Chocolate for Ageing? Friendship & The Nervous System Explained

12 Jan 2026 · 52 min · 22 chapters

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The Wellness Scoop: Episode Summary

Episode Title

Chocolate for Ageing? Friendship & The Nervous System Explained

Hosts

  • Ella Mills: Founder of Deliciously Ella
  • Rhiannon Lambert: Registered Nutritionist and founder of Rhitrition

Episode Highlights In this episode, Ella and Rhiannon explore several trending health stories as January unfolds. The three main topics discussed are:

  1. Friendship and Social Connection as Health Issues
  2. Dark Chocolate and Ageing
  3. The Nervous System and Vagus Nerve

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  1. Friendship and Social Connection as Health Issues
  2. Loneliness in the 30s:
  3. Increasing discussions around the health impacts of loneliness and the importance of friendships.
  4. A study found that strong social connections can lower the risk of dementia, heart failure, diabetes, and depression.
  • Key Findings:
  • Individuals spending more time with friends are 50% less likely to die prematurely.
  • Social interactions trigger beneficial neurochemicals (like oxytocin and dopamine) that enhance mood and reduce stress.
  • Cultural Shift:
  • There's a growing recognition of loneliness as a serious public health issue, not just an emotional one.
  • The number of Americans with fewer than four close friends has nearly doubled in the last 30 years.
  • Advice:
  • Ella and Rhiannon encourage listeners to prioritize making and maintaining friendships as part of their wellness journey.

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  1. Dark Chocolate and Ageing
  2. Research Findings:
  3. A study from King's College London indicates that theobromine, a compound found in cocoa, is linked to better biological age markers.
  4. Higher levels of theobromine in the blood correspond to a younger biological age, emphasizing the health benefits of dark chocolate.
  • Practical Advice:
  • Ella recommends consuming dark chocolate (75% cocoa or higher) daily as part of a balanced diet.
  • Psychological Aspect:
  • Chocolate is often associated with comfort and joy, which can contribute positively to mental wellbeing when included as part of a healthy lifestyle.

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  1. The Nervous System and Vagus Nerve
  2. Overview:
  3. The vagus nerve is a crucial part of the parasympathetic nervous system, responsible for the body's rest and digest functions.
  4. Many people are experiencing chronic stress, making it vital to engage in practices that help calm the nervous system.
  • Trending Wellness Practices:
  • Techniques such as breathing exercises, humming, and cold water exposure can stimulate the vagus nerve and promote relaxation.
  • Recommendations:
  • Ella and Rhiannon suggest incorporating mindfulness, meditation, and simple breathing techniques into daily routines to help manage stress.

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Key Takeaways

  • Social Connections are Essential: Building and maintaining friendships is crucial for mental health and longevity.
  • Dark Chocolate has Benefits: Consuming dark chocolate can have positive effects on biological age and overall health.
  • Manage Stress through Vagal Tone: Engaging in activities that stimulate the vagus nerve can help regulate the nervous system and improve emotional wellbeing.

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Conclusion Ella and Rhiannon emphasize the importance of social connection, dietary choices, and stress management as foundational elements for a healthier life. They encourage listeners to integrate these insights into their daily routines to foster wellness in the upcoming year.

Additional Notes

  • Listeners are encouraged to send in their health questions for future episodes.
  • Ella's new book "Quick Wins: Healthy Cooking for Busy Lives" is available for purchase.
  • Rhiannon's upcoming book "The Fibre Formula" is available for pre-order.

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This episode of The Wellness Scoop offers insightful discussions on trending health topics, blending scientific research with practical advice, reinforcing the idea that wellness is multifaceted and accessible.

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Today's Topics Preview

1:31 to 2:36

Overview of the various health topics to be discussed in the episode.

“I completely agree and what we've created with this community is just so so special and today Ella we have got a fantastic show so do you want to tell everyone what we've got coming up?”

Hosts' Weekly Highlights

2:36 to 4:24

Ella shares her recent press experiences and reflections on the industry.

“So we have a really nice mix of wellness this week.”

Miso Soup Recipe

4:24 to 6:15

Ella discusses making miso soup and shares her recipe.

“So I guess Ella, you could do an interview like we did once, and then it gets changed into something that's sexualized, you know, as a title or something drastic that you really didn't say.”

Plant-Based vs Vegan Discussion

6:15 to 7:52

The hosts dive into the differences between plant-based diets and veganism.

“loves miso soup so much and she won the real deal.”

Understanding Veganism and Its Implications

7:52 to 9:39

Exploration of veganism as a lifestyle choice and its broader implications.

“I feel like there's been a huge consumer shift.”

The Importance of Plant-Based Diets

9:39 to 11:04

Discussion on the benefits of focusing on plant-based diets over strict veganism.

“So instead they use the word plant-based, which I do think is better.”

Headlines on Botox and Safety Regulations

11:04 to 14:00

Hosts discuss recent headlines about Botox and the beauty industry’s safety standards.

“I think it's worth just differentiating this difference.”

Overlooked Dietary Choices

14:00 to 14:20

Discussion on plant-based diets and their allowances.

“Because people that are plant based can still eat small amounts of animal produce.”

Botox and Beauty Regulations

14:20 to 15:23

Exploring the movement for stricter regulations on Botox and beauty treatments.

“Okay, we have two quick pickups in this section.”

Junk Food Advertising Loopholes

15:23 to 17:45

Analysis of new junk food advertising regulations and their shortcomings.

“Obviously, last year we talked a lot about the kind of new government legislation on diets and trying to get us to eat more healthily.”
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The Importance of Friendships

17:45 to 22:08

How friendships can significantly improve physical and mental health.

“Well, you're right because they're taking the money, aren't they?”

The Loneliness Crisis

22:08 to 24:36

Discussing the rise of loneliness and its implications on public health.

“And one of the other points that I loved, I don't know how you feel about it, Rhi, but it speaks to me completely, is that we often underestimate how much we'll enjoy socialising.”

Meat Consumption and Biodiversity

27:32 to 28:00

Examining how reducing meat consumption can support biodiversity.

“One stingy burger a week to help nature thrive.”

Biodiversity and Meat Consumption

28:00 to 29:50

Learn about the research on meat consumption's impact on biodiversity.

“And rather than asking how much meat we can afford to eat within the environmental limits, his team reframed the question and they asked a different question.”

Plant-Based Diets and Small Changes

29:50 to 31:30

Explore the benefits of reducing meat intake and incorporating more plants.

“Yeah, it's around 70 grams as a portion of red meat that's recommended.”

The Joy of Beans and Snack Culture

31:30 to 33:10

Discuss the cultural acceptance of beans as snacks and their benefits.

“I went because we've launched lots of new products with all plants.”

Chocolate's Role in Healthy Aging

33:10 to 35:50

Learn about the health benefits of chocolate related to aging.

“But the study was published in Aging and it basically focused on a compound found in cocoa, which is obviously the core ingredient of chocolate, well, of most chocolate.”

Biological Age and Wellness Trends

35:50 to 37:30

Understand the concept of biological age and emerging wellness trends.

“And there's something also about chocolates associations.”

The Vagus Nerve and Stress Management

37:30 to 42:01

Explore the importance of the vagus nerve in regulating stress and well-being.

“Let us know if you're keen to hear more.”

Understanding the Vagus Nerve and Its Importance

42:01 to 45:51

Learn about the vagus nerve, its role in stress management, and techniques to enhance vagal tone.

“You've got to think of that tone because when years ago, when I was singing, we would talk about vagal tone.”

The Benefits of Simple Breathing Techniques

45:51 to 47:47

Explore effective breathing methods that can help calm the nervous system and improve overall well-being.

“As I said, you could be sitting on a train on your way home from work.”

Connecting with Others and Future Episodes

47:47 to 49:05

Discover the importance of connection and get a preview of upcoming topics and episodes.

“Just slowly breathe for a few minutes and you probably will really, really feel yourself calm down.”
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0:28We always recommend Shopify. welcome to the wellness scoop your weekly dose of health and wellness inspiration and as always we are here as your hosts i'm ella males and i'm rianna lambert and after a decade in the wellness industry we know how overwhelming and confusing health advice can be so we created this podcast to cut through the noise and make healthier living simple fun and personal and guys as we are coming up to our one-year birthday we just hit as of last week five million downloads which is mega every time you say the numbers i just laugh it's so this instinctive protective mechanism of shock i know it's because we were like let's do a podcast let's keep it fun let's keep it light let's not film it let's just have a chat about all the things that interest us in health and wellness and then in a year five million downloads listeners in over 100 countries it's unbelievable thank you guys yeah thank you so so much and we've been picked by apple as a recommended podcast haven't we this year yes they have a new living well section and we are number one in the carousel for loving the skin you're in which i loved so much that they chose us for that category just because i think we feel sometimes that wellness is so overwhelming it feels quite difficult to be a part of sometimes and i think that sense of empowerment and inspiration is so important to the both of us.

1:56I completely agree and what we've created with this community is just so so special and today Ella we have got a fantastic show so do you want to tell everyone what we've got coming up? We have okay we're going to talk about the difference between plant-based and vegan we're going to talk about why one burger a week might be the key for our planet's health loneliness in our 30s and why friendship is finally being reframed as a health issue, the science behind social connection, inflammation and longevity, a little bit more on dark chocolate and the aging headlines around that that we've seen recently, the nervous system, vagus nerve and why we're all maybe feeling a little overstimulated and what actually helps calm our nervous system and what's just hype.

2:37So we have a really nice mix of wellness this week.

2:45Ella I want to start with how you've been this week because my goodness me I have seen some epic things with you and quick wins this week and it's so exciting yeah it's been a fun week so quick wins as of today it's top 10 best-selling books on Amazon in the country which is fun so thank you Debra's bought it still half price on Amazon if anyone wants it quick wins healthy living for busy lives. But I did the Chris Evans Breakfast Show, which was super fun, did Davina McCall's podcast, that we had a quick wins taxi whizzing around London. So it's been a bit of a jazzy week, actually, my end. I did make a joke.

3:19I don't know if you saw underneath your Instagram post, but I said, why can't you pick us up for work in the quick wins taxi and then we'll pop down to the studio? I know. I wish we could have done that. That would have been so fun to organize. So yeah, it's been a fun, lots of press. I mean, I have to be completely honest, this is based for honesty and transparency. I don't like doing press. And I just say that not to be ungrateful, because I really appreciate it. And I appreciate it as a kind of vehicle for our message about simple health and changes you can make and empowering people to get cooking with butter beans and courgettes and make that stir fry for supper tonight and why it matters.

3:55But on a personal level, I guess after almost 15 years in this industry. There is this part of me now that just so loves this medium, for example, being able to speak just directly without your words ever being changed or chopped and turned into clickbait or sensationalized. And I just feel like this is a safe space. My nervous system is activated. I think it's important for everyone to remember, and I do myself, so that Ella hasn't always had an easy ride in the media and headlines can change. We don't have any control over who writes the headlines in the paper. So I guess Ella, you could do an interview like we did once, and then it gets changed into something that's sexualized, you know, as a title or something drastic that you really didn't say.

4:35So it's nerve wracking putting yourself out there. And I think what we love about this podcast is that obviously we're friends and it's safe, but it's also the fact that we have the time for context and nuance. I know. That's why I love podcasts. But Rhi, same with you. You've got the cover of your new book right oh my gosh yeah fiber formulas out there everybody and if you pre-order before the end of January you can win an overnight stay at Champneys Ella oh okay well I've already pre-ordered so maybe I should be the winner all you have to do is pop it underneath the Instagram post on Retrition I've tagged it but I'm not going sadly myself I mean sometimes I think I should just keep these prizes for myself but I don't I give them away guys pre-order have a night away you listen to the wellness scoop on your way down there go to the spa feel very zen you can do what i've been doing this week i have been making loads of miso soup and can i just recommend that as a really easy nice january thing right so miso soup just um on that note is something i've always assumed is a very quick thing you buy in a packet but obviously would have tons of additives if you buy it so how do you make yours okay now this sounds absurd so just bear with me guys my five year old loves miso soup so does mine ella so does mine okay she's obsessed she loves it so it seems like her favorite place and i know it's very bougie but she loves it so and she loves the miso super it so and since we moved out of london she keeps saying to me make me miso soup anyway do you know the brand clear spring look this isn't sponsored this is just a personal recommendation they make little pouches um little sachets of miso with the various different ingredients to make the miso soup.

6:14I was quite skeptical that it would kind of meet her standards because she loves miso soup so much and she won the real deal. Excellent. But I made a broth first. I just had some leftover like schlats and leeks and a sweet potato. So I boiled those up just like an hour. You don't have to do anything. You literally leave it boiling. And then I drained that and then added the paste, a bit more soy sauce, seaweed, some tofu, silken tofu. And then I did some noodles to make it more filling. It was the easiest supper. I know you are making a broth for an hour but you literally do nothing you chop a few things and chuck it in water and put a lid on like super super easy that is such a good shout miso soup something very different i have to say you need the noodles though you need to turn it into a meal you need the extras or rice and the broth is delicious as well but with the tofu seaweed um spring onions and then yeah either a noodle or a rice in there on the tofu ella where do you buy because i've been looking again Again, not an ad, but I really want to try these tofu goujons.

7:12I was thinking of you the other day. Where are they? Oh my gosh, the new all plants ones. That's our other favorite thing. Do you know what? They're such a cool product, actually. I'm so proud of them and they are flying. They have just launched the all plants tofu goujons in Tesco's, Waitrose, and Ocado. And I have to say, just getting a food brand going is not easy. And we got into Sainsbury's last spring and then Tesco as of beginning of January. And that is just such a mega milestone. So I'm like the All Plants team are phenomenal. And it's just a very cool step for us. I feel this year, and we're going to discuss it more, I can't remember if it did this week or next week, but there's a huge change in the market space.

7:54I feel like there's been a huge consumer shift. And we will discuss it in more detail. But even for me on New Year's Day, Ella, I was called my first interview of the year was with LBC News and I was being asked about plant-based and veganism and we'll get into it in the show but they asked me do you think veganism isn't popular anymore and it was a really interesting question to ask. Do you know what it's actually such a myth of us we should have done a section on this because there have been so many headlines on this like veganism is over is this the end of veganism obviously which we talked about lots of sensationalism here and actually maybe this is a perfect moment to kind of segue into our headlines to talk about this.

8:33I think the difference between vegan and plant-based as per that interview, I think it's quite important. I'm going to say, just can I be super controversial here? We said this is a safe space. Look, I don't love these sensationalist headlines. In a way, look, I don't think this is a bad thing. And I know that people might be like, hold on a second, you're all about vegetables. Why would you say that people saying veganism is a bad thing, is a good thing. It's just that my challenge sometimes with our food landscape is that it's so binary. And we love labels, And we love a sense of kind of dogmatism and being really dogmatic and like putting ourselves in one camp or the other camp.

9:08And for most people over the course of their whole lifetime, I'm not talking about six months, I'm talking about decades. Being in one camp or the other probably isn't very sustainable. And what I love instead is this focus on like plant first, plant rich. Let's, you know, like all the campaigns around like eat more beans. I love that. Let's get people. We'll talk about that in a minute about reducing their meat intake. and eating way more plants and it's so nutritious and it's so good for the planet it's brilliant all around i think there was a there was an argument though ella that um because the terms were misunderstood i'm so with you everything you're saying because marketeers had used the term plant-based to represent vegan food and it had got completely misconstrued from what it actually is and i think you're right less of a label because they were scared to put veganism or vegan food on their products.

9:59So instead they use the word plant-based, which I do think is better. That's why I wrote the plant-based nutrition book, because it just means you can eat whatever you want, but just focus on plants. Yeah, you're basing your diet on plants. And I think that's the important differentiation here that we thought was worth noting as part of this conversation today, is that what veganism is referring to, and it's why I am not a vegan, because it doesn't matter how many vegan recipes are right, I'm not a vegan because it's a whole lifestyle. and you've got to sign up for it in every facet be that you know the clothes that you wear the makeup products it's all driven by ethics fundamentally it's not about health it's an ethical consideration which deserves huge respect and appreciation oh my goodness humongous things we don't even think about and it's just so hard because even your car seats can be made from the more i know about it the more i'm kind of horrified by the agriculture industry sometimes with animals and everything.

10:54But I do think there's a lack of understanding that veganism is the omission of everything in your life that's based around and derived from animals. Exactly. And plant-based is actually completely different. Just more accessible. The reason, and I remember looking at it in the science of plant-based nutrition, and again, for fibre formula, if we just approach the fact that plants should be more of a hero, and I know that's what Ella and I discuss all the time on the podcast, I think we'll just go further with making changes that are more realistic. I think it's worth just differentiating this difference.

11:26As we're saying, vegan is this kind of holistic, all-encompassing lifestyle, which is driven from ethical arguments. And as I said, that deserves a huge amount of respect. Whereas plant-based came into effect in the 1980s. It's much, much more recent by an American professor of biochemistry at Cornell called Dr. Thomas Colin Campbell. And that was created to describe a high fiber, vegetable rich diet. he actually then later added whole food to it. So he was then talking about a whole food plant-based diet. And he was looking at and distinguishing a plant-based way of eating from a vegan or vegetarian diet, both of which massively predated, because he wasn't looking at the moral, ethical, environmental considerations.

12:07His viewpoint and when plant-based was created was all to look about the effect of nutrition on long-term health. And so I think that is really important. Veganism extent way beyond what you eat it shapes all your life choices whereas plant-based refers to your diet so you don't have to be a hundred percent anyway i just think with this whole like veganism is dead situation i think it's just an important thing which is like actually for most people that's maybe not something that's that they're going to incorporate in their life but if you're plant-based you don't need to be like i'm yes no all the other things it's like just root your diet in plants we know there's so much evidence there the interviewer said to me he's i said well actually I said we all need to collectively change the way we eat anyway and I said not just for our health I also said for the planet because we've got data there and he said and he's a great interviewer a lovely guy but he said but where's the data from what data who's telling us that you know eating more plants is better for the planet and I was like well there's a whole body of research you know we discussed the Lancet in Stockholm in 2025 you know the big papers that suggest the planetary plate and I tried to explain to him and I said that's why I felt there needed to be an encyclopedia on plant-based nutrition because there wasn't one.

13:15That was my motivation for writing that book after the science of nutrition. But it's so interesting when you hear other people's opinion. Well, what data? Because it didn't get any press. Do you remember we were discussing this last year and it's like there's an anti-eating for the planet movement at the moment. It's being blocked by media. Does that sound right? Yeah, I think it's, I don't know, the whole thing just feels very complicated and sticky, doesn't it? But But I think when we're seeing all these like veganisms over headlines, I think it's just important to differentiate. Vegan is a ethical, moral, environmentally driven lifestyle decision, which is completely different to dietary choices where you're trying to focus on whole food plant based ingredients.

13:58They are two fundamentally completely different things, even if sometimes they overlap with recipe content. Because people that are plant based can still eat small amounts of animal produce. And I think that's what's really often overlooked. So Ella, let's move on, although that felt like a headline in itself, to the headlines that matter.

14:20Okay, we have two quick pickups in this section. The first one, did you see there were more headlines on Botox again? There were some different beauty industry leaders last week. So after the headline that we talked about, calling for these treatments like Botox and fillers to be classified, interestingly, as high risk procedures. And that's all part of this effort to move away from what they describe as profits over standards culture and have this much, much, much stricter safety regulatory oversight. I just thought it's so interesting because it's become a kind of high street situation and it feels like the same as getting a manicure almost.

14:57And actually lots of people within the beauty industry are saying, no, no, no, no, no, let's not say Botox is the same as a manicure. This is a proper medical procedure and we need to treat it as such, which I think is great because it's all part of this regulation. I mean, if it were labelled high risk, it would change everyone's perception of it just being this everyday thing that everybody does and every woman's entitled to because that's the label it currently has. Yeah. Anyway, so we'll keep you updated on that story because it's very interesting. And then another update, which I think is quite interesting.

15:25Obviously, last year we talked a lot about the kind of new government legislation on diets and trying to get us to eat more healthily. And the junk food ban in terms of advertising is finally in effect as of the 5th of Jan, so not long ago. But more headlines on this one because there's a pretty obvious oversight here. There's a huge loophole. Do you know, it is great. And I saw somewhere, I haven't written this stat down in the brief, that we could save another 70 ,000 something food choices by having this ban of advertising because we are influenced by what we see. It does drive our behaviours a lot of the time.

16:06So there could be positive elements there. But there is a problem that you can still advertise. So these companies are not banned from advertising. They just can't show the product. Yes, exactly. So I think what people were hoping was like, right, pre 9pm with the watershed, you wouldn't be able to advertise less healthy products. That's true, but you can advertise less healthy brands, just not the specific products. So I think, you know, we were already talking about how it feels like a plaster on a gaping wound. And I think when you look at it from this perspective, even more so, because ultimately it's like the Coca-Cola Christmas ads is this feeling that these brands evoke and this sense of aspiration or wanting to be a part of it that's so effective, probably more so than a specific product and so ultimately you can still have this you can advertise a logo a slogan general imagery it's the music ella for me the minute you said coca-cola christmas ad in my head i'm holidays are coming hol do you know what i mean and all it takes and it's also positive and lovely and fantastic and you can't see the bottle with the actual product in it as would be on shelf but you can see everything else and so you still get that like you still get lovely feeling and for children watching it they're still like oh I want to be a part of this world so it's a shame isn't it really because we're still going to have the same advertisers they're just going to change the brief it's a step forward and I would love to see well because we've waited years for a sort of ban and then it didn't come in and it didn't come in but it's a step I think it's a step but it needs to be enforced it's a shuffle it's a shuffle let's not use the word chef it's a shuffle of feet by millimeters two way forwards but you know we were promised this years ago and it never went forward so finally it's gone forwards but it's not good enough it's not good yeah I would disagree I think it's a rambles I think it's sort of pathetic if yeah pathetic pathetic watershed pathetic we need more no because we do we've got to inspire people for change and ultimately I think it's like it's that thing where you want to say you're doing something but do nothing at all and like who wins there.

18:13Well, you're right because they're taking the money, aren't they? Because at the end of the day, those companies are the ones with the cash and they're the ones that pay for the TV channels. So they're not going to get rid of them. They're never going to get rid of them. But then it's almost worse than doing nothing to some extent because it's so absurd. Anyways. Oh, it's such a big issue. Oh, so hard. Right. Headline one, Ella, is totally opposite. We've got forget fitness plans, improve your health by making a friend. I know that headline in particular was in the Times and it was why making friends might be the health habit we're missing.

18:45And I just loved it because in January, you've got all this wellness noise and all these plans and all these supplements. We're going to talk about peptides next week and people injecting themselves with NAD plus and all sorts of bits and pieces. And there's so much noise around all of that. And this was like, forget all that noise. You don't need all of it. Actually improve your health by making a friend. And it was all based on this neuroscientist called Ben Rain. And it was a simple, powerful idea. basically that we do. We spend a lot of time when it comes to our health and wellness thinking about food, about movement, about supplements.

19:17And we barely think about what he was calling our social diet. And yet that social diet, our social connections have such an enormous impact on both our physical and our mental health. Yeah, completely. And the scale of evidence behind it is Hugh Jeller, one study that tracked around 300 ,000 people over roughly seven years. I mean, that in itself is gold research. And it said that people who spent more time with friends had a lower risk of dementia, heart failure, diabetes, and also, of course, alongside that, lower rates of depression and anxiety, because it links to the fact that we need social connection, like we've always said on this podcast, and they experience less stress, even pain tolerance, Ella, which I found really, really interesting.

19:58And we're around 50%, 50 % less likely to die prematurely. Absolutely extraordinary. I know it was really interesting the way he was framing it in the interview was like, if you told people you could get all of these benefits, you'd be quite keen to sign up for it. Like, yes, take my money. I'll do your plan if I get all, you know, 50 % less likely to die prematurely. But there is no plan. The plan is to call a friend, go for a walk on them, whatever it is. And, you know, basically how it all works is that these, and he's very keen to express and not alone in this, we are talking about, unfortunately, real world social interactions.

20:37We are not talking about sending a DM. We are like face-to-face conversations with people. And those trigger the release of neurochemicals like oxytocin, serotonin, and they make us feel calmer, safer, more connected. And dopamine as well, really important. You get a big release of dopamine. So you're getting all these feel-good neurotransmitters coming around your body and this amazing mood lift from interacting with people. And that's so powerful. So, so powerful, Ella. And the research framed it in such a beautiful way that socializing is essentially medicine as well, like a small dose of benefits that people need, because we've got to think about the neurochemicals that we get from social interaction.

21:19And we talk about things all the time, like dopamine and all these things when they're released that we obviously are not getting a hit of every single day because we're doing more online. We're not getting that face-to-face or, you know, human interaction we're used to, these can help protect us from chronic inflammation. It's just so interesting because we always strive for those pillars of health. And I feel like we need to have another pillar now that is social interaction. I totally agree, because I think it's sort of, if we think about these four pillars being our diet, our exercise, our sleep, our stress management, you know, you could sort of put social connection to stress management.

21:57But really, I totally agree I think that sense of community and connection actually is our fifth pillar so guys 2026 five pillars of health to be thinking about not to be stressed about but to have in your mind what you're eating how you're moving your body how you sleep elements that manage your stress and how you connect with people okay so the wellness scoop our community we can become the fifth pillar yes we are the fifth pillar guys we're here for you and do you know what what actually they had you know quite a lot of info on the kind of backdrop of all of this that I think is it's pretty depressing to be honest which is that over the last 30 years and this was like in America in particular the number of Americans with fewer than four close friends has risen from 27 % to 49 % half the adult population have less than four close friends and by the time people reach their 70s they're spending on average seven hours a day alone so I think it's this sense we often talk about loneliness as an emotional issue, but actually as a public health issue, which I think is a really interesting reframing.

23:01And one of the other points that I loved, I don't know how you feel about it, Rhi, but it speaks to me completely, is that we often underestimate how much we'll enjoy socialising. You know, I think sometimes it's easier not to do it than it is to do it. I know I'm like that sometimes and I'm like, oh, I'll just stay at home. But actually when you go and you make an effort, you have such a lovely time. it's true most of the time in the winter I do find a hibernate in the summer I want to go out I will always stick with that but yes because he actually said that friendships quietly slip away you know it's not an overnight thing that we don't realize it because it's so hard when we're just busy because most of our time is consumed with work and then if you have a family on top of that as well that is your weekends and you don't really spend much time we don't have the village anymore so we're not interacting in that way with our children at the weekends if you are single at the moment you don't have a family are you actually going out and mingling in the way we used to because the guardian recently ran a piece that's called the loneliness fix and it said i wanted to find new friends in my 30s and it was easier than i imagined so that's a nice one i think this topic of loneliness is being picked up quite broadly and i think i thought it was nice to include that guardian piece as well, because actually, and like, I'll be the first to say it as well.

24:16I feel lonely sometimes. I don't think it's easy to make friends at this point in life. And I think for lots of us, you know, our life changes, we move, we have different setups, social structures or something. And so, you know, sometimes old friends, it's not that we don't care about them anymore, but maybe we don't live near them and aren't able to see them often. Like I know that's the case for me. And actually for sure, I feel lonely. And that guardian please inspired me it was like actually go out make make a couple more friends it also made me think of my boys because being a mom of boys you know boys don't talk as much just so this is stereotype but i know some boys do but girls tend to be more open and discuss things and need that community and i actually think men do too but there's something in society that stops us so i'm just going to be really conscious of that raising boys it's just another thing on my plate to be like to try and encourage you know friendships and nurture them do you feel like that sometimes, Ru.

25:09Oh gosh, yeah. You know, being self-employed, I know you've been, well, you are there, Ella, that it's 24-7 and my business is run by me. So it's all time consuming. And then I really want to prioritize my children. And there's nothing left for me personally at the end of the pile, you know, to book in going out for dinner. I have to do it months in advance so I can get childcare. It's not easy. It's really not easy. And I do feel it too. Yeah. Well, if you guys listening let us know how you feel on it I think gosh while we were building delicious Ciela I feel like I lost so many friends and not in a dramatic way it's as you said it's just like slipping away because you cancel a plan something's come up and then it's a few more months and then ultimately this like very close friend you start seeing them once a year and it's very different and I think at this point in life it's really normal that and I just feel it's important that we're all open and transparent and honest about that because actually I think it's also easy to be like I'm lonely am I weird or strange or the only person like this and why does everyone else have so many friends in this girl gang or whatever it is and I'm left out it's almost like being a teenager again yeah I've never had a huge girl gang even at school I just kind of had a boyfriend it was a strange dynamic I think I hid behind him but really interesting it doesn't mean you have to hang on to relationships that don't serve you because I do think relationships change.

26:33I mean, in your 20s, your late 20s, your 30s, your 40s, I'm sure that we're in different stages of our lives and different friendships serve you in different ways. But I think we need to either reach out to new ones and maintain ones that do serve us perhaps. I totally agree. Let us know where you guys stand on all of that.

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27:31Okay, totally different headline next. One stingy burger a week to help nature thrive. This was everywhere after Christmas. One stingy, I think by stingy we're talking about small, but one small burger a week could help nature thrive. And basically this was everywhere from the mail to the times and all the rest of it. It sounds like a mail headline using the word stingy doesn't it yeah i totally agree stingy was actually used by the researchers believe it or not and it was basically this whole premise of if we want to support biodiversity in this country we need to eat far less red meat than we do now we probably already knew that but interestingly the one burger a week was the amount needed to help biodiversity i see to me that's fascinating and the researchers actually came from the university of edinburgh led by alfie gathorn Hardy.

28:19And rather than asking how much meat we can afford to eat within the environmental limits, his team reframed the question and they asked a different question. How much meat do we need for the biodiversity? So to answer that, they looked at all of the UK's land in detail. They mapped the different habitats, which I think is actually really important as well, because we are losing habitats, you know, with new railway lines being built, housing, there's so much to discuss there with biodiversity. And from woodlands to uplands and worked out how much livestock each could realistically support while helping wildlife because less than four percent is now wildlife ella it hurts me i feel for the squirrels the foxes the badgers can we even say we have wildlife in this country anymore i know exactly it's extraordinary so the amount needed for this was just four million hectares of land for grazing livestock that's our optimum for biodiversity so we do need some livestock hence our one burger a week that's the kind of the ratio it would translate to.

29:16But currently we have 13 million hectares dedicated to grazing livestock. Now, obviously I appreciate there's so many economical implications of this and huge number of farmers and farming families. And I'm not trying to sort of wipe that away, but just from a kind of statistical perspective, I think it's really interesting, this idea, like we need some land for grazing livestock. That's very important for biodiversity, but nowhere near as much as we do. And basically, if you translate it into your diets, as I said, basically, it's a 90 % cut in red meat consumption. So that works out to eating about 4.2 kilos of meat per person, or one modest burden a week.

29:54Yeah, it's around 70 grams as a portion of red meat that's recommended. So I think most people eat more of that in one steak, to be honest, with the weight of it as well. And what's so, so important here is the environmental impact. And maybe we should touch on this more on the podcast, but I feel like it never gets traction in mainstream media. You don't see these types of articles blow up and become TV interviews at the same time. And I think it's purely because there doesn't seem to be a solution. We don't seem to have support from the government to help farmers, to help this kind of transactional approach of farming, protecting the wildlife.

30:30The land always seemed to see as destruction of wildlife. But, you know, it sits aside some of the headlines of the Mediterranean diet, which is good. You know, the green Mediterranean diet I discussed, I can't remember, was that in Countertown Hills? Exactly. A few months ago. And I think what's interesting is it all basically landed up to the same thing. And I think, you know, coincidentally, we obviously talked about plant based versus vegan. And I think it's this interesting thing of like, you don't have to be completely dogmatic. If you are for environmental or ethical reasons, that's brilliant.

31:00And as I said, huge respect for that. But I think for everybody else, it doesn't have to be 100 % what we're seeing here, for example, for biodiversity, coupled with health, as we see in the planetary diet, the Mediterranean diet, the green Mediterranean diet. It's just plant first, plant rich. Yeah, do half, half beans and meat, like start making those small changes. You know, we used to have in this country, it's quite popular at one point, meat free Mondays. You don't have to, but you could reduce and just add more lentils and beans and pulses. And I think that's where the double the beans by 28 comes in, doesn't it?

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31:31Oh, my gosh. I went because we've launched lots of new products with all plants. We've done this veggie tempeh and the tofu goujons. I've been going into quite a lot of supermarkets the last week to go and see them on shelf. And in the waitrose near us, there was an enormous display of beans. Yeah, I know. And it made me think of this whole, yeah, bang the beans in. Well, do you know what? You might think I'm really weird saying this on the podcast, but I think you said you do this too. It's a safe space, Rue. Here we go. You know, those, the superior beans, the bold beans, the ones. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

32:04Well, my kids and I would just eat it from the jar. And then I went over my friend Lucy's in Manchester for a job at the beginning of the week, also discussing fiber, which I'll share when I can. but her kids were eating the beans out the jar and i was like that is what i do and she's like they taste so good like do you think that's all right ria and i was like yeah so maybe more of a snack out of the jar than we think they taste so good they are so delicious those beans um amelia who started bold beans done the most amazing job with that company of their i think their slogan's about getting people obsessed with beans and it it's amazing they have done a phenomenal job but are we getting into stereotypes of oh she's a nutritionist she eats beans from the jar ha ha ha and you can see a comedian right now i did this show with joanne mcnally once and she made a really funny joke like oh look her hair's so good she must eat tons of kale you know like you can just see the you can see the headlines i totally agree yeah it's a bit stereotypical they love wellness they eat beans out of jar i they eat premium beans i see you on it but equally you know they are a delicious product we eat everything else too so ella from beans to my other favorite wellness ingredient which has become a wellness ingredient because i feel like the wellness scoop has made it so the dark chocolate compound that's linked to slower aging i know i love this one so final headline for this week comes from king's college london this was picked up everywhere it's a bit like whenever there's good research on red wine we all just want the good news don't we we like want a reason to love chocolate and this was one of them so we're all looking for a reason to eat more chocolate and attach a bit of science to it.

33:38But the study was published in Aging and it basically focused on a compound found in cocoa, which is obviously the core ingredient of chocolate, well, of most chocolate. But because chocolate is so expensive now, it's rapidly being reduced and there's all sorts of chocolate bars in the UK that you now can't call chocolate bars, chocolate flavored, because the proportion has gone down so much. Anyway, this compound called theobromine, is that how you say it, Ray? I'd have said theobromine, yeah. Okay, essentially researchers are looking at levels of the theobromine in people's blood and blood-based markers of biological aging.

34:11And what they're seeing is that it's inherently very, very positive. Oh my goodness. I mean, I have, as you know, I have dark chocolate every single day. I'm not even exaggerating there. I also let my children have dark chocolate every single day if it's 75 to 80 % plus. So it's what they've always known. And I think it's really beneficial. So our biological age is very different from how many birthdays you've had. So you could, I know Ella and I did that Neko scan at the beginning of the podcast last year. And you can be told you're four years younger than you actually are. So it's based and measured using our DNA process called methylation, which can change over the course of our lives.

34:51But they analyze these two large European cohorts. So 509 people from the Twins UK study and just over 1 ,100 participants from the German CORA study. And across both of those groups, people with high levels of this theobromine circulating in their blood had a better biological age. So you could be 50, but your age could be 35, for instance. That's what we call biological age. I will say there's DNA kits out there. Not all of them are accurate when it comes to this, if you do these kits at home. I mean I've admitted this before I'm an avid watcher of the Kardashians for example and they do it yeah they did one of those tests recently or I think it was in the last season this is I bet they were all 16 oh yeah they were so young in it of course they were and they were then like competing over who was the youngest I think they're pretty committed to their wellness so they seem pretty chuffed with the results anyways I think it's also just these little reminders again that like what we eat and how we treat our bodies it is linked to our health span and and you know can we call it healthy aging or kind of positive aging looking after our bodies as we get older and so what we eat in the most part does really matter and we can really support ourselves so i had my 85 favorite dark chocolate this morning after breakfast i got in from the school run before this podcast i was cleaning the bathrooms i was like right gonna have my chocolate have my cup of tea and then do the wellness scoop.

36:19And there's something also about chocolates associations. You know, we've all got our own psychology kind of linked to it. You know, it's comfort, it's joy, it's a treat item. But when you let chocolate, if it's the right type of chocolate, become part of your everyday diet, you find you have less cravings towards those types of foods than previously. So I used to do that in the clinic. I think I've mentioned that before, tell people to have chocolate at breakfast and then slowly switch it up. look I'm sure pretty much every single person listening has done this where you say I'm not going to eat x again or I'm not going to eat y again and then you become obsessed with it whereas if what you say is like yeah of course I can have a little chocolate you're so much less likely to even think about it oh how funny just as we've said that and I picked up my phone to look at the next brief and it says biological age in the independent will become a status symbol It's a headline that says it's a trend for 2026.

37:12It's becoming a huge deal and we're going to see loads of those kit seller appearing everywhere. Told you. Saw it on the Kardashians first. She saw it first on the Kardashians. Everyone don't be fooled by the kits, but it's pretty cool. Yeah, let's do a whole deep dive maybe as a trend section into all of this because I think it is very interesting. Let us know if you're keen to hear more. Okay, what's trending in wellness? This is... I've actually been wanting to do this one for a while so I'm excited about it. I love it because it links back to my singing days. Our trend is the vagus nerve and nervous system regulation and Ella read a BBC article at the end of last year which is called ever feel the need to switch off your vagus nerve might hold the key which explored why so many of us I think just feel permanently wired and why the role the nervous system has within that, Ella?

38:06Maybe it's just my algorithm, but looking at various different media outlets as well. I think, I know you mentioned this the other day. I don't know how listeners felt, but at the kind of turn of the new year, there was so many influencers posting online, like my ins and outs of 2026, things essentially like I want to leave behind when it comes to wellness habits and things I'm going to focus on. And I think nervous system, nervous system, nervous system, nervous system. Yeah, we did it on the clinic. We did ins and outs. I don't know if we put it up yet. Yeah. Nervous system. It's everywhere.

38:36It feels like such a massive trend. And then seeing headlines over the last few weeks, good housekeeping, had one from NAD plus coming next week, guys. Therapy to Vegas nerve stimulation. The wellness trends will be trying in 2026. BBC had another article flagging nervous system health as one of the defining wellness trends we'll have in 2026. I've seen it literally everywhere. And I think it is really interesting as I said I'm seeing it all over social every time I scroll it's all about nervous system vagus nerve how to kind of reduce stress and anxiety I personally am very interested in it as well and so we thought it would also be helpful to kind of explore because obviously we love in our transactions look at what is everyone talking about what are you seeing online and what's real and what's not real and kind of what the science is of all of this I love it because it's one of the first connections I ever made when I went to university years ago from being a singer in a previous life to nutrition because I used to feel those butterflies in my tummy you know you get nervous before going on stage and everything started to link and we call it a vagal tone it plays a role in how we recover from stress how reactive we are how regulated we are and we used to talk about it and I never really understood it when I was having my singing lessons I just did not understand what my teacher was telling me and then I went to uni I was like oh that makes sense.

39:56So should we strip it all down? Yeah, let's. And I think it's worth sort of saying from the top, this is actually, I would say inherently, all things are relative, a really good trend and a really good thing that we're talking about because we've obviously talked so much in the last year about how stress is a massive problem for us. We look at our five pillars again. I think stress is something that we all really struggle with managing. And there's some snake oil in this because there always is. But generally speaking, looking at your nervous system is a brilliant thing to do. And your vagus nerve, as people keep talking about this as part of it, is the primary nerve of your parasympathetic nervous system.

40:31So you've got your fight or flight, freeze, your sympathetic nervous system, your stress state, your parasympathetic, your rest and digest, your calm state. And your vagus nerve basically helps you move away and switch on that parasympathetic, that restful state and away from your fight or flight mode. Calm your heart rate, slow your breathing, bringing your body back into a state of calm after stress. And so that's why people are talking about it as the tone of that nerve, essentially being able to better modulate your day, essentially, because you're all going to have, we're all going to have stressful moments, but I think a lot of us have ended up living in a bit more of a constant sense of fight or flight.

41:12And actually, interestingly, I, we can talk about this another day. I bought an aura ring in January Yeah, in January sale. But I thought we'll wait for, yeah, let's go. I'll try it out first. But interesting, I've done this because I definitely and I said on my Instagram stories, I definitely feel for a very long time now I have been living in quite a kind of activated, stressed state. And the number of responses I had from people being like me too. My main thing when I realized was just like how hypervigilant I had become, like I was just scared of like a lift. I'm not scared of lifts but it was this always worst case scenario every plane was going to crash every lift was going to break yes every disaster was going to unfold and you know just the smallest noise makes you like jump out of your skin i put that down to being a mother as well because you just you just tell yourself mom my brain's changed i'm just always on high alert but maybe that isn't normal yeah so that's where your vagus nerve is and that's why people are interested in it and vagal tone is essentially like when your vagal tone is higher, your body is better at shifting out of stress and into calm.

42:19You've got to think of that tone because when years ago, when I was singing, we would talk about vagal tone. We'd say, you want to really look after this because when you get off stage, a lot of performers around the world that, you know, people that have high pressured music performance roles, they are buzzing when they get off stage. Now they've known for years and we probably haven't called it their parasympathetic nervous response, but they've known all about this connection from your head. And you've got to imagine an invisible line running down from your head all the way down to your gut, essentially.

42:50And this connection, and they know how important it is to wind down after something stressful, which we just don't do. And I think, Ella, you probably had that in your yoga training. And what we probably haven't done is link this to the everyday person. We just assumed it was something only business owners or performers needed to address. But what I really think now is that if we can get that higher tone, the body is better at shifting out of stress. Everything good comes from that. We can focus on something that performers do is they splash their face with cold water. When they get off stage, I used to always say, just have a moment in a quiet room.

43:29You kind of need to adapt from a loud environment and people will fill that with stress. Stress is loud. You need to remove yourself from that environment and give yourself a minute or two to calm down. I almost feel like that after a stressful bedtime with the kids sometimes that I feel like I've gone to battle. I mean, it's not like that all the time, luckily anymore, but when they were babies, it's like you've done battle and then you can step out and you sigh and you're like, okay, now I can regulate. Exactly. And so the things that really support basically is cold water can, which is interesting.

44:01Breathing techniques, breath work can be so powerful. humming interestingly which is quite often used in breath work meditation listening to calming music singing yeah makes sense doesn't it so that is all shown to support your vagal nerve and help you get into this resting state and all of this is so kind of is that the om the om in yoga oh yeah the om and just but any humming really helps stimulate so which is really guys i'm so sorry you can hear a little bit of barking my dog's quite excited so yeah breathing techniques is one of the most I think powerful things we can all do on a kind of day-by-day basis even if you're maybe you're on the train it's busy even if you just sit and like slowly just count four breaths in pause for four breaths four breaths out pause for four breaths box breathing you could just sit there and for probably five minutes just count four times four you know like you're breathing around a box.

44:58And it's amazing how your heart rate will slow down and you, you know, help you just switch into this state of calm. And after a stressful day, so many of us need that. And we don't necessarily have these kind of fire breaks almost. Yeah, you've got to get the tools out the box. And I know that's what psychologists do a lot in the returition clinic, but there's no evidence that you can officially change your vagus nerve. You know, you've got to remember, this is just a nerve we have. It's biological. But what we can do, like Ella said, is get a tool out the box that help us utilize it in the best way possible.

45:30You can help it with massaging. So that must be because of blood flow, I'm assuming. What I predict we might see again here, Ella, because it's becoming a trend, is people selling supplements that are going to miraculously help them with their vagus nerve. I mean, I hope that's not going to happen, but Ella's full breathing technique is going to be way more effective than any supplement. And it's just the sort of thing you can do anywhere. As I said, you could be sitting on a train on your way home from work. And, you know, yes, you can't close your eyes if you're in the car, but like, if you were on a train, you could just close your eyes for five minutes and just count your breath.

46:04And it would, it's amazing how much it slows you down. Sometimes I do it like after a stressful bedtime and I'm lying with the kids and they're going to sleep and you just, you lie there, you count your breath. It's interesting. I was actually, when I was reading all around this, this week, UCLA had on their website, quite a helpful summary. It said, when it comes to the vagus nerve, it looks like researchers and wellness influencers are onto something. Vagus nerve stimulation is having a moment and for good reason, there is increasing evidence that stimulating the vagus nerve can have wide ranging health benefits.

46:35So I think the summary on this as a trend is like, it is completely real. And most of us do spend too much time being stressed out and we know how bad stress is for our health. And so really trying to have some simple tools in your toolbox is so powerful but there's also lots of kind of very expensive devices that can stimulate your vagus nerve and i think that's the bit where i would just sort of caution before you rush out and spend huge amounts of money because there's not masses of evidence on on lots of these wellness devices and they tend to be quite expensive whereas what they've done in medical settings is they've actually implanted something internally to stimulate the vagus nerve, which is very, very different to these external ones.

47:21So there's no kind of evidence that you can like reset completely or reprogram your nerve with supplements, with massage, with these tools. The evidence is really sitting in terms of stimulating that rest and digest in simple things like mindfulness, meditation, breathing, humming. heading outside seeing um nature we've discussed that before holding your pet if you have a pet giving it a cuddle all these things we're subconsciously probably then going to start breathing better and we'll then tap into it so i think what a lovely trend to end the episode on ella yeah and i think if you do want one thing or two things this week try and spend some time with someone else in your life that matters to you and just see if you can implement these like really simple little breathing techniques or just literally just close your eyes put your both your hands on your chest, one hand on your chest, one hand on your belly.

48:10Just breathe. Just slowly breathe for a few minutes and you probably will really, really feel yourself calm down. Completely agree. Well, everybody, we love discussing these. If you see any trends, if you see any gadgets, we appreciate you sharing it so much. I'm loving receiving some DMs from you. I know that Ella's email has always opened her inbox for your questions because on Thursday. so we actually have a really special episode coming this thursday from professor sarah bury where we took your questions uh before christmas and she is here to answer all of the wellness fads and trends and new year and give you the science behind seed oils and so much more but we need your questions for the following week and the community because we love taking them we do so um either pop them on spotify or apple um or otherwise send me an email ella at deliciouslyella.com we love hearing from you guys we do so thank you everybody for tuning in we are officially the fifth pillar of wellness at the wellness scoop and thank you for being here bye thank you guys we can't wait to see you again on thursday have a great week

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This week we’re unpacking three of the health stories that have been everywhere as January gets underway. We start with why friendship and social connection are now being talked about as a serious health issue, from loneliness in our 30s to the growing evidence that connection supports mental health, reduces inflammation and even influences longevity.

We then look at the headlines linking dark chocolate to ageing, breaking down the new research on cocoa compounds and biological age, why it was picked up so widely, and what it does and doesn’t mean in real life. As ever, context matters more than hype.

Finally, we dive into the nervous system and the vagus nerve, one of the biggest wellness trends heading into 2026. We explain what’s actually going on beneath the buzz, why so many people feel overstimulated and wired, and what genuinely helps your nervous system feel calmer and more regulated, without falling for quick fixes.

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