'The kids think they rule the roost, and they bloody don't!'

31:07Anna Williamson:guys we actually care about you yeah we care about you we're invested in you what happened to her because I'm concerned. Right. I thought I'd provide you with an update. Also with the hope that it might help someone in a similar situation. At the beginning of the year, I sent you guys a message about my husband who I had been with since I was 14. Cheating on me, finding out over Christmas and telling me he didn't love me anymore. I think you called me lasagna. Anyway, with no intention of actually finding someone, I downloaded some dating apps for a distraction from my misery. literally just a welcome distraction obviously didn't think I was ready for anything else well what I didn't expect is that I would find someone absolutely incredible the most loving kind patient and funny person that I've ever met we share so many coincidences and so many of our values and goals intertwine I've never felt more secure and loved we basically never left each other's side after our first day and have now officially been together for nearly five months but honestly it feels like years.

32:13I just wanted to send this message to anyone who may be going through similar to what I did, thinking your whole world is shattered because I am proof that you can do it alone and you can find someone who loves you for who you are. It's shown me that my perfect relationship wasn't as perfect as I thought and things really do happen for a reason. Even if you think you aren't ready, don't give up on something that you think could bring you happiness as you deserve it. Obviously, there are still some very tough times going through a divorce, but if I can bloody do it, anyone can. Anyway, thanks guys for what you do.

32:49You've also helped me through the difficult times when all I want is a laugh and distraction. And thank you for your lovely words of positivity and advice the last time. I love you all. Lasagna.

32:59Anna Williamson:Oh, good for you, Liz. Well done. You know what? Life is for living. You only get one shot at it. Thank you. That's made our day. keep in your updates please guys we do care about you right message from anonymous so alicent alicent it's just an old person's name okay oh thank you thank you we're trying to like look for the rudeness yeah i'm like what it's on this one uh hi lou anemo love the pod i am in need of some advice this is a long one so i'm sorry but i just don't know where to turn my partner and i have a toddler together and recently we've been struggling with parenting and having opposing opinions when it comes to parenting styles particularly when it comes to outside play I try to encourage our child to go for it whilst we take a step back at a safe distance to allow him to work it out for himself and give him confidence in himself I think my partner coddles him too much and pushes his anxieties onto our child in the park the other day he was playing on a toddler size climbing frame with a slide my son is a little on the shorter side therefore finds climbing a little more challenging he was struggling to push himself onto the structure that was no more than a meter off the floor and had a rope step and handles to use.

34:06Anna Williamson:The rope made it more tricky, but I've seen him climb higher things. So I knew he could do it with a bit of practice, encouragement, and maybe a little push up for physical support the first couple of times. I was encouraging him to keep trying and to push, but he eventually gave up when my partner said, you're not ready for that. You're a bit small. For the next hour at the park, he started to get really nervous around that area and then started saying, I can't do it. I mentioned it to my partner and said to him, you need to use positive encouragement. He's now lost confidence and he won't go near it because you told him he's too small to use it.

34:36Anna Williamson:He's never going to develop if we're not encouraging him and using positive affirmations. My partner didn't like this and didn't want to hear it. This then turned into a whole argument about how I micromanage his parenting, that it'll be my fault if my child falls and hurts himself and that all I want to do is argue. I explained to him that I'm not trying to argue or micromanage. I'm only looking out for my child to support his physical development. I'm not attacking his parenting. I'm offering advice and support to help him encourage our child's confidence instead of putting ideas into his head of him thinking he can't do something.

35:05Anna Williamson:I've also got a little bit of experience working with young children as well as studying a little bit of child development and psychology in the past. When I bring that up, I know what I'm talking about because of those things. I get told it doesn't matter because every child is different, which, yes, is true, but not in this context. If you tell a young child they can't do something, especially from a caregiver and parent, they're going to believe that is the case and children look for their parents or trusted people for guidance, safety and reassurance. Yeah, I agree. It's really frustrating when I see my child's potential and I build his confidence when it's just us.

35:35Anna Williamson:But as soon as my partner steps in, he regresses. And it's even more frustrating when I can't even talk to my partner and not get listened to. My knowledge undermined without me being made out to be in the wrong and end up in arguments. I just don't even know what to do anymore. How can I advocate for and encourage my child when someone who is supposed to work with me is working against me this is really tricky and I think this echoes a lot of couples um and not even couples actually I think it's an even bigger challenge actually at times when parents have split and they're co-parenting we throw step parents into the mix here as well I think just parenting in general right Lou and I think from a therapeutic point of view I find when I work with couples around marriage um and when if I'm working with couples that are having you know problems often parenting styles does massively come into this and I know that when Alex and I became parents um we didn't discuss uh what kind of parents we were what influences we had from our backgrounds and how we wanted to be parents and I think and you and I say this a lot don't we Lou that often a lot of the arguments we have with our husbands are down to the parenting right yeah 100 % I think actually that's really the only time that Andrew and I would clash because same I'm I'm a bit like this lady like I want them to be independent to do their thing to discover the world to problem solve to be able to be like critical thinkers and yes um whereas andrew would be a lot more modicoddling a lot more controlling you know like i've always for instance i think that decision making is such an important part of life and there are so many adults that i know that procrastinate that cannot make a decision with with conviction that that fluff around that take ages to do anything I'm the total opposite of that right I shoot from the hip I'm very quick and sometimes that goes against me most time it goes for me to be honest with you um but and I really want you know my children to have that ability and I do think that starts on being very young so I would always for instance say to my kids here are three outfits so you control that within those three outfits do you want the blue trousers the pink trousers or the green trousers they then make a decision from those options that you've given them whereas Andrew for instance would be like put the pink trousers on and and I think that like I do think that you are right in this message and that your partner is wrong to be honest with you but it's really really hard because nobody has a child and wants to be a bad parent nobody has a child and wants to not do the right thing by their child so you're kind of telling him that that he's wrong but obviously that's gonna hurt him and that's gonna upset him because nobody outwardly wakes up and goes right I'm gonna be a shit parent today and I'm gonna do the wrong things and I'm going to make the wrong decisions.

38:33So actually, it's really hard criticising someone else's parenting because all they want is to do the best and they're doing what they think is best. And I really don't have the answer for it. It's such a huge challenge. And I think that as your child grows, then your partner can see that. And that's what kind of had to happen with Andrew and I because I was like, you know, when you look around at perhaps some other family members that we've got, you know, and even me like saying to some of our extended family, what do you want for breakfast? The children couldn't answer me. And they weren't children, you know, they were like 10, 11, 12 at this point because their parents had always consistently controlled everything.

39:17Answered for them. To the point where they can't even tell you if they want toast or Cheerios for breakfast because that ability to make decisions has never been given to them. But that then transfers into adults who then can't make decisions about things. That then transfers into young adults that can't make a decision about what they want to do for A-levels or GCSEs because they've never had to make decisions like that. And so whilst I do think you're right, I think you have to tread really, really carefully here and perhaps change your approach to get what you want, which is kind of what I had to do with Andrew, to be honest.

39:56you know I was a bit like well you know what what is our end goal here you know do we want to create a young young adults that are independent that can that can critically think that can problem solve that are confident manageable in that I yeah that you know all these things that actually you want to make a a brilliant well-rounded adult right because you know and then okay so let's take that back how do we achieve that and I honestly had to do that with Andrew because you know you're never going to be able to create a person like that if they're not given the ability within a controlled environment to do that and I think that maybe you need to look that far ahead with your partner to try and then work backwards to how you achieve that and it is what you're saying is absolutely right positive affirmations although I do think that positivity with children is really important I also think that being realistic with your children is really important so you know like Clemmie can't sing and Indy can sing for instance and I'll be like oh Clemmie you sound like a drowned rat like I I never you know in a jokey way like we're really big on banter in our house and a bit of like brutal banter because I don't want to

41:14Anna Williamson:create children that can't take criticism but your kids are used to that as well like I mean and I think again context um I think context around that is also really important and personalities um and and as you say my my family I grew up with with boys we are that's why probably you and I get on so well one of the many reasons because you know we we just really rip the shit out of each other and I just don't really get offended I'm just like I'll fuck off do you know what I mean but some people do but like for instance just one more example like one of the girls that works for me like she was told her whole life you're amazing you're brilliant you can do this like you know and I think that's great building people up but what that then transferred to in a work environment for her um was that any time that a boss criticized her she would just up and leave the job you know she'd just be like well they don't value me I'm off instead of thinking actually let me take on board this criticism reflection and and reflect so i think that whilst positive affirmations which is what this lady says in this message is important it also is important to be realistic and your husband is also being realistic at the same time so you know there probably is a bit of give and take um on each side i would say but i think you're right well i think what it comes down to is is looking at to your point you said that what is the goal I think that's really really important as you say as parents what is the goal of how we want our children to be raised but also looking at what is driving the way we are parenting and typically it comes from a place of fear um fear of anything going wrong you know the overwhelm you know just just the responsibility of having it I would be curious to know I'm like you I'm I'm a bit of a you as well and a bit of a I've had to really check myself to not be a helicopter parent as well at times because you naturally care about your kids and you don't you want them to be safe yeah it's so important to Lou's point we have to raise resilient uh children that have autonomy that have agency that have independence to be able to manage risk and you know we often talk about this invisible string and obviously it's very close when they're babies but we need to let it out like a fishing rod more and more as they get older they have to make mistakes they have to take risks to fathom out what is worth it you know if I didn't teach my kids how to stop look listen um when they cross a road when they're 18 years old if I was holding their hand the whole time and doing it for them they're gonna hit 18 and get straight into a car because they haven't learned exactly and and we had like for example and but I do get you know I think there needs to be a fine level of empathy and sympathy but I think a really big conversation with your husband to try and maybe create a bit more of a guide rail for both of you and creating as lucid that controlled environment to release that string a bit so for example and lose right as well about it feels like toxic positivity because kids do sponge of us they look to their caregivers for cues physical cues mental cues you know and it's why you know i'm not crazy about flying but christ alive my kids i hide that fucking fear like you know because i'm not projecting that it's like dogs when people are scared of dogs like my our friend lucy is scared of dogs and then her boys are scared of dogs and i was like lucy you can't be like that like it's not anyway now they've now they've got a dog got through it well there you go because our kids do take their cues and i'm not saying it's easy but you do have but kids do naturally look to their primary caregiver for a cue is this okay or is it not little example we had a holiday recently we were in a you know all-inclusive hotel so i knew it was pretty safe you know the kids wanted to go and get some drinks from the bar you know which was at the other side of kind of the swimming pool resort bit you know I know they again it's man it's managing the risk in your head they can both swim uh there was a lifeguard there they said can we go and get drinks I couldn't be arsed but actually they wanted to go because they wanted to practice their Italian as well and again it's no good I know but it's no good me getting up and doing it for them all the time because they're not going to learn and I thought well they're six and nine they can look after each other again it's it's it's it's letting that string out so they went off and I said well off you go to the bar you know what you're asking for and again it's doing it in a controlled environment now they ended up I got like 15 minutes later and they still weren't back so I did sort of think oh hang on a minute where actually have they gone because it is only literally you know around a few things so but again I didn't I didn't want to panic but equally I trust them but I got up and I sort of sidled around and I saw them at a distance and they were clearly in the mid they'd obviously got in the queue you know and they'd got themselves at the bar and then they were practicing what they needed to and they were Enzo was all grown up signing the little room build, you know what I mean, and everything.

45:55Anna Williamson:And I could see at a distance that they had, and he was clearly figuring out how to speak Italian and English. I thought, no, don't rescue him. He needs to figure it out. And they did. And he felt ever so proud of himself when he came back with the drinks orders and everything else, and they'd done it and they completed it. And, you know, in those moments, it is about giving them that autonomy in that controlled environment. And I'd really encourage your husband, but I think maybe ask him what his fear is a lot of this links to our own parenting as in how we were parented um my parents were pretty you know get out see you see you in a few hours you know get on with it so I think often it comes from from what we're used to as well but yeah you've got to get on the same page guys or this is going to be this is going to be hell for you you can go on parenting courses too which might be worth it does get easier as well as they get older i will say it's always a challenge when they're younger like babies is fine and then you get to that toddler like between you know like two and and five that's probably the most clash and then they start to become their own little people and also your husband will then just give up and leave it to use from my experience too we've got to be careful to not enable and it is hard and you will have clashes about it and as you say you just got to ride them through you got to ride them through it's one of the hardest things isn't it parenting it really is it really is and as I say I think Lou and I can both admit it's the one thing that really does cause bickering between our husbands the other night Alex took Enzo to Arsenal on the train and apparently they missed their last train home because Enzo then had a faff because he wanted a water bottle wanted to drink because he was thirsty but he wouldn't drink the water out of the water bottle that Alex had already got because Alex had already drunk out of it so went to go and get him a water bottle Mr.

47:35Train by a minute you know and I was like that kid either needs to learn to drink out that bottle

47:40Anna Williamson:or go thirsty or go thirsty yeah exactly and he was like you know what he's like I was like I don't care in that in that situation you've just got to lay it down and but again you have those moments so then I was cross because he was home late he was then overtired you know so and you can see how very quickly these things spiral Alex did nothing wrong he said you would have done the same if you were there Anna he was in one of those little moments he was having his little moment I get it I get it. You know, and you've just got to sometimes have a bit of a blow up. Exactly. And then agree that that's just a moment.

48:08Anna Williamson:Move on. You know, you've just got to move on. Well, good luck. Good luck. We do feel your pain. We do. We've got another message from Anon. So Emma, smother you in chocolate. Brilliant. Hi, Luanna. I have a traumatic swimming pool story. And I don't even have kids. I used to work as an outreach support worker for children with disabilities. One of the kids was two to one staff because she used to be quite challenging, aka she used to beat us up regularly. Her mum decided that us being twatted in the park wasn't enough and wanted us to see if the swimming calmed her. Okay. Do you know why I feel so bad because having a child like that is so challenging.

48:54Really challenging. It's so, so hard. The work that people do. And as the kids get bigger, I've got a friend and her boy's challenging. He's getting older now, you know, and he whacks her and it fucking hurts. It's actually horrible.

49:07Anna Williamson:It's horrible. I've got a parent friend who gets hit by their child. And they can't, the kids don't mean to. And then after he's devastated, but it's just, it's really, really just an awful situation to be in. Anyway, this kid regularly used to strip naked and run without warning. And at 14, she had entered puberty very early. not really relevant but it adds to the context of how on edge we were on every shift we started taking her swimming once a week i use the word swimming loosely as it mainly involved her trying to drown us for an hour and 45 minutes and praying that she didn't shit in the pool hour and 45 you have to laugh at such things like this you have to laugh you do you can't do this That's right.

49:52Yeah, exactly. To get changed, we usually needed to ask women's staff to help. So one of us could get changed first whilst the other sorted her out. This week was my turn. I'm enjoying five minutes peace while getting dry. I hear bum, bum and whip my head up to see the young person balanced on the stall above, completely buck naked, staring at me. Also completely naked. I'm getting sacked. I've exposed myself to a vulnerable child said child is precariously balanced on top of the stool naked minimum wage is not enough for this shit oh bless you I managed to cover myself with a towel tell her to stay still while I open the door to find out where my colleague has gone or if she is maybe dead nope she's been pushed and locked out of their changing room we had to have the door opened by maintenance call her mum and then report ourselves to our employer for safeguarding.

50:50Oh, Jesus. Oh, you poor cow. I left that job a year later after another child bit me through my bra and often laughed to myself about how these kinds of situations were just accepted as the norm. I hope it gave you a laugh. Give me a porn name, please, Imo. Oh, babes. You were doing God's work because that is no easy feat. That is not easy. We salute you.

51:16Anna Williamson:We salute you. And you're titty-biting and you're naked-exposing. Remember, if you want to get in touch, you can email us, Luanna at everythingluanna.com. You can also drop us a WhatsApp on 075-215-6464.

51:37Right, oh, newsy bits. I saw this story. basically a flight was cancelled because a kid refused to wear a seat belt it was a flight in Canada and the Porter Airlines flight it was flying from Victoria to Toronto it returned to the terminal as a young child was standing in their seat and would not secure their seat belt the flight then didn't depart the runway closed after midnight so all the passengers had to be rebooked on a flight the following day and this incident has now split opinion about how children should be treated in such situations.

52:19Anna Williamson:So the Port Air Line said attempts by the accompanying parent and crew to address this were unsuccessful. The aircraft could not take off in this unsafe condition so the crew elected to return to the terminal and have the two passengers disembarked. An aviation safety expert told the BBC that the Port Air Line crew were protecting the safety of the passengers, blah, blah, blah. Unrestrained children can become projectiles. That is true. Yeah, similar to unrestrained items of luggage, which can fly into passengers in the event of turbulence, especially during takeoff and landing. Now, the incident has led to debate online over how tolerant airlines should be to travelling families and how strictly parents should have to enforce airline rules.

52:59Anna Williamson:Some have said it was an example of what happens when parents are too gentle on their children. I agree. Well, we don't actually know. with you but we don't know how exactly so i'm being fair how old was the child and what did they have any special needs special needs exactly i think we have to really take into play the context of this because someone said we've all been those parents you and i have been those parents lou um but i also i would suck a punch my kid to make it sit down i basically i would restrain my child refused to wear her seatbelt i'm like you know karate chopping that stomach so they have to sit down and then put in the seatbelt on.

53:35But if it's a child like the previous message we've just got, that is a very different situation. So we'll just caveat this whole news story with that. Yeah, I would.

53:46Anna Williamson:I would. They said here the child kept hiding under their seat and if they got forced into being strapped in, they just sort of slid out underneath. Now, many people have questioned why the whole flight had to be disruptive for one child and said that the family had to be removed. I think, look, being really fair to this situation, look, if I got off boarded because someone's kid didn't sit in their seatbelt and I missed my flight, I'd be absolutely fuming. No, but I'd be fuming. I'd be absolutely fuming. If it was my kid though, I'd be mortified. But I'm going to, oh, you would be. But on the flip side, as you say, it's a really interesting one.

54:22Anna Williamson:I mean, we've all been in those situations, well, I know I have with my kids where, yeah, they've gone through, typically around that 18 months old, two years old. I don't know how old this child was, where they have simply refused to put on the, you know, the adjoining seatbelt, you know, to you and to the mom. And yeah, we've had a couple of scenarios when they were younger. And we used to fly quite a lot with them when they were babies. And it was awful. It was mortifying, as you say. So I think on the flip side, I have a lot of empathy for parents and flying because it's really hard when you are flying with your kids, when you are doing your best.

54:55Anna Williamson:Because kids are not robots. You can't control them. They are just human beings that would do what the hell they want to do, whether we like it or not. And it is really difficult. And as you say, to your point, I have had to, and I've had some quite strict cabin crews saying to me, she needs to be strapped in and it's kicking off. But as you say, I have then safely and but firmly, you know, restrained her with my arms, with my arms. I've held her in the seat and she's had the whisper shout from me. The whisper shout. And she's had every single possible snack treat and bribery that I can get away with to get her to sit down and behave before we get up in the air.

55:32Anna Williamson:So it is a horrible experience. But if I was responsible for a whole flight being stopped, I'd also feel awful. So I think it's quite extreme. I don't know if they then charged you for that flight. How pissed you'd be. But then what do you do? I do think that parents are too gentle though nowadays. I just do. I just think that it's, you know, we see this all the time with teachers at school. You know, it's like, it's such, teachers at school have these massive challenges with children because the fucking parents never side with the teachers. And, oh, little Bobby's perfect. No, little Bobby is an arsehole.

56:08And actually, if you treated little Bobby like the arsehole he was, he wouldn't be such an arsehole. But, you know, teachers are saying to parents, oh, you know, I'm having these issues and that issues. And they're like, well, why are you being mean to little Bobby? No, it's just bullshit, okay? It's so annoying. I've had this, you know, this was a massive issue in the kids' school here in England. This mum with a few kids, you know, the sun shines out these kids' arses. The kids are horrible. They're bullying everyone, left, right and centre. And every time the school tries to do something about it, the mum goes in and fucking complains that the school are disciplining the children.

56:47Where is the message in that? Yeah, no, exactly. And that is just common. if the school are ringing me telling me that my children are doing something and they're not happy with their behavior you bet your bottom dollar that that child is is then being like punished at home and that there's repercussions at home I'm not going to go to the school and say why are you singling out my child she's not done this she's not done that like this is the problem with parents nowadays and again then it then it spills over into situations like this and the kids think they rule the ruse and they bloody don't rule the ruse they're to sit down and do what they're told like that is just it because if you don't if you don't have that foundation in a situation where there is like a risk and it's dangerous i.e this situation where they won't put a seatbelt on because they will become a human missile you know where is the discipline nowadays everyone's so bloody soft with their kids all this gentle parenting bollocks i'm sorry but it just but

57:48Anna Williamson:But then in this case, do we know, do we, there hasn't been any information on how much the parent did try. I mean, as you say, I suppose, what do you do in that situation? But it's not even about in that situation as a single time. It's about why the child feels it's empowered enough to disobey its parents. It's not about an isolated situation. But how old was the child? But I think, no, I agree with you, but I think there are some ages of children. Again, I'm just playing devil's advocate. because I'm with you. Yeah, bloody hell, if all my kids at six and nine didn't behave themselves on a plane, well, they would because they just would because that's exactly, there are consequences for their behaviour.

58:29But equally, I don't know.

58:31Anna Williamson:I think in this case, what I find really interesting is in this case, in this scenario, because we don't have enough context. Like if this was an 18-month-old child that I don't know how to... I think it was the same thing. Can you find out, Em? Well, the child was small enough to crawl underneath the chair so size wise it's going to be quite small it's in its own seat though so that would be two and above wouldn't it look i just always relate this to how i have seen kids in africa at three years old fucking getting water for their family like the problem with the western world is that we modicoddle and baby our children so much and we don't enable them to do as much as they actually can do.

59:14Like when you look worldwide at what children achieve at different ages, we are quite backwards, right? We just are, you know, you've got fucking kids in China that are like bloody piano prodigies at like three years old. We just are very, very babyish with our children. We are. And we're too soft. That's what I think anyway. People can hate me for it, but I actually don't care. But it's an opinion and we welcome all of those. I say that. Clemy had a massive tantrum on the Jet 2 flight, by the way, out there. Oh, did she? Why? Yeah, her and Indy just had an argument about a pen. It's always about something absolutely pointless.

59:50She was, like, crying, and I was like, shut up crying.

59:53Anna Williamson:You are too old for me. I know, it's too old for the tantruming. I just think it's just really hard. I think it's really hard, as you say, and I'm with you. I'm a strict parent. I expect behaviour from my children. But at the end of the day, sometimes there are just moments where you are completely at your wits end and go, I just don't know what else to do. So I think there's such a continuum. I do agree with that. But I do think that when you get to this situation, it's because you don't have a foundation of discipline. Like you don't have a child that is respectful and listens to what they're told at home.

1:00:32And, you know, that starts with, for instance, sit at the table and eat your food, put your own shoes on before we go out the door you you don't go from having a child that's respectful and listens to then suddenly doing this in that moment it's it's a build-up of non-discipline and do you know what i mean like it's not just it wouldn't just be an isolated incident it's a total lack of respect for doing what they're asked to do essentially it's a nightmare uh right wealthy woman bankrolls her own drama series so she can star in it just so she can kiss the male lead.

1:01:09Anna Williamson:Stop. This is absolutely brilliant. So Chong Jufai is an up-and-coming Chinese short drama actor and she took to social media to speak about Nightmare. No, he. Sorry, he. Sorry, my apologies. I have misgendered you. He experienced on the set of a production that was supposed to be his big break. The 23-year-old actor was allegedly constantly harassed on set by his co-star, who just happened to be the sole investor in the project. the wealthy woman reportedly set two main conditions for bankrolling the 50 episode short drama series this is brilliant she this is the shit that we do we put ourselves on stage because we want to do it we can hard relate to this if we can't do it ourselves yeah come along that'll do we'll pay for it she had to play the lead female role and she had the final say on the script this is so luana this gave her free reign over production because she could always pull the plug on the whole thing.

1:02:02Anna Williamson:No one dared argue with her. So no matter how absurd her decisions were, for example, the script that she greenlit featured over 60 kissing scenes and no matter how many times the director and other members of the film crew tried to tell her that the unusually high number of smooching scenes risked disrupting the rhythm of the plot and making the audience lose immersion, she never listened. She just wanted to snog this guy. She just wanted to snog, babes. She just wanted to have a hot snog and pay for it. She said, I've seen more short dramas than you've ever made, she allegedly said, ignoring the advice.

1:02:31Anna Williamson:The 23-year-old actor, who was selected to pay the male leave, was said that he was shocked and he felt his co-star, French, kissed him during the first of many romantic scenes. He instinctively tried backing away, but she allegedly grabbed the back of his head with one hand and held him there. And that is actual... She forcibly kissed him. I mean, it's harassment. That's not great. It's harassment, isn't it? Yes, it is. But she basically sexually assaulted him under the guise of acting. Of acting, yeah. That is how she got round molesting this poor young guy. Then I'm paying for it. We're just acting.

1:03:11It's script. But it's in the scripts. It's in the scripts. So my tongue is now going to go in your throat, okay? This is acting. Do you know what? And he thought this was his big break.

1:03:21Anna Williamson:His big moment. Oh, bless. Do you know what? I wonder what would happen. Because I don't know if I ever talked about this. Probably have. my one time I did an acting role for um the tv series lock stock and two smoking barrels like right when I was like 19 and I was cast and I had to snog one of the leads um and he was really hot right he was like he was really hot did you put your tongue in yeah and I remember we had like a little moment they were like um it's a kissing scene are you okay with that and I because when I was cast to do it I was I would like blink and you miss at the scene but I was like and they it's a kissing scene and I was thinking I am right fit hot Italian stallion he was married to Melanie Sykes at the time so but I remember beforehand they were like he was he chatted he was like I just want to check you're okay with the scene and he was like what kind of kiss do you feel comfortable with and I was like what kind of do you thinking he went well I you know I'm a method actor exactly he was like I'm a method actor so I go fully in and I was like yeah me too yeah I'm a method actor I go fully in too yeah What did I bloody know?

1:04:25Anna Williamson:Anyway, I need to dig out this scene and show it to you. Cut to the scene that made the cut. It was me pushed up against a wall and had a full-on snog and we had to shoot it three times. I got stubble rash and everything and it was so good. Well, unfortunately, this short drama series never went anywhere because due to the unusually high number of kissing scenes, the series was rejected by the platform it was supposed to stream on. So it was just rejected outright. It was too explicit, too much kissing, which violated regulations. So that was that. Cancelled. Literally cancelled. But she did get her snogs, so there we go.

1:05:09Anna Williamson:She got 60 snogs out of it. She did indeed. That's mental, isn't it? It's mental. It's a little bit weird, which brings us beautifully onto. It's time for... It's the widow of the week. car. Beautiful. Right. Weird of the week. Tash is nominating her twin sister Chelsea. Hi Luana, obsessed with the pod. I will let you have the name obsessed there, the word obsessed. I want to put my twin forward for weirdo. My twin asks me to preserve her boyfriend's scabs. Okay, that's weird. Her boyfriend fell off his bike. How old is he? Five. And had deep cuts and scabbed over when it was safe to do so she asked him to remove the scab and wrap them in kitchen roll she then presented them to me and asked if I'd preserve them in resin for her she's my twin and I love her so much so yeah I did it I felt sick as I did it though uh so I placed the scabs in resin I didn't even know you could do this uh and for now she has them hanging in her car wow oh no here's a photo you can enjoy is this mental oh this is a good candidate for word of the week I think so Chelsea from Ipswich Look at the picture Tash from Ipswich Oh please She has a key ring of her resined scab Oh why would you want that?

1:06:31Anna Williamson:That is so weird That is that is actually just there's no other word than weird Yeah than weird It's the definition of weird If you look up in the dictionary it's this It's this Scabs in resin Right I don't think this can be beaten but let's see what Sammy has to say Hi Luanamo I'm with you Lu contender for word of the week. Every time I eat a fruit or healthy food, I Google to see what the benefits of eating it are. It's like a little knowledge reward for healthy eating. Not that I don't normally, but just that extra reassurance that I'm eating healthy nutritional food. For example, today, cherries.

1:07:08Did you know they reduce inflammation, produce a healthy heart, accelerate exercise recovery they promote better sleep nothing too crazy but I thought it occurred to me it might be a bit of an odd habit you don't need to keep me numb Sammy from Grimsby well I think the clear winner is the scab in the resin to do with Sammy it really is it was hard to put anything up

1:07:32Anna Williamson:against old Tash Kelsey there I do like that though I might start doing that I bet it gives you a real boost after eating something and you look it up and you think yeah I'm now feeling like my heart is pumping hard I'm going to sleep well tonight yeah like when you do on My Fitness Pal I think old Scabby Tash for the win Scabby Tash yes Scabby Tash for the win you're the weirdo of the week probably the month at this rate probably the year when we get to December yeah you know it you know it it's up there Lulu you had a mini rant but would you like another rant we are wrapping up the episode no I'm not because I'm going to play paddle actually so there you are you're wearing a very cute paddle outfit i'm i'm gonna continue my hangover with me with my masseuse and get it all massaged out go and get a massage drink a lot of water get them to do a lymphatic one though and that's what i need i need oh my god i had the best lymphatic massage when i was in san tropez and i looked slimmer afterwards it was that good so nat had one too and we were all like oh my god we're so got no cellulite now and we're so skinny sucked it out sucked it all out like a sausage i could do with that i'm just one massive vat of i don't even know what i had the top shelf of of hell in the in the bar um that is it guys um thanks for listening thanks for joining in don't worry we're back on monday uh and of course thursday it's your episode it's luanna totally extra but we can't do that without you we need you please send in your emails everything to contribute to that it's Luana at everythingluana.com also if you are receiving particularly if you are an influencer and if you're receiving an email from an at gmail account claiming to be Luana it is not us we keep getting so many scammers we're very sorry but we don't feature anyone on our podcast except us even Bonnie Blue who recently wanted to come on we've said no to.

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