The Philadelphia Chips: Tuesday, February 11th, 2025

30:46promotion. She said that she never planned to release it. Like it was a song that she wrote to like get her feelings out as artists do. And then she did release it. But like when she was writing it, it was just meant for her to like heal. I want to say something about the whole song. And I agree with you. Like skin is a good song. It's not it didn't shake the world up, but it's a good song lyrically, melodically. But I do think though, and I don't I'm not I don't many regrets about how everything shook out for both of the girls. Like they're really both killing it. But I do wonder like how this whole saga would have shaken out if the song that Sabrina released in response to all the drama wasn't Skin.

31:26It was All Because I Liked a Boy, which is another song of hers that directly addresses the drama, but it's much more popular than Skin. And it was one of the couple of songs from that previous album that launched her into the short and sweet era that people really liked it's a really good song and it's very directly addressing i got death threats death threats filling up semi trucks tell me who i am because i don't have a choice all because i like the boy and all of this for what when everything went down we'd already broken up like so good so direct and like i think it might have i'm not mad about how anything she got she just won grammys like maybe she would have released that song and then gone nowhere but i do wonder like i would love to see an alternate universe like what would have happened if she did that and the song wasn't written yet but yeah i wonder how long after till she got to that place of like writing that song and that's how she felt um because she couldn't like not respond for that long so i don't i wonder like if she wrote them at the same time yet then maybe we If she had it in the arsenal and just chose skin.

32:32Yeah. Instead. I wonder. I don't know. But I liked skin because it wasn't like the tip. I feel like all because I like the boys more like coming like from it. No, like a victim. Like everybody hates me all because of that. Whereas skin was like kind of tough. And I liked that response. Yeah. I was giving like, oh, you're jealous of me? You should be. I'm sucking a dick. You should be. I'm all out of your man. Yeah. Like I just, I thought it was just like a strong response as opposed to, oh, because I like the boy everybody hates me. That's actually a really good point. I didn't realize. But maybe the world would have.

33:06That's one of you. By the way, like the reason why you love skin is because like the message was very like not victim-y and not like steamrolled. Just like, yeah, I stole your man. What are you going to do about it? And I'm loving every minute. like that and and now knowing from that other song when everything went down we'd already broken up so she wasn't even with this guy so she didn't even like feel the need to defend him but she still wanted to lead with like yeah jealous yeah so but i just i agree with you that maybe the world would have received it better if she came out with like yes people love a victim love a victim so yeah actually i like i think that it probably would have played better but for me but everything worked out in the way that it was meant to but for a while sabrina i took like a big l strength and that's why i respect respect the bream but until espresso like sabrina had been like she had taken like a big l on the situation yes nonsense but up until that there was like a long period of time where olivia then went on to like yeah worldwide dust doing like small shows and she was able to really climb her way out of that, which makes her whole journey even more impressive.

34:16And I think that's why we love her so much. We love a Phoenix who rises from the ashes. But for a brief period in time when we didn't know it was going to go that way, like it was kind of sad. Yeah, I agree. That's why it's so impressive. And I'm sorry, like I will never stop talking about these two. It's annoying to have to bring up Olivia every time we talk about Sabrina. I'm sorry, I can't. Although I do want to say, I think this like massive success has healed Sabrina because we always say like if that was me I'm never forgiving Sabrina doesn't bring it up she doesn't talk about it and they were seen like hugging at the Grammys um I actually think like getting all this success and recognition made the whole situation like kind of worth it yes worth it I don't think she's over it I don't I think she'll like that's her Roman Empire and it's not it's been a few years like it's her chip yeah a hundred percent and she'll hug her at the grammys because like she doesn't want to that would look bad you know people don't like that um but the north remembers it's so true like i'm still here i stay um i'm still at the restaurant like just collecting on her pinned up hair i would her hair is always pinned up right that's about her you know how they always say like you know if you could be like i would love to have been a fly on the wall in the salage elevator right i would love to have an off the record like truly open and honest conversation.

35:36I would never tell anybody what she said just like for my own personal curiosity with Sabrina Carpenter about that whole saga. Okay, but if you could have one open and honest conversation with any celebrity. Oh, oh. Yeah. Oh no, that's not even like top five. Actually, it might be top five. Yeah, but who's number one? But I don't know. Do I only get to cover one subject or like their entire career? Like Taylor. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. I don't even know what I would want to ask Taylor. I would definitely want to ask her about like the Karlie Kloss of it all I would definitely want to ask her She actually has like a lot of Mysterious corners of her life Yeah Because she's not like the type of celebrity who shares Well all the friendships too Hayley Yep Kayley Hayley I want to know what happened with Hayley Hayley Also Zendaya Like we all forget because Zendaya went on to do like massive things But she was a member of that girl squad for a brief moment Yeah Kelly that we were just saying Kelly teller kelly teller yes yes are you ready for our next story what number oh yeah sorry number three uh pete davidson strips down to his undies for reformation after his tattoo removal so pete davidson in in bigger news turny osher like finally understands why people find him attractive like i for the first for the first time i'm like oh that's a good looking man yeah but i feel like now he looks different than when people were finding him attractive watch He can't get any girls.

37:03He looks like he's put on a little bit of weight too. Yeah. He's in a good way. Hunky. Pete Davidson has spent the last several years removing his nearly 200 tattoos. And now he's ready to show off his clean slate just in time for Valentine's Day. He stars in Reformation's latest campaign, showing off his buff bod in boxer briefs. So I guess Reformation has some menswear now. And he is the face. I think the fact that he did a topless photo shoot to show us his progress and all the change that he's made. I think it's really smart. I don't know why I'm so shocked that it's Reformation. Not only did I not know they did menswear, but like, I don't know, I thought it would have been Calvin Klein.

37:40Like for something of Pete's caliber. Yeah. I didn't realize Reformation had money like that, honestly. I didn't either, but I guess everyone wears. I mean, if you think about it, I feel like they operate. It's been around forever. They look like a small business, but they're like mass consumed. And they probably have like low overhead because they act small. Yeah, and you know all of their dresses are made from like, you know, dirty diapers. and like plastic bottles. And honestly I'm sure Taylor wearing the dress to the US Open was the budget for Pete Davidson. True, true. I don't know, like if I was Pete, I just would have wanted a little more for my comeback photo shoot.

38:10Not that there's anything wrong with Reformation, but it's not like designer. I think Calvin Klein would have been, and I think he's done Calvin Klein before. Or Skims.

38:21Or Skims. You know, I was watching Kardashians and Kim was saying, talking about her work ethic, how she works so much. She was actually, because she's in therapy now And so she's like thinking about working less and questioning why she works so much. And she says Courtney was right. Like I didn't need to sort of figure out what was driving me. Yeah. Like what, why I'm working so much, like what drives me, whatever. And she was like, but in the past, like all I want to do is work. Anybody who tries to tell me to like work less, like get out of my way. And she was like, I mean, that's what happened with, and they bleeped out the name.

38:50I'm pretty sure it was Pete. I'm pretty sure because she was like, that's what happened with blank. He said like, why don't you take the week off? Like, why do you work so much? She said, and that was the beginning of the end. Oh, she's so crazy for that. honestly like that's nuts and like she does do too much my guess like it just it only really makes sense for pete like i don't think that's why she broke up with kanye did it also sound like one syllable like you could tell based how long the bleep was yes it did sound like it's okay yeah or it was like a nobody like dave you know someone we don't know dave it's always maybe it was dave but anyways i think pete davidson looks great i think this is such a good message for young people.

39:27He was on one of the late shows at talking about the process to remove them. He's had over 200 tattoos, like how he obviously regrets them. And I think people should, when they go to the tattoo salon, should have to watch that interview. Just think about it twice. There's nothing wrong with tattoos, but it's a huge commitment. Yeah. I think a lot of people get them done on a whim. They regret them. He didn't choose, he didn't keep any. Not even Kim as my lawyer. Not the kids' names. that was really weird right that was really crazy and I think most people have not I actually I don't know most a lot of people have a lot of tattoos no regrets love them all they all deeply mean something but it's a hard thing to regret like there's it's very hard to come back from it's very expensive it's very painful and so I I think thinking twice or three times about it is just a good message and if you still want to do it still do it exactly like the first time you have an inkling for a tattoo make note of it don't run to the store just jot it down and then if you keep thinking about it two three four times then you know that you really want it but if you never think about it again thank god you didn't get it yeah yeah in the words of kim kardashian would you put a bumper sticker on a bentley is that her quote i don't know if she coined it but she popularized it in that scene from like og keeping up got it oh no i'm sorry she said it on letterman I think he was asking them if they have tattoos.

40:51Do any of them have tattoos? They're not like a tattoo family. Except maybe they get like those little ones on their fingers that like celebrities love. Yeah? Yeah, for sure. She has like on her fingers. I can so see. Who? Chloe has. I was going to say, Chloe feels like she might have. But remember she got Lamar's initials on her finger. I also feel like I could see her having like a cross on her ankle. Yeah, or on like a wrist, a little wrist action. Yeah. But I could also see her having some from back in the day. For sure, for sure. Yeah. People forget, like, Chloe went to prison for a couple of hours.

41:24Like, she's a real one, okay? Are you ready for our next story? Yeah. Do you think Chloe actually did go to prison that day? Or, like, for the cameras? Because they said she got let out the same day because of overcrowding. Yeah. I think that that's what happened. I don't think they did. Like, you think she was in the facility? Yeah. That's really crazy. Yeah. But I think the way it went down is what happened. because I don't think they would just like lie about how it works. Yeah, yeah. And like back in the day, those episodes like that, they were just following them around with cameras. It like wasn't so produced.

41:57Highly produced. That's true. Our fourth story, speaking of reality TV, coming to podcasting, Lisa Rima and Harry Hamlin are starting a podcast called Let's Not Talk About the Husband. It will be with Dear Media and the first episode premieres on February 14th, Valentine's Day. Parji. Let me just say, you know, I'm like kind of like a Lisa Rinna hater, even though I'm I'm kind of reformed. I hated her character on the show, but I understand that like she was a necessary sort of evil. And I do feel like she has all this like momentum and fame and like public interest that got like kind of stifled from leaving the show because we never got another outlet for it.

42:37Right. And so I think there's actually I think this is a fabulous idea, even though, like, I don't know if I'm the target demo for it. People also just love her husband. It's really so crazy. I forget what I was watching. Oh, when we were watching Desperate Housewives, I was explaining to Ben like how none of these people were really famous before the show. The show made them all famous, except Nicolette Sheridan was very much like Hollywood royalty. She was married to Harry Hamlin. And it just reminded me that like he's literally so Hollywood. And he's also like an older gentleman. So he's like a little old Hollywood too, you know?

43:04Yeah. Also, they've been together for 30 plus years. Like that is something, that gives you a level of expertise that, and wisdom that you can share with the world. I also was thinking recently about podcasting at a glance as, as you do. When you have a chip. When you have a chip. No, because I'm always like watching clips on Instagram. I get like served podcasts I never heard of, like this or that. And like, I'm, I was like trying to think like so many people start a podcast, but like what makes really a good podcast host? And like, I think one thing that really makes, can make someone great amongst other things, but it's like someone who says like hard truths, who said, who has like genuine hot takes, who like, who's like yelling at people almost, you know?

43:43Yeah. Telling you things you might not want to hear. And like, I think Lisa Rinna like has that energy of just being unapologetic and just saying things that might not be popular, but are interesting to listen to. Because like the people with like the lukewarm, just like circling the drain, like it's it's hard to stand out that way. But I know that's not why podcasts were created. Right. They're like this sort of renegade medium, like outside of mainstream. So that's why so many of the most popular podcasts are people with like crazy hot takes like Joe Rogan or like, you know, Tucker Carlson's podcast is huge.

44:14When you're kind of like a fringe, that's what the medium was created for. So if you're like out here just being like hot dogs aren't sandwiches, like that's not why people go to podcasts. Do you know what I mean? Like it's very much a medium for lightning rods. There's ways to have success in other ways, but that is a big vertical. And I think that she is that. And so I think that this could really work. Same. Although I do wonder if it's going to be a guest based show. Cause while I think that she could pull great guests, she knows a lot of people, him too. That's where podcasting becomes weird when like a really talented person, a really interesting person is a host and then is forced to interview other people and more so listen than talk.

44:54And I actually don't think Lisa Rinna would be a good interviewer. That's my only, my only concern. But if it's just them two going back and forth, talking about like different relationship things, parenting, celebrity, working in the industry, like that's interesting for sure. Yeah. So this is what the statement says. After 30 plus years together, some more fabulous than others. We've seen a lot and we're ready to dish on everything from marriage and family to friendships, business and fame. So it seems like they will be dishing. We're taught, whatever we're talking about, you can be sure it will be unfiltered.

45:20So tune in because we're owning it all. They should also have their girls on. Their girls are wildly interesting and also are always making waves. Yeah. Especially that Amelia. She's like in some drama with the Gabriette of it all. Do you know? No. That they're twins. Well, so that's the thing. Gabriette who's Maddie Healy's fiancee who's like this very um creative like different you know um Amelia a couple of years ago like started to shift her look from like what we knew very normal looking all-american commercial vibes to very high fashion slicked back bleached eyebrows gap tooth um and she started to really look like no but Gabriette has a gap like that's the vibe I'm saying like unconventional beauty oh well okay okay but she didn't like make it again no she didn't drill a gap in her teeth my bad um and a lot of people started to pick up on the similarities in their in her in the look she ended up created creating with gabriette and then a lot of like their mannerisms so it's like kind of an ongoing internet theory is the gabriette versus amelia of it all so like take it to the podcast amelia let's hear about it take it to the podcast it's always funny when you find someone's like inspo you know yes like kendall jenner and jacy marie no it's kind of like the chicken and the egg who came first page lorenz or the other girl totally or Megan and the Marchaness no and the bank no she's not a Marchaness what is she her husband is a Marquis a Marquis but she you know the Marchaness of Bank or something yeah of Bath yeah who came first the Marchaness or Megan who came first Paige or Morgz who came first J.C.

46:54or Kendall who came first Gabriette or Amelia that one's pretty well documented right and it's Gabriette it's a question I don't think yeah and I think for like the tennis girls it was all like happening at the same time so we were like wait who came first but if you go back I think it's Paige someone knows yeah they're it's well documented yeah just gotta find out and this is it's like all of these is someone's Roman Empire like you know people are like obsessed with these like random like dual lives yeah so for me like I don't particularly care it's more so like you know this is not this is not my Roman Empire so I'm just I'm just I'm having fun I'm along for the ride yeah so good luck to um our dear media sisters and brothers oh yes yes and Harry I I think that's really I think it's fabulous honestly I usually like roll my eyes a little bit when people like enter the podcasting space um who do other things but maybe it's because I liked the title a lot um but I actually think this is great yeah no I think that they've got the stuff I think they've got the stuff it's a very particular type of stuff just because you're like super famous everybody loves you doesn't mean you're gonna be a good podcaster who had more eyes on her than Meghan Markle right was not made for podcasting it's such a weird niche thing and even the most popular podcasters are like freaks randoms you've never heard of like right and they're not the biggest and even the popular celebrity ones because there are it's not the most popular celebrities like even the office ladies like they're random most popular celebrities kim had a podcast nobody moved right a lot of the most famous people in america like star podcasts and seriously the culture remains unchanged yeah makes you think are you ready for our fifth and final story if it's our fifth and final story that's brought to you by liquid iv perchance whatever you do come into your own your own way with extraordinary hydration from liquid IV.

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52:16The show generally starts production shortly, and the last three seasons have aired in July. The series, however, has not been canceled and will likely come back to Disney's own network in the future. It's unlikely to air this year, but insiders have not completely ruled out its return later this year. It's not entirely clear why this decision has been made, But it's not without precedent in the Bachelor universe. Last year, for example, Bachelor in Paradise didn't air because Golden Bachelorette happened instead. Okay. I don't know. Skipping the Bachelorette seems bigger than skipping a Paradise.

52:45It does. But also when you think about all the different brands amongst the Bachelor franchise, you have the main Bachelor, the Bachelorette, Bachelor in Paradise, and the Golden Bachelorette now. And then Golden Bachelorette. Right. Bachelor and Bachelorette. I do feel like the female-led ones are probably the lowest rated because it's more fun to have all the girls fighting over a guy. Like girls bring the drama. Girls make it more interesting. 25 girls and one guy. Like that I'd probably rather watch, get to know all these like funny, crazy, quirky girls than 25 guys and one girl. Like that's boring.

53:17Like trying to be on TV. Yeah. It's like get a job. So I could see like the golden bachelorette or the bachelorette being the first to go. I don't, I know they're trying to make it seem like this is all good. I don't think this is a good sign for a franchise that in my mind has been dying for years. Yeah. But to what end? Yeah. It's still decently rated. You can't just have The Bachelor. No, but I think people really like Bachelor in Paradise. I think it's still decently rated compared to like other cable shows. But we compare it to like what it once was. So I don't know if it's like a huge flop or a failure.

53:50I don't think it loses money for the network. But they really need to just shake it up. It's like the same format, the same dates, the same thing like all the time. when dating shows are you hearing about montoya claudia i keep seeing this everywhere what is it okay what show is it from it's actually it's a spanish show so i don't know even the name of the show that's what i thought but then i saw a bunch of like barstool people talking about it so i'm like is this barstool you know their reality yeah they have like reality shows oh my god i was like what is this it's okay it's a it's temptation island which is a u.s show but it's temptation Temptation Island, Spain.

54:24Okay. And so a couple of clips from the show, which is like a reality show where they put a bunch of singles, you know? And actually I think they're couples and it's Temptation Island because you watch your partner go into a house and watch them on a TV to see if they're going to cheat on you. Very Casa Amor vibes. Okay. And there's this couple, the guy's name is Montoya and his girlfriend is like majorly stepping out and he's forced to watch it, like literally watching her have sex and like two separate, she had sex with two different people and he's like on this, you know, You know they sit on like a wooden log in the middle of the woods forced to watch on a TV.

54:56And he's having a fucking breakdown. Like he can't. It's a very normal reaction actually for somebody you love. The clips went so viral. And whatever. That's irrelevant. But what I'm saying is like when you think about the landscape of dating shows right now. Like Netflix crushes it. They had like Too Hot to Handle. Love is Blind. Love Island. Love Island. everybody's sort of stepping their pussies up based off of a concept that the bachelor created and they never evolved like it's the same three-hour telecast with the same dates the same concept the same everything the biggest thing they ever did was when they did bachelor in paradise and even that compared to like love island it's still it's old it's it's boring yeah but i do think bachelor in paradise like it's a pretty good answer to love island it's not good enough sometimes but it's hard you can't really have bachelor in paradise without the bachelor and bachelorette because like you fall in love with these cast members you want them to have a second chance at love but that is like having to watch 50 hours of television so that you'll be excited for bachelor in paradise i don't they make it too hard their focus on the bachelor is selling as many commercials as they can so if you're gonna commit to watching an episode you have to watch three hours plus after the rose women tell all like they're really exploiting people's time that's why i personally stopped watching it i was like how many hours do i have to watch just to see who wins like it's not fun anymore a mid-season episode five for it to be two hours like stop you know agree you want a two-hour premiere a two-hour finale i'll let you have it sell your agreed episode five and you know a march yeah it's just they really can't compete like netflix they like love is blind first of all no commercials and it's so good like even when it's bad i have a question shows like that are on netflix that are going straight to netflix why do they still do commercial breaks like they fade to black they fade to black and then they come back and they play what we just saw I think it's like that's actually a good point I just think it's like a helpful way of like making television I don't know I think it's like I think it's so weird it's like it is what is this and and especially when they repeat the last line of what we just saw it's like wait I'm right here 10 seconds ago I didn't move that's actually really true I don't know when I was watching Kardashians that's what I was like this is made for Hulu why are you putting in blocks for commercial breaks.

57:10I'm still sitting in the exact same spot I was when I heard. I didn't move. And I remember what she said five seconds ago. Right. They do do that. Maybe it's just like this trend in editing. They can't stop. It's taking a while to shake. No one told them like we can stop doing that. They don't have to do it. Yeah, they do do that. I don't know. That's a good point. So I feel like they can tell us all they want that this is not like a sign of the times but I think it is. Yeah, I think so too. They just don't want to scare people. So those are the fast five stories. I hope you're scared. Wait, why would I be scared?

57:44Because you said they don't want to scare people. But people should be scared. Quaking. I'm shaking in my boots. It's Tuesday, which means it's Dear Toasters. Our weekly advice segment where Jackie and I do our best to help the girlies in need. So if you've ever found yourself in a predicament and you've wanted Jackie and I's advice, which is totally understandable. We are geniuses. You can get it. Email us, deartosters at gmail.com. Or just go to our website, thetoastpodcast.com. Scroll down. there's a little submission box. Both methods are, they're going to the same place. You have just as good of a chance of getting on the show and they're both anonymous.

58:14So don't worry. Are you ready? Actually, I'm going to give you a little bit of a choice today because I had four submissions that I really, really liked. Um, but I'll do my favorite first. Ready? Dear Jackie and Claudia, I've got this amazing boyfriend. He's literally perfect except for one tiny detail. He's blind. Now here's the twist because he can't see. He'll sometimes ask me how much I weigh and it sends my insecurity levels through the roof. Like how am I supposed to respond to that? On one hand, I want to be honest because well, honesty is the best policy, but on the other hand, I'm terrified of him judging me even though he can't see me.

58:46Do I lie and keep the peace or just tell him no and dodge the question altogether? It's also confusing when your boyfriend can't see you, but somehow still manages to see right through you. Am I an awful person for even asking this? Love ya. Bye. Ooh, that's so tough. I feel like he might have legitimate reasons for asking. It's like he can't see you. So he just like wants to know. He doesn't want to pick you up if it hurt his back or something. But it's actually like he can feel you and he could pick you up like he actually knows what he needs to know but I don't know like maybe he needs this as an aide just to like understand what his girl looks like.

59:20I feel like anything else like yeah you could shave a few pounds off. No here's the thing like I want to help this blind man like I think it's important. You want to help him see. I just want to help him whatever he needs like I'm watching the season where Carlos is blind on Desperate Housewives right now and like the way the community really just gets you know they get him a job and they're always helping him out like it's beautiful like it's being blind I can't even imagine it's it seriously sounds like the hardest thing on the planet so I want to help this man but I just feel like he actually doesn't need to know that like you can really based on feel touch like you can know what your partner looks like like literally why does it matter I don't know I Carlos would never like because Gabby was saying when Carlos is blind it's also when they're poor and then they have kids and Gabby like you know she's not her glam self anymore she puts on weight she like is just kind of she looks like a mom you know not not like that that's bad but you know she's not like a glamazon model anymore and she says like Carlos like I'm embarrassed like even though you can't see me like I don't love the way that I look anymore I put on weight and and like Carlos would never ask this question you know what I mean he loved Gabby so unconditionally so I just I I just want to not to make the blind man the villain here but I think it's a weird question well I would just ask him like why he wants to know because I'm holding space for like it's something that blind people need to know like in order to orient themselves I don't know I'm giving him like the benefit of the doubt so I would just ask him like to what purpose does it serve for you to know like I will tell you um but I just would love to understand why that's information that you want I just think based on my limited knowledge of the blind community which is limited I feel like they really learn things by touch not by numbers like I just I I think he might have ulterior motives for asking the question.

1:00:59Maybe. But remember, he's a perfect angel otherwise, so we're going to give him the benefit of the doubt. Yeah, we are. We are. I was just asked. And of course, if you do end up telling him, like it's minus 15. Yeah, I was going to say, you have at least like a 10 pound grace period. 10 to 15 max, okay? Max, yeah. Because you also like, it's just like when you are on a plane, like they do need to know for safety purposes. Like you can't really lie. Yeah, I don't know. I don't think he needs to know for safety purposes, but okay. I don't know. Like I don't know because I'm just gonna yeah I don't know because he's blind so I don't want to give him like bad information did you hear me I'm blind I don't want to give what's that from it's Will Ferrell no is it is it Anchorman did you hear me I'm blind I know what is that me and Ben say that all the time I have no idea that's so funny oh my god I forgot about that what's it from Row 1 Row 1 what is that I've never even seen that movie Star Wars it's not from star wars it's will ferrell

1:02:03maybe he's like he's standing in the ocean saying it he it's anchorman 2 anchorman 2 yeah he loses his vision and then he makes it everyone's problem he's like standing in the ocean did you hear me i'm blind like i'm not really lying to her fucking with like the p john blind guy you know i know i know i know and this is my dear toaster's toxic trait where like i oh i I want to see like the partner, especially the man in the relationship, like is always being the villain or gay. So, yeah, like I'm projecting here. Yeah. Like I just feel like he might need to know. It's like you wouldn't tell him something is 50 feet away if it's 20 feet away.

1:02:42Right. Like we're at a cliff, like important information. Right. So like give him the benefit of the doubt. All right. Next up, we've got a little weird mother behavior. hey Jackson Turdy a text from my boyfriend of one year's mom she's typed that really weird so she has a boyfriend of one year and a text popped up on his phone from his mom and he was sleeping so she opened it and began scrolling through the messages which is really crazy and she found texts looking for trouble I find I find texts from her to him talking very intimately about our sex life things like me coming how enjoyable it is for a man to see a woman climax climax me being less experienced than him and so much more I am so upset and I haven't said anything to him about it yet I feel so uncomfortable I fear the next time I see her I'm not the I'm not one who talks openly about sex or very freely but maybe with friends definitely not with my mom the whole thing has really given me such a pit so there's like a lot of layers here like obviously it's the betrayal of like something intimate between you two but also like we need to talk about like the mental illness that is like talking about climaxing with your mother like Like I know, and first of all, it's different when it's a son and his mom.

1:03:56But I think even like girls who tell their mom like things about sex is less weird, but they don't even go into this much detail. Like this is really fucking like serial killer ass behavior. I don't know what I would be, like I feel you. Like what are you more angry about? The betrayal? Or are we concerned? Like I'm concerned actually. That's bothering me more. This is like so weird and these like this is this relationship will be a part of your life for so long. I wonder what she does for work though because I could see a scenario. Who the mom? The mom like I could see a scenario where she is either like a sex therapist.

1:04:33Some sort of therapist maybe even like a gynecologist something. I do feel like the toaster would have included that. A thousand percent. But I could see a mom like that being very involved in her son's sex life and yeah it's like not ideal. But it's like that's just how we are and like you don't have to break up with him. over it it's just like a crazy fact about your in-laws your macha tanam sister okay so it's literally the episode of sex in the city where carrie's dating that writer who prematurely ejaculates i think he's played by justin theroux and he comes with like this really like big family of intellects and the dad is a professor at yale or no columbia and the mom is this um i think she's like a sex therapist type of thing so she knows about the son's premature ejaculation and she like wants to talk about it with carrie and carrie's like no it's less weird because she is this like very like you know but i do think the toaster would have written in if there was even a remote pertinence to this woman's line of work like let's just say she works in sales okay okay i don't know maybe she has like a side hustle of like women's health i think if you can look at it from that angle where it's like she's interested it's weird in the vagina just and you're like in a woo-woo family listen claudia if she loves him and she wants to make it work like some things you just have to accept well the also the problem is is like when you go snooping how to get this stuff brought up like how can you bring it up to him yeah because it's not like he's coming to you and being like my mom says you should try this like how would you know this it's illegally obtained information it's not admissible it's inadmissible that's tough but also i'm glad you snooped usually like snooping you're gonna find information you don't want and while like you didn't want to know this this really isn't something that can go on forever it's really fucking weird and honestly this is something that would just like give me the ick to a person like I don't care how pgm your boyfriend is like you're talking about orgasming with your mom like ew you're ugly to me now you know what I mean I do know what you mean but I just I want to help her I know I just want to how are we helping I want to help her think like it's not a big deal like he's just from just an open family that's really sweet but it is a big deal so let's give her some actual advice you have to bring it up to him and just say I don't know if you can just admit to snooping no but like you could say like the other night a text popped up on your phone like how you I don't know yeah you'll have to come up with a creative way to bring it up that doesn't make you look crazy because you have to protect your your own interests here but he should absolutely know that you're just not comfortable like you should don't like judge and shame him for talking about this with his mom that's like a problem for another time but he does need to actively stop doing that like today yeah so I would say listen I'm not comfortable with that like talk to your friends like literally talk to a therapist talk to anyone please don't talk to your mother really he should you'd rather him talk to his friends about the no no not friends people that you have to like go out with and i i want to know like why do you need to talk about your sex life with anyone other than the person you're having sex with i don't like why do you need to keep people abreast as to what's going on in your bedroom when you just have a girlfriend like yeah it's not like you're you know seeing a bunch of people i think what's going on i think there's more history here that you should find a way for him to open up to you yeah I think there's more to this story maybe it has to do with him and the past relationships yeah or trauma yeah I think or what his mom likes to get into in her free time I think there's more here so find a way to dig in without it being about the snooping maybe just have it that's actually very good advice maybe just sit down and have a state of the union about your relationship and then take it into your sex life.

1:08:02Okay. Our third and final Dear Toasters is a Dear Toasters collab with NBW, Naggy Bitch Wife. Okay. Hey, Swirlies. Love you guys. Listening to the toast makes my commute one of the best parts of my day. So thank you. Oh, that was so sweet. I wasn't expecting to get choked up at Dear Toasters. I'm ready to settle a debate with my husband. We've been married for four years and he has a really disgusting habit. I've convinced him to stop as far as I know since it gave me a serious ick, not to mention it was really unsanitary. My husband likes to pee in the bathroom sink, the same sink where we brush our teeth, at least I do, and where I wash my face.

1:08:33The toilet is no more than three or four steps away from the sink. We do not have his or her sinks. It's just one singular bathroom sink. And he insists that all men do it out of convenience. Quote, I told him there's no way that all men do this and that I was going to have to write into your toasters to settle this once and for all. Is this normal? Have you witnessed your husbands do this? Absolutely not. I've never seen this. I've never heard of this. I have. But it's extenuating circumstances. is like if me and Ben back in our old apartment when we had one bathroom, I mean, we both like really had to pee.

1:09:04Of course I get to go first. Ben like maybe once or twice peed in the sink. He's gonna kill me for saying that. But that's not what this is. No, no. To do it, to opt for the sink instead of the toilet. No, all men don't do that. It's an emergency thing. I think it's not completely unheard of, I have to tell you. Like men definitely do this, but I don't think they use the sink as a toilet like all the time. I think it's very reasonable to ask and insist that he uses the toilet instead of the sink where you wash your face and brush your teeth. And if he can't agree to that, you're not even asking for anything other than for him to move over three inches.

1:09:41Then you put a lock on the door that only you have the key to. And he can go do that in a different sink. In a public bathroom. Hopefully not the kitchen. Ooh. Yeah, no, by the way, you're 100 % right in asking him, But like I don't want to indulge him at all. But he isn't wrong. Like I do think people do this. Because I think in the mind of like a really sort of like a small brain man, it's like it's all going to the same place. Yeah. I'm not worried about where it's going. I'm worried about what's touching on its way. Of course. I wouldn't wash my face in the toilet bowl.

1:10:17Facts. Facts. although like when I was um like testing my urine a lot for like ovulation or like pregnancy tests and you would like put it in a cup what do you do with the pee pour it back in the toilet yeah I guess that's like a much smarter way I was pouring it down the sink pour it back in the toilet yeah that's yucky yeah yeah when there's a toilet right there I also want to share something that I did like I need to unburden myself okay there were a couple of times where like I woke up first and it has to be your first pee in the morning right so where I woke up first thing in the morning and I didn't have a cup usually I would like leave a red solo cup and I would like rinse it and wash it and use it every day which is like probably gross but um either like the cup got thrown out or it wasn't there and I like was in I was like literally about to pee and I couldn't get up off the toilet I needed something to pee in so I used you know the really big hairspray I have it's like the red one big sexy hair and the big red the big black top lid I use the lid as a cup I just needed to I needed to unburden myself and by the way I rinsed it and then put it back on my hair spray I did I did that's crazy because who even has the lid on their hairspray to begin with like me oh like who doesn't lose it along the way oh that's not a problem I have cause to lose it to yeah no I'm not and I'm pretty sure it's the same bottle of hairspray I'm still actively using so Parchee Parchee women in STEM I needed to unburden myself So maybe that's why I'm a little bit more sympathetic And understanding to this man But I just I want to say like I back the toaster here Like he should not be doing this I back the toaster And if this is something that men do Just because they all do it If everyone jumped off a bridge Like then all men should stop Right right No you're not wrong And we wonder why women have all these skin issues Literally really we're washing our faces with garen meanwhile the men get to be like i don't wash my face and i feel great and it's like it's because like everything in your life is clean you don't have pee in the pores so true you're not because you're not washing your face in the toilet right that's your toasters thank you to everyone who wrote in um to the girl who had that crazy story about her man taking new photos of her and her friends and putting in the group chat we haven't heard from you to say every day sorry we haven't heard from you i'm just one no pressure like if You don't never want to write in again.

1:12:38Like you don't have to. I'm sorry that you went through that. We would love to hear from you, obviously. I just want to let you know, like I think of you often and I'm wishing you well. As am I. Now let's get the heart right for her. Okay. We're sending. Okay. We're sending you love. Thank you so much for listening to the Toast of the Millennium Morning Show. We're going to talk to you on the Fast Five series. You need to remember the Friday on YouTube. So you're watching us on YouTube. Please don't feed us. Jackie, you're going like this. Like you're like you need to you need to be straight. Even though every time I watch YouTube, you're never literally never.

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