Session 121: Myha'la

36:16I was like crawling around my apartment, crying so hard. And I finally found my phone and I called Marisa. And I was hysterical. I don't remember what I said. I don't really remember exactly what happened. But I do know that I left my apartment. It was raining. I was crying in the rain. She found me because we lived all in the same complex. She found me in the rain. She brought me back into my apartment. and she like brushed my teeth for me and put me to sleep and stayed in the bed with me until I like cried myself to sleep. She stayed with me the whole night. You guys are really Yaz and Harper.

36:51With less of the backstabbing. Yeah, right. None of that. But that's why it reads so well because it's so real. That love is so real. It's really real. She like literally held me while I cried and like my body just experienced the whole six months because I didn't know what to do with that. You were on go mode. I was totally on go mode. Yeah. And I finally, when my body was like, it's done. You can relax now. It was like, whoosh. Yeah. All of it came over me. And I released it all and I let it go. Wow. It was crazy. And then I was awoken by the driver being like, come to the airport. Time to go to America.

37:26And I was like, I'm not packed. I have not. It was crazy. I left that apartment in shambles. Yeah. Shambles. There were, I mean, it was disgraceful, the condition I left that apartment in. but it's okay you made great television out of it thank you how are you planning on saying goodbye to harper yeah this is a great question that i really haven't put too much thought to i don't think i'll ever truly say a real goodbye she is a she is a part of who i am um and who I want to be I think it's sort of twofold it's like sad because her the our story me and her story is ending I'm sort of leaving her behind um but when this is done that chapter is closed I have I have a new a new chapter to open now I am literally I'm just literally available yeah um there's so much more work i want to do i'm i'm writing and i'm oh wow trying to develop a couple things for myself so now i'll have the time energy the space the experience um and the confidence to start working on those things um which i'm really excited about do you want are those things more television or movie or both i have both i have both that i'm interested in i'll never not do tv yeah i'm a tv guy through and through me too i really am i feel like with television you can fall into these worlds so much more intensely and like really become part of a family totally the time just the sheer amount of time like it's it's like depending on how many episodes you have it's like eight movies right we have so much time to explore and go deeper and and you get to change and evolve and like harper season one is not harper season four and she won't be Harper season five.

39:19Do you know what I mean? I feel like, I mean, I feel like season five, Harper will have like, I feel like she's going to go on this like moral, like trying to make up for like looking at Yaz and being like, wait, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, like how did we get here? Like we're not doing this. She's going to turn to Christ. Yeah. She is literally going to turn to Christ. Yeah. I'm, I'm really excited to see where we go with, with Harper, with everyone, with the show I mean knowing knowing that it's the last one I'm pretty sure the boys are just gonna go rip it yeah they are they are they're gonna right I mean I think yesterday on the we we did a panel yesterday they were talking about like from day one there was sort of a basket of things they were interested in doing and now that they know the time is nearing an end they're gonna try to get all that shit that's in the basket into season five so are you excited I'm like actually I think I want to visit set one day.

40:11Oh my God, you should come. At this rate, I think I need to come visit set. You should totally come. Mickey Conrad, please let me come visit set. No, you're going to come. Okay. You should totally come. Come to Cardiff. Please. Me and Louise would have, it would be field trip day. It would be so fun. Why not? We would love to have you. I mean, we'll be there. Yes! We would love to have you. It would be so fun. Seriously, that show has done things for me. You have no idea. I'm so glad. I mean, I love hearing that because it has done so many things for me. And I feel like, I don't know if this is like a thing, but like I'm a fan.

40:48I'm a fangirl. You know what I mean? Yeah. I love to fan over things. Yeah, I'm the biggest fangirl of all time. I'm such a fan. Yeah. And I am a fan of this show. There's so much of it that I'm not in. So like when I watch it, I'm still kind of watching it. Oh, yeah. Like half brain is me and I'm criticizing myself. But the other half of me is just like enjoying my friends in the show, the story. Like I'm really invested in it. So hearing other people say that it's meant something to them is like, I mean, it means the world to me. It really is so incredible. Do you have like a favorite episode ever?

41:23Ooh. I have mine. Oh, wait, what's yours? Okay, mine's the finale of three. Oh, yeah, well, I mean, I think that's one of the greatest episodes of television of all time. Of all time. Maybe. Far none, hands down. Like that episode changed like how I view the world. Oh, for sure. Just because it was so good. You know, it's something so good and you're just like looking at life like. I'm changed. Artistically, like that's how that episode made me feel. Oh my God. That episode, the one where Harper is on the trading floor like. Yeah, that one, episode four. Yeah. Those two episodes I think are my favorite of industry of all time.

42:03Thank you. Yeah, I'm glad. Those are, I mean, phenomenal episodes. I feel like episode, my husband is always saying to people who haven't seen the show, and it doesn't, he's not sure, like if they're not sure if it's going to be for them, he says start on episode four of season one. Really? Because that episode with that trade, the anxiety, I think kind of sets the tone for like, oh, this show is a finance show, but it's really more like Mickey and Conrad say it's like, how do we make a trade feel like a car chase? and that's the one that does it. I think anyone who watches and they're not sure they're like locked in by episode four.

42:38Yeah. I feel like one of my favorite episodes. Oh my God, there's actually so many. Now I'm thinking about, I think it's episode six, the Christmas episode of season one. You guys always fucking feel the Christmas episodes. The Christmas episode, is that like a thing that they say, oh, it's the Christmas episode. Yes, the Brits fucking love Christmas. Yeah, they really do. They like love Christmas so bad. They do. Yeah that one's great Which one are you thinking of? Ben Lloyd Hughes When he runs into the glass At the In the first season Yeah And he like is banging himself Into the Glass That one is really great There's also so much tea With like Robert and Yasmin And Harper In that episode I miss Robert I know we all do Shout out Harry Lottie We love you Love you town Like

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44:41Booking.yeah. Book today on the site or in the app. I'd never seen bisexuality portrayed just so casually like that. Yes. I was like, it was in the midst of COVID. I was watching, I was watching industry and all of a sudden he was like really like courting Yaz. And then he like got his dick sucked by this guy and I was, and then they didn't really harp on it at all. Also like go off a young white man doing that. I think that one of the things that Mickey and Conrad are really good about that the show is good about is like, cause people are always like, isn't it a show about like sexuality? Is it a show about race?

45:21Is this a show about it? It's like, no, it's a finance show. And all of these things happen, but we're not trying to tell the audience how they should feel about it. Right. It's just like, here it is. And then you get to be like, oh, damn, I could just be by and it's not a thing or whatever. You know what I mean? Because they don't make it a thing. It's just they lay it out and they're like, here you go. Yeah. Yeah. We're not we're not trying to like bully the audience into feeling like yay gay or not yay gay. Yeah. You know, we're just like, here's a piece of the world. With no judgment. I think that is really good TV making.

45:56It's excellent. I want to shout out a specific sequence as well in episode four of season one. I love season one, apparently. Season one's great. Season one is a great season. This was really fun to shoot. Harry and I, who plays Robert, we did, we had like 45 minutes left in a shoot day on episode four. And it was like bonkers. We have one camera. Everyone's trying to get the fuck out of here. But we need to do this sequence where Harper and Robert do drugs together. and it's a short sequence they like get high and we improv the entire thing they like put on music and we were just like pretending to do whatever he like put on this co-pretending to be Elton John we were dancing around and the camera was just like going crazy and it was so much fun it was really run and gun and we didn't know if we got anything worth its weight and salt and it turned out to be like one of the most fun and maybe like sort of quintessential industry sequences in the show um I loved loved shooting that I also loved shooting the boat stuff with Marisa in season three that was amazing because I feel like I didn't know if Yaz and Harper were friends at that point yeah I didn't know and then to see them together for ultimately what defines Yaz's story for the rest of the show it was a real moment of like genuine chosen family a hundred percent I mean it's so interesting that now sort of people are coming around to Harper having a moral center yeah that right there to me was the most pure act of love she's risking her own safety right to help her friend cover up like a crime um she really looks at her in the face and says i see how badly you're hurt i'll i will help you yeah i will help you it's so selfless i think that's why yaz always goes back to her 100 and that's why even when henry is like your friend harper like she's short sorting the company she's doing this yes it's like she said don't talk about my friend like that yeah she said that hey guys that's my friend That's my friend.

48:03Be so for real. That's my friend. So did you, is it true you met your husband via kind of this show? Yeah, totally. The other greatest gift of my life via this show, my man. He is also an industry day one-er. Yes. He was watching the show in COVID and he sent myself and Harry and Mickey and Conrad a message just saying, hey, I'm watching industry. I'm such a fan. congratulations on the show I think it's great um and it was deep COVID and I was living by myself and the show was coming out and there was like no premiere no interviews nothing I was very alone and I was like going through my DMs obviously like starving for connection and I saw his and I was like trying to weed out the like gross ones like people being like I love the show send me a picture of your feet yeah and i was like uh but his wasn't really respectful so i just said thank you and the next day i woke up to a string of video messages from him and i was like girl what is this bro but i was like let me go on his profile i was like wait a minute he's kind of cute he's really cute i'll risk it so i opened the messages and it was him and he was literally filming himself and he was like hey my holla it's armando um i just wanted to say it was so cool that you responded to my message.

49:27I wasn't expecting it again. Congratulations on the show. Um, I am in a journalism class at university at the moment. I'm just wondering, would you be willing, available, interested in doing like a five, 10 minute interview with me for this project? And I was like, not a student. And I was like, I can't say no to this kid who like has a class project. So I was like, yeah, sure. Whatever. We hop on a zoom the next day. We were meant to be on for 10, 15 minutes and we talked for 40 minutes and I hung up the thing and I was like, I'm in love with a stranger. That's weird. I just was like, whatever.

50:03Right. Yeah. I couldn't stop thinking about him. Like a week later I messaged him and was like, did you get an A on your project? I'm like a grown person being like, did you get an A a week later? It's crazy. I was like flirting hard. Um, and then we were just like in each other's DMS talking all day, every day about fucking whatever. it took him three weeks to ask for my phone number very respectful very respectful um and then very you know a la covid we were doing like facetime dates and we were just talking all the time um he was in san francisco at university at the time and i'm from san jose originally and so i was gonna go from new york to san jose to to see my mom like after the holidays and i was like yo i'm be like 50 minutes south of you do you want to meet in person and he said yes so I drove up how nervous were you were you not at all I was shaking in my boots yeah I was shaking in my boots and all my friends were like are you psychotic this man might chop you into bits and we'll never hear from you again this is just a random stranger from the internet who like watched you on tv are you crazy and I was like yes yeah I got it bad yeah um and I brought a bottle of wine and some glasses and I remember like parking the car and he lived on a hill and he was at the bottom I like turned a corner and he was at the bottom and I saw him and I was like oh he's so tall and fine thank god he's tall and I'm like going down the mountain he turns around and he sees me and I start running it was so cheesy i start running and then we hug and we were like we like took a collective breath it was so crazy we literally like and it felt so easy and so comfortable like i belonged there and both of us were sort of like wait actually this feels really normal it was like love at first sight i mean yeah completely um we sat on the roof we had the wine i brought hand sanitizer because I hadn't had my COVID test results back and I didn't want to be too risky because I was staying with my mom.

52:03So we like hand sanitized and held hands. God, TPTT COVID. Yeah, literally. She, nothing was going to stop me. Not COVID, none of it. And that was the end of it. He met my mom the next week and we have been inseparable. I mean, it'll be like five and a half years now, married for a year and change. Congratulations. Thank you so much. How was the wedding? It was really sweet. It was just the two of us, his sister, his parents, and my mom. My best friend from college married us, and we had a friend take some pictures. It was really small and intimate. That's the way to do it, though. Yeah, it was the way for us, certainly.

52:40And I think he has a huge family, and so our plan is still, I promise you, familia is still the plan, to do a big ceremony in the Coachella Valley. He's from Indio. Do a big ceremony there so everyone can come and celebrate us and maybe do a little something in New York for our friends. But we just, we were eager to be married. And so when time and finances permit, we'll throw some parties. So we can celebrate with loved ones. But yeah. Well, what are you therapist about today? I'm therapist that it's been so fucking cold in New York. And so nice here. It's crazy. It's like the apocalypse. It's, I can't, I can't do it.

53:20It's so bad. It was so bad. You know it's bad when you're like, I thought global warming was going to make it hot. Yeah. No. No, girl. It's been like the most depressed myself, my friends and family have ever been. Because it's been so long. Is it still cold right now in New York? Literally, my mom was like, it was raining the other day. And then it was like 80 degrees. But it keeps, it's like this. Yeah. No, you know, it's too much. Is it, are you living in New York now? Yeah, yeah, I'm in Brooklyn. Okay, when are you going back? Tomorrow. I go back tomorrow. What flight are you on? I'm on a late flight.

53:53I'm on a late flight. Are you Delta? Yes. Are you on the 950? Shut up.

54:02I'm so excited. It's going down on the plane, babe. I'm so excited. Yeah, I'll see you in the lounge. I'll see you in the lounge. Oh, my God. Wait, I'm pumped. Me too. I'm pumped. Yeah, it's going to be great. Oh, my God. How fun. Do you live there? Or do you live here all the time? No, I just got a place there. I'm from there. Oh, that's right. I need a New York summer. Okay. Well, so will you be there this summer? Yep. Woo. I want to be for the streets this summer. That's like, I was telling somebody the other day, like, what my behavior. And they were like, why are you like for the streets?

54:34And I was like. The streets deserve it. I was like, I'm having fun. They were like. Put some respect on the streets. Yeah, I agree. The streets of New York are kind of iconic. They are. Very iconic. I'm like, I'm ready to like be outside drinking wine on rooftops. Hell yeah. Because LA can be very isolated. in. I don't know if you've experienced it, but it can be like, I don't drive. So it's like, you don't drive in LA? Nope. I Uber every day or I have my friends drive me. Uber Uber everywhere. Is it, okay. Practical question. Is it like less expensive? We've done the costs. I don't think so. But like for safe, for everyone's safety and mental wellbeing, it's better than i keep you off the road yeah like i'm so addicted to my phone i know that like know thyself that's really good you're protecting people i am i am i know i would be a bad driver my dad's like you can't drive i'm like okay like it's just one thing i won't drive for the streets and for the people yeah i live right i love driving i miss driving i've never gotten to experience a moment in the car where it's just you and you're like listening to music and you're like, I know, I've heard it's amazing.

55:46It's really nice. A moment of alone is hard to come by nowadays as well. I know, and like, now you could say like, oh, do a Waymo, but they're always watching in the Waymo. Hell no. Waymos, I just, I can't get behind it. I can't, it really bugs me out so bad. that Skarsgård movie where he gets locked in the car. Did you see that? Yes, Girl. so random, I did see that movie. It's a crazy film. Yeah. He's a great actor. Crazy film. Oh my God, That is one of those movies where it's like you never meet someone that's seen that movie. No. I watched it on a plane. I watched it on a plane too. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

56:18On a plane. I watched it on a plane too and I remember being like, this is weird. Fucked up. I'm like waiting for the plane to lock its doors and tell us all to do the Macarena. Yeah. Like fucking, it's like Saw but like the AI version. No. No, girl. The Waymo's is not for me. And you were in a movie where all the cars combusted on themselves. Yes. Leave the world behind. Leave the world behind. actually very well happen listen i know everyone is listening but like she is upon us the world is low-key leaving us behind honey well that was like that was one of those apocalypse movies where i was like oh my god ah that could really happen have you seen this movie also like pieces of it is already happening it's terrifying it is it really is no way most no way most all right do you want to get into the tell me what's wrongs yeah please when i get drunk i trauma dump it's literally so embarrassing and gives me crazy anxiety the next day I do this too I did this to Marisa she was like I saw her she loved it yeah I saw her at Vanny Fair she's like do you remember you I said oh my god um like one time I literally told my crush who I had only met two times about my parents divorce that's fine and my daddy issues and my trauma nobody gives a fuck knowing that about me and I don't want them to know either help well I would disagree with nobody gives a fuck yeah yeah no I agree nobody I care I care also like drunk or not like good for you for being vulnerable I agree go ahead and if somebody thinks you oversharing is weird I think they're weird and they're not your person exactly to be a friend to be a lover anything I agree I love trauma dumping I do I just I love like being vulnerable and like telling people I have really bad OCD so like if I can show you all sides of me immediately and you can see it then we can move forward in whatever relationship we find us I can't lie I'm a really bad liar yeah me too great actor bad liar yeah I mean it's just I feel so guilty lying it's like a guilt thing I like so but that like manifests in me like trauma dumping and oversharing I see I see I see yeah I feel like know the space you're in because sometimes it can be kind of dangerous.

58:26Right. You can't be too trusting. But I think if you're like, oh, I talked to my parents, isn't everyone's parents divorced? That's what I'm saying. You know what I mean? It's not like real trauma. No, that's not news. I mean, it's real trauma, but like, it's like, sorry. It's like. Canceled. Yeah, it's like, it's like you can talk about your parents' divorce when you're drunk and not feel anxiety. Yeah, totally. I've done far worse. I have nights that I don't remember at all. Yeah, same. At all. Like, I've had, like, yes. You're validated and it's okay. You're going to be fine, sweetie. My partner's mom followed his most recent ex after we've been dating for four years.

59:02Oh, I would. This at first was just really weird but not a big deal. Flash forward a couple months and now she's been regularly going on coffee dates and evening going out, and even going out with his ex. The reason I'm writing in today is because last week she invited her over to our family brunch. How do we deal with this? What the hell is wrong with her? Sorry, but like that is psychotic. That's psychotic. What is wrong with her? She also knows what she's doing. The mom. 100%. She's fucking with you. Yeah, that is fucked up. And that's on your partner to lay a boundary. I got to say, yeah, there is.

59:36I know it's a fine line because like that's your mommy or whatever. But like protect your girl. I would watch. You remember that? What was that show that came out that everyone was obsessed with? The Girlfriend. Was that it? Yeah, wasn't it? It was the British show. Ooh. Yeah. Did they just say yeah? Somebody just said yes. Yeah. I would watch The Girlfriend. It ends in murder, but I would watch The Girlfriend. Well, better safe than sorry. Or Monster. What is it? Monster-in-law. Do you remember that movie? No, but it all sounds scary. In-laws are so tricky. I get it. But also, girl, what is wrong with her?

1:00:10I've had friends in relationships where the mom has done shit like that, and it is all on your partner. And it is nothing to do with you. It is not on you. No, no, not at all. Like you're marrying a person. I mean, you are marrying the family, but like that is on them to lay down the boundaries and be like, you're making the person that I'm going to probably marry very uncomfortable. Yeah, totally. And also, why are you doing this? If I was her, I'd be like, why are you doing this? Why are you doing this, girl? Leave me alone. Yeah, I agree. That's crazy. Yeah. Oh my God. I'd freak out. Probably why I'm still single.

1:00:44I think I'm incredibly influenced emotionally by the weather. Yes, me too. I am too. It was raining the other day. My whole body hurt. I shut down. I smoked alone. I was like, I'm done. I live in Vancouver and I'm genuinely starting to notice my depression might just be from how it's always raining. The thing is, all my family and friends and life are here. So if I wanted to move, I need to start it new. Is this an overreaction? I've heard this is a thing. I don't think that's an overreaction at all. You're just trying to figure out why you're so depressed. Seasonally affected disorder is a real thing.

1:01:20The lack of vitamin D in the brain can also trigger serotonin some shit. Yes, yes, yes. Literally everybody, especially people who live inside a studio, are vitamin D deficient. And it has a big effect on the mood and how the brain works. Okay, my dad always tries to get me to take vitamin D every morning. If you're sad, take it. I never listen to him. I feel like I should. No, no, dude, take it. Take it. Vitamin D with vitamin K3, I think, is the way. Like, they need, you need both. Your body needs both to make it. Vitamin D and vitamin K3. Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's what it is. I'm not a doctor.

1:01:57But, like, that's the one that I take to make it absorbable. And I take, like, 10 ,000 units a day. Yeah. Which is a shit ton. But I would say look into some of those, like, seasonally affected disorder, like, things. Maybe start with vitamin D. my mom also got me on a um light therapy which is uh like a it could be an led light but it's like certain uv whatever's that you turn it on first thing in the morning where you you know when they say like go outside and touch grass and like look at the sun yes but what the light does in your eyes to your like circadian rhythms is like a real thing um so like that light therapy like 20 minutes first thing in the morning can really help set the tone in your mood for the day I would also say exercise.

1:02:43Exercise, that's what I was about to say. Moving your body. Like when I'm like in the, like when I'm really going through seasonal depression, which I go through every year, specifically the time between New Year's and Christmas. Yeah. That is the worst time of the year. It's a really tragic time. It's a really tragic, horrible time. Where is everyone? Everyone's like, I'm home with my family. I'm like, I'm miserable. Yeah, it's rough. It's rough. And you need to move your body. When I started working out for my mental health, as opposed to just my physique, my physique changed. Yeah, totally.

1:03:14And then my whole thing changed. It was like I was working out for years with no change. And then the second I was like, well, I have to go work out or else I'm going to feel like shit for the rest of the day. Yeah. Like that's when everything changes. And you like your life a little like lighter and everything's a little better. And it's like. It's true. It's really true. You just got to get those endorphins going, pushing them in your brain. Also like sweating is one of the big ways that your body like flushes toxins. it gets the lymph system going there's so many reasons to exercise yeah um that is one of those and then if none of that works move yeah move and it's okay to move i've had friends that like have moved to the middle of nowhere knowing no one and have come out like better people for it totally it's just like like didn't you move here not knowing anyone where are you from atlanta okay I had some friends, but not really.

1:04:12But yeah, it was awesome. And I also will say I was really affected by the seasons for all of college, all of my childhood, and then moving here. I feel lighter. Yeah, yeah, totally. The sun is a really big deal. The sun, you know where the sun hits the hardest? New York. Oh, well, you know what that is? It's because we collectively as a people suffer for months. For months. For months. And then the second it's like 60 degrees, shorts, we would all go to the park in high school. Literally, everyone's outside like, I love everything. Yes. Yes. It's a collective sigh. It's a myth. The vibes in spring in New York are fucking in that bullet.

1:04:51Oh, I'm so ready to fly that tomorrow. I'm like, get me on the plane. Yeah, right. We're ready. I'm ready. I'm about to go lay out and just vibe. But yes, don't be afraid to move and move your body. Move in all aspects. Follow your intuition as well. If you're like, I'm really feeling like this move might be good, just, you know, follow that. Yeah. Follow that. Because you really only live once. It's true. You really do. Whenever I'm like, should I do this? Should I not? I'm like, well, what the fuck? What else am I going to do? What else am I going to do? Nothing. Exactly. Crazy. I'm slowly watching my partner turn into a conspiracy theorist.

1:05:24I've always loved his passion for current events and even politics, but recently he's just been so weighed down by it, but still insists on watching and consuming every story, opinion, et cetera. Not only is this just unattractive, it makes me sad for his day-to-day well-being. How do I help him without hurting him? Oh, shit.

1:05:48I don't know because, like, I don't know what makes a conspiracy theorist anymore. Yeah, actually, very good point. Do you know what I mean? Like, there's so much, that's, like, I'm reading that, I was, like, am I? Like there's so much information pumped out constantly that like maybe you guys are just going down two different paths. It's very possible. I always say in times of conflict like this with a partner, like, and you want to bring something up to them, which is like actually just their problem. I always say like try to reframe, always, always talk, like keep talking, but try to reframe it about you.

1:06:26Like saying, I'm feeling far away from you. I feel like we maybe spend a little less time talking about our mutual interests. I just want to feel close to you. Could we maybe spend a little more time doing this as opposed to this? You know what I mean? Or like, I would really like to try having like a no phone hour, like maybe where we can just reconnect or make it about sex. I don't know. You know what I mean? Just watch a movie together. Yeah. Like cook together. Not about like, not a movie about like nine 11. Like, you know what I mean? Like something, else yeah try that first maybe and like maybe maybe look at yourself and like being like am i being judgmental totally you know what i mean like i could totally like because like you don't know everyone's like it it's that is so tricky it's very hard maybe you should get into it maybe you should also become a conspiracy theorist and see what the vibe is i feel like that sex would be incredible.

1:07:28I've been with my boyfriend for around a year and the fact that he's kind of broke is really getting to me. For context, before we started dating, he would get me flowers weekly and all these random gifts. And I get it. He's got a part-time job and is studying, but like he spends more money on betting than on me nowadays. What do I do and how do I not sound like an entitled ass? Wait, cause the betting is also for you, no? Yeah. And you need to watch industry season three the episode the christmas episode where rishi literally blows up his life yeah that's so funny wait okay actually i want to talk about this because this is really interesting like there's totally like you get to have your like non-negotiables obviously Everyone gets to set and maintain their own boundaries.

1:08:21And life is so hard right now. People are broke. Jobs suck. Gas is a million dollars. It is. I don't even drive and I know that. Okay, exactly. I don't even drive currently and I know that. But I would just say, especially post-COVID, things have been so crazy with all the things. like maybe just try to have a little more compassion for like why someone might be broke unless you think they're like not trying. I think her issue is that they're spending money in other facets. But I think the compassion still applies because he's betting, but like clearly to like. Wait, wait, wait, wait. Betting?

1:09:09Oh my God. I thought you meant like linens as in bed linens. No, that's why I said watch industry. and that's why I was like, know that he's betting his money. Oh, hell no. Gambling? No. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Scratch everything I said. I'm obsessed with your switch up on that. Compassion about betting? Yeah. Give me a break. No, no, that would drive me through a fucking wall. We saw how that ended in industry. Exactly. Watch that episode because your life's going to shit. One of the great Christmas episodes of industry. It's so crazy that it's a Christmas episode. I'm telling you, It's always the fucking Christmas episode.

1:09:43It's always the Christmas. I wonder what they'll do for this Christmas episode. That's what I was wondering because this Christmas, was this Christmas the Kit Harington episode when it was? Yeah, that was. Yeah, in Muck Manor, they had the big tree and all this stuff. And Yaz kicks out her on. Iconic. Hey, Jake and lovely guest. Basically, my dad gave me his old iPad but still had his WhatsApp connected to it and I saw him texting a mistress of some sort. my heart dropped because I thought my parents were healthy and good. I snooped a little more to find out this girl was his sugar baby of sorts.

1:10:18And he was signed up to all these sugar daddy sites. Is it my place to ask him about it or should I go straight to my mom? Help. This is so weird. Oh, I think that really depends on what your relationship is with both of the parents. You're already handling it better than I would because like you're writing in and you're like trying to find a good way to like getting advice. Oh, I don't know what I would do. I would go to my sibling if I had a sibling and be like, what the fuck am I supposed to do with this? And if you don't have a sibling, I would go to my mom. Oh, yeah. I would go to my mom.

1:10:52I would just say this is what's happening. Deal. I can't. Oh, God. Yeah. Yeah, that's probably the way, isn't it? Yeah. I didn't have two parents to do this sort of thing with, so. Yeah, that would be, I think, my thing would be I would go to my mom. Ooh, you know what I might do, a la Harper? I might go to my dad and be like, if you don't deal with this, I will. Yeah, that's also a good. And threaten him. Yeah. My thing is I would feel so guilty that if my mom knew I knew and like. Oh, right. It's so. Oh, yeah. I guess it depends on the personality of the parents as well. Good luck. Good luck.

1:11:29Well, what did we learn today? What did we learn today? I learned about the bodies and the mind. Oh, yeah. Like how they connect. We learned about vitamin D and K3. Believing in yourself. yeah totally and like surviving your Saturn return hell yeah I learned and I mean I sort of like gleaned this of you anyway but like you're such a kiki like you're such a key you're such a key you're so much fun you clearly love to have fun and you love people like you have a show where you get to talk to people about people you also clearly love to help people if you have people writing in thank you you want to talk about advice so I learned today that like you're really for the streets yeah i am really for the streets you are a community person yes i feel very like loved and appreciated by you you are i i'm so glad you feel that way because you are so loved and appreciated thank you very much um yeah i'm really grateful that we got to do this me too well thanks for coming on the show bye pussies

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