Managing in the Age of Outrage with Karthik Ramanna

15 Apr 2025 · 42 min

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Episode Title

Managing in the Age of Outrage with Karthik Ramanna

Hosts

  • Jessica Neal
  • Patty McCord

Guest

  • Karthik Ramanna
  • Professor of Business and Public Policy at the University of Oxford’s Blavatnik School of Government
  • Author of *The Age of Outrage: How to Lead in a Polarized World*

Episode Overview In this inaugural episode of *TruthWorks*, hosts Jessica Neal and Patty McCord engage in a conversation with Karthik Ramanna about the complexities of leadership in today's polarized and outrage-driven environment. The discussion touches on the evolution of workplace culture, the importance of trust, and effective strategies for managing outrage.

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Key Themes

  1. Leadership Challenges in a Polarized World
  2. Leaders are grappling with heightened polarization and the impact of societal outrage on workplace dynamics.
  3. There is a growing sense of distrust towards institutions and leaders, with employees feeling disconnected from the narratives around globalization, immigration, and other critical issues.
  1. Managing Outrage vs. Managing in the Age of Outrage
  2. Managing Outrage: Traditional crisis management approaches that often involve damage control and reactive measures.
  3. Managing in the Age of Outrage: A proactive and structural approach to leadership that incorporates outrage management as an essential skill akin to finance or marketing.
  1. The Role of Authenticity in the Workplace
  2. The pandemic brought a convergence of personal and professional identities, leading to a demand for authenticity in the workplace. Employees now want to bring their whole selves to work, which complicates the management of workplace discussions, particularly around sensitive issues.
  1. Building Trust and Relationships
  2. Effective leadership requires creating environments where trust can flourish. Leaders must foster relationships across diverse perspectives to navigate challenges successfully.
  3. Karthik shares an example of Priscilla Ankut, who created a peace commission in Nigeria, emphasizing the importance of building relationships and trust even in deeply polarized contexts.
  1. The Importance of Preparation
  2. Leaders need to anticipate potential crises and prepare by creating the necessary structures and relationships before they are needed.
  3. Engaging with diverse viewpoints in advance can help mitigate outrage and create a more cohesive workplace.

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Key Takeaways

  • Leadership is About Improvement: The simplest definition of leadership is to make things better than you found them. This ethos can guide leaders at any level.
  • Accept Limitations: Understand that one cannot solve every problem. Focus on making a difference where possible and avoid the trap of trying to be universally liked.
  • Trust in Your Team: When managing teams, empower individuals to make decisions and trust their judgment to foster a healthy culture.
  • Diversity of Perspectives: Bringing together people from different backgrounds and viewpoints helps create solutions and enhances understanding within a team.
  • Self-Management: Leaders must learn to manage their emotional responses and approach challenges with a clear mind, avoiding the pitfalls of knee-jerk reactions.

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Practical Advice for Leaders

For Emerging Leaders

  1. Make Small Improvements: Focus on areas within your control to create positive change.
  2. Anticipate Challenges: Prepare for potential issues by fostering relationships and establishing communication channels before crises arise.

For All Leaders

  1. Accept Being Part of the Problem: Recognize that your actions may not please everyone. Focus on your values and mission instead of trying to win popularity.
  2. Engage Authentically: Encourage open dialogue around tough topics but prepare for varied responses. Allow employees to voice their concerns while navigating the organizational culture.

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Conclusion This episode of *TruthWorks* encourages leaders to rethink their approach to managing in a world filled with outrage and polarization. By focusing on building trust, preparing for crises, and fostering authentic relationships, leaders can better navigate the complexities of modern workplaces.

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0:00People feel like they've been dealt a raw deal, that the leaders and the institutions just aren't working for them.

0:11What would happen if we just told the truth? Welcome to TruthWorks, where we dig into the nitty-gritty of leadership and work. And what needs to change? I'm Jessica Neal. And I'm Patti McCord. Our journey together started in HR, but trust us, it's evolved into something wild, honest, and well, a bit rebellious. So throw out the handbook. We're here to redefine rules to work for us, not against us. Let's dive into another episode.

0:46Hello, everybody, and welcome to this edition of TruthWorks. And today, we are interviewing Karthik Ramana, and he's going to make us feel better about everything, he promises. Karthik Ramana is a professor of business and public policy at the University of Oxford Blatvanik School of Government. where he has served as director of one of the world's most diverse leadership programs. And we're really excited to talk to you today. And if you want to add something to that, tell us a little bit. Yeah, tell us about your book and what's, bring us up to date with you, Karthik. Sure. So thank you. It's such a pleasure to be here, Patti and Jessica.

1:26And yeah, what I'll add is I have just written a book called The Age of Outrage, How to Lead in a Polarized World. I remember sending your name to my production team because I was like, oh, okay, this is something that really resonates with me personally, like of what I'm dealing with. But really like what I was dealing with, even at Netflix before I left when I was a CHRO, like trying to navigate leading in a global company where there were so many things happening around the world that there was so much divergence on. And it was really scary at times on what to say, what not to say, how to diffuse it, how to get people to focus on work.

2:19Yeah. And, you know, I was thinking about this, too, Jessica, before we started today. I was thinking about, you know, one of my observations around the pandemic is that because we got to see each other, we brought people's home lives into their work lives. Right. And we used to think that we could divide it. Right. There's your work self and there is your other self and there was your political self. And those two never crossed. Right. And you certainly were in the middle of it all crossing. And now, holy moly. So talk to us, mister. Tell us about your three observances. And when you taught your class, I mean, what was the learning from that that said, I got to do this?

3:05So about 10 years ago, I moved from Harvard Business School to the University of Oxford School of Government. Part of the move was it was a new school and it was creating a public policy program. that would educate leaders from around the world. And I remember I came here about a week before the students did. And in that first class, we had 120 students from about 70 different countries. Now, when I say students, some of them are very seasoned. And I remember standing there in front of the class on that first day saying to myself, gosh, Karthik, at the very least, don't screw this up. but, you know, maybe more aspirationally, we should leave them better than we found them, you know, leave them better for the experience since they've taken time away from really impactful careers to come here to Oxford and spend some time to make the world a better place.

3:57But of course I realized that I had no idea how to do this. And so I did the thing that, you know, inside secret, many academics do, many professors do when they don't know the answer. So when you don't know the answer to something, you say, well, let's teach a course on it. And so that's where the course comes from. It says, so I was very upfront for the students. I said, look, we're all in this to be able to be better leaders in the context of polarization. So let's teach a course on how to lead in a polarized world. And so every week I would invite someone from my personal network who was a general manager.

4:35And so we had a wide range of protagonists come to the classroom, everyone from, you know, the CEO of a beer company to the commissioner of London police to the mayor of a frontier town, you know, on the border between Brazil and Venezuela that was dealing with massive influx of immigrants. So the idea was, look, these are all, you know, really difficult frontline general management jobs. How are people dealing with this situation? And it was through the collective wisdom of teaching that course, you know, with very smart students over the course of five to seven years that the insights from this book came about.

5:14I'm guessing you had some outward motivation to writing the book as well, just in kind of maybe even seeing outside of your class what was going on in the world. Absolutely. And, you know, there's a reason I called it the age of outrage. And one of the premises of the book is that managing outrage is not managing in the age of outrage. So managing outrage is sort of like crisis management. It's not easy, but we know how to do it. and you bring in a PR firm and you get good at the comms and things like that. And it's sort of firefighting. And then you get on with the course of business. But managing the age of outrage means that you can't really take a firefighting approach to things because if you did, when would you do the fire prevention?

6:03And more importantly, when would you do all the learning and growth and innovation and all the other stuff you've got to do, like your day job, right? So there was something different about the zeitgeist of our times that meant that we needed to look at this more structurally, more systematically. And, you know, my eventual conclusion was that managing the age of outrage is now a functional general management skill, just like finance or accounting or marketing. You can't be a general manager and say, oh, I don't do balance sheets. You know, that's not like, I mean, that's not going to work very long.

6:36So in the same way, you can't be a general manager and say, oh, I, you know, I'm not worried about, you know, managing in the age of outrage. Like, no, it's just, it's just part of what it's going to be, mean to be a manager in this day. And I thought one of the interesting thing about your conclusions was outrage is a different, there's a different thing depending on where you come from, what part of the world you're in, you know, what your politics are, what your differences are. I mean, so that time that it took for you to put it together must have driven you to thematic choices, right? That's right.

7:11That's absolutely right. And basically, as I looked at, you know, I mean, this is very much a book about solutions rather than diagnosis. But I think it's important to understand what we're dealing with and why we're dealing with it. I was just going to ask, like, I think a lot of hope that we have as leaders is that it goes away, right? Because everything seems to be an 11 for everyone. Nothing's a 10, nothing's a five. It's all 11s. Do you have any idea of why and how and where this is all stemming from? And then do we get to a place where if we're leading the right way, we can have a more stable, steady state?

8:01Or is this just like how it's going to be? So let me start with that second question first, because I do think we can manage the situation in a way that'll make it better. That's part of why, you know, I do what I do in terms of my day job. That's why I wrote the book, etc. So history is not destiny, but we can also quite easily screw this all up. So, you know, that's part of the whole point of sort of engaging in this area. But let's go back to your first question, which is sort of why and is it going away anytime soon? And in my estimation, there are three things that really matter in this moment.

8:39The first is what I call a fear of the future. And we're living at a time where we're dealing with AI, for instance, which promises to be as disruptive, if not more disruptive than the Industrial Revolution was. right? I mean, you just think about it, our jobs, the jobs you and I have, they were unimaginable even 50 years ago, right? In the context of industrialization and so forth. And if we were trying to explain to our ancestors from 200 years ago, what we do, they would be like, what kind of job is that? So in the course of just the next 25 years, the very nature of work will change so profoundly.

9:17And people are afraid about that. People are anxious about that. They're also anxious about climate change. Some people are. They're anxious about, and they might not use the words climate change, but they are anxious about things like rising sea levels. They are anxious about things like hurricanes and tornadoes and things like that, right? So people have common sense and they get that there's something changing there. They're worried about demographic shifts, right? Much of the world, not just the Western world, even China and India are now below replacement rate, right? And by the year 2050, half of all the young people in the world, all the people under the age of 18 will be just in sub-Saharan Africa because the very nature of population growth in the world will completely shift.

9:56And so you've got that, right? So people look at the world just one generation from now and they're like, whoa. So that's like fear of the future, right? Now, if you were dealing with that and you felt like, you know what? I can trust my leaders. I can trust the institutions, I can trust business and government and the church and so forth to just make this sort of work for us, maybe we'd be okay. But the second factor is this notion that, you know, people feel like they've been dealt a raw deal, that the leaders and the institutions just aren't working for them. People feel rightly or wrongly, they've been sold the wrong narrative on globalization.

10:38They've been sold the wrong narrative on immigration, right? So there's this sort of distrust with the institution. So you've got that on top of the fear. And this is where the third factor comes in. Perhaps as a consequence of these first two, we're retreating from what I call sort of the global humanist project. This is sort of, you know, this idea that we're all in this together and, you know, through the pursuit of democracy and markets, we'll be able to sort of, you know, lift ourselves out of this to this us versus them kind of, you know, so I I call it the ideology of othering. And we're seeing more and more of this ideology of othering in mainstream political discourse that if we don't, as our tribe, hunker down and solve this problem, we're going to get, you know, eliminated by all of these changes.

11:25Right. Winners and losers, right? We're going to lose. We're going to lose. Yeah. They're going to get us. They're going to get us. Yes. So now you think about it, any one of these problems itself is a big problem. having all three at once at the degree to which they manifest. That's kind of what's making this, this, as you said, Jessica, 11 every single time. Yeah. And then what about it seeping into work? You know, there's this recently I gave this talk at Google, right? And Google is a great company. It has done wonders in terms of technology and so forth. and it's a company that, you know, people are its real asset.

12:06It's only asset. I mean, you know, it'd be different if you were, say, like an oil company or something like that, because then, you know, you have this other asset. Obviously, people are important, but you also have this asset sitting on the ground. But for Google, the asset is the people. So they have rightly said to people that, you know, we want you to treat this like this is an extension of your identity. We want you, you know, so people who work at Google are called Googlers. and then when you go to the Google headquarters, you can see what a comfortable life that is, right? They'll do your dry cleaning, they'll shampoo your dog, they'll do, you know, and in fact, the dogs of Googlers are called Douglers and in the buildings they say, you know, Douglers welcome and this and that.

12:48So, you know, and that makes good business sense. The whole idea is bring your whole authentic selves to work because you are our asset and we want you to identify with us as a family. Now, fast forward to sort of where we are, right, in this sort of world and everything that's happening and so forth. And you've been telling people, bring your authentic self to work. You have these town halls where, you know, people weigh in on strategy and they say, we should be doing this and we should be doing that. And then the CEO says, yes, yes, we should. And this is great. There's this sort of, you know, dialogue and so forth.

13:21But of course, there's other things happening in the world. There's the war in the Middle East, for instance, that's happening. And then people start bringing that to work, right? And then of course the company, what the leadership, what's their response? Like, oh, we can't talk about that. Now that, that's not going to work so well because, you know, I mean, like you've told people bring your whole authentic self. This is my family. This is my identity. I'm a Googler, right? And now suddenly this thing that I care so personally about this thing, that's 11 out of 10 for me, I can't bring this to work.

13:53Wait, how does that work? That's jars with everything we've done. So that's the challenge that businesses are facing. The CEO might think that's the right decision, but it's not going down well at all. Yeah. No, we grappled with this so much at Netflix of like, where's the line? What do you comment on? What do you not comment on? Because there was something happening around the world all the time. And everybody wanted a message sent from the CEO to the whole company on all those issues. And so we really debated and debated and debated and debated, like, what's the right method? Where do we stand?

14:34What do we comment on? What do we not comment on? Do we handle it globally? Do we handle it locally? Yeah, particularly since the culture was built on open communication and honesty and truth telling. So then, you know, what's your truth? And it's pretty different from one place to the other. It totally is. And what we were learning is that, you know, what an 11 was in the United States wasn't what an 11 was in Brazil. And that wasn't what an 11 was in Tokyo. And, you know, some managers would send out these emails to their entire global team and half of the team would be like, I don't even know what you're talking about.

15:11Yeah. Yeah. Why is this an issue for me? Why is this an issue? Absolutely. So, you know, as I searched, one of the things about teaching the course that was so fun was you got to bring in really creative people from around the world who were tackling with this. Some successfully, some less successfully, right? I mean, you learn as much from failure as you do from success. And so, but as I searched for people who were navigating this challenge, I came across this remarkable leader, a woman called Priscilla Ankut. She was actually brought to my attention by the Ford Foundation in West Africa because they were, you know, one of her granters.

15:47She ran this organization called the Kaduna State Peace Commission. She was CEO of this commission. Now, Kaduna State is a state in north central Nigeria. And like much of the country of Nigeria, which is sort of divided between a Muslim north and a Christian south, Kaduna State being in sort of the north center of it is sort of, you know, same divisions, and slightly more Muslim than it is Christian. And elections tend to be largely on religious lines. And so they had just elected a fairly populist governor, Governor El Rufi. And he was often likened to President Trump. He was sort of, you know, this is someone who just sort of like, you know, said things and people thought he was just very polarizing and so forth.

16:33And perhaps surprisingly, he, as he's elected, reaches out to Priscilla Ancut, who at the time is this technocrat in the African Union, which is this sort of pan-African organization of countries. And she had spent her whole career building peace in East Africa, so a completely different part of this huge continent. But she's from Karuna State. So she gets this email from this governor saying, hey, I want to create this peace commission. will you come and be the first CEO of it? And everyone in her network, like her friends, family, mentors say, don't do it. You know, don't touch this guy. This guy's toxic.

17:12You know, he's like Trump, why would you do this? And she says, look, if I didn't build my skill for this moment, what did I build it for? So if I don't do this, I will regret it. So I've got to do it. so she goes in right and he doesn't even give her a budget so the first few months she's just like running this commission out of the trunk of her car that's actually how she meets the ford foundation because she's trying to raise money to be able to actually do something so here she is ceo of this peace commission she has no control over the police no control over military no budget etc but she's sort of you know scrabbling together something to say i built my skill to help my people right, both Christians and Muslims in my state, and I want to try to see if I can do something.

17:57Now, being the really good data-driven manager that she is, right, and this sort of resonates with all of us, she starts looking at the data on violence in her state. And she says, she's a CEO of the Peace Commission, I got to do something out of violence. And she realizes it's not like random, right? Instead, it's more like a sine wave. It's periodic. And she says, huh, so I wonder what happens if I sort of try to align this in event time and see what's the periodicity that's creating this. And it turns out it's elections, right? So of course, it's manufactured violence to affect election outcomes.

18:33That's right. So now what she does is she says, okay, who are the most outspoken voices on social media that say crazy things around elections that then provoke ordinary people to go commit violence? and she starts approaching them in an ad personam capacity, right? Not like sort of an official or anything to join this little, like almost like a little household club that she's created that she calls the House of Kaduna family. Now, when I first hear this, I'm like, this is corny as hell. Yeah, right, right. So she creates this thing, House of Kaduna family, and she brings in these people. Like, so for instance, the head of the Christian Association in Nigeria is there, the head of Jamaati Islami is there, et cetera.

19:17But they're all there in their personal capacities, right? And she starts this two years before the next election. And what she's trying to do is she's trying to humanize them to each other, right? There's this great line from Michelle Obama, which says, you can't hate someone when you know them, right? And so that's what she's trying to do here. And so she starts creating these relationships within this group of really catalytic individuals in a polarized society. And so, of course, it doesn't make the election violence magically disappear. But when it comes time to the next election cycle, there's sort of this, oh, wait, these are people I know.

19:55And so it's not as crazy as it could have been, right? So it starts making progress. She says, OK, I'm going to create the institutions that I'm going to have to call on to diffuse the violence well before I actually need those institutions. That's the groundwork that she's right. So if you go back to our Google example that we were using earlier, part of what I think companies need to do is recognize, look, this issue is not going away. Today, it's maybe the war in the Middle East. Tomorrow, it's going to be something else. Maybe there's a war with Canada. Who knows? So what we've got to figure out is how do we create the institutions that we're going to need when things get really bad?

20:35Because we know things are going to get really bad. And how do we create the trust with those groups, right? And say, look, if this can work in the context of decreasing violence in Kaduna State, this can work at Google, right? Yeah. So that's the sense in which, you know, anticipating you're going to have this problem and starting well before you need to in convening the people that need to hear from each other. That's been one thing that really successful managers have done in this space. Yeah, I really love that. And I think it's a good thing for our listeners to maybe hear is that doing it in the moment when the crisis is happening, that's when everything's, the stakes are too high, everybody's hot.

21:21Yeah. And you won't be able to get so like doing this and thinking about it well before something happens, to know how you're going to manage it, to know how you're going to lead through it. And that is really where we spent a lot of time focusing at Netflix was let's have a plan, right? And let's have the right people answering for the right things, right? And, you know, we went around the globe and said, okay, when something happens here, how are we going to, you know, when something happens here, you know? But the simple act of putting different people in the same room together with different perspectives, you know, is management 101 kind of.

22:01but we never think of applying that to the playbook's already written, right? Put the marketing person in the room with the engineer in the room with the salesperson and have a conversation about what the customer wants, right? That's right. And that seems well-known management practice. We would all do that. But would we think about that at a personal level too without fear? Without fear and without an agenda, right? Because if you start well before you need it, right? So for instance, now, even if Google's leadership is correct to say, we shouldn't be bringing the world in the Middle East to our town halls, because that's just not, you know, it's not going to be a productive use.

22:41Not what we do. Right. And it's not a productive use of this time and space, et cetera. For that to be a decision that the CEO makes in the moment and pushes top down, that's the part that's jarring. It may not be the outcome, but it's the, right? So instead, imagine, say, look, we're going to have these problems. So let's create a group that thinks through what's the right way for us to solve this problem. And then let them come up with a process. And if you have the right people and you've created the right conditions, then trust that they will come up with the right process that gives you that outcome.

23:13Because then it's not you putting your decision down, which flies in the face of everything else you've tried to do in the culture, right? There's this other example of this CEO of one of the world's largest research hospitals managing, you know, a potential surgeon's revolt during COVID, right? So this is sort of a time very early in the pandemic, when we didn't have a sense of how serious this virus was going to, how contagious or infectious it would be. We didn't have the PPE, the protective equipment, we didn't have the testing equipment. So it's a great deal of anxiety. And yet, you know, governments were saying, well, hospitals have to stay open, they have to do elective surgeries, because, you know, you still have to treat the motorcycle victims, you have to do all this.

23:54And so there was so much anxiety and fear, even amongst the medical community. And here you had this group of surgeons that were sort of, you know, very worried about sort of going ahead and doing all the things they needed to do. You know, because we had sort of this pandemic like, you know, almost public health war footing here in the UK, heads of hospitals were called gold commanders for their districts because they were in charge of, you know, public health. They were kind of like, you know, just like the surgeon general is called the general. And so her team around her, the CEO, they were saying to her, look, you just got to tell them this is their duty.

24:29They've taken this oath and you're their, you know, gold commander. And this CEO had been just about maybe 13 months in her job. And part of the reason she had been brought in, she was the first outsider, you know, it's a very prestigious research hospital. And she was the first outsider brought in to lead this hospital, right? Always it had been someone from the inside promoted. So when you say, okay, well, why would you bring in an outsider? Was it something about the culture inside that's not working, right? That's why you're, and she'd figured out that the problem was that there wasn't enough trust in management.

24:59There was sort of, you know, it had become too much of a sort of rock star research professor type mentality, and there was less focus on patient safety and so forth. So she was in the process of that kind of cultural transformation. It's like patients first, you know, their issues reported up to management, management's got your back. You know, this is where we're about delivering quality to patients and so forth. So she's in the process of doing this, but she's only 13 months into the job and the pandemic strikes. And then you have this sort of surgeon strike. And her team says, you know, now's the time to sort of lay off that sort of culture stuff and the patient safety huddles and all that she's created.

25:37And let's just tell these surgeons to get on and do their job. And one of her advisors. Command them. Yes, command them. And she says, hell no. If we didn't build this culture for this moment, then what were we building the culture for? And then she says something really important. She says, look, I look at my inbox and I'm getting 200 emails every 30 minutes. There is no human being on earth who can deal with 200 emails every 30 minutes. And this is the beginning of this pandemic, and we don't know how long it's going to last. So there's something wrong if people feel like they have to send all these messages to the CEO because they don't know what to do.

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26:11So I need them now more than ever to know that their management has got their back. So she takes this extraordinary risk, and she says to the surgeons, okay, well, I'm giving you the authority to do what you think is right in this moment, right? And whatever it is you decide to do, that's the culture we've created. I'm going to back you because I know that you're in this for patient safety. And lo and behold, the surgeons, when they say, wait, wait, this is the level of freedom and flexibility we have? They say, okay, well, under these circuits, so they build the safety protocols that they're comfortable with so that the elective surgeries can continue, right?

26:49So rather than the CEO sort of ordering that down, go back to our Google example or any other example for that matter. It's saying trust the culture and the process that you think works for good times should also work for moments like this. Otherwise, it's not the right culture at all. Oh, I just got goosebumps. I know. But it's so true. Is that how you're experienced it, Jessica? Yeah. I mean, I think a really hard one at Netflix, it was very complicated. We're trying to navigate it. But a wise person told me to look to the values. And it was very true. The values worked in a bad time just as well as they worked in a good time.

27:29And it allowed me to make a good decision and have good judgment around how to handle it versus going emotionally. Mm-hmm. You know? Mm-hmm. Or from fear. I mean, I think when you talked about the thing about your three perspectives that resonate so much with me is that it's not just them that we all feel it, right? We all have the same perspective. I mean, we all live in the world, right? And I think it's even scarier when you're a leader to realize, oh, shit, like I have to deal with what's happening to me in the context of what's happening inside the team that I lead. And what I love about what you said in this whole conversation was, you know, when in doubt, just ask, just go deep into the people, the smart people that you're working with and figure it out together.

28:32Yeah. If you trust that you hired the right people, they'll have the answers, right? Yeah. Yeah. And so, you know, one of the chapters in the book is called Turning Down the Temperature. And people often see that and they think it's about, you know, the manager turning down the temperature of others. Yeah. But quite frankly, I wrote that chapter for myself, right? It was like, how do I turn down my temperature? Because there's so many things that will make me so animated about this world. And I'm like, I cannot go in. The best metaphor I've heard for this is just as you don't want a surgeon going in from one operating theater to the next without washing their hands, right?

29:10You don't want a manager or a leader going into a situation if they haven't metaphorically washed their hands. They'll do more harm than good. And so I needed to be as a leader in a position where I could walk into an environment and say, I have the capacity to do more good than harm in this situation. It's that turning down the temperature in yourself, which is where you need to start because you're human. So for instance, I'm not on social media except for Instagram, which I don't manage. Somebody else manages. Because I can't trust myself to be on social media. Like, you know, I get animated about the world and I will say things that I'm like, oh, man, did I say that?

29:47No, there goes your brand. So I can't trust myself to be on social media. So I'm not on social media. But I think that's a really great, important point you're making is that if you have a practice of washing your hands, cleansing your mind, letting go, like whatever it is, because if you go in hot, emotional, first of all, not everybody feels the same way. as you do in the room, right? And you're also not going to approach anything in a logical way. And if there's a storm, you don't fight it with another storm. Yeah, and the othering thing is so, it's such a cancer on the team. I mean, it's the antithesis of working together.

30:35I mean, sometimes I think that we just got to get back to those roots, right? What's the whole point of being here? The whole point of being here is to come together as people who care about whatever it is we're trying to accomplish. And the accomplishment is the goal, and that brings people together. And it's so simple, but it's so hard right now. It is. But you know what I found is that people need to discover that for themselves because the sources of the othering are so deep to people's identities. right? They're so conditioned on your lived experiences. That's why you see the world the way you do.

31:14It's almost impossible to be able to shift that in one sitting or even in five sittings, right? I mean, it's a journey, right? So what you want is for people to discover that the process is something that will leave them stronger for it, right? And then without a sense of without giving them an agenda on where it is you're taking them kind of thing. So let me give you an example to make that concrete. So on the first day of the program that when I was the director of the public policy during era and like 150 people from 70 different countries, that kind of thing. You know, people would come like dressed up in suits to the University of Oxford, et cetera.

31:48And, you know, they're wearing their cologne and all that. And they're here to talk about big things like, you know, abortion and social security reform and, you know, geopolitical challenges and the future of AI, et cetera. And I say, you know what, why don't we go home and change into gym shorts and let's take a trip down to, you know, an Oxford rowing is a big thing. So we have these things called, they're called tanks. So they're basically like a swimming pool, but that has a rowing boat for eight people in it kind of thing. Right. And so you can have these like parallel tanks kind of thing.

32:21And the reason we don't take them on the river is of course, because not everyone can swim and there's a high likelihood the boat will do health and safety at all that. So we put them in these tanks, and we randomize them, right? So like, you know, you'll have someone from the US and China and Russia and Ukraine, and they're the boat of eight, right? And we have to, you have to basically do these like little mini rowing Olympics against these other randomly chosen teams of eight. And there are two things that you want people to do. First is, you want them to sweat together, you know, because when you sweat, then like that cologne wears off, you know, you're vulnerable, that kind of thing.

32:56But it's like, it's okay, We're all going to be making mistakes, et cetera. So the other thing, and this is where rowing is a really good metaphor, is like you can't be the fastest person in your boat of eight. Because if you're not rowing with everybody else on the same pace, the boat actually goes around in circles, right? So you actually have to pace yourselves. Say, look, this is a journey where if you want to make any progress, you got to pace yourself with the other people in that boat. And that's the message I want you to take away in the first day. Just that. Let's not talk about anything else.

33:28Let's just learn to get a little sweaty. And let's just learn that that's what we've got to do. We've got to pace ourselves. And then, you know, you give people basically the yurt. And then when they're comfortable, they will bring up the issues that they think need to be brought up, right? But it's on their own terms. Yeah, I like that. That's really good advice. We always, okay, two things. We always ask for like little nuggets for our listeners. And so one, I'd love a nugget for like, you know, maybe you're not high at the top, but you're a leader, you're a manager. You don't know what your company's doing about this holistically, but you're still leading in this environment.

34:07What's your advice to that leader? And then just what's your advice to everyone? Yeah. So it's two great questions. What do we do, Karth? Yes, tell us to. Make it better. So two great questions. And, you know, you're absolutely right that, I mean, you know, being a leader is different from being a manager. Manager is about positional authority and so forth. And you can lead from anywhere, right? I mean, yeah. And the simplest, best definition of leadership I've ever come across is making things better than you found them, right? I loved when you said that earlier. Yeah. And I love it because that's all you need to do.

34:44You say, okay, I'm just going to make this thing that I found a little better. And that's great, you know, and leadership is about others. So you're just doing that. And you can do that no matter where you are in an organization or a system or a hierarchy or whatever it might be, right? So I would hope that many of these lessons and many of the things we're talking about really sort of resonate wherever you are in the organization. because, and I'd say that it comes down to really two core principles or axioms or whatever you want to call them. The first is no matter what you do, you're not going to solve the whole problem, right?

35:20So just be cool with that. Have a sense and perspective on that and say, you know what? There's a part of the problem that I can make a difference on. I can lead better than I found it and just work on that. And that's okay, right? Don't get overwhelmed and say, oh my God, but what about this? And what about that? Oh, I love that. You know? So that's number one. Now, number two is really important too. It's like, no matter what you do, you will be seen as part of the problem, right? You will be experienced by someone as part of the problem. And again, you've got to come to terms with that. It is just part of the polarization that we're going to live in and so forth.

35:59And don't try and make this a popularity contest and so forth because you'll very quickly deplete yourself, right? And then you're not able to do good for anyone. So having that sense of perspective and humility about, you know, what it is you can do means that the things that you do do will be impactful. Because otherwise, you know, you can very quickly try to overcommit yourself in a situation and end up therefore, you know, sort of over-promising and under-delivering. So it's better to under-promise and over-deliver than the other way around.

36:43Okay, time for, this came from one of our listeners. Last year, I founded a very small company with a friend. It's literally just the two of us with a third subcontracted person when needed. Despite having known each other for years and never having fallen out over anything, Some tensions have arisen recently, and I'm already fed up with being the bigger person and the one to smooth things over. I'm worried I'll look like an absolute failure to everyone around us if I bow out of what we've only just started. But I also don't know how to navigate professional conversations without ruining a friendship.

37:20What say you? What say you? Yeah, you know, it's such an important question. And I'd say, look, first and foremost, it comes down to a question of priorities, right? Because very often you can't have it all, right? And you've got to decide, well, what's really important for you, making this business work, making this relationship work with this person, which is this friendship, or, you know, for in some sense, having something outside of the friendship with this individual work. And those are three different things, right? So you can have a successful business, you can have a successful friendship, and you can have a successful relationship with this individual that's commercial, but that doesn't entail successful business or a successful friendship.

38:07And it's about sort of determining what is the priority here? What is, what's most important to you? And it may be that you look at this and say, you know what, the friendship is most important. And that friendship means that the other things have to sort of, you know, take a backseat. And then you say, okay, there's your answer. Then, you know, it's like, it goes back to this point of no matter what you do, you will be seen as part of the problem. And you say, look, being, you know, being to me, given that to me, this friendship is more important than anything else of those priorities, then I just have to take the hit from, you know, people in society who look at me as saying, well, you failed in that business.

38:46Yeah, well, because I failed in that business because I wanted to save that friendship, right? And that was what was important to me. I think that is such good advice. And I'll also say that when people really know the context and why you bowed out, they won't think of it as a failure because you made a call about somebody you love and you care about. Exactly. That you wanted to continue in love and care about them. And you knew that if you went on this journey with them, that would ruin it. And that was more important to you. Yeah. And it's, you know, it's part of, for me, it brings up the slippery slope of family.

39:19Right. It's easy for us to say that when we're talking about the example of two people. It's very different when it's a million person, multi-hundred thousand person organization or even a small team. So I would say like in some contexts, you might want to choose the other, right? And if you choose the other, then you have to be honest with that person in order to try and maintain the friendship, right? And I would say the other thing I learned over my years of leadership is Jessica and I are a great example. You can have both, but you have to understand the boundaries when you're in context. I mean, I'm living with that forever.

40:07And you are going to be perceived as part of the problem no matter what you do. No matter what. Welcome to leadership. Right. You're not going to, you got to put the cologne back on to smell sweet again, right? There you go. It washes up. No, it's perfect. Karthik, so fun. Yeah. Such a pleasure. Oh, my gosh. Really interesting. You've given me hope. We needed hope today, Karthik. It is such a pleasure to be here. And thank you guys for what you do. I can just see that, you know, this is my first time interacting with the two of you. And I can just see you have this magical chemistry that I think leaves people better than you found them.

40:47So, you know, there you go. Thank you. Well, you know, we have just spent our lives talking to people about trying to explain to them what really happens at work. I mean, it's just people don't know. It's that black box. And so thank you for helping us open it a little bit for everybody so they can look in and go, oh, look, there's something I can use in here. Yay. Thank you, Karthik. My pleasure. Thanks for listening to TruthWorks. This episode was produced by Megan Hayward. Thank you to Kathleen Speckard and the whole Edit Audio team.

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