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2:09So just start leaning into who you are, what's unique and different about you. And when you do that, you will start pulling people towards you or attracting people towards you that are looking for someone like you. Your backstory, the way you look, the way you say it, the frequency that you're emitting this message on is going to be entirely different than mine or somebody else's. And only certain unique people will be able to connect with that message because it came from you. So don't keep your power and magic from the world. Give the world your light, your magic, because the world needs it today more than ever.

2:48Heather Monahan:I'm on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. I'm ready for my close-up. Tell me, have you been enjoying these new bonus confidence classics episodes we've been dropping on you every week. We've literally hundreds of episodes for you to listen to. So these bonuses are a great way to help you find the ones you may have already missed. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, so a lot to catch up on. The first thing I want to actually share, I was looking at my good friend, John Gordon, You don't follow him on social media.

3:32Follow him. He's got the most amazing books, great podcast, great guy. He and his wife are amazing people. And I just watched a reel of his on Instagram. I'm going to tell you what he said, but I really love it. I've been doing probably for about a year now. I have this very intentional practice of speaking to God every morning, praying to God every morning and setting that intention for the day, asking, you know, for that, which I would love to have being grateful, thanking and being grateful for that for which I do have, and really putting out there to God into the universe, that which I would love to see come to fruition, right?

4:12Not knowing what will happen. But if you don't put it out there, it certainly won't happen. You might as try, right? So anyways, I just saw a reel that John did and it said basically this. His life was at the lowest point. His wife had given him an ultimatum. He had two kids. He was 31 and miserable and he decided every day to start his morning off going on a walk and saying this out loud every day for 30 days. Here we go. I expect great things to happen today. God, I trust in your plan for my life. I accept all the joy, love, success, and abundance in my life. Every day, I'm getting stronger, healthier, and better.

4:51And I accept all of the people that want to work with me and benefit from my gifts and talents. The best is yet to come. So he did this every day for 30 days and literally saw miracle after miracle occur in his life and is so grateful for that practice. And he's continued it his whole life. What's interesting is I've been doing something similarly without knowing about John doing this for about a year now. I guess, yeah, almost a year, a little shy of year, maybe like nine months this year. And so does it make a difference? I 100 % will tell you it does make a difference. So if you're not praying to God each morning and or having some type of an intention that you're setting for or asking God in the universe for that, which you would love to see come to fruition.

5:38you are not setting yourself up for as much success as you could. So I highly suggest do it for seven days, do it for one month. John was challenging people to do it for 30 days. Just, you know, give yourself five minutes while you're brushing your teeth. I don't care when just do it. I wake up really, really early because my son goes to school early and I start making my coffee. And that's when, when my coffee is heating is when I go and do this, right? So it's a few minutes every day. There is no downside. Nothing bad will happen. But I promise you the chances of miracles showing up in your life are incredibly high.

6:16So please try it. Okay. I just want the best for you. And yes, the best is yet to come. You got to believe that you've got to believe it to receive it. And you've got to expect it and allow it into your life. Okay, so I'm operating on no sleep right now, which is super annoying. Anyone that's listening that has a teen, I so feel for you. I can't stand this where they go out at night and then they don't want to come home till so late. I'm literally in text wars with my child trying to get him to come home before midnight. It's very, very frustrating and exhausting. And I am never at my best without sleep, right?

6:49I'm sure you're the same way. And it's funny because in these days, like today, I'm actually recording this on a Sunday. It's an incredible day in Miami. So beautiful. I'm so blessed, healthy. I live in the most incredible place, which I'm so grateful for, so thankful for every minute of every day. I love our home. My son is wonderful. You know, we're both healthy. We're so blessed. We just went to church and had an amazing message that we walked away from church today with and just feel so uplifted. However, I'm exhausted, right? And so I never feel at my best. And I just keep reminding myself to give myself grace that tomorrow is going to be a better day.

7:28and then I backtrack it to one week ago. If you haven't heard the episode from last week, I didn't do it solo. Instead, I did it with one of my best friends. I was in Boston for a wedding and we did the episode together. Go listen to it, the episode with Kelly Tyen. It was so funny and super interesting. She's got an incredible marriage and she was sharing why her marriage is so great and what she does to make it so great, why it works, which is super helpful for me seeing as how I am not currently married and I want a great marriage. So that was helpful. And then also just some other things that we learned that weekend, some crazy things that weekend that were pretty exceptional.

8:07So go check out that episode. I definitely loved it. You know, a couple of things that I want to share with you. Over the last week, I recorded a ton of podcast episodes. I was a guest on a bunch of podcast episodes and I had a bunch of guests on mine. There's a reason why I did that and I want to share it to you. sometimes people say to me, you know, you work too much or gosh, all you ever do is work. And believe me, there's moments in time where I truly feel like that is the case, but heading into the holidays this year and having just moved into my new condo, right. There's just been chaotic.

8:41And I wanted to find a way to just like go under and get as much stuff done as I could so that I wouldn't have to every week be saying, Oh gosh, who, who do I have on the show this week? and take it hard for one week and really create a ton of podcasts and content so that now this week, I can take a little bit of a step back and say, okay, now I can breathe. I have no pressure on me. Like the podcast is set now. What are those next strategic things that I wanna do as I set myself up for 2023? And if you haven't really been thinking about that yet, I challenge you to do that today, right? What are your goals gonna be for next year?

9:18How can you challenge yourself to go bigger, you know, get healthier, improve your relationships, improve your business, diversify your business, whatever it may be, you know, to kind of reflect and set goals, set intentions, and then create a roadmap and strategy to for where you want to go. So this week coming up is, is basically where I'm going to be doing that. Cut to, you know, you make plans and God laughs. I have been working, and I haven't really talked to you guys about this much, but I've been working on a number of different projects, right? I'm always working on some crazy ideas. In addition to my books, my speaking, my podcasts, and my board seat.

9:57I'm always looking at ways that I can add value, innovate new business models, you know, like, what is that next thing, right? Because I was in a traditional business for 20 something years. And I just saw people doing things the same way over and over again, and business declining. And while they couldn't help themselves, they wouldn't change, they wouldn't innovate. It drove me crazy. Never let yourself be that person, right? Don't just do it one way because that's the way it's always been done. That's a death sentence, not only personally and about evolving and growing, but from a business standpoint, your business, things around you are going to continuously change.

10:34That's the constant you've got to change too. You've got to change and evolve products, services, marketing, you know, customer support, whatever it may be, and all of if you want to remain relevant or become more relevant and increase your market share or diversify your business. So, you know, I'm always challenging myself and sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't, right? Plenty of business ideas I've had have failed. My clothing line with Perry Ellis failed. My skincare line with another company never came to market, right? I've got a few things that I've really gone deep into like nine months, 10 months of work and it didn't work

11:10Heather Monahan:out. But, you know, I have two books out there. I have 300 podcast episodes out there. I have thousands of speeches I've done, right? I've created so many other things that did work out that I don't focus on what didn't, right? So keep your focus on what is working and then keep innovating, trying and brainstorming new ideas. To that end, about a year ago, I don't believe, number one, I don't believe people come into your life just for no reason, right? I believe that There is a reason why people come into your life. A good friend of mine, seven years ago, introduced me to a woman in New York.

11:46Whenever I'm traveling for work, I always take the meetings, right? Like you never, hey, I'm here. There's an opportunity to meet someone. It could be a new open door. I could help them. They could help me. You just never know. I don't, you know, I need to jump on opportunity when it's there. So she and I hit it off. We became friendly. We've seen each other a few times over the last seven years. You know, we're friendly, but we're not close, which is fine. However, I had this business idea about a year ago, a little over a year ago. And I thought, oh my gosh, her background and expertise is ideal for this idea.

12:21She would be my ideal partner because I know her. I like her. I trust her, right? She's very, very close with a very close friend of mine. And she's just a good person. And so I thought, if I'm going to get into business with someone, I want to get into business with people I know, like, and trust. And I don't want to have to do everything, right? One thing I've learned as I've gotten older, I'm great at certain things. I'm not great at, you know, different things, right? So manufacturing, I know nothing about that, right? There's certain things I know nothing about. I know how to sell and market things.

12:51I know how to see a vision and execute on it. I know how to pick good partners, but I don't know how to manufacture things. I mean, there's plenty of things I have no clue on. She knows how to do all those things. So anyhow, it was a little over a year ago, I reached out to her and I said, hey, I've got a really interesting idea. I would love, because of your background and expertise, to partner with you on this if you think that this is a viable idea. I share the idea with her. She's like, you know what? I really like that idea. It's cool. Heather, you're saying you'd be responsible for selling it, marketing it.

13:24Like, she's like, that's the stuff that I don't really love doing. You know, this is perfect. You would let me take the piece that I love to do and that I'm really skilled at, And then you would take the other piece from me and then we would both benefit. Exactly. Okay, great. I said, so what I need to do is I need a product. I need a sample of what I'm telling you. Right. And so we mapped it out. We were back and forth with pictures, sketches, whatever. And she said, okay, I've got a good enough handle on it now. Let me go do what I do. She's like, and I'll figure out a way to get you a prototype back.

13:56And I said, once I have something in my hand, I'm going to go sell it to this other partner that I will literally get us in front of millions of people. And this thing will just go wildfire. That was my goal. So she says, okay, let me get a prototype. Just so you know, two days ago, I just got the prototype. It's been about one year, a little bit longer than a year. That's how long, it's so crazy. And I tell you this to encourage you, no matter where you are in your journey right now with your ideas, with what you're working on, don't get discouraged. I was getting super discouraged in the past year that this just wasn't coming to fruition.

14:32And I got it, right? So it's a bummer it took this long, but I got it. And now it's on me to say, okay, I need to get on a flight. I need to go bring this prototype and pitch it to this potential partner. See if I can get a yes. And then if I can get a yes, I wanna get in front of that audience and sell the heck out of this thing. So, all right, put good vibes out there for me this week because number one, you know, I believe in face-to-face. I'm gonna try to get a face-to-face meeting this week, pitch this concept, sharing the problem that I solve for this potential consumer and how it's going to make millions of dollars for everybody involved and turn it over.

15:08So, oh my gosh, I'm super excited.

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17:49I recorded a ton of podcasts, as I mentioned, over the last week. It was interesting, the juxtapose between two different guests that I had, and you're going to hear these episodes, they're going to be coming up in the next few weeks. Super interesting. Okay, one was the founder of Sprinkles. Her name's Candice. Super successful, right? She has her own TV show. She has two different successful franchises, a pizza chain, a cupcake chain. She's written two bestselling books. This lady is beyond successful. Whatever she touches turns to gold, right? Amazing and an incredible story. Literally, she lost her job, launched this cupcake business.

18:29And within like two weeks, the business exploded. Ultimately, Oprah talked about it. And then there was no looking back. She like wildfire that company scale. ridiculous success right out of the gate, sort of like that miracle moment. And I ask her all about that. Like, what do you attribute? Like, why didn't that happen for me? What the F this? I mean, I'm happy for her, but I'm like, how do I get someone out of my life? Hello. So we get into the details of why she thinks that happened. However, the reason why I'm sharing this is, you know, it's so easy to get caught up in why doesn't that happen for me?

19:03Because that's totally how I felt when I was interviewing her. Cut to that same day, I interviewed my friend, Jess Ekstrom, who's amazing. She's the founder of Headbands for Hope, a company that donates headbands to children with cancer. She's helped literally millions of kids. I mean, she's such an incredible human, but she's in a for-profit business, right? Just now, 10 years later, after she's been working on this, she just got into Kohl's 10 years later. So I share that interesting, as I said, juxtaposed between those two stories in that some people can blow up on day one and no one knows why it happens.

19:43Or, you know, Candace was saying, you know, I just feel like I'm in such an alignment. And, you know, once I got in alignment with what I was meant to do, everything exploded. Who knows what the reason is, but I want to encourage you to not give up because it took a year for me to get the prototype that I thought would take a couple of months, right? Max, it took a year, a little over a year, right? That was not our plan going in. And a million different things can happen that can slow you down or discourage you. Thank goodness my friend Jess didn't give up. It took her 10 years to quote unquote make it, right?

20:17To get into Kohl's. Well, now her business is gonna explode. And she didn't know on what day she'd hit the tipping point. she just wouldn't give up. And for her, she stays so connected to her why she's helping kids. And so she said, she said, I'd never give up. It didn't even matter if I got into clothes or not, I'm not going to give up. So reconnect to your why, stay focused and know your company could blow up tomorrow. The magic could happen tomorrow, just like it did for Candace, literally a couple of days or a couple of weeks into her business, everything exploded when Oprah said that she loved the sprinkles cupcake on air and gave it out to everybody.

20:53It's such a cool story. You've got to listen to both those episodes. I love them. Okay. Hoping to encourage you don't give up. You never know what's around that next corner. It could be tomorrow. Maybe it is. I'm hoping it is for me. Okay. So, all right. I gave a speech yesterday or two days ago for the pivot school, which is a fashion school. Here's what's interesting. I had never done a speech for a fashion audience, right? I'm not a fashion expert. However, I would like to be one. I love fashion, but I am not. And it was interesting when they hired me, they came to me through one of my agents.

21:29And when they told me they wanted me, I thought, why the heck would they want me? Right? This doesn't make sense. It's not my normal audience. And they explained, oh, they're bringing you in as an expert on personal branding. And I thought, oh, okay, I get it. They want to teach, you know, this group of people who are experts in the fashion business, how to brand themselves personally, not just through their labels. Okay, got that. Absolutely, I can do that. And I do a lot of speeches for businesses around personal branding for their employees. It's basically the

22:00Heather Monahan:same thing, just, it struck me a little different because of the fashion arena. Well, I was excited about it until I found out, you know, some of the other keynote speakers I was lined up with. I was the only one without a TV show. And when I tell you, okay, fish out of water moment, Rachel Zoe is one of the other speakers, right? These are people who are millions of followers, their own TV shows, you know, hundreds of millions of dollar brands, right? Much more successful than I currently am. And so of course, just like you, I'm sure I have those moments where I question, oh, gee, like, what?

22:39They really and there's my face right next to their faces. And so leading up to it, I didn't think that much about it, right? I don't get into my head that much. I kind of stay focused on what's right in front of me, like for today and this week. So I don't get too crazy worrying about stuff like that. That's far away. But as I got to like the day before and realized, you know, Rachel Zoe and all these other people with their own shows. And of course I started thinking, do I really belong? Right. I don't even know if it's imposter syndrome. I just felt like, yeah, I don't know that I'm at their level for this opportunity.

23:13Right. I just, I don't. So I was doubting myself and feeling like I was lacking a little confidence. And so I had to go back, you know, to all the things that I ask everybody to do, right. Like I remind myself what I'm great at. They brought me in for personal branding. My personal brand is really solid, right? I've been working on it for five years and I can't speak to that, right? I can't speak like Rachel Zoe to fashion, but, and I've never designed anything and I'm in awe of these people that can, but what I'm talking about is what I am great at, right? I am great at my personal brand. I'm super proud of that.