#459: OWN Your Goals, OWN Your Future With Heather!

0:00I'm on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, you're going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up.

0:38such bad luck. The old man replied, maybe yes, maybe no, we'll see. A few days later, the horse returned to the farm, accompanied by seven wild horses. Wow, that's incredible. What good luck, his neighbors said. Maybe yes, maybe no, we'll see, the old farmer replied. The next day, the farmer's only son attempted to ride one of the wild horses. The horse threw him and he broke both of his legs. The neighbor said, I'm so sorry, that is such a horrible news. What misfortune. The man simply replied, maybe yes, maybe no. We'll see. Soon after the country found itself at war and every able-bodied young man was drafted to fight.

1:21But the farmer's son was spared because of his injuries. You must be so happy. What great news. Such luck for your family, said the neighbors. And the old farmer simply replied, maybe yes, maybe no. we'll see. Okay. So I love that story because when you're in it, like when you're in the throes of life for me, like, you know, obviously it reminds me of getting fired, right? Like when it's happening, it feels like, ah, this is the worst thing in the world. Cut to, you know, here we are seven years later. I would have never written my book. I would have never launched my podcast. I would have never started my speaking career.

1:59I would have never written my second book. I would never spoke in Saudi Arabia. I would have never done all these things. I wouldn't be on the board of directors of two different companies, right? I'm doing so many incredible things now that I never would have done. So my point is this, just like the old farmer says, maybe yes, maybe no, we'll see. So it doesn't have to be so profoundly bad. Maybe it's actually great. And we just don't know it yet because that is the truth and the reality that day that I got fired, I thought it was the end of my life. Literally, I was freaking out, having a panic attack, went under a weighted blanket.

2:33I was a full blown train wreck. And it was because I felt something was wrong. Something was being taken away from me that shouldn't be. Instead of being like the farmer and saying, maybe this is awful. Maybe it's great. Maybe yes, maybe no. We'll see. Like being open to the idea that maybe it's so much better than we could have ever imagined. Same with relationships, right? When one door closes, a better one gets open. Approaching it that way instead of, oh my gosh, I love this person so much and it didn't work out. I'm heartbroken. I'm devastated. I'm going to go circle the drain and, you know, be negative Nelly.

3:11No, instead choose to say maybe yes, maybe no. We'll see. And I'll tell you, here I am now over a year out of my last relationship. Now I'm so grateful it didn't work out, right? But in those moments when it first happens, my tendency has been to say, no, this is horrible. No, this is horrible. And I need to remind myself, maybe yes, maybe no, we'll see. Maybe that door was closed because a better one's about to open. And that is how I'm training myself to think now. And that's how I want you to train yourself to think too. The more you can step into that, the more you focus on the good, the more the good's going to start coming to you.

3:49And the more you appreciate what you already have, the more you'll have things to be grateful for.

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6:12Okay, so this week I was out in LA, and it's so interesting. I was listening to somebody say to me, oh, hey, I had an opportunity to launch this new business, and it's incredible. this huge company reached out to me, but I don't want to do it because I'm scared to fail, and I'm afraid to take the risk, and giving me all these reasons why it was so scary. Listen, if success was easy, everybody would have it, right? Without risk, there is no reward. You have to face the risk. You have to face that nothing's guaranteed, right? Like, that's the whole thing. You need to step into the fear and choose to see this green light that means go and go faster.

6:48And so for me, it was a risk, you know, partnering with this new company, partnering with this woman that I had never met before and, you know, going out to LA for my first trip to work together and not knowing what to expect. And yeah, of course there's moments that are scary and you don't know what's going to happen and you're hoping you did the right thing, but it's not like a lock. It's not a guarantee. It's not, okay, we know 100 % this is the right move. Maybe yes, maybe no. We'll have to wait and see. I go in with the attitude though, that it's going to be incredible, that great things are going to happen.

7:19And I will tell you, I had the most amazing week. Yeah, of course I'm exhausted and I probably dropped the ball on way too many things this week because I hadn't planned on being in LA. This all happened very, very quickly and so many great things happened and so many serendipitous things happened and I ran into so many people I knew and I hadn't been in LA in gosh, almost two years now. So it was just, it was so great. I launched this podcast there, you know, back in 2019, the company that I first launched a show at this headquartered in Beverly Hills. And so I was out there every other week recording for the show.

7:52And it was just so fun to be back this time with a different company, this time with a different intent and intention and different business, but it was so great. And yeah, it's a risk, right? You don't know if it's all going to work out, but you're willing to double down and bet on yourself. And I was reminded of something else this week. When I was in one of the meetings, my background, as you know, is sales and sales leadership. And that's something that I I did for, gosh, I don't know, 25 years. So I've got a ton of experience with it. I taught it at Harvard, right? Like I'm definitely an expert in that arena.

8:25And it was interesting. I was sitting in one of these meetings with this new company and they don't have an expert in sales or sales leadership on their team. So to me, it's so obvious and so easy to say, oh gosh, here's what you're missing. Here's what you need to do. Let's pull the trigger and do A, B, C, and D. It's going to look like this. This is how it's all going to shape up. And this is what we can expect from it. I've done it 9 million times for 25 years, so I can do that in my sleep. However, what was so interesting is while I'm sitting with incredibly talented people, that's not their area of expertise.

8:54So it's just so important to remember, find the who that can fill the void that you have. That is the fastest way to leapfrog over something. Whether you need to hire a coach, hire a consultant, whatever it is, don't try to reinvent the wheel and teach yourself how to become a sales and sales leadership expert when you just need to tap that right person and put them in. Put me in coach. I can fix this and I can fix it faster than anybody else because I've done it 9 million times. Right. So find that person, like identify what area you don't have expertise in, where you need that support, where you need, you know, where you have a void, a current void.

9:28And then find out who is the who, who's the person that you need to plug in there and watch your business explode. And it was just so fun to be able to sit with those people and give them my expertise and my knowledge, which is easy to do. right? It's so great when all the pieces of the puzzle come together and where a company might be missing something, you add that value. It's great to see the right teams come together. So think about your business. Think about where you're lacking, what voids there might be, and then figure out who is a person in your network that you can tap that can come in and fill that void because that's the fastest way to leapfrog and blow up your business and take you to the next level.

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13:23The next thing that I was noticing this week is came up in conversation a number of different times and I was hired twice in the past week, literally to fix this problem for people is lack of accountability. And it's shocking to me because accountability is I mean, we all need to hold ourselves accountable. We all need to set specific goals and, you know, make them known. I remember one of the best ways I held myself accountable when I wanted to write my first book, Confidence Creator, was I posted on social media. I'm writing a book, right? It's like reverse engineering. You're putting pressure on yourself by letting everybody in your community know what you're doing before you've actually done it.

13:59People were constantly messaging me. When's the book going to be done? Where are you at? How much do you have done? Like, give us some ideas. So that just put the pressure on and say, hey, Heather, get writing, get working, right? So there was no backing out of it. You've got to hold yourself accountable. You've got to surround yourself with accountability partners. You're on a weight loss journey or you want to leave your current job or leave your current mission, whatever it is. Get someone and tap somebody in your life that can hold you accountable and hold yourself accountable. Or do like I did, reverse engineer it and start announcing it to your community and to people in your life so that they hold you accountable.

14:31But at the end of the day, a goal is not a goal unless you give it a deadline, unless you make it known. It's just a dream. And life is way too short to just sit around and dream. We've got to sit around dream and then build a plan against it and hold ourselves accountable. If you want anything to happen, that's probably where you're missing. And I just saw it so much this week that so many people don't get into the specifics. Those that deal in generalities seldom succeed. Those that deal in specifics seldom fail, right? So get into the specifics. And that means if you want to write a book, figure out the date you're going to start writing.

15:06How many hours are you going to write each day? Is it Monday through Friday? Like how many months can you plan out that you think this is going to take you? Let's build a plan around that. Who do we need to hire? Who are the who's that we need to bring in? We need to bring in an editor. Who do you know for an editor? Right? Like you need to get really specific against these goals, not just claim a big goal. I'm writing a book and leave it at that. It's not going to happen. We need to take those next steps. We need to put the specific plan together. We need to give ourselves deadlines. We need to share those deadlines with other people, and we need to hold ourselves accountable to task.

15:38And when we're not, we need to hire somebody that's going to do it for us, right? Because again, your dreams are put on your heart for a reason. God put them on you for a reason. You are meant for more. You have purpose. You have passion in life. You just need to hold yourself accountable and chase them down. And I'll tell you, the more people I talk to, everybody's got some big dream or some big goal, and it's going to make the world better, then let that lead you. Let that, gosh, like let that inspire you that there's so much good that you can do and holding back and not selling that idea and not moving that forward, making the world a darker place.

16:11And that is no good, my friends. We need to be here to turn up our light, to do more good in the world, and to bring forward the dreams that we have on our hearts. So I hope that you do that. I hope that you hold yourself accountable. I hope that you get an accountability partner. If you don't have one, you can get a free one on my website, heathermonahan.com. Go to the free 30-Day Accountability Partner Program. Put that link in the show notes for you and sign up for it. You're going to get an email from me every day reminding you to hold yourself accountable to your goals, reminding you to announce what it is that you're working on, reminding you to not go it alone, but to tap somebody to do it with you.

16:48No one succeeds alone in this world. And that includes this girl right here. So if you could please share this show with one person that you think could benefit from it, it would mean the world to me. All right, keeping it short today, hold yourself accountable. Remember, be like the farmer and ask yourself, maybe yes, maybe no, maybe we'll just see. You can't connect the dots looking forward. You can only do that looking back. Some of the biggest blessings in my life seem like absolute nightmares in the moment. And turned out the farmer was right. Maybe yes, maybe no. I guess we'll have to wait and see.

17:21and I waited. I'm seeing right now, it's been a complete blessing. So don't fool yourself into thinking something potentially negative is negative. Maybe it's the biggest blessing and gift in your life. All right. Until next week, keep creating your confidence. You know, I will be.

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