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34:32Fifi. But what's the last name? Felong with a PH. So it's just like if I started a man, I'd call it Foo Foo? Exactly. Perfect. Exactly. Trademark it, Jules. Okay. Foo Foo. So anyways, it was – and everyone online is calling it the royal wedding because the bachelorette trip was so extravagant. I have a couple more questions. Because if you want me to care, I need to know the characters. Yeah, okay. Like her versus Alex Earl Are they similar Or like they're kind of Living in different worlds Different worlds Because you're just You're explaining The way you're kind of Talking about it Is giving me Alex Earl vibes Okay I think that's a very interesting point Like you called it The royal wedding I think to get a For the internet To call something A royal wedding You need her Like that's a pretty Remember when Olivia Culpo Married Who's the football player McCaffrey That I remember that wedding happening.

35:30People were not online speculating about it. They were not calling it the royal wedding. But those two are probably more famous than Acquired and her now husband. Okay. There's this TikTok thing happening with Acquired. She does a really good job storytelling online. Like the internet. This is an internet wedding. I think I have all the information I need. Okay. So the wedding was this weekend. and everyone on the bachelorette term, I mean, they were posting so much. We were getting so much content. It was amazing, amazing, amazing. The wedding on the rehearsal dinner, we got Danielle, the sister's rehearsal dinner dress, but we stopped, everyone went quiet and we stopped getting the posts.

36:14Did they take phones away? I don't think, I don't know. We don't know and they didn't say. So maybe it's a Vogue wedding coming out. Maybe she sold it to people. I don't know what she did. We don't know yet. That's the point, okay? and that's great for her because she gets to pick how she wants to do it where i'm mad at people is somebody in rhode island took a photo of her wedding dress and leaked it so i know where do they take the photo of the of the wedding dress at the ceremony somebody was like at the hotel oh like a not person not oh my gosh not someone attending the wedding yes that's her fault whose fault if someone at the wedding leaked it then i think you go all in like full-fledged investigation on who it was but if you're trying to keep your dress a secret and you're in public i mean that's that's on her okay hold on you gotta think you gotta think about those things because because i'm all in for no phones and i think the concept of selling a wedding is is kind of cool uh but you got executed on 10 okay hold on i think i'm gonna do a live uh not a flip necessarily i'm just gonna talk about this out loud i guess so somebody there was a wedding planner in it's where in Rhode Island is it?

37:43Um, my friend's getting married there. Not Newport, Newport, Newport. Okay. So there's a wedding planner in Newport, Rhode Island who I saw make a video. Okay. She was like, I know what the venue is. I'm not going to tell you all what the venue is. Um, but I would love to discuss the venue next week once she's married, because I think this is a great venue and I'm going to walk you through it. And I was like, Oh, that's really nice of you to protect her. But I do agree it's actually unnecessary. And the day we live in, you can't expect everyone to do that. But she should, like, I think if you're in industry, you protect, right?

38:16And that's the expectation from, like, if the person who made the dress leaked it, you know, absolute no-no. But you can't just be walking down the street and expect people in today's day and age to, like, abide by the no-phone policies. Remember when we got engaged and we went ring shopping and that girl made a video saying an Austin influencer just came in with a ring on her finger and we were looking for wedding bands and she didn't say who it was. I was like, thank you. That was mine to tell. And that was really nice of her. But I do agree, like you can't expect everyone to do that. Yeah, and that was a rare time where I feel like that happened.

38:56And I feel like that's the exception versus the norm. There was also like a yacht. Did you see those people on the yacht? And they were like, we're right beside Acquired's welcome party and just like panned over. And everyone was like, back to the yacht. Like the yacht was massive. Wait, so where was the wedding? Newport, Rhode Island. Okay, Newport, Rhode Island. Great wedding menu. Everyone knows the location. Everyone in Newport knows the location and they love it. They're all like excited about it. It's something with a cliff, I think, is the name. Okay. But my point is like we haven't seen the dress.

39:33I now know it's a Vera Wing dress.

39:39And yeah, but I have seen the dress. Okay, but you got... I was just mad they leaked it. I was mad they internet leaked it. So that's the big punchline? I just want to talk about it. I asked 45 questions to find out that a dress was leaked. I just want to talk about it. I just love her. I love that whole friend group. And they're so fun to watch. I was just going to say the thing about their friend group that maybe we haven't hit on. It's like the modern version of a content house. Yes. They don't all live together. But these girls, it's like they are in each other's content. They're running like a tight ship.

40:13They're all collaborating on the post. They're all tagging each other. So you can go. I'm sure that they're gaining so many followers by how they do these big events. So who is the architect behind all that? I don't know. Well, they have this one friend that's not as much of an influencer, but is more of a PR girly. And I always wonder if it's a little bit of that girl. Can I say something? I think we're going to get a show from these girls. Yeah. Eventually. It's not soon. I think it's in a year or two. Yes. Yes. Okay. And they're living just like the - West Village girly life. I was going to say, is the fascination here that this is like the new age sex in the city?

40:59Yes. And you get a front row look at it. But here's the thing about it. The friend group is just really starting to seemingly form. Yes. I think. Hallie K and Acquired, they are friends. I just can't get over that Acquired is her name. It's the smartest thing she ever did, though. And she tried to rebrand. The last thing I will say is that they all are a lot under the same management. like and they do deals together which i think is really interesting like they have co-brand deals and stuff like that so one um i love watching interesting thing is i'm thinking of this girl who um had a had a pretty big following but she had a big following she was like blowing up blowing up blowing up and then she rebranded her name into her personal name and it just all completely stopped who was it well i'm not gonna say because it's not nice but like uh i really respect how some people have made the transition but others just like like who's birds papaya i don't know like i have a question claudia has she is she still a girl with no job she has two accounts she has girl with no job and claudia and that's when you know like that's that's the ideal scenarios where you can actually just do two.

42:18Bird's papaya? Yeah. I've heard of this lady. And like, I don't, I can't think of a lot of people's names. I can think of Bird's papaya. I can think of Acquired Style. I've never heard of her. Sarah Nicole Landry, The Bird's Papaya,$2.5 million. She has a podcast, Bird's Papaya. How about that? I don't even know what the name came from. But yeah, but Acquired Style, that's just her. And so the fascination, long story short, is that This is the new age section of the city. Yeah, and Mitch is Mr. Acquired.

42:51What's the other one's name? It kind of reminds me of Harrison. Pete? No. Louis. He's always on the phone. He's always on the phone taking business calls. That's like his thing. He'll just be in the back of their videos and he's just on the phone always. I thought it was Peter. No, Louis. Louis, yeah. Yes, he's always on the phone. He picked her up. He picked her up from getting her whatever, and she was on the phone. Yeah. That's his thing. Why is he always on the phone? He owns a Ducati store or something like that. Like something so random. That's really random. Like a motorcycle store in the middle of New York City.

43:27Oh, there's that Ducati store in Soho. I want to tell you what. I think that might be his store. Just wake up one day, and I'm going to get a Ducati today. People like him, though, because he just kind of does his own thing. Yeah, and he's grumpy. like that's his thing and like there's this trope in romance books called so you're into this too yeah well I've followed these girls since like Hallie K blew up in COVID like going um thrift shopping sorry Hallie K is not acquired style no but they get confused for each other a lot Hallie K's the one that got hit in the streets of New York and she got punched in the face and had to like they should go to court yeah where yeah and this is Okay.

44:11I'm like taking them from... All right. I'm up to speed. I'm up to speed. Anyways, can't wait to see the content. Me as well. Her and Taylor Swift both haven't really posted. Would they be good guests on the podcast? Like, no. I don't know. Sure. I just don't know what we would talk to them about. Like, I love them so much. I just don't... We don't have a lot of crossover. Okay. You know, like, we're kind of like doing bedtime and they're kind of like out at a swanky West Village restaurant. Okay. We could invite them on the pod. I don't know. You guys tell us. Do you guys care? Or is it just the us that cares?

44:47Okay. Moving on to dorm rooms. Wait. So hold on. What was the big thing that you were asking me about, Leopold? I told the whole story. What was what you kept? Why should we care? No. You kept asking about the wedding. Oh. We don't know. We don't have any info. Okay. so we have no info we don't know correct all I know is like she did something cool so okay it was the dress she let me tell you what reputationally so she clearly sold it this girl she sold the wedding she crushes and let me just say this if you're listening if she sold the wedding good for her you get that wedding paid for queen yeah I'm so proud of her I think she crushes and I think that knowing her it was an amazing wedding I just think everything she touches is great Knowing her through the internet.

45:42I passed her one time in Soho. She was smaller than I thought. Shorter. Did you say hi? No, it took me forever. That can transition us into our facial blindness. But I was blinking. Do you know who I honestly thought she was? Who? Do you know how they have that Instagram account, which shows people in great fashion, in great outfits? Do moi? No. no no no like kind of like new york fashion sure do you know what i'm talking about street drip okay like there's there's an account and it's like faces of new york or something humans of new york humans in new york i thought she was the humans in new york person oh do we know what that person but for style like there's there's the main like new york style page oh i see what you're saying i thought that was who acquired style was i didn't realize that there was so much like i thought she had a page with millions of followers, I didn't realize how much personality she had.

46:42And like, she was the face of the page. I thought other people were the face of the page. No, I see what you're saying because the name is confusing. So you think acquired style is acquiring people's style. Like I thought it was like New York street fashion. No, no, no. It is her. It's confusing. It should be her name. Her taking photos. It's her. Yeah, I thought it was her being a photographer. No, she's the talent. Oh, well. And she's very good. You guys know I hate talking about the weather, but I'm breaking my own rule for this next sponsor. Being outside in the Austin summer with two kids is a whole different ballgame.

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48:13Cure is the electrolyte mix I've started reaching for daily with clean ingredients and nothing artificial. It's become easy to stay hydrated. Find it on Amazon or save 20 % at curehydration.com with code to parents. Okay, so college dorm rooms. Yes. Oh, this is a great topic. I got fed some videos and some photos of people being like, dorm room reveal. These dorm rooms have gone, they've gotten out of control. I saw one that was fully wallpapered. And the thing about the dorm, and this girl went to OU. Okay, it was a fully wallpapered dorm room at OU. And my roommate messaged me because I posted on my close friend story and I was like, are we wallpapering dorm rooms now?

48:57She was like, yeah. And if you remember, Alex, we have popcorn walls at OU, which means like in order to wallpaper them, you have to have them like sloughed off and then wallpaper it. Like you have to have a wallpaper hanger come and like retexture the wall to hang in the wallpaper. And I was like, girl, the best part about moving into the dorms whenever I moved into the dorms was we got to pick out our bedding. Yes. Like you got to go to the store, you picked out your dorm bedding and you decorated your desk and you got to put picture frames on your desk and maybe there were curtains i can't remember this day and age there's also people hiring interior designers

49:36it's crazy yeah it's it's it's absurd this is something that like was going on 10 years ago but like only in like sec schools and now i think it's gone broader and people are hiring people to do it for them. People are hiring people. When Tate goes to college, if she goes to college, if she asks, that will be the easiest no ever. No. Well, if she wants to... Decorating dorm rooms is a blast. I loved putting my own personal touch on all the places I lived through college. but like that's one thing versus like hiring someone to does not to do it for you like that's my thing so far past it and it's like it's funny going from the acquired style conversation to this like it feels like to me acquired style is a bunch of self-made woman in the city like paving their own paths and so while they're living this like grand extravagant life it's you know through the guys of a life that they built versus like when you're in college like you know when you're typically when you're going over the top in college like you're going over the top it's not your dime it's not your dime and that's where you totally lose me i agree so like i i i see how you can cheer on this cool big grand wedding because it's like someone worked really hard for it but then on the other end like yeah it's that's where you know for me the college dorm room experience is like all about optimizing your ikea runs and facebook marketplace and like getting things right that way but if tate's like really into let's say tate wants to be an interior designer he's like i want to do a really cool dorm room i mean great you go figure out how to do your dorm room exactly you figure it out you figure out how you want to make it but i feel like this is one of those things that like 99.9 percent of people and parents would agree with us son and it's just like the 0.1 percent of of like parents who enable this and i think it's just because it at least from what it's like a keeping up with the joneses thing like you have to have in the sec schools especially like you gotta have a room like that in order to i don't know play ball i have no clue what it is but and people are just taking it too far and their parents are enabling them to take it too far.

52:12And I think, Jules, I think this is a good point, okay? I think that one parent hires the designer. Well, now that's, well, mom, can I hire the designer? How about nobody does it? And I just, this is what I want to say too on the parenting front. I don't think it's the flex they think it is. Okay, I need you to be honest, okay? Okay. Would you have fallen into this trap if this was going on when you were at OU? and I don't know the answer I didn't know you back then but I'd love to know yeah it's interesting I'd love to ask because I do want to answer this accurately I

52:51I want to say

52:58no because I just I didn't know anybody doing this so it's actually tough for me to answer because listen people like so I was in a sorority and I and they they give you rush day outfits right so they say you have formal night you have you know you have a t-shirt day that you pair with like jean shorts and I remember when they sent that out and everyone does you plan out your outfits right maybe you get a new dress okay that I was like very into and that was the norm so I'm just trying to equate that to the dorm rooms I don't know like I remember we went to bed bath and beyond and bought bedding and like that was awesome so i don't i don't know if i would have i can't imagine my parents being like higher no no there's no way there's no way but it's hard to say that and so what's the what's the range of schools this is happening at because like if you told me this was happening at smu i'd have been like okay like makes sense but you're saying it's now happening broad-based i think it's happening at the schools you expect to happen but it's like happening i went to miami of ohio it's like happening at Miami of Ohio.

54:00And that was my question. But Miami of Ohio is like SEC light. So like. But the fact that we're happening at. Right. No, we're SEC now. That means it's happening at. Right, right, right. North of 50 plus schools. Yeah. Oh no, I think it's a. Like OU, UT. Do you think it's happening at A &M? Yes. I think it's happening anywhere like around down here. 100 % it's happening at all Texas. Mainly all Texas schools I think. You know where it's not happening? Canada. UW. UW, University of Washington. Maybe, though. It's not happening at the Ohio State University, I don't think. At Ohio State? You don't think so?

54:38What? I think it's happening at Oklahoma State. I don't know. This is what I think, too, though. I just thought I envision life at UW as a bunch of Patagonia-wearing, nature-bearing students. They make wallpaper for that. there's all kinds of wallpaper, honey. I think what I think is that... I kind of want to dunk on UW for a second. No. I blame UW for not letting me appreciate how amazing the U.S. college environment can be. Why? Did you go there? to visit? No, but that was the school. It's two and a half hours, three hours from Vancouver. You got a taste of it growing up. You go to different basketball teams.

55:38You go to basketball camp down there. That's what I'm saying. Did you go there? Yeah. I didn't go to school there. No, you went to McGill, but you went to... Had I gotten a taste of what I remember when I went to Ann Arbor for the first time or Tuscaloosa for the first time or even here. Like the environment of game days is like nothing else. And I think I would have actually tried to come to school in the States. I think you would have too. It's so funny. I know you always say we can't call McGill the Harvard of Canada because if you have to call it the Harvard of Canada, it's not the Harvard of Canada.

56:13But you went to like a great school up there and you learned a lot. But I think Harrison would have loved going to UT. It's just funny. I don't think you now I totally could like adapt to a Southern school. And I think I'd love a Southern school, but coming out of, out of high school, I would have been a fish out of water. Where did Elliot go? RIT. Which, which is what? It's like a hockey school up North. Cause he's a friend of yours that would have also, I think thrived at a Southern school. Yes. Don't you think? yes he's all recently at michigan he was there for a concert yeah he didn't eat lettuce though i saw his caption said no lettuce smart man no i think he's probably referring to no you gotta ask him no he's the hockey guy like he's hair lettuce no he wasn't i have to look at his caption he i i believe he even specified so elliott's harrison's friend that lives in I think he's one of your best friends that lives in Vancouver that we see when we go back there.

57:25No, no salad. No, I still don't get it. No salads in Michigan. Maybe it was a double entendre because. Let me see. Let me see the photo. Michigan is where the lettuce is a real problem right now. Parasite. And maybe he got a haircut. He's got great lettuce. We never used the term lettuce for that. Did you? Like, I know it, but no. Well, you're also a hockey buff. Yeah. Okay. Look at his lettuce. He's got great lettuce. Great salad. Why does it say no salad in Michigan then? Because the other guys, I don't know. The other guys in the photos didn't have any salad. I noticed as well. I just, I guess we can't, is it too early to call him?

58:08He's an early riser, but like we don't need to do that. Do you know that my school is called a public Ivy? Please explain that. I get it. Like it's the same concept of the Harvard of Canada. It was called a public Ivy. So it's an Ivy school. It's not an Ivy League. Jules coming in with a little brag. No, I just think. No, no, it's good. I appreciate this, Jules. I think it's funny. What were you calling? SEC Light? Like that was the vibe when I went there. It was called like J.Crew U. Like J.Crew the store brand. It was like preppy like that. I want to go visit Jules. It was like not Miami. I've never heard of Miami, Ohio.

58:47Harrison would be like a prime candidate to go to Miami of Ohio. Be nice, Jules. No, no, no. I loved going there. It's like a work hard, play hard environment. That was the whole shtick. And how's the campus? Beautiful. That's the other thing. Every building looks the exact same. Okay. Red brick buildings. They can only be maximum three floors. I love that. The Bearcats. No. The Redhawks? Where did you get Bearcat? that's oh um oh yeah ohio university is the bobcats ohio and then since he is sorry miami ohio miami of ohio and where did you go miami of ohio and that's not the bobcats no that's oh you which is ohio university or oklahoma university yeah ohio university is on the other side of southern Ohio.

59:40Okay. And that's like the party school edgier kids. Whereas Miami was like the party school preppy kids, I guess. I don't know. Okay, so Jules went to the preppy school. Yeah. Public Ivy. Did Ben Roethlisberger go to? Miami. Miami, Ohio? Yes. Okay. What a guy. That's how I heard of it. I've heard of Miami of Ohio a lot. But I'm in Canada. Right, right, right, right. We didn't know a lot of schools. Had you heard of OU? Oklahoma? Yeah. Yeah, we had. Baker planted the flag at your OU. Huh? No. No Tennessee. Here. UT? No. No, because we play UT in Dallas. Hold on. Yeah, but I think that the center field changes based off who's at home.

1:00:38where did Baker something happened in Kansas I remember yeah it was Ohio I thought so Ohio oh you oh oh Ohio State look at that no university Ohio University okay okay sorry sorry uh dorm rooms crazy all right facial blindness this I found interesting because we were talking about well hold on I think we can afford to do a parent one parenting topic like what's going on with Tate and Rocky and then we can talk about facial blindness okay I'll give one you are very good at playing with tate okay yeah like tate and i and i've talked about this before our time together is very activity based like in the pool we're swimming we're jumping we're versus what your time with her i notice is a lot more playing based like your imagination is so good.

1:01:35I was listening to you last night talk, uh, talking with her about her little farm and just like the stories that you were telling her, they're unbelievable. I actually, yesterday we played so hard. Do you ever exercise your brain so hard that you start to feel it? I, my brain was pulsing. I was like, I cannot create one more story about this ball going down the slide. And we, we probably played for four and a half hours outside and we named every character and we put them all down the slide and we moved them all around. And we, I can't explain to you the stories that were happening. Then we go inside and I'm sitting at the table and she brings me her farmhouse.

1:02:18She's like, mama play. And like, of course, I'm going to go play with her. And we had to do it all again. And like, by the end of the day, I was like, my brain is fried from imaginary playing. Is the difference clear? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Perfect. You're throwing her on the raft and catching her. And like going down the slide with her versus you're creating stories about animals that go down the slide. And we were singing songs. Yeah. I was so impressed. I felt like I took the ACT. It was like the first time because she can finally like also respond and like she didn't want to stop playing. She was like, play mama, please play.

1:02:57And I was like, oh my God. Oh my God, my head hurts. But okay, let's do it. We reviewed colors. She's curious. Yeah, she's doing great. It's just adorable. It was one of my favorite days ever yesterday though. Like I laid in bed and I thought about all the times that we played and we played and we played and like I just, I had a blast. Yeah, the pool is really been delivering beyond expectations. I agree with that. She's loving it. We're in it twice a day. For long periods. Yesterday on a Sunday after nap time, I don't know what we would have done, and we just pooled the whole day. And Jules, yes, you can eat in the pool.

1:03:36I was worried. I was wondering. Harrison made burgers and fries, and he came outside. I was like, bring him here. Just bring him here. And we sat there, and she got on her float. She's like, French fry on the float. And I was like, sure. Like, I'm not going to do, I'm not going to. Why would I bother with being like, no food? Like, whatever. Obviously, we feel very fortunate and blessed to have been in a position to do the pool. And we did it just like with yesterday afternoon, like, in mind. Like, we talked about that so many different times on, like, the Sunday afternoon. and how much we would love to be able to go outside and do a little family pool day.

1:04:17We also worked our butt off for that pool. So we do feel very grateful, but it does feel really good to sit in it and be like, wow, I'm really grateful that we did this and we were able to do it because we didn't mind. Yesterday was my first day to get in the pool. Harrison's been in it for a week. I like to be around water and I'm necessarily in it. I wasn't sure at what point you were actually going to get in. so I had so much fun but yeah it was cool it was cool to be able to like do that as a family and we can do it again today Rocky is just over three months and honestly breastfeeding this time has been a completely different experience than it was with Tate I set a goal for myself to breastfeed slash pump through the three month mark and I'm so happy to say you guys I did it but the real reason it felt like such a non-event this time around was because, Bobby, you guys, being able to supplement with Bobby whenever I needed to took so much pressure off.

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1:06:55Well, sometimes it's neurological, not rudeness. Yeah. We've now learned. Jules has taught us that some people have facial blindness. Yeah. This was from the comments. Okay. This is from the comments. It's the ability to not recognize somebody's face. Brad Pitt, he's admitted that he has this. but basically you see somebody and you don't recognize their face but the way you recognize them is where you see them so let's say you always see somebody at the gym at noon so you know oh there's tammy or the way they dress or how tall they are or the car they drive and or their voice so you can you can place them that way but you can't place their face i wonder how much people are confusing this with a concept that uh i believe it was rogan talked about where you can only remember each human can on average only remember about 1500 people and so if you're a super social person and you have roots in a bunch of different cities um across a bunch of different you know industries and little worlds your seats are full you're uh and he says that's what he runs into like you know there's he knows that 1500 but the minute you go to that 1501 and he may have met them four or five times but it's not within that you know 1500 most memorable people and that really landed or or yeah that really landed with me that's pretty cool i'm yeah i'm experiencing it here in austin maybe it is because we live in other cities where I'm like, I feel like I'm maxed.

1:08:31I'm having a really hard time gathering, like maybe it's postpartum, grasping new people into the orbit. If I haven't, if I've only met them once. But okay, hold on. On the other side of this, there's this thing called a super recognizer, which is people that have the power to see somebody once, you know, at a coffee shop and maybe say, hi, how are you? And then see them again a year later and place them. That's funny. Which Jules, I have to say, we had a babysitter for Tate who probably came over three or four times. We got on a flight last year and we were not in Austin. She was boarding the flight in New York and she walked by her seat and she looked at me and I was like, boom, hi, Stephanie.

1:09:11I was like, oh my God, so good to see. She's like, you have another baby? I was like, we have another baby now. And Harrison was just looking at me like, who is that? And I was like, that is Stephanie who babysat Tate when she was really little. And Harrison was just like, what? And I don't have that anymore. Like, I don't have the ability to do that. That was like a random one off. But I was like, wow, I can't believe I got that one. Yeah. And it was to me, it was that we weren't in. We weren't in Austin. Right. Because your brain goes to like, all right, who do I know in New York? Right. Well, equally, I had a girl my workout class last week that I knew and I the whole time I couldn't place her.

1:09:52I was like, I know I know her. And then that night I was like, oh my gosh I know I know I know how I know her and it hit me you know so sometimes it's not always like that yeah okay so then I looked up some other things and Jules I need help pronouncing these aphantasia okay aphantasia it's where you cannot do mental pictures so somebody's like picture a brick in your head you can't picture it it's you're mentally blank okay

1:10:20topographical yeah topographical disorientation aka bad at directions very bad at directions i'm glad this one came next because this was going to be my my comment to the one before like i want to know how we're diagnosing this stuff and because i feel like a lot of people are just like not very good with directions oh so how extreme does does this need to be before you actually get diagnosed with whatever that was no no this isn't i i don't think you diagnose i think these are just like i'm bad at directions no i think it's diagnosis Yeah, I think these are like diagnosable things. And I think like our brains can't possibly comprehend unless we were to experience one of these things like you can't possibly comprehend what it's like.

1:11:04OK. Like the facial like for facial blindness. So what the person in the comments said, it's like there's like a complete spectrum of it where it's like I cannot recognize a person by their face. I actually read a book about this once and I'll send you the Hello Stranger by Catherine Center. okay and his romance book but she was like falling in love with this one guy in her building and she also was going to the vet and it was the same guy but she didn't know because she didn't have the context it was a whole thing what this whole thing it's like facial blindness is like so real but it's beyond what we can understand because like we probably just maybe don't recognize a person every once in a while.

1:11:44Yes. But, but I, I, I do feel like it is on a spectrum. Yes. Like I know what you look like and I know what P looks like because of the bigger picture. But if you like just, you know, zoomed in on your face and no hair, and let's say you took like 20 people. Okay. 20 people that you like actually interact with on a weekly basis and only put, I actually you think we should do this and only put their face on an, on a page. Could you guess who it was? I think I could. Okay. Can we please do this? Yeah. 100%. And let's not do inner circle. Let's do some peripheries. Okay. And I'll pick 20 for you and you can pick 20 for me.

1:12:28Why don't you just do 10? 10. 10. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Interesting. Yeah. And so what we're going to do is just screenshot the face and not get the hair in. Okay. But the way I think about some of these like mental things is like the same as the cilantro tastes like soap to some people. It's like we just you just don't know what it is until it is that. Yeah, you don't know what you don't know. Like I don't cilantro does not taste like soap to me. I can't comprehend. Has that effect on people on some people? That what? The sweetener stevia. I hate stevia. Does it taste like soap to you? No. Not so, but it's just like it's a really harsh taste.

1:13:08I'm very sensitive to it. Like, I can't. I hate it. Maybe it's the nerd clusters effect. Yeah, I just like real sugar. Yeah, it could be like you just don't like that. Okay, then there's developmental. What's this word? Dyscalculia. How do you know these? This I have. Difficulty intuitively understanding numbers. Quantities, arrhythmic. And then this I'm not bad at is worth thinking or estimating how much time has passed. That I can do. But this is also one of those things on the spectrum. And I'm not going to throw some people on the bus, but there are other people in my life as well who, like, the difference between a thousand and a million just does not land with them.

1:13:53Oh, I know that. Okay. I understand that. No, but when they talk about it, I'm going to be respectful right now. Did you guys do phonics? Yes. Hooked on phonics? phonics. You asked how I know that. I don't know those words. I'm hooked on phonics still at the age of 30. You still do it? No. I'm obsessed with sounding it out. Oh, see, I can't even... I think last night I was able to do the last one. Is the last one... Hold on.

1:14:30Phonagosia? Let me try. Let me try. It's the last one right there. Phonagosia. Fognosia? Well, let me go. I'm going to...

1:14:45He's trying. Fognosia.

1:14:50I'm going to go on Instagram. No. Yeah, I haven't been on in a long time. I'm going to see what's going on. Fognosia. Ignosia? Fognosia. Ooh, on Twitter. Oh, I can't wait to see what Jules' Twitter's like. So then there's dyslexia. Can I go on your Twitter? No. I don't think it would be logged in. H, hit me this. It is. H, come on, we gotta go. Oh, it's just all heated rivalry and off-campus. Then there's dyslexia. Oh my goodness, Jules. Which what I find fascinating about dyslexia is you mix up letters, but it's commonly paired with intelligent and other areas, which I find a lot of people I know that are dyslexic are brilliant.

1:15:23Yeah. Okay, Harrison is hooked on the iPad. So we're going to wrap here. No, I'm kidding. No, but we really can wrap here. Was it actually logged in? No. No. Oh, tone deafness. So I do want to talk about this one. Amusia? Amusia? Amusia. Amusia. I'm tone deaf. Really heartbreaking. Are you tone deaf or do you just like not, can't carry a pitch, you know? I, you know, I try, I sing to Tate and it breaks my heart how bad my voice is. Give us Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. No. I really try to sing to her. She calls Twinkle Twinkle Little Star up above high. That's how she goes. Up above high. I want to listen to that.

1:16:12Yeah, she now knows how to request a song. Up above high. So she says, for Tate. I'm so glad that the video I made got that in it. Because the thing Tate says 24-7 is like, for Tate. And we're always like, okay. If she wants it, yeah. For Tate. She wants a sip of something. Okay, guys, we love you. Happy Monday. And we will talk to you on Wednesday. Thanks for listening. Thanks for listening to another episode of Two Parents. If you enjoyed the show, don't forget to subscribe, like, comment, rate, and review. Stay connected on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and Facebook at Two Parents in a Pod. Welcome to our home.

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