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30:17Fast forward to now. We're expecting our first baby. As excited as I am, I'm also deeply saddened that my mom won't be here to guide me through this. We always talked about what my kids would call her. We had settled on grams. Now to the incident. We were celebrating our pregnancy dinner at my in-law's house, and my mother-in-law asked to make a toast. She laughed and said, quote, I'm so grateful to celebrate a new addition to our family. We can't wait to meet little Veronica, which is her name. She went on to talk about her own pregnancy and what I should expect, mentioning that my husband had an abnormally big head when he was born.

31:01Then she said, quote, I look forward to being the favorite grandma to Veronica, since of course I'll be the only grandma. The room went silent. I started to cry. I stood up and I told her how incredibly insensitive it was to say that, and that my mom would always be a grandmother, whether she's here or not. She responded by saying I was overreacting and that it's just a joke, I told her to go to hell and left immediately. My husband later called me, saying he spoke to his mom, who was in tears because she was embarrassed. She asked him to apologize on her behalf, and he told me I should have came back instead of telling her to go to hell and storming off.

31:46I'm currently staying with my sister, and I haven't stopped crying since. She supports me 100%, but I really want to know, am I the asshole? Number one, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Don't think for one second that you are. Even to question if you are the asshole is insane to me. I think that this woman is absolutely bonkers nuts out of control. And I mean, I'd like to first of all say, I think I'm so proud of you for even standing up in that moment because as a people pleaser, I would have just like held on to it for a little bit. Yeah. She really did it with her chest and said that.

32:29And like, I'm very proud of you. Yeah. Like good for you. Cause she needed to hear that in that moment. And obviously she has no boundaries. None. You know? So like somebody has to fucking punch her in the gut in a moment or she'll just continue doing it. But she seems unstoppable in that way. So like. unstoppable and enabled like now your husband who should have your back is like oh well you you know you're overreacting and she's embarrassed and she sends her apologies but you shouldn't have stormed off you shouldn't have told her to go to hell it's on you no i don't think it's on me we're not gonna call our baby your mom's name veronica we when has that been discussed and And then she's trying to fucking psychologically warfare me with saying you had a big head.

33:22So great. That's going to make me feel good. I already got to worry about a fucking watermelon coming out of me. Great. Now I got to deal with a big head. Thanks. Okay. And then she's the only grandma because my mom's dead. Go fuck yourself. Go to hell. Go to hell. You rot in Satan's little prison. You deserve it. Yeah. Agreed. I think that it borders on the line of like insecurity and narcissism. It's definitely coming from a place of like deep insecurity because like otherwise like why are you threatened by another grandma that's gone? Gone. Gone. Gone. Like are you that insecure? Is it even about the grandma being dead or is it about me being a woman and being in the mix?

34:07You know what I mean? Like does the death mean anything to you or is it just that I'm existing in this family? Like I think that she's threatened. in many ways, but, you know. I mean, she, our writer here, OP, is coming between the mom and her son. So maybe there's some jealousy, insecurity there. Has to be. Maybe she's, like, super beautiful or, like, you know, the attention has been taken a little bit or something. She needs that. I could see that. Yeah. Because I would, like, be very curious if you asked her, like, in the moment, Veronica, if you were dead, you wouldn't be a grandma? Mm-hmm.

34:44Hope nothing happens to you. period. Like I would, in that moment, like I, Oh, I would, I would be so hurt. And me too. I'm a people pleaser too. Like I've been in kind of awkward situations like this where shit gets said to you and you just kind of like, yeah, but you hold on to it. You have to deal with it eventually. Yeah. But like nice for her to like actually say something in the moment. I want this energy. Like I want to be this big of a person. I can't do that. Like I'll take like a week and then I'll be like, you know, but also it's like, it's your partner's problem. It's not really yours, you know?

35:16No, but it's like it becomes yours when like your partner doesn't have your back. Doesn't do anything about it. Yeah, and it's like that's your family of origin. Like that is who you're supposed to deal with. Yeah. I'm your person. You're supposed to have my back, especially when it comes to your family. Because dealing with a mother-in-law like that, it'll only get worse if you're the enemy. Yeah. And like your angel son is like the, you know, like God's gift to the earth. Yeah. Like, it'll never get better. No, and it, I mean, she says, like, I've never had a great relationship with his mom.

35:49It's only going to get worse. She probably hates you. Now you've got a baby. Yeah. Which, yeah, oh my God, I've read stories on Reddit, too, in past episodes where, like, the mom does not like daughter-in-law and, like, talks shit about the mom to the kids. Like, grandma loves you so much more than mommy. Like, what? Like, it's giving, like, Monster-in-law, that movie with, like— Oh my God. Jane Fonda. Jane Fonda. I love that movie. Like you win. You win. Are we done? Like we're good. Yeah. Like can we be done with this? Like it's exhausting because it's their battle. You're just like appeasing them.

36:28Yeah. And that sucks. Top comment on this one. Your mother-in-law said something severely inappropriate and insensitive. No person in their right mind would think that she was okay. no matter how many years have passed since your mother's death. Hell, my grandmother passed away 10 years ago, and when my son was born two years ago, my mom and I talked a lot about how much we missed her and how we wished she was here to see him. We still say this often. When he's reached a milestone or even if we're just doing something we know that she would have enjoyed, we say this. It's natural to think about deceased relatives more at a time like this, and she says something as callous as that, not the asshole.

37:14And next comment down says, and she can apologize herself, not through her son, which that pisses me off. You're going to make your son apologize for you? No, no, no. You're saying it to my face. You're not getting off easy. Yeah. Cause both of you don't mean it at that point. You know what I mean? I think that she's unfixable and I think that he's unfixable as well. She's not going to ever take blame or apologize or mean it. If she says that she doesn't mean it. Yeah. And he's just doing it to keep the peace because he's like, oh, these two girls in my life, you know, proofs of the pudding. Like, show me.

37:51I know. I don't have to tell you. No. And that's how like all of these like life proof is in the pudding. Like your actions need to demonstrate you actually give a shit. And like my feelings were We're validated. Like, you heard me. Exactly. Look at what happened. Like, this is not wrong to you? Hello? We do get an update. Gag. We get an update. Tell me they divorced. Just want to take a moment to say thank you all for your support. Your comments and messages have been incredibly eye-opening. Oh, my God. After staying with my sister for a few days, my husband came over. He said he understood why I was hurt, but felt that I overreacted.

38:33No. He asked me to apologize to my mother-in-law to keep the peace, which felt like a betrayal. I had hoped he would stand up for me. That night, my mother-in-law sent a long text doubling down on her joke and saying, my grief is becoming a burden on everyone. Oh, girl. She told me that I need to seek professional help and move on since it's been almost a year. I was devastated. Oh my God. Almost a year. Not even a year. Has she lost anyone in her life? How insensitive is that? I already know I'm going to be catatonic. Podcasts will not exist for quite some time after. I'm just like, what? Fuck off.

39:26Hate her. Hate her. I showed my husband the message, but he got angry at me for escalating things. He said I should make peace with her for our child's sake and that he didn't want to be caught in the middle. I've decided to take some space and stay with my sister. I'm really struggling to come to terms with this. This whole situation has made me question if my marriage is right for me and my baby. I need an environment where I feel respected and supported, and I don't feel that way right now. I told my husband that if he wants me back, he needs to show me he can stand up for me. I'm putting myself and my baby first.

40:06I don't know what will happen next, but I know I deserve better than this. My sister and I are currently turning her old office into a room prepping for Rosie's after my mom Rosa's arrival. I feel truly blessed to have her support. Thank you again for all your support. It has meant more than you know. I mean, he's got to really do some shit. I don't, for me, I hold grudges. I'm like you. So do I. I like can move past it. I never like, and this is like, I maybe should work on this, but like, I don't truly forgive and I don't forget, but I just like, I move on. Like, I don't have time to deal with that.

40:48And like, you're not worth wasting any of my energy or another thought on. Yeah. So like, for me, this would be very hard to recover from. With a baby, with him. Yeah. I mean, you have to co-parent. Like that's in your future now. But also don't have to forgive or forget. No. To co-parent. No, You just have to do well. exactly yeah like be a good co-parent yeah but to be with him again like I don't like you I hate you actually but like loves that you better pay show up yeah you know all the days and all that stuff yeah no I'd rather co-parent than have to sleep with him again yeah oh my god there's no chance oh I'm so once that's done it's like I'm so icked out I repulsed kill me repulsed don't touch me you know what it's so funny like your sister obviously is a blessing here.

41:40Oh my God, huge. You know? So you have that backpack, backbone, whatever. Like you have her. Do that. But you know, if you really, really, really, really, really love him, then he's going to have to really, really, really, really, really do a lot to prove himself. Because you always know what you felt with him during this time. So like, he's going to really have to turn a corner, which is like kind of hard for guys. I know. Especially like his stance that he made. I overreacted. You're taking your mom's side. Like sucks. I know. Because it seems like he's just a goner. He's a goner. It would be very hard to come back from this.

42:27I don't know. Like he would definitely, he would have to move mountains. And I mean, for me, it seems like he's very attached to his mom. mom like you guys marry her you guys marry your mom literally i think some of these people should and some of the moms would they'd want that they would love to marry their sons some of the boy mom content that's online like i'm like you actually recorded that edited that yeah watched it back again and then posted that yeah you're in love with your son you're sick yeah like oh my god is disgusting prison i don't know like he needs to cut his umbilical cord from his mom like something's got to give.

43:05But this post is a year old. We have no further updates. I thought you said seven months ago. This one's a year old. Oh my God. So she's had the baby. Oh Jesus Christ. If you're out there. Please. We need another update. We're like so invested. Where are you? Did he come around? What happened? God bless the sister. That's all I'll say. I know. I know what it's like to have a sister to fall back on and damn, like that's very lucky. Huge. Yeah. I mean, having that village when your partner. She could have nothing. She could still be in that with that guy. God forsaken mom. I know. Horrible. Horrible.

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45:43Vain. Weird word. My wife, 29 female, and I, 31 male, have been together for 10 years. We have three children, nine, seven, and five. My wife was never someone to really dress up or put that much thought in her looks. She's always been beautiful, but never did much to highlight it until recently. She went through this crisis of feeling like she didn't have a personality outside of being a mom, something like that. So for the last two years, she started traveling more, joining different groups, dressing really nicely, wearing makeup. I never realized how much of a difference it would make, but people treat her completely different.

46:25She is constantly getting complimented, told that she should be in magazines. She'll come home and happily tell me about the random stranger who was so nice to her. She'll randomly get gifts. Lady at her job brought her a book series she was even interested in. She gets hit on. When we go out, all these dudes want to buy her drinks. Even my family has noticed. And all of a sudden, it seems like they're wondering how I ended up with her. Honestly, it's a bit overwhelming for me and something I'm just not used to. It's kind of become annoying. Anyways, she was going out with friends and she asked me how she looked.

47:07I said, fine. She seemed disappointed with this. My sister was over and commented that I should hype her up. I said, why? Why should I do that when the world already does? That I don't want her thinking too highly of herself and becoming more vain. You're a pussy. I hate this man. My sister looked shocked and said, that's fucked up. It is. said that's low-key abusive and that I'm an asshole. Yes. I think she's overthinking it, but I decided to get some outside opinions. So am I the asshole? You're an asshole. You're a pussy. You're a bitch. You have been with this woman for 10 years, you said.

47:5310 fucking years. She gave him three kids. She's hot as hell now. Step up. You get hot too. Stop being insecure. Stop trying to put her down. How do I look? Fine. Girl, you know that she looks fucking bomb as shit. You're a pussy. Fine. He's trying to take her confidence down. He's trying to - Bring it back to his level. He's trying to humble her. She doesn't - Oh my God. Even the family notices that she's more confident, more sexy, more whatever. Too good for him. She's too good for him. Girl, step up or get away from her because she doesn't deserve that. Like, I hate you. Hate him. I can't stand this.

48:41It's just like so toxic, so insecure. And it's not his job to humble her. It's like, why? Yeah, why don't you step up? Like you're watching her. Yeah. Like, oh my God, she's so hot. Yeah. You can't step up exactly like what you said. Yeah. Well, and it's really annoying because I think a lot of like moms go through that where they're like, I don't know who I am outside of being a mom. Like she's got three kids, nine, seven, and five. They're finally at ages where they're a little more self-sustaining. They're all in school. And so she's finding herself again after maybe being a stay-at-home mom and that being all she had.

49:23Right. And that is a lot. That's such a big burden. So now she's like, she's traveling a bit. She's joining different groups. She's dressing up and you're threatened. so you're going to then take her back down. Right. She outgrew you, clearly. She is. Yeah. Like, and that is, that's life. Like, you grow constantly with a partner. So it's like, why are you not trying to grow? Why are you not traveling with her? Why are you not going to events or a hobby? Like, why aren't you stepping up? I hate this kind of man. I hate it. It's so insecure. He should be clapping for her, taking her photos. oh my god like look at you power mom three kids this is our life my jaws just dropped you guys like i'm just like i'm i'm just slack jaw like i just like don't know what to think it's sad i mean you carry you carry three kids i can't even imagine having one child let alone having three and then leveling up afterwards like she's got this woman is a superhero like yeah no you carry one child lazy ass and then don't put me down how dare you and he gets to reap the rewards like you get a hot ass wife who's cultured and interesting exactly and fun yeah and you're complaining about it for being amazing like i am too good for you my family is right and she's gonna start to realize it the more you act like that she should i mean this guy this guy he needs a reality check.

50:54He sure does. Hardcore. Comments do give it to him. Yeah. Okay. Let's hear. Let's hear. Let's hear. Overall vote. Asshole. Luckily. Yep. Top comment. You're the asshole. Dude, if your wife doesn't think or know or hear you express that you think she's beautiful, then what's going to stop her from leaving you for someone who does tell her that she's beautiful and treats her wonderfully. Your wife is beautiful and you thought she was great, even without all the makeup and the new style and the new interest. Now that she has all of those things and what you feel left behind do you take in the mix though you're not left behind like you probably sleep next to her every single day like you're losing it you're not a pity invite like she's she chose to go through life with you exactly like if she went away for the weekend with a girlfriend or whatever you'd be like she left me like would you appreciate her more i know like you're writing in because she's hotter than you now i don't know how he thought he was gonna get a not the asshole.

51:54Sympathy from that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. The comment goes on to say, do you take any interest in her new interest? Travel at all with her? What are you doing to make sure your wife feels seen? Or are you just bitter that she is finally realizing how beautiful and interesting and worthy of all of this friendship and kindness from others and wondering where you stand in all of this? I think she's awesome for taking charge of herself and her life. She didn't feel like she was seen or acknowledged as anything other than mom. And did you do anything to make her feel like she was loved? A beautiful wife, like she is?

52:28And she endeavored to change that. And it's bearing beautiful fruit. Your wife is awesome. Are they in the room with us, that person? I know. Who just wrote that? Honestly, he needs to fuck off. Get into it or get lost, honestly. Because she's put up with enough. You know, a lot of you're the assholes. A lot of people being like, great strategy, dude. Treat her as if she doesn't matter and you don't see her as attractive so she can constantly be reminded that there are other people out there who do care about her and do find her attractive. Come back in a year or so and let us know how it works out.

53:02In the meantime, think about how you want the custody arrangements to work. Oh God. You're the asshole. He's totally the asshole. I mean, how could you not? Like, come on girl, look in the mirror. I know. There are a couple comments from OP Basically, he says, I'm just saying too many compliments can go to someone's head. I don't think she needs that. I mean, okay, I get it. Like sometimes even like with a friend or something, you're like, oh, people are blowing too much smoke up their ass. Like they need to be humbled. But she's had three of your children. That's your person. Like you should want to amp them up even if they're getting too much.

53:47the only reason that I would see that that wouldn't be acceptable is if she was like acting like a bitch or like treating him like shit being like anyways whatever like over you no but it doesn't seem like that no like I would want to build her up beyond and the more compliments she got the better I'd be like yes like you're everything I know you know he's very threatened I mean he tries to brush it off in other comments like I just don't want her becoming a person that only cares about looks, constantly trying to look her best. I don't want her seeking validation via compliments. I don't want her to become one of those girls that seeks validation or is fishing for compliments.

54:27He just keeps responding the same bullshit back to people again and again. There's multiple comments of him saying, I don't want her to seek validation. Guess what? Everyone likes to be complimented. Everyone likes to be recognized here and there for whatever it is. Dressing up one day, their accomplishments, being kind it feels fucking nice everyone likes their horn tooted here and there exactly beep beep you know what it kind of beep beep bitch it kind of feels like he liked her fat and pregnant I think he and maybe that's a control thing hello maybe that is a control thing she's under my thumb she's got kind of like you know little gas in her system she's feeling great yeah he's definitely grunt Like, mm-mm, too hot.

55:15You're too hot. You look too good. I'm nervous I'm going to lose you. Because now I'm old and fat. Dad Bob. Yeah. Get in the fucking gym if you're nervous about her. You know what worries me about him, too? Because of how deeply insecure he is. He's someone that, maybe this is a reach, you guys. But I feel like he could be one of those people that, like, has an affair as retaliation. To try to, like, stick it to her? Yeah, or like he's not feeling good about himself because his wife is so much hotter. And then he's going to go find someone who does make him feel hot. Like he's, he, I just, I worry about him.

55:56I worry about her. More so her. I do. Because she's stuck with him. Yes. And like, girl, like we got to, we really got to sort this out. Like he is, you're living with enemy number one. And that's hard. Ain't that the truth. Yeah, like you used to be in love. We used to have all the fun in the world. And now you are my number one fan club hater. Yeah, husband is your biggest hater. So look at that, you know, that sucks. You want to live with someone that compliments you more than anyone else. Yeah. And he's telling you that you're getting complimented too much. Yeah, you look fine. Fine, just fine.

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59:48You've still got a good 10 years of sex kitten left in you. Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew. I was shocked, completely baffled. The whole table went quiet, and I couldn't even look around, but I knew that they were staring at me awkwardly. My boyfriend and his dad were laughing hard. It got so overwhelming for me, I excused myself, got up, took my stuff, and started making my way out. My boyfriend followed me while asking where I was going and why. I stood at the door and pointed out his dad's comment about my age. He said that his dad is just like that, brutally honest and tells it like it is, and so I shouldn't take it personal.

1:00:32I told him it was personal because it felt like he was rating me and my functions as a human based on age. He was like, come on. Do you always have to be so dramatic? Let it go. It was nothing. He told me to go back inside, but I decided to go home. He was livid. He sent angry texts talking about how disappointed he and his family were by how I walked out and disrespected them and gave them the wrong impression about me. He also said I ruined his birthday and overreacted to nothing. And I should have just laughed it off. He's demanding that I reach out to his family with apologies and make it up to him.

1:01:16Am I the asshole? Did I overreact? Um, yeah, you're the asshole. Just kidding. No, you're not. I think that there's a kind of girl that could take this from a dad and her boyfriend, clearly you are not meant to be in this family. Yeah, that would just gross me out. Like, I don't want your dad envisioning - But some girlfriends, like, get off on that. You know what I mean? Like, it's like - Your dad thinks I'm hot, huh? Yeah, it's like fun. Like, oh yeah, like I'm hotter than my age, whatever. But like, clearly you can't take it. And this is not the family for you. No, and that's okay. Like, I wouldn't want this energy.

1:01:56I wouldn't either. But some girls like that. I would never. Like, good for you for leaving. Yeah. And standing your ground, again, like holding that boundary of like behavior you're willing to put up with and like, that's unacceptable behavior. So I'm removing myself. That's fine. Bye. And you know what? You know what pissed me off about that too? Why do you always have to be so dramatic? I've known you for months, right? Months. always so dramatic and you brought me into a situation where I was so pressured and then demeaned me like sexualized me in a way yeah that I had to leave like that's shitty well and I think it's like even more so apparent and important like to highlight this like she's 36 she's not 86 she's not 96 like she's 36 and so the fact that like he's he is tying her looks and all of this to like oh you're 36 wow I thought you'd look a lot worse wow like what the fuck I'm not dead I'm 36 like come on they need prison that whole family needs prison I just like the monkeys and like flying monkey mentality of like people running and like you need to apologize to them I'm not saying anything to them no no he needs to apologize to me that was uncomfortable absolutely Ugh Top comment on this one Not the asshole His dad called you a sex kitten Wait He did?

1:03:30That's what he said Did I miss that part? Dad looked at her and said You've still got a good 10 years of sex kitten left in you I'd be to actually throw up That's disgusting Sex kitten And the boyfriend took the dad's side Oh he was laughing really hard That is so sick that dad is manipulative and has like a... He's like one of those pervy joke dads. Like you've been around one or two. I feel like everyone has. And they just like constantly make sexual jokes. And it's just like... They think it's fine. This is enough. Yeah. Oh my God. Thank God you weren't like touched or anything. Because I feel like that dad would like take it to like the...

1:04:10Oh, under the table. A little hand on your leg. Exactly. I like how to look up sex kitten. I'm just like, what? I've never like heard that. used. It gives like stripper vibes, sex kitten, like woman of the night. It's very like, it's definitely an older term, I think, but it's a young woman who asserts or exploits her sexual attractiveness. Yeah. He fucking wishes that she would. She's just existing. Just chilling. Yeah. I'm here. I was invited to a birthday party, which is also a lot. Don't you think? To meet them for the first time? Yeah. Not like an intimate gathering. I know like there was a lot of people there.

1:04:50And like she's an introvert. I get that. It's very insensitive. I like, I just, no. Like it should have been more one-on-one and like easygoing. Even if you were with him for like five years, let's say, to go to like everyone there is a lot. Yeah. Like that's intimidating. It is. And like the way he drew attention to her, like, oh, you sex kitten. The comment goes on to be like, his dad called you a sex kitten. And then they bowled this. an aging sex kitten. I also, I'm so sorry. I keep saying kitten weird. I'm sorry, you guys. Kitten. Kitten. Kitten. Everyone's gonna be like, what the fuck? I didn't notice till you brought it up.

1:05:27I'm like, why am I saying that? I just learned I said like hammock, hammock, hammock weird the other day. I'm like, I don't. You said hammock? I said hammock on accident. Really? Yeah. Sometimes I read too fast and I just like don't know what I'm saying. Oh, I think it's cute. I like it. Hammock. Hammock. Hammock. But yeah, like he's literally being like, Yeah, you still got a little time left in you, girl. Girl, what? How much time do you have in you, sir? One foot in the grave, bitch. Don't fucking comment on me. Yeah, don't comment on my looks, sicko. What about your wife? Like, what about your wife?

1:06:01Yeah, right? Like, that's so uncomfortable. Why are you saying this shit to me? Yeah, no, he needs to be put in his place. I'm very happy that she left. I know. But it seems like the son is in no place for a relationship. No, I don't think so. Nor is his family. She doesn't deserve those as her in-laws. No, and a lot of people are pointing out like the apple didn't fall far from the tree. And you should throw it far away. Like basically being like, if those are your in-laws and he's okay with it, he's laughing, like you're kind of getting a good preview. Right, exactly. Like if you go into this relationship, this is going to be your life.

1:06:38Yeah. Ugh. So there's one comment here from OP that is worth reading. Someone goes, not the asshole. This is how it will always be with his family. He thinks it's funny, so he will also be like this. I would break up and find someone more respectful. And OP goes, I'm afraid of this becoming the norm, especially with how he said that his dad is always like this. Yeah. I mean, can't change people. No. Sucks. No, but I feel like... I hope she doesn't really love this guy. No, I think based on that comment, I saw a breakup in the future. I hope so. We don't know for sure. There's no update. I pray that this girl gets better in her life because this is terrible.

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1:09:11Okay, I'm going to give you a choice on this next one. Okay. Okay. Option number one, am I the asshole for telling my husband he can't have his ex at our baby shower even though they're still friends? or am I overreacting for telling my boyfriend I won't be his free photographer anymore and sending him a rate sheet? Okay. Charging your boyfriend? You're the asshole. Okay, let's see. Right? I don't know. Has to be. What do you think? What do you think? I think you're going to get the context. I think - Come on. Okay, you ready? Yeah. What was the first one again? I'll just give it to you both. That'll be number two.

1:09:58We'll end with that one. The second one was more shocking. Okay. You're charging your boyfriend? You're going to love this. Would he charge him for going down on you? Like, what? You guys are in a relationship. You're going to love this. I'm 26 female, and my boyfriend is 28 male and trying to build a fitness page. When we started dating, it was cute. I'd hold the phone while he filmed deadlifts, pick a song, and we'd laugh at the outtakes. In the last months, it has turned into a whole operation. He texts me at 6.50 a.m., golden hour, question mark, and expects me outside with a tripod, two shirts, his shaker, and a towel.

1:10:45Saturdays, I'm at the park squatting in weird angles so his jawline looks sharp. Sundays, I'm in our hallway editing on CapCut while he plays Ranked. I don't even like being on camera, but people in the comments keep calling me Camera Girl like that's my name. I missed brunch once because he needed a second take in the stairwell. The neighbor walked by and I wanted to evaporate. I tried to set limits. I said one session a week. He heard daily. I asked him to learn the basics so he could run it solo. He said, my hands are steadier and my eye is better. Last week, he booked a brand shoot with a small supplement shop.

1:11:28He told them we could deliver 15 reels and 40 photos. We, as in - Hate this guy. Hate him. Hate him. Dead. Death. Prison. We, as in me, the unpaid department of everything. They gave him six tubs of pre-workout as payment. I'm allergic to caffeine and still ended up scrubbing chalk dust off my leggings for two hours. Poor girl. She must really love him. That night, he casually asked if I could stay up to color grade. No. It's just sliders, babe. I snapped. I told him I'm done being free labor, that I'm happy to help sometimes like a normal partner, but not manage your content calendar. I made a simple rate sheet,$35 per hour filming, 20 per hour editing, plus a cap at four hours a week.

1:12:25I sent it to him so it's clear and we don't fight. He got really pissed and said, I'm sabotaging his dream and making our relationship transactional. He says real couples support each other. What the fuck are you doing for me? And that if he had a big exam, I'd want him to quiz me. I said quizzing is 20 minutes, not a second job. Now he's giving me short replies and filming with a friend who DM'd me. Dang, you went corporate. Did I overreact by putting a price and boundaries on something that started as a favor? I think that you actually underreacted. And I, you know what? You can either, you can, what's that saying?

1:13:09You lead a horse to water. But you can't force them to drink. Yeah, exactly. Like, bitch, if this is your hobby, your dream, your whatever destiny, you can learn how to edit and shoot yourself. It's not hard. No. Like I could teach you in two hours and I'm sure that she could too. I could put you through bootcamp. Exactly. Like let's do. There's so much free shit on YouTube and TikTok showing you how to edit and use cap cut. Yeah. He's abusive. And her, I mean, even getting to the point of doing a spreadsheet of costs. Oh my God. Is a lot. That takes time. It does. And I feel like she should have been like, I'm not doing this for you anymore.

1:13:51We're going to hire you somebody or you're going to learn yourself. Go on Fiverr Go on Upwork Go look at other people's rates Yeah She was pretty competitive Those are good rates I thought so too $20 an hour for editing But not my boyfriend Who I'm seeing all the time You know what I mean Like ugh And he's just like Walking all over her And like If I got a text at 6.50am Golden hour Golden hour And I was expected to bring A tripod And your shaker blender For your protein shake Or your pre-workout No No, he's a bitch. Find somebody that you can pay for all that. Not your girlfriend. Like, that's not romantic anymore.

1:14:31No, and his buddy's not going to do it for free. I can't imagine his buddy does it for free. No, he's abusing her. And the fact, this was so crazy to me, 15 reels and 40 photos. And all he got was six tubs of pre-workout. Was that all he got though? In the back of my mind, I was like, you think he was was that all he got maybe a little something else under the table not cutting her in oh he clearly does not respect her like he's not gonna cut her into anything no fuck that guy hate him top comment nope didn't overreact bro wants a free employee but is trying to frame it as a supportive partner which is very manipulative it's so abusive like you're not what's your goal Is he supporting you?

1:15:23Probably not I know He tried to like play it off like Oh the quiz thing Like I would help you Yeah and so I'm kind of It's not equal though He's like very narcissistic A bunch of free labor editing Like that is That's a career for people That is like a lot of work for people But do it yourself Like it's really not that hard I think a lot of the best creators And a lot of the best like people out there Started on their own They learned how to do it from the ground up. And like that has also helped in their success. So learn how to do it. You know what? Also, not to be crazy, but know your worth.

1:16:01You are this man's career. I mean, you're the whole reason he has content. Exactly. That he's abusing you to do shit for free. You're like, I should be getting paid for this. Like, no, no. And the fact that you should be offering to pay for this. Yeah. And the fact that you keep getting called camera girl. That would piss me off. That would send me. I would be so resentful. Like, it's Morgan, bitch. Exactly. Come on. Or like, maybe I don't even know what a camera is anymore. Oh. Oops. Forgot. What's that button do? I don't have Final Cut anymore. Cap cut. Sorry. It deleted. I have no idea what to do.

1:16:39My phone doesn't allow me to have that app. I've not figured it out, yeah. How strange. So weird. There's no update. It's only nine days old. Oh send back So let us know It's fresh It's very fresh Very fresh So maybe we'll see a little something something soon I hope so But until then Fuck that guy That's all we got That's all we got But here we go Our other juicy one I teased you So this is titled Am I the asshole for telling my husband That he cannot have his ex at our baby shower Even though they're still friends I, 27 female, am pregnant with our first child. My husband, 30 male, is still friendly with his ex-girlfriend, 31 female.

1:17:24I don't mind that she's in his friend group, but when we were planning the baby shower, he casually said, quote, we should invite her too. She's part of our crew. I told him I'd be uncomfortable. He said I was being territorial and insecure and that not everything's about jealousy. Oh god It's not jealousy It's just weird to have the woman he used to love At my baby shower He told me if I start excluding people for feelings I'll drive everyone away Now he's sulking and saying I made things awkward Am I the asshole for saying no? No Mm-mm Um, god, I have so many failings Let him out I think that he is in love with her.

1:18:15Something's still going on. Mm-hmm. I see a comment here that I really, really love. What do you think? I think he's like harboring feelings. Like I understand still having that friend group and like she's in the friend group. So like if there's group hangs. Yeah, but this isn't a group hang. This is your intimate baby shower. you're celebrating your love and this little bundle of joy you created what does it have to do with your ex? Exactly. Why do you want someone Why are you fighting for her to be there? To fuck that. Like if I say no Yeah. Then it's a no. Like it's not a bigger issue. Like I said no.

1:18:56What if you said no? What am I going to fight for? I'd be like okay. What if you wanted your ex there? Exactly. Would you be okay with someone I used to be intimate with and sleep with? Love. Love. Yeah exactly. Exactly. Like I said, no, that's it. Period. She needs to be here. Why? Yeah. Top comment. I'd ask him why her presence means more to him than your comfort. He hates you. He loves her. He hates you. He doesn't respect you. I just don't understand how he's like, if you're going to start excluding people for feelings, you're going to drive everyone away. What does that even mean? It's like trying to drive you into the dirt for your feelings.

1:19:35Like a simple feeling of one person. Like I would rather be alone. Honestly, fine. Yeah, exactly. Also, it seems like this is the only person. Yeah. And it's because this was an ex that you loved. What are your feelings on staying in contact with exes? Like how many have you had? I'd say like three big ones. Oh, how many like relationships in total? Like I was like, you have like those awkward situationships. I'm like, you could count those. But true like boyfriend girlfriend Three big ones Okay Three big ones And do you still talk to any exes? Okay four big ones Okay Oh hello I'm like wait She forgot about one I'm like wait I'm starting to think There's one that like I'm friends with We don't talk If I run into him when I'm back home in Minnesota We're very cordial Love He was just someone that like I was able to lean on after another like bad breakup and we'd go golfing and just like hang out so we were actually friends after like he we had there was so much distance we'd both dated other people but like I don't reach out to them I don't talk to them right I wouldn't I wouldn't do that no and like my like my husband wouldn't care like I've told him like oh yeah I texted Dave because I had a funny story that you know related on the podcast and he's like that's that's hilarious but like I would never be like, oh, I want my ex at our baby shower or I didn't invite any exes to our wedding.

1:21:08Like I wouldn't cross lines. You know what? Also, like, I'm just thinking about this like a little bit deeper now. I feel like for him to say like, no, no, no, she should be at our baby shower. It's not all him. That's the issue. Cause like it must be coming at him from her too. Like we're having a baby shower. We're pregnant. She's like, well, I want to go. and then he's like defending her, trying to fight for her with his wife being like, no, no, she needs to be there because she's being like, why wouldn't I not be invited? That's so true. You know what I mean? Like she's the problem too. It's like he's weak.

1:21:45I wonder if she's in the background being like, oh my God, I'm so excited I get to come. But yeah, him not like being able to say like, oh, you know, you're not invited. I know. Do you think there's a world where like, Like, I mean, obviously mom, like OP, isn't comfortable. But like, you know, for some people, this might not be a big issue. Some people might be fine with their ex and like this friendship thing. Like, I don't know. I'm like, is there a world where this isn't weird? I don't know. Just goes back to what we were saying. The gut thing. The gut. If you feel like this is freaking weird, it's freaking weird.

1:22:22I know. But like maybe try to play it cool and like, you know, let her come and see what the vibe is. is she with anybody right now? Yeah. See how he acts around her. That's really true. And I guess how does she make you feel? Because I guess by not inviting her, it doesn't seem like things are like super great. Like, is this an ex that is still a little too comfortable with him? When you guys are all hanging out in a friend group. Yeah, you guys are married, but she's still touching his arm very affectionately. And prison. Inside jokes that you don't know. Hate inside jokes like that. Like shut the fuck up.

1:22:58What's the vibe? Yeah. Are they genuinely just friends now and happen to be in the same crew still? She needs to be respectful and know her place in line. I'm very curious what the dynamic is there. Yeah, because if she comes to the baby shower, say she is invited, whatever. And she like is trying to be like territorial or whatever. Yeah. Like girl, bye. You are never seeing my face again. No, that ship has sailed. But a lot of people in the comments are speculating like, hey, is there any chance they broke up over the issue of having a child? Like, people are like, that's kind of why he wants to invite her.

1:23:29Maybe he feels bad they couldn't have a baby, and he's just like, oh. I didn't even think about that. I mean, it didn't cross my mind, and I usually go down the rabbit hole very quickly. Gag. I know. A lot of people are speculating about it. Like, maybe the question of a child was what broke them up. It's bad form to have your ex at the celebration of your wife's baby shower. He seems bent on having the ex there. I want to know why. Yeah, I just— Guy— Respect your baby mama and your future child. Yeah. Come on. Well, and like, what's your intention? Like, I think that top comment where it's like, why do her feelings matter more than mine?

1:24:08Or it's like, why, what's your intention there? What are you trying? What even is this conversation? Like, why are we even like, even having a quote unquote fight about this? Why wasn't it just like, okay, I respect that. Yeah, I said no. All good. It's a no. Hear you, babe. Yeah. We'll have a good shower. Exactly. Like, choose your battles. I know. Very odd. Very odd. It makes me think there's something else going on. I would agree. You know. Hate the girl. Hate the guy. I just immediately go to hate. I mean, it's a strong feeling. It's easy to just like instantly be enraged. It's like, I just, I can't stand them.

1:24:43Be there for her. She's pregnant. Yeah. Come on. Bare minimum. Bare minimum. She literally like bow down to her. I know. So this post, it's coming from r slash comfort level pod. It has quite a few comments, 1.4k upvotes. But I think the person started to get maybe a little overwhelmed with the feedback they were getting because they did delete their post. They even went so far as to delete their whole Reddit account. Oh, my God. So we don't have any updates. We don't have any comments from them. So maybe the comments are giving them thoughts. And it's a little scary. Cause like you go to Reddit and you're like, maybe I am overreacting.

1:25:23Okay. And then people are like, you're not overreacting. Your husband sucks. Like blah, blah, blah. And then you're like. Too much. Too real. Yeah. Too real. Like is something going on? And I'm sure that's like, she's pregnant. Like I would spiral. Like what the fuck's going on? Yeah. Hard not to. Hard not to. Yeah. That's all we got. That's the show, baby. Blessed be. I really hope for this girl that she, you know, gets it together. I know. I would love an update on so many of these. Yeah. Especially, I mean, honestly, what I'm taking from my time here is that guys need to grow up. Okay. And we just, we put up with too much.

1:26:02There's definitely, there was a lot of people here, dudes that need to get a reality check and just support the women. Like, I know we have a lot of couples that like do listen together. And so Like, you guys, if you're listening to this show, like you're one of the good ones. But like, encourage your friends. Be better. Yeah. Do better. Don't be toxic. Yeah. Support your partner. Exactly. Like, get it together. Look inward. Look outward. It's not all about your toxic masculinity. And if I came off like really hateful during this. You're doing damage control now. I'm sorry. Like, I'm just thinking the whole time I was like, kill him.

1:26:43hate him break up with him no I gave you some like really horrible people I mean the theme was ugly hearts like they had some ugly ass hearts it was tough to even like for me to like step outside and be like well what if what if he's feeling this way like no hate him he's a bitch honestly these ones did not need a devil's advocate like they were just straight up the devil yeah well I hope that I hope that the people that wrote in heard this I'm gonna send them the link be like hey hey give me an update now the updates please oh my god that's like the fun thing about this show I feel like you just like wait for the updates I know well I will be honest I actually gave you more updates than I usually give my guests I didn't want to like I realized I had Sal from Impractical Jokers on a couple weeks ago and like I didn't realize how torturous it was for people to come on here and like not get an update I'm so used to it so I really tried to give you a lot of updates today I think that you should do that for a lot of guests, especially during the holiday season because it is like a Christmas miracle.

1:27:48Like I can't imagine hearing this like crazy detrimental problem and not knowing how they handled it. I know. Okay. I'll keep serving up the updates, guys. Gigi, where can people find you? I heard you have a podcast. You're back on your vlogs. Yes. Oh, I'm Gigi Gorgeous everywhere. G-I-G-I-G-O-R-G-E-O-U-S. Yes. Yeah. Filming again, doing all the things. You know how it is. Your vlogs are really cute, like really relatable. You're very open about everything you're going through in your life, which I really appreciate. And you said something in one that I listened to and you're like, I'm so bad with grief.

1:28:27I hate grief and loss. And I'm like, same, same. So two peas in a pod. You're very relatable and your content's amazing. Oh my God. Thank you. Well, I love what you're, what you do here. I think it's very relatable. and very conversational and fun. And I mean, girl, whoever writes into this is getting the tea. They are. The real honest review tea. I think so. I mean, not to toot my own horn, but like I think so. No, no, no, you're good. You're well-rounded. You're very like, I'm going to write in anonymously. Oh, there we go. A little throwaway account. All of Gigi's links will be in the description.

1:29:06Go and check her out. I mean, the gram too. Oh my God, you're gram. because I'm like, teach me how to fucking pose. So hot, but all in the description. Thank you so much for coming on. That's all I got, guys. Until next time. Bye. Update us. Update us.

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