Q&A: Joint finances update, creating my mom community & 1 kid vs. 2 under 2

0:00Okay. Welcome back. No, not welcome back. Welcome to Two Parents in a podcast. You guys today we're doing the Q &A episode. A little general Q &A. A little question, a little answer. Harrison, talk to us about the golf attire really quickly. Playing in a golf tournament. Very summer of you. I think this is my second and my third round of the year, maybe. So I wanted to practice all week. Did not have time. Planned every night. I'm like, I'm going to go to the driving range. We end up out of town. I end up in another town again the next day. And then we'd swim. You should have told me you wanted to go to the driving range.

0:36I actually think that we could have made that really fun and we could have done it. Like last night. But you know what I was thinking about? So, you know, we have the second episode and we have, or the third episode, and we have the sub stack. And I feel like there's a lot going on. And it's so funny because you get home for the day and then it's like, boom, you're on your parent. Yeah, right into parent duty. And that's perhaps the hardest, most fulfilling job. I think I'm going to come last, just to set the record straight. And golf today? Yeah. Is there any stakes to the tournament? Yeah, there's prizes.

1:06Oh. And I think that there's a team prize, and so I feel terrible, like, that I'm probably going to make my team lose. But. Are you going to get there and disclaim off the top?

1:22Yeah, maybe I'll just have everyone take some shots, and they'll just not even think about it. Some shots of alcohol. Yeah. I thought you meant some, like. Oh, some practice swings. That's what I thought, Eman. Well, no, I do. Luckily, our group is the last tee time, so I have time to go to the driving range and tweak out my swing. But if you recall, the last time I was on this podcast, funny enough, I think wearing this shirt, I lost something like four or five balls in the first two holes. I remember. I remember. So it's not your lucky shirt necessarily. But it is fun that you're golfing, and it's a nice little mix-up of attire.

1:58All right, we're just going to hop into the episode, okay? I'd love to. Okay. I think this is a great question off the top from Jules. one thing the audience doesn't know about you. One thing the audience doesn't know about me that I've never talked about here before? Yeah. Oh, my goodness. And Alex. Okay, why don't you go first because I didn't know this question was coming and nothing comes to mind. Well, I'm trying to think. I guess the audience, like, I never really talk about college and so they wouldn't, I mean, like, I was a communication major and a Native American studies minor. And I really, my old dream job used to be to be a newscaster or a sports anchor.

2:52And then I did an internship at News 9 where I decided I did not want to do that because I didn't, they don't have the freedom to talk about whatever they want. Like sometimes they get a bad story. Sometimes they get a good story. And I found it to be like, um, I love talking for a living. Like I think, I think your words can be so powerful. But if you're talking about a subject that you're like either, either on in a sports casting or newscasting environment, they're telling you exactly what to say. I don't like that. or sometimes when they would go out to the field and I would go out to the field with them, they would say, okay, this is your story.

3:30You have 30 minutes to learn about it and then you report on it. And sometimes they would get such boring, bad stories that I was like very uninspired by it. So I fell out of love with that and it's not ironic to me that I fell into podcasting because it is sort of like adjacent to what I always wanted to do. Leave it up to Alex. Always have a great story. Seriously. Oh, thank you. I thought you were going to make fun of me. No, I don't think you've told that on here before. So I think that was really good. Mine was going to be so bad. Where my brain was like that I was trying to visit every country in the world.

4:03Wanted to visit every single one. Yeah, we knew that. And I had to put that on pause. Yep, Jules is right. Okay. Okay, help me. I would like you to go back to high school. Okay. What do we not know about you there? Or your childhood. Okay. Give us something there. Like we know a lot about your early adulthood life. I feel very up to speed on that I don't feel so up to speed on like I got in a lot of trouble growing up I was always in trouble the classroom was not an area in which I thrived and high school was super it was super fun socially but super tough academically and luckily in Canada the only thing that matters is your 12th grade marks and so grade 8 9 and 10 I was a terrible terrible student and then some schools look to your 11th grade uh McGill did not McGill only looked your first semester of 12th grade wow and so 11th grade I like really started trying to figure out okay how do you get good grades in school and I went from like a C student ish to a B student and then for 12th grade I had the the pieces in play to go from a B student to an AA plus student and so I cranked out my first semester and then got into the school I wanted to go to um were you a good student in college yes and then like my true like I felt like my true success that I could be proud of really started in college okay college was when I woke up and I I was like, oh, wow, I think I can be very successful.

5:53I think I can be, you know, whether it's work in finance, an entrepreneur. I was when I was like, I can do this. So and otherwise, I felt like most of my success was was social. Oh, wow. Interesting. Yeah. And then the other thing that I was thinking about the other day, because I said something on the podcast. what that that you know really does uh blow my mind time and time again is so often just like the things that i was so proud of five or ten years ago and the accomplishments you're so proud of five or ten years ago like as time goes on i just recognizing like the i don't want to say the irrelevance of them, but in many ways, just how they fade in, in their meaning.

6:40And, and, and that just pushed me to, you know, continue trying to raise the bar. Does that make sense? Of course it makes sense. Yeah. It's sort of the equivalent of like your taste buds developing too. When you always say we go home and you don't think the restaurant's as good. It's the same thing as like you're raising the bar constantly. And so you look back and you think that was, I was so proud of that at the time like I could do so much more now but that's how you grow yeah even something as little as like moving to Hong Kong and living in Hong Kong and that whole chapter and adventure like I feel like at the time packed a lot more punch than it does now well the time it was massive but now you see what it's like to have two kids so I think that it's a different type of perspective and marry a professional talker no um all right what fictional character are you most like and why that was alex's question oh you sent it for the regular podcast like a couple weeks ago and we haven't done it what's my girl's name lorelei well lorelei gilmore but she's not fictional or is she is from gilmore girls okay lorelei gilmore i don't it's tough because i've never watched it you need to watch it but i asked chat who i who i was like and they said her she talks like her whole thing and she talks fast.

7:58She does everything fast. She's like kind of a little bit all over the place, but she's like a really hard worker and she has a really close relationship with her daughter. Aww. Very nice. I like that. Thanks, chat. Who do you have for me, Jules? I didn't chat. So you got to ask your chat. Okay. Yeah, chat will tell you. Oh, wow. So you say, the prompt is who, what fictional character am I most like? Just tell me the name. don't have them give you an explanation. We just want the name. We'll see if I can explain it back. Yeah. But I remember we were talking like a couple, or I don't know, a year ago when those first, when you were first talking to Tate online and people were commenting like, this is so Gilmore Girls.

8:50This is so Gilmore Girls. Yes, this is. What does it say? Tell us. Who's you at? Just tell us. JFK. It's not a fictional character. I was going to say Obama. This one is kind of, it's pretty funny. It's pretty funny. Who is it? I had no idea. And then this one comes in and I'm like, I'm okay with half of it and not okay with half of it. Who is it? It was an HBO show.

9:24About a group of guys. Oh. I can see him. Oh, my God.

9:35Entourage. Yes, who in Entourage? I don't know. I never watched it, but I just feel as though you've been in it. It's pretty funny. I never watched it either, but I know one character's name, but I know no qualities about him. Who? Cousin Greg. No, Cousin Greg is from Succession. Oh, see, I think Entourage and Succession are the same show. Oh. No, they're not. Then I don't know. Ari Gold. Oh, okay. Intense, ambitious, fast-talking, fiercely loyal, obsessed with winning, but ultimately a family guy underneath it all. Oh, that's really nice. What's his name? Ari Gold. Ari Gold. Yeah, he was too obsessed with work.

10:12That would be the big difference. Okay. I think he over-swung on the work side of things. But at least he said ultimately a family guy. Which I think he'd learn in the end. Did you watch it? Entourage? Oh, twice through. Oh. Yeah, you know, I might like that show I Would put it down as my favorite show of all time when I was watching it. Okay, there's never been a show that I liked more during each episode Um pivotal years for me what we're struggling with right now is Finding a book for book club, but we're not gonna talk about that today. Okay Let's see. Oh, I love this first question. I I think we got to call it book club and girls night.

10:59Like called me before he is. I have something to say about about book club. Should I save it for the podcast? And I was like, yeah, save it for the podcast. It'll be fun. This is a non surprise to any girl. This is girls. Like I just as I thought and walked out of the episode yesterday. So the episode yesterday would have aired. Is this coming out on this one? Today's coming out on Friday. Friday, June 26. OK, so we're a week after the fact. that is coming out, but I'm reflecting on my commentary from the day before. Uh-huh. And I walk out. I'm like, it's girls' night. I'm going to call it girls' night.

11:35And what neighbor T and I decided, okay, is we're either going to call it girls' night or every time neighbor T and I go drinking, we're going to call it book club. Well, it could be book club if you talk about a book over 50 % of the time. I agree. I completely agree. So here's the updated learning out of yesterday and some side polling I did. We were not talking about the book over 50 % of the time. Okay? We were not. We were not. Some of the girls said 40%. And we were pre-inflated up. It felt like the number was more like, it felt like a lot lower. And once again, I am 10 out of 10 supportive of girls' nights and fun social get-togethers.

12:20so that'll just be it. You know where I'm going after this? To book club. I'm going to book club. I'm in a book club tournament. I'm going to go do a book club tournament. So let me just get this straight because you have a different brain than a lot of people. For your brain to compute this, did you need us to be like sitting down with a prompt studying a book and only doing that? Like knitting. Correct. Like we are only allowed to only talk about the book. Here's a perfect parallel. When you play Maj, what percent, Like you're you have a moj board in front of you the entire time Yeah, but moj is also just a girls night with the activity.

12:56There is moj. Yes, one game Yes, but but but it's there It's there the whole time you this is a losing did you bring the book to the restaurant? No, why would we? Girls night. It's a girls night. It's a girls night. You're such a dork I used to have a whole shelf of supplements like a bottle for everything energy gut immunity And honestly, half the time I forget which ones I took or I would just skip it all together because it was overwhelming and it was too much. Then I started IM8 and it replaced basically all of it with one drink in the morning. Takes me 30 seconds and I just feel so much better throughout the day.

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16:01And so I was like on a three months of of paid. What is that called? Severance. Sorry, my brain's not woken up yet today. I was on three months of paid severance. And like so. I was like, I have a cushion to just like try and really go for my dream job. And I gave that to myself for a month and I'm like, I'm going to do something different than like applying on LinkedIn, because that's what everyone. 20 % of my company was laid off and everyone I was talking to they're like all I do is sit and apply to 20 jobs a day on LinkedIn I'm like that just doesn't seem effective so yeah I sent you had posted that you were starting just media I think like I don't think you posted that you were looking for anyone to work for you or anything like that yet um yeah and I sent an email wow and it's so Jules to say that her whole company or the 20 % of the company that was laid off all of them were applying on LinkedIn and Jules like I'm gonna do something different yeah because and because I had a nice three months to figure it out and I told myself I could have one month to figure out like exactly it was what I wanted to do and then I could go to LinkedIn but um yeah Jules sent the best email she kept following up she kept following up she kept following up she was amazing in person and then on the first day Jules thought she was still interviewing I thought she was hired and we went to Soho House and we sat down and what did I say?

17:23You just started handing me your passwords. Yeah, I started giving Jules all my passwords. And you said, figure out how to pay yourself, please. It's still till this day I don't know how to pay you. Jules pays herself. Jules pays everyone. Yay! Jules does every, so Jules was with us in New York and then when Austin became on the radar, she was just so down. Yeah, I think you guys said like, hey, we're going to move. would you possibly move and you were still between austin and orange county and i was like yeah either one of those sounds fine i'd been to austin once for a bachelorette party and i remember when i was here i was like i could live here that was in like 2022 or something your bestie bear is in newport am i yeah my bestie bear yeah and and yeah so i was like okay orange county would be fine too and i'm down to move but i think i told you guys you needed to get your house or needed to get a lease first since you guys are you actually didn't tell us that i think that was a decision you made in the back of your mind oh really no jules definitely said that out loud did she yeah i 100 i was like i'm not i'm not moving or deciding to move completely till you guys like have a place to live only to get there and us move only to get there and for you guys do you think there was a meaningful step up in jules's like impact when she moved or that was already happening in new york Because now Jules is truly an integral part of the ecosystem.

18:46And truly, she branches all the end-to-end ecosystem from everything Alex does on the personal brand side to the podcast and everything in between. Substack now. Yeah. No, I think that Jules has all... I think that's twofold. Jules has always had the same work ethic, which is very, very, very, very, very strong. however I think she's getting smarter just the longer she works here yeah like she just understands the industry more but no I don't think like that has changed well I also think like I started in November and then like things change come February you know like and then you started deciding to move I think around March time like it was all very quick okay oh yeah it's amazing how much I like like I would have tricked myself into thinking that we were in New York together for like a year and a half no same oh I started in November of 2023 yeah okay she's right okay and we made the decision to move in March and then we got here in informally in April April well I don't remember but I think you asked me in March just like what you soft launched like would you move not like would you move to austin it's just like would you move and that's when you guys started going on these trips yeah yeah every couple of weeks two weaker in austin in april i believe yeah i want to add one tidbit on the hiring and applying for jobs on linkedin and the back end of it uh as a as at a hiring employer when we at the naked market post a job on linkedin you get inundated with truly thousands of applicants so it's because they make applying so easy it is almost impossible to stand out and so you get overwhelmed with with these resumes and you you truly like don't see a lot of them and what and what jules did i think is the 101 one of getting hired the only caveat that i would add to well you said you were hiring i don't remember i'm i do remember the timeline of all of it is like i so i knew that i wanted to work for a female founded startup in new york city and i wanted this like chief of staff role which is my title here but i think titles are relevant but like that's what i wanted to do and i saw that Alex you were hanging out with like the 4am skin girls you were hanging out with the rodeo girl and I had already emailed all of those girls and I reached out to Alex and I was like are you or is anyone in your network looking for someone for a role like this and I pitched a role and you were like oh I'm looking for like an intern I'm like well I'm not an intern but I could do all those things no problem and I can do one two three other you know 10 other things so I really like I ended up pitching the role to Alex, and then we went from there.

21:59But she never said? Oh, sorry. I sent the email, but then literally one day later, she posted that they were hiring for the intern. Okay. Okay. I don't remember this, but okay, yeah. And then I looked at the emails this morning. Oh, good, good. I mean, I just badgered her. Because at this time, it was like - Can we pull it? Yeah. Please? I think it's really fun. It's a little embarrassing. She doesn't have to pull it, but it was very thorough. Well, let's pull it. But also like... If she wants to cut it, she can cut it. No, no, no, it's fine. I just also remember like in that time, it's like you went to Paris.

22:32Like, so I would text you because you would post like, I'm back. So not text you. I would email you like, hey, hope you had a fun trip. Like, remember me? And then you would post something like online and I would try and find a way that I could be like, remember me? And it was probably like two or three weeks of back and forth of just like being annoying to get a job. No, Jules was not annoying. She was thorough. And having the stuff to back it up. And it was before ChatGBT existed, and you would think that these emails were written by, they were so good. How did you know how to log into your email without Jules?

23:04I know. You'd be shocked that I had it on my phone. It was the JustInfo email address. Oh, and I guessed Alex's email would be Alex, Jordan's email would be Jordan, and I just sent it. Whereas everyone else was probably just sending to the JustInfo because that's what you put up online. Yeah, and these are the tidbits that you nailed. is like assuming there is a job posted on LinkedIn, that's an amazing initial lead. But if you just click submit, chances are that's going nowhere and it's all about the follow-up. It is very easy to guess people's emails. Yeah, it's so easy. Very, very easy to guess people's emails.

23:39And that is like the minimum table stakes. It's not just one email, it's consistent follow-ups. And the other thing I'm not sure, the other thing that I would share that I think can be very good depending on the role is DMing on Instagram. Yeah. Yeah. No, I don't love a DM on Instagram. Because I think you should be able to find our email. No, no, no. In addition, so what else? In addition, yeah. Like, hey, I emailed you. And I think it's very relevant to the role. So, like, when we're hiring someone in the marketing or creative side of things, I think DM is a great way to connect. And you can then, like, show your work and profile.

24:22Yeah. yeah agreed okay but okay so what's your good thing do you have the email oh yeah it's long like i actually i like i can read it give us like the the little 15 seconds give us the 15 seconds that you think alex read because you know i shouldn't read the whole thing the top three lines i said congrats on the success of mean girl season two and the establishment of just media i'm reaching out because i think not only are you an exceptional founder but you have an impressive network of connections with female founders in new york i'm currently searching for a chief of staff role at a female founded startup in the city i was wondering if just media is looking to fill a position or if you have any information on leads within your network because like i didn't think she would be hiring if i'm being honest like yeah oh so jules was trying to work for like 4am skin yeah i love those girls but then you were like wait i am hiring and i said okay perfect i'm here I didn't know I was hiring until I read it and I was like oh yeah cool good for you good for Jules and then she was like what do you want to do and then I like I wrote out a job description for myself and it's kind of like what I do what did you write I don't know data-driven decision making project coordination communication event planning blah blah blah pop off queen good job jewels yeah but I had yeah I had the time in the whatever to do all that because I wasn't working and but a lot of people find time paralyzing I think yeah oh that was my one tip is that like when I got laid off I gave I got laid off on a Wednesday I gave myself until Sunday to just like have off because that's like a lot of emotional whatever and then Monday I said my new job is finding a job and I worked 40 hours a week on finding a job and like I set goals for myself that is so I went back and I because I tried I wanted to find it I started in a notion document for myself where I had like goals and they wrote down my dream job my dream company and then I just like did what I could to make that happen and then look what you did yeah one thing about Jules whenever we did like uh I think we did a I don't know if we called an end of a year review or whatever but at the end of the year Harrison and I it took us about two seconds to do it and I just said she she has never cut one corner and you haven't even I think there's these things Jules thinks we don't see her we don't notice but we do and she does and I think this happens a lot like they always say your character is what you do when no one's watching every single thing she does is thorough to the tune of like we didn't have waters yesterday and then we get like the fridge now has waters and that is very Jules of Jules so okay nobody come offer Jules a job.

27:03And did you like the text I sent last night? What did I sext? I'm proud of us. Yeah. Yeah. Oh. A lot has changed since this has all started. And I think that collectively, and this was a call out, because we just said it on the pod, we're not doing a good enough job celebrating the wins. Yeah. And the three episodes is a lot, and the sub stack is a lot. now we're going to add another sub stack and it's i told harrison i was like you know as long we can we can do this we will do this but we have to take care of ourselves too try to celebrate the wins yeah yeah yeah okay um it's more like into the year episode mid-year update mid-year update reflections um okay can alex shed more light on how she created her mom community yes I can I created it I think in one way which was being honest about motherhood online like when I had Tate I posted I remember I had pre-partum depression which means like while I was pregnant I got I was like so anxious and so depressed and I remember I posted it one day and I made a reel about it one day and like I got and I was like nervous to make the reel but I I got so many messages from people being like same.

28:23And I think that one thing about motherhood is it's, even if your very best friend is pregnant with you, you still feel lonely. It's the craziest thing. Like literally, like I couldn't be, you couldn't be less lonely. You couldn't have more pregnant friends around you going through the exact same season of life. And then sometimes you're still just like, I'm just lonely. And so So I think being really honest about what was happening to me in my mind and still to this day, I'm always honest about what's happening. I think that that inherently, when you're honest, gives other people permission to be honest to or vulnerable.

28:59And so I think that creates the community. But I didn't mean to create it. I'll say that. So you're speaking to the online community. Oh. Because the way I read that question was your IRL community of moms. Okay. This one I would love to answer. So, well, I'll give you both then. So that's my online community. The way I created, so I did this the other day where I took the moms that threw my baby shower and I was like, okay, am I met at college? Taylor, I met through mutual friends. Shannon, I met online. My **** is our neighbor. And so it's like, I met them all in very different ways. But the common thread is like, when I was looking for people that had a kid around the same age as ours, because what you'll notice when it comes to kids is like, if somebody is a 10 year old, but you have a one year old while you're both parents, it's very different.

29:58So like, even right now with Rocky being two, two and a half months old, like he is light years away from Tate when it comes to a play date, like him. And if he goes to a play date, he's doing tummy time. Whereas if Tate goes to a play date, they're running around. So I was looking for people that were in my phase of life. Um, and then I was looking for people that, you know, actually from there, it didn't really matter. I didn't have anything past that. Um, and I would always like talk to them and I would go up to them first and I would talk to them. I would make a point to ask them a lot, a lot of, I ask a lot of questions when I meet somebody and I just see like, is there any synergy there?

30:37What's the vibe? And then I would move to a second date with them. When Sammy Spalter was on the pod she said she called it like girl flirting yeah you know um and that's kind of how I think about it and I find moms that I have a lot in common with or that light me up or I find interesting and then yeah I would just hang out with them more yeah what I would add from my perspective is you were you were playing offense like you were being very proactive it just felt like you were always doing some form of like outreach and I don't want to say like networking but there was the consistent effort of like it felt like do you have a kid who is our child's age and if there's that connection then what's the immediate follow-up like i felt like you would go and you'd meet people you'd say you had a great interaction with them and then there would be like them coming over to our house for a barbecue on friday or us meeting them at little fields on a sunday so like it wasn't like i met someone cute or so i had met someone that i i i um that i like resonated with let's see when i see them again it felt like you'd meet someone that where there was some connectivity and you were setting a time to see them i also like i need I agree in the, in the most like extreme way on this age thing where like, and I would even take it a step further.

32:06We're like, if you're, if your kid is six months and you meet someone whose kid is two years old, that isn't going to be nearly as, as, as smooth as if it's six months, six months. And those are inherently like, when I look at the people that we are seeing most, it is within a three month window. Yeah. And I know that changes over time. Totally. But that's, and like you see it even with my sister and her and my niece where like now she can play up. She's returning four and she can play up, you know, two years. But like Rocky can't. And take, still can't really play it. But like, they're getting there.

32:47I think in a year it'll be a little different. Yeah. But basically in short, I would meet, so I would see, even if I see somebody at the park, I'll go over and I'll talk to them and I'll just start to ask a couple questions and then like you can pretty easily figure out like are we gonna have something in common or maybe not um you get some on the calendar that's where I gotta give you a lot of credit yeah I get something on the calendar and then from there you know we see and I've really recently like how long have we been in Austin two years we were just talking about this at swim last night like we I now feel pretty confident in who my I have a couple I have a couple different groups but like what's really coming into focus for me right now is like who my my crews are my friends yeah and the purposes they each serve right like I have some that are very entrepreneurial very business savvy some that are very mom savvy some that are very fun you know and everyone serves a different purpose I think Courtney said it too on the pod it's like when you're making friends like you're when you go to high school it's just like easy to make friends when you go to college it's easy to make friends when you become an adult it's harder to make friends and then when you have kids like it's a it's another um like college opportunity but it's the first time you have that in adult life where it's just like such an easy bonding point and you're like out of practice probably i would guess well said yeah but this is it has not been this easy to make friends since uh since call since hong kong because hong kong was college 2.0 well hong kong is a bunch of is It's probably a bunch of people need to make friends.

34:18But college, it was so easy to make friends. And Courtney is right in the sense of like, actually the second easiest time is when you have kids because it's like literally taking a dog to the dog park. You're like, okay, here's mine, here's yours. But the caveat is getting out of the house can be really hard and you're dealing with like anxiety, et cetera, et cetera. And that's why I look at how many of our hangs happen to people's houses. Yeah, but people have, you like H I think one thing that you and I are very good at and I give all the credit to you is like you can get those kids out the door like think about yeah you know like we're good at that and so it's like if a mom has you know if she's anxious or if she's feeling some depression or if the hormones all over the place and like you have a play date like it is hard to get there so I do think if you can get there though even if you are feeling those feelings though going and talking about them with another mom is really helpful.

35:12So I do think, yeah, it's making friends, though, with kids has been, because it's Saturday morning, and you need to kill two hours, so you just take them all to the same restaurant. And I'm thinking of Littlefields, which is like an outside play restaurant, and the parents just hang and the kids play. Yeah. And it's a really good way to make friends. Maybe go to the Substack one. From Substack, okay. Bubba asked for eggs for breakfast. That's so cute. It's like her saying ketchup. It's just kind of crazy because I've heard her just say the words that she can say, but then when she says a word that I have no clue that she can say.

35:50Did people notice that she doesn't understand how to dip a fry and eat it? She uses the fry truly as a vessel just to have the sauce? I saw that with the ranch. I think she ate the fry with the honey mustard. The other day we had a big thing. That's a rarity. We had a big thing of guac out. is she went and got a rock and tried to dip it in the guac because like it's, remember when you were like, oh, the rock, we don't eat rocks but like she wasn't going to eat the rock. She just needed something to get this guac into her mouth. She did it yesterday at Swim with the tortilla. Yeah. And then she had like three massive bites of guac and then took the tortilla and put it back in the tortilla bag.

36:25In the chip bag with everyone eating out of the chip bag. But it's just like that's where, but this is what's so confusing. That's where the chips go. In the bag. so in her mind she's i know what she said back and it goes back so their little brains are so cute but yeah i didn't know she knew the term ketchup either so funny so i just learned that with you um okay what's your favorite thing to do as a family i would say our favorite thing to do as a family i think it's just our weekday nights where we either we and we just sometimes we pick something we go to the pool sometimes we decide we'll make dinner at home sometimes we go to the park like it's just having nothing having nothing planned saying we're going to do something with the kids make dinner at home and like hang out that's my favorite yeah it's the little moments walking to the coffee shop making dinner cruising over to a local restaurant I mean going to the grocery store where they have the little cart for Tate to walk around it's all little things apparently H-E-B is the only grocery store with a double so when Rocky can sit up I think we're going to go to H-E-B a lot and we'll do half Tate, half Rocky and I will die.