Confidence Classic: Opportunity, Visibility & Timing with Heather!

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2:56Often we'll say like, oh, I'm too tired. I don't want to try to go to one more thing. I never know if it's actually going to result in anything. Yeah, it might not. There's plenty of things that I've gone to that I don't know if it ever results in anything. Maybe it did. Maybe it didn't. But I know if I'm going to put my best foot forward, I'm going to create more opportunity for myself. And the more opportunity that you create, the more potential there is for whatever that dream is that you have inside or that big stage that you want to take. Success isn't easy. If it was, everybody would have it.

3:27There are moments you also have to put in the work. Wherever you are on your journey, make sure that you realize the timing is not always our own, but good things still can come, even if it's a little late, right? Good things take time. Great things sometimes take a little bit longer. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Tell me, have you been enjoying these new bonus confidence classics episodes we've been dropping on you every week? We've literally hundreds of episodes for you to listen to.

4:04So these bonuses are a great way to help you find the ones you may have already missed. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so excited you're back here with me today. OK, so I'm a big fan that stories sell, facts tell. Right. So we can sit and look at data and tell people, you know, my product works and here's why. Look at the facts. And it's true. Right. And it's great to have data and it's great to have facts. But sometimes when you hear a story, it really allows you to imagine what's possible for you. It allows you to put yourself in the shoes of the person telling the story and relate to it.

4:46So first and foremost, you know, I tell you this all the time. Get testimonials of your work. Get your clients stories. You want to hear about their success stories and what role you and your products and services played in allowing them to achieve their goals or accomplish whatever it is they're trying to trying to do. For me, I'm very lucky and you're probably lucky, too. If you look on social media, we get DMs, we get messages, we get emails, inquiries to our website where people are offering their feedback for us. They're sharing their stories and testimonials. Hopefully you're creating an environment like that.

5:19If not, start asking for that feedback and those stories today. I wanted to share with you too, I'm just so proud of, and I also want you to know that one of the people that is sending the feedback, I know, one I've never met before, right? So the point of this is you can impact and touch people's lives you don't even know because of the content you create. That's pretty mind-blowing. Hello, you can make a difference in the world by just being you and showing up and sharing your message. And you may never understand how many people you impact or help, or even if it's just one person, you made the world a better place.

5:55So don't hold back. Create content. Put yourself out there. Shine that light on who you are. Start holding the pen when telling the story of your life instead of allowing others to talk about you and build your brand for you. Build your own. Create your own narrative and have an intention when you do it. I'm so glad I started doing that. I started my personal brand five years ago before I got fired. It's basically why I got fired. But that's OK, because it all happened for a reason. I didn't know it at the time. That's important to know. I was a disaster beyond stressed out and scared. But here we are, you know, years later.

6:34And I'm so grateful that finally, having gotten through a global pandemic, now things are really starting to come together. And I'm super, super proud of that. None of it would have happened if I hadn't made the move or and or had gotten fired. So those low moments that you have in your life, even though you don't know it yet, those could be the most pivotal moments, life changing moments of your life, setting you free for a trajectory that's so much greater than you had ever imagined. OK, so I want to share two stories that I received in the last week that made me so happy. OK, this one is someone who I've known I've done some work with personally.

7:10As you know, I do some one-on-one executive coaching. And earlier on, I also did a group coaching program. And then, of course, my podcast. Hello, you're familiar. You're here with me right now. And my books and my courses, et cetera. Okay, so I got an email from this person. I have not heard from this person in six months, maybe, right? So I had no idea what was going on with her. Hey, I know it's been a while, but I wanted to reach out and let you know how much you have changed my life. which first of all, never underestimate the impact your words have on someone else. I literally teared up reading this message because it just reminded me, number one, it told me this, Heather, you're on the right path, right?

7:50This is a sign to say, okay, you're doing good work. I don't always recognize it or see it, you know, day in and day out. I get stressed out and struggle and frustrated with revenue and frustrated with how things are not progressing at the rate I think they should. But I get messages like this and it just reminds me, this is what life is about. life is about making the world a better place. Life is about impacting another person in a positive way because of the things you've learned and how you have a chance to pay it forward. And it truly, I'm so grateful this woman took the time to write me this note because it meant the world to me.

8:22And it reminded me that I am on that right path. Okay. But it's been a while since we've connected. I wanted to let you know how you've changed my life. Okay. Since that time, since last time I seen her, she told her leadership, she wanted to be promoted. and although they recently said no, which made her really mad because her work is exceptional. She goes on to detail a little bit more about that, you know, that all the feedback she's ever gotten has been so positive. She has skills that other people don't even come close to, but she's been told she makes leadership nervous because they think she's rogue, which she says, I have corrected and I now call innovative.

8:59I love that. Word choices are powerful. I have them now building me a roadmap, extending my coaching and finding me leadership to advocate for me. Right. So this is so good. She faced a challenge and she found a way to make it into an opportunity. We all have that chance because Heather, if you forgive me, honestly, F that. Okay. She's pissed. I have amazing reviews from everyone at work. Listen, this happens sometimes when you're in corporate America, people are telling you you're doing a great job, but when push comes to shove, you haven't been asking what for what you want. When you go in and put that ask in place, they kick back and say no.

9:33Right. And that's our chance and opportunity to hold people accountable and say something like this. I'm confused. Every review I've received of my work thus far that I have a folder on is exceptional and constantly notes the job that I'm doing. If that's the case, then why wouldn't we be advancing me? Right. And put it back on that other person again, because you're just getting a blow off. OK, she goes on to say she's actually been pursued by another bigger and better company. and now she's going to start interviewing with them. So smart. Never pass up an opportunity to interview with another company and see what's out there, right?

10:08Let me tell you, companies move through people so quickly. They're always looking at the bottom line in business. You should be looking at your bottom line. What are the best potentials and opportunities out there? Don't make it personal. Keep it business and look at business opportunity and be willing to hear how other people perceive you. There may be a better fit for you somewhere else. She's starting to launch a teachable school, which is a whole side hustle and is so cool. And if you're not launching a side hustle yet, start thinking about what problem you can solve that is unique to you that you could potentially earn income from.

10:40Because you never know what could happen in your industry and you want to empower yourself to have options. Options are really important. She goes on to say how she just needed a little push to do it. And now she's editing it and she's going to publish it. She's a one woman shop and she's doing this after she puts her kids to sleep at night. And she's so proud of herself. And she's launched personal branding initiatives on social media. And she said it's messy, but it's a start. And I'm so proud of her, right? So many people that I work with will talk about all they're going to do. But when I catch up with them a year later, they haven't done it.

11:13And this woman is doing it on her own and holding herself accountable, which is incredibly impressive. But if she can do it, so can you. That is truth. Okay, she's accepted a LinkedIn live account and she's held three live sessions, which had made her nervous, right, to do. She's stepping into the unknown, but she keeps showing up. And she talks about how it's not huge yet, but she's working on it. She's committed to being consistent with it. That is the key. When I joined LinkedIn, I didn't have 250 ,000 followers. I had zero, right? I've been on LinkedIn for seven years now. You need to show up, be consistent and be in it for the long game.

11:53That's how you get results. Okay, she set some big picture goals. She wrote the numbers down that she's going after. If you have not done that in your life, you're constantly writing down the grocery list. You're constantly writing down what your boss wants you to achieve. Take the time today after you listen to this podcast and go write down what are your specific goals for the rest of this year? What do you want to achieve for you? Not for anybody else. That can be health and wellness for yourself. That can be fun times with your friends. That can be making yourself a priority with your workout or meditation or spending more time with your family.

12:27That could be selling your condo. That could be asking for a promotion, whatever it is. Write it down. Give yourself a deadline and hold yourself accountable, just like this woman did here on her own. I'm so flippant proud of her. And her life is changing. That was the subject line of her email. Her life's changing for the better. Okay, the personal branding book that I wrote is coming along. And she goes on to say that, you know, she's in the final edits now. She had no idea how much rewriting it was going to take. It's been a lot more work than she thought. But she doesn't want to rush it because she knows it's going to be so good.

13:01This woman, not only is she pushing herself for advancement at work and doing all the right things along the way, she's open to new opportunities outside of her current employer. And she's exploring those. She's launching a side hustle. She's written a book. She's launched a personal branding initiative. I mean, this lady has done so much in six months time. And when I met this woman, she did not verbalize aspirations for any of these things. Then she just goes on to say, so anyway, these are just a handful of things that your work has encouraged me to achieve. I thought you should know. So this was really impactful to me.

13:35If you have positive feedback to give to someone who's touched your life, don't hold it within you. Don't wait to give that feedback. that made a huge difference in my life the day I read that email. It made my day. And it really said to me, no matter how frustrated I was with my business that day, no matter how frustrated I was of the failed businesses that I've launched that haven't come to fruition, that note reminded me that I was on the right path. So if you have some feedback to give someone in your life, do it now, do it when you get off this podcast, send the note, send the text, send the email, make the call and let them know the impact that they are having on you because you can make a difference in their life, and that is paying it forward.

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18:16Okay, this is a person I've never met before, but thankfully, because of social media, I get amazing DMs from people that I don't know yet. And then I know them. I know their whole story right after I get the message, which is so cool. Yet again, this woman took the time to send me this amazing note, how my book, Overcome Your Villains, impacted her life. And same thing. It told me I'm on the right path. Don't give up, Heather. It gave me that encouragement and push that I need. Everybody thinks that, oh, that person has it all set and figured out and they're motivated all the time. No, no one is that way.

18:49We all feel the same way, discouraged, down. We have up moments and great moments, right? If every day was great, then no day ever would be great. So there's highs and lows in everybody's life. And that's what allows us to grow and change and evolve and celebrate and feel sad and live, right? So when you send a note to someone, you could be catching them at just the right time, which her note caught me at an amazing time. Her note made my day and I'm sharing it with you. I hope it makes your day and I hope you share a note with someone that's impacting you in a positive way. OK, her subject line was overcoming your villains.

19:24Amazing. OK, that just I just smile when I hear that. When you write a book, by the way, it's like having another little baby. You put this little work of you represented of you into the world and you're so proud of it. and you have so many hopes for it and you're so excited for it. So when I get notes like this, oh my gosh, it makes me so happy. Because just FYI, I get lots of negative notes too, right? There's always gonna be haters for contrast, which is great. It means you're reaching beyond your little circle of fans, which is good, but it's also great to get the nice notes too. Because it tells you your work is worthwhile, right?

19:59And you're here for a reason. Dear Heather, I recently resigned from my position. I won't say the name of her company. and I start a new position on Monday. I've always been successful, have amazing mentors. The past almost two years at the company I was working in have been pure hell to say the least. Working 16 hour days, leadership, not having time for one-on-ones, not having time for real conversations, saying one thing and doing another. Okay, I completely understand this. It's called a toxic work environment. She goes on to say, I was always a glass full kind of person, super positive. But after the past year, I'm one of those people that I can't even deal with the challenges I'm facing anymore.

20:37I found myself down, unmotivated, doing seven jobs and continuing to feel like I can't take care of myself or anything else. You know, this is what happens. It's like over time, very slowly, you chip away at your confidence because you're allowing all these negative things to happen. And then before you know it, you're immersed so deep in it, you don't know how to get out. And that was definitely me and my old company. A few weeks back, I even told my husband that I would quit and just go get a job at Starbucks because yes, it is that bad. I get it. Okay, I feel you. When you get to that point, okay, that's breaking point where you have to do something.

21:09And breaking point is good, right? Even though it doesn't feel like it in the moment, that's the thing that's going to get your attention to say no more. I deserve better than this. And today is the day it stops. I'm going to go for a change. I'm going to find another job. Okay, luckily, I had reached out to my network. She had asked for help. She raised her hand. I did the same thing when I got fired. And she said, and I landed a great job that starts next week. Hello. If you are not happy where you are right now, raise your hand, ask for help and start finding out what is available for you in the world.

21:41There will be lots of opportunity. You just have to go find it. And like this woman, it didn't even take her long, right? Right away, she found a great job, which is amazing. And I'm so excited for her. She had to tell the universe and herself, I am worth more than this. The minute she did that, an opportunity that was equal to her showed up for her. Think about that. Think about that for you. Okay, I'm going to be working with people I know, people who understand me, encourage me and respect me. They know my superpower. Most importantly, I know the culture that they have and I know how positive it is.

22:13Super excited. So proud of her. So excited for her. You know, she got a couple of weeks off in between. She said, I've purged. I've rested. And I read your book, Overcome Your Villains. It was recommended to me by one of my mentors and came at such a critical time in my life. In the past year, especially, I lost my voice. I stopped speaking up and I didn't stand up for myself or my team anymore. I had never been mediocre. And then I started feeling mediocre every day. Oh my gosh. I so relate to this woman, guys. I just, I've been through that. I don't know if you've ever felt that way, but if you do just know this, it is so possible to get out of it, turn it around, just like this woman did.

22:52You would just have to say, this is enough. This stops here. This is my past, but this is not my present. And it absolutely is not my future. And you can completely change your life. Okay, your book has been amazing in helping me prioritize me. Yes, know my worth and the value I bring is helping me think through letting go of this last work experience, the villain that I had in my life and embrace this positive future with all that I am bringing to it. And that is so right. That is the right attitude. that bad situation was yesterday. That is gone. That is dead. That is over. And we let it go.

23:26We step into our power today. And the minute we start doing that, we start creating these amazing opportunities for tomorrow. Keep shining, Heather. Keep sharing. Next up in my book docket, of course, Confidence Creator. So this made me, again, so happy. If you have something encouraging and positive to say to someone, please share it with them today. You never know what they could be going through, what hardship they could have in their life and how much your words could impact them. I'm so grateful for these women sending me these beautiful notes and encouraging me and reminding me I am on the right path.

23:58And yes, anytime I get a beautiful note, I take a screenshot of it and I put it into a file on my phone called FAM Love. I encourage you to do the same. Basically, you go to that file folder anytime you're having a bad day and remind yourself you are making a difference. You do have a positive impact. There is a why behind everything you're doing. Sometimes we just have to be reminded of it, but we've got to empower ourselves to have a file or a folder or something to go to to say, I can do this right now. I've received positive feedback before. I'm going to reconnect with it. I'm going to immerse myself in it, and I'm going to remind myself why I'm doing what I'm doing.

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