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32:42You suck, own it, and leave Carla alone. Right. It's like she is just being cold to him. It'd be one thing if she were spreading this around the entire apartment and now everyone's cold to him. And then he's like, how do I fix it? What do I do? Him just having this fixation on one person he said he had no connection with being cold to him is like, what are you doing here? Get over it. I am beyond baffled. People really tear into him and they're like, Naya deserves better. I think maybe I don't know Naya. I don't know them. I don't know that woman. I don't know that man. I think like I get your point.

33:19Like if I bumped into someone and it was like you happen to be on a date. Right. I get getting someone's number, whatever. You're on a first date. You don't know that person. You're not committed. Cool. But it's the way he went back and was immediately texting her and then was like, yeah, this ain't going to work out. I'm not interested in you. Get through the date. It would still be nice. It's just always rude. But it's like sometimes maybe I'm thinking it's worth being a little rude in this moment because I think I just met my soulmate. I don't know. But then you got to like, you know, let that relationship die.

33:52I'm like, at least get through the date. Yeah. Be cordial. And then, you know, get through the date together. Yeah. But someone goes, Naya deserves better. And OP responds, I already give her the world. She would even tell you I am a great boyfriend. What? I know. I give her the world. He's actually responding to a lot of people. Account has been banned, but I'm on my little secret website that I can find old comments by. Apparently, he explains why he got so drunk. He got carried away because I didn't drink all of Lent and it was the day after Lent. Okay. I mean, yeah, maybe schedule that date on a different day then.

34:33What is Lent? 40 days, right? How long? Hard to know. Unknowable. No one could ever know. What? Is it 46 days? That is pretty long. That's a month and a half without a drop. That's a dry January and a half. It is. So it explains why, you know, he did get so drunk. But like, sure, again, use your brain. And your behavior now like shows me you're a weirdo. Yeah, I am not surprised that he's like responding to all of these comments. He's kind of got this Tinkerbell will die without attention type attitude. He's loving. He's loving this. I know. Even if it's negative. Well, and he really is trying to defend his honor because someone here says, if I was Carla, I would tell Naya that OP hit on her when she was on a date with her.

35:22OP is not trustworthy and is most likely going to cheat on Naya in the future. And OP's like, I've never cheated on anyone in any relationship that I've been in. Naya and I are doing fantastic. And it's unfair to judge my character because of one thing that happened a long time ago. If you and Naya are doing fantastic, you're incredible, then get off here. Get over it. OP, again, defending his honor. I'm not an alcoholic. I had lent. Right. That's going in the headcanon. He cares so much because it would make it less awkward. They see each other a lot. Instead of just sitting in an awkward silence anytime our dogs are playing, it would be nice to get along.

36:05Did he say if he's tried just a genuine apology yet? I can't recall. Did he say I've tried telling her I'm really sorry for being so rude. I'd like to be cordial. No comments about an apology. Maybe just give that one sentence a shot. I'd love that. We don't have an update on this one, so hopefully he figured it out. It's nine months old. Yeah. I'm sure he's doing great with Naya. Hey, if you're out there listening, here's a sentence for you. I am so sorry. That was incredibly rude of me. I understand why you don't like me, but I would love to feel cordial when we see each other at the dog park.

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37:20Coverage options are selected by the customer. Availability, amount of discounts, and savings and eligibility vary by state. Okay, number three. Here we go. This is titled, Am I the Asshole for Feeling Bad That My Marriage Announcement Was Stolen? So for years now, I've been saying that I don't want a wedding because they are so stressful and expensive and have so many traditions rooted in outdated beliefs. My alternative plan is to take my partner and my best friend, who is a photographer, to somewhere like Yellowstone, National Park, or Redwoods and get some really cool wedding photos and then send out cards to everyone saying, quote, surprise, I'm married, come celebrate with us at a reception.

38:08Back in May, it's currently June, I was at my friend's college graduation party. Let's call her Sarah. And the topic of weddings came up. For context, the friend graduating is the same best friend who is a photographer. And a mutual friend, Brittany of ours, who we've both known for years, was also a part of the conversation. I told them about my idea to elope in the woods somewhere and surprise everyone with a reception, and Brittany thought that it was, quote, hilarious. Flash forward to today, and I opened Facebook to see a post from Brittany saying, quote, surprise, we're married. Thank you, Lord, for blessing me with such a kind, loving, and gentle man.

38:55Huge thanks to Sarah for taking our pictures. P.S. We've been married for two months now. He he. Oh, with a photo shoot that was done by Sarah. My first thought was what the fuck? Because that is exactly what I wanted to do and have been saying to people for years. She not only stole my idea, but used the exact same photographer and even the words that I wanted to say. I texted Sarah, who I've been friends with for 15 years, and I asked her about Britney's situation. She said that she came up with the idea because she didn't want a big wedding and asked Sarah to take the pictures. I said, you know I've been talking about doing that exact thing for years and that I literally mentioned it with Britney and Sarah, you, at Sarah's graduation party in May.

39:48Sarah said she doesn't think Britney meant to steal anything and it's really not that deep, especially since I'm single right now, so it will be a while before I'm thinking about marriage again anyways. I don't even want to talk to Brittany about it because I don't want to rain on her happy moment and make it about me when she is celebrating her marriage. I feel so dumb and upset for talking about my plans that I was excited about and it feels like now if I do this thing that I've been wanting to do for years it will look like I'm the one copying Britney. And that's kind of a shitty thing to do, in my opinion.

40:26So am I the asshole for being upset? I kind of feel torn on this. Really? Okay. A little bit. Let me hear your thoughts. I don't think she's an asshole for being upset. Like this fully was a rip of sort of an intimate idea that she had. That was, you know, something she'd been talking about, was really looking forward to. But I also am like, if the social media aspect of it didn't exist, I feel like it wouldn't matter to just like take the idea, I guess, of getting married and then telling people after. Yeah. It's the social media because do you really have all of the same family and friends? Right.

41:04She's just bothered about the fact that now it'll look like she's copying her. also I don't know maybe I'm just online too much or whatever I don't think this is that original of an idea this sounds like kind of just going to bake like well it's just eloping right it's eloping and then just having a reception like shocker like that someone did that it's my sister normal she didn't have a wedding we just had a reception after thank you like it's very normal It's not this grand, crazy, original idea. Like, I want to go up in a hot air balloon. And as I'm peeking over the horizon, he proposes. And then Sarah's in the hot air balloon and takes pictures.

41:43And then we mail, like, I get. It's not that crazy. I think the reason I'm torn is I get being like a little, you know, like that immature voice inside you that's like, oh, that was my idea. And like, I told them about it. And now it won't be as unique. But then at the same time, it's like your idea is just eloping. yeah I think it's the fact that it was like okay we had this conversation yeah and you literally looked at me Brittany and Brittany told me that it was quote hilarious yeah and then she does it and then in my head I'm like did Brittany tell you it was hilarious because she was already planning to do this because I don't know like how long was in between because it does take a while to get all those cards made, printed, sent to you.

42:29I think it was quite some time in between. I think that she was saying that that was a long time ago that that conversation had happened. I think she's been saying that she wants to do this for years. Yeah. But it sounds like back in May, it's currently July. So May, June, July. Oh, she said back in May. Yeah, so a couple months at least. So she probably did get the inspo from her. Because also on the thing, Brittany said, P.S., we've been married for two months now. He he. So they've been married. Don't forget he he. He he. So they've been married since May. So I wonder if Brittany had already planned on doing this.

43:11And that's why she was like, hilarious. I mean, yeah, that's totally possible as well. Because again, it's not that original of an idea. Right. Yeah. Especially if like she's going around telling it to all these people, the chances of there being someone else who has also had this thought are pretty high. Also, especially if you don't have money for a wedding, you know, ma 'am, ma 'am, you don't even have a boyfriend for a wedding. You don't have a fiance for a wedding. She kind of got her ass with that one. Like, but you know, love can happen anywhere. But what if you find your person and your partner's dream is a wedding?

43:48Then what are you going to do? Right. What if money is an issue? What if you meet a millionaire? Farmer wants a wife And he's got money And he says babe You don't gotta worry about that expense I got this Yeah I come from lumber money My parents came in on the Mayflower What if he says that We come from humble origins of steel Just call me Carnegie Like I don't know Oh my god Like what if Yeah I know You're making plans You have to have like A future That like could Just not exist Which also includes someone else who has their own ideas. Thank you. Totally. There was like an episode of Sex and the City.

44:26I think Charlotte has like a baby name that she wants to use, but she's not even dating anyone. But then she like says it to someone and then they use that baby name and they're like, well, you're not using it anytime soon. Yeah. And I was initially thinking of that, which I feel like maybe would be slightly different. Baby names, I feel like definitely more reason to be a little territorial about those. Versus just like getting a low... And well, I guess also use the same photographer. Who is both of your friends. Right. Who is a photographer. A friend of both of you who I guess like, yeah, I'm going to ask my friend versus potentially paying thousands.

45:05Like if your friend is willing to do that and you know that. It feels like she just wanted to have a moment of everyone being like, oh, my God, she got married without telling anybody. I've never heard of that. She is what what a girl, that woman. I can't believe what she just did. So creative. Ahead of her time. Visionary. Yeah. Comments on this one. What way do you think they're going to go? I think they're going to say that she's overreacting, maybe? Top comment. Wait. You're single? Oh, no. Next one. this is right up there with single not pregnant woman being mad at baby names being used by friends who are in a relationship and having a baby that was literally my thought but I kind of get that one though I get a baby name you can have a baby name from when you're a child and like I don't like what's wrong with a single person having ideations of love one day god forbid a baby name is something I so see more possessiveness over especially if it's a family name or a dream.

46:11Like a lot of girls, women like put names in their app on their phone, like a notes app, keeping track. Like I went to grad school and literally basically every woman in my cohort had a list of baby names, multiple women that were single. And they were like, that is going to be my baby. I've had a list for quite some time. I got a list. I'll read a book and I'm like, Oh, I like that name. Put it on that list. One of my names that has been on my list for ages and it will be used as a first or a middle name in some way is literally in fourth wing and now everyone's going to be like she picked it because of fourth wing no no it's been there for years it's been there first i mean i wouldn't even want someone to tell me because i'm like even if we did happen to use the same name i wouldn't want either of us to feel resentment over it no and i think like if you're friends i think siblings using the same baby name so like the cousins are all i know yeah that can that's weird problem but i just saw a group of girls they're five sisters and every single one of them is named mary so people people get wild there's a friend group that's all named that's no no no the plot of the siblings so they're all like so full ass related siblings there's five of them daughters well that shouldn't happen and their parents needed for paperwork they named them all mary so it's awful for seo mary beth marry june marry ellen oh do they use both i didn't get into it okay yeah yeah i'm like they're still all named mary like first name you know yeah they shouldn't be doing that no hey don't do that guys no next comment down you're the asshole you've not invented the wheel someone got married in a wood where thousands of others have done it perhaps if it was such a secret and a private ambition, you shouldn't have told everyone.

48:02Right? Right? Yeah. Right? It's like saying someone stole your wedding idea to have the bride wear a white dress and the groom wear a black suit. You're the asshole. You know that traditionally a marriage involves two people, right? So you're planning a wedding without a second person and just assuming they'll go along with it? Okay, then. They're being a little hard on her for being single and having dreams, but like... I know. But I get where it's coming from. But I'm like, God. A lot of people are just like, girl, what? You had me in the first half, not going to lie. You're the asshole. And then so many, you didn't have an original idea comments.

48:40Yeah. So many. I think she can be privately like, ah, damn. Should have kept that to myself just in case I could have been the first one on Facebook to do it. But I think any like conversations with these people being like, oh, my thing was stolen. I think that's where you get into crazy territory. Yeah. Because also single, it's going to take you maybe a little bit to meet someone and then be together for a year or two, three. Then you're engaged or you just get married, whatever. But like by the time that all happens for you, people are going to forget about this one. Facebook will have forgotten.

49:23like what yeah no one's no one cares that much to remember britney's post it's good she can add it to the end of the post she can say and by the way this has been my idea for quite some time longer than others you may have seen yeah that would be good that would be good no update from op i don't see any comments in regards to it so they just kind of moved along You know what? Maybe they were having a little bit of a crazy moment of whatever. And then they posted it and saw the comments and they were like, all right, yeah, I got to chill. I feel some pain where, you know, I don't like my ideas getting stolen.

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51:44Get started at chatgpt.com by selecting work mode available on Plus and Pro Plans. They're good. Let's get into it. Okay, this next one coming from Am I the Asshole titled, Am I the Asshole for making my daughter use dollar store shampoo and conditioner? My wife and I have three daughters. Oldest is 16, middle is 14, and youngest is 10. My entire family and my wife's family all have straight hair. My oldest and youngest also have straight hair. And then there's my middle child with curly blonde hair and green eyes. The rest of the family has brown hair and brown eyes. I admittedly am not very close with her because I had doubts that she was mine and I had a hard time bonding with her due to that.

52:40My middle daughter insists that she needs special shampoo and conditioner because of her curly hair She found some that wasn't too expensive So I bought it for her, but she goes through the conditioner like water She came to me after a little over a month and said that she needed another bottle I told her that she doesn't and that her conditioner should last her at least another month But probably longer but she insists that you need to use a lot of conditioner for curly hair. I bought her another bottle and told her to use less because she wasn't getting another one for at least two months. She used it again in a month, so I bought her shampoo and conditioner from the dollar store.

53:24She had a meltdown about how this is going to ruin her hair and that she just got it to a place where she liked it and it was manageable. She blames us for her hair being uncontrollable for most of her life because we didn't learn how to take care of curly hair, even though it's not different than straight hair. She even threatened to shave her head, which I know she won't do because she's obsessed with her hair. Now, she's refusing to speak to me, and she's being extremely disrespectful to me and my wife. My wife thinks we should give in, but I think she needs to learn her lesson. Am I the asshole?

54:02asshole yes you're such an asshole dude oh my god what is wrong with him this just feels like another situation where you want to punish somebody for no reason like he even admittedly himself said that the conditioner and shampoo she liked doesn't cost very much like she she tried really hard i think to find something that would be okay and then what used it for a little bit over a month it's not like she's doing something on purpose to punish you or something irresponsible curly hair what's the lesson it's control yeah it's abuse i i genuinely do think this maybe this is a hot take but i think if you have a child and because of biology they have different hair or different whatever than you you as your as a parent need to learn how to take care of it.

54:59Of course. Your child shouldn't be like, I've gone my whole life because you guys didn't realize you had to take care of curly hair. If you have a child, you're supposed to learn how to take care of them. Yeah. If they have different hair than you, then go to a barber shop, go somewhere and learn how to take care of that child and their hair. But he doesn't want to because he doesn't think that child is his because she has curly hair. Yeah. Just throwing that in at the middle or punnet square dude that was insane what is that 25 chance maybe like genetics wise like curly hair straight hair if you're that fucking delusional one i'm curious if the wife knows that he's suspicious the child is not his because as a wife and mother clearly hers i'd be pissed if my husband thought i cheated and never confronted me and therefore treated one of our children differently yeah but two she's 14 why at this point haven't you done a dna test that's where i'm like you're going to continue to let this affect you so much so has that you nope you think he was like i used to think didn't he say like i used to wonder if she was mine i had doubts that she was mine and i had a hard time bonding with her due to that yeah and kind of past tense.

56:19So I'm like, maybe he has or maybe he hasn't. But I don't know. And the wife kind of seems to just be a passenger in this story. Like she's saying they should just give in, but not really having an active role here either. I don't know. I'm mad. I'm like so mad because it's like, again, such a manipulative title. Emma the asshole for buying her dollar store shampoo. I know it makes you think it's just like a money situation and that's the best that they can do. But it's not that. Someone does ask, info, are you poor? Is money really tight for you? OP responds, just one word, no. Okay, asshole.

57:06Also, I'm thinking about walking through a store and looking for shampoo. like I don't know I've gone to Target and like Kristen S that brand like blew up for a while and like it's a nicer brand that is carried places and even that is like a more expensive option and it's like$15 20 bucks and it's like if money isn't an issue for you guys she's going through a bottle a month 12 times 15 also it's very big what's that on like I don't know it can't be that much and it's like you again you thank you I think 180 all right here we go 180 ish but it's like also on the bottles it says in very big letters for curly hair for straight hair I think it's pretty easy to figure out what to get a child at least over time.

58:05Like it literally says what hair type on each for damaged and dry hair, for thick hair, for thin hair. They say it in big letters. But he doesn't think it's different. And you've never considered like, oh, we have one child with different hair. Maybe I get them the curly hair. No, because he doesn't think it is any different than straight hair. He says that. But she's telling you it is. It is. Oh, my God. There's even different types of curly hair. 3C, 4C. Do I know what any of it means? No, but I watch those videos on TikTok and they're very informative. Yeah. You have to like really like there's curly hair method.

58:41You put the product in, use the special brush that kind of separates the curls and then you use your little diffuser to get the extra bounce. It's also just you are a parent. You chose to have children. You have to take care of their basic needs to the best of your ability. So even beyond that, she's asking for shampoo and conditioner. He's an asshole. Asshole. Yeah. Asshole. This is feeling like one of those things where it's like, it's not about the yogurt. It's not about the shampoo. Because if it was just about the shampoo and not wanting to spend money or she's got curly hair, I have straight hair.

59:21I don't think there's a difference. No, like this is really a bigger, bigger really deeply troubling issue about I don't think this child is really mine because she has curly hair because she has green eyes and therefore she deserves less or different treatment and like again that's why I'm just so confused where it's like if you've thought this for 14 years and you haven't made sure I don't even care if you tell your wife do secret DNA tests don't tell me don't tell reddit but go out there and figure it out because otherwise you are treating this child horribly and what happens when you actually find out she is yours how are you going to feel yeah or isn't like i think she is i know but even if she isn't that's not the child's fault no and it's still your child and then go talk to your wife and take it out on her not this poor innocent kid.

1:00:17Yeah. The comments. Please tell me they get him bad and please tell me he reads them and it feels bad. Top comment with 32k upvotes. You're the asshole. Wow. Yes, women with curly hair do need a different type of shampoo and conditioner. Dollar store shampoo is likely going to damage her hair. Also, do you not understand how traits are passed on? was there a reason besides your daughter's physical features that you've thought she wasn't yours that's causing you to not properly bond with her you suck yeah you're the asshole someone respond he's getting off so easy if she's just using extra conditioner as well someone goes she may be doing the curly girl method which uses conditioner a lot more than shampoo which who cares how much of either that she's using it's a basic necessity shampoo toothpaste a toothbrush yeah like those are basic necessities that your kid should not go without yeah clean socks and underwear and clothes like god like what other ways is he torturing her too yeah because it's not he's like it's not about the money so what else is she getting denied and This is something so basic.

1:01:39Like, God forbid, what if she had a hobby? What if she came to him and said, I want to play soccer? What? She's not getting the tampons with the applicator? Like, because those are$3 more? Like, at what point does it go to? Yeah, you can't play soccer. We don't have enough money for you to play soccer this year. Sorry. Band? Nah, you don't deserve that trumpet. Yeah. You're not mine. Your siblings, though, you know. That's like, this is the scapegoat. Yeah. And you've got two golden children. like it's so shitty but yeah everyone tears in op so i just found a crazy update his account is deleted but i found it on another thread oh oh word has just hit us that there's an update word has been given we just found an update for this.

1:02:34Update. It's been almost two weeks since my post, so I felt that I should post an update. My middle daughter ran away a couple of days after I posted my original post. Oh my god. We found out that she had been planning this for months. My oldest daughter was in on it and helped her hide the fact that she's been working after school for months. She taught her how to hide her money and showed her what to put in her bag and where to hide it. When they were leaving for school, my middle daughter had a new backpack. My wife asked about it, and middle said that it was her friends, but she didn't want it, so she gave it to her, which was completely plausible considering that her friend gives her stuff all the time.

1:03:16A couple of hours later, we got a call from the school saying that my middle daughter wasn't there. My wife came home and checked her room and found a note on her dresser saying that she couldn't handle living with me anymore. Oh my god. My wife has a sister around 45 miles away, and our middle daughter showed up to her house after being missing for three days. She refused to go home and threatened to run away again if she tried to make her see us. At first, my wife told me to move out so our middle daughter could come home. Real. But she quickly realized that she can't afford to live in our house on her income alone.

1:03:56Plus, our oldest and youngest deserve to have their parents together. So, Middle is going to stay with her aunt until we figure out a plan that works for everyone. Oh my god. He's awful. Uh-huh. I, like, have no words. The fact that it's like, oh, we noticed she had a new backpack. Why? Because you refused to buy her a backpack and she's probably carrying around a raggedy ass one. Like, I think, again, like where I was like, what else is this transpiring into? Yeah. This is he must be absolutely horrific to her. Also, the wife being like, OK, you are so awful. Our daughter left. You have to get out of the house so she'll come home.

1:04:41And then him being like, oh, well, how are you going to afford it? How are you going to afford that? You can't on your income alone. So I'm not leaving. It's crazy, too, how this doesn't even seem to be a wake up call for him. No, it didn't break through at all. None of the comments did. Her daughter running away didn't. Like, I don't know. It's just insane because it's like, yeah, my child ran away. I guess like I am terrible. I guess maybe I should fix things. I guess. No, it's like I got what I wanted. This is great. I wonder if she saw the Reddit post, too, because I mean, I could see the hair instance on its own being like the last straw.

1:05:24But I also like with the timing of it being two weeks later, I'm like, I wonder if she saw how he was talking about her, too. I don't know. You wonder. Oh, wait, no, she's been doing this for months. She's been working after school for months. Yeah, but maybe that was her final straw. Maybe this is like, she ran out of the conditioner. He got her the dollar store stuff and she's like, I'm done. And the other kids are on board. Like your other kids don't like you or think you're cool either. They're understanding where she's coming from and helping her get away. Yeah, because oldest is only 16 too.

1:05:57And the fact that she showed up three days later, did she walk there? I don't know, maybe hitchhike? It was 45 miles. That's what walking would take. Yeah. About three days. I don't know. It'd take me three days to walk 45 miles. I'm pokey. I'm going to need a lot of rest breaks. She's little. Yeah. Like 14. And what if she got kidnapped? Like this could have ended so terribly. Yeah. So terribly. A lot of people call this into question. A lot of people are like, feels fake. but honestly I don't think it is I'm thinking about the story me and you had on a past episode where um the person's parent purposefully kept them having lice oh my god for like eight years and that's what it feels like I think some parents are genuinely just so terrible and want to keep their kids under their control and under their abuse and under this weird sick dynamic and I could 100 % see this being real.

1:07:03And we've heard stories in the past too about like, my dad didn't think I was his. Like we've had weird paternity stories. This is not implausible to me. It's just so crazy that he would come back to Reddit and say this part and still have not even like a moment of doubts about himself though. Like that is so crazy but again that is a person who exists so i don't know i'm that's just mystified by this i feel so bad i hope the aunt is like i got you girl yeah like we're good because this is just brutal and yeah i mean comments all tore into him on the original post you're the asshole you're the asshole you're the asshole and again clearly didn't get it like there was no apology on that update there was I realized I've messed up yeah she was upset she ran away I'm gonna make this right like right I'm working on our relationship he doesn't care this is a blessing for him this is what he wants now he's got his family it such a disgusting gremlin of a person moving on to this next one which we're kind of back on the wedding train and you had a wedding train i'm scared i did have a wedding train yeah we did our rehearsal dinner on a train and it was it was so fun that was so cool it was so fun i need one of you guys to get married now all right you ready i'll do it you're next give me like a year okay cool i would just love to plan help like i'll be a wedding planner just let me help it's so fun i just want to do it again okay well judging by the title i don't know if this wedding is going to be fun So this is also coming from Am I the Asshole?

1:08:52It's titled, Am I the Asshole for snapping at my half-sister when she called to say that neither her nor my other sister will be attending my wedding after they both RSVP'd yes? Throwaway, names changed. I, female 23, have two half-sisters, Molly, female 29, and Mary, female 33, both from my dad's previous marriage. I wasn't close to either of them growing up because they mainly stayed with their mom, and we just generally weren't close. We're all nice to one another, but it's not buddy-buddy. I got married a few weeks ago, and both Molly and Mary were invited. They both RSVP'd yes. Literally, a couple of days before the wedding, Mary calls and says that neither her nor Molly will be attending.

1:09:41I'm shocked because, obviously, all of the catering, everything's been put in, and now four people won't be attending. they each had a plus one. Mary did sound apologetic and she explained to me detailing a traumatic situation that Molly's going through and she will also not be attending and staying with Molly and their mom instead. I got upset and said that I understand but if she can just attend for a little while to support me then she can leave early if she wishes. Mary kept saying that it's not possible so I snapped and said how neither of them care about my feelings and the effort put into this wedding especially since Molly herself didn't bother giving me a call to let me know and it's obvious that I was always the outsider sister and not a part of their group.

1:10:34Mary said I was being selfish and hung up the phone. I did tell some relatives about the situation slash some who knew about it and got mixed reactions from them for going off on Mary. So am I the asshole for snapping because they didn't come to my wedding? It's hard because we don't know what the traumatic situation is. And I feel like the comments, the top comments will spoil it. So I'm looking at comments from OP and there are two. So someone does ask info. What exactly was the traumatic situation and i will say in the post when it says detailing a traumatic situation yeah it's like uh you know the the one not the two quotes it's not a direct quote it's like paraphrased yeah so it's like almost like i don't know it just feels like it's belittling to the traumatic situation by even like putting it in that that's what i'm wondering what's the single one called uh not so not apostrophes but like not a quotation is it an apostrophe is it an apostrophe it might be an apostrophe yeah okay it's an apostrophe today I'm like it's been a long time well I'm like yeah well because I think that there could be a world in which somebody is calling a situation traumatic but it's like not you know but then there's also a world in which it's a very traumatic situation and she's belittling it.

1:12:09So I like, I'm, I'm having a hard time knowing how to feel, but it's probably a real traumatic situation. I'm literally like, I'm fucking horrified. So info, what exactly was the traumatic situation? Because if it actually lives up to that name, yeah, not sure how you think you're not the asshole. And something tells me you're avoiding details because you know, they don't make you look good for worrying more about catering than whatever Molly's dealing with. Yeah, it has that vibe. OP responds, Molly's boyfriend passed away in an accident a few weeks before the wedding. Oh my God. Go rot in hell.

1:12:44Oh my God. I'm more worried about the catering. They both had plus ones. Go step on a rake. And it is like she did call and let her know. Like, I don't know. how self involved yes like how self-centered are you that this is even a worry of yours like I had friends text me like two days before my wedding be like I'm so sorry I got food poisoning or norovirus I can't make it and I'm like cool whatever I feel like it'd be hard to have a wedding without there being some element of someone having an emergency or an illness or something come up beforehand. And it's like you feel so sure that you're right, but then you're purposefully leaving out what happened to your sister.

1:13:39So it kind of feels like you do know that you're an asshole in some way. Oh, this feels so intentionally like they tried to mislead us to just get like a, no, you're not the asshole. Your wedding is important too. Yeah, that was rude. they left all of that out because otherwise you could have how do you even hear that like if you are going to include that in your post and be like yeah the reason molly can't come is because her boyfriend passed away getting mad they both had plus ones one of those plus ones is i would imagine dead yeah like that was definitely the plus one was the boyfriend and again you're more worried about the fucking food yeah they both had what was she supposed to fill that plus one with somebody else.

1:14:23Oh, fuck, my plus one died, but I don't want to affect your catering. So I'm going to find someone else to fill the spot. Like, what the fuck? Dude, people go off on her in the comments. Like the other one that she responds to, you're the asshole. Did you even ask what the traumatic event was? It's not always about you. OP responds, yes, I know what it was. And Mary told me. Someone responds, I mean, like, it's so morbid what people start going into the comments on like I just don't even want to read it yeah I'm like it's just like it's so sad and it's just like how are you even here how did you even have the gall to come here and drop this utter bullshit on my little website that I love called reddit and you're fucking pure on the pure on the purest website lovely angel website reddit like where things like this aren't meant to be I like want to go take a walk I'm like I'm I'm like just so over her I mean this is why wedding culture gets a bad rap it's bridezilla's like her uh what were you gonna say I'm sorry I was just gonna say like it had that vibe even before she said what the traumatic event was it was like the way that she's talking about this feels off but then there's a world in which the traumatic event is like she stubbed her toe and now no one's coming to the wedding but also then she'd probably say that she was there yeah uh-huh it wasn't giving that no and that's why again i like i think now that we know what it is too it's so much worse doesn't the apostrophes like around traumatic event i know it's not a quote but it's like it gives like like like no just say traumatic event you don't have to put any apostrophes around it that's what i mean because she had a traumatic event.

1:16:09Why are the apostrophes there? Does it get much more traumatic than that? Like why are, that's what that word is for. Dude, I hope she gets bitten by a cow or something just crazy. Like I just want her to like, you know, yeah, just like a little, I mean, I hope that these Reddit comments feel like getting bitten by a cow. I know. I mean, people just popped off after, especially after they found out, which I am shocked she even admitted that online. I know maybe she got a little bit like confident that she could she could come out of this being the one people agreed with no people start posting like shame bell emojis shame like they go game of thrones shame on her ass the fact that you withheld the details of the traumatic situation tells me you know deep down that you're an asshole not everything is about you everyone then finds out because people are like here's what happened like right they're linking it they're linking it they're commenting and everyone's like holy shit also the fact that she then goes well the real reason they're not coming is because i've always been the outsider sister genuinely insane don't think it's about that what if your freaking fiance husband died i think she'd still have a wedding well catering catering god okay well let's hope this next one is as I sit here I'm just like it's fine little dog let's get a story that doesn't piss us off is that out there?

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1:19:12Drink responsibly. Palette cleanser who? Okay, this next one, coming from Am I the Asshole? Am I the asshole for calling my sister-in-law a liar? I, 31 male, live in San Diego. My older brother, 34 male, recently got married to a woman from India, 30 female. They'd only been dating for about seven months, but her visa was expiring, so they decided to get married sooner rather than later. My brother and I have always been close. We've done a lot of favors for each other over the years, and one thing we've always had is trust. We don't lie to each other even about the little things. Recently, I had to travel to India for work.

1:19:56The project is in a pretty remote area and by coincidence, it's close to where my sister-in-law's family lives. She told me not to rent a vehicle because her family had a jeep that I could borrow. That sounded perfect, so I thanked her. When I arrived, her family handed me the keys to a Mahindra tar. I was confused and I asked where the Wrangler was. They looked confused and said, quote, this is the Jeep. I didn't want to make a scene with her family, so I just took it and I drove it for the week. It worked fine and it got me where I needed to go. When I got back, I asked my sister-in-law why she told me that her family had a Jeep when they actually had a Mahindra tar.

1:20:42She said, quote, it's the same thing. I told her, quote, no, it isn't. Jeep is a brand. Mahindra is a brand. A Wrangler and a Tar are completely different vehicles. She said everyone where she's from calls vehicles like that Jeeps and that she didn't think there was any difference. I said, that's ridiculous. By that logic, I could point at a Chrysler PT Cruiser and call it a BMW X5 because they're both SUVs. They're obviously different cars made by different companies. She got upset and said that I was being intentionally difficult and that she wasn't trying to deceive me. I told her that if you tell someone your family owns a Jeep Wrangler when they actually own a Mahindra Tar, that's lying.

1:21:36My brother says that I'm being pendantic and that she was using Jeep as a generic term, the way some people say Kleenex for any tissue. I don't think that's comparable. If someone specifically tells you they have a Jeep, I expect them to have an actual Jeep. Oh my god. For what it's worth, I'm grateful they let me borrow the vehicle. This isn't about the favor. It's about telling me something that wasn't true and then insisting that I was wrong for pointing it out. Am I the asshole? You could have given me the story, like the headline of it in the first couple sentences and given me 10 years to come up with what the lie was.

1:22:17And I never would have landed on this. That is a Jeep. That's a Jeep. That's a Jeep. Honestly, I think it's cuter than a Jeep. Everyone Google this. Everyone Google this. It's a Jeep. If you're watching the video version of this episode, whether it be on Spotify or wherever you're seeing the video, like YouTube. It is a Jeep in my eyes. Every version of this is a Jeep. It honestly looks cuter than a Jeep. It almost looks like it's a beautiful car. I kind of want one now. It's the shape of a Jeep. It's lifted like a Jeep. It's got, you know, the back looks like a Jeep. I think you can remove the top, right?

1:22:48I mean, I don't know. It looks like it. It looks like a Jeep. If it drives like a Jeep. What's the difference? Let me tell you, even if it was an entirely different car, I still wouldn't understand getting worked up about it. Like it could be a mistake. It could be a language difference. It could be a, you know, a term that people use that other people like, I don't know. Or it could be a forgotten memory. She's, she just doesn't remember what car it was, whatever. It's a good, it's a car that works that was given to you for free. I don't understand saying a single word about it, even if they came out in a Tesla or a, like a what's a very different car like a like a Subaru even if it was a Subaru yeah I would just be like oh well car thank you for the nice car for the week for the car it worked no problems I think the brother that analogy too of like people call all tissues Kleenexes great analogy that is truly it's the same thing yeah and he's like it's not the same it's the same thing I do that with so much stuff and like Kleenex is one of those examples or like band-aid can I get a band-aid a band-aid is a brand well i didn't know that one yeah what's it called what's it called if it's not a band-aid bandage stick on elastic bandage terrible branding for that word but that's what i'm saying like think about there's so many brands that are like that a generic name is an adhesive bandage adhesive bandage i mean it just doesn't have the same pizzazz to it yeah yeah I'm gonna call that shit band-aid.

1:24:24I think that this guy sounds fully insufferable. This sounds like the most obnoxious. I mean, we've had self-righteous, pretentious. We've had worse people for sure in these stories. But what I have to tell you is this is the most obnoxious maybe ever. Can't you picture like this guy? Oh gosh. There's like been this trope in like TV shows. well actually yeah that guy like Ted Mosby well actually that's not technically a skyscraper because it's not over 200 feet tall it's a okay or like you know where they're just like critical about every single thing you say and it's like oh my god just because I said the sky is blue doesn't mean the sky can't be orange during sunset like yeah come on and it's like okay, you know one little fun car fact, and you're really stunting it.

1:25:19Now, if we're going to, you know, talk like that, I will be matching that energy about everything you say, and trust and believe you're going to slip up quick. I just, I think he's a, I think he's maybe the worst. I think he's maybe the worst. Maybe the worst there's been. I just cannot. In terms of insufferability. Yeah. If we're putting it purely on insufferability, this guy, he's taking it. Because, you know, it's just it comes out in so many other aspects. I want one of these cars. I think they are so cute. According to Google, they cost about$13 ,000, which is like a bargain. That's a great car price.

1:25:56Yeah. One other article says 16K. Another says 18.5, maybe depending on, you know, versions or specs. But like knowing the cost of a Jeep, like that's a deal. Right. Sign me up. Absolutely. Have you seen all the cool cars that China has? But like legally, we're not allowed to import here or like it's hard to import here because of the big automakers. Yeah. The big three. Did you know about the Tucker? Have you ever heard about the Tucker car? I don't know. There was a car though. There was a really cute car in Burbank that I saw. And my friend was like, that car is$3 ,000. And it's like a mini van.

1:26:32It's like a cute little whatever, but you have to import it. Import costs are really expensive. Is that the Tucker or is that something else? No. So the Tucker is, it was a car made in like the 1940s from this like genius guy named Preston Tucker. And it was radical. Like this car was going to put the big three out of business. It had all of these crazy safety features. It had like swiveling headlights. And all of the big automakers, Ford, you know, GMC at the time, they were like, no. And so they literally killed it. They killed this car. They actually might have killed him. Or he died from a heart attack because of what happened.

1:27:15Sure. Which, like, same, same. But, like, he really was, like, this revolutionary guy. And, like, he wanted these cars to, like, be able to get, like, 200 miles per gallon. Like, he was doing stuff that the other people couldn't keep up with. And so they took him out. They sent my good boy Semmelweis to the mental hospital because he was saying you got to wash your hands to kill germs. And then Louis Astor come along years later, and now it's true. But my good guy, Guy, got dead. Got dead in the mental hospital. God, that's like Fitzgerald put his wife Zelda in the mental hospital and then took all her writing.

1:27:53No one likes an innovator. No one likes a truth teller. There is a movie on the Tucker, though, if anyone wants to watch it. Yeah, I'm interested in that. That's really cool. Top comment? Yeah, 100 % you're the asshole. 1 ,000 % actually. Next comment. You're the asshole. Your brother is right. You're being pedantic. Great word. Did I say it right? I think I believe so. Yes. Pedantic. Pedantic. Did I add an N? That was a crazy voice. Pedantic. I don't know. Describing someone who is overly concerned with minor details, formal rules, and displaying their academic knowledge. Yeah, I don't vibe with this.

1:28:35Which I'm going to get into it over the Odyssey with some people like that. I'm sure it is literally Ted Mosby. That's yeah, that's crazy. But yeah, clearly you're the asshole. Let's see if we have anything from him. It's only five days old at this point in time. He says it was definitely more bumpy than a real jeep. Okay It might look like one but the suspension etc are not of the same quality and I was concerned about being stranded You were concerned about being stranded? There is a difference in suspension and since I was taking it on rough roads I wanted to be sure I was getting something that can handle it and be comfortable Wait, but it's people people who live there who have that car who are used to those roads that car is for those roads that's their car and they live there and that's for the roads there someone responds i think it's trying to get attention for mahindra tars how many people who have responded knew what that was without googling it so people are accusing him of like baiting and like making this a mahindra tar ad i mean that would be genius i mean i literally just fell for it fell for it as fuck we're posting it we're posting it everywhere like We love this shit.

1:29:53This rocks. Look at the price. Look at the price. It looks just like a Jeep. Maybe he just conned us, but he does respond and say, what a ridiculous thing to say. I'm sure Indians know it. And getting attention and marketing it to Americans makes no sense as they do not sell them here and would likely get sued if they did. Okay, Hindra Dar, we see you. And then he adds later, I'm American and a white dude. So he really was just like, no, this is real. Okay. Which, hey, these people are out there. I mean, I kind of like love that theory, though, a lot. What's the craziest thing you've seen from someone just like being problematic in public lately?

1:30:35In public? Yeah. Like these kind of people don't surprise me because I see weird, like rude people kind of out and about quite often. Nothing's coming to mind, though, recently. Do you have one recently? Yeah, so I flew back on a plane yesterday and this woman got on the plane and the overhead bins around her seat were full. And there was one bin like up that was reserved for the seats that don't have like anything in front of them. So all of the bags have to go up. Yeah. And so she's like, excuse me, there's no room here for my bag. and the flight attendant was like okay ma 'am like you're welcome to place it you know behind your row further back there she goes there's a backpack up there can we move it and it's just like and the guy he's like i can try to get the backpack under my seat like bigger guy like didn't really have room and the woman goes and what about those spots and the flight attendant was like ma 'am like we reserve that bin for these seats because they don't you know have a bulkhead or anything in front of them you know for safety reasons everything has to go up and she goes well no one's sitting there we had literally just started boarding yeah like you're one of the earlier people on the plane like they're coming and sure enough they are literally the person one and two to my right they go those are our seats and so I like oh my god I'm like okay well like I'm 19 you can put your bag by me I'll go further back so I put mine by like 25 and I'm like planes really do bring out like a dark side of people I fear.

1:32:13I know. I got yelled at when I was a flight attendant because someone asked me for a cough drop and I didn't have them. Okay. Like we don't provide those. So. There's, you know, planes can only hold so much. Uh-huh. And so we try to stick to really the necessities here. People out there are just wild little characters. And we see that every week on this show. Wow. We see that each and every week. I mean, maybe even what y 'all come here for. I know I do. That's what got me going to Reddit. But that's all Bailey wrote. Wow. She's actually, she's got more, but, you know. Yeah. It was a beautiful experience.

1:32:52And what better to end on than a Mahindra tar? And then we start saying, like, the catchphrase of Mahindra tar. Mahindra tar? What is? Mahindra tar. Be where you're going for less. Not an ad. No, but, like, what if we were bought off by big Mahindra tar? Mahindra, explore the impossible. I mean, that rocks. They're great. The brand also uses the tagline, live young, live free. Mahindra Tar. I'm sold. Live Mahindra. Say less. Oh, that was so good. We have so many amazing themes coming up that myself and Bailey are working on. First day on earth, healed and thriving. Irreversible Ix. ooh I'm curious about that the irreversible ics yeah it's gonna be really good hearing about those it's gonna be really good also I just have to tell you guys Joshua Taylor Bassett is so freaking nice I ran into him in can and every time I saw him hey Morgan like I will tell you guys like I've had quite a few people on this show and sometimes I run into them after at events or in public by far like the nicest person that I've seen after oh I was just like you are so you're just such a little cutie and him and Justin were able to connect and like they were talking about music and it was just really it was really great he's a sweetheart that's so nice when people are nice just be nice just be nice and don't be intentionally misleading about jeeps yeah everything.

1:34:32Trauma, weddings, shampoo. I'm like a little traumatized from today. I know. Actually, like thinking back on all these stories, I'm pissed off at a lot of people right now. Same. My list of people that I'm pissed off at has grown exponentially. A lot of people are getting cold this year. A lot of people getting cold. Thank you guys so much for being here. Another episode. If you want more of this theme, we're going to take a few of the stories over to Patreon. So that'll be good. But Other than that, Justin's band is called Park Wild. I know people were like, in this week's episode that came out, we were talking about his band.

1:35:09And like, I cut like six to eight minutes of us talking about his music before because it was just, it would have been like a 14 minute long intro. So I cut it and then people are like, they bring up Justin's music and then still don't talk about it. It's called Park Wild. He's working on a musical. We're doing a reading for it again in November. And after that, it hopefully will be touring the country. so I will keep you guys posted but again Park Wild Justin's links will be in the description too and head over to Patreon and that's it okay love you guys bye bye

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