In short
This Smart Money episode answers a listener’s question about whether to use one “one-stop shop” bank for both partners, including joint accounts and “hybrid” checking/savings buckets, plus how to transition smoothly.
Guests
Sean Piles and Elizabeth Ayola (hosts) and banking nerd Chanel Bissette (banking writer).
Key claims
the main risk is exceeding FDIC insurance limits ($250k per individual, $500k per joint); online-only banks can be inconvenient for cash deposits and cashier’s checks; hybrid accounts can reduce bill-paying transfers. Examples: Ally Bank (online-only) offers joint accounts, savings buckets, Zelle, and ~3% APY on savings; Wealthfront Cash Account is brokerage cash management with bank-partner FDIC coverage (up to $4M individual/$8M joint), early direct deposit, debit card, and savings subaccounts, but no cash deposits and no overdraft (declines transactions). Transition tips: start with joint bills, use joint savings for a goal, automate contributions, and agree on equitable (not necessarily equal) expense splits and household labor to prevent resentment.
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Chapters
Tap a time to open that second in VOListener's Banking Dilemma
0:04 to 0:27
A listener asks for advice on managing joint accounts and banking needs.
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Listener's Banking Dilemma
1:09 to 2:20
A listener asks for advice on managing joint accounts and banking needs.
“we answer them with the help of our genius nerds.”
Navigating Joint Bank Accounts
2:20 to 4:06
Discussion on the practicality and risks of joint accounts and banking strategies.
“To help us answer this listener's question, we're joined by banking nerd Chanel Bissette.”
The Benefits of Online Banking
4:06 to 6:03
Exploration of the advantages and disadvantages of online banking systems.
“place or you're just probably not making as much money as you do later in your career.”
Evaluating Bank Features
6:03 to 8:30
Analysis of listener's requirements for a bank and the feasibility of meeting them.
“And there could be another hybrid approach where maybe they have almost all of their banking with one institution, and then they keep a checking account maybe at a local credit union so they can deposit their cash there.”
Wealthfront as a Banking Option
8:30 to 9:45
Examination of Wealthfront's offerings and their suitability for the listener's needs.
“It might be hard to find a single bank that checks every box just perfectly, and that's okay.”
Understanding Wealthfront's Structure
9:45 to 12:40
Clarification on how Wealthfront operates within the banking ecosystem and its safety.
“A lot of it comes down to the research that you want to do for what's going to suit your lifestyle the best.”
Alternative Banking Options
12:40 to 14:06
Discussion on other banking options and features available to the listener.
“And, you know, there would ostensibly be some kind of process to get your money back because it is FDIC insured there.”
Alternative Banking Options
14:09 to 15:12
Discussion on other banking options and features available to the listener.
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Alternative Banking Options
15:19 to 15:30
Discussion on other banking options and features available to the listener.
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Navigating Joint Bank Accounts
15:30 to 28:00
Learn the best practices and emotional aspects of managing joint bank accounts with a partner.
“Transitioning to joint bank accounts with a partner, are there best practices for this?”
Exploring Chicago: A Personal Journey
28:00 to 29:55
Discover the highlights of Chicago through Elizabeth's recent visit and experiences.
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Favorite Foods and Experiences in Chicago
29:55 to 31:06
Elizabeth shares her culinary adventures and favorite spots in Chicago.
“What was your favorite thing that you spent money on in Chicago and how much did you spend?”
Memorable Moments and Future Plans
31:06 to 33:16
The hosts discuss past Chicago trips and their hopes for a live show in the city.
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Transcript
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0:53Sean Pyles:This is a job for Indeed Sponsored Jobs. Should you combine bank accounts with your partner? What about combining all of your banking needs under one institution? Both moves could simplify your finances, but they're not without risk. Welcome to NerdWallet's Smart Money Podcast, where you send us your money questions and we answer them with the help of our genius nerds. I'm Sean Piles.
1:15Elizabeth Ayoola:And I'm Elizabeth Ayola. Today's question comes to us by text message. Please keep sending us those. Here it goes. I'm finding it overwhelming to figure out a one-stop shop for banking these days. My partner and I want to join accounts and portion out a small percentage to our own accounts slash savings. I want a bank that has joint account capabilities, that's easy to transfer money into different buckets, that my partner and I can both access. I also want 3 % APY with no fees, no direct deposit limits, no transfer limits, or minimal transfer limits. I want this account to be our primary banking source.
1:58Sean Pyles:I think I like the hybrid system that Wealthfront has where I don't have to keep transferring in and out of savings to checking just to pay bills. What are the caveats to hybrid systems? How can we make the transition to a joint account as seamless as possible while paying all the bills too? Do we transfer a month in advance into the checking slash hybrid account, then start paying your bills from there. Please help and thank you. To help us answer this listener's question, we're joined by banking nerd Chanel Bissette. Hey, Chanel, welcome back to Smart Money. Hey, I'm glad to be here. I want to hear your first impressions of our listener's goal of having a one-stop shop for banking, a place where you can have joint accounts, personal accounts, different savings buckets.
2:36Sean Pyles:Is that advisable or what risks might you see? I think what the listener is looking for is definitely out there. There are plenty of banks that do a lot of these features, if not all of them. And the main logistical risk, I think, to consider is whether your cash exceeds the limit of typical FDIC insurance, which is usually$250 ,000 per individual. And then it's usually doubled for joint accounts up to$500 ,000. There are those practical, logistical, technical risks that come with having a bank account with someone else. But I also think that the real risks might come from who you're sharing your accounts with, but that's more of a personal risk than a banking institution risk.
3:13Sean Pyles:Yeah, and on a practical level, I really like keeping my checking and savings accounts at separate institutions just to create a little bit of friction between my savings, where I'm generally allocating them for a specific purpose. And my checking is more for often day to day spending. This is less of an issue now. But when I first started saving a lot in a high yield savings account, I ended up just transferring money from my savings to my checking to cover day to day expenses because I wasn't honestly budgeting that well at that time. So I still like having that friction just as a reminder that I shouldn't be robbing Peter to pay Paul to cover a dinner that was a little bit more than I thought it was going to be.
3:49I needed friction for a long time too. And I used to keep accounts at separate banks, but I guess maybe it's an aging thing. But for me, I have started to keep accounts at the same bank. Mostly, I just like being able to streamline my finances and I've consolidated my accounts. I think when you're in your 20s, there's a lot of expenses that just come from moving into a new place or you're just probably not making as much money as you do later in your career. So I think it's just kind of natural to have things that kind of are shortfall here and there. But for me, like as I've aged and as I've gotten further in my career, having a streamlined account system at basically one bank, it's been a lot easier than dipping into my savings.
4:29Elizabeth Ayoola:One of the risks that I'm thinking about that comes to mind with online banking only is that if you need something or to go in the bank, for example, you can't because you don't have a brick and more to our bank. And I'll quickly say my mom was in town a couple of months back and we needed to deposit cash into her online bank. And we had to go to Walgreens and pay about$5 or more just to deposit that cash, which I thought was extortionate. How much of a concern would you say this might be for the listener and their partner? From a personal perspective, I haven't needed to go to a bank branch in a long time.
4:59And I've been using online banking essentially for everything. But back in college, I used to need to go to my old bank branch in order to get cashier's checks to mail to my landlord for rent. I liked doing that because that way it would take the money straight out of my account up front as opposed to waiting for my landlord to deposit a regular check. So in order to get something like a money order or cashier's check, you do need someone to help you with that purchase. But over time, circumstances and technology for me changed. So, you know, I don't need to do that anymore. I live in a place that does online transfers instead.
5:29So that's been quite an advancement for me and not needing to go to the bank. But as a banking writer, I will say that I've seen how banks have made online services much more robust, especially since the pandemic. There's also been a greater expansion of free ATM networks and ATM fee reimbursements, which I think has been fueling online banking. But like you said, Elizabeth, cash deposits are still a tricky part of online banking, because if an online bank doesn't allow you to make deposits at an ATM, which a lot don't, they only let you make withdrawals, then yeah, that could be a fee that comes up fairly regularly.
6:02And so if there's people who depend a lot on cash for their finances, like maybe you're a bartender or a restaurant server, and you get tipped in cash a lot, it might make sense for you to have a bank that allows you to make free cash deposits at a branch or ATM.
6:15Sean Pyles:And there could be another hybrid approach where maybe they have almost all of their banking with one institution, and then they keep a checking account maybe at a local credit union so they can deposit their cash there. Of course, they would maybe then need to transfer that to their primary institution. But that's not a whole lot of friction. And at least you still can go in to deposit cash if you need to. But Elizabeth, your experience makes me think about the last time I had to deposit cash, which I can't even recall. It's been so long since I had to do that. So I probably could get away with being entirely online, but I still love having access to my brick and mortar credit union just down the street in case I need to go in for some reason.
6:49Elizabeth Ayoola:I closed mine. I had one with Bank of America maybe like three years ago now. And similar to Chanel, I've never had the need to go into a bank. So it works for me. Well, our listener has a laundry list of wants for their multipurpose savings account. We heard many of them at the beginning. They want a yield on their savings of about 3%, no limits on direct deposits or transfers. And they want this to be their primary banking source. Does this sound attainable, Chanel? There are so many things they want. I kind of lucked out with this listener's query because I use Ally Bank and they have all of those features.
7:23Ally Bank isn't the only one, but for me, I've really enjoyed them. They're an online-only bank, but they have joint accounts, savings buckets, and personal accounts that are easy to manage. They also have Zelle integrated, which makes money transfers quick and easy. This isn't just true of Ally, but of most banks. There used to be a federal limit of six withdrawals from savings accounts per month before it was considered excessive. And most banks would charge a fee once excessive withdrawals were happening for a person. But since the pandemic, that rule eased up a lot and most banks don't charge for those withdrawals past six anymore.
7:56So I find that really beneficial just for making transfers and withdrawals. Alley's checking account doesn't earn much interest, but their savings account rate is currently 3%. I know that's not the best rate on the market, but I think for all the other benefits that you're getting, it's pretty solid and will offset the rate of inflation, at least on your savings, which is the best we can hope for at this moment because inflation has been getting high. Not all the high rates are necessarily the best banks in other regards.
8:20Sean Pyles:And our listener might have to make a compromise where maybe they can have all of the things they want around direct deposit limits and being able to withdraw, but maybe the yield isn't quite what they want it to be. It might be hard to find a single bank that checks every box just perfectly, and that's okay. Now, our listener mentioned Wealthfront by name, a company that they're interested in because they like the company's hybrid system. And I think they're referring to Wealthfront's cash account, which would allow them to do much of what they're hoping to accomplish and really have that one-stop shop for banking.
8:50Sean Pyles:Wealthfront is an AirBallet partner, much like Ally that you mentioned before, Chanel. And Chanel, you actually wrote a review of Wealthfront's product. So how is this product from Wealthfront a hybrid product and would it actually fit our listeners' needs? The Wealthfront cash account combines features of both savings products and checking products, which means you'll get a high yield interest rate on your balance. But you'll also have access to things like early direct deposit and a debit card, which are usually reserved for checking products. If you get a certain amount of direct deposit per month, it makes you eligible to use their send a check feature, which is also helpful for bill pay and more of a checking aligned kind of feature.
9:28Wealthfront also lets you set up subaccounts or savings buckets, which help you with different spending and saving goals. So it sounds like Wealthfront actually could check a lot of the boxes that the listener is looking for.
9:38Sean Pyles:It seems like Ally would too as well. So would this be maybe a matter of comparison shopping and see if they can maybe get a better rate or have better features at Ally versus Wealthfront? A lot of it comes down to the research that you want to do for what's going to suit your lifestyle the best.
9:52Elizabeth Ayoola:And I also want to call out analysis paralysis. When I was looking to open up a new account this year, I almost went down that rabbit hole. And sometimes you just start with the bank. You can divorce the bank anytime you want if it doesn't work for you and close the account. So just start somewhere, see how it works for you, and you can always open another one. Our listener asked about caveats of the Wallfront Cash account. Now, here I'm thinking that that 3 % APY that's currently being offered might not be around forever, especially looking at how the economy is swinging and swinging. But what other limitations should they be aware of?
10:23Interest rates can fluctuate no matter where you put your savings. None of them can guarantee what interest rates are going to be for the foreseeable future unless you're putting them into a certificate of deposit because those come with fixed rates. But that's a different ballpark. So when we're talking about Wealthfront, the limitations that you might want to consider are it is entirely online, so there are no branches. So you'll have to be comfortable with online-only customer service. Second, as we've talked about, you can't make cash deposits with Wealthfront. And third, they don't have an overdraft program, which means that if you need to make a transaction that would result in an overdraft, Wealthfront will decline it instead.
10:56So that helps you avoid overdraft fees. But if you're in an emergency situation and you don't have enough in your account to cover something that you need, you could be out of luck.
11:05Sean Pyles:And something I want to flag about Wealthfront is that even though our listeners are interested in using them as a place for all of their banking needs, Wealthfront is not actually a bank. I mean, it functions like one. Can you explain where Where Wealthfront fits into the current banking ecosystem, and is it as secure and trustworthy as a traditional bank? It's interesting because Wealthfront is a brokerage, not a bank. When brokerages offer these bank-like accounts called cash management accounts, they have to partner with actual chartered banks in order to provide FDIC insurance. So what brokerages do is they sweep the customer funds into these bank accounts behind the scenes, and they sometimes partner with multiple banks in order to spread the funds around so that the maximum insurance benefits are there.
11:47But because they do that, they're actually able to offer more FDIC insurance protection than a typical bank. Wealthfront actually offers$4 million in FDIC insurance for individuals and$8 million for joint accounts, which is obviously great for people who need that level of protection. But besides FDIC insurance, the Wealthfront cash account comes with a lot of the same great features that you would expect from a banking product. FinTech companies, also known as quote-unquote neobanks, do something similar where they They basically white label the insurance benefits of an actual bank, but then they can offer more cutting edge features like early direct deposit or ATM fee reimbursements.
12:23Sean Pyles:That level of coverage sounds really nice, but it does make me nervous that I wouldn't know exactly what institution would be holding my cash. You kind of had to put faith in the system, which as risk averse finance writers, of course, we like to give that caveat and that disclosure just to make sure people know. Essentially, what would happen is if Wealthfront were to suddenly fail, your money would be held by those partner deposit banks. And, you know, there would ostensibly be some kind of process to get your money back because it is FDIC insured there. But who knows, there could be a bit of a lag in getting your money.
12:56We don't know for sure what would happen, but it's just something to be aware of.
12:59Elizabeth Ayoola:Sean, you are so cautious. What I was thinking why Chanel was saying that is like, I wish I had eight million dollars that needed to be FDIC insured. Like, hello.
13:07Sean Pyles:That sounds nice, but I just don't trust banking institutions. You're not wrong either. That's me. You're not wrong. Yeah.
13:15Elizabeth Ayoola:Aside from the two institutions that we've mentioned, there are other companies that offer similar products and services. So which ones come to mind for you? Something that I would just keep in mind when putting your money at a brokerage like Wealthfront is that I suspect those brokerages want to make it easy for you to move your money from a cash account into their investment products, which is their main bread and butter. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but when you put your money at a regular bank account, you aren't being encouraged to do that in the same way. So if you're looking to just stick your money in one place, you know, that's what you need a bank for and you might not need a brokerage for that.
13:47I already talked about how much I love Ally, but there are other banks that offer similar features. So SoFi, for example, won our award for best bank of 2026, and they also have most of the perks that the listener is looking for.
13:59Sean Pyles:OK, well, we're going to take a quick break. We'll be back in a second. Stay with us.
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15:54Sean Pyles:so now that we've got the product sorted out chanel let's turn to the second part of our listener's question. Transitioning to joint bank accounts with a partner, are there best practices for this? Because admittedly, I've never had joint accounts with my husband, and I could see how the order of operations could get a little confusing, not to mention the whole emotional component here. I actually just opened up my first joint account recently with my fiance. We're getting married in a few months, and with wedding planning, we wanted to create a joint checking and savings account for our expenses.
16:23We still keep individual accounts as well, but I must say that the joint accounts have been really working out. It's been really helpful for organization and transparency as we've been paying for so much stuff this year, wedding related.
16:34Sean Pyles:Have you been using it primarily for wedding expenses or are you now thinking of using it for like groceries, other household things that you share? We opened a checking and a savings account. And so we have a special savings bucket for wedding. And then we have a checking account that we essentially use for our joint bills. And then we have a system for groceries and things where we spend on a joint credit card. And then And we divvy up the cost of that proportionate to our incomes. How has that changed how you manage the relationship? Do you feel like you're kind of more intimate in a way now that you're seeing your transactions together or does it feel kind of the same?
17:07I was really nervous about it at first. I actually wrote a whole article about my nerves because, you know, as a woman, especially, I think it's one of those things where you just really want to make sure that you are protecting yourself and that you can be independent if you need to be. For me, like especially as a finance writer, just going over this kind of context and learning about these things over the years, it was a leap for me like to really surrender to this idea of someone else having control of a chunk of my money. But I'm really glad I did it. It's like really solidified more of the relationship for me even more than it already was.
17:39And it's just been going really swimmingly. So I think I'm lucky that stuff has worked out so well for us so far.
17:44Sean Pyles:That's great. I'm really happy for you.
17:46Elizabeth Ayoola:Chanel, what kind of discussions did you guys have before opening up this joint account? Did you talk about money values? Did you talk about any of your fears around money? Thankfully, we've been together a long time. So before we ever even opened the account, I think we were together six or six and a half years. So we had gotten a good feel for how each other likes to spend. And I think we each have our own things that we spoil ourselves with, let's say, things that we like to spend money on. And we don't have kids. So I think that that's another thing where it's like, OK, we do have a bit more disposable income to spend on things that are a bit more entertainment based or fun or hobby like.
18:18So seeing that over the years, I think, was reassuring to know that I didn't see any red flags in terms of how each other spends. And so I think we were just really aligned and we're really lucky that way. I know finances tend to be a point of contention for a lot of couples. For us, it wasn't. But there has been ongoing conversations just about how much reach is going to contribute to household expenses and just how do we set up our systems in a way that makes sense for us.
18:43Sean Pyles:I'm wondering if there are any common hiccups that folks should be aware of when it comes to transitioning into using joint accounts. So I would say that a nice baby step is to open a joint account for things that you pay for together. Generally, you probably don't want to open a joint account unless you're living with somebody, because at that point it's like solidified and there's some kind of collateral in a way. So once you have those joint bills, those expenses, rent, mortgage, what have you, it's nice to be able to just like know that you have that money set aside for every month. Beyond that, I would say you could set up a joint savings account for a more low stakes goal, like maybe an upcoming vacation.
19:15And then that way it's really nice because you get to build something together and see that money accumulate. And you can simply automate part of your paycheck to be sent to that joint account. Of course, the caveat of all caveats is that you should only do this with someone you trust because that account becomes joint property. And both people have equal access to the money that's in there, meaning they can put it in, but they can also take it out without needing your permission. So if you have any reservations about doing that with a partner, I think that that's something to listen to in your gut.
19:44Sean Pyles:Yeah, which is why this shouldn't be your only account, like you mentioned before. Keep your solo accounts private.
19:49Elizabeth Ayoola:I like the idea of having a joint savings account to start with. Baby steps. With my ex-husband, we had a joint savings account. Even that can help you quickly see someone's money values if you haven't discussed it prior. So in the end, after we divorced, I have no idea what happened to the money in that joint savings account. It's somewhere in the yonder.
20:08Sean Pyles:Lesson learned, hopefully. Yeah.
20:11Elizabeth Ayoola:Well, something our listener didn't even touch on is how much each person is contributing to their joint account, a conversation that you have had with your fiance Chanel. If they haven't had this conversation with their partner yet, I think now is an excellent time to talk about what is most equitable, as Sean likes to say, not equal in the relationship. You want each person to contribute, but factor in income, debt, as well as any other financial obligations that they might have. Do you have any other factors that come to mind Chanel? I personally think that an equitable solution is usually much better than a purely equal solution.
20:44For example, if one partner makes twice as much as the other partner, then the person who makes more should probably be paying for two-thirds of the shared expenses, and the other person can pay one-third. Or if one partner is doing the bulk of unpaid caretaking, such as for a child or an aging parent, then that couple should arrive at a financial plan that they feel comfortable with so that everyone is on the same page. because it can really help you avoid resentment in the long run when you're clear on who's responsible for what. And that's not only financial, but also household based. If you have someone who's working nine to five, and then the other person is at home taking care of the kids, if the person working nine to five thinks, well, because I'm bringing in money, I don't need to do chores, or I don't need to help out with the kids.
21:27I think that's gonna be a recipe for some really extreme tension. So it's really good to talk about what you think you're responsible for in the relationship, both financially and labor-wise. And then reaching that agreement on who's responsible for what can help you avoid a lot of conflict.
21:42Sean Pyles:And to that point, I think that this is also a great time for more of those conversations, like Elizabeth was saying, around your financial values. And it seems like you had those even before you and your partner joined your accounts, just really getting an understanding of where you would like to have your money allocated, how you view things in terms of different partners' responsibilities, now is a great time to begin to really understand that if you haven't already. Speaking of the caretaking thing, just as an aside, that's another great opportunity for joint accounts. And it can be really helpful to have something like that set up if you have an aging parent.
22:13So if you have a parent who needs maybe some oversight on their finances as they're getting older, maybe they have more medical bills to consider, or maybe mental sharpness isn't quite what it used to be, it can be really great to add an adult child as a joint account owner, because that way the child can keep an eye on their parents' finances and help them manage their money. And so I think partnership-wise, it's also good to talk about that with your partner, because if we have caretaking needs, you need your partner aligned with you on how you're going to handle that.
22:40Elizabeth Ayoola:Oh, that is so important. I have heard of people who are sending money, maybe to their family members, to their parents, and not telling their partners, and they get all upset about it, or they don't want to necessarily contribute household income to taking care of a family members. So that's also a really important conversation to have. Do you have any other tips, Chanel, for how our listener can keep themselves protected if this whole hybrid account thing doesn't work out? It really breaks my heart to hear stories about people who are financially abused by their partners. Assuming that you're not in a seriously abusive situation, assuming this is more of a standard relationship, something to kind of help keep your sanity as a couple is to allow each other to have a set amount of money that they get to spend, no questions asked.
23:25So depending on your budgeting, maybe that's a few hundred dollars, 500, maybe more. Beyond that, it's also helpful to set a limit on purchases in general, especially for the household, where if the price is higher than a certain threshold that you discuss together, then you discuss it with each other before making that purchase. It's also important to keep in mind, like if all this seems really overwhelming and you don't know the first step to take, just remember that when you're merging your finances for the first time, you're just establishing a baseline at first. You're just seeing how the other person spends.
23:55You're seeing how you work together financially. And it's really important at that time to speak up when something is uncomfortable to you. And hopefully you and your partner can establish ground rules that make both of you happy so that that discomfort doesn't happen again the same way. And it's also important to remember that you're on the same team and you shouldn't feel like your partner is your adversary, someone immature that you have to shepherd around about good spending habits. Ideally, this is someone that you're working with like you're on a team. And you don't need to worry as much about what they're doing with their money.
24:26Sean Pyles:The joint account situation is a whole opportunity for new conversations, new dialogues that will be ongoing conversations throughout your relationships. And you might find that after six months, the whole joint account thing doesn't work and you can change gears. And you also might find that, OK, maybe one person should be putting in more or less than they thought initially. And that's OK. Give yourself room for it to evolve over time. Being a woman, especially, but I think it's true of anybody. Having your own individual account with a small emergency fund that's just for you, I think can ease so much mental anguish.
25:00Just knowing that you have that to rely on if you needed to. I mean, even just for unexpected things like, oh, you know, my friend's going through a hard time, so I need to take a surprise trip across the country to visit them. Having that money that you can tap into that doesn't necessarily affect the household budget, I think, can give you a lot of peace of mind.
25:18Sean Pyles:Yeah, you can call that your goodbye Earl fund, like from the chick song. Goodbye, Earl.
25:23Elizabeth Ayoola:I just have one last question, Chanel. Is the stash secret or not? Elderly women will be like, have a secret stash. I don't know whether I agree or disagree with that. But have a secret stash that, you know, is just for you in case of an emergency. And I guess that depends on your values, whether you want to share that with your partner or not. I'd rather someone have a secret account than no account. But at the same time, it's something you might want to check in with if you feel like you can't trust your partner to know that you have other money. There might be indications of bigger problems if that's the case.
25:52A private account can give you peace of mind and maybe help you avoid questions that you don't want to answer. I wouldn't say that I advise that necessarily, but, you know, it's better than nothing.
26:03Sean Pyles:All right. That makes sense. Well, Chanel, thank you so much for coming on and talking with us today. Thank you for having me. Elizabeth, I'm so excited to talk to you about one of my favorite places in the world, Chicago, where we both had little trips recently. Unfortunately, we weren't there at the same time. But it was your first time in my home city. Tell me what you thought of it.
26:20Elizabeth Ayoola:Management, if you're listening, as you said that, I'm envisioning me and Sean frolicking in Chicago for something work-related. I would love that. Please make it happen. Make it happen. OK. When I moved back to the States several years ago now, I think almost six years ago, from the UK, one of the first cities that I went to visit was New York. And I always avoided going to New York because I thought it's just going to be just like London. So what's the point of going? And when I say I fell in love, it was love at first sight. I just never thought that I would love a big city so much because I'm more of a nature suburban kind of girl.
26:55Elizabeth Ayoola:But taking this back to Chicago, I had that love at first sight feeling. And I think what really took me over about Chicago was both that I got the big city feel. When I'm in a big city, I feel like I can do anything. My alter ego comes out. I feel like I can take over the world. And then it also had nature. I was just walking and walking and I came across a beach in the middle of the city. I still can't believe it.
27:20Sean Pyles:It might have been Oak Street Beach right by downtown. Yeah, I have a fond memory of sneaking away from a high school field trip to Chicago and taking my friends to that beach.
27:28Elizabeth Ayoola:I thought to myself as I was there, because Tess, our producer, also lived in Chicago, and I thought, how could you guys leave Chicago?
27:36Sean Pyles:Chicago is so beautiful. And to your point, people don't realize that it's a beach town in the summer. And every neighborhood has their own street festival that is typically free. There's free music in Millennium Park. I got a great concert when I was there. And you can walk along the riverfront. There's this great riverfront walking path now that wasn't there when I lived in Chicago when I was growing up. And it's just stunning. What helped me decide to move away was the fact that I experienced many winters in Chicago. And you have not experienced that yet. And I will not. Harsh. But summertime Chicago is a whole other thing.
28:08Sean Pyles:It's so beautiful. So it's kind of like a smaller, less expensive New York, like you were kind of mentioning. It takes you to that kind of feeling of being in a bigger city. But it's not as expensive. So, Elizabeth, what were you actually doing in Chicago, my beloved home city?
28:23Elizabeth Ayoola:Well, I was doing something work-related adjacent. I was there for Women's Impact Initiative Network Conference. So they do an annual conference hosted by the Quad A, which is Association of African-American Financial Advisors. And something that is amazing about our job, Sean, is that we work remotely, sometimes amazing, because I'd like to see your face more. But it also means that we have to be proactive about networking and getting out there and meeting people. I think it was an incredible conference in the sense that I got to actually face-to-face connect with other finance professionals.
28:57Elizabeth Ayoola:I feel like it was invigorating and just reminding me how important the work that we do is in terms of trying to get people the financial information they need to up-level their lives. And then I also got to see Chicago in the process. So it was a win-win.
29:09Sean Pyles:Where were you staying in the city?
29:10Elizabeth Ayoola:I stayed at the WIT. This is probably one of the cheapest trips I've been on. So I do agree with you in terms of Chicago being more like a budget-friendly New York. Food was affordable and delicious.
29:21Sean Pyles:Such good food. The portions are massive in Chicago, which is something I always forget until I get back. I'm like, wow, this is twice as large as a plate I would get in Portland.
29:29Elizabeth Ayoola:Yes, large. But guess what? I live in dusty Texas. Sorry for all the Texas fans. I lived in dusty, unwalkable Texas. I was walking everywhere. I only took a Uber from my hotel to the airport. I walked everywhere. I got in at least 13 ,000 steps a day.
29:45Sean Pyles:You need to go back and take public transport because the L in Chicago is a phenomenal system. It's so easy to get around and it's really not that expensive either.
29:52Elizabeth Ayoola:Another reason to go back.
29:54Sean Pyles:All right. But Elizabeth, here's what I really want to know. What was your favorite thing that you spent money on in Chicago and how much did you spend?
30:00Elizabeth Ayoola:Oh, my gosh. So if you didn't know, one of my life's missions is to find the best seafood pasta in the world. So everywhere I go, I order a seafood pasta and I went to a restaurant called The Grill Room and I got a seafood pasta from there for about 30 bucks.
30:18Sean Pyles:That's not that expensive either for a good pasta like that, especially a seafood pasta that can get kind of pricey.
30:22Elizabeth Ayoola:Exactly. So that's the best thing I spent money on. But honestly, my most beloved things were intangible. Again, the walks, just the views, all the nature reserves. There are just so many nature spots that they, yes. Oh, I also went to, no, I have my second favorite thing actually. I did manage to go to the Art Institute. And again, incredible art. But as a creative myself, I love to go to a museum and just walk around because I always leave with some inspiration, remembering you can create something out of nothing, right? So the Art Institute is also incredible. And you're definitely going to need multiple visits to see the whole thing.
30:56Sean Pyles:There's so much at the Art Institute. And, I mean, the whole museum campus is incredible. The Field Museum and the Shedd Aquarium and the Planetarium over there, it's so, so lovely to explore. I was in Chicago with one of my good friends in Portland who'd never been before. And we rented some of the city bikes and just biked around the museum campus there. And then it went up to North Avenue Beach area. And it was just lovely riding along the lake. And I think it costs$20. And we biked about eight miles. And so really not that expensive for how much you can explore. And Chicago is a surprisingly affordable city.
31:28Elizabeth Ayoola:Wait, wait. I know it keeps coming to me in lapses. Harold's Chicken. Have you ever tried Harold's Chicken? Oh, my God. I have not. I almost missed my flight. I almost missed my flight because I ordered like three wings or whatever. Because someone was like, you have to try the chicken. I was like, oh my God, this is so good. And then I sat there thinking about how good it was. And then I ordered another one. And then I looked at like how long it was going to take me to get to the airport. And I had like an hour to the airport, 30 minutes to spare. It was complete chaos. But the chicken was worth it.
31:58Elizabeth Ayoola:I had the second batch on the plane.
32:00Sean Pyles:I'm betting it wasn't that expensive either. Probably less than 30 bucks. No.
32:03Elizabeth Ayoola:I ditched the fries and the bread because my fitness journey is another thing. But I got four wings for I think like five bucks. So it was pretty affordable. Not bad.
32:13Sean Pyles:Well, we do need to scheme and find some way to get us both in Chicago, preferably around, you know, June-ish, because that's when the weather is really, really nice. And I'll show you all my favorite spots.
32:22Elizabeth Ayoola:Yay. And do we have any Chicago listeners? If you're listening and you're from Chicago, send us an email because maybe you guys are going to help us come to Chicago. Because if we have enough of you, we can come down and do a live show there. Are you listening, management?
32:36Sean Pyles:We also want your Chicago recs because even though I'm from there, I haven't lived there in over a decade at this point. So I'm always here for what people are doing and spending money on in my favorite city. And also a few years back, our producer Tess and I, we were in Chicago for some live recordings with listeners and it was phenomenal right up until we had to hide in the tunnels of O 'Hare because there were tornadoes all around the airport. So that's the thing that comes with Chicago too. Oh no. There were like a dozen tornadoes all around the airport and we were just hoping that one wasn't going to strike where we were, but we were fine.
33:09Sean Pyles:It just made a good story. It was fun. Only slightly dramatic.
33:13Elizabeth Ayoola:I'm sure the content came out great too.
33:15Sean Pyles:Well, that's all we've got for this episode, folks. Remember that we're here to answer your money questions. So turn to the Nerds and call us or text us on the Nerd hotline at 901-730-6373. It's 901-730-NERD. You can also email us your questions at podcast at nerdwallet.com or drop us a comment on Spotify or YouTube.
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Is it time to ditch multiple bank accounts for an all-in-one hybrid account — and how do you transition to joint accounts with a partner without making a mess of your finances?
Hosts Sean Pyles and Elizabeth Ayoola are joined by banking Nerd Chanelle Bessette to answer a question about consolidating banking at one institution while also opening a joint account with a partner. They compare hybrid cash management accounts like Wealthfront Cash against traditional online banks like Ally and SoFi, walk through FDIC insurance limits for individual and joint accounts, and share best practices for merging finances with a partner for the first time, including how to divide contributions equitably and why it's probably still smart to keep an account of your own.
Then, Sean and Elizabeth compare notes on their recent solo trips to Chicago, swapping recommendations on where to eat, walk and spend money in Sean's hometown.
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