Dads delivering babies, flipping a breech baby & our 6-minute bedtime routine

35:38You're telling me I could have the baby on the highway. I would much rather in a controlled environment you can deliver the course. Our big learning was Jules was delivered by her father. but I need like you're not doing anything you're not doing anything I was trying to think of the equivalent it's like when you're helping your mom like bake something and she's measuring everything out and like you know you were a kid and she let you like dump it in the bowl yes you get to like dump the flour in the bowl but you didn't act not to you know don't I get it I get it I like I completely understand that.

36:15I don't think I'm going in there and you know But like of course it's safe. You're just going to stand there and touch the baby's head. And you're going to kind of probably, she'll probably, here's the one thing she probably will say. Pull. Because remember there's that time where she says okay now we're going to pull. I cannot explain to you what it feels like when you pull a baby out of you. It's like they slither out of you. You'll probably do the pull. Yeah. I was there for number one, Jules. I was there I had a very clean angle As to what was going on Because you were a flip flop You said you didn't want to see What was going on With baby number one No way I said that Yes And then Really When we were in there You absolutely said I would love to watch the birth And you got over there Well someone told me I think someone was like You don't want to see it And I was like That's No And you thought Such a Like a special moment of life Like To not Witness that is that that doesn't land for that's not how I live no I think a lot of dads think they don't want to see and then they get see the birth of the baby and they get in there and they really start to understand like this is a cool process it's a slow process of course you want to peek back there because you just see the head a little bit you were the first person to touch Bubber's head she let you do that last time and you were like yeah and then you went you flip-flopped you said you were going to stay above the curtain and you went behind the curtain yeah well there was no curtain by the way well they it's a figure of speech no i think that it's above the dress below the dress i think in a c-section there is a curtain there is a curtain yes sorry this is above the dress below the dress it's it's truly one of the most special moments of life and unbelievable i wanted to watch um from beginning to end all 36 hours it's unbelievable a baby comes from here and then is crying in the world.

38:08There's nothing like it. I mean, it's as human as it gets. Biologically. Pretty cool stuff. I think you should deliver it. Yeah, well, I love the sounds of it. You guys know with baby number two, I've talked all about how I'm going to combo feed and I'm going to combo feed early. And when it comes to choosing formula, it is so important to look at the ingredients label and pick one you love. And that is why we have Bobby on today's episode. Bobby supports every feeding journey with free expert led lactation support classes, combo feeding seminars, and organic formulas. Bobby's organic European style infant formulas are here to help you feed with confidence.

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40:11Do you want to talk about the breach of contract? The baby is breach, honey. Yeah. The baby is sitting breach. Yeah. Yes. Okay, so I've actually gotten just a ton of DMs and a ton of text messages from my friends on this breach situation. So the baby is breached and I asked the internet, I said, Hey, if your baby was breached, did they flip? Did you do anything to make them flip or did you go and get them flipped? I was trying to figure out what was going on with the breaches. Okay. Now I'm 27 weeks basically, and the baby's breach. Now what we've learned by the time you get to birth, most flip, but one in 20 are still breach at that point.

40:54So, so our doctors like, listen, the baby's probably going to flip. Don't you even worry. I thought if the baby doesn't flip, I was going to do some things to flip it. I've now learned I am absolutely, I've got like a firm take on this. Absolutely not doing anything to flip it. If I have to have a C-section, wonderful. A lot of C-section moms have reached out to me saying they had vaginal the first time they had a c-section the second time phenomenal birthing experience you put on music you don't really feel anything the recovery is a lot better so don't like be afraid of a c-section so why did you change your view on like doing the things to turn the breach it's not always safe to flip the baby so i had a mom reach out specifically her gut feeling was like, I'm not going to flip the baby.

41:42Baby was born. Umbilical cord was around the neck, which was fine. Had they flipped it would not have been fine. Um, I had another mom reach out to me where they flipped the baby at a while. It, it resulted in an emergency C-section. Like all of my comments are flipping the baby's not always safe and I'm not flipping it for a medical reason. I'm flipping it to avoid a C-section and, and that's just, there's no point in flipping the baby if they naturally flip great if they don't naturally flip there's probably a reason and so we do the c-section and i'm at complete peace with it so no i mean that that makes a lot of sense to me um as you know i'm very much a trust the process person and i was so there there are most importantly trust you yeah my gut like it is unequivocally now there will be no flipping of the baby they say it's safe to go to a chiropractor but even then i'm not doing it like there's no flipping of the baby that's going to occur it's we're just going to see what happens here if I have to have a c-section sounds like um if you have to have a c-section your recovery is a little bit better and like you can walk around more so that there's trade-offs right um the reason I wanted to avoid the c-section and I'll do that c-section surgery right yes and you will do this yes and she'll let you do that that's what I heard uh the reason I wanted to avoid the c-section if you're wondering why i wanted to avoid it is i had a i had a 36 hour delivery with my first and i pushed for six hours and i was in so much pain because my epidural didn't work i was begging for a c-section and my doctor was like you can do this vaginally if i'm just gonna have a c-section with a second i would have loved to have just done it with the first that was my thinking yeah i also like i think the c-section is is like a pretty big surgery like it it isn't like it's a wake ab surgery yeah it's a wake slicing of the abs now granted they numb you but it's it's a major thing but you're fully awake from what i understand of what a c-section is just a little slice now i hear you only feel pressure and you can put music on and i think it's really fast which is great but they like take everything out and you can listen to an audio you can listen to a podcast listen you can do some but i don't know the awake ab surgery situation like that kind of scares me but everyone a lot of c-section moms reached out this is why i love the internet and they were like it's a beautiful experience now some ways you can flip the baby you ready okay number one you can put music down here and they'll want to hear it so a lot of times they will flip to listen to the music.

44:24The other way, the most common way I hear is put ice on the top of your stomach and a heating pad on the bottom of it. And they, they don't want to be cold. So they'll gravitate towards the heat and they'll do a flip. The other is bounce on a ball, just bounce a lot. And like literally like a, a big, um, what are those called? Sumo balls, you know, like a workout ball and aerobics ball bounce on that like a birthing ball and they'll flip and then you can also go to a chiropractor and they will like do your stomach and they will flip the baby but this baby i can feel his head it's right here he's staying well what do you think jules well the music thing that just sounds like it's flipping naturally that's my question i guess it's not but i guess it's not and i guess like there is something biological to if they want to flip they do like if they're comfortable to flip they will flip and so I think that what I've gathered and everybody that you know I don't like it when people start to um yell at you this there was no yelling happening it was very informational in the comments and a lot of times the baby does flip right so I'll let you know it's funny too some parents some moms feel when the baby flips and it feels like a somersault in your stomach and they get like a little wave of nausea some say they never feel it flip so I don't know but we're not going to flip the breech baby we're going to let it go because it just feels like there's no real benefit in flipping it to put a bow on it I think it's interesting how quickly you're like I do love When we get great information from the internet, like your view, can change on a matter that was something totally different yesterday.

46:17To parallel it to something, I also was talking to people about whether or not to get induced. And for that one, you make a gut decision, I think, a lot of times. And on that one, I felt totally comfortable getting induced. The only thing was maybe your birth will be a little longer. I was fine with that. But induction versus like flipping a breached baby, it sounds like there's some real harm that can happen to the baby if you flip it by design. And so I was really happy to hear that, though. It's like, oh, we won't be flipping the baby. Now, granted, one thing I did not do was talk to my doctor about she probably would have been like, we're not flipping.

46:53No baby is being flipped. Right. She probably would have squashed that bug immediately. But my style's a bit. Ask the Internet. Ask the doctor around 34 weeks. like I have I have six weeks to go right so yep but my friends were very helpful very very helpful and very comforting about the c-section good to know so I'm feeling really good just nope just letting it go very nice no problem okay where were you 10 years ago

47:25my friend Katie brought up a good point about this 2016 thing she's like why didn't we do this with 2015 we didn't do this 2025 2016 may have been the most active year of my life do explain um i probably went to um i pulled i actually instagrammed a lot in 2016 so you're active on instagram i i took like Probably a two to three year hiatus off of Instagramming. But 2016 was a year of documenting my travels. And I couldn't believe all the different places that I went. Name a few. Don't name them all. Okay, I'm just pulling up. Where were you living in 2016? Based in where? Hong Kong? Hong Kong.

48:20Okay. So Tanzania, Kenya, Rwanda, Vienna, Austria, Slovakia, Budapest. Wow. Amsterdam, Hong Kong, Vancouver. I'm just scrolling through. Kuala Lumpur, Vietnam, Macau, China. Oh, it's going to get better. New York. Oh, it's going to get better. Just wait. Oklahoma. Just wait. Oh, this is good. Inner Mongolia. Couldn't pick that out on a map. Bangkok. Laos. Laos. Yes. It's a little Laos action. Borneo. Where's Borneo? Borneo, Southeast Asia. Climbed Mount Kinabalu, I believe the highest mountain in Southeast Asia. There's a great photo of me summiting at 541. Oh, how long did it take you to climb it?

49:18It was a couple days. Couple day climb? Yep. Bali. Bali? Yeah. A lot of Bali. I've always wanted to go to Bali. Had a couple Bali trips. Tokyo for a bachelor party. Abu Dhabi. Remember when she said some of them? No, no, no. We got to do it all, Jules. We got to do it all. Ooh, Dubai at the Burj Khalifa. I looked up my 2016 trips. I went to Nashville and Napa. That was it. That was it. I went to Tulsa, Oklahoma. The Gilly Islands in Lombok. For a Justin Bieber concert. I went to Nashville for my birthday, Napa on a girls trip, and Tulsa, Oklahoma for a Justin Bieber concert. And began the year in Kitzbühel, Austria at the Honnenkamm, which is like one of the craziest parties in the world.

50:05It's a big ski race party. Wow. Yeah, it's a really cool event. So. Comparable. Also Munich, Germany. How many countries do you think that was? I think it was like 20, 18 to 22. in that range. That was an action-packed year. I just was not having that action-packed year. I was living in Oklahoma City and apparently I went on two trips. And I looked and a lot of my friends got married that year. Like I went to, and that was, I graduated college in 2016. And then a lot of my friends got married. So I was doing baby, or wedding showers and weddings. And then I took two trips and you were, you came to America one time it sounds like for New York.

50:43I will go as far as saying I don't think I attended a single wedding in 2016. I don't think you attended a single wedding until 2020 probably. Did your friends get married? No. The wedding season probably started a year or two after that. You still have a lot of friends that aren't married. No, you have both. Mainly all your friends are actually married. Yeah. There's just like the group of New York single. We need a word. The New York single singletons. Singletons? But other than New York singletons. A lot of your friends are married. Everyone else is married. And have kids actually. So was of all of these travels that you went to, if you gave me a map and I had to pinpoint where all you were, I think I would get three of them right.

51:29What's the craziest story? Did you run a marathon anywhere? You hiked a mountain. I know you like to run marathons in other countries. What happened? I would say the craziest thing was definitely hiking with the gorillas in Rwanda. That is so cool. That to me is the coolest thing I have ever done. Ever? In the world, other than seeing you give birth to our daughter. There we go. So it's the second coolest thing you've ever done. Yes, correct. I want nothing more than to go to Africa and do a safari with you. Me too. It's like honeymoon done. Do we take the kids? Oh, no, honeymoon. No kids on the honeymoon.

52:06We'll have to go back with the kids when they're old enough. I don't know if, like, because safari is like what's mind-boggling. Bubba would look at a giraffe and be like, woof, woof. The problem is she'd get out of the thing. She'd run towards the lion. The number one rule is you can't get out of the truck. She wouldn't understand that they weren't her stuffed animals. They come so close to you. She would. No safaris for Bubba yet. Yeah. Yeah. Safari is like truly as magical of a life experience as one can have outside of children. Can we do that for our honeymoon? Yeah. And remember I'd said on the honeymoon piece, I talked about how there's like a place I've been saving.

52:55Yeah. What I can say is it does work with a safari. Okay. hey, so here's my take on travel now. I used to not be like so big on these long flights. Like I just find them exhausting, dehydrating. I want my food. Like now that we've had kids and we've traveled even a four hour flight with Bubber, I'll travel any amount of time on an airplane and just zonk out. And I'm officially like ready to go on long flights, even multiple flights to get there, long car rides. Like I can really do an intense travel day to get somewhere awesome. Getting to Africa is going to take a really long time. I mean, yeah.

53:36How long? Like a day and a half? Yeah, but we'll need to connect as well. But a day and a half total? I couldn't tell you. Okay. But probably 16, 18 hours. Yeah. Okay. I'm totally fine with that. You can plan it fun, whether it's like stopping in Dubai or stopping in London. I so I saw this tick-tock that said tell me the most overrated place you've ever been and Overwhelmingly in the comments people said Dubai. They said it's very depressing very concrete They hated it very dark. There's a 24 24 hours in Dubai would be would be would be fun Anywhere with you would be fun with 24 hours. Um, you make anything fun for 24 hours I think that Bangkok, Thailand is the most overrated place I've ever been to.

54:26Thailand? People love Thailand. Bangkok, specifically. Is Bangkok a city in Thailand? Bangkok's the main city. And why is it overrated? I just, I think it, well, just don't like it. Wasn't a lot there? Like, I think that I love a lot of different parts of Thailand. and the Pee Pee Islands. Pee Pee? Phuket. Phuket. Northern Thailand. I forget the place. There's a lot of great places in Thailand. I just, I don't like Bangkok. Bangkok was not. It's not beautiful. And the rest of Thailand, there's a lot of beautiful places. That's a valid reason to not like it, I think, for the beauty. Do you have any other?

55:08Super crowded. Oh, not pretty and crowded. And disorganized. Disorganized and like I didn't feel like there's a lot of, I didn't love the architecture. Not pretty, crowded and disorganized. Yes, just that specific city. Okay, I can't think of a parallel here in America. What were you going to ask? Well, is there any other stories? Did you run a marathon in all those cities? I ran a race in Inner Mongolia, half marathon. In Inner Mongolia. Yep. Okay, and how was it? It was very good. It was, I came 10th place. How many were the people running it? 12?

55:49That was funny. That was good. Thank you. That was good. 14. How many people were running it? Probably 100. Okay. 10th is really good. It was people doing the race. I'm glad there was people doing the race. There was a mix of people that came in for it and locals. Okay. You came in for it. Yeah. Just a Canadian guy. There's a local guy that ran part of the race with me, and he kind of saw me huffing and puffing, and he gave me some water and kind of wanted to have a chat, and that was a cool experience. Didn't they spoke English? No. It was like, it was a cool moment, and then he dusted me. At the end?

56:29We hung up for a little bit. I think he could tell, like, I didn't have the energy. Like, I was running a race, and so I was huffing wind, and he just had the stamina. And so he just had C. You got 10th. What did he get? Like 5th? I have no idea. 6th? 4th? I couldn't tell you. So I know that you and your family do this thing where you travel to places to do marathons. Sometimes. Like London? It's happened. London, South Africa. That's happened, yeah. Chicago. I thought there was a – is there an Australia race happening? there's been discussions of it i can so in high school in order to start on the volleyball team we had to run a mile in under eight minutes and 45 seconds and i hope tate who was my best friend in high school who i played volleyball with is listening to this and can attest i could never do it i had to go early i had to have somebody from the track team run with me i had to get a doctor's when you're like, I am a sprinter.

57:31I am not a long distance runner. What do we need to do to have you run a marathon with my dad and myself? I'll go to the marathon, but it's physical torture for me. But what do we need to do to get you to try it? Just try. Just sign up. Here's what you need to do. And do your best. Watch me run two miles and you will see. Like I physically can, I would assume. I don't know. But I think you watching that would be, I think you would see, like, I could not do it. I'm sure you could. I'm sure you could. I just would rather, like, I like short-term pain, not long-term. Not drug out. And here, okay, let me ask you this.

58:17What's your routine before a marathon? The night before? yeah i find that that i've only ran a couple of them but i've always kept it really loose for me i don't want to change things dramatically um and get out of my rhythm and so nice dinner glass or two of wine and go to bed at a at a reasonable hour don't like try to go to bed at like 6 p.m and then you're just going to be restless or 8 p.m you're just going to be restless all night and do you think like because a lot of people the night before a marathon i would assume like eat spaghetti like they carb load so they have energy the next morning they hydrate they do get in bed at a good time see i think that that um like if you're starting that the night before you're late to the game okay like the hydration needs to start weeks beforehand okay so it's got nothing at that point it's too late what you do the night before you always had a good quote though about like why you drank the night before and that's because you that's if you don't do well you have something to blame it on well that was a john jones um that was a john jones quote is he a boxer he's a ufc fighter he'd always in training go out and party so that way he had another lever to pull i i think it's less of that for me and it's just much more staying relaxed not taking it too too seriously but like i'm not a expert racer here i'm no but you don't take as recreational as it gets yeah but i think i think running marathons recreationally is like just my version of of like being tortured i think we'll do one together okay um i don't think we will but okay all right let's go to the bedtime routine for bubber you had said on an episode that we have a six minute bedtime routine for our 16 month old and a lot of people are wondering what on earth that is.

1:00:15I worry I'm going to underwhelm with this one. Okay. But yes, we have a very tight program that works well for Tate. How much of that is the program versus how she naturally quickly falls asleep? I'd probably assume the latter. But what do you want me to say? Just like what I do? What do you do? It's not rocket science. No one's saying it is. Just what do you do? I do follow like a, It's short and it's the same pattern. And it's when we go into the room, we go. It all starts with the change. Then after the change, lights off, sound machine, sleep sack goes on, four ounces of milk, very gentle brush of the teeth.

1:01:10then some i give her some quick words of encouragement and then i put her to bed i think that the only other thing i'd add is maybe things that i don't do okay and the importance of those and why i don't why you know i chose or we don't do and why we chose not to do them is i i is i felt like i just wanted it when we go through that her her sleep process to not associate that routine with the rest of the day and so like I don't read to her and the reason why I don't read to her is because she reads throughout the rest of the day and so if she reads before bed then I feel like how is she gonna delineate between reading and going to sleep versus reading at you know 1 p.m.

1:02:02for an activity she also never plays in her crib crib is just for sleeping time Yeah, and I take that a step further. Like the bedroom is for sleeping. So as you said, she's never in the crib to play. She's only in the crib to sleep. The chair, she's never, the chair that I give her the milk in, the only time she's ever in that chair is before bed. Yeah, or if she wakes up in the middle of the night, that's the sleeping time winding down chair. And the general bedroom, she never plays in the bedroom. She plays outside of the bedroom, in the living room. So I don't know how all this stuff. I think the number one thing, though, is bath time for her.

1:02:43Oh, and there's one other thing. Even the changing table. The only time I change her on the changing table in her room is before bed. In the morning when I wake her up, I change her downstairs. Oh, I change her in her room sometimes when I wake her up because sometimes there's a lot of. I just want to get her out of the room as fast as possible. Yeah. So that way the room is for sleeping. and outside of the room is for living. And once again, I don't think this is rocket science. I feel like a lot of parents do this, but it's worked for us. But also, bath time for her is really fun. It's splash, splash, splash.

1:03:16It's animals. It's like she has a ball in the bath, so she bathes always before dinner. Whatever it is throughout the day, doesn't matter. She takes her bath before dinner. It's not bath and then bedtime because we think that wakes her up. Yeah, totally. She gets so much excitement in the tub. But I think the two main things is like our routine for her for bedtime we never made it long like we just never started with the books we never started with the bath and so we do we just we try to make it really really quick and and it just has worked for us yeah we we keep it very short it's bedtime oriented activities and not messing or not muddying the waters with like other types of activities if that makes sense totally totally so we we have a short bedtime routine so people have a long one and they love it but for us like we're just short but also i do think i do think this is her much more her than the routine like i think if she was a tough sleeper i'm not like i'm not sure this would work for her like this is work for her we'll see what works for baby too yeah and maybe with some kids you do have to have lights off 30 minutes before we do start to wind down like she can wind down quick because that's always what we've done and the reason why i change her first right when i get in that room change her first you're saying yeah when we go in the room and i change her is one like hopefully that's when she realizes like the process is starting but too like that is like oh that's when she's most likely to wake up like because you're cold when you just doesn't really like it yeah and so just get it out of the way yeah do it first is really good yeah i like your words of encouragement that you say the nana picks them up mama's number one he tells her every night i tell her she's gonna have a great great leap great night bears time i'll get you in the morning it's really cute yeah she's number one she's a good just so she knows even though i'm putting her to bed number one you're number one but you love that time that's not a joke by the way i actually say that you say it during the daytime too yeah i don't think anybody i think it's really important like i i do i do really tell like i really walk her through the sleep though and i and i encourage her i say she's gonna have a really nice i call it leaps She's going to have a really nice leap.

1:05:29She's going to go leapy bear. Yeah, leapy bear. I realize we have our own language with her. Well, she has her own language with us. Absolutely. It's really cute. Okay, let's go to things we DMed. The first thing we DMed is Koro created a breastfeeding monitor. Basically, it looks like a nipple situation that you put over the boob when you're breastfeeding. And it monitors how much milk your baby is getting. people do not like it interesting in the video he's like this really solves a problem the guy that i saw he was selling it in the comments it was like this is breastfeeding is a very natural thing the best part about a baby is when they're full they will just unlatch and you don't need to know really how much they got okay tell me if this lands this to me feels like a product that as a first time parent you would like rush to buy but as a second time parent you'd be like trust the process i even think as a first maybe a first time parent for the first two weeks you'd be like i should i need to know how much milk they're getting but you do weighted feeds if you really need to know you weigh in before and you can weigh in after maybe some parents i feel like this is something we would have bought the first time around i i think i do agree maybe we would have bought it but i also think like breastfeeding it's just a natural thing like adding a layer of like plastic in between you and the baby just seems to really disrupt the whole process what i am like very supportive of is is i do love that we are is that as society we are creating a bunch of different tools and devices that people like then have the option to use it supports mothers and if you do need to know how much milk you're making it's fabulous for you i just think the majority think that breastfeeding is this very nat all natural process this is a bit disruptive to that so i do understand that school of thought but also if your baby does need to gain weight this is a good way to track it yes and and that is the caveat that i should have added is like obviously for that case of monitoring your weight.

1:07:48I really understand the use case. The other problem is though that I found with breastfeeding is sometimes you breastfeed and then your boobs are still full so you have to pump. It would be nice to know like how much was taken out, how much is probably left in the boob. Like there is that game you're playing, but I don't know. overall in like the consumer world i would just think i could see a use case for it i can and i can't um but the comments that i saw were overwhelmingly like we're good we don't need it um but i'm with you i do i do appreciate attempting innovation that you would find helpful for breastfeeding mothers my favorite that's happened was what state was it minnesota illinois illinois illinois with the 30 minutes um i did actually sorry illinois made the law that you have to allow 30 minutes of paid leave for women to breastfeed or breast pump yeah and then i saw a bunch of comments talking about how other countries naturally do that anyways i'm sure they were like what do you mean and i was like well progress progress is progress the second things we dm'd is a product that has already sold out and a dad created this so his kid didn't see him on his phone and it is a book that magnets to your phone and so it looks like you're reading a book but you're actually on your phone I like this because I've seen I've been I've been understanding the effects it has not your kids being on screen time your kids seeing you on your screen i understand you should not be on your screen that much in front of your kids however we're human there are times when parents are just going to check their phone in front of their kids yeah like i like this but i like it for very specific use cases versus like becoming the default like as we've been talking about Like what I'm trying to do myself is create separation, like just not have my phone around me when she's there.

1:10:00But yeah, for the times that you do need to be on it, then this is a great tool. But like this being something that like you're just you're using at the dinner table. Like, no, I'm completely out on this being something that, you know, you're ripping off emails when you get home from work. Like, sure. Where where I even gravitate towards this, though, in general, is it means parents are thinking about it like parents are love it. Parents are understanding it's harmful for my kids to always see me on my phone. So let's make a book to to disrupt that. I'm in on that school of thought. Yeah. But where I think it's where I don't like it is what we've learned is at especially at a very pivotal age, right, between one and three.

1:10:47I think your kids start to feed you cues and they're nonverbal cues. Sometimes like a lot of times Tate will do this. I was making eggs the other day and she was giving me more on the grapes. They were sliced grapes. If I missed the more, she'd go, ah, ah. And so I'd look at her and then she would do it for me. Right. So she was trying to get my attention. I think when you're on your phone, if you're reading a book, if you're distracted in general, sometimes you miss the cues. What we've learned when you hit the cue, they build confidence. Like, so I do understand being present. Why are you laughing?

1:11:18Because if you were listening to an audio book, you could still see. You could see. But you couldn't hear. You couldn't hear, Jules. You couldn't hear. But they're nonverbal cues. Nonverbal cues here. I was thinking of – no, but she makes the noise. I was thinking of like a way to tie in audio books to that, but I couldn't. I do think one thing that has been like really cool to watch is like she probably did more for the first time six or seven months ago. but she didn't do it consistently. And like she really, you could tell like she didn't know what it truly meant. And so watching that, the process of her figuring out more to today, where like she gets it, like she really understands it.

1:12:03And she can kind of like test it, has been really fun to watch. But the cutest was the other day, we had the flock chicken sticks and she had it in her hand. She took a bite of it and she wanted to eat more of it. And so she gave us the more and we were like, oh, Bubba, you're holding it. Like you have more. Yeah. It's really cute. I've noticed she can't say more at all. Like, so she does this, but she's all done. And all done is this. Like when she's finished with her meal, she'll just go. But more, she gives us the finger. That's been pivotal to learn the more symbol because sometimes you don't know if she's liking what she's eating.

1:12:39And there's nothing cuter than when she gives you the more. Okay. I think that we can end it on the more. What other sign language does she do? Well, the other cute thing is bringing the papados. But what I love that Maria does for the papados is she, she, this, I said this last episode, there are certain things I love to learn from Maria, who is like just a developmental educational queen. And she, I noticed today when she was putting on their zapados, she also sat on the floor. and I was like why are you sitting on the floor and she was like because I'm modeling to them what we're all going to do when we put our shoes on so maybe we're supposed to sit on the floor with her when she puts her papados on yeah I thought that was cute and so she said the other day when they were at the library the girls wanted a snack and she said okay but only if we all sit on the floor and they all sat and had their snacks and they had to stay seated the whole time and eat their snacks Bubber knows when she's with Maria versus when she's with us but us should be running laps eating that snack with Maria as she knows it's not sietete it's I was using the wrong word for sit I mean your Spanish vocabulary is increasing every day I it's motivating me to to try and keep up I'm I'm really enjoying it like I want to learn Spanish and so I'm enjoying asking Maria like Maria asked me today how do you say this and it was diaper cream in Spanish or in English.

1:14:12And then I was asking her, like, how are we saying sit? How are we saying? I always forget head. Cabeja. Cabeja. Yeah, yeah, cabeja. But donde esta ojos is like, we love to point at our eyes and our head and our nose. So it's cute. Really cute little developmental phase we're in. All right, everybody. Well, thank you for listening. And if you're listening. and if and if you're listening especially up until this point my push present from you to me is to subscribe to like to comment leave a comment um and send this to a friend thank you for listening we love you guys thank you for listening thanks for listening to another episode of two parents in a podcast powered by just media house if you enjoyed the show don't forget to like subscribe, comment, rate, and review.

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