Pregnancy Q&A: How we knew we were ready, wedding timeline & 2 under 2

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0:32that's the sound of zero sugar 200 milligrams of caffeine and the power to burn body fat storm energy for life storm energy blend helps boost metabolism which in combination with exercise and a healthy diet helps burn fat this product alone does not produce weight loss individual results may vary okay ready welcome back to another episode of two parents and two pods yep now we got little babe do you know what's so funny i think you show more with the second baby faster like your stomach you look amazing you look phenomenal that's nice of you and i know you look phenomenal okay thank you but still stands i think that your stomach shows more faster and i think you look amazing do you think that my stomach is showing more you were like five weeks pregnant asking me i know well this girl dm'd me she was like i knew you were pregnant when I saw the photos from Tate's birthday, and I was like, oh, really?

1:28No. I didn't think so. Not at all. Not at all. There was one I cropped in on, because you kind of could tell, but I think it's cute that you show earlier. It's nice. Last night at ACL. I don't... I was truly just plopped over, and it was nice to have the belly to kind of give me my reasoning. Yeah, but I'm on the Jules. train here. I think it's been, I haven't noticed it. I think you look amazing. You've noticed no bump. And you look amazing with the bump as well. That's what I'm saying. I like the bump. You look amazing with the bump, without the bump. You're not letting me have my dialogue here.

2:07I think that you show more. I have learned, not through the internet, but through life, this is just a no comment zone for the guy. Okay, let me talk to myself for a second. Ladies, if you have had two, three, four kids, I want, could you let me know if with each baby do you pop sooner because to me my observation just my observation a single observation on this podcast is that i think that i'm popping more sooner and my observation just don't respond you are the most beautiful woman in the world no no it's two parents sure is sure is um all right so today's the q a episode yes i do want to know if my volume's off My ears still haven't fully unpopped from my flights.

2:55You didn't tell them you went out of town. So I didn't post that Harrison went out of town because, well, I never post it when you do. And if I do post that you do, it's always on the wrong day, just so everyone knows. But he went to L.A. for two nights. But I feel like this is Thursday episode content. Oh, it is. So we can talk about it later. I had a bunch of things I wanted to talk about about my trip. And I'm like, you know what? We're going to save him. Bubba was so excited. Harrison got to wake her up from her nap yesterday. Da-da, da-da. But you could see her. She would get up, and she was getting up, and she didn't notice.

3:27And then she noticed it was me. Yeah. And she... Every time the door opened while you were gone, because when you open our door, we have this, we always call it Fort Knox alarm system. So it says front door. She would go, da-da. She thought you were home, and then it was never you, and then it was you. So that was exciting for her. But yeah, Harrison was gone, and he... his you're like a little sick mixed with like your ears haven't unpopped so he can't hear himself so at acl yesterday he was like do you want a burger and i was like what it's a disaster but we had a good night's sleep and so we've got a bunch of questions that you guys submitted we're gonna go through them and i just think that we're gonna go through them one by one i sort of put them in an order but mainly i mean the other i would say they're in an order but my favorite one is does Tate understand I'm pregnant, but that one's towards the end.

4:17Um, okay. So let's just get into it. Some of these are repetitive from last week from the Thursday episode, but was it planned? Yes. Um, it was planned. I had two cycles as we call it on the pod. And then we got pregnant on the third. Somebody asked me, did it take you longer to get pregnant this time than last time? And the answer to that is yes, it did. Right. Cause last time it was one cycle. This time it was two, got pregnant before the third. I feel very fortunate. Very, very, like you guys, we feel very blessed. But yes, it was planned. How did you know you were ready for a second baby? I love this question.

5:00We had a lot of this one. How did you know you were ready? So Harrison was ready month one. He was like, I want five kids tomorrow. And I was like, I can't even think about having another baby. and then I remember month four rolled around and I started to feel better month four I always say my postpartum journey was my turning point and then June I felt like myself so how how long was June postpartum nine months nine months give or take we're directional with our with our months yeah so give or take yeah September 17th to June into May beginning of June because I remember we went to Charleston or Kiowa, I really felt like myself.

5:46Um, so that's when I was like fully ready to be like, okay, I, I could definitely do it again. And it's so funny because the moment you feel good, right? You don't like enjoy the good for a year. I just said, no, I'm ready. I could do it again. And so the way I'm going to answer it is, it was a gut feeling. And my body people told me your body will tell you when you're ready for another one. For some people that's six years for me. I know I want to have, you know, three, four kids and I know that I want to have them close together and I kind of want to get the pregnant season over with. And my body was just like, I'm ready to do it again.

6:22I think the other factor is a lot of people around me are, are pregnant or having second kids and they're having them close together. And I, I do think that's a factor yeah i i remember when we were in kiowa and we were driving and uh you just turned to me and you said like hey you know i i'm ready to start trying again and um it you know it's it's such a um harrison was like yes yeah that was my immediate reaction was like oh my god i've been waiting for this conversation for um nine months nine months directionally yeah nine months directionally thank you jules brain is we'll get the brain firing on all cylinders but it is such a unique thing because like then you know it's out of our hands and it's like how you know you there's that that that mismatch between starting to try and and when it actually happens that's going to say starting to try is is one mentality right and you don't know when it's going to happen and I always say it's God willing truly um and I'm really really thankful that it happened when it happened and I just like you know I feel really blessed but the the big thing for me was like my body saying okay you can try you know and so it was a gut feeling in a body feeling Guys, let's talk about parallel.

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9:16So the next one is when are you due? I'm due in April. I there's one on here that says and I'm just going to tack this onto the end of this like second baby birth plan. So I was induced with Tate. My doctor said you can get induced anytime after 39 weeks. And I went in at 39 weeks in one day and I got induced. And listen, my birth, they say if you do that, you know, your birth is going to be a lot longer. And my birth was longer, but that was the right decision for me. Listen, my epidural didn't work. I fainted. I pushed for six hours. It was a tough birth. But I'm going to get induced again in the 39-week range because that's just my vibe, and that's some people's vibe, and that's just mine.

10:05I don't know if we brought this up yet. Okay. But we are in the range of my parents' anniversary. They're the same, aren't they? that's the day kudos for you for knowing i'm good with dates and names you are so good with names i didn't know you were good with dates i saw somebody the other day say or it was a meme and it's a fire hydrant um leaking and then below it is a basket but there's holes in the basket and it's like me when somebody tells me a name yes and i thought that's not me that is 99 of the world remembering names is like topic for another time i cannot believe how hard it is to do do you know the trick when somebody meets you doesn't work say it three times doesn't work I spell it hey I'm Harrison and I'll spell Harry really quick your ability to remember names kids names parents names after one interaction it's a it's a really really great skill don't ask me how to do taxes like you know what I mean we all have our strengths and weaknesses that's your area but I got your name I'll know the accountant's name Oh, so I guess where this gets me Yeah, what was the point with the anniversary?

11:18Yes, so Is it better To have a birth date Overlap on another meaningful date Or have it be a standalone day? Well Listen, I always say my dad and I have the same birthday And I think that's really fun An anniversary is a bit of like a different like it's I think same birthdays are really fun so you like love it I have a take yes Jules with the induction since you're scheduling it I think it's weird to schedule it on the anniversary but if it's happenstance then it's a nice fortuitous moment scheduling it on the anniversary that's weird Jules could not have nailed that more what about scheduling it if it was another on another birthday no weird No, that's weird.

12:10I agree. It's weird to schedule it. Okay, because I do love... I'm so with you. But I do love having the overlapping dates. I would love to have the same birthday as a kid, like what you have with your dad. But it is a little bit weird if it is scheduled. I do agree. So you just trust the process. That's when you got to trust. Okay, so here's the silver lining. I am not pregnant in the March window of your birthday. Because he would like that. No, but I would have to talk... Then I would have to leave it up to chance and just naturally go into labor, and I wouldn't like that as much. I like to have an end day.

12:44We would also deal with. I'm an end day girl. My family has, we have four birthdays in March, and then I have three friends' birthdays in March. Well, the friends' birthdays, they have their work. And my birthday. Those are five. And Jules' birthday. You were grouped in that four friends. Oh, thank you. Amazing. Thank you. You see what I just did there? Yeah, you made it from three to four. Yeah. You know, it's not as good if you have to call it out. like you like the real cool thing the cool thing to do there is just everyone if people caught it great if not great you know just let it let it ride yeah okay we're looking at each other okay so do in april um will you find out gender yes we have the results we have not opened the results we'll probably open them next week and then let you know the week after, I would think, would be a rough timeline on that.

13:37As long as you don't hold, we don't have to hold to that rough timeline. I think one thing that Alex does is she'll say something on the pod, like a timeline of what we're going to do and then stick to it. I think I want to clarify, we should have the ability to change our rights, to change the timeline of how it's all done. Well, yes, correct. But I do like to keep my promises. It's like last week I said on Thursday I've been ordering a lot of clothes and I'm going to do a reveal. And then I did the reveal because I thought I should keep that promise. Now, we will reveal the gender. I can tell you that.

14:11Will it be in two weeks? I don't know. Thank you. That's all I'm looking for. But I can tell you that we will tell you. That's all I'm looking for. Maybe it'll be three weeks. Maybe it'll be a week and a half. People really want to know though. I know. I want to know. Do you guys want to know? We don't want to know. Yeah. Yeah. here's the thing so did people think that because we put her in pink in the no photos oh oh no they didn't think that i'm going off by people i'm going by me that didn't clock to me okay all all um bubber wears is pink so not not an anomaly there but the other thing that i'll say is i have a lot of dms that say it's definitely a girl because i'm so sick and i'll say this my cousins my mom my aunts on my mom's side pregnancy is rough no matter the gender is what i've is what i've deducted from talking to them okay like my cousin i was like okay how are you and she's a girl and a boy i was like how are you she's i was just sick with both so i don't know that that necessarily means it's a girl um my cravings are a little different i don't know i don't know i don't really buy into the wise tales i think they're fun i love i love like you know i think they're very fun i think they're really fun i love seeing like are you sick is it salty sweet cravings the chinese calendar like i love all that stuff um the obvious next question like tacked on to this one is are you hoping for a girl or a boy i am truly not hoping for either one like we know the girl vibe I was holding Bubba today and I was just like wow like I love having my baby girl but we don't have a boy so we don't know what that feels like and I would love love love love to know what that feels like as well so yes one thing I would like to do though on this topic is and I the way we told people we were pregnant this time was a lot more like I would say transactional in nature.

16:16This time? Yeah. Like I feel like this time like we told people, we told people really, really early. I sent some of my friends just the pregnant emoji. I felt so sick. I was like here. Then I finally took a photo of the thing. The photos. And so I think what I would like to do is for the gender, tell people in a more creative way. Oh, okay. Yeah. And do you want to spitball some of those ideas? I think, well, I don't want to ruin it, but I have an idea that I guess we'll have to bleep out. But what I would like to do is...

16:50I love that. Okay. So they have an... of their own. Exactly. That's cute. But I think... A reveal of their own. Thank you. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, I love that. Yeah, I'm good with that. Because like this time, I think what's interesting to note, and I actually don't think this was a question on there, but it was like differences between last time and this time and last time it felt like we didn't tell people for a really really long time yeah and this people this time we told people so early on because you were so sick it was like rather than you know everyone's where's Alex why isn't Alex going to this just kind of being on the offensive like hey you know she's in the very early stages is a pregnancy and she's not feeling great.

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18:57And make sure to share our code so our show can get credit. Remember, put your little ones first with healthy meals from Nurture Life. Totally. And we told our people that we felt okay telling that too. But I think back to the gender thing. Yeah, it would be cute to tell them in a fun way. I'm very – I think I'm more excited to find out the gender this time than last time. Because I understand what all it entails. Oh, I'm the polar opposite. You don't care at all. Yeah. Really? Yeah. Oh, I care so much. I'm like, are we two girl? Are we a girl family? Like, are you just a girl dad? Or are we a girl and a boy dad?

19:40And mom. Like, that's what I need to know. I'm like, we got that pink wallpaper. We got pink striped couches. We got floral, the playroom. Are we throwing some blue stripes in there? But I definitely want to know. Blue drapes? We have an opportunity in the drape department. Our drapes in her sleeping room are not nice. Are they sharing a room? Do we do a boy nursery or a girl nursery? Because one thing I have in me is a second nursery. That would be fun. That would be really fun to decorate. Paint another painting. So. Oh, I'm excited. Love it. Love the energy. So I'm totally with you, though, that I do want to know.

20:20I just am completely indifferent on what it is. Same. For baby three, though, assuming we're blessed with baby three, I would be very open to finding out at birth. I kind of am, too. Now, especially if this one's a boy and we have a girl and a boy, I'm almost going to say now we're for sure going to do it. Okay, so that's it. If it's girl, girl, then I'm going to want to know 100%. But if this goes girl, boy. Split decision. You got it. Yeah, then finding out at birth is such a good move. Love it. Okay. Okay, deal. are we going to use that as one of the things where we set it so we need to now do it I think that's a good one to say and do we'll circle back in a couple years yeah we'll just clip that and then we'll save it and then we'll commit to it oh that'll be tough but I love it my legs are crossed so I can come back on it if I want oh my goodness but I have a double cross so there I ended it do you go by that well no because then it's a triple cross but then I did this one but then I go back we can't be superstitious wedding before or after baby so thought you'd never ask I'm going to say what I think very important to have a consensus decision on this and I haven't actually told you this but I've been getting really excited about wedding planning I got some ideas love it some some more grand than others love it but i do a lot of like daydreaming about this because i got a lot of time right now in bed yeah so i start to do some digging and some things like that i so i would love to get married well let me tell you what's not happening is like i'm not getting married i'm not wearing tight leggings from now on you know it's a lot of like we're just bagging it out.

22:16So I'm not like putting on a wedding dress because I read and I liked this. And what did I read it in? Maybe something. I don't remember what it was, but they said, it said, when you have kids together, that's when you're married. And I really felt, I was like, oh, I totally identify with that. Right. I love that we're engaged. I love that we're going to do the formality of it, but I don't need it. Right. I feel like totally complete with our family and our relationship however i do love like i loved doing bubber's birthday so i would love to do a wedding probably in or around a year from now because we'll have her in april then we'll do like the postpartum phase start to feel good again mentally and physically and i'd love to do it then yeah um but now will we go to the courthouse between now and then and get married we could is that is that an accurate answer yeah i don't know it was new information in that Well, basically, no.

23:09That you're daydreaming. I guess there's new information that you're daydreaming about wedding. No, I've never said that I want to get married after the baby. 100 % you have, and you said it on the podcast. Okay, well, great. Well, I said it twice then. Jules? I don't remember. No, I think that it would be wild to do any form of wedding or celebration or party when you're not feeling great. I agree. I think that if you were having a, you know, like if you were feeling great throughout this pregnancy, then maybe that could be on the cards. But and it's the same way, like to schedule it in those early months, given the last postpartum that you felt also just like doesn't feel fair.

23:50Totally. I want to have fun at our wedding and like really enjoy it. Yeah, it's and but now does something like there's the transactional actual like thing happened before that where you sign the papers like feels like that happened September 17th of last year. Oh, I agree. Bubber's birthday. But yeah, I don't know. I don't I don't think we'll go to the courthouse, but maybe we will, you know, never say never. But that's just my gut feeling right now. wait yours just did a good unpop that's so nice um okay how many kids do you want age gaps was this the age gap you wanted this time i think we want four but it's it's easier no it's easier to say that not pregnant what i have to remember is that this is a season this is a phase of life and it's a short period like nine months is a short period in comparison to the whole life that these kids will have so i would love to have four but it is tough to say i will sign up for this two more times after this one time but it's such a blessing to have these kids we've always wanted four so you know i would love to try for four yeah i totally agree that five is the number

25:15if there's a set of twins in there maybe yeah so twins i mean if if we could if we can have twins that would be unbelievable because i think if we have twins next then i think we call it we call it so then one more pregnancy exactly and and you know what watching how hard it is on you though like if you say hey it's two and we're done I'm totally on board and supportive I would I will want to try for a third I do want to break that's kind of the common theme when I talk to these moms around me like you know I think a lot of us are like okay two break and then we can go again but yeah this is what I'm excited to answer is it harder to go from zero to one or one to two I think the answer is going to be one to two because zero to one was like real fun for us no you don't think so I think it's different yeah okay why explain different like now zero to one is like you need to completely you do need to completely restructure your life okay where you go from zero responsibility to responsibility 24-7 but one person can have a break like this morning you took Bubber so I was able to walk yes with two there's no break because you got one i've got one

26:47but we don't know until we have that baby that i need to call it

26:54you know that's what i'm saying i'm excited to answer yeah like obviously it's going to be a lot more work it's going to be a lot of added work as we say to bubber uh but like we've already we've readjusted our life like we're not living in manhattan we're living in a home in austin we have like our community our like child care strollers are you know less unknowns we know we're gonna use the snoo we're gonna try at least you know we know the bottle i know what the pumping in the middle of the night feels like but when we wake up after that pumping in the middle of the night there's two not one I don't know I don't know we don't know yet we can guess what it'll be is anyone feeling like this year's flying by way too fast and you're always asking yourself where did the time go anxiety is real and it can leave you feeling scattered and behind calm app gives you permission to slow down even when everything else is speeding up guys the calm app is the best they have meditation they have sleep stories they have breathing exercises I've absolutely loved the breathing exercises while I'm pregnant.

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30:04And the comment section overwhelmingly said either zero to one or one to two, but from there, two to three, three to four, it doesn't matter. What I've read as well is when you go from two to three, the eldest can start helping, right? Yeah, which is great. And I think that's a very successful parenting technique that a lot of families use is looping that eldest into helping the family. Totally. Okay, so age gaps. Love this age gap. Was this the age gap we wanted? I wanted loosely to have two under two. Loosely. You can't get so sweet. You don't get to pick. Right. But I knew I wanted them to not be three, four years apart because I didn't want to do the pregnancy that far apart.

30:55Like I'm more of the school thought of like if I have to run a marathon, I'd like to get it over with if I know it's coming. So, yeah, in this age gap in and around it. But again, you really don't get to pick. And we're blessed that this is the age gap we've landed on. But, yeah, loosely this was the age gap we wanted. age gaps for the future I don't know it's gonna be again when my body says okay you could start to try I think that that's gonna be the most important thing is that like into kid three you're making that decision because we know after kid baby two um I'll be right at the front of the line ready to go again and maybe we maybe you know we won't be able to have three but it's critical that you're making that decision once you're back to feeling like yourself totally agree totally agree i i do love to think about being intentional about all of this think about your thanksgiving table and but you know we're lucky we're lucky to have bubber so we'll see how it all importantly we are very lucky to have to have bubber so we will we will see how it all shakes out she's so nice but this is just what we would like but you don't get to design your life yes so we will see um any names picked out so i've realized i have more girl names picked out than boy names but yes I now do somebody said somebody said do you want all of their names to start with a T and I was like what did I say the other morning when I woke up and this was my 3 a.m.

32:28thoughts like I was trying to pick out T names for girls and boys like I was like well what if I want to do all T's and then I was like well I probably don't want to do all T's I want to do all different letters so yeah this is like the stuff that keeps moms awake in the middle of the The big development on last filming versus this filming is someone sent you a name. I loved it. That we really like. I loved it. And we really like it for both genders. And yeah, it was a family member. They texted me and it's their nickname. And they said, don't forget, Blank is a really good name for a kid. And he sent me that at nine.

33:08Who sent you that? No, he sent me that, but we just said it's a good name for both. It's a gender neutral name. It's a nickname. Can we hear it and just bleep it? No. No. You can't. Look at Jules trying to take advantage of her. Jules is trying to get the name. No, you can't hear it. It was so cute though. And all night long I just was like going through these names. I'm just going to text it to Alex just to really mess with Jules. Just to confirm that we're on the same page. I mean, I know we're on the same page. So we've got some front runner names. This one's entering, but I have to sit on these names for a while.

33:43And what I like to do, like what I did with Tate is, um, Oh, your, your brother-in-law wants to know if his questions are going to be answered on the pod. Is that literally what she just wrote? Yes. What questions did he submit? I'd have to go find them. Um, okay. Thank you. Hammer source Rex. He has no profile photo. That's, that's his name and he doesn't use instagram other than so many questions and it's probably like are you going to name the kid dave if i have to guess what the question is you're having dave's burner account no that's just no it's not a burner account it's his only one account um we will answer your questions dave if we can find them how about that um i forgot what we were talking about names picked out you said what you did with tate oh yeah good job jules What we did with Tate was we picked three names we loved, and then we had to sear and make sure.