Our first postpartum date night, nanny share update & World Cup 2026

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1:48Well, we have it. Okay. How do we start again? You do it. No, come on. Hello, everybody. And welcome back to another episode of... Two Parents in a Podcast. Good job, H. Featuring two parents. Featuring two parents of two children. Of two children. So the two things not in the programming that I think should be discussed. We have a nanny share update. Jules does not even know about this. I didn't even know about this until this morning. Yes. What's here? And then secondarily, and this goes into our pop culture tea section, we didn't have the Justin Baldoni, Blake Wively situation. Are you going to – so I don't know what happened.

2:28Could you tell me and the people all at once? Yeah, but like always, we're going to start IRL. Let's start IRL. And then we're going to get into some things we DMed, a tweet of the week. and then we have a Q &A, but my instinct is we're not even going to get to the Q &A today. A moment for your hosting skills. Thank you. Do you know how you're going to get me to keep coming back? You putting the team on your back. You are putting the team on the back. I'm happy to do the little things of programming. Rocky is here. So if I go off camera, it's because I'm giving him a bottle. To go get Rocky Bears.

3:04To go get Rocky Bears and I'm going to feed him. But let me just tell you, I have spilled. So a lot of people are asking me, I'm just going to go. I'm going to do an IRL update. A lot of people have been asking me, they were like, when you go back, will you do a pumping slash breastfeeding update? And I will. I'll do it now because I just posted on my story that I've spilled two bottles. I've spilled 16 ounces of milk this week. And not to mention, last night after dance class, I left a full four ounce bottle in my bag overnight. Just a correction. You've spilled eight. Someone else has spilled eight.

3:39Yeah, Tate spilled eight ounces. Happily, she just took them out and goes, Tate, Tate, and poured them. And I was like, oh. So was pumped. She was so proud of herself. And I was like, oh, okay. Didn't obviously get mad at her, but my heart did hurt for a second. And then last night, I pumped on our back patio, got up to pick it up, and just knocked it over. So that was too bad. And then last night, I left in my purse a four-ounce bottle. So RIP to the 20 ounces. That's too bad, but it's fine because I do have – I am making more milk than I did the first time. So I'm pumping eight ounces of pump right now and he's eating four ounces, which means I'm able to pocket four ounces, which is great news.

4:19And then what I'm doing is pumping in the middle of the night, breastfeeding him probably 50 % of the day, pumping the other 50 % of the day. The reason I like to pump because so to me, breast milk, I just call it breastfeeding all of it. I call pumping, breastfeeding, breastfeeding, breastfeeding. Like if the baby's getting a breast milk, I call it breastfeeding, but I know that there's a difference between pumping and breastfeeding. So I'll delineate between the two. Now I like to pump at least once or twice a day because I get to see how much I'm making and I get to completely drain the boob.

4:52When you drain the boob, it tells your body to produce more. So that's why I've always like been fond of pumping. Although pumping does feel a lot more transactional, not nearly as fun. Um, with Tate after the year mark, I started, I, I hated the pump. like I resented the pump right now where I'm at mentally it's like I'm enjoying it I sit in bed I read a book I drink a cup of coffee well how many times are you pumping a day now versus with Tate feels like you're pumping like you're probably two less pumps a day maybe more totally like I'm not pumping every three hours on the dot I'm pumping like every four hours which I know they say that'll make your supply go down I don't even care right now and then I'm breastfeeding him in between so yeah I'm probably with Tate I was so pump regimented with him I'm just trying to pump some and feed him some you're doing phenomenal and any update to the what you laid out before in terms of timeline of how long you're pump versus formula no like with baby number one, I was like, I have a six month goal.

5:58I must pump every three hours. I have to do all of these things. It was so regimented with him. I'm even with work. I'm like, I'll come if I'm in the car. I was in the car. Okay, great. You know, um, I didn't know when I was going to be, your mom asked me, when are you going to go back and be on camera? I said, it'd probably be a month. Look, I'm here, Kathy, three days later from her asking me that question. Like I'm very much so trying to detach from all of these rules and so I don't have a pumping goal um I don't want a pumping goal I'm enjoying it right now the minute I'm not enjoying it maybe I'll start combo feeding so we've got the Bobby on deck but right now I'm good doing it I'm enjoying doing it I like breastfeeding him more than pumping but I don't really care like I'm just enjoying the whole thing and I I really applaud you for for following and trusting your instincts and and your gut thank you.

6:49My favorite part of the day is like my, I pump at seven every day and then I hold him and I like get my coffee and I read my book for an hour and I don't touch my phone. And it is just like the most blissful newborn bubble ever. I do feel like one consistent thing that you'd like to, that you've, that you've been saying over the past couple of weeks is like, you're making an intentional goal about not applying pressure. and i feel like that's reflected in a lot of facets of life like not putting a specific target on the breast and combo feeding return to work um and obviously luxury there given given you're your own boss but so on i think that that mindset has been applied across the board sleep how often you're pumping uh and so on and so forth well you taught me this like what is your mentality around it so for me motherhood the first three months of having a newborn right did it with tate and then i'm doing it with rocky now and it's like what do i want it to look like what do i want it to feel like and i saw this clip of ann hathaway and they were asking her she was talking about at the met gala being tired and they were like oh you know like we're sorry you're tired she's like no you have to ask yourself are you okay with the reason that you're tired.

8:09And she's like, I love the reason that I'm tired right now. Like I'm really thankful that I get to work this hard and I love what I do. And what I'm thinking about right now in terms of this postpartum is yeah, I'm sleep deprived. Yes. I'm starving slash like sometimes shaking because of my milk supplies coming in and my body's readjusting to the hormones. And while all that's hard, I still love the re like, I love being a mom. I love getting up in the middle of the night right now and pumping or breastfeeding, whichever one I do. And I like, I like the reason that I'm tired right now. And I love the newborn bubble.

8:46So you taught me to frame my mind around it and make things fun. And the way I make this postpartum fun for me is not have like, I don't have to go try and go on a walk. I don't have to try to eat healthy. I don't have to do any of these things. I can just enjoy this moment. yeah and you're doing a phenomenal job funny enough I didn't know that that tired thing came from Anne Hathaway but I did see it going around on the internet and I did see Bobby's campaign behind it and I thought it was it was it really resonated did you see that so Bobby I want to read with it because I saw the founder of Bobby's story who shared by the way no it's not an ad um who shared I'm really into the reason that I'm tired.

9:34Okay, so yeah. So have you slept yet, Anne? By the way, I do love how we're now adding a third thing that was not programmed at all. This is just, this is what I love about it is we sit here and we just go. Yeah, well, that's why podcasting is fun. So, okay, so the interviewer is saying have you slept yet, Anne? She's obviously on the Devil Wears Prada whirlwind of a tour right now. And she's like, a little bit, not much, last night but the night before, I'm reading as we go, I got a good six hours. How do you keep yourself level-headed, the interviewer says. And she says, who's luckier than us, right?

10:08We have cool jobs. My thing is like when you get a little bit tired, do you like the reason that you're tired? And I love the reason that I'm tired. I'm really into the reason that I'm tired. She says it all with like this beautiful smile on her face. Amazing. And I'm not going to be this tired forever and I'll sleep eventually. Is this the same clip where she talked about it was her first day off in like four years did you see that no i didn't see that maybe it was like upcoming on a tuesday she knew it was coming it was her first day off in x amount of years and they're like what are you gonna do she's like i actually don't know like i just couldn't imagine not having a single debt you know her first day to herself and i love that and you don't she doesn't she just kind of hustles in silence that girl um i want to see the devil wears prada too so bad so so bad dad ad that's your hint you can take me on a date i would love to do that speaking of dates we went on our first date night in a very long time so we're going to transition into that oh my gosh we did okay and and i i don't know if i've said this before but i do find it quite funny that i stand by i thought we were very very very good about how many dates we were going on and then the minute that you called us out for not being good at it which at that time i think we were like I really I think we could count on one hand how many dates we went on following that moment obviously like you were in the thick of pregnancy and so very understandable why um it just it was so much fun to get out there and do and do a date night with you I was thinking you had this earlier I don't know what pregnancy does to my body but I went to a facial appointment earlier today and the thought of me doing that pregnant it would be this daunting thing at 1 p.m that I could hardly attend and I would go and it would take it it would take all my energy for the entire day I would be anxious going there parking would be hard walking in would be hard not pregnant I'm like I can I have forgotten all the things I can do in a day even what's funny about that is even when you we would record you'd like come in and we'd be like in a rush to start because at some point there would be like the the chance that that you you just start not feeling well and like we'd have to wrap early or um and I pause or something I don't think pregnancy overtakes everybody's body the way that it does mine but I'm so thankful to be on the other side of it now I think about it and I'm like I can go to Soho house I can go to breakfast with you I can go to Soho house with you I can go to get my facial and then I can come record that would be a normal day for me not pregnant but my mind for those nine ten months was so conditioned to be like one thing what's your one thing you're gonna do today and I don't think pregnancy is like that for everybody and I just I don't know what it is if it's a hormone thing if I don't know what the thing is but it just somebody takes over Alex's body well you're killing it now you kill it during pregnancy and date night was very fun.

13:10So let's talk about the date night. Oh yeah, let's talk about date night. Sorry, thank you. And it was, so the, give me the word. Like the - Mindset? The main event of the date night was a concert, okay? I Heart Radio Country Festival. It was at the Moody Theater and they had like eight, 10 awesome country artists who all go up there, kind of play their three or four best songs. Really, really fun event. So we. It was at the Moody Center. What did I say? You said the Moody Theater. And this is a little known Austin thing. There's the Moody Theater, Moody Center, and Moody Amphitheater. None of them are related to each other.

13:52Okay. That is good to know. Because my brain works. I'm going to get him. I'm going to get the little rowey. Keep going. Alex is now off camera for the episode, unfortunately. Hold on the whole episode. When it comes to kids and babies, you guys know there are so many things. and so many devices, one for video, another for breathing. And then you have to rely on the gut instinct or a late night Googling to figure out how to sleep, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And that is where Nanit comes in, you guys, because it is everything in one place, in one app, on one monitor. And it is truly, there's so much to worry about with parenting, but with Nanit, when it comes to sleep, you don't have to worry anymore.

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16:06Mother's Day is around the corner, and moms want nothing more than peace of mind and some sleep. All right, so Alex is off camera for the time being, as Rocky is having a feed. But to bring it back to date night, main event of the date night was at Moody, the iHeart Country Music Festival. phenomenal event 10 plus artists doing their three to four uh most well-known songs you had everyone from shibuzi to luke brian to kane brown we love concerts concerts are a consistent date night for us so love that where it got a little different is initially we're going to do a dinner just the two of us but we had a group of friends that were going for dinner and we hadn't done much socially as well and so Alex chose to do for us to go with the group of friends so we went to Matt's and overall I had a phenomenal time what do you think what else is there to add well one thing that made the date okay so I was nervous like how was I gonna feel the date night was I gonna have fun right because right now if if it's more fun for me to stay at home and make dinner with you once the kids go to bed and like watch a movie then like that's my idea of a date night I want to do whatever's most fun but I was starting to get a little like I don't have fun pregnant so I I do start to crave fun whenever I'm not pregnant anymore and I was like I do want to go out and do something but girls will understand this like postpartum you don't I do feel like myself a lot more two weeks in than I did with Tate it took me like five months to feel like myself with Tate but my number one thing I kept telling Harrison was I want to like my outfit I was like I want I just, I want to like my outfit.

17:43One thing about me is I want to like it. And you look phenomenal. So what do we do? So we went to the domain, me, Harrison, and Rocky, while Tate was at the nanny share. And we just walked and walked and walked. And then finally we walked by a jersey dress. I said, I want that. It will match my light blue cowboy boots. I'm a boy mom now. We're getting that. So we got it. And I was so comfy because like I'm still wearing a diaper. So like I was so comfy. I just was happy all night long in the outfit. and I had fun getting ready. And so we're actually going to do it again tomorrow. Harrison was like, we're going to go back to the domain.

18:17We're going to get you because I have, I have an event and a celebratory dinner. So I've got, we've got two things this weekend. So Harrison was like, we're going to do it again. And I was like, you know what? That sounds really fun. And every time, so with Tate, we did this too. And we went and probably got three or four outfits that fit at that time. And I keep them. Only problem is different seasons. But so I always keep on my postpartum. I'm like, I have a box in the basement and I keep all my postpartum and pregnancy clothes. And so how far away do you think we are from weekly date nights?

18:50Closer than, I think we're a month away. And so what do you think? Right now we're on the cadence of like every other week? Yeah, probably. And other than Devil Wears Prada 2, ideas for another date night? From me? Yeah, from anyone. I guess there's someone else in the room named Jules. I love going to dinner. I love going to dinner and trying new restaurants. And so I would love to do that with you. Jules, any new restaurants you should be checking out? Oh my gosh. No, you're putting me on the spot here. I don't know. There's that Italian restaurant. There's some sushi restaurant people are always trying, but there's some Italian spot.

19:29This isn't dinner, but this is the new thing on the scene. It's that sound bar on, it's a listening bar or something like that. Is it the wine bar on the Congress? Yes. Yes. I feel like that's the new thing on the scene here. Okay. This was not on my scene. I saw this. I was supposed to go last weekend. I think I'm going next weekend. It's all open air, right? Yeah, it looks pretty cool. I thought it looked cool too. Is Ginny invited? No, it's not the vibe. It's no dogs probably. No dogs, even outside doors. Yeah, it's like swanky. Dogs can be swanky, Jules. It's like a rooftop bar. Okay. We'll add that to the list.

20:09so okay where to go from here nanny share because she mentioned the nanny share and i'm waiting for the update here's where things shake out on the nanny share we love it we're committed to it but we're always looking to improve it and i think the observation that that's occurred right now is over the past couple months we've really started to see the girls play with with each other for the first time and interact in a meaningful way. And we see how great it's been for their development, their growth, their sharing, their temperament control, and so on and so forth. And neighbor T and I were walking this morning and we both collectively brought up that we were thinking it would make sense to add a third to the nanny share.

20:57So we are officially on the lookout to add a third child to the nanny share. Now, we're probably taking this more seriously than we'd need to, right? But we're talking to another couple about it now. And what's really important for us is one, like how does Maria feel about all of it? And so we're going to have like a trial where we see how Maria feels about taking care of three. And yeah, we have such a great thing going. We just want to make sure that we don't derail it. I think the other thing is maybe they won't come every day. Maybe they'll opt for three days a week, which could be really cool.

21:44Yeah. So we're getting fluid with it. And a few different factors are at play, but we're very excited about this next phase of growth. So when I came home and I told Alex, I was like, what do you think about adding a third? And what did you say? Great. I love it. I like anything that lends itself towards more interactions, more like I'm obsessed with attending dance class and swim lessons because I just think these girls love to be social and we should lean into what they like. Yeah. And I think we'll get past three. I think just we're and maybe we'll end up at four or five. I think the reason why, you know, the focus is on three is the next step is we want to make sure that things things remain smooth.

22:27So logistically, the next thing we're going to have to deal with, and I get this question a million times, is what's going on with Rocky? So we've said this before, but I'll just summarize it again. Rocky Bears. I'll summarize it again, which is we've got Tate and Winnie with Maria. And then with Maria's mom, we've got Rocky and Yates, which is Winnie's brother. I don't know. Are we going to have all four of them always at the same house when we add a third kid? What we discussed is rotating homes. Okay, so like the little, you'll have the littles one day and the bigs the other day. Okay, I love that.

23:02So every day of the week we get to have somebody around. Yeah, and I feel like we'll probably time it so that way there is some overlap. So kind of in the mornings, whoever walks over, everyone kind of hangs at that house before they walk back and then vice versa, pick up. It does make parenting one thing that we're loving, especially Harrison right now, because Rocky's obviously staying at home until he's three or four months old. but Harrison goes and he drops Tate off every morning and you just hang out over there and like have a cup of coffee and it really makes parenting fun like we really kind of have a morning block party yeah the neighbors have a new roommate I'm not sure like I feel bad that like and the roommate is Harrison neighbor and like every morning she walks into her kitchen I'm just sitting there at her kitchen table huffing a cup of coffee yeah I think it's cute second of the day it may parenting with the village is really fun and like we have we have a kid on our block that is the same birthday as rocky what what surprises me most about it though is like how in these early stages the the age matters so much yeah rocky and yates are light years apart and they're only six months apart light years apart so it does really matter but i don't know I don't know what age they catch up to each other.

24:19Yeah, that'll be, I mean, well, it'll be interesting to watch with the two of them. Whoa, buddy. Jules, what did you think about that update? Was that surprising to you? It wasn't the update I was expecting. What were you expecting? I thought it was going to be something with Rocky and Yates. I don't know. No, Rocky Bear and Yates, they're doing their thing. They're doing their thing. I did have something I was going to say and I forgot what it was. I'm not going to remember it. Well, Bubz had her dance recital. Okay. Why don't you take the lead on that? You did it. you were in there with her so uh i'll i actually i like this and here's why i like it because coming into dance i definitely was uh was a little skeptical and because we'd go there and she really didn't know what was going on and yesterday i couldn't believe how many moves and things she'd learned from the first class repetition is key like she understood so many of of those dances and went to hop and went to touch her knees to her toes and went to do the uh the sleeping action and what to do with the parachute thing i was blown away at where she was versus versus the initials so um i'm very glad we followed your lead on that and are we gonna are we gonna re-sign up for dance class yes i'm so excited we're gonna sign up for another dance class i'm supportive of that um and i i like our weeks like we've got dance and swim yeah swim which is is very very important yeah swim which is very important there and the swim class was so the update on swim was we started her in swim lessons it's not isr but like she's getting dunked she's learning to jump in like i really like where we're going with swim lessons i would still like to do isr at some point but right now I'm very happy with the swim lessons that we're doing.

26:08Did you talk about how we broke ground on the pool? No. There's like, we didn't even talk about the swim lessons. It's so long ago at this point though. But like we didn't talk about swim lessons. Well, I mean this is our second swim lesson. That's why we need to, like, this one a week is killing me, Jules. I know, but guys, we're going to go to three a week, which is exciting. Yes, so swim lessons. We are on swim lesson two. We have five babies doing this. it feels like here's my initial instinct well what do you think so what what do you think so far oh i'm thrilled i love the group i love i love everything about it just like this is what childhood swim lessons in the summer should be to me and you're doing it at someone's house yeah we're doing it at my friend olivia's house but i agree the vibes are awesome it's a really nice event to do you see them you know i i'm sure we'll see them progress along but it also feels like we need isr where i know i think we do i think we do more is more when it comes to swimming from what i can tell like this feels like it will train them to learn how to swim versus isr which covers the survival piece so yeah i i agree we're gonna need isr i think more is more when it comes to swim but i'm very happy that we're starting and i love the group that we're starting with and I love the way we're starting.

27:30So we're dipping our toe in the water, pun intended, and then we'll see. Yeah, and what I'll say about it is by doing it in this big group setting, it definitely turns into something like on the calendar that you look forward to. And I think that's important, number one. Number two, ISR is an everyday for six weeks commitment, which is hard with a newborn. So I think the way we're doing it right now is actually perfect. I love swim. And if our swimming skills don't develop by the time he's of age, then we can do ISR with both of them. Yeah, which would be great. I was wondering how much doing swim lessons like that with friends at someone's house, like how much that costs.

28:11So we got an instructor from like a local swim, I think, academy nearby. And it's$145 per kid for six or eight lessons. So pretty good. That sounds reasonable. Very good. Yeah. I know. incredible right so like 25 bucks a class yeah something like that depending i can't remember if we're doing six or eight weeks for some reason i have it somewhere but anyways very reasonable cool yeah you just need someone with a pool need someone with a pool and then you got to find the instructor yeah or you could do it at a um or you could go to the aquatic place i guess but i love doing it at someone's house because it's just well i can't get think that it would be much less than that per class at an aquatic center.

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30:04Plus, they offer an obsession guarantee. If you're not completely obsessed, you'll get your money back. That's O-L-L-I-E dot com slash two parents and enter promo code two parents to get 70 % off your first box. So three weeks, we're around three weeks in, 202. I gave my rundown of the two weeks with 202. What jumps out to you out of the gates? One thing that I, I'm sorry if I'm far away from the mic, one thing that I love that we're doing is not being, and this is a product of us interviewing people and learning about introducing this new sibling in, but like this morning Tate's like, she just wanted her pacifier for five extra minutes to run around upstairs and Harrison's like whatever I'm just gonna give it to her so like she just had her passive for five minutes and then Harrison before they went downstairs Harrison said hey she calls it her BB you've got to go put your BB up and she just walked over to her bed and said bye bye BB and put it up like instead of us getting into a standoff with her during a time where there's a lot of new happening I love that you're just kind of like do we can we give in here it's not even giving in but like are we down to meet her halfway or are we going to hold our line like yesterday she wanted she wanted my chocolate bar that's what it was and she got really sad that she couldn't get the chocolate bar and it was just like we weren't going to negotiate with her we weren't going to offer her other food we just said no chocolate bar she was sad for two minutes and then she moved on and it's like that was an area where we were just like no ma 'am but with the bb it was like yeah you know what you can have your bb have it yeah and i like that we're doing that with her we're not being so drill sergeant yeah i like the rule is no bb it's like she's a year and a half she doesn't get that she doesn't get the rule yeah definitely it's it's funny you say that like we we've not we've not been getting into standoffs with her uh definitely flexing on on the rules the other day was the same thing like she asked for a bottle she hasn't asked for a bottle in or she's rarely asked for bottles and and it it felt like i really understood she's a year and a half she sees her brother being held and being given bottles like she wants to be held and she wants to be given a bottle not every night but like she's gotten one since he's been alive and it's like she just asked for it she was like tay tay she's done too i gave her second mom she's like tay tay and we're like yeah you know what fine you can have your tay tay but you can't have mom's chocolate bar.

32:32And so I think that the other thing is when she does throw a tantrum about not getting the chocolate bar, we're definitely doing the brat busters method, which she says, pretend like you're at the bus stop waiting on the bus. Like, don't be on your phone. Don't be over there, you know, saying, Hey, you can try XYZ. You're just waiting on the bus to come. And that's what we did yesterday with the chocolate bar. She's like, you can't have it. We're not giving you anything else. And you need to learn that we're not going to reward you throwing the fit so we just chilled i have our biggest mistake so far in three weeks what okay starting a home renovation at the same time as bring a child into this world we knew it was dumb no roll the clips and we still did it anyways it's just like we we should have waited a month like in theory had the plan and the renovation been executed as expected things would be gravy but i think like any renovation that happens it's not even a renovation it's a pool build it's a pool and outdoor build there's always the unexpected turns out there was a pipe running through the middle of the pool we need to move the pipe it's plumbing in moving the pipe we broke the pipe the water the water is turned off at the moment hard to wash bottles so and you know it should be back on in in a couple hours but like still point being you just add like there's truly another added layer of of stress into uh into things which like but i also think like you always hear we're living with my in-laws you know like we were crazy we bought a house we're renovating it we moved in with the in-laws we're going to move in when our baby's three months old.

34:23Like for there's something around people having kids that like motivates you to also take Humpty Dumpty apart before you put them back together, which is like what we're doing. But I bet the listeners could tell us like, maybe your husband got a new job and you're relocating and you just had a newborn. Like there is something chaotic about when you're living in chaos, just add a little more. Maybe that's just you and I, but. And, and there are also, I think part of that is there's no perfect time. Like when you're building a family, like it's, I feel like things are going to only get more and more and more hectic, but I do wish we delayed one month because it feels like every week that goes by, like we get more and more back into a new routine or like call it a new norm.

35:07And I think we would have benefited from, um, from waiting the month. Well, no, because then every month we wait as every month we're further away from the pool. and they told us it would be about 45 days no 60 days to do the pool and so we can get in austin it stays warm here till like october um we can get some pool time and where i just i'm so appreciative of you is like while the hecticness of the building's been going on you like you remain so patient like so that's made it 20 times better well my rule was I'm so down for it in fact I want to start now but leave me out of it like if the pipe breaks let me know but I'm not talking to the plumber I'm just like great okay there's no water today I understand but you're doing the you're doing the handling now in terms of what has been easiest does anything jump out to you um okay so one thing that's been really easy is our morning routine which is we have this new thing that occupies tate for an hour and that is her running back and forth between seeing rocky and mama in the mornings and it's she won't like when alex says now like she won't like she the only way she'll stop is if we actually take her to do somewhere else to do something else like She will do it for an infinite amount of time.

36:36She wakes up and she literally goes and sees Rocky, gives him a kiss, then comes and sees me, and then truly spends the next hour running back and forth between our rooms saying hi to both of us. And opening the doors and closing the doors and saying bye-bye. It's the cutest thing ever. Hi, bye-bye. That's what she does. And so that's been nice. What else has been easy? Taking away from some coffee shop time. Do you know the other thing that's been easy is like you do when Tate goes to see Maria every day and goes to the nanny share, you do get your little newborn bubble, which is really nice.