Touring an AI school, honeymoon planning & transitioning to one nap

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1:26Blah, blah, blah. And I thought Jules had a great line earlier, which was, do you know what it, well, what is it? What's more embarrassing? Than not posting. Yeah. When you have good content is not trying. Yes. And then Jules said, yeah, so that's the most embarrassing thing you can do is not try. Yeah. It's cool to try. Jules said trying is cool and I completely agree. I think we should put that on a shirt. Yes. Love it. But easier said than done until like the spotlight is on you. And I guess the context of it. So Jules needs to start making content. Just kidding. I think Jules was saying that to me, but I may need to say it back to her.

2:10No, because Jules doesn't like Harrison makes these really great TikToks and doesn't put them on his Instagram. And so we're talking about why don't you put them on Instagram? Because Nori, Jules' mom, can't see them because she's not on TikTok. and it's a whole problem. Our neighbor can't see them because she doesn't have a TikTok. People want to know what you're up to. You're isolating. I weirdly just feel so different about both platforms and one style of content just feels right for one and not for the other. I haven't updated my Instagram brain. So somebody texted me I'm not going to say who it was.

2:41I need to come up with an Instagram strategy. Like the TikTok strategy is very much like point, following what you do. You're like point, shoot, and go. And Instagram has always been like so planned. And so like because it's planned, nothing ever then goes up. So I need a strategy on what's going to go up there, why, and how. See, you're so different than me. Like I don't think twice about it. I just post, post, post, post, post. And sometimes it's sloppy. Sometimes it's not. And here you are. Like you're the total opposite, which is why we work. But I'm just like post it. but you you need a strategy and you need he needs um what are those things not goals but what's the word pillars no but he needs like kpis yes he needs kpis thank you yeah i i i'm a goal guy i like knowing what the target is and and moving towards it um somebody texted me and they were like hey they're starting a business and they said hey i my business coach recommends that i start making content but i think everybody i went to high school with is going to make fun of me and i wrote back and I said, if I had a dollar for every time I got this question and the, and the people that asked me this question are not people that you would think would ask me this question, but she wants to start making content around her business, like founder, um, content.

3:57And I said, so many people ask me this question and I always respond to them. One of three things and I'll read you the three things. But I said, it's so funny because so many people want to make content, but they're afraid. So I said, and that's a really good reason that you should start doing it because knowing so many people want to do it. But the first thing is people are going to make fun of you until it works like that's always I got made fun of at the beginning and then it starts to work and then as I always said those people that unfollowed me that I knew they had it was awkward they had to follow me back number two was they only don't the ones who make the most fun of you are the ones who wish they had the balls to do it themselves which I do believe is true and then number three I read this somewhere I can't remember who posted it but all content creators have one thing in common they understand the cost of embarrassment because you do like Like you have to go through a period of just like people are truly sending it in the group chat.

4:46Okay. So I want to build off this because I saw a great tweet the other day. Okay. And it said, nobody is good when they first start. Nobody is bad after 10 ,000 tries. And so I think where that gets tricky in all of this is I think when you start, like, I think very few people start making content and are naturally good at it. And so you're going out and you're making stuff that is, you know, often either cringeworthy or bad. And you're doing that publicly. like in in a normal business when you make a bad decision the only people that see it are within like the ecosystem of that business but when you know to kind of like play um uh the empathy to to to you know give empathy to those who aren't putting it out it's like it's because like the the failure is so public and you're just not going to be as good at it at the start as you are 10 000 tries later and so like can you power through is is the question can you power through it's gonna people are gonna say something like people that are close to you they're gonna say something number two you're gonna have a time where like your your comments are mean like and it'll be the video you don't think it and it'll be something that you did that you're like wait what that's what got people mad can you power through that like nobody and here's the thing like everybody thinks not not everybody thinks but nobody everyone starts with a thousand followers and like that's where you have to start is this interesting yeah so it's awkward no one starts with a hundred thousand followers unplanned yeah well we can move on i just i want to say this p brought me um texas roadhouse peanuts a novel day for me because and harrison then tells me which i knew this was going to be the case he's never been to texas roadhouse the Bloomin' Onion and the rolls are like now I want them very badly I'm afraid to go get the Bloomin' Onion though because I wonder if it's what I remember I don't think it's from Texas Roadhouse is it?

7:01Well they have it I think the famous Bloomin' Onion is Outback Steakhouse I think you're right, I was thinking that but like they have it have you guys heard of that thing, that restaurant called Chain? no so this is a cool concept and what they do is they is they recreate the iconic fast food dishes at like a fancy restaurant. So they have like a fancy Bloomin' Onion and like fancy Taco Bell. It's like a LA kind of thing. Okay, I'm not mad about that. What's the ambiance like? I think it's like a celebrity thing. The ambiance is that? It's like started by one of those... Restauranteurs? Like, yeah, some people.

7:44But is it cool on the inside? because like I don't want this to be a cheesy restaurant I think it's really well done okay that's cool and then I think they have a fest and I don't know the exact details but we're in LA next week and if they do have an actual I don't know if it's a pop-up or not Jules you're researching it says something about things being invite only okay can we try we can text again on the list let's try let's try to get the invite to go to chain okay We'll try. All right. Let's talk. Let's do our IRL stuff. And then we're going to get into some other stuff. How vague. Yeah. I think that the rap on it, though, is like I think that a lot of the times it's easier said than done to just like I do think there's an element where like you just need to try and you just need to go.

8:34If it was easy, everyone would do it. Yes. But I do think with content, it is harder than most things because like you fail out loud. It's awkward. You are failing out loud and needing the confidence and putting yourself out there out loud. It takes, it's hard to do it. I struggle with it. It's why I don't post a lot. Totally. Totally. I get it. Okay. Jonas Brothers concert. I, okay. So where to begin? ever since I met Harrison November 4th I knew that you had oh my gosh no whenever were you was Anna at a Jonas Brothers concert when her and I were first talking yeah we went to the Philadelphia concert a big group of us okay so the girl that set Harrison and I up who actually came in town last week and came over and was hanging out with the Bubberator um whenever we were first talking she was like I'm at a Jonas Brothers concert let's get together next week she was at a Jonas Brothers concert with you so I always knew the Jonas Brothers were a big part of your life and tell us again how many concerts you've been to oh a lot like 33 now oh I I couldn't I couldn't put I thought we used to have a number no because I've never I've never tracked it but But the – so they had – Wait, somebody DM'd me and said I was listening to you guys on the podcast and I was on the airplane and I lost Wi-Fi for 30 seconds.

10:07So we sat in silence for 30 seconds and I responded. I said, I'm sure you didn't lose Wi-Fi. I bet Harrison was just thinking. I sat there and laughed at myself. I was like, that was funny, Alex. spit it out today's episode is brought to you by fabletics you guys i love fabletics and guess who else loves fabletics harrison when you live in activewear you can never have enough especially when you're a mom and a dad running around constantly it's the best to have cute good quality activewear and the good stuff usually cost a fortune but that's why we love fabletics you can get pieces that feel premium and perform like the expensive brands without the crazy price tag becoming a fabletics vip is simple when you sign up as a new vip you get 80 off of literally everything you guys and after that the membership is about 60 a month unless you decide to skip it that monthly fee gives you exclusive membership benefits including a credit that you can use towards a full outfit or a bundle up to 100 it's truly unbelievable you guys the quality is so incredible the pieces feel like the kind of high-end active where you'd pay hundreds of bucks for, but you're not having to.

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11:58Um, so no one's back checking. Okay. So, so the, the background and context here is, is I started a business with them called Rob's backstage popcorn, which, uh, they've been, they were eating a popcorn backstage for a decade created by their guitarist father rob uh and they wanted to turn it into a brand so we did that with them it's been a ton of fun we launched the the brand initially on uh their remember this tour yes uh via partnership with live nation that was a really fun and unique way to introduce the brand to market. And then they went on tour again, a year and a half later, plus minus for the album.

12:45And we were super integrated into that tour as well. And so between those two, I've been to a lot of shows and now they're on another tour for their 20 year anniversary they are so much fun these these shows jules was there what'd you think it was great my favorite part was when big rob came out i was actually shaking who's big rob their security guard oh jules is like a lifelong fan you have any concerts have you been to 12. i think that was like nine or nine so my point is i've never seen them in concert and they are so so good i wanted to go i i haven't i don't have a lot of fomo when i'm pregnant but i one i know that they're like a big part of your life two i they're in austin and it was friday night and i wanted to go so bad but i just started getting sick around four and i was like i'm not going to be able to go so harrison went um he took his mom which was lovely because kathy was in town helping us with tate and we were she was able to put tate down and then go which was like best case scenario and you guys just had a great time we'll go to another show on this on this tour when you're feeling better i was hoping that's what i was going to ask you can we find a city and go a hundred percent i think and that was my that was my first show on this tour uh because because we're the popcorn isn't um integrated into this tour the way it was the pat the past ones so i just got spotify like back maybe with july yeah and you know they do the rap and since I've only had it for six months by the time they do the rap, I believe year 3000 will now be on my top three most played songs because I have not stopped listening to it It's a classic SOS is good What's your favorite, Jules?

14:34They didn't do it, Hold On Five More Minutes is a great one They didn't play Walls My other favorite is Mandy Do you know that song? It was their first song and they did the music video in Chicago They got chased by a cop okay i i i mean i'm sure i could another favorite jules is watching music videos i mean when i was 12 yeah true yeah their ability to bring it for 20 years is unbelievable it's unbelievable yeah very few people have have um have managed to have the success that they have for especially over such a long period of time no it's unbelievable and they don't have like their scandal like they deserve it they're they're they're genuinely great people yeah that's really nice to hear okay well buy rob's pop this is a rob's popcorn ad um okay i also want to talk about how we need to start wedding planning i i just i don't feel like doing it right now because like i don't feel good but i know that the timeline is going to sneak up on me then somebody dm'd me because i posted like i was doing a q a yesterday and somebody asked about wedding timing and i was like listen i think it'll be like five or six months after we have the baby and they were like Why wouldn't you just do a year so they can both walk down the aisle and be the flower girls or boys?

15:50I was like, well, that's not a bad idea. It's a great idea. I mean, I love when I hear things for the first time on the podcast. It is a very, very good idea. Food for thought. Having them both walk down the aisle, incredibly cute. Or we could pull a wagon. I was thinking on what you're saying with the planning thing. and like, you know, obvious, like, feels like that's somewhere where you're going to be taking the lead and. I'm so torn though, because now do you know my new thing? Let's hear. So, okay, this is a rabbit hole you got to follow me on, but there's this girl, she had a wedding, her sister's an influencer that I follow.

16:30She had the Jonas Brothers at the wedding now. And so then I followed the sister. She's on her honeymoon and the honeymoon is like, I don't know where she's at she's on one of those like huts though she was in she was in she was on a safari in africa and then they moved to the huts and i'm like well that looks lovely so i'm like do we just do like a really cool honeymoon and like a small wedding i have no idea i have no idea like the world is our oyster i'm so torn so what i think i'm going to do is storyboard out a bunch of ideas and then we can eliminate some okay so as we go on um on the honeymoon topic after having two babies in their two years i want to go sit somewhere there's a place stare at a wall there is a place that i've been saving with a pina colada for my honeymoon a country that tell us no what no what you're not going to tell us no i think i think it may be a surprise it is so good this place that um and i had probably two different options two different opportunities to go and i just said no that's because i was on the quest of uh visiting every country in the world which i don't think is now going to happen no i think you could do it after the kids go to college i don't think you want to go to a lot of the countries in the world i don't and so I think that it's going to be hard actually I think Alex Kost and I yeah that could be something that we do for like our 60th birthdays where we kind of spend you know great idea like that that actually could be a lot of fun if we're like our 60th birthday we go on a six-month trip and then all the places that you and Laura want to come, you meet us at.

18:24Yeah, that's great. I'm all for that. Okay. But hold on. On this honeymoon place, just tell me this. Is the weather and the climate tropical? Yes, beautiful. Okay, so one thing, one area, there's not a lot of areas where you've let me down. One area where you have let me down is the other day. But that's it. That's the only area. We're not keeping that in. we can just bleep it just bleep all of it just bleep every word i said in the sentence it's so great it's i'm joking did you hear it yeah oh no no no okay absurd um okay but one area where like i would blindly follow you is travel you logistically like the only trip i've ever planned was our la hotels when we went out there to that spot like wreck we ended up moving hotels like wreck and so i'm just not the person for it like logistically flights hotels restaurants you are the best so i'm excited for this a lot of experience so like i would happily go on a surprise honeymoon with you with pleasure yeah i think the important part of it would be you know you being you letting me know like what you care about and what type of experience you're looking for and then me planning around that this place though based off of what you've said to me I definitely will think think will land I like don't want to leave the hotel maybe once or twice for a really cool dinner or an excursion but I want a hotel and I want the hotel to have a lot to do well I just want to chill the gate the thing that we discussed that we did discuss about this is doing and when I say discussed there was a text send if we do the first half of the honeymoon with Bubz and baby number two.

20:13Yeah, Jellybean. And then the second half of The Honeymoon Just Us. Who's like flying them though for 12 hours home? I have a plan. Okay. I have a plan. Okay, because. I have a plan. It's seeming, oh, that's a lot of logistics, but we'll work on it. Okay. I wanted to talk about the Louvre robbery. I would love to talk about this. People are ecstatic. they're thrilled to have an old school crime back you know no cyber hacking just an old school blue collar robbery i keep seeing things that are like imagine like this song playing in the background as you get away with you i'm just mad they dropped the crown like you had one job and they did pretty darn good and then they dropped the crown but like what is happening let's talk about magnetic me because Bubbers loves her magnetic me.

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22:35Okay, I agree. But if you can get in to the museum without setting off the alarms. Which they did. Without hurting anyone. Which they did. You get to keep it. No, that's what everyone's saying. Everyone's like, just let them have it. They earned it. No one was hurt. No one was hurt. That's what I love. That's what I love. Everyone would have a different tone if somebody got hurt. Nobody was hurt. And even if we're talking like no security guard was pushed over. Nobody got hit in the face. They just went in and out in four minutes. Do you think you'd be a good burglar? No. Where I think I would be good is like, have you seen the movie Focus with Will Smith and Margot Robbie?

23:19Of course. That's a good one. That's kind of an area where I think I would be okay because there's some talking and interpersonal things happening, but just strictly going in and out in four minutes, no. Did you hear about like what they think they're going to do with the jewels? What do they think? Dismantle them and sell them? So I heard that there's two potential tracks. One is that this was like a privately mandated job. So like someone wanted the stuff specifically and paid the people to go get it. Holler. And so now it's going right into someone's private collection. Love it. Like I'm for that.

23:53Okay. and then the the other option though and and and i think that's kind of interesting um and then the second is they are gonna melt it all down and break it apart and get it and like try and get cash for it very very not down with that i don't like that one as much i think that these jewels like they need to stay intact if it's going to someone's private collection and then in like five years somebody ends up finding it it goes back into the museums that's cool this is cool because nobody was hurt. But I love the idea of some like multi-billionaire being like, I'll give you each a million dollars, go get this thing.

24:29I just wonder if when they didn't come back with the crown, if then the million dollars turned 800 grand, you know, did he dock some? I don't know. Or if this was a movie, the crown that was dropped would have been like a fake crown to throw everyone off. That would have been good. Juicy. Yeah, maybe it was. all i know is i don't think they're gonna find these guys because they don't have security cameras in that area so they got nothing they're not gonna find them it's pretty incredible it's pretty incredible let's move on but i just gotta give a round of applause and tiktok was loving it when alex is pregnant she gets more interested in anything online going on online i have a couple more things to talk about yeah gotta do some more reading um okay now we're gonna talk about the tater totski and then we're gonna talk about pregnancy so the totski is having an eventful week she's dropped from one nap no tate's dropped from two naps to one nap and the reason we did that was because on saturday she started boycotting her second nap like when i say boycotting her second nap she's like standing in her crib bouncing jumping screaming so we're like she doesn't want to take it so we didn't give her her second nap she was fine she went to bed at seven she slept till 7 30 a.m no problem sunday i was like let's just try and drop the nap like we've already done it one day let's do a second day no problem so we're on day four of one nap and so a lot of people said why she dropped from two to one nap she dropped from two to one nap because she naturally started boycotting her second nap now the new thing that's occurred is the past two days she's woken up at four.

26:09The first day that she woke up at four, she stayed awake. And I'm telling you what, this baby was wide awake, like having a blast. So I had her yesterday morning, this morning, Harrison got her. She woke up and then he took her downstairs and was feeding her. And she was like falling asleep while she was eating. So he was like, okay, well, she's still tired. So then you put her back to bed and she slept for two hours. Um, there's a, there's a 12 month sleep regression. I assume we're going through that. We asked chat GBT and with the 12 month Sleep regression is things like food, having opinions on food, which is starting to happen.

26:44Really crying when a parent leaves the room, which is definitely happening. So she's got, I think she's just going through a regression. So what we're going to do is give it a week and then reassess. But it just might be one of those weeks where we get up at four every day. Like we'll just have to see. But that never really bothers me. We've done this a lot before. Yeah. You've done a very good job at really staying on the transitions, right? Like the transitions from dropping a bottle to dropping the nap. I feel like often I operate under the mindset of, if it ain't broke, don't fix it. And...

27:21But she naturally tells us. For sure. But you're really on the ball with like, okay, how does what she's telling us line up with the traditional sequence of events? But where... And then the question... Give me some flowers here. Thank you. Thank you. And then the question's going to be like, how do you, how do I know, how did I even know to drop a nap? And a lot of it's talking to my mom friends. Like, that's where mom friends, even if you don't have a friend, like a mom friend connection in person, just like a texting one. But anyways, so, okay, we're also brushing her teeth now. That's a new one with a little finger toothbrush.

27:57It's so cute. It looks like a, like a thimble with like spikes on the bottom. And you get this little baby toothbrush. That's to avoid bottle rot. but the other thing we got to do is officially cut the bottles i want to better understand this okay if she so you're supposed to cut all the bottles by 15 months we know how i feel about this like supposed to do it by x like take it or leave it i want to try to do it by then because then i know it gets harder because she gets smarter so the reason you cut it is she doesn't need them anymore and you don't want her to become too attached to it okay but i think on the other end like i've noticed that she eats really slow like she loves food but she eats really really slow and and we i find that we struggle to get her full without the bottle no we were getting her like and still are getting her really really full that's why she doesn't drink all her bottles she just drinks like two to three ounces so now it's a crutch so what we got to do is move to the sippy cup with milk in it we just got to try it we just got to try it we just got to cut them we're gonna do it we're gonna so we'll report next we're gonna start i i trust you okay so we're gonna start to cut it we're gonna i don't think she loves the taste of milk and if she doesn't love the taste of milk it's fine we can just give her yogurt which we have in the fridge always i like that sammy's milk thing i've been doing but that's formula honey no that's like a that is it that is a toddler version you can give it to her in a sippy cup though okay we can't get her attached to the bottle i like all the nutrients in it yeah it's just it that's fine but we just need to put it in a bottle or in a sippy cup okay okay so that's the thing going on with vibrator um pregnancy update i started wearing these seasick bands i do they work the first day i think it was placebo because i felt the best i felt in four or five weeks was Monday night like yesterday not so hot this morning I put a new one on and I feel great right now great stretch I feel good right now and we're starting to trend I can tell it's coming on the nausea is coming on but I I haven't done like multiple throw-ups in a day and probably like four or five days so that's been really nice so I mean the weekend you were yep you were puking yeah you know it's Wednesday so three days okay so three days okay and we'll call that that's great that's really exciting amazing so thank you um I don't know like I just think listen I had a great day Monday and then I thought I always do this I think I'm over it I've made it and it's like then yesterday I'm humbled again so I just have to take it day by day and say I don't know how I'm going to feel and I canceled a coffee this morning I probably could have gone but I told her yesterday and she's also pregnant I said hey today's a bad day I don't know what tomorrow holds and we record tomorrow so all of my energy has to go to that so here's my observation okay my observation is we are seeing minor week-on-week improvements I think you're right and it's hard to remember and it's hard to remember that and i'm judging by just like obviously what you're telling me but how much time you're spending in bed versus how much time you're spending um kind of on the move and just like the general like just my general read on on your levels so like i am in well i i like i feel for you every single day i am encouraged at at the trending like three weeks ago I think what like we maybe not like forgetting is like there was a three-day period where you actually didn't get out of bed you could not get out of bed like yeah you you had to have I actually don't think we've talked about this um things were so bad you couldn't have a screen on so you couldn't have the TV on no light you couldn't look at your phone you couldn't turn on the hallway light like you were i've never seen um someone so sick so like buried in my bed oh it's awful i gotta i gotta you know give you encouragement that i'm i'm i'm seeing it and i i know like you're still feeling rough but that no that's really that's really good and true and like we have a girls night tonight and i really want to go and i told you this morning like there's always a chance like everything's 50 50 for me right now but i could have never gone my prediction my prediction is you're gonna go tonight because like friday i knew you weren't gonna make it to the concert you can tell in the morning i can tell where like based off the pop in your step and it feels like even if today is even if you feel best in the morning, it feels like what are you coming, what's the high you're coming off of?

33:06And today it feels like you're coming off of a good high. I don't know, as the outsider. Well, do you know what I'm trying to do today? What? What I'm trying to do in general? What? I do think my outfits, like I do think getting up and getting dressed to some capacity helps a little bit. Makes a lot of sense. So I am trying to like not wear pajamas. The second I put my PJs on, it's over. So I'm going to try to wear this all the way to the girls night tonight. You look amazing. Well, it's not the point, but like I'm just saying, getting dressed a bit helps. This show is brought to you by BetterHelp.

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34:57That's BetterHelp, H-E-L-P.com slash two parents. Okay, so now we're going to move on to Picker of the Week. Okay. And this one came up last night. We were driving. Well, I was actually driving, and I needed my gum out of my purse. And so I was like, hey, can you get my gum out of my purse? Turns out, Harrison's like, I can't find the gum in the purse. And I'm like, hand it to me. I know I can find it. I actually didn't put the gum in my purse. but it sparked a question because Harrison's point was I can't find anything in your purse ever and it's a disaster like I have a diaper in there I got all this stuff thrown in my purse and I know where everything is right because it's messy but it's mine so the point Harrison made was when you ask for something specific out of your purse should I bring you the specific thing out of your purse and go deep dive into that hole or should I just bring you your whole purse And I felt like Growing up You were always told Like never look In a woman's purse That's very true Right And never do And never look In a woman's purse And so I feel like I am Like I don't know How to navigate the purse You can look in my purse But it's intimidating Like I just When you tell me To go and look For something in there It's a deep dark hole It's just there's 80 items I don't wanna And they're random I'm like, there's jewelry just in case I'm out and about and want earrings.

36:15Here's my question for you. Okay. Is there any organization, like, you know how sometimes like you're messy, like people can be messy organized. Like the pile of clothes in our room, while it looks messy, I can tell you exactly where everything is. Right. And so my concern is like, when I look at the purse and it's so messy, one, it's going to take me forever to find it. But two, like, I'm going to mess up whatever organization you had here. I don't have like organization within them within the purse like within the different pouches no but because I just throw everything in there but I do know everything that's in there like I have my backup lip gloss and my real lip gloss I have my earrings in there in case I'm ever caught out and about and don't have my earrings on I will never wear these earrings I have my wallet but then I have like two cards strung in the thing in case my wallet's out like it's a disaster I have a diaper loose I have a formula packet loose I have like wipes loose it's like it's ridiculous in there yeah I just I have receipts I have gum the like obviously I'm happy to do it no I know you are I do think it makes a little bit more to bring the purse what is the most like efficient way to deal with this process and that is I think I bring you the purse yeah unless I'm driving I think you gotta dive in there and find it that's the only caveat yes and the gum wasn't in there there's so much like digging there's so much like searching that I get nauseous it is it's a lot of searching i agree i've kind of come on your side of the bicker of the week so now that we've solved the bicker of the week and i kind of conceded is that the word because at a war term yeah so the takeaway is i think you just bring them the purse unless their hands are tight like if i'm holding tate you gotta get it unless you actually like need the help it's just not an efficient process yeah i know i agree um Okay, so now we're going to talk about school because Harrison sent a very interesting statistic.

38:13Would you like to present it to the class? What the tweet said is by the time your kid enters kindergarten, over 40 % of your parenting time has already passed. And by middle school, it's already two-thirds gone. That is so crazy to think about how limited time you have with your kid actually at home. Exactly. Then I also saw 15 ,000 extra hours if you homeschool them because you're with them. Yeah. And so that kind of opened up the can of worms of like, how are we thinking about schooling? And I'm not thinking about homeschooling. When they get into, listen, do I want to keep bubs at home and around the house as much as possible?

38:56Yes. because like right now this morning for example we were watching the spanish version of if you're happy and you know it clap your hands and they were stomping their feet then there was like a oh no and winnie and tate like clap and they can and we it was us and the neighbors just standing in a circle watching them and like moments like that are so precious and like being so involved in this dropping of the nap yes all of this stuff is really beautiful and really fun but where where I'm at on this is I don't want to go in blind as to this is the way that things need to be done right like I don't want to be a she needs to go to private school she needs to go to public school she can't homeschool what I want to do is I want to look holistically end to end at all the different schooling options and then come to some come to a conclusion of something that we are both excited about for each specific child.

39:52And so I think the second layer to it as well is like, I don't think we should be making blanket schooling decisions for all of our kids. I think we should do it on a kid by kid, a kid by kid basis. And so I encourage, like I don't have a view on homeschooling yet, but what I hope you would do is I hope that you will look at homeschooling and the benefits and the negatives. And I hope that you'll weigh it as a potential option the way that will weigh all everything. Let me jump in here. When I, what I've just realized is when I think of homeschooling, I think of me homeschooling just Tate. That's not your idea of it, is it?

40:34No, no. Because I am not for that. Yes. It feels isolating for the both of us. Yes. Some people love it. It would not be for me. Totally. But are you down for a school at home with six kids that's taught by somebody like an extension of the nanny share i think that that's something that i think that's me not home school though that's a school at home i think i think i'm getting tripped up on the word okay and and that's totally fair that's totally fair um so um long-winded way of now getting to the alpha school yes but harrison you cannot just jump to the alpha school okay sorry you can but you're going to have to explain the Alpha School.

41:15The Alpha School is an AI-powered school. It's like a very new age style school. Which sounds off-putting. If I'm the listener, I'm like an AI school, so keep going. Yes. Because I thought this too, guys. And so I think where they're quite different than traditional schools is they only do two hours of traditional learning a day, and then the rest of the day is spent building life skills like um so i found this is really interesting i want to pull up i pulled up some of the life skills per grade so i guess to before we do that so we went to like a seminar education last night to to hear more about it and it was the kids did the presentation the girl presenting used aggregate and quantifiable she was so smart so well spoken she was in what she had a makeup brand she was launching a makeup brand a skin through the school skincare for athletes because she said it's a white space this is future presidential candidate and and the boy was doing the y combinator for um teenagers which is like an accelerator like a startup accelerator program so that's that's a great kind of build on that's a great build on into the life skills that the school encourages you to develop and gives you time at school to do it so those are examples of two life skills public speaking entrepreneurship that you take on um the other thing that they said that i thought was really interesting is they pulled up a chart on um like happiness polling at traditional schools which is like i hated school i hated school i would get up and i dreaded going and i felt like that was really common with a lot of my peers totally and and that was common whether you went to public school whether you went to private school you know like generally speaking i felt like satisfaction rates amongst students is very low and their satisfaction rates are 95 percent of their students are happy um and then the other thing that really jumped out to me was so they don't call them teachers they call them guides but the guides get reviewed by the students and if the guides have bad reviews from the students the guides are fired and i found that incredibly empowering and this is not we're talking high school so this isn't um obviously for like pre-k because it's pre-k through 12 um so we're talking about the high school uh seminar that that they spoke to yesterday i where i found that really empowering is like we had teachers growing up that were unbelievable.

44:21Um, and, uh, some of which I'm still in contact with today, but there were other teachers that were a problem and their problem for me and their problem for a lot of kids. And we felt helpless in terms of what we could do about it. And, um, you know, they were protected. And I thought that it's really cool to be taking into account the, um, the high schoolers feedback. So, yeah. Well, I saw a clip go viral on something of a girl talking to her teacher and the class average on a test was a 41. Yeah. She raised her hand and she said, if the class average is a 41, we're not set up to succeed. Like that's a you problem, not a student problem because like we're not equipped enough for this test.