Transitioning from 1-to-2 kids, mommy & me dance class & admin nights

36:59And the comments were interesting because the most liked one was zero to one because everything changes. But there was a ton, like I think overwhelming amount of people said one to two. So the most liked comment was, you know, everything changes when you have your first kid. But I think more people commented one to two. And then there was a couple that said three, but here's the thing, like, because at three what do you do somebody said it really well you go from running man to man to zone yeah but i think for me like did anyone my take on this is very much kid dependent what you have two easy kids then it's it's fine like i think if your first kid is easy then the transition from one to two is going to be harder assuming the second gets hard right if the first kid's hard then the transition from one to two is going to be easier than um than zero to one was.

37:55I think in general. Like I think that, and when I say hard, like just the basic things like sleeping, feeding, and so on and so forth. And like Tate did that stuff in as easy as a way as one can. And so I think that that leaves us particularly like, like I think one to two for us is probably going to be very, very hard. I thought we took zero to one in stride. Like I was very proud of us. Like while you do lose a lot of the autonomy of like getting up in the morning and being able to do whatever you want. You know, that all changed, but I think A, we wanted it and B, we just, we enjoyed it. But I do think one to two for us, and we don't know what this baby boy holds.

38:37He could be colicky. He could not sleep. He might not latch. He might have digestion. Like you have no idea what's going to happen and come what may, but I do think one to two for us, because right now it's you and I on Bubber and it's about to be you and I on one-on-one. Yeah, I'm ready to get rocked. No, same. I'm fully expecting baby number two to like, I mean, I'm expecting it to just be a complete SHIT show. But I think us being able to watch our friends around us, we're like, okay, one to two is going to be hard. It's going to be hard. But this is coming from people that want three to four to five kids.

39:18I think that the only way I see us not getting rocked is if he's a good sleeper and if he's like a clear communicator and not. A clear communicator? Where I gotta give Bubba so much credit, she's a very clear communicator. Now, but she wasn't. I felt and I think you can pull the tapes I've been giving her credit on her cues from probably like month three or four, have I not? She's so good with her cues. Well, and she was one of three things, right? She was tired, she was hungry. What's the other one? I can't remember. Uncomfortable? Needed a diaper change? Yeah. And diaper change was always at the bottom of the list.

39:58Like, she most of the time wanted milky. Yeah, but all of that, obviously, out of our control and very kid-specific and, like, you know, the minute that they're colicky, all that gets, or something like that, all that gets thrown out the window. Well, and I think the thing is, too, we're going to have this baby and then Bubba's going to be around, too. You know? And we don't know what that age is going to hold for her but like it's going to be more opinions and so i don't want to sit here and be like it's going to be i think it's going to be very hard i think we're ready for it we're excited about it but i don't want to say it's going to be easy yeah we need to be ready for things to get turned upside down i'll also say like the stress levels going into baby two versus baby one feel very very different and it's like i think there's just a sense of familiarity with our life and where we're living.

40:47And, um, like even at the OB, like we're, we know everyone there. We know, um, the doctor, we know the nurses, we know the lady who does the scan. And so I feel like it's just like everything from A to Z is just like a lot, a lot more calming. Like the nursery this time around versus last time around, it was like, We made the decision to do it. And 48 hours, 48 hours later, like the ball was rolling on it and it'll be done pretty quickly. Guys, I cannot tell you how much I love Quince. You've heard me talk about their Mongolian cashmere sweaters. And here's the thing. We're all starting the year with the wardrobe refresh, which is where Quince comes in, because they have you covered with luxe essentials that feel effortless and look polished.

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42:58They were called swaddles. and we were like when do you use swaddles when do you get rid of the swaddles what drawer should we put the swaddles in so we texted our friends from back in oklahoma city that have kids and we were like what do we do with the swaddles and they were like okay second drawer like you're going to use them a lot the first three months and then you're going to get rid of them and now like i know i got rid of a lot of stuff yesterday i was doing i was purging the bottle washing section because i overbought and i'm like i need that dryer and i need that washer oh that's it big pivot on most recommended product which complete is completely unused now completely unused and use was like our favorite over the first six months why the warm towel wiper i just got rid of it just got rid of it why because there's not an outlet in bub's room and you know what i don't want to do anymore refill the light i don't want to cover the light in her room and i don't want to refill the wipe warmer i'm done like the wipe the wipes stay in the package it's not cute we're not cute anymore but i loved it for those first six months because she wanted to be warm yeah and now i feel like she like doesn't care about that stuff she doesn't care at all but she wanted to be warm at first we might end up getting another one for him because he does have an outlet right in the right spot but okay um yeah like i just think simplifying so it is funny though no we didn't i'll never forget being in the hospital and the nurse was about to leave for the first time.

44:22She was like, just remember diaper changes. And we were like, oh man, we don't know how to change a diaper. And she had to show us. Yeah. And what did she say? Straps at the back. Tabs in the back. And we were like, oh, because we had the diaper on wrong. Yeah. She was like, hey guys, just put the tabs in the back. Always remember that. Yeah. I just can't believe how many less questions there are this time around. We did not know she didn't drink water. They were like milk only. And we were like milk only. How often do we give her the milk? what else did we not know? We didn't know how to swaddle.

44:56Didn't know how to swaddle. And even seeing it now with our friends that just had kids, the difference in their neck support. Yeah. Like how flimsy their necks are over the first six months. That is a crazy one. Yeah, and you have to do full support, and they're so – I forget how little they are. Their legs, they just – Well, they can't straighten their legs. Yeah. it's really quite cute um okay well the one thing that i skipped over that i wanted to talk about in the food department was so i put up an insta story because i just feel like i'm going to the grocery store like it's getting crazy right and we only have winnie and tate three days at our house but we have we have tate every breakfast and every dinner but for lunch and snack time tate and winnie monday wednesday friday are with us i can't keep berries in stock and i can't keep eggs in stock and somebody messaged me was like how many eggs does Harrison eat a day and it's like no it's not Harrison it's me because I eat probably six eggs a day I did three eggs a day yeah I think you guys had 72 eggs in your refrigerator and Jules we're halfway through the second carton and it's Tuesday I've never seen so many eggs in my life one carton is already out every week we go through three large cartons of eggs so how many three and a half every Sunday I we have half Half of it left.

46:15Pardon? Aren't those big ones 18? Yeah. So 18 times three. 72. No. No. No, no, no. 56. 56. But 72 because there's four cartons in there because we have half of it left. But here's the thing. Maria's always making a banana bread. That math is upside down. Maria's always making a banana bread. She's always making a muffin. So she's using a bunch of eggs. And then I'm eating right when I get up, I have two eggs. And then I have an omelet with three eggs later in the day. Bubber loves that. Like everyone's eating eggs. Have you looked at this, speaking of eggs, this Vital Farms controversy? No. I went and read about it.

46:50Really? This is all over my Twitter. So Vital Farms responded. Okay. Can you explain it? Yes. So Vital Farms, which was. I haven't followed it closely. I've only seen the headlines. So I'm going to have to lean on you here. Okay, all I know about the Vital Farms thing is apparently they got bought by somebody big. But the thing about it is I don't think they're feeding their chickens as clean as they used to. Yeah. Which a lot of people are mad about. That's the way I read it. I read it is the consumers thought that their eggs were going through a certain process. And it appears they're going through a different process.

47:36so the consumer feels misled yeah the consumer feels misled and here's the problem like vital farms responded with the store with the whole video on their page with like a voiceover being like traceability transparency is key and everybody was like you kind of just confirmed what we said um and a lot and this is this is the social media craze people are all switching eggs myself included i'm a central market egg buyer now but these eggs that i'm buying now the 18 count i think they're three dollars and 50 cents cheaper than the vital farms nice and they're the same exact all this the thing you know claims the same claims are on there that i feel good about so anyways we're going through a ton of eggs and berries and so i asked my mom's group on instagram I was like, all right, what's like the one food you can't keep in stock?

48:28And the responses were really funny. Number one, berries, raspberries. Number two, bananas, which we also can't keep in stock. Number three, tractor wheels, which I thought was really funny. Tractor wheels? Just like a bunch of boys love the tractors and the tractor wheels. I don't know what a tractor wheel is. Like a wheel on a tractor. It's not a food, honey. Oh. And then the number. But then how is that keeping them in stock? It's just something they can't keep in stock. It was a funny response. And then this is my favorite one. Water, but only from mom's water bottle. And like that is the most true thing on the planet.

49:07Because like Bubber always just wants our agua. Never her agua, our agua. Yeah, she loves to eat and drink what we're eating. Very spot on. And then number five is yogurt. Like yogurt pouches and in yogurt in general, like kids love yogurt. For us though, it's the Solis. But didn't you mention that a lot of people were talking about buying frozen berries? Yeah, I was going to ask if you guys looked into it. So, okay, a lot of people were responding on the video saying, why don't you try buying frozen berries? Okay, super down. What do you do? Do you dethaw them? How do they then eat the frozen berries?

49:42And do babies care if they're eating frozen? Because to me, the idea of eating frozen berries, I'm getting shivers thinking about it. Same, same. So I'd assume you dethaw them Or like maybe babies just don't care I literally have shivers right now I don't know what happens when you do dethaw them I have like moisture in my mouth forming Yeah it's Pavlov's dog But like frozen fruit and frozen vegetables It's like they're My mom says this They're supposed to be like peak nutrition Because they freeze them Harrison you could correct But like they freeze them When they're in their best shape So they're I think supposed to be like really good for you i don't see bubber being like down but like why is frozen fruit taste so bad frozen grapes taste amazing but like frozen grapes taste great when you freeze them but frozen blueberries don't taste the same as blueberries you know what and i've been freezing raspberries and those taste very different than frozen raspberries i agree with that because frozen raspberries amazing what true fruit not an ad so good we had it last night it is actually like it's so good it i it has to be the best home dessert that exists it's unbelievable if you're buying like a package product no the true fruit i'm on a frozen fruit kick another thing maria did okay this is killer so she took strawberries not strawberries took raspberries mixed them with plain greek yogurt chocolate and honey and froze them on a platter and cut them into bark oh my But Bubber could eat those and I couldn't.

51:18Did Bubber eat those? Yeah. It's a great food for Bubber. Can you guys comment? So if you have recipes that your toddler loves, please comment them because Maria made this tortilla out of sweet potatoes, broccoli. I don't know what it was. To me, I ate all. She made me some and then I ate all of Bubber's plate because Bubber would not eat them. But Winnie ate them all. and so I want to try some more recipes that your toddlers love. Yeah, it's a great call. And I actually have a recipe for you to make tonight while we're at Mom Daughter Dance. So you cut up the chicken into these little cubes and then you just, it's just a chicken recipe.

52:00I don't know what you're going to do with it. I have an excess amount of chicken. Okay. So I just need you to make chicken and then I need you to add some stuff. Can we do a chicken casserole? Yeah, and I got you a bunch of veggies to put in there with it. Okay. And then bake it while we're gone because when we get back, we're going to be starving. Okay. Okay, great. Very exciting stuff. You guys know Harrison and I are both focusing on our health this year, especially before baby number two comes. We're trying to get it all dialed by April. And here's the thing. We're trying to eat better. We're trying to feel better.

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53:43Learn more and join using our link. Visit www.functionhealth.com slash two parents, or use gift code two parents 25 for a$25 credit towards your membership. Okay. We got Starlink because we've had it with our wifi. It's arrived. It gets installed on Monday. The only experience Harrison and I have was Starlink as we flew from Hawaii Airlines Park City to Hawaii and we had Starlink and Harrison was able to answer a phone call on a plane? This wifi was high speed I have a question I have a very good question for the group I was working at Desnudo Coffee Shop a new great coffee shop in Clarksville and the guy across for me it's in west side market with the bookstore it's unbelievable it's a very good coffee shop it's why i have this noodle by me it's our new spot but this is an indoor one vibe vibe's phenomenal they got a book short book store which it extends to the gentleman sitting across from me took a phone call like took a zoom sitting so i was at a big table of four and he was sitting across from me and he was just ripping a zoom out loud he had headphones in are you allowed at a coffee shop to do a zoom call a lot of people do zoom calls at coffee shops i it's not for me it's not it's not my taste buds i think in a pinch if you have to you need to take your volume down to like an amicable level as though you were having a conversation with somebody across from you but i think you need to get up and walk to like an area kind of off to yourself to yourself but like yeah i'm down for you to take a zoom at a coffee shop yeah i just think it depends on the coffee shop like there's some coffee shops you can take a zoom at and there's some that if it's a crowded coffee shop that just depends on the culture of the coffee shop also like chaotic background like i think my take on this like i went i had a i had a big 12 o 'clock call and so i went home to take that call i think if you're gonna be a prominent speaker on the call you can't take it at the coffee shop.

55:54I think if you're going to be a passive speaker on the call and just kind of chime in here or there then it is coffee shop appropriate. I agree with that. This guy was the clear primary speaker on the call and so it was just like it was a lot. Was he talking loud? It was just yeah it was a lot. Yeah that to me is like a bit read the room that's a little disruptive. In a pinch if you have to I get it and like I would even look at the crowd. But I think you peel off to the corner like there was a seat in the corner that I was looking at. it i agree i agree with you i do think i think it's a lot i think it's a lot for copy shop culture to have to digest that kind of behavior yeah i'm with you all right so kind of our rules are if you're a prominent speaker step off to the side if you have to take a primary speaker primary speaker primary speaker and you and here's the thing let's also think about the people on the zoom i hate when i can hear like background chatter on the zoom call you know so i i do i would like you to step off to the side yeah he lives in in your neighborhood and his wi-fi is just awful take but that's where you gotta step to the side yeah yeah i'm all for it i'm all for it but i think you gotta just peel off a little bit yeah and keep and and just keep the tone agree agree with at a reasonable level and that may and i guess i guess maybe here's the the punch line it can't feel different than if you were having if the people beside you were having coffee together and I think that's what got me on this one.

57:18It was like there was so much animation. Yeah. If it disrupted you, I can only imagine how I would have felt. Well, I take my calls like what I like about this West Side Market is I just take my calls walking and I just kind of pace through it. You don't notice a lot. Like you're not easily like offended by – I'm always like, hey, Harrison, some court aware. I think this guy – I think I would have been like, can you go over there? i think that i was gonna say the same thing if you noticed it i i assume he was talking like this yeah yeah he was yeah that's funny okay um well i think it's i think it's actually a good time for us to go to the bicker of the week talking about things that are can you or can you not do So, LOL to this because I think audiobook versus – I think the bigger of the week of audiobook versus actually reading.

58:18Do they both equal reading? And I loved what – whoever put it out – was it you, P, that put it on our Insta story today? That was me. That was very funny. It was like – wait, what did the comments say? It said, if I watch the podcast on Spotify, did I listen to the podcast? It was funny. It was a good – No. You watched it. It's a good clapback. And thank you for watching. And on that note, thank you for watching. I'll say thank you to our listener. Thank you. Do you see what Jules are there? Thank you to our listener. Not thank you to our watcher. So that's probably our most debated one. It sounds as though people were waiting for somebody to debate audiobook versus reading and if they are the same thing.

58:59And then somebody commented, this is the equivalent of saying you ran five miles, but you ran it on a treadmill. so this week's bicker of the week is is running five miles on a treadmill equivalent to running five miles outside a hundred percent this is like the biggest non um question like it is the same thing i can't believe like i think it's okay here's running five miles outside and running five miles on a treadmill is one-to-one it is apples to apples i think running outside is harder where you can't dispute is that you both ran five miles i just don't think we can call them of equal um hardness i jules i think i mean it's mentally more taxing to run five miles on a treadmill so that's that's the caveat i just totally disagree a lot of people get really bored on a treadmill i prefer to run or walk on a treadmill it's my happy place when you get me outside the terrain changes are up and down i'm i'm bored out of my mind outside when i'm on a treadmill i can i can drift off into imagination like i prefer a treadmill the only thing is running outside i think is harder because there's going to be inclines and declines what if you do inclines on a treadmill that's bs like it's kind of a controlled environment i agree with you though harrison like it's just five miles is five miles like if someone says i ran five miles today i I don't care if they ran five miles on the treadmill or they ran five miles on the trail.

1:00:36Versus with books, if you tell me you read five books and you listen to them, it matters. I would be such a hypocrite if I just came in here and I was like, five miles on the treadmill is not five miles. But where I think we're going to get stumped here is marathon runners. I don't think a marathon on the treadmill counts as a marathon outside. I texted the friend group before this because I have two of my best friends are marathon runners. And I was like, I need the opinions. And they were like, well, how is this even a question? It's just the mileage is the mileage. And Eileen, who like runs three hour marathon, she trained for an entire marathon on a treadmill once.

1:01:16See, I don't I maybe that's true. I'm not a marathon runner. I would just think marathon runners would be like, no, I want to know if you're training for a marathon, if you're doing it on the treadmill or if you're doing it outside. By the way, to me, the title of if you're a marathoner, the definition of that is you run a marathon a year. Not that you've ran a marathon before. She's a marathoner. So like you said three hours. That's way faster than I've ever done. So I wanted to give that. And I think that's an important delineation. Just because you ran a marathon doesn't make you a marathoner.

1:01:50I think a marathoner won a year. Because that means you're doing them. Not that you've done them. I agree with that. Yeah. We call them thonners. Yeah. I'm not a thoner. But you can run marathons. I've done one or two. How many have you done? Cape Town and London. You've only ran two marathons? Yeah. Inner Mongolia was a half marathon. How many half marathons have you done? I did that. I did San Francisco. I did. The thing about you is you have a ton of stamina. So like you can just mentally say, I'm going to do a half marathon and go out and do it. Well, to me, the mindset with my first marathon was like, okay, if I consistently work out for an hour, if my workouts are consistently an hour and, you know, most people target running a sub four hour marathon, then it's just four times my normal workout.

1:02:47So I should be able to power through that. And so that's how I got to my first one. Yeah. I know mentally though it's the thing about you is you you have stamina you even have it in everyday life I noticed like you can just like get a lot of stuff done you like moved all we were in bed Monday morning and he just like popped up he's like we got to move the rooms if we don't do it now we're never doing it and I came out of the bedroom and I was like every room was moved you moved Barbara out of her room and into the other room thank you in like 30 minutes Frank was there to help yeah the painter was there but like you guys were taken off doors and then it was time for nap time and maria texted me tate doesn't have a door and i was like oh and frank wouldn't put it back on but it was funny um okay taking off doors when you're moving furniture is just it saves so much time oh my gosh yes because you don't have to dismantle the furniture but like i this is what i thought i thought our house was in complete disarray and then i went and i checked everything out and we're pretty good shape we're not in such We're not so far off, which I'm feeling good about.

1:03:49The only problem is Harrison's closet was in the playroom, and now you've had to move your closet back into our room. But I'm good. We're going to do a small little built-in thing. No one's going to notice it. It's going to be right in the corner, and we're going to be good. I'm going to notice it. It's taking the place of my floor-length blue mirror that I love more than anything. So I am going to notice the built-ins. However, I'm going to love them because your clothes are going to go in them. What if we put mirrors on the Beltins? Oh, my God. You just got my full attention. I'm thrilled about that.

1:04:24Thrilled. Great, great solution. I emailed the lady. She has an email back. So we're also building a breakfast nook. Over where our table is, we're going to do like a – I'm hoping it can be mohair, but like a booth, two-parts booth, and then the other two – it's a circular table, so they won't be sides. but the other two sides of the table will be chairs which just is like a dream for me it's a dream i may push back on the circle table you know what i am not going to die on the hill of a circle and i will give you a square i won't give you a rectangle okay but i think the problem is the dimensions are rectangular i just think if you get the booth side so long people are like hey can you let me out to go to the bathroom don't love that well they're coming tomorrow to do the measuring so we'll figure it out then i'm just glad we're doing it we're also we're also getting a new couch which anthropology has the dimensions wrong online and i don't think so they do and i called them what was wrong with them i think that's for one so we're looking at an l-shaped couch i think the dimensions online are for one part of the l okay we're just gonna order that today and then i called them and i said hey i think your dimensions are wrong online.

1:05:40And she's like, the only thing we have to tell you is what's online. I was like, so you want me to spend this amount of money on a couch and not neither of us are sure of the dimensions. She's like, the best I can do is have an email to you in 72 hours. And I said, great, but are they going to email me what's online? She was like, most likely. And I was like, here's where you're getting me. Okay. It's called the Denver couch, the Denver L shaped couch. There's two online. One's floral, one's green. The green one is 120 inches. The floral one for some reason is 80 inches. To me, they're looking like the same couch.

1:06:13I would rather it be the longer dimensions. She's like, I don't know. I'm like, this isn't your fault. It's Anthropologie's. Okay, well, are we ordering it? I tried the chatbot. They don't have dimensions. Are you ordering it? No, we can't just guess. Dimensions are like the key. Why would I order it? I thought you said we were ordering it so then I put it so then I asked chat GBT I said hey what are the dimensions of the Denver floral couch and it said the 118 if it's the 118 by 80 it fits perfectly is floral what we should be doing in that room yes it is here's why I think pattern disrupts from when Bubber takes a sharpie to it.

1:07:07And the day will come. And this fabric is wipeable. I looked. How far away do you think Bubber is from sharpening things? We're going to let her know. Do not sharpie. I think she's very close. I think this is the age. Well, here's the thing. She would have sharpied on her whole bed the other day had the cap pin off. She was going like this with it. She doesn't know if the cap's on or off. When she's got that dry board thing, it she just but it's an innocent thing like she doesn't know she why why would it make sense to a little brain that she can color on her pink board but she can't color on the bed totally when there's a sharpie sitting by the bed that's like so confusing so what we have to do right now is remove the risk remove the sharpies from the equation yeah make sure your pins are capped on yep but yeah the day will come like her favorite thing to do right now is steal my aquaphor and go like this with it like they really do muscle memory totally i had to look all last night i got in bed and i couldn't find my aquaphor and i it was at the bottom of the ball pit and like i can't sleep without my aquaphor and i was like tate and winnie were walking around with the aquaphor sharing it so it could be in any of these rooms up here and it could be anywhere in these rooms.

1:08:25Yeah, Bubber loves to snatch items. My toothpaste went missing so guess what I did? What? I just restocked our toothpaste everywhere. Did you notice that? No. I just ordered five things of toothpaste and I'm like, I'm not going to have it where Bubber's just walking around with my toothpaste anymore because at this point I think joke's on me. Okay, so things we DM'd each other. We're going to do one because Harrison and I love to chitter chatter and I think we've been Pitter patter. Pitter patter and I think we've been What's that look, Jules? We're having fun over here. Perfect. Um, okay. The things we DMed is admin nights, which Harrison likes to call admin nights.

1:09:00Admin? Admin nights. Admin nights. So basically it's a viral social trend where friends get together often at someone's house with snacks and drinks and they tackle boring life tasks, life tasks like paying bills, answering emails, scheduling appointments, canceling subscriptions, anything admin oriented. Um, and they do it together with their friends in a relaxed setting. I haven't liked a social idea this much in a very long time. Like this to me on a Tuesday night is like the perfect thing to do. And like so often I'm like, it's like I'll just do it at home because like you don't want to be rude.

1:09:41But I love just like the openness and transparency of like, hey, do you want to hang out with our laptops out? Like this is, I feel like this is for me. so i like the idea of to be clear this is a like this is the tuesday night activity this isn't i want to be like this is off limits thursday through sunday i i like the idea of admin nights but i like the idea of doing it with just with you here here's why i think otherwise if it was with like five or six friends i already know what's happening we're getting distracted we're like scrolling on tiktok and we're showing you but if you and i say but if you and i say hey tonight we're gonna make a really good dinner we're gonna have some wine and we're gonna like crank not while i'm pregnant and we're gonna crank through some admin stuff like i love the idea of that like you kind of make it fun but i think like that happens in a relationship already i think the point is like is you're opening it up and like you're having the neighbors over for that and like the neighbors are great example like if they're over and i pull out my laptop like i feel like I was being rude.

1:10:46Yeah. Versus like, hey, do you guys want to come over tonight? We'll make some burgers and - It's admin night. Crank out some admin. So I saw somebody, we've had this on our radar for a couple weeks. And then I think that every girl posted it yesterday. And she was like, there's this new thing going around called admin nights. And the most liked comment was not in favor of admin nights. I'm into it. And she and the girl was saying, hey, can we just normalize a time where we hang out with our friends with no screens? And I thought we have mainly one thing I think our friend group is very good about is no phones.

1:11:23Like I I wanted to rebuttal against that comment of like, no, I actually have it in me where we do laptop time and like productive time because I'm not going to go socialize on a Tuesday typically. But I would do this admin nights thing and we would all be more productive. Like, let's be productive together. I'm actually very for that. Yeah, but I'm also like, if you're telling me there's going to be a no screen night, I'm also fully into that. Yes, I'm down for a no screen night, but I'm also down for an admin night and then a couple other nights that you can plan with friends. Let's hear. Explain what you actually do for work night.

1:11:55I'm not into that. I think that is so funny. Really? Yes. I feel like I know what all of our friends do. One of my... In a very detailed manner. I talk to friends about work. I think that that's like a niche, well, not niche, but kind of niche to like the entrepreneur world. But like your friends that just work a nine to five, like not super into their jobs. Like, I don't know what my friends do. Really? Yeah. Yeah. My favorite video, and I'm going to blank on it because it's been about a year since I saw it, but it's that girl. she's like my my best friend she was there when my all my babies were born she knows every single thing about me if you ask me what she did like sometimes she wears scrubs i know she works at a hospital couldn't exactly tell you what it is she does and everyone's like same girl

1:12:56i think it's more common than we think you know how close i am to my friends like i think two of them are project managers i think two of them are customer success managers and one like prices deals when when like what are your friends someone tells me what they do i'll then like i'll listen and i'll i'll then be like okay am i understanding this correctly and i'll try and explain like i'll i'll say what i think they do on a day-to-day basis but you wouldn't do that if somebody was like i'm a project manager you're a bit cool yeah no when we were we were just out for dinner with someone who talked about their work in the education space and i literally was like okay so like person will come to you they'll propose this you'll then take it and connect it with resource why so this is just a saturday night for arson it is actually listen and i ask questions as learned from alex it is very true we did go to dinner with a new couple who lives on our block and we ask one's an interior designer and he's an education tech of some kind and we very we're like how many clients do you have what's your favorite room you do like we i do feel as though i could write a one pager on both their jobs but i love but not too much i just to me it's just the one the one question and then and i feel like i have people spend eight hours a day I also feel like I have a very good understanding of what so like what the neighbors do I didn't like fully understand it at the beginning but now I feel like I really do get it because we had to ask them a lot of questions but what he does is very complicated yeah but like I feel as though I've got a basic understanding and I can ask him questions accordingly yeah and her as well but I think when you're like in your 20s and ask like what your friends actually do for work is great because like a lot of them are in finance like what does it mean he's in finance what does he do in finance what what are the options in finance I don't know you know like we ran into a friend the other day and I was like wait what do you do like I didn't know he lived in Austin it was a friend from college and he's like I sell signs okay well if we were at dinner with him I'd have a bunch of follow-up questions but I think that that this question is a lot I think it's a lot harder when you're younger because when you're younger I think like the rules are like and you're out of college you're so focused on just like support totally so like if you asked me to describe like my 22 year old job it was like the word help helping people would have been used in like pretty much every line but you try to make it sound cooler when you're that age versus on the other side of 30 like there's response you're generally carrying more responsibility and so it's easier to understand here's my one thought because i i don't have so many social nights in me a week right now i wouldn't i would replace admin nights with a mahjong night for me because like i am obsessed right now with mahjong and you seem to be very good at it all i hear about is how you keep winning no i'm just having beginner's luck and like i still have a hard time picking out my line but i'm i'm loving it because it's a nice time to sit and talk but also you're using your brain.

1:16:12So like as a pregnant person, that's very fun for me. I got to give you just all the credit in the world on forming out these girls nights and girls afternoons where you guys are doing fun activities. Well, I think it's really good for me right now to have an activity that is Mahjong. So I texted the group last night. I was like, guys, if we don't keep playing, we're going to get bad. And they're like, okay, when do we want to play? When's the next time? We're going to try for Thursday. Okay. But I'm worried about my calendar. Thursday breakfast or after work? I think a five o 'clocker. Okay. Here's my question to you though.

1:16:48I would love if you learned how to play Mahjong, but I don't know if you're down for that. I feel like I'd be kind of stepping on your toes. No, no. I'm saying I would like you to learn so that I could play against you. Like the other day when our Wi-Fi was out, our Wi-Fi was out for like two hours and we were like, okay. I was like I really wish we had a game we could play right now so I'm totally with you on that I want a great game that we play together I just think like with specifically Mahjong I'm loving seeing what you're doing with the girls and so like I feel like the guys swooping in is yeah I feel like that's not the move and we should find another game okay the other thing about it is I do need you to watch Bobber when I play Mahjong so this is the but we can play when she's asleep I'll take her for dinner I'm just saying if you played then like we would like who would watch Bobber yeah okay here's the thing guys we got a wrapper on up abrupt ending an abrupt ending but that's because honestly let's just be the camera's gonna die and so we're gonna wrap it up while we have 4 % left we love you guys and thank you for listening and watching and watching and like and subscribe and comment.

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