We’re married!!! + everything we’re feeling before baby boy arrives

25:17Unknown Host 1:I think, I think your game plan. Yeah. Let's put the team on your back. That's not fair to say at all because you, you were doing all that you were doing all the building of the baby and all the heavy lifting. So it was just make sure you feel supported. And so that's, I think it's kind of a weird question because I told myself like we just, like we just had a child i just witnessed your pregnancy and so i real time could look at myself and say all right i just we just went through this what do you wish you knew what do you wish like what are your priorities and so i knew my priorities were go out and make sure you feel taken care of and and so that's what i focused on and you held down the home front you held down the cleaning you held down my meals you held down bubber you held down a lot but because you were doing it because i'm building the family literally the real work making eyelashes did that make sense yeah yeah it did i don't know um let's talk about zinni zinni is an online eyewear shop prescription glasses sunglasses blue light lenses starting at under 30 you guys you go to zinni.com pick a frame upload your prescription and they ship it to your door.

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27:25Unknown Host 1:Cause I'm like, I'm just a normal person. I'm learning on the go with everybody else. But what I will say about my pregnancy journey. And one thing I've learned is to reiterate what I said earlier, it's harder than you think it's humbling. The exhaustion is real. The fatigue is real, both mentally and physically. For me, I'm very emotional. I call you a lot and say it just doing is this pregnancy brain or is this real Alex? And I'll do some checks through you. and you are, you're, you're growing a human being. And so I always heard, give yourself grace. It's hard to grow a human being. It's so much harder than I thought.

28:08Unknown Host 1:Um, and so just realizing it's okay to give yourself grace. It's okay to want to lay in bed a lot. It's okay to cry. It's okay to have the aches. It's okay to say, this is scary. And the other thing is I never thought I would bounce back. I was like, I'm stuck like this forever. Remember I would ask you that I'd be like with the first pregnancy. I said, am I ever going to remember anything again? I used to meet people and I would remember their name instantly. I got pregnant. I couldn't remember how I met them if I knew them or what their name was. And I would say, and I was anxious. And I would say to Harrison, am I going to be stuck like this forever?

28:43Unknown Host 1:And then about three, four months postpartum, I felt myself coming back and I had my pep in my step again. And I realized, okay, I'm not stuck like this forever. That was pregnancy. And so just realizing like pregnancy is hard on you and the way you feel it is real. And so just acknowledging that. You look really powerful what you just said. Thank you.

29:06Unknown Host 1:Yours is, I assume identify what your partner needs. That's what you said last time. I assume it's the same. You have what I said last time. I had the notes. No way. Okay. So it's what I was said is like, is identify what your partner needs and be for them. What I'd add to that Okay So hopefully it's not just A repeat of the episode Is There's no time Like the current to change No time like the present No time like the present And Bringing a baby into this world Is If that isn't a time That Gets you What's the right saying Wakes you up kicks you in the ear yeah if if if a child isn't gonna kick things into gear then nothing i don't know what will and so beyond your partner being taken care of getting things sorted on the mental and physical health front from a relationship perspective friends family community from a professional perspective

30:18use the time to level the fuck up because it will pay dividends i love that and and you know

30:29Unknown Host 1:what you did you did that i know you don't want to hear that but i think you did a really good job of that this time around you set goals you hit them and you really took care of us you took on your responsibilities and the more important responsibilities and i took on my responsibilities and you did a phenomenal job and so i had to do i don't get to give up on mine like i like i don't get to wake up a month for and be like nah it's just like it's it's you're just when my race starts but you you do like you because you could have like you know you got up I had my best days. Here's what I can say about you.

31:07You made the most of every day. Yeah. I truly felt like you did.

31:14Unknown Host 1:I mean, the next one is, do you have any pregnancy regrets? And I like to say I don't have one. I gave it my all. Like I did miss one episode because I just couldn't get here. But I thought back to the first trimester and I think a lot about like laying on this couch. and you know we did we delay a lot of recordings yes um but did we not come no i have a pregnancy regret what i wish i did a better job at spontaneous planning in the moments that you were feeling good oh that's nice yeah yeah i feel like that is a room for improvement on three is is i felt like a lot of the time we wouldn't make plans because so often the plans would be canceled or the plans would be based in like very localized areas.

32:04And what I wish I did is I wish I had like a list of 12 activities that I knew we could do like the minute that you felt good. And so when you'd say like, Hey, I'd love to go for a walk. I'd love to go for a car. I had a better lit like a set list of things for us to do.

32:22Unknown Host 1:Uh, I thought you just, I thought you took care of me so good. Like you You have to realize this too. When I felt good, my ideal scenario was sitting on the couch watching a movie downstairs. Or walking the block. Walking the block. Downstairs there was like more natural light. So I don't have any regrets. And I feel like the number one thing I wanted to do was eat a lot of queso. And I did that. Like I packed dairy in very well to this pregnancy. I did it today. I had pancakes when I smothered them in butter. I feel like that's a good transition. I'd love to hear how your food experience was this pregnancy versus last pregnancy.

32:58And before we do that, I want to formally present a trade offer. Okay. And the trade offer is not by my preference. It's feeling you out based off everything you've said today.

33:12Unknown Host 1:Okay. I know what you're doing. Yes. Would you like to trade Sammy's Italian for Matt's El Rancho tonight for your last pre-birth dinner? So here's what I want to do. Cause let me tell you what sounds good right now in this moment. Yeah. Queso sounds unbelievable. I don't like Matt's chips. My fit. I want to fly to Oklahoma city and I want to go to Ted's Escondido and I want to get their queso, their chips and their flour tortillas. But knowing that we can't do that cause I can't fly. I need to find it's water queso. It's not fancy queso. I want the water queso. I want the light chips. I don't want these deep fried chips.

33:53Unknown Host 1:I want the light chips and I want the fluffy tortillas. Okay. I don't know where to go to get that. I think I have a place on Lamar. So do you want to formally – Not the Taquerio al-Diaz. No, the one that **** just told us about. Okay, maybe. So do you want a trade request here? Do you want to accept – so the trade request – so you counter trade. The updated trade request is – I do. Your preferred choice of Mexican for Sammies. I do. I want a Diet Coke and I want queso. And I'm getting this hand. You got a shake on the right. Come on. Okay. Hold on one second. There we go. Okay. Okay. I will say that that was a win-win trade.

34:31Why? You want Mexican? Well, we smashed so much pizza last night. And then we did a big pizza night with our friends on Tuesday. So like the - I'm Italianed out. The tomato cheese bread combo is just like at highs. I had pickle pizza. chicken food also has a lot of bread and cheese and tomatoes but but we went with our friends to flo's wine bar in all day pizza what and we got the pickle pizza and i was so obsessed with it

35:00Unknown Host 1:that i said to harrison yesterday i said we have to get the pickle pizza again and it was it was so good i can't explain to you okay so i'm gonna i i gotta zig us for a moment here because this this would be a normal episode topic but i think it's really really good and i thought about it yesterday and I meant to text it and I forgot. So I'm glad I remembered. So number one, any single guy going on a first date or second date, I highly, highly recommend Flo's Wine Bar and All Day Pizza. Can I tell you why I don't? Trust me. Can I get ahead of what you're about to say? Yes. Okay. Yes. Just do not go there.

35:36You can only go there Monday through Thursday on a date and just make sure that you get there early so you can secure a good seat because they don't take reservations. but any good date planner knows that that's part of the game. Okay. Why don't you like it?

35:53Unknown Host 1:Because you order at the counter. Yeah. You have to, you have to keep getting up to get the drinks. There's a lot of shuffling and buffling going around. And like, once you get your order, so the buzzer goes off, you have to get up again. So you're going to keep interrupting the conversation. And if you need water, you have to get up and get that. If she wants another glass of wine, you got to get up and get that. This is all very, very good for a first date. Why? Because the guy can show that he's on it? You get to feel each other out. Okay, maybe. But now here is the big question. So I'm going to stand by my response or my request.

36:29And this goes, you can call this either, I don't know if I want to ask this. Yeah, I'm going to ask this for two ways. Okay. Let's do a scenario analysis.

36:37Unknown Host 1:You would thrive in this environment though of saying, you'd be like, I'm getting you another drink. But is this a deal breaker? Okay. So it's our first date. You and I, we go to Flo's Wine Bar. We sit down. We go, we order three pieces of pizza, the pickle, the cacio e pepe, the double pep. We get a little cookie for dessert. Okay. And then we go, we get two of their modified Aperol spritzes. Okay. Okay. We're sitting there. The pizza comes. Uh-huh. I pull out my own metal knife and fork because my biggest issue with flows is they only have plastic knives and forks and the pieces are big. So is it a deal breaker if on a first date I pulled out my own metal knife and fork?

37:26Unknown Host 1:Did you bring two? Assuming I brought two. Then if you brought them just for you, deal breaker immediately. Okay. If you pull out two and you say, hey, I brought you these because I like to cut pizza. These slices are big. I thought you might want to cut your pizza. I would be like, thank you. It's not too nerdy. It felt, it's a pretty nerdy vibe. It's a little nerdy, but it's nice. It's very nice. It's very, very, very nice. What would, what I would notice is if I had drank my whole drink and in an ideal world, if there was like waiters coming around, they would come around, they would say, do you need another drink?

38:00Unknown Host 1:I would love it. I would really love it. It would go a long way if you saw I was 75 % of the way done with my drink, popped up and said, I'm going to get you another drink. Do you want to change your order? Keep it the same. Totally. Which you are very good at. And that's why it shows character, shows dynamic. There's a little fine line though. Okay. Is that like, that's that guy's move then. He's taking all his first dates to flow wine bar. Jules. And I know that. I was waiting for that, Jules. I was waiting for that. Because if he comes prepared with his fork and knife, you're like oh you come here often does he need to acknowledge us and make a joke probably i think that i would i would appreciate that joke yeah well i i think that that that is one where like and and

38:48i i you can only do it yeah so many times probably once because yeah or or you because you can't lie No. And so you need to make sure that your ratio of doing it with friends is higher than dates. For sure. So I think the hopeful appropriate response is, no, no, no. I come here all the time. Like our friends, we love it. We're here every Tuesday.

39:16Unknown Host 1:Acceptable. Yeah. But you need to be there every Tuesday with your friends. So you need to commit to the bit. Yeah. Or you need to take your mom one time when she's in town and say, last time I came here was my mom. I was here with my mom. It drove me crazy. Perfect. I really wish that we had this. Okay. Look at this. This is a lot of effort. Talking about marriage, talking about dating hypotheticals. I mean, it's just this episode. We're just chock full of it. Talking about babies and pregnancy and advice. Here's a good one. Okay. How did we choose the name? I think I said this, but now actually that you guys – I don't know if they know the name yet, so we're not going to say the name.

39:49Should we live tell Jules the name on the pod? No, because I like not knowing.

39:53Unknown Host 1:I think that's good. Okay. I think people like not knowing. Yeah, I love not knowing. I love not knowing baby's names too. I'll give you my phone for a second. Okay. I was at lunch with a friend who asked me if I had heard of this person and said the first and last name. I had not heard of the person. I loved the name and that is the name. I texted Harrison afterwards two names because when she said that name, it sparked another name that I used to love that I actually liked for Tate. and I texted Harrison both names and he responded back to the first one. He was like, I love it. So I'm going to add some color on the name here.

40:36So you texted it. I loved it. And initially I loved it under the guise of X and Tate. I was like, oh, that's really fun. And then I was like, wait, is the name, how is it going to age?

40:50Unknown Host 1:Right. And so I like visualized, all right, I'm back working in investment banking and I'm doing interviews and I see X Fugman on a resume. And is that, how's that going to land? I was like, I think that'll land phenomenally well. Yeah. I love it. And then I looked at it. Same thing. Like if I met another entrepreneur and this was the entrepreneur's name, like, Oh, great. I love it for when he's in fifth grade. I love it for when he's a senior in high school. I love it for when he's going to college and I love it for when he's 50. I want people to put their guesses in the comments Definitely Well maybe I don't know when we're announcing This is going to come out before you announce the name Oh yeah it is I have such a great little thing to maybe drop You can cut this if not And I also love the name if he goes to UT

41:42Unknown Host 1:I don't even get it but okay I don't get it I have like one guess that I've seen in the comments Let's hear it No I don't want to say because You need it on record Jules say it no i don't want to yes i don't know walker no okay not even close really terrible guess i i like love it i love the name too but it's so funny like i'll tell you why it's not walker taylor monaco's first daughter walker they call her walkie talkie adorable adorable but like i love it for that girl yeah it's a cute name it's such a cute name i've just started seeing it in the comments recently and i was like that could be it i don't know isn't that funny yeah but i I never guess because you guys say you don't like people to guess.

42:20Unknown Host 1:That's why I didn't want to guess. Except for Chad. Chad's just guessing right away. We've got some guesses from our friends submitted. And one of them got it. I said that last episode. Yeah. So one of them has said it. And also, when you think of a name, you think of also a nickname. And we've thought of this boy's nickname. A lot of nicknames. A lot of nicknames. Can I ask if it's a single syllable? You cannot ask. Okay. okay there it's double thank you for that i think that because that i like that question but it rules out no i have no clue what it is okay and everyone is like i get on meetings they're like you don't know the name i'm like no i don't know the name it's good that jules doesn't know they've never say it i'm really upset we didn't easter egg the wedding we don't have the headspace to easter egg yeah like i like do you know what how i wish we easter egged it how i wish that we told our friends tuesday pizza same and we like we just like didn't talk about it and then i was sitting there trying to get your attention being like are we gonna tell everyone and then we just like we're sitting at opposite ends of the table and we like left and like should we tell them and then we like went back in and like wait no now it's like awkward i wish that i wore the wedding ring to pizza on Tuesday.

43:42And I wish that I think it would have been fun if like I think photos were posted at pizza if I was wearing a ring in those photos.

43:53Unknown Host 1:Do you know where I've got to push back on this? I love no Easter egg. Okay. I love just... You're ready, ready, aim, fire, fire. Correct. Because people are guessing and it's just like we hadn't even turned in the form yet. Like we turned in the form yesterday. today we announced I like that that's very clean it's very we easter egged we posted the I mean switched the handle correct my username is Shane everyone's getting an hour get an hour of easter egging right now me with my underscore on Instagram which I actually don't care about in the scheme of things it's funny you're like okay you live for planning the perfect trip the thrill of comparing hotels scoring that impossible reservation and piecing together an unforgettable itinerary You already think like a travel advisor, so why not become one?

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45:48Unknown Host 1:it's like something we've known all week you know and then you post it and like your high school friends see and things like that and it's it didn't used to be like that right like it didn't we didn't even used to have now these days you get married you post on instagram people see it they you run into them out in person and they're like oh i loved your dress like we we all see everything that everybody does i love that i'm obviously a big proponent of social media but it's funny like our parents our grandparents like they don't know that they don't know the feeling of the post yeah um but it's good it's i love i love everybody being on the same page i love that when we go out to dinner tonight for our mexican food harrison can wear his ring like it's all that to me is really fun um i also love the way we did it i love the pajamas i love like just in our little house i mean we just love our house so we're just there okay i'm gonna do you wish we got married before tate no i don't wish we did anything differently do you i'm i'm gonna agree with you yeah i'm gonna agree with you i wouldn't change anything and but i it's funny on the flip side Like if we waited until after he was born, I think my view on it would change.

47:13Like I didn't want to wait any longer. I felt like we waited as long as we could have.

47:21Unknown Host 1:Oh, I agree with that. I think any longer we would have been waiting for the wedding to celebrate with people. Whereas the, yeah, I agree with that. Which I want to do. But what I will say is one of my friends texted me back, one of my lifelong friends texted me back and she said, I'm so proud of you because you just did things your way. And that message meant a lot because we did and we didn't listen to other people. We didn't follow necessarily – well, not necessarily. We did not follow a traditional timeline. We've done things backwards. but along the way you and I have been in sync about that.

48:03Unknown Host 1:We've been thoughtful about that and we've really tried to protect our family with the way we've done things. And I think you did a really good thing where you, you came to me and you said, I want to be married before he comes. I don't care about the party. I don't care about having the wedding that can all come later, but what's best for our family is for us to do it now. and I really appreciated you bringing that into vision for me because because that's that's the way we should have done it we we weren't ready to get married before Tate it would have been too much there was too much new city new parents new relationship right and while you and I's gut instincts were right bringing us together which is great each other more than we could ever imagine there was so much going on there was so much going on and to throw a wedding in that so what we did was we said, no, we're not going to do the formality because people think we should.

48:55Unknown Host 1:Like we're not just going to do the formality. And now it made this wedding. So it was such a sweet, it was just perfect. That's what it was just perfect. And that's, and so, yeah, no, I don't regret it at all. Um, you know, I do think I would have regretted though, going to the hospital tomorrow and not having done it. So I'm really happy. I think you're right on that. So that's, yeah, it's good. Um, okay. Quick derail there. Sorry. What do you, I read this earlier. What do you think the birth process will be like? Me the first time. I hope it's 10 hours. Yeah, so what was said the first time?

49:32Unknown Host 1:I hope it's a 10-hour labor. I've mentally prepared for the worst. Oh, I said maybe the epidural doesn't work? That was one of your worsts that you were preparing for. Unbelievable. Well, that came true. Well, I knew that because I actually rewatched this before we put it out. the thing that i didn't know is that harrison said the number 36 hours you said it could be 24 36 hours that's crazy unbelievable unbelievable i read that earlier you said 36 hours and you guys it was if you didn't know it was a 36 hour wasn't like that's just me rolling in 12 hour increments just knowing how my brain works of course that wasn't to guess like I just well I when I make a good prediction I like owning the prediction that was not a prediction well you nailed it with the 36 hours it was 36 hours yeah it was six hours of pushing the epidural did not work so when I give my what do you think the birth process will be like guess this time we saw my OB today and she's like listen it's not going to be like last time and I'm like correct because I will know if the epidural does or doesn't work but But she's like, the second one does go a lot faster.

50:45Unknown Host 1:So get in there. Ask for the epidural. She thinks it'll be, she thinks we're rolling at nine and we have the baby in the afternoon. So that's her guess. I'm going to assume worse than that. I'm going to assume we have a 20-hour labor because I'm just scarred. I had a third degree tear last time. She doesn't think I'll have that. I'm assuming I have a second degree. Like I just am assuming my births are worse. Do you want my prediction? No. Okay. No, I don't want your prediction because you didn't predict if I was dilated or not. And that was good for me. And I was, and that was exciting. And so I don't want your prediction.

51:23Okay. Great.

51:24Unknown Host 1:You could say it and I could do this. Yeah. If you don't care, then unless Jules wants me to say it. She wasn't saying she doesn't care. Yeah. I do care. I don't want to know. You ready? I'll go to. Unless Jules can't be able to do it. Go. Vibes are great. Vibes are great. I have a phenomenal feeling. that's it perfect okay okay so now they all know um how do you think life will change after this baby is born please you go first well i think listen it was a rough nine months for me and i'm optimistic about my mental health postpartum this time and i'll tell you why i have heard the way you feel during pregnancy can be an indicator of how you feel afterwards mentally i had pre-partum depression with Tate.

52:10Unknown Host 1:I had postpartum depression with Tate. I have not had knock on wood, a lot of prepartum depression with this one. So I'm hoping that's an indicator of how I feel afterwards. I know that's not always the case, but I'm just, let me hold on. Let me hold on to my optimism. Can you clarify that? You just said the last nine months have, um, have been really hard on you. And so, but I am feeling optimistic. Yes. So they've been hard on me mentally and physically in the sense of loss of energy, nausea all the time, a lot of headaches this time, a lot of body ache this time. When you don't feel good, you don't have the pep in your step mentally.

52:45Unknown Host 1:It's tough to wake up and be like, I'm exhausted. I need to take a nap. So that's what I mean by it's been a tough nine months. Now, while depression hasn't been present in those nine months, I'm feeling pretty good that after I have this baby, I think I'm going to feel good. Maybe that's not accurate, but let me just hold on to that truth for a second. So I'll say the way I think life will change after this baby is born is I hope we take it in stride. I think we've done a really good job listening to people saying Christian was right. One is one and two is 20. So get surround yourself with help.

53:20Unknown Host 1:Um, prepare, you know, we've got the night nurse. That's our version of help in the first three months because we think that's the most important thing. If we're sleeping and we have help around the house, like that should really help us. So I think a lot of family in town, tons of family in town. we've got our schedule for the birth. I like to think we're set up pretty good. I know when you let your guard down is when you get hit in the face. We're not doing that. I'm just saying in comparison to the way pregnancy was, I'm feeling good about feeling better. Do I think two will be hard? Yes, of course I do.

53:56Unknown Host 1:I think we're going to get our shit rocked, but I'm also going to feel better when our shits rock, so I'm optimistic about that. You've heard me say it before, but I'll say it again. Skims is always changing the game with their intimates. Everything that Skims comes out with is the best. You guys have seen me in this black dress that I've been wearing the last three weeks of pregnancy. It's Skims. I've been wearing their Skims bras every day of pregnancy. The underwear have carried me through pregnancy. Their shorts, like I wear their tank tops. Everything I wear is Skims. And every time I pass their store in the domain, I go in and I get whatever I can find because their basics are so good.

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55:05Yeah. And like, we've had our shit rocked before you handled it incredibly well. And I feel like we're as well set up and as well prepared as you can be. Yeah.

55:19Unknown Host 1:And like, am I going to be, you know, in bed for two weeks after this? Correct. Yes. I know that and I know that my milk coming in is going to make me feel like I have the flu and I of course I've I've forgotten some of those things but I am optimistic about the post-pregnancy I'm just like I'm excited to sleep on my stomach again things like that to be a dork like to do the dorky business thing here um one thing they talk about a lot in the startup community is the advantages of being a second time founder versus a first time founder because you've just seen so much of it before and even if those things haven't gone your way you at least know what it's like to get hit in the face and this very much feels like uh there's a second time founder feeling going through it where like you you feel like i feel like both of us have a really clear understanding of what can go right and what can go wrong and what largely to expect both from our experiences but also what we've heard from our friends.

56:18And that's a really comforting dynamic.

56:22Unknown Host 1:Yeah. Knowing that like shit still will be hard. It's going to be hard. It's going to be hard. But I do think there is something to it. Yeah. One of my friends who just had their second baby, she was like, there's something really beautiful about being able to enjoy it more because you know what to expect. And then it gets really hard. Like taking one kid anywhere is hard. Taking two kids, really hard. So both will be true. but I think overall it's very optimistic for us. Jules, what are we smirking at over there? Alex, did you proofread before you posted your pictures? No. What did I do? Did I have a typo?

57:00Unknown Host 1:What typo? It says if and not it. I almost think you got to keep it. Of course it does. I almost think you got to keep it. Who cares? No, I just am scrolling. That's hilarious. It is. and this gives me a great opportunity I had a three o 'clock call I'm just going to call him and say that I'm running a little late okay you just do that now are you going to edit it or you going to keep it I'm going to keep it I just like what do you think I think it's so funny okay

57:34Unknown Host 1:is there you didn't do um the having a boy oh okay

57:44Unknown Host 1:Okay. Last question. Then we're going to wrap up here and get on to our Mexican food date night because it's starting to sound really good. How do you feel having a boy? Being a boy, dad. This is a rare answer that I actually remember. And I think I would have said something along the lines last time of having a boy. At some point, I think I've said this, which is there was a lot less unknowns in having a boy versus a girl for me because with a boy all I need to do is recreate the relationship that my dad had with me because I think my dad had a I think my dad and I still have a great relationship today but growing up I also really aspired the way he he fathered in a variety of ways both in teaching as well as having a good time together and with tate like i didn't have that direct playbook and so um to me it's just really emulate the relationship that my dad and i had growing up and have today yeah i think that's really sweet he doesn't listen to this so he doesn't know i'm saying these nice things well that's really nice maybe we'll send him that part we'll tell we'll tell him to go to this we'll give him a time stamp um for me having a boy is just like it was having having tate I don't know.

59:03Unknown Host 1:I'm so excited to learn. All these moms have told me the mother-son bond is something that you can't explain. I look forward to that. I know whenever you have kids, whether they're a girl or a boy, it is the most heartwarming thing on the planet. And so I'm just excited to feel that. But it's unknown for me. I don't know. And I cannot wait to see. You're going to be a phenomenal boy, mom. Well, I've been just looking at all these little boys. There was one today. there was like a little boy sitting there and I just thought that's going to be us. And like, we didn't know what it was going to be like to have a girl.

59:34Unknown Host 1:And then we had her and we're just obsessed with her. So I'm excited. Totally. I, I, before we end, I do realize we didn't talk food. So cause we talked, we were going to talk food and then we got into the trade. And so what is the food that needs, what is the food pregnancy summary that we should end this off with? Well, why don't you, okay, you should, I have it written down here in front of me. So you guess what pregnancy one was so pregnancy one i remember very unique and like i almost want to call them elaborate cravings like really rich tasty food and so i remember like steak and baked potatoes was very big and i remember baked potatoes had its own kind of era i think we call them eras and then I remember there's like the bland rice era and I remember I remember a lot of two liters of Sprite Sprites on here I remember enchiladas was a big moment Mexicans on here and so all of these and just a lot of like did it just say Mexican or it was enchiladas I'm very clear on that I knew it was enchiladas I wrote down Mexican okay chicken tenders chicken tenders not Chick-fil-a because I would throw it up.

1:00:48Yeah. Never barbecue. Barbecue always made you throw up.

1:00:51Unknown Host 1:Brisket. Versus this, it felt like your cravings were a lot more bland in nature. Like this, I felt like you ate like a lot of Three Wishes cereal, a ton of turkey burgers, and a ton of chicken. Like salad. Like this, it felt very, very, like two totally different craving sets. Is that accurate? Yes. And it's accurate. I had a lot of pancakes and I had so many eggs that I now can hardly look at eggs. Eggs is the only consistency between the two. Eggs. I hard boiled eggs, eggs at 2 a.m., 4 a.m., like eggs, eggs, eggs, eggs, eggs. But here's. Hard boiled eggs. Hard boiled eggs. You would hammer those.

1:01:35Unknown Host 1:Every hour. You would have them with you everywhere. In my purse. I had them everywhere with me. Pregnancy is. But here's what I'll say. I ate like crap with my first pregnancy and I ate pretty healthy with my second pregnancy I did not work out at all in my first pregnancy. I worked out a pretty good amount in my second pregnancy. I got on the scale today ended up pretty much in the same spot Your body just does what your body does during pregnancy Let it and I didn't eat healthy this time by design. It was just what I craved. It was my body craved I walked a mile every day I walked a 30 minute mile every day and it felt really good to do that that's why I did it I don't get on the scale during pregnancy but I always do the last day and I got on it today and I just laughed to myself you did phenomenally well in pregnancy one and you did phenomenally well pregnancy two but admit that's pretty cool didn't matter I had bags of Doritos with the first I had liters of Sprite with the first I had ground turkey burgers this time and drank primarily water ended up in the same spot.

1:02:40Unknown Host 1:Like your body just does what your body's going to do, which I think is a beautiful thing. And I think a lot of people get pregnant and that's why I hate those charts that tell you how much you're supposed to get. You don't get to pick how much you gain. Your baby needs what your baby needs and your baby will get what your baby's supposed to get. And that's what I've learned from pregnancy. There's that. That's that on that. So we will, that's it. That's all. So, okay, guys, it was really fun podcasting through pregnancy. We, on the other side of this, whenever I'm back, we plan to add a third episode, which I'm really excited about.

1:03:17Unknown Host 1:Because I've just been, like, loving having this podcast to talk. And we're learning a lot from you guys. Recently learned that we need to sit our car seat up further. It's in the toddler, or it's in the infant position. We need to set it up to the toddler position. I learned something. I'm going to get them for you guys as a gift. um there's a special light sticky trap for the fruit flies and i'm gonna order it to your house like today wait is it a zivo oh yeah i have it you have it i have two zivos in the fruit fly area and it's not working no the comments are swearing by the zivos like i mean like tens of hundreds of comments okay so i'm not exaggerating let me ask you this on the zivos do i need to be replacing the sticky part like daily oh i don't know the answer to that are there bugs on it yeah but i was like enjoying it filling up i thought i i don't think so i don't think you need to do that daily i have two zevos over there well never mind then apparently they don't work well they do work they have flies on them but i need more so i now i've got the bowl out i've got the two i've got a whole i've got a whole operation the internet is latching on to this fruit fly I think.

1:04:30Unknown Host 1:So we'll, we'll get some more answers. And does the internet say a lot of people have fruit? Oh, I got the brain stuff. Everyone has fruit flies. Oh, something about, um, wine corks. Look into it. But I did get the fruit fly killer for the drain and I poured it down. Okay, good. Um, okay guys, we love you. We're so excited to share the baby name with you. Thank you for being here with us throughout this whole journey. We're excited to be married. We're excited for baby number two. Um, and we love you all. Thank you for listening. And I'll see you when I'm back. Thanks for listening to another episode of two parents in a podcast.

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