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37:19I know really really good ending and hopefully boyfriend ex-boyfriend wakes up gets his shit together yeah I mean it's pretty okay it's pretty irredeemable but maybe there are some 18 year olds who still have the potential to grow and become better people and I think a lot of people in this world do something that they maybe spend the rest of their lives feeling bad about like they say something or they you know act in a petty way that like just wasn't necessary or whatever and then they're and maybe he'll grow a conscience after this I don't know I think so I think like if you got dumped over something like this I hope it doesn't push him the other way where he's then resentful and sneakier and whatever like yeah I hope this is like a oh yeah no this was shitty yeah there's consequences and hopefully he learns i mean he's young 18 19 however old but like you got to grow up at some point yeah we do all have to learn empathy like it is a learned thing over time of like okay i'm not the center of the universe like just because i'm living in my head doesn't mean everyone else isn't living in their heads too you know but yeah for some people it's a slower experience i think so i'm I'm more lenient now because the cat's okay and was returned.

38:45I'm like, still definitely stay broken up. Yeah. No, no, no. But I'm like, maybe this guy has, there's a chance one day he could be a better person. I don't know. Yeah. I don't know. It is interesting. That's like a conversation we've had quite a bit on this podcast is like, is empathy something you can learn? Like, are we just born empathetic? Like there are some people that I think like they, they would just will never get empathy. And I think that's just the way their brain is. Something's not firing in a part of their brain. I don't know. But like, I do think you can also learn how to increase your empathy.

39:21Yeah, I think, I mean, I remember being some kind of age in the teens and like, understanding for the first time that like other people's perspectives are because they've had completely unique experiences from mine. And like, you know, I like I think you start to understand other people more and more and more. But I do think also, you know, children are often very kind and like sweet and understand like, hey, that hurt mommy. And like they learn that lesson pretty young. They like hit mommy and it hurts or something. But yeah, I think you see this a lot But with teenagers and even though 18 is technically an adult, it's like there's sometimes 18 year olds aren't really adults.

40:07Yeah. I mean, there's guys in my life that like were very immature for their age and they were they were like two years behind what their actual age was. Yeah. Just because of school. And, you know, they were in a different grade than what their age was supposed to like put them in a grade wise or whatever that is. So I think like everyone can mature at different rates, but like, okay. These are the moments though that like could make that develop. 100%. This is the fork in the road. So hopefully he takes the right path. But moving on to this next one. Very nice of us. Very generous of us to give them a little bit of hope there.

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42:09Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Okay, so this is the other one coming from Ask Aubrey. And again, we won't have any comments from OP because that's just, we don't have it. But it is an interesting one. And I think it's worth a read. I believe you. If Morgan is saying a Reddit story is worth a read, all right, strap me in. Buckle up. So this is titled, My Boyfriend's Mom Gave Me a Purity Test at Family Dinner, and now he's mad at me for leaving. Oh, God. Unique experience for sure. A purity test. Okay. I, 26 female, have been dating my boyfriend, Ryan, 28 male, for about 10 months. Things have been pretty good until last weekend when I finally met his parents at their house in Atlanta for Sunday dinner.

43:05Hey, I got Atlanta on my shirt. Look at that. I was so shocked when she gave it to me, I didn't even know what to say. I just stared at her. She took my silence as me refusing to answer and said, I see, so you have things to hide. I stood up and said I needed to use the bathroom, but instead I just grabbed my purse and left, called an Uber from the driveway. Ryan didn't even notice I was gone until like 20 minutes later when he came back inside. He's been blowing up my phone ever since, saying I embarrassed him in front of his parents and I should have just played along to keep the peace. His mom is apparently very upset and crying saying that I rejected her attempt to get to know me better.

43:50Ryan says his mom is just protective and comes from a really religious background, so I need to be understanding. But like a purity test on an app at 26 years old? Am I insane or was that completely out of line? I cannot imagine this happening. So it's an app. It's a purity test on an app. It must be. Yeah. Okay. OP isn't writing this the best. I mean, a lot of people, I think, are like kind of like, are we sure this one's real? But I will say long before AI ever existed and obviously people could still write creatively online, I had a story and it was an episode. It was an unhinged episode. I think it was unhinged 2.0.

44:37So me, Lauren and Justin, and we had a story about a woman writing in and her fiance had kind of blindsided her the night before the wedding and was requesting that his family check her hymen for purity before the wedding. She's still intact. Oh, my God. So I do think there are people out here that are like this. Like I feel like there's stories we've read or things where people have been like, yeah, his mom confronted me and asked me if I was still a virgin. Yeah. If I was good enough for her son or like, you know, people imply stuff like that all the time. Yeah. I think that the the purity app of it all, especially upon first meeting, is like what makes this a unique experience.

45:22But to have like a mother-in-law or like mother of someone try to find out if their future daughter-in-law would be pure, like that is not that crazy. Like that, that unfortunately is happening. And I cannot imagine like showing up to meet my partner's parents for the first time and they pull out a purity app and say, take this test. And then, oh, so you do have something to hide. I'm 26. I am 26 years old. Like, yes, I've lived a life. God forbid I've lived a life. So doing some quick research, there is an app in the app store. I was going to look for this. It is called the Rice Purity Test Plus.

46:06Looking at some of the questions. There's a screenshot. Does it have reviews? No reviews yet. Not enough reviews to generate a rating. But this is real. From what I'm seeing, this is real. And here are some of the questions. Held hands romantically. Been on a date. Been in a relationship. Danced without leaving room for Jesus. kissed a non-family member kissed a non-family member on the lips french kissed french kissed in public kissed on the neck kissed horizontally given or received a hickey kissed horizontally kissed or been kissed on the breast kissed someone below the belt kissed for more than two hours consecutively played a game involving stripping this is like this is so funny because this is also kind of a meme that goes around on like Facebook or Twitter or whatever social media apps sometime where it's like, oh, add up your score.

47:03And if you've done these things and then say what your score is, but don't say why your score is what it is. And it's like, oh my, you know what? So that's what it does. Every single time you check the box, it does subtract a point. I believe there's a hundred questions. I can only see to number 43. I'll make sure we post the image on our Instagram so you guys can see. I don't know if you'd be able to read it on YouTube, but we'll put it in there as well. Everything's subtracting from your score and then like having to say that to your partner and their family is so demeaning. Like, oh, here's my number out of this of how pure I am.

47:38Like, I mean, they start to get a little crazy too. Like, seen or read porn, gone through the motions of intercourse while fully dressed, undressed or been undressed by a member of the preferred sex, showered with an MPS, member of the preferred sex, fondled or had your butt cheeks fondled, had your breasts fondled, had or given blue balls, had an orgasm due to someone else's manipulation. Are these worth different amounts of points? Purchased contraceptives. Like is holding hands going to subtract the same amount as? I believe so. That's crazy. It's not even a good test. Yeah, it's used to see how pure you are.

48:22It's free, fun, and exciting. It has 100 questions. And the lower the score you get, the more things you did and the less pure you are. It's fun, free, and exciting. I believe that this is a thing because when I was going through my elementary school stuff, I found a contract that I had signed with the church. What? And I grew up Christian. And they had created this contract of like, I will not kiss until this age. I will not date until this age. And then it has like my like seven-year-old signature on it. So this does not sound far off to me because I literally signed a purity contract. I just like, I don't understand this mindset.

49:05I'm like, I'm lost in the sauce on this website. There's now, there's a website for it too, the ricepuritytest.com. and it goes, caution, this is not a bucket list. Completion of all items on this test will likely result in death. Stop. This is not a bucket list. That's so funny. I mean, question 70 had sexual intercourse 10 or more times. She is 26. Traveled, okay, I'm like fucked up. I would actually check so many of these boxes. Yes, because you're an adult woman. traveled 100 or more miles for the primary purpose of sexual intercourse yep right here i've taken planes 2 000 miles to get fucked like what wait this mom would hate my guts that being a question is so funny and that's also hilarious had a pregnancy scare well yeah i have not done um number 100 though okay engaged in bestiality so there's some wonky questions on here is that worth the same amount of points as holding hands like there should be some let's find out let's find out okay so i'm clicking holding hands okay calculate my score 99 okay so it took it took one off right i'm gonna take this lovely test again okay bestiality for example bestiality score of 99 same amount of points holding hands or participating in bestiality.

50:37This is not a well done test. Same amount of points. So given all of our research here. Yes. You know, I always say, I believe these stories about 90 % of the time. I actually, I'm very convinced looking at this app. I absolutely believe that this is a thing that would happen. And honestly, like, even if it's not a mother-in-law with a purity app, I'm sure that there are like pastors out there, you know, when people are like getting married and they consult with the pastor. I'm sure that there's like some communities where this purity test in a written form of some kind is used. Like this does not sound like they made an app based on there being no paper trail history of it.

51:20It's just such a crazy thing to do in 2025 as well as like to a 26 year old woman. And that's the thing. He's 28, she's 26. Like, is he also getting this purity test? Like, does his mother care about his purity or is it only this girlfriend's? And if her mother gave him the purity test, would like his mother also think that's weird? Like, why are you doing that to my son? Yeah. No, this is absurd. I think the overall question, am I insane? No, you're not insane. Was that completely out of line leaving the family dinner in an Uber? No. I would have done the same thing. yeah the fact like i i do wish like you would have just given your boyfriend a chance to be like hey this is really inappropriate like i'm gonna go i wish you did he not have that chance i think she just kind of like left and went out and just like gotten the uber and left sounds like he wasn't there during this conversation oh really like he was outside maybe cooking hanging with dad whatever maybe she's helping mom in the kitchen and she slips the app her way I do wish you would have given him the chance to respond like I think you already yeah I would have a boyfriend problem based on him being like she was just trying to get to know you you already have a boyfriend problem not just his mom being an issue but if he would have stood by you more in the moment before you left like then I would have been like okay like you know boyfriend's a good guy he's standing up for you.

52:50Mom's crazy. Right. But at least, you know, now, you know, and he can set some boundaries with her. Yeah. But that's not the case. Now he's taking his mom's side for this absurd, crazy thing. And no, I think, I think you toxic, like triangle to get into. Like now mom's crying. She's like, oh my God, I can't believe this happened. Why'd she get so upset with me? They're enmeshed. We all know that. You all were hearing it in your head before I even said it. I've held off for quite some time saying that now, you guys. Because we were doing research. Because we were on the ground doing research. You were on the ground doing research.

53:25But I think like you chalk this up and you run the other way. This is a unique experience that you have for the books. You know what to avoid. Hopefully this comes up a lot sooner in other relationships if it comes up again and is not a unique experience. But I really, this one's not worth being around. Like the mom is genuinely if you're getting this goofy the first time you met her yeah imagine what kind of mother-in-law you will have to deal with the rest of your life if you choose to proceed down the audacity the like nope oh i can do whatever i want like i can't imagine that that would ever get better it would just get crazier and crazier over time well and the fact that he like i'm like looking at his response and getting so mad he said like she should have just played along to keep the peace.

54:12Right. So he knows what she did and he still is taking his mother's side. Yeah. And it's like, why do I have to talk about my intimate experiences? Because some of them are intimate. Like if you go down and look at the questions, yeah, we can laugh about the holding hands thing. Pregnancy scare and like a lot of intimate personal questions. Questions that honestly violate HIPAA. They violate HIPAA. That would be such a funny response. I'm sorry, but this violates hibba like come on so i think at that point it's like no i'm not going to entertain someone basically harassing me and violating my privacy and being completely inappropriate that is none of your mother's business do you want me to go into detail about how i suck your dick with your mom oh and that time i fingered your butthole yeah should i tell your mom that like why would she even want to know about that i like would not want to know because she wants to fuck her son oh she wants to know exactly what her son is doing she's gonna live vicariously through this purity test oh my god that might be a reach okay that might be a reach but it's it's gross and i think you need to break up and inappropriate and it has to stop the top comment on instagram what's worse than a boy mom a religious fanatic boy mom run Next comment.

55:32He took his mom's side. He always will. Next one. How is he not furious at his mom for being embarrassing? Also, people need to stop misusing that word. A fart at dinner is embarrassing. This is just way out of line, batshit crazy behavior. Yeah. I will say the Instagram comments, they're a little more rambunctious than what we see on Reddit these days. I know. I do like the Instagram comments. Batshit crazy. It's so entitled and like inappropriate and wrong. I just I'm at a loss for words Yeah if he can't take your side In such an obvious situation like that You are signing yourself up For a world of Disappointments and being Left out to dry Yeah Okay this next one coming from our very own Two Outtakes subreddit Seven days old Seven days?

56:24Titled My ex posted a happy anniversary with me six months after we broke up. I'm obsessed with this. So my ex and I broke up in April. It wasn't messy, but it wasn't exactly peaceful either. He wanted to focus on himself, which was code for flirting with girls on Discord. Anyways, fast forward to now, November. About seven months. And one of my friends sends me a screenshot from his Insta story. Quote, happy three years, love you forever, with a picture of us from 2022. I actually thought it was a throwback or something, but no, he literally captioned it like we're still together. We haven't spoken since the breakup.

57:12I'm not blocked or anything, just ignored. So now I'm sitting here getting texts from mutual friends asking if we got back together. And I'm like, what alternate reality is this man living in? I don't know if it's to make me look like I still care or to make him look like he's the loyal one who never moved on, but either way, it's weird. Like, dude, we broke up half a year ago. You can't just retroactively celebrate an anniversary that doesn't exist. Part of me wants to respond with, happy delusion day, but I'm being good. at first I was like oh this is so funny this is so crazy and now I'm like is this scary yeah like I think it might be a little bit scary because obviously someone having delusions that involve you uh-huh is a scary situation to be in sure is I have one friend my friend Ellie her ex posted like on her birthday happy birthday to my favorite ex which was already crazy ellie but this is so much crazier ellie what the heck they're like friends it's just it's like objectively a hilarious thing to post okay but yeah like i don't know if like does is he having some kind of health like mental health problem that's what i'm getting is he actually you know Or is this more of like a scary stalker type situation?

58:43Or is he like, I don't like a secret third option that I'm trying to think of. It is really for me. I'm like, it's giving, it's giving mental health crisis and just like, okay, something is really up here and he needs some help because the delusion you broke up. Yeah. What'd you say? Seven months? Like seven months ago. You broke up in April. It's now November. and we've been broken up for half a year, over half a year, and you're posting a three-year anniversary. We're not together. Yeah. So who are you trying to impress? It's not me. And if you're not trying to impress someone, it's pure delusion.

59:22Right. More than anything, if someone's lying about being in a relationship, it's usually like pretending that they're not in one so that they can hook up with people. I know. Like I don't see what the upside of pretending you are still in a relationship with somebody is. Maybe the flirting on Discord hasn't worked out. And so now he's just trying to like look cool to the other guys he plays Discord with. Oh, yeah. Like I've got a girlfriend. Yeah, I got this hot girl. Like he's probably telling all these Discord people like, oh, no, no, no. Like I'm not hitting on you. I have a girlfriend. Right.

59:53Because the other thing that's confusing to me is this isn't preceded by any like he's been texting me trying to get back together or, you know, he's he's texted me as if things were normal before he's shown up at blah blah blah like this isn't like over the last seven months he's been trying to keep that relationship still going it's like out of nowhere he's posting this so that's why it feels kind of performative in a sense it does feel performative is a really good word for this yeah and yeah maybe that is it maybe it's about these discord people maybe he's trying to be like well i have a girlfriend anyway maybe he was rejected and everyone knows it on discord and he's like well I'm fine I've still got I've still got somebody I don't know either way hopefully it's more like that because that makes it less of a threat to her I feel true it's like okay my ex is crazy and he is not succeeding at finding women after we've broken up but I don't know I don't know either it's really weird though so let us know you know keep us posted on this i i would respond knowing me i'd be like yeah hey curious about this we're not together right like what can you take this down like i wouldn't want that up there even yeah like you can tell your friends and everyone will know and you can kind of clear the air but at the same time like i also wouldn't necessarily want that out there i'd be like what what's going on why are you posting this hey like why did you say that and then you can also figure out if there is a threat.

1:01:29Right. Like, is he going through a mental health crisis? Is he delusional? Could he show up? Like, could something bad happen? Or like, is he just trying to look like he's got game? Right. Or did he lose a bet? Did he did he get dared? Like, did he? Oh, yeah. You know, like, I don't know. I'm trying to think of any other possible reason. But that's a really good point. So weird. Beyond. I hope she asks him and then tells us. That's what I need. I need to know how this played out. Let me see if there is an update. So top comment on the post. Not going to lie. That is fucking weird. Yeah. That's unhinged behavior, says the next comment.

1:02:07You can't celebrate an anniversary with someone who's not even in the relationship anymore. Good on you for keeping it classy. He's clearly doing enough embarrassing for the both of you. Someone goes, exactly. An anniversary with who? You can't be in a relationship by yourself, buddy.

1:02:24It's called no update to the post so please let us know mark yourself safe for us please I know it's very very odd because there's such a spectrum of possibilities here like the least concerning being like this was some dare or this was like I don't know lost a bet I don't know worst is he is having delusions that he's still with you and could get violent. Yeah. Keep us posted, please. And I don't know. Definitely a unique experience. Like, usually it's not getting pictures posted of you once you've broken up. Like, right. I just, I don't know. I've heard of like. Unless you're still friends and hanging out.

1:03:11Yeah, I know. Like, that's so different. But you're broken up and he's posting for your anniversary. Like, what's happening? Yeah. I've heard of like trying to get someone back and posting like, I miss you. Like, like crazy, you know, like Facebook posts of I miss what we had, but not pretending that you're still together. That's where it's like, what is going on here? Yeah, it's a bit perplexing. It is a bit perplexing. A bit baffling. I'm confuddled by it. Yeah. Befuddled even. Yeah. So am I by this next one. Is it befuddling? That's a big word. Is it befuddling? Befuddling? Could be a theme.

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1:05:07So this is coming from our friend Charlotte Dobre's page. It is titled, Am I Overreacting for Throwing Out All of Our Soap After Finding Out How My Boyfriend Actually Washes Himself? Now I'm scared. So I, 26 female, don't even know how to start this without gagging. This happened earlier this week, and I'm still going through waves of disgust and disbelief. My boyfriend, 28 male, and I have been together for about a year now. We recently moved in together about three months ago. Before that, we'd spend weekends together, but I never really paid much attention to how he showered. I guess I just assumed he was like everyone else.

1:05:51Soap, loofah, washcloth, maybe body wash, maybe even one of those fancy shower puffs. You know, normal hygiene. I'm so scared. But oh, how wrong I was. So around this Monday, he had been feeling sick the night before, some bad food, he said. I woke up to him rushing to the bathroom. Poor guy had a bad case of diarrhea. No big deal. He took a shower afterwards, and I didn't think twice about it. I had showered earlier that morning, and by the time he was done, I was already half asleep, so I didn't go in there again. The next morning, I got up to take my shower. I pick up our shared bar of soap and saw boo-boo chunks on it.

1:06:38His boo-boo chunks on it. This is actually worse than I meant than I imagined it could be. I gagged so hard I almost threw up. I dropped the soap immediately, turned off the water, and just stood there trying to process what the hell I was looking at. When I finally called him over, I asked him what the hell happened to the soap. He looked confused. I explained what I saw. And he goes, quote, oh yeah, I took a shower last night after I went to the bathroom. I probably didn't rinse the soap off right. Dude, what? And then that's when I learned something that made me question everything about this man.

1:07:16He doesn't use a washcloth or a loofah or a body brush or even his hands in a lathering way. He literally takes the bar of soap, wets it, wets himself with the shower hose and rubs the bar directly all over his body from head to toe, including his armpits, his dick, his ass, and apparently after having diarrhea. I didn't even know what to say. I just stood there horrified, replaying every single time I'd used that damn bar of soap on my own loofah or washcloth. So the next day, my first thought was to throw away every bar of soap we had and both have shared, leaving just my body washes in the shower.

1:08:02When he saw me doing this, he got defensive. He asked why I was overreacting and said I was making a big deal out of nothing. I told him I wasn't comfortable sharing soap anymore because now that I know what he's been doing, it's just nasty. I didn't shame him. I just said, I didn't realize that's how you washed and I can't share a bar like that again. He got quiet and said, so you think I'm dirty? I told him no. I think the shit that you put on our soap is dirty. I think the shit that I can see on our soap might be. I told him no, but that his method is unsanitary, which I mean, come on, it's objectively gross.

1:08:45Especially if you're using the same bar that touches your butthole in private parts, then it sits there collecting whatever didn't rinse off, like the poop chunks. He didn't storm out and a few hours later I got a call from his sister asking me why I embarrassed him and made him feel like a disgusting person. Apparently he told his family about it. His mom texted me something like men have been using bars of soap for generations. What? You're making it sound filthy. Why is this becoming like a traditional like this? Am I insane for thinking this is different though? Like yes, people use bar soap, but most people don't literally rub it between their cheeks and then put it back for someone else to use.

1:09:27Now he's been giving me the cold shoulder and his family thinks I'm some germ obsessed neat freak who humiliated him over a piece of soap. So for second opinions, am I overreacting? this made me physically ill Morgan I already feared what this situation could be from the title and it was so much worse somehow like this is a health hazard she could have gotten some kind of like in pink eye but yeah like a bacterial infection and like yeah like also he has food poisoning that's why the diarrhea is there like you are sick sir yeah and you use that bar of soap as a douche he was douching his asshole with the bar of soap like oh i don't feel okay i don't feel okay like this isn't okay the fact that there were chunks on that no chunks

1:10:28no she can only ever while she's dating him use body wash now with a sense of peace like I body wash with a pump I would yeah I would immediately feel like I need to like bleach my entire body like I don't know how like this would make me feel very ill like I'm trying to think, okay, movies, like in movies and things like I've, I've taken a personal bar of my soap and I've like took the soap bar on my armpits before. Yeah. I would never put that soap bar up my ass and it's not a dirty, dirty ass I ever shared. Granted, armpits are gross too. So I don't know. Like, I'm like, is this a thing? Is this a common way to use the bar of soap?

1:11:15because like does the soap kill germs as it sits there because it is soap? Can soap grow germs like a petri dish? Or does soap kill germs? Like do we have to be this scared? But it's the fact that this bar of soap is shared. Yeah. It's a shared bar of soap. And there's visible shit on it. And there's visible shit on it. Like how do you get past that mentally? You didn't look after you stuck that bar of soap in between your ass cheeks. You didn't look. You didn't give it a like a rinse. Like, okay, you're going to rub that soap on your armpits, but then give the soap bar a wash. You know what I mean?

1:11:51I think even if someone does sometimes use a bar of soap directly on their skin, it is common sense to not put it between your butt cheeks. That. Because even if it's a person— It's genitals that's, like, really amplifying this. Yes, and even if it's a personal soap bar, you wouldn't even want that for yourself. you'd be like oh I shouldn't probably put my soap on on some shit and then just like use it for the rest of my body again the next day like even if he's not sharing it like I think you still in your head you're like I'm not gonna do it like that also maybe this is an issue because didn't he wipe his butt after pooping on the toilet or did he just go from diarrhea toilet flush shower that's my fear Morgan that's what I'm really scared of like why are there chunks still like why didn't you at least give like a one wipe so you're not dripping shit as you walk to the shower like I don't feel okay I like I understand too feeling embarrassed and like I don't know like but sometimes you do something that just is embarrassing yeah I mean Justin's caught me picking my nose here and there like if you're not picking your nose you're lying about picking your nose let's be real like there's some things you just can't get with a tissue not The same thing, Morgan.

1:13:08But I know what it's like when he's like, when he called me out or whatever. And he's like, did you just pick your note? I'm like, you weren't supposed to see that. But like that feeling of embarrassed or feeling gross. And maybe this is something he's dealt with before. But like, okay, let's address it between the two of you. The fact you're then. Go crying to your family. You're crying to your whole family. And what did you tell your family? Did you tell them you left shit chunks on our soap? Yeah. And like, yes, she's throwing them out. Like, sorry. Get new soap. This isn't this like oppressive act toward you.

1:13:40She's throwing out the soap that she found covered in shit. I don't know what else she was supposed to do. You can go to the dollar store, the 99 cent store, the dollar general. You can go many places and get new soap. I don't care. Men have been using bars of soap for generations. It's weird. It's weird. You're not overreacting. This is gross. Yeah. And I think. I also don't think she said anything like mean to him. No. I think she was shocked. It was like, what have we been living in? Like, what's been going on? I think anyone would freak out if they walked into their bathroom and went to go shower and get clean and there was poop all over their soap.

1:14:17Yeah. That's a normal reaction. And like, I can't see without my contacts in. And I don't shower with my contacts in. So like, I... Oh my God, that would be a really bad surprise. I wouldn't know right away. Like, I don't want to think about it anymore. It's bad. What are the comments?

1:14:37yeah top comment since he brought his family into this then there is no reason why you can't absolutely be truly honest the problem isn't that he uses the bar on his bare body it's the fact that he uses the bar of soap directly onto his rectum to clean off diarrhea and that left chunks of poop on the bar soap that is the issue yeah and he thinks that that's normal and he thinks said that's fine. So that means it's a recurring thing. Yeah. You are gross. Like it's not gross that you use the bar of soap on your body. It's gross that you left shit on the bar of soap. Yeah. Now tell that to his mom and sister since they wanted to confront you about his hurt feelings.

1:15:15And just so you know, not only is he disgusting leaving the poop on the bar of soap, but he is immature and runs to mommy and his sister to cry about his hurt feelings. Those two points are very unattractive in a man. And I definitely couldn't see myself being with someone like that long term. Yeah. And that's like what I was like really trying to get at here. It's like this maybe wouldn't have been such a big deal. And I get being defensive. You can be defensive and be hurt and be embarrassed and whatever. But the fact that you took this problem and you ran to outside sources and involved them in it and then had those sources come back and chirp at me and try to make me feel like I'm the bad person.

1:15:58I'm not the bad person here, babe. Yeah, this is all over just a bar of soap. It's easily rectified. Hey, you didn't know you didn't know that you shouldn't wash that way. Yeah. By the way, loofahs are also disgusting. Yeah, loofahs harbor bacteria. I don't think a loofah is any better than just using the bar of soap. But I think there's a way that you could have cleaned without degrading the bar of soap that we shared. However, not an issue. We'll throw it away. We'll get new soap This is how you should Operate going forward Yeah I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings Get a bidet I was surprised by the poop on the soap Yeah get a bidet Am I right?

1:16:34Yeah Hey A bidet A shatafah That would do a lot for them Whatever you're feeling He would probably like that Because he seems to like this like You know not like the dry cleaning method so much He seems to like Go in the wet cleaning method I just The fact that he had That Big of chunks like what what are we doing what are we doing did we not wipe we did not wipe that is that is what we're doing we did not wipe we did not wipe i can hardly stand it i'll tell you that it's gross okay moving on to this next one this is coming from r slash am i overreacting it is titled am i overreacting for getting pissed that someone had sex in my truck at the dealership i'll make this short, but I can always add more as this is a long story.

1:17:22My new truck developed a leak just under 12k miles, so I scheduled an appointment at the dealership. After three weeks, I get it back with a horrible smell inside with a driver's seat that clearly has ass cheek stains, not swamp ass as it has been cold here. My interior door is scratched, probably from a wedding ring. there is a stain on the seat that looks like the woman enjoyed herself there is a stain on the floor there is a shoe print on my headliner makeup on the visor and headliner deep finger indents on a solid visor I also found a hair tie and a hair clip in my console that is definitely not mine the dealership refused to take any accountability and blamed me for the condition even though it was not like this when I dropped it off.

1:18:14My windows are blacked out as well. I should add that I'm single and I work from home, so there is a 0 % chance it's from me or a cheating partner. After I brought it to the dealer's attention, they cleaned it but did a poor job, so I had to clean it again by a professional. Am I overreacting? First of all, those people went crazy. Good for them. It sounds like they had fun. Oh my god. All the details of the positions and the indents and the wedding ring scratch like oh my god they went they went at it this is on a porn site somewhere this yeah he could find the evidence probably if he searches hard enough but I wouldn't recommend it you're gonna see a lot of shit like that no that is disgusting that should have been taken more seriously by the dealership and like I don't understand how they could like dismiss it so easily like that needs a serious clean job that's disgusting you can't just like kind of wipe it wipe it off a little bit no and the fact he's noticing all of this because of a horrible all caps smell oh god i forgot that part yeah there's probably a used condom somewhere lost in there down the crack in between the seat and the console and they should take it seriously because it's like this could be a repeated employee problem that you have like you need to do some internal investigations like this isn't okay behavior this is gross i feel like that's one thing like And I get People don't want to get sued People don't want to lose money So It really like Has become this Deny Gaslight Gatekeep Like it It has kind of become That attitude with customer service Like you don't want to Fully cop to it Yeah Like No No one did anything You brought it to us like that We'll clean it because We are kind We're so kind But we're not cleaning it Because we admit that we did that Exactly And Yeah I just saw this post From a woman Also on Reddit And she was like am I overreacting?

1:20:08Like my dog got back from the groomers and like his teeth are knocked out. This lady was like, I took my dog to the same groomers he's been going to for five years, like since he was a puppy. They told me that he bit the blow dryer and so his teeth are loose now. She ends up taking this dog to the vet. His jaw is broke. And so she's like, they're clearly lying to me. And a bunch of people in the comments, like one of which is a vet tech, was like, oh yeah, like the dog probably fell off the table hit its jaw and broke its jaw like that's the force needed they're lying to you and it's like because like be honest biting something is gonna break its jaw like dogs are always biting things they're biting bones honest because if that woman would have believed you and gone home that dog that dog would have been living with a broken jaw yeah in pain Yeah.

1:20:58Like this dog needs medical care. Don't lie. Like, yeah, these businesses have insurance for a reason. Your insurance is going to cover an accident. Will your insurance go up? Yeah. But that is the risk you take running a business and maybe not paying attention to the dog as you should have. Maybe not ensuring that dog's safety. That is your fault, though. Yeah. And I feel like I do feel like obviously there are going to be some cases where people get you like they hear you admit something and they take it all the way. But I think in general where businesses get like bad reviews and bad reputations is if they don't actually handle concerns seriously.

1:21:35Yeah. And they try to like avoid and pretend it wasn't their fault and kind of like gaslight you about it. because even if something happens like employees have sex in your car if they just fully say i am so sorry i don't know how this happened we don't have any footage of this happening but i understand why you feel like it must have happened here we'll fully take care of any cleaning service like like there is such a way like people appreciate that and this whole like evasive thing it like it doesn't build any trust. Like that, that person's never going to go back there. No, there's like something that's going around too on TikTok right now that's gone pretty viral.

1:22:14So maybe some of you have seen it, but it's this girl who like set her phone up outside of like a random shop and she was trying to get like a video of her outfit. She's carrying a Dunkin coffee cup and the woman of the shop, it's like, it must be a coffee shop bakery, is like, really? You're going to take that video here with the Dunkin in your hand? and the girl is like oh my god I'm so sorry like didn't cross my mind like I'm so sorry she goes in buys a pastry because she doesn't need a coffee she's got a coffee yeah so she buys a pastry and then the woman does not let her stay in that shop kicks her out after buying the pastry because she has the Dunkin we don't allow outside beverages and it's like she just came in your store yeah and gave you business she realized she might have been being a little rude which she was on a fucking sidewalk like get real yeah but she realized maybe hey maybe i shouldn't have done that went inside bought something and then you kicked her out yeah so the girl made a video about it obviously and the lady's like oh my god freaking out and it's like that's just not how you treat people no who cares if she's got a dunkin initially i was like did the lady think that she was like making some kind of diss video by being like oh like my dunkin is so much better no she literally went in and tried to support yeah no i'm yeah it's like a small little cafe like if you would have played that cool like if you would have been like hey my coffee's better than duncan come on in and try some yeah you would have looked great yeah who doesn't love free coffee but customer service like it needs a kick in the butt i think it's just yeah it's tough and it's not necessarily the people it's like it's the companies yeah companies aren't getting it and i yeah what What was the original?

1:24:00Oh, sex in the car. Yeah. We do get an update. Oh, we get some updates on this one. Wait, no way. Yeah. Brief update. Called the police. They won't take a police report as it's a civil matter. All they could do was document that I called. This happened at Redacted in Surprise, Arizona, 85388. And another Reddit member told me my one-star review is already gone from their Google reviews. Oh, my God. Which I don't feel like people should be able to do that. It shouldn't. It's actually really hard to like, I don't know, even sometimes fake bad reviews can be hard to remove. I know. It's crazy. The general manager called me today, which was useless.

1:24:35He wanted to know if the other manager called me, which he did. They're both passing off responsibility on each other. I called corporate this past Saturday and issued a complaint, but I was advised not to expect anything out of it as that falls on deaf ears. I will be taking to social media and uploading video pictures and audio recordings taken while dealing with this terrible business. Mm-hmm. Um apparently OP did Post pictures Oh my god So we have some pictures Oh my god So here's the seat Oh my god Like it honestly That looks like a It looks like someone had a yeast infection And like there It's like It's like chalky residue on their seat Yeah why does it look like that I think that's what he's calling the aspirin Because I swear you could have sex in a car and get away with it.

1:25:26There's like full-blown jizz. Okay, yeah. That's like jizz. Yeah. All over his floor mat. Oh my God. Is that blood? Oh my God. Look at the handprints. These are like fucking crazy hand creases. Like this person was like gripping like they were hanging off a cliff. Yeah. There's no way that you wouldn't have seen that. That looks like blood. I think there's blood. So. Or lipstick. Yeah. maybe she was on her period or there's lipstick like on the visor on the roof of the car like it is pretty bad when you look at the pictures actually oh my god and if they i feel like if the car company had been more like forthcoming and no issue kind about it it wouldn't have gone to the like the places it's going now no issue i was gonna say like with the google remove google review removing thing they will remove any review that has like profanity in it so i don't know if like it mentioned the sex or anything like that and it just automatically gets flagged by google for that maybe there's like certain things you have to be careful of i know that's true or if it like defames certain individuals at the company yeah the thing is though too like the dealership should have handled this because like if that is blood that's a biohazard yeah that's a biohazard like that's disgusting being kind goes a long way so we get another update no way six days ago i posted about my bizarre situation after reading a majority of the comments here as well as social media.

1:26:55I dug deeper into finding reviews on this dealership. There were hundreds of negative feedback across multiple sites about damage to customers' vehicles and or financial fraud by padding loans without customers' consent or knowledge and other shady things. Oh my god. The day after making my post, the sales manager at the dealership called me to basically tell me it's the general manager's responsibility, so this call was pointless. The following day, the general manager calls me and basically tells me it's the sales manager's responsibility, but he will call me back tomorrow or the following day.

1:27:28Neither manager ever called me back. Yesterday, I filed a complaint with BBB, Better Business Bureau, and with the attorney general with my story. Today, someone from the dealership called, believe it's customer relations, and they told me they received my complaint from the attorney general, and they would like to fix the damaged items in my truck. Oh, now you do. I told him I need a new driver's seat, a new rear seat cover, new visor, and a new door panel on my driver's door. He said that's fine, and I can bring it in. Yeah, because you're scared now. I kindly replied that there is absolutely no way I'll be back at their dealership, so he told me they contract with a third-party company that comes to the customers' homes to do the repairs.

1:28:07I agreed to that, and now I'm waiting on the third-party repair company to call me to schedule it. I'm hoping all goes well, but honestly, I'm not holding my breath. He also said they can reverse the thousands of dollars of add-ons that I never agreed to if my electronic signature is attached. I wouldn't know because they still have never given me copies of me asking for nine months. There's definitely going to be at least one more update regardless of what happens with the repairs. Thank you for the suggestions. It's given me the motivation and knowledge to get results. And then included more pictures of the truck seats, which same ones we saw already.

1:28:44This is like the scratches on the backseat. Oh my God. Like guys, these are like very obvious scratch marks. Like these are deep scratch marks. I've never even seen that from like an animal. Oh my God. To be honest, like I'm actually very curious. It's almost like when they were having sex, they were getting off on the fact it would be obvious that they had sex there. Yeah. Like that was part of the enjoyment for them. Yeah. No, they definitely wanted to leave their mark. So we have another update. There's a lot of updates on this one. I did not know until we got here. 10 days ago, I posted the first update, a correction, the last update.

1:29:22It was not the customer service relations that called me. It was a senior partner at the dealership. He told me that the seed store panels and visor would be replaced. Shortly after posting that update, I received multiple calls from multiple employees saying that replacement was never discussed and that they will clean it up, that I misunderstood the senior partner. I recorded the call and I certainly did not misunderstand. The general manager has been calling me every couple of days telling me their third party repair company will be contacting me to clean my truck. I've consistently said I'm not in need of a cleaning, that cleaning it will not remove the damage.

1:29:55In one of the calls with the GM, he suggested swapping my truck to a new one and I accepted the offer. Shortly after the salespeople called me wanting to do a trade-in, which will cost me thousands of dollars on a loss on my new truck. So obviously I refused. The GM implied it was a simple swap, not a typical trade-in where they profit selling two vehicles. Yesterday, I got a call from the third-party company and sent pictures of the issue. He confirmed the seat can not be repaired and must be replaced, as well as the visor and door panel. He informed me that will tell the GM and I should expect him to call me.

1:30:33Still waiting. This would piss me off. Because now this goes beyond just repairing the things that you broke because it's taking so much time. It's taking so much work and effort. It's a full-time job. Like you need to actually compensate me above and beyond the damage that you've done. Now it's my time. And it could be a biohazard. Like it's like, what am I being exposed to? Yeah. This looks like blood. it's disgusting. The jizz on the rug, you guys, like, just wait. I received a response from the dealership on BBB saying they are working it out with me. They are not working anything out. They're just wasting my time, calling me every couple of days, trying to get me to agree to a simple cleaning.

1:31:16I'll give it until Tuesday for action. Then I'll be taking the next steps to make this a legal issue. New update. Wow. So this new update is coming from this past June, three months after the original post. So I bought a new Ford Maverick in Surprise, Arizona, 85388, at the only Ford dealership in town. So if you're out there listening, I think it's very clear which one it is. I was extremely adamant about not having a service plan or low jack, no add-ons, no extras, no upgrades whatsoever, except a factory added tow hitch. First red flag was when it eventually came in six months later, the dealer tried to charge me an absurd amount for dealer add-ons that weren't even on the truck.

1:32:03So obviously I refused that and they did me a favor and took off the cost. Next up in finance, I was repeatedly adamant about no service plan and no lojack. It was nowhere in any of the forms I signed and I read every word. I was in there for hours and they were annoyed with me. So they said that neither will be on my loan and they'll email me the electronic copies. I never received them. I get my loan paperwork in the mail weeks later, and I was shocked to see nearly 4 ,000 more than what I had signed for. Oh my god, this company. It took months and a dozen of calls to the dealer, but they refunded a majority of the service plan, and they promised the LoJack would follow, but never did.

1:32:42Here we are a year later. I've reported them to the attorney general, BBB, corporate, with zero results. They no longer take my calls or respond. They did eventually send my electronic forms a year later and they absolutely transferred my signature twice without my knowledge or consent. Fraud. There is zero chance I signed to these forms. I'm not the only one that has had fraudulent add-ons in Surprise, Arizona. If you did also message me, I may be taking legal action. A small update on the damages to my truck. While it was in for warranty work, they refused to take accountability, but I've heard from dozens of other peoples that they had bizarre, unexplainable damages to their vehicle as well while it was in for service.

1:33:22I'm compiling evidence that this has been happening for years. I have audio recorded every single interaction with this company from the beginning. They are in such a deep hole and there is indisputable evidence of financial fraud, not just on my loan, but on others that I've spoken with as well. Sue them. Damn. Sue them. That is insane. This company, how are they getting away with this for so long? oh my god unreal unreal and it's crazy because they would like probably just keep getting away with this if they didn't do things that were so obvious like unavoidably obvious yeah i am shocked by this ford used to be like synonymous with like a good deal good value good car but like to go in and then like you're trying to get yourself in an affordable car and then you get a surprise $4 ,000 add-on.

1:34:13Yeah. Fraud. That's just, they're con artists. Like that is insane. Yeah. It's really, really slimy. Yeah. And like not sending like the paperwork that you've signed and being like, oh, that guy didn't say this. And that guy didn't say that. It's like, I hope that this, that this blows up on social media because that seems to be sometimes the only thing that people take seriously. I know. Completely unique experience. Quite odd. Yeah. I wonder how many people have had that happen to them and their car at the dealership. Clearly a few at that dealership. But I don't know if they've had the like sex, like the scratch marks and the jizz and the blood and the indents and the, oh my God.

1:34:58I know. I can't wait till you guys see these pictures they're pretty they're pretty damning they're pretty as far as evidence goes like that is some evidence well and the fact he's already had that clean those are pictures like oh yeah like the thing well those are probably taken before it was clean but even the scratch marks and yeah like the third party being like yeah no we can't repair that like it's replace only yeah like that's still there then and even if you clean it it's like how deep of the cleaning can you really get at the end of the day well yeah you can't and if like the foam was crushed or torn like that's damage to the foam or whatever material the seats and stuff's made out of but that's just like so disheartening to like you spend your hard-earned money on this brand new vehicle and then by no fault of your own it's extremely damaged yeah which should be such an exciting experience yeah really cool and I know yeah it's so sad when people are like like just so rude about your property too like have you ever been in your car when someone doors you i don't know oh my god i was at i don't even remember where like nordstrom rack or somewhere shopping i'm sitting in my car like getting ready to go out or i'd just gone back in my car dude in a white tesla rolls up whips his door into the side of my car and i'm in there and i rolled out my window and i was like are you fucking serious oh my god i literally like i just instant rage.

1:36:22Yeah. And I'm like, are you fucking serious? And he just goes, sorry. And walks away. Well, give me your insurance, asshole. Oh, my God. Are you fucking kidding me? I've been like, I had someone back into me and it was like, I honestly think it was like 18 year olds. And they were like, oh, my God, I'm so sorry. I was like, it's fine. And I drove away because my car is like so beat up that I was like, I'm not going to ruin their day over the God I know I had a person rear end me and it just was like too much for me to deal with and it was like a tiny bumper dent scratch and I'm just like I can't my bumper is already so messed up that I was just like that was my old car I'm just like uh but but if I had a new one best believe I would be like hey give me your insurance your insurance okay moving on we've got another one that's quite interesting.

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1:39:15That one. Are you sure? Okay, well, tell me I did the other one. I'm really into that one. Or my brother-in-law invited me and my husband to an orgy. That's really compelling, too, but I think the psychic. Like, that's—I think I'm into the psychic thing right now. The psychic? Yeah. Okay. Sorry, guys. I feel like they're going to want the other one. It'll be on Patreon. It'll be on Patreon. I'll give it to you next on Patreon. Perfect. That's how we'll remedy that one. Okay. So this is coming from r slash wedding shaming. Five days old. Bride invited half the guest list two weeks before the wedding because her psychic said the energy was too crowded.

1:39:53I'm still processing this. The wedding was supposed to be this Saturday in Asheville. Was supposed to be. My cousin Vanessa has always been into spiritual stuff. Crystals, tarot, astrology, whatever. Fine. Not my thing, but you do you. But about six months ago, she started seeing this spiritual advisor who she treats like a therapist, life coach, oracle, all rolled into one. The wedding planning has been pretty normal up until last week. 200 people invited, venue booked, catering confirmed. I'm a bridesmaid, so I've been somewhat involved in the planning. Last Tuesday, Vanessa sends out a group text to the bridesmaids saying we need to have an emergency call.

1:40:36We get on Zoom and she tells us that she had a session with her psychic and the psychic told her that having over 80 people at the wedding would disrupt the spiritual alignment of the union and create energetic blocks in the marriage. She said she and her fiance, Matt, decided to cut the guest list down to 75 people two weeks before the wedding. We all kind of sat there in silence. Finally, one of the other bridesmaids asked how they were deciding who to uninvite, and Vanessa said the psychic helped her create an energy compatibility chart for all of the guests. Anyone who wasn't in alignment with their vibrational frequency got cut.

1:41:21This included Matt's entire extended family except his parents, most of Vanessa's co-workers, and about half of our family, including my parents. my parents who already bought plane tickets and booked a hotel yeah it's two weeks before she sent out a mass email that night not even individual messages just a group email that said something like after deep spiritual consultation we've decided to honor our authentic truth by creating a more intimate ceremony no if you have received this email it means your energy is not aligned with our sacred union at this time. Please respect our journey. That's so crazy.

1:42:06People are losing their minds. Matt's mom called my mom crying. Multiple people are demanding their gifts back. Matt's brother posted something on Facebook about it, and Vanessa's response was to post a quote about releasing toxic energy. Oh my god. Here's the kicker. I didn't get uninvited. I'm still a bridesmaid, but my parents aren't invited anymore. I asked Vanessa how that makes sense, and she said, your energy is evolved beyond your parents' energy. It's not personal. I told her I'm not coming if my parents aren't invited, and she said that's my choice, but I'm choosing fear over love. Then she asked if I'm still doing my bridesmaid duties this week because they need help setting up.

1:42:55The wedding is in four days. Last I heard, about 30 people have confirmed they're still coming. The venue won't refund them because it's too late. Matt seems completely checked out. His family is furious. And Vanessa keeps posting Instagram stories about honoring your truth, even when others don't understand. I don't even know if this wedding is still happening at this point have they joined a cult this sounds like a cult like already i do think that there are god i even like know someone who i don't want to give too much away but they were like seeing somebody for one thing and then that person started giving them advice on like food and advice on like this and that and like life things and and it got to a place where it's like, why are you going to this person, not a therapist, by the way, like about all of these things and they're like making the decisions about your life.

1:43:53And it's hard because I like want, I want to give people the freedom to like believe in what they believe in. And like if they're into a little bit of like a woo woo type thing, that's okay. But like to this extent, no, this is absurd. This is someone who's like taking advantage of you because obviously like this has not made your wedding better. This has ruined your wedding. It's ruined the whole thing. And like in relationship, it's, it's hard to know. Cause like some people do just like deeply believe in stuff. And like, I believe in the power of psychics and I believe in, you know, certain woo woo things, but totally at the same time, I wouldn't let someone convince me like, oh, all of these people are negative and you need to cut half them out and need to embrace people that are only on your frequency, blah, blah, blah.

1:44:38Like at that point I'd be like, oh yeah, I know this person is taking advantage of me. But like, it does sound like a cult. People do get sucked into cults. Like the other day, Kaylin was talking about Scientology and how like, she accidentally like went through the courses and like literally paid for some of the courses. And wait, how was it like, she's got, she had to like disguise to something else. Yeah. She like got invited to hang out with a friend and the friend was like, Oh, you're already here. You want to go to this meeting with me? And it was a Scientology meeting. And so like, I get when people can get into cults and like oh totally you kind of lose sight of like reality but it's like it's hard to tell it's like is it that is it a mental health crisis like why is the fiance so okay with this because if justin woke up one day and was like oh no we need to cut half the guest list yeah i'd be like what's going on let alone oh this is two weeks before the wedding our money's gone.

1:45:32Deposits have been paid. Everything's locked and loaded. Yeah. So what? It's such a negative place to start a marriage off of. And yeah, I mean, there are a lot of people, I think, who are susceptible to the kind of language that a cult uses or like, like, oh, you're a special person. You're in. You're so much more evolved than all these other people. And like, you should only be around xyz and and the reason that this hasn't worked out for you isn't your fault but it's because of like these people not being good like like that obviously that sounds nice and like people who are you know either experiencing a hard time with something or having insecurities about something like it sounds very good to hear that and actually you're such a special person like who who doesn't as a child think that they're a special person i don't know i i it's it's tough And I don't like blame the people who end up in those situations because I think it can happen to a lot of different people.

1:46:34It doesn't mean like, oh, if that happens to you, you're stupid. No, no. I think it's honestly, I think the past couple of years have really shown us how easy it is to fall into cults. And like, yeah, cults are cults because they're good at marketing and they know what language is going to suck people in. So I do think you can fall into a cult or a way of thinking and still be a smart person. like it's yeah it sucks though it's because like what do you do as a family member or as like that bridesmaid you don't go hell no yeah hell no we then it's like are you not giving them like if they're getting I guess we don't actually know that they're in a cult but if they're getting like sucked into a situation where they need to still have people from their regular life to like try to logic with them like is just cutting them off like I know because I think they say like you shouldn't cut people off especially in times of crisis but crises well but um this might be the wake-up call she needs because there hasn't really been a crazy thing like this yeah so this might be the oh no your actions are gonna have consequences enjoy your wedding oh my god wait I saw a tweet today let me make sure this is real and that I wasn't looking at pub base or something like that Kim Kardashian expresses her frustration in new TikTok vlog over psychics who told her she would pass the California bar exam only to fail but it's like maybe it'll be a moment like that where it's like okay they clearly lied to me like this isn't making my wedding better but also this was so funny oh my god I just saw it today I saw like and this could be a rumor but allegedly she used like chat GPT to study for the bar too.

1:48:19I think just like girl take out your fucking book. I think she said that. I think she actually said that she will ask chat GPT like law questions. It's like you are not going to pass if you need to do that. Like you should be the one knowing it. I don't know. I want to like study the way she did where you just like study in your free time. yeah with like a private team yeah like i i've like thought about that like now that i'm not doing ot like what other side quests can i kind of do like that would just be interesting i still want to take that civics class from harvard with you we talked about that yeah i want to do that um i like any kind of like archaeology type stuff like those are fun yeah i've used it um edx before and then you can do a bunch of different like like harvard does classes through them like all types of colleges do classes with them and a lot of them are free and then if you want to get a certificate in it you pay for like the certificate version yeah yeah that makes sense yeah i just want to like i know being a lawyer is hard i know the bar is hard like aljandra studying for her lsat like that was insane i want to like just take one just to like see the vibe like how bad take a class or take the test just like a little lsat just like how bad just a little just like to see i'm just like so curious what the questions are like the logic games were so insane interesting i have no idea what it consists of besides like playing l woods and legally blonde the musical my sophomore year of high school that's like that's a flex the closest i know okay easy 175 i know she got 175 in the musical no i just like i'm i'm a little bored right now i'm finding that I need a hobby.

1:50:01Let's we can do sewing. I know I did learn how to sew ish like I can turn it on and press the pedal and do a straight line. So I need to like that's a huge starting point. Start going to some classes. Hobbies are really important. Yeah I'm probably sewing just not the law school route. I don't have to I don't have time for that realistically but I'm just curious about it. Yeah well that's I think that's beyond like a hobby that's like I know I don't need it. That my basic contracts well enough and then I have a lawyer so I'm fine I'm just so curious like you know this this little study on the side baby bar method I'm just curious I do think she is like spending a lot of time on it I just don't think it's the same as like full-time going to school yeah no very different and clearly it's not working out for her so no top comment on this one Don't go to that wedding Don't help She's crazy Tell her that she is bad energy for you Ooh, that speak her language a little bit Try to communicate with her in a way she understands I actually think your vibrations have been low lately I think something about your oracle She's disrupting your energy And it's not putting out what people would like to receive I think I see a darkness coming out of your aura that wasn't there before Maybe be next comment down and what kind of doormat allows his entire family to be cut from the guest list yeah his name was matt oh doormat you know what there was a guy i was talking to named matt and he had me put his name in my phone as not a doormat because i needed to hear that i guess not a doormat you needed to stand up for yourself a little bit um a lot of comments just people like so she thinks you'd still want to show up and provide free labor when you have said you won't come to the wedding that's a new level of entitlement like basically just like this this gal has lost all sense of reality i would love an update with this one op did delete the post op did delete their account i bet they found it and it's become like a Family drama Yeah Good old family drama That's hard because if you're someone's bridesmaid Like you're very good friends And if I had a friend go through this I would be concerned about them Like obviously there's the root of you're an asshole And you're being crazy But it's also like Are you in a situation where this like Oracle person is taking advantage of you?

1:52:31Like I would also do my best to try to reach them In a way about what's going on And be like hey I'm worried about you Like this can't be good I don't know Something's gotta give otherwise I mean that guy's got to call it like if she wants to live this spiritual life then she can do it but you're cutting off half your family for what like for her delusions no it sounds like he might also be kind of in it like it said that they they talked and they agreed on who they'd remove from the list true so I don't know all of these have been incredible experiences I don't think a single one of them is a unique experience that I'm jealous of.

1:53:11No. They all are completely unique experiences and thank God for that. Can't tell which one I'd hate the most. Oh God. I mean, I'm just like, I'm mad by them all. Like the car dealership one, the cat one really set me off from the jump. That one was really brutal. All of them. The anatomy textbook. Do you remember where we were when that happened? That was like a lifetime ago. Feels like ages ago. Where were you when you first started that story? I wish I didn't hear it. I wish I could unhear some of these. But that's all I got, you guys. We are headed over to Patreon with this very same theme, some unique experiences.

1:53:51We've got some good ones. Again, just kind of crazy, weird. I really like the stories that we did on the bonus episode. I know, they're really good. And one of these, obviously that I teased is going to go over there. So I'm going to record that right now. But thank you so much for being here another episode and head over to Patreon if you want more. There is a free story, one that I teased with Sal. That's going to be over there as a free story. So come on over and join us. But other than that, until next time. Bye.

1:54:42We'll see you next time.

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