emotion to battle because it is involuntary but i think you can like the fact that she's aware of it yeah it's a good thing it's a good thing yeah so then she can work on that like she knows she needs to work on it i really admire that actually yeah she's aware of her feelings comparison as we always say is the thief of all joy which is showing that you've just gotta stop focusing on other people because you're hindering your own progress and own life if you're worried or if you're always looking outwards try and look inwards i know it's really easy to say but just every day in the morning maybe wake up and write five things down that make you focus on you or like give yourself the little things each day that bring you joy and that might be cup of coffee or your cup of tea in the bed in the morning or whatever it is and like focus on your smaller things and getting the joy out of those and then i feel like you're not so worried about other people else i think you just got to look you've got one life yeah you've got to just focus on yourself you've been you know this is really harsh but you've been doubt the cards you've got yeah make the most of it because no one else is going to yeah and your time will come for all those things yeah of course your life is waves they might be on the up now yeah no matter who you are like things it's just the way life goes so you might just be in the dip at the moment but you're gonna come back up completely and like that's where friendships are for as well because you support each other in the highs and the lows so do you think she should say to her friend i'm really struggling that you know yeah i think i think so yeah go for a walk with you like pick some like one of your closest friends you feel you can trust go for a walk You can just have it out.

39:45And sometimes when you talk it through it as well, like the problem becomes smaller. Yes, that's good advice. Yeah. But it's normal. I think everyone feels it. It's not an unusual emotion. No. You know, I think it. And if there's something you want and it's happening to everyone else and not you, then of course you're going to feel sad about it. Yeah. And you're a good friend for like cheering for them. Yeah. Okay, I hope that helped. Well, quite sporadic, but I hope it helped. Okay, girls, that was so fun. I cried a lot of tears in that part thanks lady I knew it wouldn't disappoint that was fun do you want this trio again and what do you want to know let us know we'll give Myra a glass we'll give Myra a glass a while next time this one should tell us next time we'll leave this room full of regrets we've all we've all bared our soul that wraps up this week's episode thank you so much for watching it has been a hoot I hope you enjoyed it if you enjoyed our conversation then please subscribe leave us a review and share the episode with a friend and see you next time