Friendsgiving recap, raising polite kids & are pregnancy chiropractors a scam?!

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27:57Tate:30 people came. So many kids came. It was like fall foliage. There was a creek running through the ranch. It was out of movie. Imagine the best Friendsgiving you can think of and it was better than that. Well, that's the thing is I've never had a Friendsgiving that like lives as a – that is on par with a traditional Thanksgiving. Yes. Okay. That's a great way to put it. It would be a stellar Thanksgiving day. Like normally I find my Friendsgivings are like super – They're fun. They're fun but like it's not that different than like a normal Friday barbecue that we'd have. Right. Which like often are kind of potluck form and or someone's cooking and so on and so forth.

28:43But like this felt like Thanksgiving. And so now the fact that this year we get two Thanksgivings, I am pumped on.

28:50Tate:It's awesome. Yeah. So what all did you make? Because you and neighbor T kind of like co-cooked. Yeah. So I was in charge of meat. So Friday night we fried chicken on the open fire, which was the first time I've ever done that. It was unbelievable. And that is my new favorite dish to make, especially in that setting. It was it was a blast. And we also smoked beef ribs. And then Saturday for the main event, did a little classic dog and and burgers for lunch. This was a pre this was this was the meal before the meal, the meal before the meal. and then for the main event we smoked pork ribs and did two turkeys.

29:38We did one turkey fried first time ever and then one hybrid smoked and then finished in the oven.

29:46Tate:It was okay so it was unbelievable. Thank you. And somebody asked you have you always been into cooking? No. And your answer was so cute. You lit up because you were excited that he asked you. Thank you. Yeah it was like I was kind of in shock by the way but of you you like had you fried the chicken and then you needed something to like dry it not dry it on but let it cool off on and you had bought every single thing necessary to do all three of these meals well thank you I was just like what he has like the great thing like when I uh went through my single period over um out of my past relationship that's when like I really started to pick up cooking and it was weird like I was making a lot of meats that ended up being for like either just me or me and you know a couple friends and I like you and your date that night no like I'd have you know whatever Alex and Jake come over but like there'd be a you know 12 pound brisket that we would have smoked and it was like did you ever have a girl over and make her dinner this is just an unproductive conversation it's just interesting did i ever make a date dinner of course oh okay cute but like smoking brisket before you was a smoking brisket for for dates yeah oh yeah isn't that cool he had you loved it like you you made us like actually i started smoking meat for the first time in in san francisco oh that's when i got my first traeger so you're kind of interested in this yeah uh but i think when I really like poured fuel on the fire was.

31:26Tate:Pun intended. Was probably only two plus years ago. And like, I just loved it. When you think of personal brands. You find it calming and relaxing. You having a fried chicken skin brand, like this fits nicely into kind of your wheelhouse. Kind of a food guy. You're kind of a food guy. Yeah. Well, falling into the packaged food industry was a result of how much I love food and large leading out and how can we make snacks at home as good as at a restaurant or fresh made. So overall, how would you grade your performance? I'll never grade it other than I actually had a lot of fun. And I think it's just weird because thinking back to my first Thanksgiving with Alex's family, I feel like I would go there and just like kind of sit and be a consumer.

32:22And like I wasn't an active participant in those. And so like I really love being an active participant and like being able to give and share and contribute.

32:32Tate:Cook, make a part. So do you think, okay, so let's, during Thanksgiving when you're told to bring a dish, but let's say it's a fried turkey and you're the one frying the turkey, does that count as the couple's contribution or not? 100 % I think that that when a dish is allocated it's allocated to a house it's not allocated to an individual so if we're in charge with a side like it's not you have a side and I have a side our house brings a side or a main so I really agree with that I think like if I make a pie or something then that counts as like Alex and Harrison yeah magnetic me has the cutest clothes and let me tell you what they are the most practical thing on the planet the other day I was wearing my magnetic me pajamas, the adult version.

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34:44Tate:What age? Oh, well, if you go back to my prior definition, it was by house. So when you move out, do you see what I'm saying? Like, yeah. Okay. So when you move out and you live in your own house, you bring your own dish. Yeah. Okay. I think that's good. I think it's a dish per house. Not per last name, per house. Yeah. I mean, that gets what that what if you have a big family? i mean yes you you have a very big family so if you can't bring one dish so if you live under the house and under the roof then you okay i get it but when you move out let's when you're in college what do you bring a dish no but in college you're still like when you're back visiting you're living under that household oh so that does okay i like that so when you when you graduate college though let's say you move out on your own then you bring a dish yeah you say hey i'll bring the pumpkin pie or something exactly okay now if you don't know how to cook that well and you go to the store and buy something do you think it's cheating to then replate it into your own dish i think it is way better to go to the if like i hated cooking forever okay and so like why force someone to do something they don't want to do like p the people don't care if it's homemade the people care that it tastes good.

36:01So like I'm cooking because I want to be cooking. And so people don't want to be cooking. I would say like 100 % go to the store and bring it.

36:11Tate:But do you bring it in the store container or can you replate it? I think you want. I think you plate it. But I don't think you mislead about plating it. Okay. So you can plate it. What if you go to the store and buy mashed potatoes, but you take them home and you add some butter and some herbs and some things to it? Some bacon bits. Then highly encouraged. But is it then a hybrid? Yeah, but I would just own it. okay i would just own whatever path you take i love when it's something's homemade though on thanksgiving i really like when everybody brings their dish but that's why like if if it's that's why i would say plate it because if it's plated then people are naturally going to think that and like i don't ask if it's homemade because like but you can tell and you're judging out i agree you can tell yes you can you can tell if something is homemade or store-bought no way there's just no way pumpkin pie yes so pies maybe i'm not a pie guy though i mean mashed potatoes is like the number one thing not stuffing stuff i like stovetop stuffing though but green bean casserole but there's so many variations you can tell there's so many variations of how you can make things like are you buying the basic like 99 cent gravy packet or like no you can tell if somebody cooked their sweet potato casserole in their own dish and then brought it you can tell it's like cooked on the sides.

37:25Tate:I completely agree. It's cooked. And that's what they bring it in. I think that that's what plating solves. But I think you'd be surprised at how many people do store-bought. Which I highly encourage. I'm okay with store-bought and then you make it. Yeah. I'm okay with that. I do like a couple dishes homemade. What do you think is the best Thanksgiving side? I think it's stuffing and it's not close. I think the best Thanksgiving side to bring somewhere and to make is 100 % mac and cheese. Why? Because I think mac and cheese, the, I think people, one, always love it. And two, it's, it's hard to make bad mac and cheese.

38:08Like it's, it is almost a, and I will say the mac and cheese that was brought to our friends giving was a 10 out of 10 mac and cheese. It was phenomenal. She killed it. If she didn't kill it, it still would have been an 8 out of 10.

38:25Tate:Right. Okay. She did do a 10 out of 10. But overall, the food was amazing. I agree on the mac and cheese. And there was like, there was lots of store-bought items at this and they were really, really good. What I love is someone brought Texas Roadhouse. I was just about to say. I actually, I want to re-pivot this. I think if you're going to, I really want to re-pivot this. If you go store-bought, nail the store you're buying them at. I initially went like, you're just doing kind of basic, like off the shelf stuff like the person who brought Texas Roadhouse rolls with the cinnamon butter slam dunk they may have been the biggest hit of anything because that's the best place to get rolls yes and that's and then you bring the butter it was such a hit I had to it was so good actually maybe I should suggest to my mother because she gets her rolls from this place in Oklahoma that's like pretty good but we live near Texas Roadhouse okay I still need to go to Texas Roadhouse still haven't been It's a great restaurant for bubs.

39:25Tate:We're not eating out as much with bubs. Bub's loves to run around right now. We're in run around mode. So we're not doing as many dinners out with the bubberator. She had a new development today. She, for the first time, clearly told us she wanted to go outside. She walked to the front door. She pulled out her bike and she went and got her papados. And then she started slamming on the glass. She started banging on the front door and we were like, oh, she wants to go outside. And Harrison took her outside of the coffee shop and she was so happy. She also gave me a this and I knew she was hungry.

39:58Tate:She wanted huevos. She put her hand to her mouth. But she's been doing that. She's not that consistent with her doing it. Because I think that sometimes if she's a little bit hungry, then she can do that. I think if she gets too hungry, she like loses the ability to do that. But this whole situation with the front door today. No, this is what she does when she gets too hungry. she started to but also i noticed um she's got her all done's mixed up because i was mid feeding the other day she gave me the all done signal i said are you all done i took it away she's like wait she didn't say wait but she was like wow and i was like oh she wants it back so another thing i've noticed she wasn't all done she doesn't always like when at what point do babies start digesting everything you say so like what i mean by that is like her new my new favorite thing that she does is besos where she gives you a kiss and you say besos besos besos besos but you you may say it two three times and she clearly doesn't hear you and then you'll say it like the fourth time and she hears it and then she knows you gotta go in for a kiss what was i saying the other day to them tate and winnie and they would oh um uber eats is here i was saying poyo to them and they would both come running over to me because they were hungry and they wanted the chicken That is amazing.

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43:00Tate:Well, I want to talk about the manners that the kids had at the Friendsgiving. so there were two kids that walked in they were young girls and they shook your hand and they said hi i'm so and so nice to meet you love children shaking hands is that something you want to instill in tate is her her walking up to somebody making eye contact shaking their hands saying hi i'm tate 100 and importantly i'm not sure if you know that saw this but when they left oh you were asleep when they left they walked around and uh said goodbye to everyone no they didn't they were so polite so we were discussing what is one thing that older kids traits older kids have that you value as a as a young kid parent that you want Tate to have and there was a lot of please and thank yous necessity I think that is so lovely and then there was a lot of handshaking going on and I just thought all the kids there were so polite yeah I was I I was I loved it.

44:02I found that they laid a great example for the path that I want Tate to follow.

44:09Tate:And then on the way home, we learned something unique. And so my question to you is, what is the most unique thing you can do to make our kids stop crying? Per earlier conversation and what I enjoy, play house music. She loves Fred again. Fred again. What's the song? What's the number one song that Fred again has on Spotify? victory lap or something with a v she loves she loves victory lap she you kept playing that song we had to listen to like 25 times yeah but bubs she just is in the back because she's big by large let me let me let me do some caveats here okay okay so she loves music like when we're cruising she's like we're we're riding down the street some luke combs she's a country girl when she gets in a mood and when she's crying that's when you got to go house that's when Fred again is it's unbelievable did you know that Fred again has a song called Tate no he doesn't Julie he does we're playing it no no because the YouTube we're not we'll get uh we'll get a story we can play it and we'll cut it and then just say cutting back in wow okay we're coming we're cutting back in he is about Tate McRae.

45:24Tate:Yes. It was a good song. Bubz will love that. You got to play her her song that Fredigan wrote for her. Very special. Oh, that's really cute. Yeah, what are other things that I feel like this is a common trend, though, like, there's random things that parents can do that make their kids stop crying. I think it's a distraction of something that they like, though. But yeah, I'm sure that if we ask people, they'll have funny answers. But like for Bubz, you can walk her over to her play gate and show her that it opens like this. She loves that. Then that's usually like, oh, and then she gets excited.

45:59Tate:Okay. Now we're going to go to things we DMed each other. All right. McDonald's turns Happy Meal box into a blank canvas inviting kids to draw how they feel. So they've removed the smiley face and now it's literally like a coloring box, okay? Okay. So you go to the store, you get the, you go to McDonald's, you get the Happy Meal and then they have colors and they can color their feelings. How are you feeling on it? I think it's great. I think it's great. I'm for it. Yeah, I think this is a really, really cool campaign. I love the effort of encouraging kids discovering their emotions and the dialogue with parents.

46:41Tate:And being able to communicate their emotions. Totally. And on the topic of my emotions, I love this. I think it's great. I do think it's kind of weird on where it's coming from and it's like where's the research on educating children on the value of a balanced diet on balanced eating and like yeah so you're kind of like they get their McDonald's but they express their emotions here's the thing they're eating at McDonald's anyways I had McDonald's 10 days ago I love McDonald's Oh, you didn't hear this story? No. We were at the neighbor's and their siblings were in town and we started talking about McDonald's.

47:32I went home and when I got home, I had my classic order waiting for me.

47:37Tate:What did you have? Do you know what my order is? I did a minor switch up this time. Two quarter pounders? No. One McChicken. Ten-piece nugget. normally a Big Mac instead did like this other cheeseburger thing I forget the name of it and how was it uh to me I'm a McDonald's twice a year type of guy I love it but how was it it was good it was great but like I'm good for six months and how did you feel the next day I mean cause and effect that may be the same that's the saying what else was I doing that day Drinking, I would imagine. Okay, so you were just like fine anyways. Oh, you're looking for causation, not correlation.

48:22Tate:Thank you. You knew what I was going for, Jules. For correlation, not causation. Yeah, I believe in balanced nutrition. Because like their French fries, they hit. Their Diet Cokes, they hit. If I have their chicken nuggets, it ruins my day. McDonald's is a treat. And I think that that should be communicated. Well, maybe what will happen here is parents learn this about their kids expressing their emotions. So at dinnertime, they give them a piece of paper and crowns too, and they say, draw how you're feeling. And then the kids, because they just say McDonald's, like, I feel like crap. Yeah, but you see what I'm saying?

48:55Tate:Give me some clean food. It teaches them to use the exercise. Yes, I love what the exercise is about. It just, it feels weird where it's coming from. No, no, no, I'm with you on that. I'm with you on that. Who it's coming from. Well, just because it's kind of a, no, I'm okay with it coming from McDonald's because I like the message of expressing your emotions. It's called a happy meal. Emotions are already in the mix. Which is one of the most genius. I feel like McDonald's is like a pretty evil organization. Call them out. They're standing behind their happy meals. Ronald McDonald. I think that.

49:35Tate:I'm not going to defend McDonald's right now. so I think that's that's my my that's my take on it okay it's like I think that there's a lot of things that they can be doing to their food um to make it didn't they do some things and they add the McGriddle I I add a salad the McGriddle is a healthy option I think when when you look at the amount of preservatives and additives in those food and what it does to shelf life and the benefits that that has to um to their margins at the sacrifice of of consumer health is like it's pretty egregious so okay i mean i'm interested that you're saying this um i guess i always knew it but yeah call them out okay there we go harrison with the shop shop a little more local support your local burger shack pool burger that is a heck of a burger but there's going to be a price discrepancy peterry's there we go there we go now that is good stuff peterry's is good uh ron's hamburger shack tulsa oklahoma all right speaking of food let's stay on the food uh train here okay so there was a designer who rebrands gushers as a healthy fruit chew and it's shocking because everything he puts on the package is believable not it's not believable it's true you ready so it's true by by labeling standards yes yeah the name was changed to sun-kissed pear fruit juice bursts okay they put a big pear on there because it's a fruit make it look healthy and pear is the number one ingredient and then yes whoa pear puree pear puree pear puree is the number one ingredient in Gushers.

51:30Tate:Yeah, in this one. Because the one thing that blows my mind, I want you to, I think we should check that, is speaking of, I actually may not want to go on this tangent yet. We can save it. But speaking of misleading labeling, like, you know, cauliflower pizza. Well, the number one ingredient is not cauliflower. Like, what? It's the number three ingredient. It's corn syrup, sugar, pear puree. Okay, thank you. So similar to cauliflower pizza. okay so then here's the kicker for me yeah 100 plant-based and it is because there's no gelatin in it no a lot of a lot of these a lot of these gummy companies do this 100 percent it's ridiculous people would be like oh it's ridiculous it's a plant gummy yeah plus vitamin c which it is because it has like 60 of your daily vitamin c or something like that in it which is messed up by the food standards and made with real pear puree okay and once he was done rebranding it you would buy it and so now can you turn around and read the ingredient label jules corn syrup sugar pear puree corn starch fructose maltodextrin palm oil cotton seed oil i'm not gonna be able to pronounce all these glycerin grape juice concentrate citric acid carrageenian monoglyceride sodium citric malic acid vitamin c blah blah plant-based 100 % plant-based to me to me this is just an unbelievable example of the overhaul that we need in food labeling yes that is that is what this is because i think when you can see it with something like Gushers, it allows you to look at other things that you may perceive as healthy.

53:25And a great one is cauliflower pizza, right? Like you look at what's the number one ingredient in cauliflower pizza, not cauliflower. You got to turn the light.

53:34Tate:You have to turn the package around and read the ingredients. Yeah, for sure. I was just the other day on three wishes cereal. I could pronounce every single one of them. There's not that many ingredients. And I was like, Okay, great. And I really do like that as the rule of thumb. Can you pronounce it? Do you know what it is? We do with Bubz all the time on like chicken sausages. Sometimes you turn the chicken sausages around, your jaw will hit the floor at that ingredient panel. Sometimes it's chicken and virgin olive oil and salt pepper. Can we call it that brand that we've been using? Because I really like them.

54:04Tate:For the sausages? We'll save it for another time. I just can't remember who it is. Maybe we'll post it. But just read the ingredient panel. I bought frozen turkey burgers the other day. I think this is a really interesting DM. Funny enough, can you actually show me the photo? I haven't seen it. It's a video. Okay. I'll send it to you. Yeah, it speaks to the larger problem we have on food labeling. Read the labels. Okay, I can't see it from that far, but I trust. Okay, well, guys, we'll wrap up there. Thank you all very much for listening. Thank you. Oh, Baker of the Week. Oh, wait, wait, wait.

54:41Tate:No, next week's Thanksgiving. When's the episode dropping? Wednesday. Wednesday. Next week we're dropping on Wednesday. Monday and Wednesday. Monday and Wednesday during your travel days. Wednesday, number one travel day of the year. Jules will be on an airplane. Yeah. No, we're doing Monday's baby gear. Wednesday, some shopping guides. Yes, okay. Be helpful for Black Friday. I'm going to do a shopping guide on my page. Wow. You heard it here first. Maybe. Maybe. Maybe. And he throws a maybe in there. We're trying to get Harrison to post more content. I might start posting it for him. Okay, bye.

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