833. Let Your Wounds Build Your Life’s Work

25:16For myself, I have this belief that I'm unworthy or not enough. And when we really can let go of these fallacies, these illusions, these distortions, that's when we really find out who we are. So the more we do in the unlearning work, the more we let go of the labels, the identities, the beliefs, the subconscious loops that are really keeping us from the truth of who we are, the better to understanding our purpose. And the second part is your wounding. And for many of us, we have so much shame around our wounding. You know, we just feel embarrassed about it. And I'll even say with metamorphosis, like, there's a part of me that's so embarrassed that I was bigger and I was heavier and all of these things.

26:04And I shouldn't be telling you that because that would mean that I'm like, there's a part of me that still needs healing. And that's just true. I love that part. I honor that part, whatever. It's true. I've done so much and there's still a part of me. And when we judge and we hide our wounding, we hide such a human element of ourselves. And I found the deepest connection with people, whether I'm at events or retreats or out, even at the grocery store, when I'm really honest and when I'm really truthful about how I'm feeling, what I'm going through, what's real for me. And so your wounding, understanding the things that you've been through and healing the things that you've been through is an essential part of the process to really getting on the path of your purpose.

26:50Your wounding is really the doorway to your purpose because it shapes how you are uniquely qualified to teach, to transform, and to heal because you've been it. This is where we get embodied wisdom. You know those people online where they're like, oh, this thing or that, like, this is how you do inner child work, or this is how you heal this, or this is how you did it. It's like, what are you talking about? You know nothing. You know, you'll be like, that's not real. You don't even know that. But to go through it provides you with the experience to fully embody the healing that you're talking about, the healing that you're teaching.

27:28To go to the bottom and go hit that rock bottom or have the experience is almost sometimes the only way that we embody the true healing that we're here to teach. The wounds also show us where compassion is born. It forces you into deeper self-knowledge, more knowledge of yourself. It also breaks the illusion of who you thought you'd be. It also reveals what truly matters to you. That's true. It also sensitizes you to the suffering of others in a way no one else can. when I sit with people who have gone through pain and suffering and have really, really been there in life, oh my goodness, the way that I feel for them, the way that I honor them, the way that I know the truth has given me such an ability to super connect with people.

28:15Your wounding is oftentimes the fabric of connection between you and people. We just had someone on the podcast today who was talking about, and this is, you know, trigger warning, I guess, if we're still doing that, suicidal ideation. Honey, if anyone knows about that, it's me. And she was just talking about, I was like, we were just crying together because I'm like, girl, I know. I know that pain of that voice and that part of you. And the pain really becomes a training for yourself to understand yourself, to understand the pain, to understand how to alchemize it. and people that have walked through the fire are usually the ones who can walk people through it.

28:56So you being in the process of healing your wounding or healing your wounding is really going to be sometimes the only way to walk other people through it to really serve the world in a way that is going to make impact. Your purpose is not usually the place where you feel strong and polished and you feel like there's like all your talent and like all your gifts and Like I can make a really bomb PowerPoint and I can do a really great deck and I can do a really great Excel document and I can, you know, fold really good laundry. It's like, this is where you once felt powerless and you had to rebuild.

29:28When you alchemize it, your wound becomes the gift. The abandonment that you experienced previously becomes your capacity for connection. The shame becomes your ability to create safety and the heartbreak becomes the power to love without fear. The silence becomes your voice, really. The important thing here is that the wound points towards the work you need to do and the healing points towards the service. Your purpose isn't about you being perfect. It's about alchemizing what you've been through to help others. The people that are the most successful are not usually the people that have the most talent, that have the most gifts.

30:08When you look at the personal development space, When you look at the self-help space, the spirituality space, the space that I'm in, so many of those people have just figured out how to turn their pain into their purpose. Most of them, their stories involve their rock bottoms. Their stories involve the moment they were homeless. They were in debt. They hit rock bottom. They were divorced. They were going through some sort of challenge. And then they learned to alchemize that. Mel Robbins, perfect example, hit rock bottom, was drinking, was in debt, alchemized that pain into discovering how to help herself, and then now teaches many, many others.

30:46It's almost one of those things where it's a part of the initiation process for you to hit that rock bottom, for you to have that moment, for you to have that decision point in your life to choose to heal, to choose to evolve, and to choose to grow beyond the pain that you're in. Another important part of this is you must make the choice to move beyond the wound, to move beyond the story. And this is where people get caught. And now I'm on my sermon shit. I'm about to get sermon on you. Let me just kind of sit up straight. Most people will get caught in the validation of the wound, in the victimhood of the wound, in the decision to believe in the wound, to worship the wound, to be obsessed with the wound, and they will no longer chase or step forward to the healing that they need in order to serve.

31:39So for most people that are not in their purpose, they are still in their wounding. You must ascend beyond your wounding to be in your purpose. I'm not saying you have to be perfect, but you have to figure out how to heal yourself before you heal others. Don't get me started about this space of spirituality and wellness and how many people are still at the place where they're speaking and talking and teaching from their wounding and not from their healing. You do not want to follow, buy from, be in communion with, be in rooms with, be listening to people that are talking from the victim mindset or from their wounding because they are still in their process and they have not yet gone through the fire to teach what they are healing.

32:21And if you want to be someone that is really alchemizing your wounding, the things that you've come through in your life, whether it's divorce, eating disorders, abuse, whatever you've gone through, if you want to alchemize that into service for the world, which will serve yourself too, you must take yourself through the fire and walk yourself through the process and learn to parent yourself and learn to be your own mother and learn to be your own father and learn to be the one that saves you in order to help and save others. When we're thinking about talent and thinking about purpose purely in terms of talent or skill, what you're good at, what you enjoy, what gets you paid.

32:57This is so limiting because talent doesn't necessarily point to what's right or good. You can be really good at something that hurts and harms others. People that are really good at certain things, maybe people in finance or certain careers, could really be hurting and harming others, which goes against your actual dharma. Your service is always in service to the world. Your true service is always in service to the world. So someone can be talented at something that's not in service to the collective. Purpose tied to talent or ego might also lead to burnout, dissatisfaction, or ethical misalignment.

33:33You could be doing something that does not align with your values, especially when it's about success, validation, or external reward. The spiritual or moral question that Dharma actually asks is, what contribution am I meant to give? What is the role I have in supporting my life in harmony and good, not just for self-fulfillment. Talent usually goes through the lens of self-fulfillment. People feel like they're born with it. People feel like they're entitled to it. People feel like they have to work for it. And that is not it. Your dharma is your soul contract, your soul mission here on earth.

34:08And we find it by knowing ourselves, by healing our wounding, and alchemizing that healing to teach and support others. And why is this so important right now? Why am I bringing through this message right now because so many of the spiritual teachers and leaders often talk about 2026 and 2027 as purpose years. These are very pivotal times in the collective. And when I was kind of tuning into this and I was really thinking about purpose and how many people I want to support in finding their purpose and being in their purpose and alchemizing their wounding and embodying themselves, I was thinking about this time on the planet and this time in earth when everything feels like it's changing and shifting and we feel like we're in this interesting time where nothing is really the same.

34:49We don't really know where we're going. We don't really know what's next. And 2026 is about alignment collectively. Any systems that aren't aligned with truth are going to feel so much harder to sustain. They will not be supported by the new energy coming on the planet by God is not, God's like, I got no more energy for these kind of games you guys got going on. It's really going to be a year of stripping away false identities, expectations, anything that is rooted in performance, approval, or survival consciousness will fall apart. This is when the year when your purpose and finding it and being in it is really going to be non-negotiable.

35:30In the new system, in the new paradigm, we will have to be in our purpose. Your purpose will be how we save the planet. You finding your purpose is how we save this planet. And the global shift from this ego-led ambition to soul-led contribution will be a huge acceleration. Many people will feel the pressure. And I think I feel the pressure at times too. Am I living the life I'm meant to live? Am I doing what I came here to do? And just kind of taking a step back for a second, as I'm having a moment processing that, what a beautiful thing that you are a human that wants to make a difference, that wants to live in service, that wants to help other people.

36:13What a freaking gift. What a beautiful thing that your heart and your soul and your being wants to make this world a better place. And I say, I always say, a pure question asked to God, a pure desire heard by God will always be fulfilled. So that pure desire of you to become who you came here to be, to serve others, to live in your purpose, absolutely will be fulfilled because God always answers a pure, pure desire. And in 2027, which is a year that we've been hearing about quite a bit in the spiritual space. And especially in Gene Keys land, we did an episode with Richard Rudd about 2027 and the prophecy.

36:50So you can search 2027, almost 30, and it will come up. 2027 is the year about activation. So 2026 is alignment. 2027 is activation. In human design, like I said, in other esoteric traditions, It's the threshold year. So there's going to be more sensitivity, more intuition, more embodiment. There's less tolerance from an energetic perspective, from the earth perspective for you to live outside of your alignment. Revolve is honestly my go-to for everything. I'm wearing all Revolve today. We can go through it in a minute. Everyday outfits, date nights, weddings, even those I want to feel more put together days, I go to Revolve.

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42:25So this is when all your preparation that you've been doing in this lifetime, all the healing you've been doing will require you to step forward. 26, training year, alignment. You really, really taking this seriously, 2027, center stage, baby. You've got this, seen and heard, like my mastermind. This means spiritually that purpose isn't a career move anymore. It's really your sole contract. So your sole contract for coming into this lifetime, for being alive at this time is going to be essential and it's going to be really highlighted. It means that your path is more loud. Your path, if you are off your path, it will be more painful than ever.

43:00One thing I'll say about living a life of alignment and I live a life of such alignment that when I am a little bit off, girl, let me tell you how much that hurts. I have one judgmental thought and I'm sent over the moon. Okay. I live in California. It is like, oh my God, you get me a little bit out of alignment. And I'm like, oh, because my body and my soul is talking to me all the time. She's like, I want you to stay aligned. We need you to stay aligned. Hiding will become more painful for you than risking being seen. and I'm pointing to you at the camera. This is huge. This is why I'm doing the visibility work because you will no longer be okay with hiding.

43:47You will no longer be okay with hiding. You will know that you need to risk being seen in its time. Your gifts will be meant to live publicly. You will need to be in a space where you're using your gifts publicly. You are sharing your gifts with the world. You are sharing your gifts to heal. You are in a space where your gifts are one of the most important part of your experience and sharing them with the world is one of the most important parts. So if you've already been feeling restless in your life, if you want to find your purpose, and I'm sure you do if you've been listening to this podcast for this long, you feel restless.

44:20If you feel dissatisfied or like the life you built doesn't match who you are now, you are right on time. If you feel like you have shifted and changed and your outer reality is not reflecting that. You are right on time. Because in these years, your purpose is going to be impossible for you to ignore. It's no longer like, I'm looking and I found it or like, oh my God, I'm in my purpose. It's like, it will be impossible for you to ignore. It is going to be so uncomfortable for you to live outside your purpose. And so your work right now this year is going to be finding who you are, healing yourself, and sharing those gifts with the world.

44:56because your purpose becomes optional when your soul remembers why it came to earth. The moment I recognized I had a soul that came here for purpose and mission and that I was not going to, there was no chill zone for me. There was no chill for my soul, that my soul was not going to let me chill. It just became a non-negotiable. This was the path I was on. And for so many people that are chosen ones, and again, it's not a better or worse, it's just a spiritual phrase. For the chosen ones, you will not rest until you find your purpose. You will not rest until you're here in service. You will not rest until you're doing what you came here to do.

45:35Your gifts here and the things that you've been through, the essence that you have is not random. Your unique gifts, the essence that you have is not random. It is not random. They are time-sensitive instructions for your soul here on earth. Your gifts are not random. They are time-sensitive instructions for your soul here on earth. And this will be the time that you end up using it. And there's a moment when the pretending ends, all of the pretending about spirituality and pretending you're powerful, pretending that you know, pretending you're confident ends, and you really have to step into the true embodiment of who you are and what you came here to do.

46:10Because your wounding and the things that you've been through is not the end. it is your initiation. And when you can see it as that, when you can see it as such, you will move through life with so much power and so much confidence and so much support from your guides and angels and God, it is going to be absolutely crazy. And so 2026, baby, you're going to see all of these parts of you die, all of the fakeness die, all the performing die, all the showing die, everything that's not going to fit is going to die. And 2027 is going to be what is going to rise, who is going to rise, how are we going to rise, how are we going to serve the earth and step into a purpose and place where we feel so proud to be who we are, to have our own essence, to gone through what we've gone through, and to serve the earth in the new paradigm.

46:57And so if you want to support yourself in this process, buy my course new paradigm. Just kidding. That was like a perfect little landing there. You know, I was like, it's like when they were like, oh yeah, if you want more, buy my course. No, but I really, I do want to land on that powerful note. I do want to land at that place because what I really wanted to bring through in this process was just like a permission slip for you to remember that like your purpose is not talent and it's not something that you're missing. And it's not something that you, they forgot to give you, God forgot to gift you with talent.

47:28And now you're just floundering. No, your purpose comes from your wounding. Your purpose comes from your unique soul essence and your purpose comes from your alchemy of that. in service to others. So you now in this moment, who you are, has every single thing you need to serve the world, every single thing you need to serve your purpose. And now is the time. It is going to become more and more painful for you to hide. It is going to become more and more painful for you to sit on the sidelines. It is going to become more and more painful for you to not become who you came here to be. And I am so here for it, baby.

48:00This is my dream. This is why I came here to help you. And I can't wait. 2026 is going to be a beautiful, powerful, pivotal year for you. And I'm praying that it is the year where every single thing that you want that is good will ever happen to you. That is my wish. That is my hope. That is my... You know how in your 20s, your body starts slowing down in ways you don't notice at first? Definitely started for me in like my late 20s, maybe early 30s. Your joints feel a little stiffer, skin less plump, energy dips. Yeah. Okay. That's when I started paying attention to collagen. Paleo Valley's bone broth protein is made from 100 % grass fed, grass finished beef bones, slow simmered from small scale regenerative farms.

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50:21So that's why I started swapping in Hero Bread. Y 'all, Hero Bread has changed my life, Krista's life. I just went to LA and she was all over Hero Bread. She was having the bagels every day with her lunch. She normally has a little soup. She had the bagels. It was amazing. It makes it so easy to upgrade everyday meals. So my avocado toast, the bagel sandwiches, the wraps for lunch without feeling restrictive, The texture surprised me the most, I think. It is soft, fluffy, and tastes like traditional bread. It doesn't taste like something you're like, hmm, this is like a really bad copy of bread.

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51:41That's A30POD at checkout at hero.co, H-E-R-O dot C-O. Dream in my desire for you. At almost 30, we're going to be having more amazing conversations, more amazing episodes, more solos with Lindsay and I. I love just ripping. I love getting on here. I love sharing with you authentically and vulnerably about things that I'm going through and just being a space and place where I hope you feel safe and I hope you get something. And so it's going to be a beautiful 2026 for the podcast. You can find us on Instagram. We're going to be doubling down on our YouTube and our video content and all that kind of stuff.

52:20So thank you for rocking and routing with us. For me at It's Krista, my personal business and my personal service to the earth and world, I have really exciting things. I'm going to be doing contour to help you no longer hide, to help you be seen in the world, to help you step into your purpose, embody who you are, be no longer afraid. Going to be coming to cities like Oceanside, Chicago, London, et cetera. I'm also doing a mastermind for business owners. So that's a very small, very intimate, 12 people. DM me if you want more information on that. That's going to be application only. And then I do have my True Essence Retreat, which is to help you find and connect with the truth of who you are in Italy in October.

53:00I also have one-on-one coaching, but that's like usually pretty booked up, but you can DM me. Okay. I love you guys. Thank you for rocking with me on this conversation and just kind of rolling with a beautiful discussion on purpose and talent and Dharma. I love hanging with you. Thank you for joining Almost 30. I will see you on the next one. Bye.

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