Toddler tantrums, pacifier weaning & when should dad stop traveling before birth?

32:55I think she's just rolling her eyes. The restraining order I also saw in the video was rejected. As it should be. I think I saw a recap video.

33:05So here's my question, a little hair update. I know my hair looks terrible today because I didn't have time to style it but I did get it cut yesterday. Yeah. And I couldn't find my guy and then I finally got him. He like wasn't showing up on the booking and you know how I like my hairstylist? Yes. My guy, my barber. Yes. And he's leaving. He's starting his own salon. Good for him and love an entrepreneur. I booked my next appointment sitting in the chair. Okay. His name is Dustin. Okay.

33:33And I asked him why I was leaving and he said that because they don't let him do like coloring for women and hair extensions for women. So I guess he also does woman's hair because he worked at this like real classic barber shop. Would you give him a try? I would need to see, because there's a big difference between somebody that specializes in blondes and brunettes, so I need to see his blonde portfolio. He does blondes. I need to see his blonde portfolio. I need to see what kind of blonde we do, and then, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. I really like him, and I think he would do very good woman's hair.

34:06But - He could even maybe do Jenny's hair. Hold on. Here's what I - Jenny's at the salon right now, everyone. No, she's back. She's back. Oh, she's - Four hours at the salon for Jenny. Good life. Good life for Jenny the dog. I have to say this about Katie Moore, because she does my blonde right now here in Austin. and she's coming to our house this Saturday. She preemptively was like, you need your hair done before you give birth. Like I do, I love my blonde girl right now. Well, guess when I booked my next haircut? When? The day before you're getting induced so I could go to the hospital with a nice haircut.

34:33I think that's really nice of you. I like that. I like that. I also had a, okay, fun little topic for me. I had a Russian manicurist come to our house yesterday and I gotta say so far, I mean, we're only one day in. So the reason I, sorry, The reason I got a Russian manicure was I was going to my regular place and getting dip. And this didn't happen to me so much with Tate. My hair is growing like crazy and my nails, truly they were grown out in six to seven days. So I'm trying this Russian manicure to see if they'll last longer. But everything on me like growing like crazy. This is so much nicer.

35:11I just got rid of the pillows. Was she Russian? No. I thought she was. No. And our power went out. So I actually had to do it at the neighbor's house. because our whole street's power went out, which is why our clock was messed up the other day, by the way. I was on a call and I had the call on speaker and then the power went back on and the TV came back on and the TV was just blaring cricket. Like crickets or cricket? No, cricket the sports match. And the announcer was just screaming and I think it was India versus Pakistan and it was just a guy said, what is going on at your house? I said, we got India-Pakistan in the background.

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38:34We walked around the store, we got our stuff, and then it was time to put the shopping cart up. And I mean, we just fell to the floor. We were like, I don't want to do that. So I picked her up. I carried her outside. But then I put on Twinkle Twinkle Little Star. And we did, we moved on. And did that last more or less than 60 seconds? I don't know. Because when you're in it, you're like sweating. You know, you're like, oh my gosh. I don't know, 45 to a minute. Yeah. so we're like okay okay we're lightly in tantrum phase and we don't know if it's going to get worse can we say we'll just be very transparent with you but a lot of people were saying what do you do about it and i posted this that i refer to bratbusters i love getting parenting advice from somebody who has grown children and studies like she she's a what she's well pedigreed and so what What she says to do with tantrums is you don't reward them.

39:26You don't, you just start doing something different. So a lot of times all starts singing the wheels on the bus, go round and round. And then Tate will see that I'm doing that. But what we're not doing is picking her up, trying to calm her down. Like we're kind of letting her do her thing. And then we're moving on and we're not addressing it. Cause if we get on her level and we're like, Hey Tate, I know that that was really overwhelming. Like she doesn't understand. yeah i i it's funny you i feel like you've been more more thoughtful around this than i have i feel like what i do is like if i see her getting she is so interested in so many things that whenever i see her getting upset i just try and find something else that she'd be interested in yeah you you go for redirection yeah as long as we're not giving cheese cheese queso cheese Cheese.

40:16Cheese. Cheese. And then the bye. Oh, one noteworthy thing. She's starting to put two words together. I know. It's so fun. So now, instead of just doing uppy, she goes uppy bears. Because I say uppy bears. Uppy bears. And we're really learning like please more. Please more for everything. Please twinkle, twinkle, little star. Please play wheels on the bus. And if you're not. online or if you're not on youtube i was doing sign language identifying people so yes she really knows like me me winnie dadda mama tate bubba tate who wears tate tate but maria said her name is easy for kids to say um okay on the tantrum thing though we we are experiencing them yes they are hard in public because you just want to start sweating they are inevitable every parent knows that.

41:14And I think that our way of handling them right now, Harrison, we do, we do both try the redirect, but sometimes that doesn't work. And I think when that doesn't work, it's very just like, we just let her do everything, let her do it, start doing something different. And then she can catch onto that. But what the brat busters girl says is if you reward it and rewarding, it can be getting down there saying, stop crying, like giving them attention in that moment, they will keep doing it. But if you're not paying any mind to it, she says just like you're waiting on the bus. Like you're just waiting on the bus.

41:47Yep. Makes sense in theory, the reality of how that actually works in a major tantrum. I'd be curious to shake out because we have not experienced that yet. But she says if we're in a restaurant or something, we should be taking them outside. We don't let them tantrum there. We just take them, we just carry them outside. Bobby Bear. And then we can wait on our bus there. Yeah, the most confusing thing for her and one area where I see her get really upset That is her not being able to delineate between – because we eat all the same food as her. So when we are eating something that she's not allowed to eat a la a coffee or an alcoholic beverage and then she gets really worked up.

42:24And so deflecting to another drink, that is – always got to be ready for it. She thinks coffees are smoothies. It's just better to keep the coffees away from her. Iced coffees. she does not understand why she cannot have our iced coffee because she thinks it's a smoothie what it's not um yeah so so we're in there um with you guys because i think a lot of you are in it too some of you were saying like i'm dying in the tantrum phase i i do agree with you though like ours aren't so bad maybe with maybe they're gonna get worse maybe maybe number two will be worse like I do think it just boils down to it but we don't pay much mind to it and then you just kind of move on and then they see that and I think it becomes I think they see that that tantruming isn't going to get rewarded and then hopefully the idea is they do it less all right shut up prep busters always I just love her videos I think she's a wealth of knowledge um okay let's see what else we want to talk about oh Hannah Montana 20th anniversary special I just wondered if it's like all over your guys' for you Paige and me I've never seen an episode of Hannah Montana what?

43:37that's not weird though I wouldn't have been able to tell you 48 hours ago that Hannah Montana was Miley Cyrus okay that's jaw dropping I'm not surprised you haven't seen an episode why would Hannah Montana be on my radar? It's just like a cultural phenomenon Yeah it was a massive Not for guys I don't grow up watching Hannah Montana Can we call one of your guy friends and ask them Who played Hannah Montana Yeah they're gonna have no idea Well you have to call one that I have their number Okay So that leaves Alex Cost Can you just look at my text quickly Here No your phone's over there Call him up ask him He's gonna have no idea I think I think Um Um Who else Have you not just seen like Every single Food brand Like Elliot He would know that Jamie No idea I'm just in shock right now Jay No I I've seen These are phone numbers I have Uh Jay probably wouldn't know The Uh What was I saying Like I saw the meme Over the past 48 hours That's why I say, like, I now know what's going on.

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47:07Bon Jovi. That is very embarrassing. It was a Madonna song. Like a... Or... Oh. You know what I'm saying. Like a something. Like a virgin? For the very first time. Yeah. No. No. Well, Google her. When You Call My Name, it's like a little prayer, whatever that song is. Phenomenal. She's so good. Vocal powerhouse. And I was thinking at that point, I was like, we are due for another Miley album. I know. I think Miley's doing her thing right now, though, and then she'll give us more. But I think we'll get an album, and I think we'll get like a Taylor Swift level tour. I would love it. Oh, I would love it.

47:41Do you think she'll draw football stadiums? No. And like I'm OG. On her next tour. No. Really? Really? Yeah. Oh. And I'm like OG Miley Cyrus, Hannah Montana. Like that was my original like hyper fixation. That's so surprising to me. I would have thought that she would have been in that tier. I would think Miley for sure is football stadium. Because I think that she would set like when I look at like the HIV center here, I think she'd sell that out in a snap. Because like Beyonce's doing Beyonce can do football arenas, right? Not a lot. Yes, but not a lot of people can. Taylor Swift obviously can.

48:16She can do arenas, I think, but it's just not Taylor Swift level by the Morgan Wallen can do. Yeah. Morgan Wallen did his his his tour with football stadiums. Her music just isn't the level of of Taylor Swift. I'm not comparing her to Taylor Swift. Whoa, whoa, whoa. But I am thinking that if she launches a new album, do I have her side by side with Morgan Wallen? Absolutely. No. She's been launching new music. Let's do Spotify monthly listeners on them both. I promise. She's been launching. I thought, and this shows how out of tune I am, I thought that she hasn't dropped an album since that Wrecking Ball album.

48:53Oh my God, no. And I'm like OG Miley Cyrus. No, flowers. I can buy myself flowers. That one. She did that. Does Bieber do? he does football arenas if he went on tour. Well, he hasn't toured in a long time, but he absolutely will. Okay, so Miley Cyrus, how many monthly listeners do you think she has on Spotify? Less than I thought. How many? 53.8. Million. Million. Okay. Give us Morgan Wallen. This is a playlist. Hold on. Hold on. Morgan Wallen is 33 million. What? He's less. 36.2. Bad Bunny. He's going to be way bigger. I assume Bad Bunny is 111.2 Yeah I assume that Well we gotta do Taylor Just for context here Bad Bunny is one of the Taylor Taylor is 102.7 Now it's to Beyonce But I'd assume that she has Beyonce is 54.2 so her and Miley are even Hmm That's interesting I'm a fan Yeah I would have thought So my favorite live concert ever is probably Beyonce.

50:03I loved the Beyonce concert. I saw her in Jersey. I've seen Miley Cyrus in concert eight times. That's a lot. The reason that I brought this up that I thought you guys would appreciate is like the Miley Cyrus, Hannah Montana 20th anniversary special like didn't exist. And she just started promoting it online. And then everyone got really excited about it. And then Disney green lighted it. So she's just like, just promote stuff. If you want something to happen, just start promoting it. I'm so confused. That is so cool. You just lost me. So it's the 20th anniversary right now. Yes. And what happened?

50:38There's like this big special that was filmed. Okay. And put on Disney Channel. Okay. It didn't exist. And she just started promoting it. What do you mean it didn't exist? They weren't doing it. They weren't doing a special. Okay. So they weren't doing a special. Yes. You just said they were doing a special. They weren't. And she just started promoting it. She just started promoting a special that didn't exist. and then everyone got so excited about it that Disney had to make it happen. And I thought you guys would appreciate that mindset. I do appreciate that. Love it, love it, love it, love it.

51:06I'm all about that. Yeah. And then like everyone showed up. Everyone showed up and she's spilling tea. The main thing that we learned is that she dated a Sprouse twin. And we didn't know that before. You know Sweet Love of Zack and Cody? I have no idea who the Sprouse twins are. What? Cole and Dylan Sprouse? Okay. Those sound like fake made up names. Sweet Life of Zack and Cody? They were Zack and Cody. So the Sweet Life of Zack and Cody, like I have definitely heard that, but I remember hearing that because one of my friend's younger brothers would watch the show. Yeah, I guess these are more my generation.

51:43Me too, Jules. I watched these. I watched Hannah. Yeah. I just never watched Disney. Did you watch Nick? Cartoon Network? Yeah. What were you watching? what were you watching do they have i watched magic school bus i watched arthur i watched arthur hannah montana's for like 12 year olds not for magic school bus age i feel like at 12 i was probably watching shows for 14 and 15 year olds because of my sister so i feel like at that point i was watching friends like did you watch lizzie mcguire no i rocket power no never heard of it and i watched the movie for rocket power oh my gosh wow i have seen every friends episode I can probably confidently say I've seen every Friends episode twice I haven't seen they're just like not comparable at all yeah that was crazy but that's what I was watching in like grade 8 and grade 9 and grade 10 oh I was watching Lizzie McGuire oh we were obsessed I mean I'm going to the Hilary Duff concert and it takes a lot for me to go to a concert okay I'm moving this on I'm a big pop culture guy yeah big pop culture guy you're more into Southern Charm than you were Lizzie McGuire and that's okay I've got three weeks of Southern Charm under my belt.

52:56That's more than you do with Lizzie McGuire, so. You gotta log into Disney Plus. Just rip these shows. Rip them. Oh, the movie? I should watch it. What I'll say about Hilary Duff, because I'm very familiar with her name, so I must have listened to her music growing up. Because I remember when... No? Hilary Duff's iconic. Did she not make music? No, no, no. She did, but like... Not as... Her music as compared to like her in television. Television is the... Was she Mean Girls? No, that was Lindsay Lohan. What's going on with that comeback? It's phenomenal. Lindsay Lohan? Oh my gosh. So that was a win?

53:35Yes. And why? She got sober. She's a mom now. Is she making - She's Aisha Curry's best friend. Aisha Curry, Steph Curry's wife, is the godmother of her child, I believe. And is she making - Free Gear Friday 2? Or music? Is she movies or music? She's movies. Movies. Is she making movies? She was in like that, not cheesy, it wasn't cheesy, Lindsay, but I watched it because you were in it. It was a Christmas movie. Yeah, I think, I don't remember what it was called. She was in two, back-to-back years. She was making like Christmas movies in Freaky or Friday 2. She's doing a light comeback. She's doing a light dabble comeback.

54:12She doesn't need the movie money. Well, and here's the thing most importantly, nor do I think she wants to. I think that she had a quote where she referenced like her childhood wasn't exactly what she wanted for it. I think fame for her, she's trying to step away from. I think Hollywood wasn't the best for her. And so I think that this new life is kind of motherhood era. And I think she's married to like a prince or something. I think so too. Do you know who my number one crush growing up was? Amanda Bynes? Amanda Bynes. That one. I pray for that girl I pray for her as well because that is shoot that one's that's hard to watch but Hillary never had that moment Lindsay did but came back from it and Amanda we're still watching in that moment and I'm hoping we have we have a comeback from Amanda the number one show I was addicted to in high school is Jackass yeah I watched a couple episodes of that.

55:18There's nothing I loved more than Jackass. There's nothing that made me laugh more than Jackass. I liked Sweet 16. And some of those guys are starting to, you're starting to see them do some content. Johnny Knoxville is kind of making the circuit. He's in, but those guys, a lot of them are in really rough shape. Is that Stevo? Stevo, interestingly enough, is like kind of feels like he's in the best place. Yeah. Of all of them. bam argera is in like a very very very scary place that's sad yeah but i think that i think that he um i think he was especially rocked with everything that went down with his best friend ryan dunn and what was that he died tragically in a car accident oh that's really sad yeah yeah that'll happen it'll rock you i my favorite trend right now on social media is the is it iris by the Goo Goo Dolls?

56:15Where they say, what were you like in the 90s? Yes, great trend. Oh. Have you not seen these? No. What? Jewels. I don't think so. Snoop Dogg did it. Shaq did it. What's his name? Kevin Costner's was probably my favorite. Well, I've also noticed a lot of the people doing it, it's not even from their accounts. Yeah, which is great because somebody did Amanda Bynes and the most liked comment on it was, thank you for giving up your childhood so I could have mine. Which is really sweet. Oh, that's very, very powerful. It was very powerful. You guys know I'm obsessed with magnetic me and I have been stocking up on it for this new baby boy because think about this.

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58:07Let's talk about, we have to talk about the new United Airlines Relax Row. Have you seen this? It's three adjacent United Economy seats with adjustable leg rests that can each be raised or lowered to create a cozy lie flat space for stretching out. this feels so long overdue where all airlines there's so many little things airlines can do to make the experience much much better and this is one of those so here's my question they're taking three seats because okay so they haven't revealed how much it costs but there are some international airlines that already do this and the cost of those is around 1100 to 12 to $2 ,000.

58:52So the question is, is it worth it? I have a rule on this. This is how I, this is my, um, so I always take the price of a basic seat and then for every hour of the flight, I'll pay a hundred dollars to upgrade my seat. So if we're flying to LA and the base price is $400 and LA from Austin is three hours, I would pay 300 extra dollars and I would book a first class seat and so what do you think of this well i so this i'm not understanding it's it's just like a regular row but you're but you're buying the whole row you you're not buying an individual seat or three individual seats you're buying the row and then there's like basically these foot stands that come up underneath and you can turn it into like a twin size bed essentially yeah i'm gonna try this i would try this just to see but are they gonna like when this is the thing that happens with this when are we getting the plane that actually has these available yeah so here's my take on this is this should be every single seat in economy and i think the most they're doing useful ways of this 12 rows pardon they're doing 12 rows it should be the whole thing and the way it should really shake out is when you're on an empty flight you you get to take advantage of all three seats and have it be comfy as opposed to the way it works right now which is when you're on an empty flight and those three seats and you lay across them and they're just like the seatbelts are you know ripping through your ribs or the armchairs are are don't move up and down so like i actually think the most utility out of this is going to come from just planes that have have less room i need to see it i don't know what's that face what do you mean less room plane thank you planes that that aren't fully full planes that are open yeah half full flights But would I book this?

1:00:45Absolutely. Well, I'm going to book it to try it because I just think it's a cool, we haven't seen this before. So I'm all for the idea of a new seat happening. Yes. I think it will be a six out of 10 flying experience relative to business class. The image that I saw of it with this headline looked like a lay down pod. Not at all. What you're describing to me sounds like the three seats just laying down flatter. You only have the room of those three seats. Have you seen those kids seat extenders that you can do for kids? It's like three of those. Yeah. And then you're just laying horizontally.

1:01:26Which is good. It doesn't look great to me, if I'm being honest. You're going to need to be in a ball. And are these going to be offered on flights that are three hours? No. I think the use case is going to be international flights where you're north of five hours and you want to be taking a bit of a snooze. and I think as long as the price is reasonable and it's only a couple hundred more bucks, then people will love them. I think that if it's more than that, there needs to be significant discount to a business class lie down seat. And those business class lie down seats are very expensive right now.

1:01:58I completely agree. They've gotten completely out of hand there. But I'm interested in this. Will I book it once to see? Yeah, 100 % because I just got to know. Do they get free alcohol and meals in these seats? I don't know if there's any extra perks. Because the meal... I would assume so. I feel like United Plus gives you free alcohol. But they don't do meal service on flights over three hours. Interesting. Okay. Well, you know what? I'm open to this. When I say definitely not, I don't actually know. They don't do meal service. They don't. All right. Cool. Okay. Things we DMed each other. I love this.

1:02:38There was a video about... And there's a couple videos. but I picked the one that I like. The worst type of dads, according to a labor and delivery nurse. So these are dad behaviors when giving birth, okay? I watched this video. It's crazy. And I will say, couldn't agree more with the lady who made them on all points. So number five, the worst kind of dad in the delivery room is the gamer. When she's getting hooked up to her epidural, to all of her, the Pentatocin XYZ, and he's asking where he can plug in his Xbox. Completely unacceptable. Read the room. Number four, the answer man. So the labor and delivery nurses are asking the girl, do you need anything?

1:03:26How do you feel? Would you like some food? And he's answering for her. She's like, it's her body. She knows. Know your role. Know your role. number three the stoner he takes a walk outside and he comes back in either reeking of weed or she said most of the time just covered up with perfume which just smells up the room is is this how severe of of an act is this for all of these to me are a 10 the first two are are terrible i think leaving the hospital room to go smoke a joint is fucking jaw-dropping yeah like it's jaw-dropping i agree like that is i mean the first two and and i don't want to i think the first two are ridiculous as well but this one to me is like then you come back in just like reeking.

1:04:24And you're just, you're, you're high in what is one of the most special moments of your life where it's your job as the male to sit there and just be supportive and be helpful and alert and alert. It's just, it's bananas. Yeah. Yeah. And she said this one will surprise you. Um, okay. Number two, the second worst is the dad on the phone. And she says he's taking a business call almost like we're interrupting him he's taking up the entire room and she's about to give birth yeah and obviously like a a huge no-no i do this feels different though like picking up a work call versus going and smoking a joint outside but even picking up a workout go outside totally totally totally it's like actually you know what i think work can wait but if like one of our parents calls you please answer it but get in the corner hey sorry we're doing things we're getting hooked up to machines of course crouch in the corner but do not buy any like you don't here's the thing there's not very many very many scenarios where i'm going to be like you don't need to be seen or heard but like does it like you kind of got a fade you're you're a supporting cast in this moment um and then the the number one and it just makes me want to scream It's the dad that sexualizes everything.

1:05:49So they're doing like a swab and he makes a threesome joke. Absurd. Get out. Absurd. I would throw my ice chips at you. Yeah. The birth, it's like, as the guy, it's not your time. It's all about your partner. And to take away from that in any way is completely missing the mark. And I want to say this. is 100 % both, both this, this goes without saying, like I even feel stupid for things, but like, yes, of course it's both your baby. Of course, all these things, but she has to get it out. And I cannot explain to you the physical and mental pain that you have to endure when you give birth. Like I'm starting to get nervous for it again.

1:06:35And it's just like, if you are gaming answering for me, like the best example I have of last time is my epidural wasn't working and I really needed another one and I was I didn't I just I did not know how people survive this kind of pain and I said to Harrison you gotta get me another epidural and he left the room and I don't know what words happened but all I know is when they came back in I got my other epidural and I was like that's how you handle it like don't argue in front of me but just come back in the room when Alex is getting the other epidural that will work it's it's it's this is all about you and all about everything that can be done to support you and shouldn't be it's all about what you want plain and simple the sexual joke like I would lose my mind because it's such a vulnerable time for your body they're all they're all yeah they're all ridiculous they're all just firm nose yeah they're just it's just so I just thought that was crazy and I bet as a labor and delivery nurse you see it all yep you never know what you're getting or the dad that's like what about my bed just no totally nope um okay so then multiple listeners have sent us influencer lucy fink's video on and i and i love this video eight genius hacks for introducing toddlers to newborns without jealousy so thank you lucy for making the video number one when the child first enters the room don't mention the baby instead you just focus on them so i love that okay number two place Place the baby off to the side in a bassinet so your arms are free to cuddle your other child.

1:08:19Cuddle bubbers. I know. This one's really cute. I have never thought about this. Number three, arrange photos of the other child, so Tate, in the baby's bassinet to remind them that they're special and included. So put photos of bubber in the other bassinet. In the baby boy's bassinet. Unbelievable. Right? Love it. This was a really, really good video. number four transfer the baby calmly and intentionally waiting for the older child to be ready and ask to specifically hold them so and i don't think bubber's going to be able to ask but she could be like she should want to give besos yeah kisses um okay this is my favorite one a family hug to signify to signify that you're a unit and we've been doing so it's funny we've been starting family hugs with bubs she loves family hugs she smiles and she wants more so i think this is i think for us this is a gold mine because she's familiar with a family hug yeah i just like i can't get over her just like realizing oh my goodness like there's another human that's not leaving here to stay i don't think that she's gonna understand he's here to stay for a while she feels like she owns like we're her property correct which we are and she's going to be so happy to have a sibling oh yeah of course of course there was this video that came across my desk and it was um to the mother who's afraid to give birth to her second child right now because she doesn't want to hurt her first child's feelings and it was like a i couldn't watch the whole thing because i was going to start crying but it's just how good it can be yeah um okay number six let the other child hold the newborn at home but only when they want to don't pressure or continually ask.

1:09:59Number seven, don't blame the baby for not being able to attend to their needs.

1:10:08Okay, okay. I needed to process this for a second. So this is saying, if Tate's like, I want agua, agua, agua, we can't be like, hold on, I'm with your brother. Okay. It's just one second, mom's busy. Okay. Never blaming the baby. Got it. Great tip. Okay, so that's a good one because I've read that but I'm just learning it. include them in the caretaking process. Yeah, this one, all of them are great, but this one particularly lands because I've just seen time and time again, the more we involve her, the more she enjoys herself. And bunnying up, what calmed her the first day when we removed the PASI was actually, so there were a bunch of dishes on the sink and I had to unload the dishwasher and I got her involved in unloading the dishwasher and she just like enjoyed it and she come right up and responsibility has just been such a great tool for us.

1:11:06And she wants that. But my favorite, so we're going to take the photos to the hospital and if we forget, we'll have a family member bring them and we'll put them in the bassinet with the baby. We won't be holding the baby when she comes in the room. We will do a family hug. Yeah. I'm sure I'll probably meet Bubba outside the room. Yeah. And carry her in. I can't wait and then the other thing I know we're doing is we're all leaving together yes so bubs will come on the last day I just it's funny I don't want to be in the hospital for long whatever you want I don't want to be away from her I'm going to really miss her okay so that ladies and gentlemen that kind of concludes the episode so we've got yeah we've got Harrison traveling but by the time this comes out he's back and then we've got the pacifier removed and tantrum.

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