Q&A: Investing as a couple, befriending your neighbors & when should kids get their ears pierced?!

23:25Every Tuesday night, no matter what, you and I, we play tennis.

23:27Jules:It's Tuesday. Tuesday. And we can't, we have dance. No, I'm kidding. I - That was me making fun of myself. I understood. Oh, I didn't get it. I think you did too. At a subconscious level, you understood and ignored. And decided to move along. One thing that lives rent-free in my head is Dr. Stephanie that we had on. I think about this probably once every two days, how dementia is oftentimes caused or furthered, maybe moved along quicker if you're deaf. I think about it all the time. I'm also intrigued by that. And my mom's just like on this right now for people to be gathering. That's apparently supposed to be the number one most important thing that you can do to prevent dementia.

24:13Jules:Okay. is to gather with people for dinner at least once a week. Okay, so Nori, is she gathering? She's a gatherer. Okay. She's trying to gather at one house? She's trying to get a couple others to gather. Where does she gather? I really understand that. I really understand that. Intuitively, it makes so much sense. Yeah. Everything from whether you're hosting or getting up and getting out of the house and having conversation around current events and what you did that day and so on and so forth. It really makes sense to me. It's like gathering, hearing, reading. I don't know. Human interaction.

24:47Jules:Okay, I'm going to send this list out to the people that I know. Yeah. Okay, but where does she gather? She'll go on walks with my aunt's niece once a week. But where does she gather for dinner? Does she have people over to your house? No. She goes out? Yeah. She would go to a restaurant. A restaurant. A restaurant gatherer. Yeah. Okay, great. So gather, people. Walks. Walks and restaurants. There you go. Nori Minich. she's gonna lead from the front on that one she's she's trying she's really trying to lead is no i'm in it's ever gonna be a guest on the pod oh my god no i hope no but she texted me the other day and she said google my name and see what comes up like my mom did you google it yeah it's just like you go to the photos and it's just like two parents in a podcast it's like her pictures because she does research and publishes research and her um like her picture and name will be associated to the papers.

25:43Jules:So it's just like all like this normal professional stuff and then just like 13 ,000 dads arrested or whatever, denied access to the World Cup. Yes, because they didn't pay child support. Just like under her name. That's so funny. So she does research. She does the data and some stats for it. But like, yeah, she manages the data. she's an author on the papers because she helps with the data i don't know okay she's been doing the same thing since i was born so wow does she like her job she loves it okay shorts at a at a university which i think people who work at universities love working at universities i did not know that about universities did you okay good for nori all right so do we have anything else on the u.s open any bets on who we're gonna see ben stiller's been everywhere he's been at all the things he was at uh him at jordan woods and carl anthony towns's wedding was the best thing i'd ever seen that's really funny it was so funny because he obviously didn't miss a game in the playoffs the finals and then like for him to be at the wedding and he's just like taking but like it's just it's the best thing ever have you seen the uh the cpg product you launched no no interesting what is it because i think it's really good but i'm just not seeing it as much as i'd expect to see it what is it it's called stillers soda okay i'm in on that and look if you pull up the branding the branding's really cool okay and it like fits in that whole guys are better for you soda that tastes good and um and has awesome ingredients well but like it's branded like super old school and i love the name and the time with him but yeah for whatever reason i'm just not really seeing it or hearing about it and i think this is a great example like i feel like he keeps coming up on the pod you you're following him but we're not really seeing it well i'm actually not following him at all.

27:49Jules:He's popping up in other places. He needs to get the Stiller's soda in people's hands. What are we looking at, Jules? He's got root beer, Shirley Temples, and lemon lime. That's cool branding. He's not going to know how to do this. He's not online. So someone needs to tell Ben. I'm sure they'll figure it out. Timothy Chalamet would love... I thought this was a good one though. Would love a crossover. I thought this was a good one. He needs to do a Knicks flavor. I'm sure we'll see it in New York. We'll be on the lookout for it. I will be getting it if I see it. Now that seasons are changing and activities are starting, the days have turned into a whirlwind of nanny share, play dates, and now dance and gymnastics for Tate.

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29:42Jules:Okay. What tips do you have for a couple that's looking to start investing together?

29:51Jules:Open up a Robinhood account. I actually have a great suggestion for this. Great. On that guy's not financial advice. Never is. I love Robinhood because great user interface and super easy to set up. They have a lot of different functionality in there, like 401ks, whether or not you like them or don't like them. And one of the functionalities they have is a joint investing account. Oh. Yes. And so if you and your partner both open up a Robinhood account, you just click the joint investing at the top. You can then invite your partner. You link your accounts. And then you can set up auto deposits on there.

30:38Jules:Obsessed with that. Yeah. And then as I've spoken about before, I love ETF investing. That's where I personally have invested a lot of our capital. And then I think that I like to put 80 to 90 % of it in that when it comes to equities and then 10 to 20 % of it in single stocks. And those are single stocks that you're interested in tracking, following. Chances are the returns on those are probably not do as well as the S &P 500. Picking stocks is very hard. So that's more for... When I buy a single stock, what it does is it encourages me to learn more about a situation and then follow that situation.

31:31and so while i may make a little less than if i just bought the etf um i gain more i gain a lot of knowledge if that makes sense yeah go ahead alex well i was just gonna say and then and then

31:44Jules:if you have your joint account on robin hood maybe some nights a week or once a week or whenever you feel like it when you guys sit down at dinner you can open it up and look at it together that's kind of what i was gonna say what do you guys think like what's a way to make it fun like we talked about the football draft like maybe the wife picking the thing and the husband managing it but like what's a way to make this fun like a date night and that's where it gets a little trickier because when you look at the returns on single stocks picking single stocks versus broad etf exposure uh your your returns generally underperform okay so it's a lot more fun to research a stock and pick a stock and then talk about the stock than it is just buy a basket of stocks so that's why because you do both i like yeah having the majority of capital in the etfs and then um picking single stocks to learn conversation so on and so forth so the game i don't know how fun this game is but um you can each buy stock and look at the performance this as it comes out of mouth is not very fun not fun at all but you you look at the stock's performance over the following year and whoever whatever stock does better the other one gets a gift no what we did that was no what we did that was fun was you said like what are a couple things that you love like don't don't think about if it's a public company whatever it is tell me some things you love and i was and i can't remember what i said at the time but oh well i like loved netflix like so then we just he would buy a couple of those i was just gonna say what if you had a movie night and then whichever streamer you ended up on that's why i'm talking yeah i'm saying fun not yet what you just mentioned was not fun h we got to do more like oh you like ice cream okay it's been in jerry's public i don't know yeah but here here's where here's here's where i i struggle with this conversation because just because you love the product doesn't mean it's a great stock to own right and so i get very wary of and once again none of this is financial advice but like if I go love a product buying a stock that isn't something I go and do and that isn't something that I would necessarily suggest other people go and do and so to imply that you know you're going to generate a return from doing that is like it's it's it I that's where I try to line but I also think like for me at least it's just like just doing the first one is what kind of gets your foot in the door so if that one's just going to be a fun one and the idea is not to generate return it's just like the more you expose yourself to the idea of putting money in the market it's so well said jules the hardest stock to buy is your first stock and getting in the game is so important and you don't need money you don't need a lot of money to get in the game hold on let me ask this then yeah if i want to buy netflix yeah netflix give me a share price an option yeah no you tell me one wait sorry how much could a share price be 19 yes but you can buy fractional you don't need to buy a full share as well so i could go to netflix maybe jules is going to give us the price here 81 dollars and seven cents okay 81 so that's a high that that's high right the the share price

35:28is not reflective of the value of the company.

35:32Jules:Okay. We're going to ignore that. That's too much. But anyway, it's$81. So I'm like, I really want to buy Netflix, but I don't want to get into the stock market for$81. I only want to do it for$40. Or$50 is my max. I can buy a fraction of Netflix. Yes. So you can go into Robinhood and you can go to buy how many shares do you want? You can put in 0.5 shares. Great. And you can buy it. yeah but awesome okay then there you go boom because i think some people think the stock market is going to make a thousand dollars to get in and it's not no no it's not it's you can get in 10 bucks and buy stock buy an etf and get in the game and um it it is fun it it is fun to buy shares in a company and then and then track how it does even as when it comes out of your mouth it sounds kind of weird and lame it is it is interesting and and then you learn things along the way like Like Robinhood sends you a lot of notifications.

36:25And so you'll see, okay, like my stock is up 10 % today or it's down 10 % today. It's like, why? And they're like, oh, they released earnings. And for some people, everyone knows what releasing earnings means. But other people, they don't really know what that process looks like. And four times a year, a company will go and they'll report how they did financially to the market and the market will react off of that.

36:47Jules:Okay. So you just learn, pick up a lot along the way. I like it. Yeah. All right. it's going to be just a very different question than that one why doesn't tate have her ears pierced okay well the question for you well i think that the question then becomes when should a kid get their ear pierced a lot sometimes babies get their ear pierced really young and like do they look adorable yes but i didn't want to do that to her and then we looked up the aap and they recommend waiting until a child reaches an age where they can understand and manage the after care independently, which is usually around eight to reduce infection risks.

37:22Jules:I don't, I don't know. Listen, watching Tate get a vaccine was hard enough on me and that's where they put the needle in. So doing and doing that to her ears, I just, I know she would cry. I think it would look adorable. It's just, I didn't want to do it. I actually have a view on this and I didn't think I was going to have a view. i think that this is one of those things that i don't see why you would do it before they ask you to do it fair i so i like the aap's suggestion of eight that intuitively makes a lot of sense especially because that also feels like the age where they know whether they want them pierced or whether they don't want them pierced i remember going to get my ear pierced for the first time i remember how it felt i remember the gun and i remember being so excited to pick out my earrings and it was a really fun thing where did you go claire's how old were you we had claire's eight we had claire's big moment big moment big moment canada in the game you know who also had their ear pierced you yeah we gotta find a photo we gotta find a photo when the eighth grade i think I think I was probably 11th grade.

38:39Oh, my God.

38:40Jules:11th grade is a hilarious age. That's a very intentional age. Here's a new H-bomb segment. It can be my previous fashion trends. Yeah. I've had some bad ones. Well, I actually, I love that you. Yeah. And the reason why I think 11th grade is because I think I had to take it out in the summer for like a job or something. Or sports. no I think I taped it during sports oh you can tape it I am loving that you got your ears pierced and do you want to know what I'd like to present to the class now what a fabulous fantasy football punishment that is that's a really really good one because you can take it out and it can grow back you can wear an earring for a week and then take it out it's a really good one I'm going to propose it to the league it is pretty good I'd like to see that because it's cheap, it's easy you wear it for one week, take it out and your ear will close up I think it's a much better fantasy football punishment, especially for our specific league, where right now we wear the T-shirts at the trade show because everyone's in the same industry.

39:44If you also need to show up to the trade show with your ears pierced.

39:48Jules:If like a guy that I just like, a father that I interact with often just rolled up with his ears pierced one day, I would just be like, I love it. But wow. Wow. I think that it's worth proposing to your High Rocks group finance and ear in an ear pierced the loser has to get their ear pierced okay and what if it just like starts a whole new life for harrison what if he has to get it i i changes his vibe of all the things i'm into like if i were to shave my head i could see myself getting into that tattoo like what i love about this new short hair thing i'm doing is and i'm not sure how obvious it is but There's zero maintenance going on with this.

40:31There's no product in there. And so I can just shower, get out and roll. What were you saying?

40:36Jules:Someone commented on Monday's episode and they said, Harrison looks so young in this episode. He has been looking young, Jules. I've been telling him this. It's this hell kick he's on. Thank you. You look good and young. And I said, this is the episode that I made the old joke in for the first time. True, Jules. Yeah, you've got a pep in your step. so an earring would just fit right in i love i'm all for a guy having it like if you want to get like an ear piercing like one tattoo i'd be so down but the problem is so harrison has a spectrum of his style you have what i call dad mode or maybe this mode which is like this does not lend itself to you having an earring and a tattoo but when you put on your painter's pants and your backwards hat and your graphic tee like that guy could very much so i'm at a crossroads in my style i can i know you are i know i'm watching it happen yeah we're we're there's a part of me that's liking you know kind of this dual mix of the workout clothes which i just love and and it's too functional to not to the like what i wore on on monday's episode some nice what do you call those shorts that I wore what did you wear over this black high rock shorts no no no that's my old style like a chino short like a chino short oh that's what he wore with a collared short shirt yeah you let the neighbor across the streets impacting you yeah it looks good but why why can't we go get you some of this workout shorts that are a little shorter and some graphic tees to run around during the day in.

42:15Jules:And we could get rid of these high rocks, neon blue and purple and green shoes. What about that? You know what I got? I got you some Nikes. I got good news for you. What? Nike is about to release a high rock shoe. Oh, thank goodness. And you don't think for a minute I will not be migrating to that. I know you will be getting them. Yeah. And the best part about Harrison, two colors. I really like these though. I haven't worn Puma shoes in maybe ever. Puma. Puma. Like, where is your dialect from? Puma. Why would it be Puma? These will get a rebuy. Actually, these are the third pair. Say Puma. Puma.

43:00Jules:Why would it be Puma? Puma. Puma. People do keep asking about the Tuesday thing and I Googled it and it says it's not Canadian. It's not. Monday, Tuesday. Like, it's not Canadian because none of his other friends say it. Tuesday. Tuesday. Everyone else on the planet says Tuesday. Okay. Besides the people in the UK. And what do they say? They do say Tuesday. You know, having the nanny share at our house a few days a week is honestly my favorite thing ever. But it also means our living room floor has basically become a toddler hazard zone. Last week, I looked over and I saw the girls happily eating snacks on the rug.

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44:16Jules:And the best thing, they look like high-end designer rugs, so you're not sacrificing on the look. Machine washable rugs made better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10 % off plus free shipping at tumbleliving.com slash to parents. That's T-U-M-B-L-E living.com forward slash to parents. After you purchase, they will ask where you heard about them. Please support our show and tell them that we sent you. How do you guys have so many good relationships with your neighbors? Nobody talks in our neighborhood. Do you want to go? Yes. Okay. We live and it's the front porch culture. We live in a city neighborhood where everyone's out on their front porch because we don't have large backyards.

44:58It's pure luck. Oh. This is pure luck.

45:01Jules:And the porches. Yes, but there's nothing that we did to facilitate this. besides be on our porch but you guys didn't talk to your neighbor so much before tate was born well jules there was a very big shift too when we bought the house yes renters on our street they're not they're not invested too much in getting to become your best friend which i get because if you're gonna move why put your effort there when we bought the house everyone was like we're gonna be here for a long time listen like when our car got hit you know like you that those are your people yeah i i think i think it's crime i think it's a multitude of factors i think that that one as alex said there's a there's a front porch culture two the lot sizes are small so the homes are are really close together and there's there's really not a lot of privacy which i love And so you're not just like, you can't just bear really barricade up in your yard or, um, that's two and three.

46:05I think that people live in our neighborhood because it's very walkable. And so people are often walking to and from places rather than just getting in their cars and driving places. So like this morning, you know, we saw two different people on the street because they were out walking the dogs.

46:24Jules:also our neighborhood is fun I learned that at the Memorial Day party we have a fun group of moms and dads I firmly can't say we did something we also got lucky other than we got lucky in moving to a street that had these people and these dynamics yeah I agree with that people don't have garage we don't have back alleys on the street so people don't have garages in the back in the back so to the point like when people go and get in their car you're seeing them get in their car you're just seeing your neighbors all the time yeah um versus where i grew up and probably where you guys grew up too no my neighborhood is more like your guys's okay where i grew up it was very bigger bigger lots you know garages you drove you would drive back and then once you drove in your garage you could just go in your house you would never see anybody And I think that comes with like living in the neighborhoods that are just right on the outskirts of downtown versus living out any further in the suburbs.

47:31Jules:Totally. The other thing, though, is like. I do think there's a level of like, OK, the girl lives diagonal from us who Tate's just obsessed with and she's been bringing Tate the popsicles like her birthday is September 14th. I ordered her a monogram bag because Tate calls her Kiki. her name is not Kiki but she calls her Kiki so I ordered her a monogram bag that says Kiki and like Tate's gonna paint her something and like we're gonna give her her birthday gift and like that's just gonna deepen our relationship with them just because like it's just fun to do that with people on your street yeah but you can't do like I couldn't have done that on my street growing up me either and I loved where I grew up but like I loved where I grew up once again I couldn't tell you the names of the people that lived oh i still can't i can tell you my neighbors on both sides we really like i really could not we didn't have one block party my entire time growing up we didn't have block parties but we had a bunch of kids that were the same age oh i'm you know i'm you know i'm gonna make a slight amendment to what i said we had done one thing and we threw a block parties and i do think those block parties are very very good for community building yeah and everyone comes we did the crawfish boil and we did the uh memorial day here's the other thing i need i don't know how this hasn't happened yet they did it with sororities right how lucky charm sponsored a house at arkansas i need a sponsor for how our house for halloween it needs to be a candy it's a good call out i need somebody like it's a great call we will go all out we always do we'll have a million kids i'll put it all over social i have an idea candy sponsor i have an idea who are we gonna beep it sure we should turn our house um into like uh i think we should do something and make it like a like a haunt because on our front porch we could do something really cool and you could give out like i'm gonna get i'm gonna i'm gonna listen i'm loving that you're into this and you have ideas um of all the candy in the sea that one wasn't i'm big that wasn't where i was i wasn't even remotely where i was going we've been in the comments with reese's like i'm thinking that skittles reese's reese's okay well we're calling me out For Tuesday, Reese's.

50:04It is technically Reese's.

50:07Jules:Socially, I think it's Reese's. Crayon. Crown Royal. I'm working on it. Crayon. Crayon. I can't even say it anymore. Crayon. Crayon. Okay. Lawyer. I've perfected lawyer to lawyer for you guys. Where are we at next? So anybody that wants to do that, I'm here for it. All right. Next question. You ready? Yes. This is a two-parter. Okay. How do you prioritize your marriage? That's part one. And being a person, being your own person, outside of being a parent. Okay. I'm happy to start. Okay. Which one are you tackling first? In terms of prioritizing the marriage, you've got to be super intentional about it.

50:49Jules:Okay. And if you wait for things to happen for your relationship, they're not going to happen. So you make them happen. You have to make them happen. Okay. Give us some examples of what that looks like for you. You have to go out and you have to be intentional about carving out and planning date night. Or coffee. Coffee, getting your alone time. Because just like if you don't, it doesn't happen. And then you wake up and it's been six weeks and you haven't had a date. Eight weeks, you haven't had a date. So it's very much something that you got to keep top of mind. Okay. Especially in the newborn phase.

51:27Jules:I'm going to take it a step further. So on Sunday night, I was like, I just want to light my candle and I just want to read my book. And Harrison was like, well, I want to hang out with you. So we're going to do that together. What I wish we would have done taking it a step further is done like, because if we're just going to stay in the house and we're just like in our pajamas, put both of your phones up and then have your time together. Like, don't just sit there and scroll. Don't just sit there and watch TV or like scroll on your phone because you're not really bonding. But like, great. Why don't we go downstairs and make cookies together?

51:57Jules:or why, you know, and like leave your phone and like hang out together. Cause you can do that when the kids go to bed, that would be like the least example of it, which I feel like we do maybe once a week. And then the other thing is you're right. Like this trip's a good example of it. I want to bring the kids. I'm so sad we're not, but we're going, we're going to the U S open with my manager. And like, it is a bit of a work thing and we'll go and like, we need to have fun while we're there. And we need to hang out with each other and do stuff together and date. We then as far as being a parent or i mean being a person outside of being a parent i think an example for you is like why don't you say for you and then i can say for me why don't i say for you and you say for me i'm just kidding i i think like having just doing girls girl things like that's how i do it well actually a couple different things number one working is good for me doing that number two i love this philanthropy the jeremiah program i do stuff with like that's really, that fills my cup for service.

52:56Jules:Um, and number three, when I hang out with my girlfriends, whether they're moms or not just talking about things other than motherhood, um, really makes me still feel like I'm a person and I enjoy that. So like I went to coffee on Monday, some were moms, some weren't, and we just like sat there and we chatted about everything from kids to work to you name it. And we, we chat about it. And so I just think in general, having the kinds of conversations that aren't just kids 24 7 is really good for your brain your turn i don't think i'm going to say anything that's rocket science here but for me it's it's getting stuff that i find interesting on the schedule and doing it at times that don't um that work for you and the kids and so whether that's what were you gonna say jewels nothing golf um yeah working out this high rocks race is kind of a a great example of it part of like a business um group here plan things uh yeah simply plan things one thing that harrison and i also have a lot of interest and i plan things around those interests but i think the most important thing here because if you're listening to this and you're a parent, you're probably saying, okay, if I'm going to go to girls night, that means my husband's watching the kids or kid.

54:22Jules:So one thing Harrison and I are really good at, and we just did it early on was like, I want him to go do his things. He wants me to go do my things. We don't keep scoring on who does more, but I would say we, we end up being pretty even on this. That's very important. So I'm happy to say, I've got him. I've got him all. I've got him Saturday. You're going, he's running and he's going golfing. Great. I think our ratio of who is looking after the kids when the other one is doing something is very even. I think it's actually 50-50. And I think – I don't want to assume what people do. I think a lot of times it falls more on the woman.

54:58Jules:Whereas one thing Harrison and I know is like for us to be really happy, it needs to be we both get to do our things and we really make that a priority. Yeah. I never feel like I'm looking up and it's like, wow, you had three social events back to back to back nights in a row that I wasn't at. And I was with the kids. And vice versa. And vice versa. I feel really good about our balance on that, which I think kind of naturally happened versus like being intentional about it. A question. And I don't know if it will come out correctly. But I feel like most parents would get a babysitter to have them go and do something together.

55:45Jules:But I also feel like one thing that you guys would do is get a babysitter for you guys to go do something separately. Yes. We have. Does that make sense? That feels different than the normal. Very, very, very good call out because that's also a way that – and we recognize babysitters are expensive. and unfortunately we don't have any family in our city so we need to be more dependent on babysitters but yes like using whatever help you can get whether it is family whether it is babysitters and going and doing separate things is definitely something that I think happens once a week

56:31I think it happens

56:33Jules:every other week I don't I don't think it happens once a week even remotely. Every other week? Once a month. I would say that we go and do separate things and have a babysitter.

56:52Jules:When was the last time we did that?

56:57I'm with Jules here.

56:58Jules:But same. We did it when Tate was like nine and ten months, but we haven't done it in a very long time. i just think that that's like uh it's something we definitely do and i'm all for doing it i love doing it because sometimes on a saturday harrison's like i've got the i've got where i'm golfing with the guys and then like i'll have something come up so we will have like maria or her mom come but like i just i was just shocked by him saying once a week i can't remember the last time we did it okay but i love that i love the sentiment of doing it yeah i just i guess the the larger point is yes we totally do it and i think it's a good idea yes and yeah i stand corrected on timing but i'm sure i'll think of one because just because harrison has something on a saturday night i don't then not do something always right like if i have something come up i'm like okay i can do it yeah yeah and it's in but that's just i think that became more solidified when we narrow down like who we want to watch Tate.

58:00Jules:Like what we're loving is when Tate has somebody watch her, she gets excited about them coming over. But I don't know. Our current obsession is just being with her. Okay. Is Rocky going to join the nanny share and what are the hours? The nanny share hours are nine to five and eventually Rocky will join some version of the nanny share. Yes. We're still figuring that out. He's just learning to roll over. But he's now rolling. and I guess I've been I just been I've been cracking myself rocky roll it's good right rocky roll I try and teach it to tate she's she's not getting it but the rocky roll to me is I'm loving it um how would you have a conversation this is the last one how would you have a conversation about having more kids if your husband is happy with two kids but you would like a third.

58:51Okay.

58:52Jules:I love this question. What I would do if we, if I, if I wanted three and you wanted two, and we currently have two, I would say, what are you worried about? Explain to me your concerns about having the third. And I would try to talk you through those or do what I could to mitigate those. Yeah. It's been very surprising to me how many of our couple friends are on different pages and the amount of kids they want. I have a big one. I've never met somebody that has three or four that says they wishes they had less. I have met people that have had one or two saying, I do wish I went ahead and went for the third or I went for the fourth or I went for the second.

59:35Yeah, that experience is true for me as well. Thanksgiving table.

59:42Jules:But who's going to say that? I'm sorry. What? Who would say that? Who would say what? Who would say, oh, I had three kids, but I only wish I had two? But it's like saying who would say I have two and I wish I had three. People would say that. But like which one of your kids do you lob out of there? Right. Like you can't – I see why no one's ever said that because like that's evil. Well, and there's such joy that I do see how when you have the kid like you do – All right. Let me recut this for you. Okay. Okay. I'm not from our friends with three or four I'm not hearing them complain in a way that reflects that they wish they only had two kids okay yeah and like oh my god going from two to three was so much harder I'm just saying if you did have those regrets like I hear here's what I hear a lot about I hear a lot about how hard zero to one was, which we totally found.

1:00:43Okay. And I feel it's like pretty much all parents find that. We heard all about how hard one to two was, which I feel like that's kind of a mixed bag. I feel like some parents get rocked one to two and some parents like, and they think, and they think it's five X more work. And I think some parents think it's 30 % more work like us. I hear very little about how much harder it is to go from two to three. yeah yeah i i don't know but i do think some some people know they know for sure they want one they know for sure they want to they know for sure they want three but in this scenario where it's

1:01:20Jules:lopsided and one parent wants a different number i would just say okay what are your concerns can we address them i have no idea how you would convince someone though i feel like so much of it is like just your natural gut and instinct but if it's finances that's one thing that maybe i don't know if you could solve it but if it's like you know i want more time to myself or something like okay i'll do it i'll take on more of the load yeah i think that this is a a tough one to for me to give insight on i just i don't really have a view yeah but i just haven't dealt with it best thing i can and then i would say this i love this one you know think about your Thanksgiving table in 25 years.

1:02:04I love that one.

1:02:06Jules:And then who ask them, you know, are you, are we good? We're good with the two or maybe we can do some compromising. So, um, all right. Well, you guys, we love you. Thank you for listening. Have a great weekend and we will talk to you on Monday. Are we doing an episode on Monday? Yeah. Okay. I didn't know of Labor Day. Um, all right. Talk to you Monday. Thanks for listening to another episode of two parents. If you enjoyed the show don't forget to subscribe like comment rate and review stay connected on instagram tiktok youtube and facebook at two parents in a pod welcome to our home sorry it's so messy new episodes every monday wednesday and friday