1608 – Unblocking Your Block with Corene Phelps

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0:59with us right now it's kareen phelps kareen you are the founder of your own company kareen phelps coaching and consulting and you're a motivational speaker and hypnotherapist this is going to be a fun conversation kareen thank you so much for joining us oh my goodness thank you so much for having me i'm so excited to be here well being a hypnotherapist it sounds like it would be a fun thing to do. You get to work with really cool people. You probably get to experience some, you know, some great breakthroughs with folks. Can we just talk about maybe what you do generally? And then I really want to get specific on a few things, particularly things I would say that leaders commonly face and, you know, see, you know, maybe see if we can't help provide some great advice today.

1:44Yeah, it is super fun. I love what I do. Of course, I always have to battle some of these like stereotypical myths about hypnotherapy. Like I'm not going to make you quack like a chicken or spontaneously do something against your will. That's, that's not how it works, but yeah. So I am a motivational speaker and I use hypnotherapy inside of my, my coaching practice. I work with high performers, high achievers, business owners. And really what I do is help you unblock your blocks so that you can step into the highest potential that you're meant to step into, whether it's in your business, in your life, wherever it happens to be.

2:22And so, again, hypnotherapy, let's just kind of address the elephant in the room a little bit more. So if someone says, hypnotherapy, that wouldn't work for me, right? First of all, I believe them. Okay, it sounds like your mind's made up on that, right? Because that's kind of one of the things I've heard from hypnotherapists. It really just depends on, you know, following the other person here. If they're open and accepting of it, they're going to experience. And I've had hypnotherapy sessions in my past. And I tell you, for overcoming, man, I'm stepping all over your answer. I'm so sorry. I just wanted to share my point of view on this first.

2:58It is an incredible tool for calming. Here's my experience. Calming the kind of like the, you know, the kind of that chatterbox mind, right? Just relaxing and tapping into truth and our own internal truth. And I don't think you need to get real, you know, woo about it. It just, you know, does meditation work? Is there benefits to meditation? Yes or no. And I think we all agree that there are some benefits there. And so it's kind of down that same road, right? Absolutely. So, well, hypnotherapy is actually, it's literally meditation with a very specific goal in mind is really what it is. and yes, you need to be open to it.

3:40It's just like a growth mindset versus a closed mindset, right? We have to be open to exploring different ways of getting where we want to go. But the sort of fun thing is, is whether you believe in it or whether you don't, everyone goes into hypnosis on their own multiple times a day because all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. And so what is it like, talk about like, do you just do individual sessions or how do you do your work today? Like, who are you working with and what does that look like? So there's a multitude of ways that I work with people. I work with them one-on-one and I also do it in a group context.

4:14When we do it in group context, I actually add in breath work. But on a one-to-one context, I'm usually working with high achievers, high performers, whether that's CEOs, founders, someone who just wants to perform at a higher level. And we usually go in and kind of connect with what it is that is holding them back, which is typically something rooted in your subconscious mind. And no matter what level you are at, we all have these little devils that continuously arise as we evolve into the next version of ourselves, the next goal that we're pursuing. And we get to face them over and over and over again.

4:52Yeah. What if someone says, well, I don't know that it's something that I'm creating. All I know is this is what the world's giving to me, or I'm in a bad or an uncomfortable relationship situation, or there's this uncomfortable situation in a business and work, or this, you know, I keep experiencing this frustration and I feel like, you know, I don't know that it's my childhood trauma or whatever that's manifesting right here. Like, how would you address that question? Well, we are all the captain of our own ship. So if it's continuously happening to you, I would say maybe it's time to take a step back and look at a little bit of pattern repetition and what's the common denominator in that situation.

5:33so that we might be able to take a little bit of responsibility and then move forward, right? Because even if you feel like it's being done to you, you still have a choice in the situation to change the situation. And sometimes that's just a little bit of tweaks within our mindset and what the next right step is for us to take. Yeah. What typically happens in a one-on-one hypnotherapy session? Well, it starts with therapeutic questioning. So it's a lot of just me and you talking about what's going on. So we can kind of start to peel that layer back, kind of like an onion to find out what's at the core of a, what your desires are and what might be causing you to not get there as quickly as you like to get there.

6:18And then from there, I curate a session and you would get super comfortable and cozy, lay down, pop some headphones in and get to listen to some relaxing music while I guide you through a journey that includes hypnotic cueing, which is really just connecting with your subconscious mind to ask specific questions so that you can see the answers. And then I also use visualization and that really helps to create new neural pathways in your brain, which operates on the principle of neuroplasticity, right? That our brains aren't just this like rock that never changes, we actually have this ability to change it kind of like a ball of Play-Doh.

6:58And through visioning, we can actually start to do that. We start to create new neural pathways, which helps us in the 3D waking world, like you and I have where we're talking right now, when you go to take action on something, shift something, change something, do something big, if you can visualize it, then it's kind of like you've already done it. So when you go to do it in the 3D world, then it doesn't feel so hard or so challenging. Yeah. Is there value in, let's say, listening to or watching or something, a guided meditation or a guided hypnotherapy that's not necessarily personalized, but can someone get value from that?

7:37Oh, absolutely. I mean, I think anytime you do something that's custom or personalized, then that's gonna make the experience a little deeper, a little richer, and probably a little faster. Yeah. but absolutely there's like pre-recorded whether you find it on youtube or like i have some of them too that i generally make and you're going to receive and connect with your own personal level of things even on a even one that's not completely tailored for you let's talk about maybe a couple of issues that that come up frequently one of them is i think so many of us have tenuous relationships with money and money blocks.

8:17And, you know, we might, I know I've experienced this, right. Where I, my, my, you know, very conscious intellectual brain say, no, no, I don't have any problems with that. I want lots of money. Right. I'm not getting, I'm not sabotaging myself, but then, you know, if I really start to get curious, I, you know, and I, I also start to be a little bit, maybe a little bit more, you know, just, I'd say just honest and introspective and, you know, willing to examine those things, you know, there's definitely stuff that comes up and, and would you maybe talk about, you know, the role of hypnotherapy in, in, in money blocks and, or maybe this idea that someone may be very unconsciously kind of getting in their own way because of bad programming or bad experiences.

9:08Oh my gosh. Yeah. So in terms of money blocks, The money is such an emotionally charged thing, even though it's just this neutral, it's just numbers, right? It's neutral, but we attach so much emotion to it. And it definitely, I mean, I don't care if you're someone who's a multimillionaire, everyone has some level of space where they can improve their relationship with money, whether they utilize it for gaining power for themselves. And what is that doing for them? Or if we're struggling with things like self-worth or whether, you know, like worthy of receiving, worthy of abundance? Does it feel like it has to be hard in order to have money?

9:48Do you feel like you have to work tons of hours in order to have it? Because that's the model of the world that you saw, especially as a child, or perhaps the conversations that might've gone on at home that imprint on us. And whether you are consciously aware of it or not, it's in that subconscious mind because your subconscious mind is literally like a library that stores every single thing. And it does it when you're a kid before you have enough context to really understand and connect the dots of what things actually are and aren't, right? And so unless we go in and basically upgrade those, then we're carrying around old programming.

10:25And it could be about money. It could really be about anything. So we get to go in and upgrade that programming just like we do our iPhones. yeah um how would like um what would be an example of maybe someone that you've worked with um maybe the challenge that they came in um do they are they able to solve big problems quickly or does it you know kind of one of those things where you know you're gonna have like a year of psychotherapy to kind of you know break through this or what what do you experience commonly well So, I mean, I think a common, like a big transformation that like comes through my doors pretty often is typically with, with money work.

11:04And it's usually connected to a sense of, of worthiness as we start to peel it back. And in terms of hypnotherapy, statistically speaking, it's a 93 % success rate within six sessions. So always, whenever I work with someone, I, we come in and it's like a succession minimum, because I want to make sure that you reach success. But oftentimes, once we dive into this work, we start to see other areas. It starts to illuminate other places where we might like to improve or evolve. So a lot of times clients come in to work with me and they stay for longer than six sessions, but that's more out of a desire to continuously expand.

11:41Yeah. And Karine, what's your background? Like, how did you get into this? Well, so I'm a recovering real estate agent. I started out in real estate in my early 20s. and realized that I just kind of jumped into it because I became a single mom very early in life. I was in college. And at that point, I was actually studying nutrition and food science. And so in the midst of selling real estate based on someone had told me that's what I needed to do in order to make enough money to raise my daughter and have like the space and time to be able to do so, I was like hating my job and crying most days.

12:14And I decided I really needed to jump back in and start doing something with my life and career that it was meant to be doing. And that was in the wellness space. So I dove back in, in, in wellness. And I spent a lot of time in brick and mortar. I owned a brick and mortar studio, worked a lot with in one-to-one and in corporate space. And what I quickly came to realize is the people that I was working with weren't necessarily coming to me because they needed to know how to exercise or they needed to know how to eat. There was these big mindset things that were going on inside. And so I really started to dive in there in terms of learning how to pull someone's greatness out of them, how to get the boulders out of the way, how to harness their potential and help them see it and do so in a way that was quick and effective and efficient.

12:56And so I went through lots of different trainings, one of them being hypnotherapy, and I started applying that work. But funny enough, I actually wasn't fully embodying all of the things that I was asking my clients to do. And I hit burnout really, really bad three times. But on the third time was the two by four on the back. I was like, when are you going to start to pay attention. And I found myself sitting in the emergency room because I thought I was having a heart attack at the tender age of 38. And I was actually having a panic attack. And that's where breath work came into the situation.

13:28So I, my, the doctor was like, you've got to start managing your stress. And when I got really honest with myself, I was not walking the walk. And so I found this class that was about stress and getting in touch with your subconscious mind, which I was hypnosis at that point, right? With my clients, but I wasn't walking the walk. And so I went into this breathwork class and it completely cracked me open. And what I realized was combining the power of hypnotherapy and breathwork was an absolute game changer for regulating your nervous system, which to me personally is the key to showing up powerfully in business, showing up powerfully in your relationships.

14:08When we're calm, we're able to kind of see things for what they are and actually respond versus react. Yeah. And then Karine, I don't know if there's something that maybe you can share just on this program alone. I know you're a podcaster as well. And I wanted to give you a shout on that because anytime I have a fellow podcaster, love to make sure to drive every single one of my listeners over to your podcast. And that podcast is called the Super Expander Podcast. But before we talk about that, I was wondering if maybe if there's any tips Or like, you know, if it's, for example, like, let's say that you're, you're at work, you're doing business, and you are just feeling stressed, burnt out.

14:50Is there a particular kind of breath pattern that you'd recommend along with, you know, here's what you do? I am taking notes. Tell me what to do if I feel that overwhelmed. Absolutely. I mean, anytime that you can just pause and take any kind of breath, if you're feeling like that, it's going to be helpful because we were born knowing how to breathe. but we actually forgot and we tend to be very shallow breathers. And when we shallow breathe, it actually thrusts our body into a state of stress. So if you're feeling the weight of stress at any given moment, the first thing to do is just to kind of sit up tall to make space in your body and just take the deepest belly breath that you can possibly take.

15:29So maybe you want an eight count in and then an eight count out. And if that's too long, because maybe you're really, really constricted, maybe start with four and then start to add. So you can just match the duration to your inhale, to your exhale, which is gonna start to change the channel. And if you're feeling like the peak of stress, then you're gonna wanna start to extend that exhale out. And although my really, really powerful pattern is breathing in for seven and out for 11, which is definitely a challenge, but if you can actually start to create the space in your body and start to slow your breath down and consciously, slowly, slowly, slowly exhale and do that for a couple of rounds, I promise you that your nervous system and your stress state will go from like a level 10 all the way down to like a level four.

16:19Well, that doesn't sound so bad. And, you know, my logical brain tells me, no, don't worry about that. We're just gonna work harder. We're just gonna do more things. Whereas I think if I'm honest, right? And I'm like, oh, wait a minute. Let me silence myself for just a moment. What do I really need right now? And I know that the benefits, like I'm one of those guys that I don't necessarily enjoy meditating, but it's always good for me. How can we maybe silence that analytical, logical brain that's like, ah, you don't need to worry about that. You just need to work harder right now. Oh my goodness.

17:00Well, first of all, I can tell you that if you keep going on that, It will 100 % catch up with you. You'll be telling me a story a year from now about how you were sitting in the emergency room and it turned out to be a panic attack of some sort as well because we need to give our body a chance to rejuvenate. And the thing is too, when we kind of start to create that space is that's usually when the answers come through, right? The more we start adding in, the less creativity, the less thought process we have, the less cognition, all the brain fog, all the things are there. And what we really need is to create that step back and space.

17:33So for someone like you who really has a hard time meditating, that's why breath work is actually really powerful because it gives you something else to focus on rather than feeling like you're just having to sit there super still because breath work is really active. And so if you have a really tough time with it, I would recommend maybe just trying five minutes, right? Just committing like I can, anybody can do anything for five minutes. And I think oftentimes if you can do something for five minutes, you'll stay with it for another six to seven to eight. And that time will start to expand and making sure that you're consistently paying attention to how you felt before and after, because that's really going to be the benchmark for you.

18:11When we do things based on the way that we feel, it's much easier to stay consistent and make it a habit. And there is absolutely no way that if you just start doing something like this consistently, that you won't notice a difference from the moment that you start to the end. You'll be like, wow, I feel lighter. I feel less stressed. I feel more creative. I feel like I can think faster. Yeah. Karine, I wanted to, so your podcast, Super Expander podcast, what's the game plan? What's that podcast about? Ah, so it really is success stories of people in business who have removed these mindset blocks and really just dove in and went for it and now are living their full potential, living their full purpose.

18:58and it operates on the idea of mirror neurons in our brain, which is what an expander is. When we can look at someone that someone has done something that we want to do or aspire to do, it shows our brain that it's possible. And oftentimes it helps us just actually step right into action. That's how babies learn how to walk is based on mirror neurons. We don't really like teach them to put one foot in front of another. They like see us as human beings walking around doing it. And one day they just are like, oh, I can do that. And they just get up and do it. I should congratulations on getting on 150 episodes 81 five-star ratings so clearly you're resonating with with your audience so congrats on that uh and then kareen is um is is one-on-one uh you know immunotherapy is it is it accessible or is that just for the super uber elite rich uh I mean I believe it's accessible it's I mean definitely you have to be willing to invest in it yourself.

19:56I have group programs are a little bit less expensive if it's cost prohibitive to jump into a one-to-one context as well. Yeah. Your website is kareen-phelps.com. When somebody goes there, what would you recommend they do? Oh, well, they should reach out, say hi, peruse the website, see what jumps out at them as something that maybe would be a good fit. They can learn more about what hypnotherapy is, what breath work is. My podcast is listed on there. And there's definitely a button for you to book a free consultation call. And you'll see there too, is that there's also, I also have an offer, which is custom recorded sessions, which is another way to jump in and a less, I guess a less expensive way where you actually get something custom.

20:43We do like a little consultation, you fill out a form and then I record something for you. Wow. I like it. All right. Again, your website, Kareen is kareen-phelps. and again, of which you are the founder of, again, motivational speaker, hypnotherapist. Kareen, it's been a pleasure having you. Oh my goodness. Thank you so much. What a pleasure to have this conversation. I appreciate you.

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