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1:28Tate:Okay, Harrison's easy to go So, a couple things Big thing happened while we were asleep Do we know what happened while we were asleep? No First rain? New umbrellas? In true, I want to say the right word But it wouldn't work in the way I want to say it In true Taylor Swift Easter egg I'm giving you all an Easter egg There's a big Easter egg right now Your hat. Oh, who won? So last night. There's a hat that says tennis for those listening. I was so excited. I had a little evening by myself, supposed to be with Rocky and me, and we're going to watch a great tennis match. We're going to watch Al Karaz versus Shelton.

2:13I talked about Shelton on the last episode. The guy, he's the best. Real character. Long story short, the matches beforehand all ran super long. Tiafoe had like a five-hour match, a thriller, beat another American. Then Pagula had a big comeback win, another American. And long story short. No, it's long story long, honey.

2:39This match, it starts at 11 p.m. Eastern. Long story short, I'm sure. It finished at 3.30 in the morning. Oh, wow. Wow. Yeah. Eastern time or our time? 3.30 Eastern. The latest finish ever.

2:55Tate:Did people stay? Well, I haven't even watched the recap. I just saw it happened. They won. It went to five sets. Wow. And it was 7.6. It went as far as you can go. So if you're there, okay, so today's a Wednesday. So it's a Tuesday night. Are you staying till 3.30? It is the marquee match. That's the marquee matchup of the tournament. but the problem is like you're getting there you probably got there like 6 to 7 p.m. and you're getting home at 4 35 if you live in the city let's call it so if i have traveled to this game i'm staying no question and that's like the most electric thing ever if i live in new york and like just went for fun and i have work you know at 8 a.m that's tough yeah it's tough but yolo like i don't know truly truly you only live once yeah i don't know i'm torn who won So Shelton won.

3:51Tate:Wow. So the US Open, we have the makeup of a great weekend here. So semifinals is Shelton versus Tiafoe, two Americans. So we're guaranteed an American in the final. And then the other side of the tournament, like I don't even know who these guys are. So like one of them is like the number one ranked German, but I still don't, I don't, Zvev or something. But I didn't know, I didn't know them. so you know all eyes will be on i'll watch the american semis and then be chair for the american in the finals and then the woman's side is setting up to be awesome um you had pagula win last night she's taking on sabalenka who's number one in the world and i think it's won like 18 straight matches she won the u.s open the past two years but it's on the other side of the bracket uh very exciting dynamics.

4:43So Coco Gauff, who everyone loves. Yeah, people love Coco. Assuming she plays today, the person that she's going to play is ranked number two in the world. What people don't really realize is she's Russian. She now plays under the Kazakhstan flag, but was born in Russia. So we are getting a Russia-US semifinal, potentially. And that means Latu as a hockey fan? Isn't that like a hockey thing? The Russia-U.S. rivalry is like a big thing. In tennis or? In sports in general. Oh. So to see it in tennis is.

5:22Tate:What else besides hockey? Well, it all started in hockey. Okay. Yeah, that's why. Sorry. This is juicy. Yeah. Miracle and Lies. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Speaking of, you asked this question. What would be the first sports movie that you would show your child? It has to be Mighty Ducks. why does it have to be mighty ducks for me for me space jam i love space jam i love space ship mighty ducks it are they we are the ducks the mighty mighty ducks is that them don't think so oh what there's also bring it on bring it on bring it on to a little i was watching that when i was like nine there's if you watch it as an adult there's some stuff going on yeah like some major stuff really the I think my favorite sports movie of all time is probably Remember the Titans yeah it's a good one what about Air Bud love Air Bud for for a first kid movie great one yeah it would die I think if you're gonna just show them Remember the Titans like that's in the camp of like Seabiscuit like that is a very serious movie Seabiscuit very good Seabiscuit incredible I watched it pregnant Whenever we were in...

6:40Mighty Ducks, because growing up, hockey was such a big part of my life. That would be my... Here, you pick it with one kid and I'll pick it with the other kid.

6:48Tate:When I was in high school, we were at... Ignored. We were at state... What? I made a suggestion. What'd you say? You pick it with one kid, I'll pick it with the other kid. But then you said something else in the mic. He said ignored. Ignored. So I truly was ignored. No, no, no, no. Oh, I didn't hear you. I heard the part before that. When I was in high school, we were in state volleyball. and we were in the semifinals, I think. My coach, he said we're going to watch Seabiscuit and I was like, because you have a really, really long time, right? Like we had played in the morning and then he wanted us to do something good, take our minds off the game until we played at night.

7:23Tate:We went and saw Seabiscuit and on the way there, I was like, why are we going to like watch a movie about biscuits? Like I thought it was the stupidest thing ever and now it's one of my favorite movies. I absolutely loved it and it was such a good story to watch in the middle of that. Another big thing happening today. Do we know what's happening today? No. Big announcement today. Give us a hint. Okay. Now, we got to be tricky with it or we got to be careful with it because by the time this episode comes out, the announcement should have already happened. Okay. Hold on. Welcome back to another episode of Two Parents in a Podcast.

7:57Tate:Thank you for listening. And if you're listening, like, like, and subscribe and send it to a friend. We love you guys. All right. What's the announcement? Should have already happened. Oh, what is it? give us like a hint like are we in finance are we in space every year around this time of year

8:16um i know so i can't guess what what's the date september 9th every september we typically get this not groundhog day

8:29Tate:you said like four funny things already this episode oh thanks jules harrison doesn't laugh that one of them um i don't know tell me or give me a hint okay i'll give you a hint without your phone that's the hint oh my gosh are they releasing a new phone it is it is speculated that apple is going to announce the new phone today and the new phone will be a foldable phone No way. No way. It's about time they spice things up. Should we place bets? Not bets. Yeah. Amongst yourselves. I think consensus is that it's going to be foldable. Who's guessing that? Who leaked? And$2 ,000. What I saw online was that, I saw that face, Jules.

9:19I want to go back to that face because it's a very valid face.

9:21Tate:The price of the phone? The price of the phone. Yeah. The shock reaction to the price is a valid shock reaction. but I'm going to do some spins on math. You're going to girl math us here? Okay. I didn't want to call it that. If you're going to make a case for a toothbrush that we touch twice a day at$500, this is going to be the easiest case you've ever made. So I used to delay getting a new phone. Then you met me. A friend of mine, what he told me is he said, assuming you get a new phone every two years, look at the cost of that phone on a per day basis. so you know the while this one is very expensive at two thousand dollars a year it is call it three dollars a day if you're going to use that phone for two years and considering it's your most used item like i get it super expensive when you look at it on a per day basis on a per use basis it's probably the best use of of money on a consumer good that that you can that you can spend other than flock chicken snacks okay i agree with that what is like what would what is an example of something you use more than your phone nothing i don't think anything maybe a car i guess but i want to bring this back to something i want to get our take on the foldable phone because and do you want me to go first here while you're thinking about it because my take is i feel like they're giving us something like my my gut would be they're giving us something that we didn't ask for because full of them phones have been around for many many years well they gave us something we didn't ask for with the first iphone but i trust apple and i trust that's what i was gonna say i trust that they're gonna nail this so i was gonna say this is a perfect example of them giving me something that i didn't know i needed that's my prediction i'm so mad you went first And to take it back two episodes ago, while Tim Cook has now stepped away as CEO.

11:23Tate:Timmy Apple. This is the last big product launch that he had his hands on. Yeah. i don't i don't think he would be stepping it away and introducing this if and he would have given the sign off if there was any chance it was going to flop well i actually now that you're saying that i think this is his parting gift to the world yeah like i actually think this is to be incredible but the two things i was going to say number one i trust apple number two they're giving it something we didn't know we needed which they did with the first iphone we didn't we couldn't imagine it and i'm down for them to mix it up a bit i'm just like well how what are been doing with cases here like i remember my friend john lee otherwise known as jung wook lee woke uh j-o-n-g space w-o-o-k lee that's his korean name jung wook lee okay he's from south korea yeah uh went to high school you call him john or have you been calling him jong the whole time i mean i know john that lee with the j-o-h-n same guy but you're calling him john i call him jung wook but like in text but in in in canada do you guys call him most people call him john but his friend like if you were to introduce himself to you would probably introduce himself as john but his like his friends call him jung wook okay yeah so we love it uh he was the first guy i knew to ever get an iphone and and we trolled him so hard and yeah he was right he was he was the visionary of it now he also switched to android very well and we didn't we didn't make the but i'll let him go well yeah well he switched it why why would you switch to android but he's he's back on hold on he's back on the iphone he's back i think they're like better i don't know Jules they are fully better that's why you would switch I think that the tech of the like but why then why can they not corner the market like Apple did okay he has the blue check mark still so he's back on the iPhone never mind sorry John why if the Android and I think the Google Pixel phone I think they are like objectively better than the iPhone why has Apple cornered the market it reminds me of Blackberry do you remember and the whole thing blackberry is bbm and i would not move away from from blackberry because of bbm was that were you guys on this train or no what was the bbm blackberry messenger so basically it was its internal messaging system you would get a check mark on delivery um and it's very much like the iMessage which you can which you can iMessage on wi-fi which is unbelievable does android have the equivalent of that?

14:13No, but I think that that, I think that's created a massive, uh, or that's created massive friction, friction and transferring phones.

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15:28Tate:And if you have no idea where to start there's a variety pack so you can try a bunch of the flavors and find your favorite one cure is the electrolyte mix i've started reaching for daily with clean ingredients and nothing artificial it's become easy to stay hydrated find it on amazon or save 20 at curehydration.com with code 2 parents okay i'm gonna move us along here ladies and gentlemen we have a great episode today um number one let's just do like some kid things because for some reason even though we recorded on monday a million things it feels like have happened with the kids since then uh we are we're like not potty training tape but we're potty training tape and the way we did it was harrison got a little pink and white toilet you talk about this you've kind of taken the lead on it i think your chief potty trainer i think we well i don't even know what we want to call that like i think we tripped and fell into potty training well you did order the toilet i I ordered the toilet and I ordered the toilet because two reasons.

16:31One, I knew eventually we were going to potty train. Yep. And two, like I ordered it when she started paying attention to the bathroom and what was going on.

16:41Tate:Yeah. She baked that at PP. Like she was interested in what was going on in the bathroom. And like long story short, she, she's yeah. She started using the, she started using the toilet. No, that's, you can't do that on this. like so okay so you got the toilet okay and then she would be she will at first she would sit on it with like her clothes on and then she would just be like tape pee pee like yes that's where you pee pee but we didn't push it we just wanted to see her interest to level in it now recently she's wanted to start like taking her diaper off and sitting on the toilet and without like getting into it too much we've had some very successful very successful bathroom runs and we keep it in our bathroom downstairs and what we've done is if she if she goes to the bathroom we have a party afterwards like we jump up and down we do high fives we like dance and it's become it's really really really cute she's using it about two times a day and she's staying in her diapers um but we're just getting her familiar with what it feels like to use the toilet what i'll say as this all comes my mom was here this weekend when she saw what was going on with the toilet she said that if she didn't see it she wouldn't believe that yeah so like if you try if you called me and told me that you were doing this because i think that what we're not what we're not doing is like we don't have a time when we want to get out of diapers we actually her being in diapers is quite convenient um but we we know eventually like your mom says no one goes to seventh grade in diapers we know eventually she'll be out of the diapers and so instead of doing like a weekend at home with no diaper on where she runs around and like learns that to pee on the floor and things not learns to but has accidents we just thought we would do it this way and see what happened yeah so uh that's how we tripped and fell into product training we bought it we left it there and she started using it when the time felt right for her but she'll probably stay at this stage for a bit she'll stay at this diaper this hybrid this diaper toilet hybrid for a long time and then one day we'll just be like okay no more diaper tate doesn't and the way i'll probably say it is no diaper for tate no for mama no for dada rocky keeps his diaper and then we'll explain to her the toilets and we need to get the foldable toilet you can take on the go that's a big one yeah so here's my prediction my prediction is she's just going to start using it more and more and more because she likes using it and she realizes it's a lot more comfortable to use it than not and i think she's kind of going to leave the charge on that that's that's what i think i have a question based on what i'm saying are you going to get those little potties and put them in every bathroom in the house or is she just using the one bathroom is there anything behind that it's a great question jules why don't you talk about what happened last night in in our bedroom Oh, yeah, we were upstairs and she was like, tape potty.

19:40And Harrison was like, do we take you?

19:42Tate:Do you want to go upstairs or downstairs? And she pointed down she wanted to go to her toilet. Because I think that our toilets, to scale for her, they're massive. And so I think she really liked because she likes to do things herself. So I think we're going to need at least one upstairs and one downstairs. Okay. There's also this type of toilet. It's unbelievable. It's like it's thicker than the iPad, but it folds down like this. You can throw it in the stroller in the back of your car and then you pop it down and they can sit on it when you're on the go. If they still don't want to use the adult toilets out and about.

20:15Tate:It's pretty cool. So we got to get that too. Maybe not yet. That's kind of the type of this process that I'm trying to avoid. Like I'm very pro convenience. Very like. Okay. So what do you want to do? Like when we're at the coffee shop, you want her to go to the real bathroom? I think that when she transitions fully away from diapers, hopefully she can just use the real bathroom. Okay. I don't know, but I don't know how far away she is from that. I don't either. But I'm down to like, here's what I've liked so far. We've just followed our gut and we're just kind of like seeing how it goes and there's no pressure.

20:51Tate:Like when you remove, one thing that's so nice with kids is when you remove the pressure around like, she's got to be potty trained in a month. She's like, eh, or not. Right? 100%. Like technically she's off bottles, but sometimes when she really wants the bottle, we're like, you know what? You can have the bottle today because why not? Because Rocky's having one and it doesn't make any sense. You're not even two yet. So you can have the bottle too. And it's not so rigid in our household. Gave her a bottle this morning and she probably had barely a half a sip. She wanted to make sure that she could get it.

21:27I will say one on two is a lot.

21:30Tate:Yeah. So speaking of Harrison had to do one on two this morning because rocket man. Well, you did the night shift is wrecking me these past two nights. So two nights ago, he was up every hour, one 16 to 16, three. And it was weird. It was always the 16 because I was checking the time to see. He inherited your superpowers. He did. He, he knew it's like one hour cry. And I'm like, okay, Rocky last night he did midnight three, but at three, he did just take the passy. Sometimes I'm trying to put the Patsy back and then I'll try to go back to bed and see if he'll just keep the Patsy in his mouth. Or sometimes he spits it down and he keeps crying.

22:06Tate:So he only drank a bottle at midnight in five. But he did need some attention and I held the Patsy in there and rubbed him a little bit around three. So last night was a lot better. Where we need to get back to was we had him sleeping seven to eight hours. People call it a regression. There's always a regression. We took his arms out of the snow. yes that's right because okay so two nights ago i was like we can't do that like why is he waking up every hour i think he's waking up every hour he's in the snoo he's really like you velcro their arms down he's extra swaddled because he's rolling now i don't know if we've talked about that before rocky roll yeah yeah okay and he's like super rolling now though i mean he's got it down he's proud of it he whips that leg around he like looks at you and he's like i rolled and i'm like i saw that rocky was awesome he flips his legs up he's like he's so cute and then he we were like i said maybe he okay sorry i'm trying to remember this so at the five o 'clock wake up two nights ago i said you just don't seem comfy so i took him with me and i put him on my chest and he like passed out but i noticed the position he really wanted to be on was laying on my chest and he loves to nap face down.

23:26Tate:In the snoo, you're strapped face up. So I was thinking maybe now that he can roll, he's just not comfy in this snoo. But the way to transition out of the snoo is not just one day. You have to go from strapping their arms down to putting their arms out. So last night he had his arms out and he did great with it. So we could probably do a couple more nights of arms out and then, I don't know, maybe Rocket Man's going to his crib sooner than Tate did. Tate made it six months in the snoo and then did her crib. But Rocky's appearing to go faster than that. i'm also weaning in in other news in the baby world what we have a question on that oh on what weaning or rocky i'm weaning okay how can we talk through that the the process the decision tree you know what the decision to make it the decision to stop pumping yeah and breastfeeding yeah it became it finally became sort of a burden like i wasn't looking forward to it anymore and i did the math.

24:24Tate:For two years and nine months, I was pregnant. Then immediately after pregnant, I was pumping and breastfeeding. Then to the week that I stopped, I got pregnant again. And now I've been pumping and breastfeeding again. And I think my body would like a break knowing that we would, God willing, like to have a third kid. I'm just like, don't do it back to back again, Alex, because you need that break in there where you're not waking up every day and pumping or breastfeeding or having the letdowns and it's not constantly on your mind. And I think there's a lot to when you stop pumping and breastfeeding, hopefully I'll get a little more energy.

25:02Tate:And I think it's just this added mental load that I'm looking forward to. I'm just saying, you know what, I'm not doing it anymore. And it's just a gut decision. And I've always said that's what I would do. My goal was three months. I made that. With Tate, my goal was six months and I went to a year and that's like how i always do things and i'm just like stop you're phenomenal um you're still you're doing phenomenal i am so emotional this doesn't need to make sense to me but it does make sense to me yeah that's a good way to put it uh the the added observation that i would share is like yeah you you you started pushing it off like you used to be so regimented about your pumping times and you'd be going like three four hours past when you normally do it then you'd turn to me like i was supposed to pump you know four hours ago and that's when i was like oh i think i see what's happening here so the emotional part of it is like i think the reason i was putting it off was because when when i feel like i'm weaning off i feel like i i'm admitting to myself that my kid's grown up, which I hate, like he's not a newborn anymore.

26:17Tate:So that's been really emotional for me. And how does it feel now that you've decided to do it? It feels good because while it's sad and hard on me physically, which I'll talk about how I feel emotionally. Well, it's not hard on me physically. Sorry, it's hard on me emotionally. But I'll talk about that in a second. But I'm glad that I finally made the decision. And, you know, my advice is always, if you're going to stop pumping your breastfeeding, do it on a good day. And I did start doing it on a good day. I did it on a, I was like, I'm happy to be doing it today. And from here, we're going to start dwindling down.

26:57Tate:So today, I didn't even pump this morning. I'm going to see how it goes. I'm going to have to pump once today, but I'm really trending down. And how different does the responsibility of breastfeeding feel with your first baby versus your second baby? So different. Oh, that's such a good question. With Tate, it felt like a ton of bricks on me. And I was happy to be doing it. And it's special and it's sweet. And I think it's good for the babies. And you know what? actually with Tate, it was easier because it was all I was doing. I had one kid in one stage. I had, you know, it's, it's, it's all hands on deck when you have your first baby with Rocky, you know, last night I'm at dance class and then I'm up all night with Rocky.

27:52Tate:Like it's, we're very, we're, we're, um, between two balance beams. Right. And so it's like my, it's not all just this newborn bubble where you're breastfeeding and the environment like really is designed for that. Right now, it's like we got chaos going on. We're going to dance and we're going to do this. We're doing that. And like the pumping's not conducive to that. I love our stage of life right now. And one thing that was weighing me down was the pumping. And so I was just like, you know what? We're just going to stop this and we're just going to go. And I'm excited about that. I thought I was going to cry talking about it today.

28:25Tate:I'm not. I'm very happy to be talking about it out loud and working through this because ultimately, yeah it's gonna be it's gonna be a good thing and rocky got he got all his breast milky you've done a phenomenal job how it feels on me emotionally though this weaning off is harder than it was for tate so the way i do it is i drop a pump a week so i've been doing this for the past two weeks and this is the third week and i'm pumping twice a day now for around eight to ten minutes i just moved eight to ten minutes in new york because the best thing that happened was i I was away from Rocky for three days and your baby triggers your supply.

29:06Tate:They trigger letdowns. So being away from him, I was like, okay, I really need to like lessen the amount of time that I'm pumping. So I did, I did my work while we were gone, but now I'm only pumping morning and night this morning though. I didn't even do it. Like I was running out of time and I was like, let's just see how it feels. And I would say it feels fine. Actually. I, I, I think you've done a phenomenal job with it. And I, and I, I, I really believe in you and I believe in you following your life. your instinct and so if your instincts are telling you the time is now. I have to do it at some point in this, the point is now.