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0:58Do you want to go first? After you. them not all people shop for groceries the same not all refrigerators are the same and i've really been thinking about it a lot some people before they go to the grocery store they say i'm gonna make these four recipes this week they plan out their recipes and they they need chives for one recipe they write it on a list and they go and buy it this is under one percent of people no a lot of people do that no way yeah he does that people do this i don't do it but yeah like people do that people write out their recipes and they plan out their food for the week and they go to the store and they buy exactly that and the crazier thing is they come home and they actually make those recipes can I do the other side of what I think the other side does free ball it like we do is they go and they buy their base ingredients for the week because they know alright I'm going to eat cottage cheese I'm going to eat chicken I'm going to eat flock chicken sticks and then when it comes to and they get things that they know like they'll eat 90 % of and they can create a variety of dishes around.

2:02And then when they want to make a specific meal that night or that morning, they'll look at what they need for that meal, what they have, and then they'll go get the specific items. I don't think people do that either. That's what we do. That's what we do. What I have learned is our grocery shopping is chaos. like it's pure chaos like we're always I think it's great but we're always stocked like I like to keep everything stocked we do the cottage cheese we have the cheese we have the snacks you do a base order Sunday yeah and then if we wanted and the base order is chicken steaks fries whatever potatoes and then when if we want something special on Tuesday we'll go to get those special ingredients on Tuesday that's but it just makes for a lot of to plan your meals for the week is like people do that is a huge commitment a lot of people do it but like i would say it's different if you're like if you have a family if you're single like there's so many different things i i go to the grocery store like once every three days oh so like i'm by like sunday night i'm buying for like monday tuesday maybe into wednesday dinner sunday monday tuesday wednesday i always have breakfast i guess for the week but like i'm going to heb after work like every every third day i guess and then you go you go again on wednesday yeah and you'll you'll stock up for wednesday thursday friday yeah saturday yeah i have a zig a quick zig what's that because you said flock an unnamed delivery service i just restocked for the for the studio stacks and i said i'm gonna put some flock in the order for pee an unnamed delivery service do you want to know what they replaced the flock with what funfetti oreo cake stars pee's holding them up off camera i put flock on the order you have to send it because that's such an insane substitution i'm like i'm i was in a state of shock when i saw it but i've never i've never had a substitution like that neither have i that's what i said to pia this is the worst substitution they you got to get refunded i would have thought we would have some jack links or something of course archer or chomps obvious righteous felon whatever yeah we call oreo cakesters hold on so how how does everyone so we have the grocery shoppers that is like the best thing ever go for the recipes for the meals of the week what is what does the other half do Freeball it.

4:40Freeball. But I don't think we freeball. I don't think it's fair to say we freeball. I think that we get basics for the week, knowing that we're probably going to need to go back one more time for some specific items, maybe two. I'm thinking about this. Why can we not say we're going to have tacos at some point this week? Let's get the tortillas, the bell peppers. Let's do it all. We don't do that. I think with you guys, you'd be like, actually, we're going to go out to dinner tonight. Then the bell peppers don't get eaten. That's exactly what happens, Jules. So it's better how you do it for you.

5:12Okay. I think it works for us. And we can walk to a grocery store. Well, that's the thing is I love the combination we have of like being able to hit different grocery stores. Yeah. Including the local one. So now here's – are we good on that topic? Yeah. I'm still thinking about the cakesters. Okay. Here's an H-bomb. Okay. New H-bomb segment. okay and it's is this a harrison problem that only i deal with or is this a problem that other people deal with okay printers well what about them i so printing stuff way too hard totally bought a printer why is setting up a printer so hard like does everyone else struggle setting up the reason is because the printer can never connect to the wi-fi that's why everything starts and ends there okay it's a mess um why does it need to connect to wi-fi exactly this to me seems like it should be the most basic thing in the world just bought a printer no luck gave it to jewels any luck no it's not compatible with the wi-fi here either that's so annoying like why why printers don't need wi-fi can we not just put our phone on top of it and print what you needed Here's where it gets even crazier.

6:33So I had to print something this morning. I go to the UPS store and we love the UPS store people here. They are amazing. Peaches. Shout out peaches. I will say though that feels like half the time that printer is broken or like what you're trying to do can't be done. Yeah. Like today I wanted to print on cardstock and every time we put the cardstock into the printer. Jammed. It jammed. Jammed. I know there's a lot of room for improvement on printers. Like it's because it's something that we really, really, really, really, really need and would use. But so rarely. That's why like we're okay with the inefficiencies is because we only kind of need it once a quarter.

7:14Nowadays. I mean printer stock is down because, you know, you can docusign. Of course. And all that. Of course. I did hear like a click over here. Did the camera turn off? No. Okay. So it's not just a you problem. It's an everyone problem. Okay. curious to hear what people think let us sound off in the comments or if you have like a simple a simple printer setup that just plugs into the into the mac simple and easy no wi-fi connectivity connectivity it would be great if it was usbc because then you can plug it right into your phone or your computer yes no wi-fi no wi-fi needed i feel like that exists do you know jules and i I had a bicker of the week yesterday.

7:59What was it? I was talking about something. Oh. I was like, yeah, I think that's a little braggacious. And she's like, braggacious isn't a word. It's braggotious. No, you said braggotious. Wait, I don't remember. I said braggacious. And then you corrected me. Yeah. That was wrong. And I was like, I don't think that's a word. And guess who was right? Nope. Neither of us. Neither of us. What's the word? Braggadocious. Braggadocious. so we were both wrong i was trying to figure out what word you guys were talking about you weren't really even close no wait you weren't there no i'm just saying neither of you neither of your words oh right now like i didn't i was like what is this word like yeah like your mom the other day said eczema and i was like i think that's eczema oh it is eczema it's eczema it's eczema canada but i was like i that's close enough that i understand what we're talking about braggadocious no I know the word braggadocious I don't have any idea what words you guys were talking about I was with a group of people like seven people in this kind of panel thing yesterday and I said the word braggadocious I'm sure they had no idea what you I said it and did they just move right along I tell you I think the room I and I was like looking at the room I think they all understood exactly what I was saying to the point that the lady in the room responded reflecting that she understood no what's the word?

9:36I said braggacious I guess I said braggosious and you were trying to say braggadocious? yeah I think people understood it I'm telling you they didn't did you give them enough context clues? yeah I think the context clues in the statement were clear

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11:52We're just coming back from an ad break Okay, now that everyone's gone to the bathroom You made me laugh so hard Say the word one more time Brigacious it's because he's so funny he's so funny you're so funny you don't think i'm funny make me laugh all the time i don't i wish i did okay moving on okay um all right have you seen this back to school decor what do you mean so there was a trend this year where people were really decorating kitchens for back to school banners like people were getting banners painted that i saw some balloons like really big balloons and they would say like the kid's name and the school they're going to yeah i'm not really on social media so so that's what i'm telling you about it okay i high level know exactly what you're talking about though i feel like it came out of nowhere like the like what people do for birthdays exactly yeah huge fan of this huge fan of this this is a great move.

12:57I think that, that it's all about putting the right energy in the household around school. Celebrating it. Yeah. Yeah. Making it a day of excitement. Now I think what we'll do is streamers around the, um, the lights, the, the chandelier above the table. And we'll just do like pancakes. Like I want first day of school to always be the same meal, less like decor, more of traditions. And, um, TNT has these confetti poppers and you blow them, like you crack them and they blow out, but they stay stuck to the actual packaging so that way - No mess cleanup. There's no mess cleanup. I want to get those in general.

13:43They are phenomenal. The fact that they stay stuck to the packaging and they don't go everywhere because I was thinking initially, like, no, I'm not cleaning that up. Yeah. I love that. And we could pop it for them. Yeah. yeah it's a great tnt item wow yeah i'm i'm for it too like i just what what was confusing to me though is i used to always see the photos where people get the chalkboards and they say like you know tate's first day of kindergarten right and i've always seen those photos but what was new this year was everyone decorating their kitchen and i was like who like what are the odds everyone did it good well i mean i'm sure it's a small i'm sure to most people who did it put it on the internet but there's certain things that i feel like when people do for i just i want to i want to i want to support this well one person did comment because i made a video about this and one person did say i'm sure they wouldn't do this if there wasn't social media and initially i was like correct and i was like no i think they actually would because it makes the kids so happy that's where i really love it that's where social media can be a good thing too is like fine if that's if you want to get a cute photo but like it also makes the kids so happy totally so it's a win for everyone yeah um so speaking of what was i filling out for bubber well can we talk about this is this another pajama set pajama you like it love it like i can't believe that this hasn't become a thing in a bigger way which is pajamas that you can wear during the day so and no one would notice it's gonna be my new postpartum gift to all the moms i hadn't really nailed down what i want to get them and what i love to do when someone has a baby is get them something for themselves and what i did for nugget when she had her baby was i sent her like a sweatsuit because like all that's all i wanted to wear was a sweatsuit yeah now everyone's getting this brand it's called pijamas i am obsessed with them have we spoken to them i have in the dms i ask them to send me this set okay and they sent this one and a pink ruffle one which i'm curious to see what you're going to think of the pink ruffle one i'll show it to you i have it sitting on the nightstand at home yeah i think that it's yeah i'm i'm i'm i would love the male equivalent of like they have men's i told you they didn't they do i i forgot can we can i do a live view is that interesting or no okay well here's here's what's different about their i can get it on my phone here's what's different about them yeah they the men's does not have a matching set oh but i'm a matching set so it's just pants i'm not gonna show you they're getting them like boxer shorts okay yeah so i do wish that they had a matching top for it um i think that would I'm wearing this.

16:34Those are really nice though. It's very, let's see. But it's very clear that I'm wearing. They're really nice. Yeah. I like those stripes on the far left. I love the stripes. Yeah. No, I think I'll get those. With the white tee? Yeah. Great. Yeah. Yeah. It's just an elevated day look. Yeah. Like this is better than my leggings. But what I wonder for me is the keyless pajamas that you can wear out and more so workout clothes that also look like non-workout clothes. Like for you as pajamas, for me, like I'm always in work. That's what that is. That boxer type short. But I can't work out in that.

17:18Why? Well, I guess we'll see the material. I think you perhaps could. Maybe, maybe not. I don't know. I wanted to get a pair of these boxers too. I thought they were really, really, really cute. So, okay, great. Like and subscribe if you're watching this. Thank you for watching this. Please like and subscribe. And let's go into the in the comment section. Okay. I love the advice you have given about handling babies and toddlers navigating big feelings. Do you have any advice for when family members or others see the acting out and call it a fit or a temper tantrum? Because I know she doesn't know how to fully communicate.

18:03These words get on my nerves because they have a negative connotation and I know she's just developing and learning. Do I just ignore it or do I say she's just trying to communicate? I really understand this. Why are you smirking? It's a great question. It's a great comment. okay so a couple things come to mind here if we were having a temper tantrum i always am narrating through that if there's other people around so i love to narrate and be like oh oh our brains like our brains just a little flooded it's okay we're gonna calm down we totally understand like does that make sense i'm narrating as it's happening a hundred percent i love what you i love how you're going here and how i can respond so keep please keep on the path so i'll narrate out loud just so everyone knows what i'm thinking as i'm watching it and i think that really helps said differently can i kind of jump in though please here's why i love that so much because i find explaining your parenting style to another parent, whether it's a friend or a family member, is it's a...

19:25Cringe. Yeah. It's like, what, am I going to explain something to my mom? And my mom's just going to be like, thanks as the person that raised you and your sister. Right. Like there's my finished product. Versus if they see it live, I think it's just, it's a totally different experience. And just to, you know, my mom, to give her a lot of credit, she's very curious as to our parenting style. She really is. But that actually kind of wasn't the point I was trying to make. It was more so like I find whether when people explain their parenting styles to me often or when I'm explaining it to them, like you notice it is, it can very easily fall on deaf ears or come with judgment versus seeing it, it hits totally different.

20:12so i and that's why i smirked initially because my mind went to the the awkwardness if that's the right word of explaining parenting styles to other people yeah so i think when they're not really asking here's what i would do i would say okay our brain is flooded we're on we're on overload and mama is just gonna stand here like she's waiting for the bus i'm not gonna be on my phone but i'm just gonna stand here and wait till we get through this because we're going to get through it, but there's nothing we can do about this right now. Like I'll just sort of talk about it out loud and that explains how I'm going to handle it, how I understand what's happening with her and how we're going to just let her get through it.

20:55Now, if somebody said, oh, she had a temper tantrum, I think I would just be like, no, she didn't. She just, her brain was flooded. I would word it how I like to word it. So I would just say no and then I would explain it and I would say how I would say it. So that would be my advice. Also, the other thing is, so like we don't, Tate doesn't get her pacifier during the day. And let's say a family member was around that knows that. And we're like, oh, Tate only has her pacifier at night. Sometimes she'll run over to Rocky's crib and grab his pacifier and like suck on it for two seconds. And we call it like getting some hits of her cigarette.

21:33So I think, so sometimes that will happen with other people around. in that situation i think people would expect us to like reprimand her and one thing i always try to do is be where did you get that and then she giggles and i giggles and she and she goes and puts it back i think hitting you're two for two right now i think making it funny like your reaction is a lot of times how people determine in it's how they interpret it so if you're like you are tate put it back then they're like oh she's being bad as opposed to being like where'd you get that pacifier and then we both laughed they're like okay it wasn't that big of a deal yeah or there i always find like one really awkward dynamic um with parents and whether we're saying it or other parents are saying it's like oh no no they never do that they never do like oh she never has her pastor during the day she just has it now right and so i love how you how you deal with it there versus like turning and be like no no she doesn't normally do that you never do that put it out it's just like sometimes she does do that she doesn't have her pasty during the day except for the days that she does have her pasty during the day yeah including that's more so including travel days um oh if you're wondering what's on my arm i have like the most gnarly bug bite ever so i put the what's it called calamine calamine i was wondering what was on your arm there was a calamine lotion bubber and i had a very interesting moment this morning okay i was just up last night because there's a lot on my mind right now yeah you're busy.

22:59You're a busy boy. In a really good way. Mine was racing and so when I got bubber up I asked Alex I was like hey because I don't really take bubber in the mornings I was like do you want to take Tate this morning and I'm going to sleep a little longer and Alex was like oh of course and so she goes to Tate and she's like come brush your teeth Tate. Tate's never seen me sleep in before she didn't like it she was like dada wake up very concerned there was like tremendous concern like why is i don't know if you should be telling the story or me because it kind of feels weird me telling you about it but she couldn't understand me being in that bad today she didn't like it she was but did you see the concern yes it was so it and that's why i kept that's why i kept looking using this is so sad yeah and so obviously i got up but it was like it was a really weird like really weird interaction i'd never seen her process concern

24:11like yeah yeah it was like she was like it was almost like she thought you were dead like actually we're sick yeah it was almost like she's like wait why isn't he waking up because every time she's ever seen me in bed it's because she's also sleeping in in bed when she comes in yeah very very very true um okay so on that note talk so when we were talking about tate being independent right like how how this is her independent era she's become an independent queen except for when you're asleep i guess Now, what people were saying in the comments is very interesting, that kids don't need to learn independence as much as they need to learn discernment.

24:56Discernment is the ability to judge well and make choices. I was like, this seems like a great comment because so many people were liking it. But I was like, what does discernment mean? Sarah, what's discernment? Making good choices. Yeah, the ability to know, to share, the ability to know if cars are driving, I should not walk in front of them. Do you think she understands street traffic? We worked on it a lot in Canada. Her and I did. Because where your parents live is very traffic heavy. There's a lot of cars. Yeah. I do believe, I think she understands that she's not supposed to walk by those cars.

25:43And if there's a car coming, she's supposed to wait. I do not think she understands what would happen if she walked in front of one. I agree. I also think she understands. I think it's very situationally dependent. I think on our street, she really understands stay on the sidewalk. Yes. 90 % like 90 plus percent of the time. I think if you leave her there long enough, would she bolt across? Absolutely. But then I think like when she goes to a different place, she's less clear on where she should or shouldn't be. Well, and it's all cobblestone there. So there was no road defining. And that's why I was really worried about it.

26:22Like there was no black tar road. The sidewalks are the same color as the streets. Yeah. So I was like, this is all very confusing. And this is now me. I think we talked about how they teach street safety in Japan. which is like they show the dummy getting hit and that's teaching the consequence like because what you're saying is tate does not understand the consequence of going in the street is getting hit by a car correct i think she just knows not to do it just knows not to do it i don't know i i gotta give her more credit than that it's the same thing with heights she really understands the concept of heights and i think she really understands the concept of like don't get in front of something going fast maybe because i guess she does understand not to okay when she's pushing the stroller or her little car her little tykes car yeah she will push it into things like she's it's like she doesn't understand to go around that however if winnie's in her little tykes car She knows not to stand in front of that.

27:29Like she does know that will mow her over. So I guess she has some kind of concept of it that this item will hit you if you're in front of it. Yeah, I think that's, you nailed it. Scraining the head. Like when Winnie's in that little tyke's car, like she gets out of the way. She does know. And when they're doing the scooter, she knows to get out of the way.

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30:12I was scared of heights from a very young age because I remember going to the P &E with my sister and just like the high rides, hating. Human infants first show a basic awareness or avoidance of drop-offs around nine months of age. Okay. So if she was afraid of heights, it would already be, we would know. Seems like it. Where was, I was somewhere with her the other day and we were very high up and I was like, this kid's not afraid of heights. Yeah, I don't think she's afraid of heights. I wonder what her fear will be. It's a weird thing, this fear of heights, because we were talking to my uncle who is a rock climber and just - Did an ice climb.

30:53Did an ice climb. So he climbed up a waterfall. That was frozen. That was frozen. Wow. It was gnarly. And I'm just trying to think of the descriptor that he said that landed. like he just you know it's thousands of feet and it's like a mega mega waterfall big thing in south america and i was like were you scared and like the reference was just like no he was just like no fear like he just sits there a thousand feet up and you can look down and it just doesn't hit him the heights yeah being afraid of heights so like what happens i would have a panic attack and you'd have a pit in your stomach and yeah and you'd maybe he said like that pit doesn't exist or something for him for him yeah so i always said okay well here's my question i just everyone has a fear like what's your what's your greatest fear jules that's deep um like making a choice actively and then something bad happens because of it oh i don't know what that is but like if i cross the road like if i was supposed to be walking on the right side of the road and for some reason i crossed to the left side of the road i have a fear that like something bad is going to happen to me on the left side of the road like a crane breaks over there yeah because i didn't stay on my intended path yeah and like i did it with intention yeah it's a deep yeah i know like mine's like spiders that's the answer like yours is yours is deeper than that Oh, I have a very big topic on that, but I don't want to derail from this.

32:30Well, I always say when it comes to my biggest fear, I'm always like I would rather be bit by a shark. I am now reading the book that that girl recommended. What's it called? You sent it to me. I ordered it. Oh, the Facebook one? Yes, good people. Something people. Bad people. Something people. um careless people careless people so i've started the book okay i had no idea what it was about and she grabbed me on the first line oh because she's like i'm in the middle of panama i'm at a crazy dinner it's me somebody else and mark zuckerberg and i'm like oh my god are you do you work for zuck so now i get the book okay she got bit by a shark when she was 13 The way this woman describes it It's like taking a needle With an axe Not an axe An axe with a hammer Sorry It's like somebody puts an axe in you with a hammer And they keep hammering it into you And she's like It's like he wanted to penetrate my body And take it with him away The way she described it I was like I would like to retract all the times I said I would be fine to be bit by a shark Sounded horrible I don't know at what point I made this decision.

33:50It was at some time in the last five to 10 years that I'm just don't put myself in the situation we bit by sharks. It's fair. And I'm trying to think. It definitely was a Hawaii trip with the family. And I was like, I'm going to stay within 15 feet of the shore. I'm not going to go swim out. Would you guys guess that I went shark cage diving? no that's different it's a little safe i think that's pardon i think it's safe for sure safe yeah i think i'd rather go i think i like i'm more likely to go shark diving and just like go for a rip in the middle of the ocean i think i agree i 100 agree because i don't know how many people die shark diving cage sharky i don't think i don't think i think it's like pretty foolproof no my friends that i went with they watched that movie like on our way to go no no no no no zero people have been killed directly by a shark while inside a shark cage yeah so that to me that to me is is safe enough i'm very for like just because anxiety i'm so down to remove helicopters um swimming out into the middle of the ocean for fun ice climbing i'm gonna remove that from my list skydiving skydiving like i'm good to just not i don't need that do you know about riptides undercurrents yeah same thing yeah oh my god my parents put the fear of god in me when we would go to mexico do you know how to get out of them no at one point though i think i did tell me you swim to the side swim parallel to the shore yeah so you don't swim to the shore you swim sideways sideways okay it's good to know yeah but like yeah i'm good i don't need to get in a riptide like I'm I the ocean in general for me I agree the more I'm talking I'm good with the pool I'm good I'll put my feet in the ocean me too but like yeah lakes too like I'm good I like I like an ocean or I like a pool I think that's what I'm realizing now I used to love helicopters I think I'm good with just a regular old giant plane now if you see me on a helicopter don't say anything because I do love them, but I don't.

36:06What were you going to say about the phobias though? You're saying everyone has one. Everyone has a phobia. And I just wonder what Tate's will be. Oh. Which is a great topic. Okay. I think it's very important that we don't take our fears and push them on our children. Which is why. Whether it's heights with me or insects with her. And so my request specifically right now is we have a lot of wasps. I've been very good. And yesterday when Bubba and I were swimming, there were a couple wasps around and she did not react to them at all. And whether it's flies or wasps or spiders, I really, really request that you don't react.

36:51Yeah, I try very hard to not. I hope you notice that. The next time we're standing on top of the building, I want no reaction from you. I will 100 % do my best. Yeah, no, I agree. I think that it's important that we don't teach them to be afraid of the things we're afraid of. Like, I wonder how much of, yeah, I wonder how much of an impact parents fears and being afraid of spiders does then impact the kids. I would assume an incredibly high correlation. Yeah, I would think. I would think so. So what I'm going to do today is I'm going to come home and I'm going to bring like three different little cases and I'm going to get Bubba a pet snake.

37:35I'm going to get her a pet spider and I'm going to get her a pet, just a bunch of flies and other things. And we're just going to keep them in her room. And then every day we're going to take them around and put them in different rooms in the kitchen, in our room. and so that way she gets very comfortable with them. Not bad. No. No, no. No, no, dada. No, dada. What you could do is take Bubba to a place where there were insects like that. There's a snake zoo that we drove by. What? That we're going to have to take her to because you know who also is afraid of snakes? You? Yes. I'm not going. I'm just not going.

38:14No, you should go. No, why? Because we need to conquer the fears with her. Well, I'm good. I'm good at, I'm fine with my fear. So at my local library, when I was a child, they would bring this very long snake and they would put it on two like white tables, you know, the big white tables. Yeah. End to end. So it would go across two. Its name was Cucumber. And my grandparents took me to see it. So I remember it. That's why you should go. That's a really cute name. I liked it. I know, Cucumber. That's an adorable, that is the most adorable name on the planet. Yeah. I'm, I'm, I want her to go and have that memory.