Our vibe going into 2026, Montana recap & babymoon plans

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0:44Okay, let's start. Welcome back to another episode of Two Parents in a Podcast. If you're watching on YouTube wondering what our background is, Harrison wanted something wintry, but yet New Year's-y. Reflective of the current state. Oh, I just did something so savage to Harrison. So he took this great, we're in Vancouver, and he took this really beautiful photo, and he put it in the group chat with our neighbors because our neighbors are coming up here for New Year's with us, and they've never been to Vancouver or Whistler, and the mountains here are snow-capped, and so we went to breakfast, and we were walking, and he took a photo, put it in the group chat.

1:25I took it out of the group chat, put it on my Insta story. I didn't think Harrison would see it before we started recording. And then he was like, what? Well, I was going to put it up. A rare story moment for me. Now it's going to look like you copied me. Although I can't take that good of a photo. You're just a better photographer. That's not true. No, no, no. That is true. I need you to accept that. I'm a worse photographer. So I used the 8X zoom on the iPhone camera for that one. Shot it in like two seconds. And that's what made it look so cool. because like from where we were, you couldn't like appreciate, like the photo didn't, didn't capture how cool the snow cat mountains looked.

2:05I saw Jay do that once on a, on his iPhone. The new iPhone zoom is insane. We do have the new ones, which I just like help in today's day and age. I, I, I don't know why anyone would ever buy a camera. Stop. I bought, okay. So guys, I got the Canon G7 X because the reason I got it, I love it in theory. So did I. And Chad GBT told me it would be better than the iPhone in certain scenarios, especially when photographing people. We have one child and we have one on the way. I'm like, well, if I don't start documenting, like I don't want every photo to be on my phone. I loved it in theory. I want some of the old school, not old school, but I want some old school feels with my camera.

2:49And man, I tell you what, this iPhone is just outperforming it left, right and center. Yeah, this, this, this Canon just doesn't seem to work. Well, I don't think I know how to focus it. Whatever. I took it on our trip and like the one photo I posted of us was saying it's like blurry. It's blurry. Yeah. They're all blurry. I'm stunned at its lackluster performance. Nothing. All the camera. Not that. I watched all these videos on the BG or the food. Sorry. The Fuji versus the Canon. And I laid it on the Canon. And then like I got the refurbished. Any advice would be appreciated on how to make it better than the iPhone.

3:25I'm sure there's like a setting. Happy almost New Year's, everybody. Yes. What's your vibe? What's your New Year's vibe? What does that mean? What is, why do you keep that? He doesn't, Harrison is so, is it literal? Are you literal? Yeah, I'm pretty literal. What's my New Year's vibe? Like not, I don't know. Hopefully very positive. I do not want to know your resolution. Okay. Okay, because I think people make those and then we forget about them by February. Okay. So where's your head at going into the new year? Okay. I understand the question now. Okay. Where's your head at going into the new year?

4:04So typically I find when you travel back home, right? So like if you're away for the new year and then you go home, you're a bit like, it's like a letdown, so to speak. What do you mean? Well, you're coming off the vacation. you're coming off the vacation you're coming off the holiday high yeah so you know you had thanksgiving and then you had christmas you went somewhere you saw family and then for new years we went somewhere else but maybe you say like whatever and then you go back home and then work starts again yeah so like traditionally speaking people have time off right now okay um i'm excited to get back because i we have four months three and a half months until this baby comes and i have some things, I don't want to say what they are, but professionally that I want to achieve in those three and a half months.

4:56And like, I'm really excited to get working on them. Okay. So what, where's your, so, so my head is, um, I'm feeling better. I'm throwing up none. Knock on wood. You got a pop in your staff. I mean, last week I had brutal food, whatever that was, but that wasn't pregnancy related. Um, and so like, I'm getting up and like, I'm craving my one mile walk on the treadmill. Like I'm feeling better. Yeah. No, you're crushing it. And like with bubs guys, I didn't have a day where I felt good. I threw up every day. And then like when I had her, I threw up every contraction. So like that one wasn't very fun for me, but like with my little boy here, he's kicking me a lot.

5:30Like I'm starting to feel better. So I want to use these last three and a half months and like make the most of them. We have to rearrange the whole entire upstairs. We have to do his nursery. I have to move bubs into her room and redo the playroom. So I want to get working on that. And then I want to get working on my little project, which I'll fill everybody in on later. Amazing. The project lives in my head right now. Amazing. So I'm going into grind mode. Yeah. And, and I see that, like, I see, I see you have the energy. I see how different life is today for you than it was two months ago.

6:04Um, so to use the word again, I see, I see the pop in your step. And I think what's notable about it is like a day in bed for me is miserable. Like when I don't feel good, if I wake up and I I don't feel good. Like, I hate that. I don't want to lay in bed and watch a movie. Yeah. That is like not my idea of fun. Yeah. So this is a lot better for me. And pregnancy goes by faster when I'm doing things. Yeah. Okay. Where's your head at, darling? Yeah. No, my vibe is on a similar wavelength. Oh, my gosh. And that is like I want to make sure that we have all facets of our life dialed so that way we are as best prepared as we can before baby number two.

6:52And, you know, I think the expectation is like when he comes, our world will get turned upside down again. And so I just want to make sure that all facets of it are in as good of a place as they can be. And that's everything from like community, physical health, work, like get things humming on all fronts. And that way when our world gets, as just said again, gets turned upside down, like we've got a good base to handle. And yeah. Yeah, because I – listen, I think what's coming in April is pure joy met with chaos. and one thing about Harrison and I we love chaos and we thrive just fine in it but like you don't know maybe this baby doesn't sleep maybe he's colicky maybe I have a hard time feeding like there's so many unknowns and we welcome those right because they're temporary and we like that's just fine with us like we I think we're very much so like come what may but I like what you're saying of like stabilize and then see what happens exactly but I'm excited I just what I the thing that I kept doing was being like after the new year we're gonna we're gonna deal with that nursery after the new year we're gonna fix the house after the new year and now it's like we're we're like five days away from being home yeah and it's like you had to start come out of your mouth three and a half months away like wow that is just a lot closer than than I'd realized we decided we're gonna do a baby moon yeah so did we do a baby moon with Bob's every trip we took like we went to London for my birthday which was really fun Harrison took us there and it was like a surprise for me.

8:34That was a blast, but that wasn't, we didn't do a baby. It was like a hybrid ish baby moon. Cause you don't really need a baby moon with the first in my opinion. It wasn't like a dedicated baby moon. Like we're planning now. Yeah. Like, well, I love people to do baby moons with the first. Don't get me wrong. But like we took a lot of vacations while I was pregnant with Bubber. We were trying to figure out where to live as well. That's true. We took a lot of vacations, I guess. Um, but with this one, I just looked at Harrison the other day and I was like, let's go on a baby moon. And he was like, yeah, you get to pick.

9:05Like you carry the baby. You tell me where we're going. Are we going hot? Are we going cold? I think we're going hot. I'm not sure yet. I like your initial suggestion. I think that it's a place I can't believe I haven't been. It seems like it'll be perfect for. It's not a lot of places you haven't been. You're looking for. And yeah, wherever you choose, we'll have a great time. Do you know what I'm looking to do on this baby moon? Yes, let's hear. Nothing. I'm looking to get up. go to the gym there or climate willing. I want to go on a walk. I love, I'm like obsessed with walking right now. Then I want to have a good breakfast.

9:38I want to perhaps. So Harrison got me a pretty killer stocking stuffer, which was learn to knit. Yep. Did you know I knitted in fifth grade? Okay. My teacher, I'm blanking on her name. Oh my gosh. I can see her face, but she loved to knit. And so I knew how to knit in the fifth grade. I completely forgot, but I loved it. And so I'm excited to learn to knit again. Maybe I'll do that there. Read a book, eat. Like I just want to have really good meals, fun dinners, and go to bed. And everything you just described can be accomplished in a lot of places. But I think the place that you initially suggested is perfect.

10:17Okay. Whatever you want to do. I'll decide. What do you think about – sorry, I cut you off. No, no. I'm just saying I'm excited about it because we're not going to take bubs. we're gonna go for two three days um just hang out the two of us probably february and then come back and i'll be in my no travel zone there we go each new year seems to come with the message that who we aren't isn't enough that we're supposed to begin again as someone new but what if i told you you didn't have to rewrite yourself to grow what if real change was already happening, quiet naturally from within. That's exactly what Nutrafol believes.

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12:15We've recorded here, by the way, before people. What do you think about sitting across from each other like this? So I'm loving it. I feel like I'm talking to, I mean, I'm not going to say I feel like I'm talking to you, but I feel more like I'm talking to you. Yes. Do you like it? Do we need to change our studio at home? Another new project? Do we need to do a nursery? I like the angle, but the table does feel kind of business meeting-ish. Like it feels like more interviewee versus conversationally. What interview question could I ask? So maybe we go in the studio back home. We do the same angle, but we don't have the table.

12:49We have like more of a coffee table in the middle. Okay. Let me ask you this. Okay. What's your biggest weakness? Those are the asking interviews. My biggest, oh my goodness. What's your biggest weakness? Where a lot of times at this moment, people actually say a pro. I love my soon to be wife too much. Oh, wow. Yeah. Or people say I'm too organized. It's just a giant flaw of mine. I have too much love for you. I'm too honest. Yeah. Too in love. this guy commented on Harrison's Instagram. He posted of us like on our trip. And the guy was like, who takes their pregnant wife? I can't believe you dragged her.

13:22I can't believe you drug her. To the mountain. On this trip, I responded back. I was like, I was so miserable in the winter wonderland that I wanted to go to. It's probably a good for you to touch on our past week. The special week it was. So we went to Paws Up, which is a ranch in Montana. and we got snowed on twice, which is, that was all I wanted. I wanted to see snow. And we just, you guys, we had the most cozy, magical, fun, like the three of us. It was super special. It was special. That's a good word. Overlaid with a ton of very fun activities. Yeah. Dog sledding takes the cake for me. I've never done that.

14:06Dog sledding was a blast. Fishing was a blast. Harrison caught a fish on his last cast. Yeah. Yeah. We actually called. It was like, this is the last one. Boom. Caught a fish. Got a nibble. Got a nibble. Skit shooting. Yep. It was all fun. Yeah, it was great. So we really had. So we had expectations and it exceeded our expectations. Santa came and visited all the cabins. It was a lot of fun. Very fortunate to have gone. Yeah, it was really, really. It's the same. It was very fun. Now we traveled, though, to get there. So we just did four flights. We said we recently were like, we're never going to fly with Bubz again.

14:40because like it's getting harder and then here we are so it took two flights to get to montana and then we took two flights to get here we had a break we had a breakthrough yeah let's hear the breakthrough i got headphones for the trip in case like i was like what if shit hits the fan and we gotta do like put on a movie for bubs that's just what i was thinking i was like if all else fails. And then we were taking off on the first fight and I was like, hold on. This kid loves music. Let's put her song, Hola, hola, hola, como esta? She's got, Maria has like four or five songs that Bubz and Winnie, they have dance time to.

15:23So we put on this music and Bubz's face could not believe that the music was in her ears. Like she was like, because they always listen to the music out. loud. So that was our breakthrough of like, we got like 30 minutes on each flight. Yeah. And now she's starting to bring us the headphones. Yeah. It was a great, great travel hack as we are staying away from screen time for now. And it's worked very well. So Harrison wants to see how long it lasts. Harrison wants to start meeting people on trips. We're going to talk about that in a second. But one of the families that was there, because there's this dining hall at the ranch and it's like, it's beautiful.

16:03And we were sitting at a table beside us was a table of two kids. And these kids were, how old do you think? Eight and five? I would have said five and seven. Okay. So they're close to that age. They sat through the dinner the entire time. They talked to their parents and the parents weren't on their phones and the kids didn't have screens. So we said to them one night, I was like, Hey, did you ever do screens? Like what's the hack? because our goal here is to eventually have family dinners just like you're having. And she said, she laughed and she said, okay, so we did do screens. And we did them at her age, pointed at Tate, and she said all the way up until they were three.

16:41When they were three, we pulled the screens and we said, we're going to learn to sit through dinner. And I thought that was really fascinating. And she said, and now what we do is we have controlled screen time. So they get it when they travel and that's it. And I was like, wow. But she was like, but when they're, you know, a year and a half to three years old, mom and dad need a second. And she was like, so we did do screens then. And I was like, OK, because one thing Harrison and I always talk about is like we're curious, like we're always asking people. We're always like, OK, what do you do and why do you do it?

17:12Especially people like she was somebody I wanted advice from because I was like, you have the end result that we're going for. Yeah. And I feel like in parenting, it's always one of those things like in theory, you have these game plans. but then in reality things shake out so differently and I feel like screen time is like is a is a phenomenal example of that where you know most parents coming into it will say like we want to avoid it at all costs and no screen time for our kids but then like when the rubber meets the road like that's just not the reality of how how it all shakes out and so like when you do see kids like this you know five and seven year old sitting there so well behaved it's like okay good to know like it, it is possible.

17:53And, um, I did think like one of the unique dynamics that was going on at that table that you just touched on was like, was the parents not being on their phones and the parents engaging the kids. No, there was not one phone. I never saw one. I never saw that family with a phone the entire time. And we saw them a lot. Yeah. So here's the thing. Like we know, I just posted this on my story. Like we know screens are going to be a part of Bub's life. For sure. They're coming. We're just trying to figure out how we want to approach it. Yeah, and where they'll live and where they won't live. And like I have a lot of friends who I see when we're out at dinner, like they'll give their kid their phone for a second.

18:31And like I totally understand that. Like I was giving up on the idea that of no screens at restaurants because you just so rarely see it. You rarely see them not on it. You so rarely see like the five and the seven-year-old at a table without skids. Yeah. And that's cool. And maybe that won't be our journey. But like I think we're sitting here saying we would like it to be. But we haven't even had the second kid. So we'll see how it goes. But right now, Bubz isn't. Five years to go. Bubz isn't a music. A big music kick. For the moment. For the moment. And she's by-lawing, which means dancing, to her playlist.

19:10Yeah. I had a good idea. Let's see. Oh, bleep the name. The neighbor girl had a good idea. we make a Winnie and a Tate playlist on Spotify of all the music that they listen to. And I got just a tip here. They were$19.99 from Target. I got the Hay Day Bluetooth headphones. And they work perfectly. On the airplane, you can hear them. They're great. So I've been wearing them some too. You guys, the holidays are over, but the new year is beginning, and there is still time to get Aura Frames. Aura Frames are what I thought was the best gift to give somebody. And you know what? There is still time to give it to somebody.

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21:25I feel like one, I'm surprised that we don't have those interactions. And two, I think we'd really like it because like we're so intentional about where we go and i feel like often the types of people that would be there we'd have a lot of a lot in common with i'm out going but i'm guarded like i am too i'm not really looking i liked i liked there's a breakfast place a lunch place and a dinner place and there's only one i liked seeing everybody you know there was the family from houston there like i liked that vibe getting to know him a little bit the grandparents were there they let they let their kids dye their hair colors like that was kind of my vibe small bits of conversation so you don't want to like actually maybe there's a top maybe like i think it just unlocked i think that that because we had dinner every night at five o 'clock and we're back in the room by seven.

22:30And I feel like that moment to like interact would have been at the bar and we weren't ever going to the bar because we were back in the room with Pops. Yeah. But I do like, I don't want to have coffee with somebody on vacation. No, but I think like what I would have liked to have done is like had conversations with those people at the bar. So if I'm in Miami and like I'm sitting down, yeah, at the bar at night, like I'd love to talk to the person beside me. But Miami is too transient versus what I liked about this place is like it was off the grid. And And so you were seeing the same people. Okay.

23:00Agreed. Agreed. No, no, no. I'm not, I'm not against what you're saying. I was in an antisocial mood. I was in a, hi, how are you? I loved talking to the kids and the parents and getting where they were from. And then I was good, which reminds me of my second piece here. So we drove to the shooting range and it was truly a breathtaking view. And Harrison was like, have you ever been to Pemberton? Like, no, I haven't been to Pemberton. which is 45 minutes north of Whistler because before I had met you, I had never been to Whistler. So Harrison was like, I got to take you to Pemberton. I was like, done, take me.

23:37So we're probably going to do a day trip while we're here. We're going to go up there for lunch. And what I realized, because I was like, wow, I could do like a cabin in Pemberton or Montana or somewhere like remote. And what it made me realize is I'm really content. I have found myself changing the older I get and being with you. Like I just like talking to you and hanging out with you. And like, I love our friends, but I used to be very, I want to be in the most, the busiest place. Like I could never have a cabin remote. Yeah. Cause I would always, I would want to be social. I'd want to be X, Y, Z.

24:17But now I find myself being like, no, I'm good. If it's just us in a cabin or I could do a remote cabin, I might actually really enjoy that you're preaching the choir you're truly preaching but i didn't used to be this way did you i used to be like no i need to have a house in new york in chaos out east etc like playing the game i don't know if it's age i don't know if it's parenting i don't know if it's you i don't know combination of all of it it's everything i think that but like my faith i love just going back to the cabin and hanging out with you and like i love being around friends i want to go i'm craving once this baby comes out i want to do a couple's trip with a bunch of friends And like, that is my vibe.

24:54But like, I do just, I'm like, oh, found myself. When you said you wanted to meet people, I was like, I always want to meet people. But I've just found myself being like, yeah, like, I think two things can be true. I think that that I felt like there was a, you know, I wish we I wish I dug a layer deeper with one or two people over the past week. and I also can be at a remote cabin like behind us where just you, me, Bubz, and the family. And Jellybean. And beyond. And beyond. So where to from here? Well, before we get into your chat, GBT wrapped, which there's no better thing to do on the 31st than you because Harrison's in the top 15 % of people that use chat GBT, which he says isn't high.

25:42I think it's high. I thought it would have been a lot higher. I'm shocked. Wait, you thought he'd be higher? Yeah, do you want to know what mine is? Jules. Jules, lift her up to the mic. What is yours? Now I have to recheck, but I think mine said top 3%. There's no way. No, it would make sense because I use a bunch of different models. Oh. Because often I'm saying chat GPT, but I'm using Gemini. Okay. Because chat's kind of a verb now. Yeah. Yeah. Mine, yeah, top 3 % messages sent. Jules. Jules, you little chatter bug. That's really good. First 20 % of users. I feel like Harris is probably like first 1 % of users.

26:30Oh, how do you see? Hold on. Okay, let me look. Do people know that ChatGPT does a rap? Yeah, I've seen it a lot. I feel like it just became a thing online this week. Yeah, but I see people really like doing it. Oh, sorry. What were you in terms of users, Jules? 20%. Top 3 % messages sent. Yeah. And first 20 % of users. Okay. What do you think my first percent of users was? One, Jules. I said like one or two. First 0.1 % of users. That's really good. That's an early adopter. I'm really proud of that. Now, interestingly enough, my chattiest day was February 19th. Were we sleep training? Oh, that had to have been it.

27:17Had to be. Ask it. Say, what was I doing February 19th? That had to have been it. That's really funny. That's really funny. Can you, will it tell you what you were doing? Remember the night, you guys, that Harrison stayed up and talked to Chad and it was very empathetic and it was like, wow, you must be really tired and it must be really hard, but keep going. Oh, no. Interesting. What? Different. What were you doing? On February 19th, I was asking a series of questions about optimizing baby formula ingredients. How to improve a standard baby formula, which ingredients you should swap out, especially seed oils and what you replace them with.