Bre Tiesi On The Truth Behind Selling Sunset, Motherhood, Personal Boundaries, & Finding Your Balance

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27:33How do you set up everything you've got going on with reality television? You obviously have your social media, your real estate. What are some things that you've learned along the way that our audience could take away? I mean, I've learned a lot of hard lessons. I learned a lot of hard things about, you know, I, let's say I had an LLC, but I didn't have the proper insurance or I didn't have this, or I've had that. I think that for anyone that wants to kind of open their portfolio and get into other things is making sure that you really are employing the right person that needs to be like a CPA and attorneys that are really helping protect you and setting it up correctly.

28:09Like, do you need to be an LLC? Do you need to be a corp? Do you need EPLI insurance? Do you need X, Y, and Z? And just making sure that the initial steps to every single thing you're doing are taken care of. Because I think the clients, the planning, all of the other things like you can kind of do on your own, but without those people, you know, you kind of chase your tail and then you end up in situations where you have to fix things. And I think that people like that are the main reason to making everything successful overall, because like no one's like a one one woman show it's impossible like you still have supporting people at different levels so i feel like that's the main reason michael literally tells me this all the time he's like you have to set up your company as a multi-million dollar company from the beginning no no well yes but i would i i've been through the block and made a lot of mistakes doing it and i and i talked to a lot of young entrepreneurs now that are starting out and they want to save they want to go to the cheapest lawyer, the cheapest accountant, or the cheapest, whatever.

29:10And I'm like, listen, it's going to cost you later. I'm a firm believer in just setting it up properly with the right people and the right reputation, spending the money. I know it's painful up front, but it's a lot more painful cleaning up the stuff down the line. And trust me, I've had to do a lot of cleanup. Same. Cleanup is not fun. It sucks. Yeah, it sucks. It's hard. And then, you know, it can be really detrimental and it can be really scary. So I think that, you know, not trying to find the shortcuts in those things is like the most importance of being successful even in just the initial setup.

29:39Great advice. What are some of the biggest mistakes that you see when people are buying or selling their home? I think people not being patient and really understanding what they're purchasing and why they're purchasing it and where it is and like weighing that out. Like if this is an investment property, just because it's pretty, is it really the right investment property. Like I have one, for instance, that has two dual primaries. We used to call them masters. But like for me, I'm like in the area that it's in, like those things weigh out differently. Now, if you're going to, let's say, Calabasas or somewhere else that, you know, just is a typical family home that might not be ideal.

30:21I think you have to really research and understand what it is that you're trying to accomplish to be successful. I think people get excited and they just think like, oh, I can just invest in this or, oh, I can just do this. And then they end up being like, oh, this wasn't the right choice. I wish I would have waited or researched more or something, you know, doing what you do. When do you think it's appropriate to buy versus rent? Like not even appropriate, like from a, from a cost perspective, right time in life. Do you always think it's the right time to buy instead of rent? Or do you think renting sometimes is better.

30:53I personally like renting. I do have rental properties and investment properties that are passive income, but they're also a debt. So everyone, you know, even I didn't fully consider that. Like you have to think about all that time that it's empty, the maintenance, the mortgage, the insurances, like all of those things. Can you afford that property for six months to a year? Are you going to be able to in six? That's interesting. Yeah, that's good to think about that. And, you know, I did it like that. I'll be the first to say it. You learn it the hard way sometimes and you think it's going to be easy to rent or you think it's going to be whatever.

31:25And then something happens in the market or, you know, your AC goes out. Like, do you have the funds to support this investment? And majority of the time people don't. And then they end up losing that property or having to sell that property. And then they're scared of it because they didn't have the right resources to make the proper investments. That's so interesting that we have seen that a lot. It seems to me that people, and I know nothing about real estate, but it seems to me that people buy bigger than they think they need a lot. Well, I think there's this fallacy in real estate that, especially in residential, where people think that they're buying something that is always going to be an appreciating asset.

32:06And I tell them, like, there's so many things to consider, but it also, it depends on when you can actually sell that asset and get the money out. Like, you know, right now, we live in Austin. There's a correction going on over there. Correction going on over here. If we would have, we bought a place and then sold it real quick in 2021. Great. Now it's gonna be a little harder, right? And so I think people forget about that. Yeah, they do. And it's hard because you can't predict the future. You don't know what's going to happen. You don't know when it's going to happen. So it's a gamble. But I think that there are different forms of investment, you know, like a duplex of this, of that, things that, you know, more doors where if you at least have one or two of those doors filled, then you can still float your property versus like the one door that's a big overhead and like things like that.

32:49But again, that takes either a mentor or proper, proper research or, you know, things that we have the resources for. But I think sometimes I do love this new generation of everyone, you know, buying younger and making good money and not necessarily having to be like that typical four year college vibe. But they also have the resources to do a little bit more research. And I think that there's a little disconnect there, but we're definitely, you know, in a much better place with, you know, this new generation, understanding the investments and stuff of that nature. What's the best tip or life lesson that you've learned from Nick?

33:29And what's the best life lesson or tip that he's learned from you? I would say he's learned from me is to actually enjoy yourself and have fun because that man is old and crotchety these days he doesn't want to do anything but he's not that old he just turned 45 but he just no he'd be acting i get it i get i get what you're saying he's just like whatever um and i was like old and crotchety i was like is he like 60 or something no but he acts like he's 60 i'm like we used to have fun get it together we got stuff to do but i think from him what is how does he say it it's like the where if you can't change it don't let it control you vibe.

34:11He says it much better, but I have a tendency to like, okay, I got to fix this. Okay. I'm going to stress on it. I'm trying to control the situation. And he's like, you can't stress, but you can't control. Like you got to just let it go. And you know, he always says, let it go to God, which I struggle with that aspect, but he'll be like, just let it go. And I don't really, I loosened a little bit, but I'm still like holding. So I think that's probably the biggest and the best lesson that I'm trying to apply. When you come home and you have like your list of all the things that the girls have done that day and you tell him, does he just say, let it go?

34:45No, no, no. Then he enjoys it. Then he's in with the tea. Oh, he likes the tea. Yeah. Some of it he'll be like, she said what? And then the rest is like, oh, we don't care about that. So I never actually know what he's going to say, to be honest. Sometimes he's like, he's in here with the girl talking the tea and the rest of the time he's like, oh, that don't matter. Like, it's fine. So. You love the tea. You love the tea. Secretly, we all like the tea. Yeah, sometimes I like to like do this thing where I withhold the tea and then like make him like work for the tea. Oh, I love it. And so I'll just be like, oh, yeah, it was fine.

35:17Pass the ketchup. And he'll be like trying to get the tea out of me. I've seen that meme where it's like when you tell the meme, it's like it's telling the married guy something. And the guy like before the person even finished, she's like sprinting home as fast as he can to tell his girl. Oh, my God. That's like that's what I think of. Yeah, I love that. You can't tell anyone else. It's almost like don't tell. But maybe tell your wife or your girl. but you like my tea yeah you know why because like we don't a lot of guys don't have a lot of we don't really have a lot of drama like i can go out and sit in a as you were talking earlier like if i sat in a house with like six of my guy friends just hanging like there probably would be like no issues don't be fooled this man if selling sunset or real housewives is on your peripheral is on it too you like the tea you like the juice i like to i mean listen it's i think when guys come on these things and they say i don't watch when that thing's on it's kind of it's hard to turn away from the the wackiness that goes on these things like it's just wild yeah you're like i don't want to watch but i feel like i have to watch i have to know what happened it's crazy you have been in the relationship you're in that's high profile and you're also on reality tv do people treat you different when you go out has there been a shift or is it just been like a slow build i think it's kind of i mean i think it's a little bit different when I'm out with my partner because then it's like a oh okay and you don't like they they don't know who to talk to or you don't know what the situation is exactly and then I feel like for me it's definitely shifted and I it's shifted in a way that I have more appreciation for because it's women that you know engage and talk to you and come up to you and you know before that social media and like whatever my demo was more men and I was like oh I don't want any of this type of attention.

36:56You're like, no, no, thank you. So I'm exactly please. No. And so the shift with the women and the engagement and the acceptance and, you know, all of that's been really different. And I do love I do love that because you never really know, like when someone's looking at you, especially when you're out, you're like, oh, does she fucking hate me? Does she like does she know who I am? Is she just looking like you just you don't know what to make of it sometimes. So I'm just gonna also do a public service announcement like please don't send us i'm gonna there's i forgot there's a nine-year-old in the room but d-i-c-k like please please please like because you put that out there you're gonna get like 10x the amount we we do no it's it's never a good look i just want to just send a public service announcement it's not hot even jeffrey star said don't do it.

37:48No one wants to see it. We're not into it. Not into it. It's I'd rather see your thumb. Yeah. Anything. Ear. I'm just telling you. Don't care. Anything. That's how much how like gross it is to us. We would rather see your big toe. Yeah. Those unmanicured nails. Yes. It's I've never understood it. I'm like this is not coming across the way you think it is. No. Can you explain this? It's not coming. I don't get it. It's not translating guys. I will never understand. Yeah. it's it's not like it's not how it is when a girl does something i just it's like a hail mary it's like a football reference it's a hail mary but like you're just scaring mary messages not being received hail mary no it's it's not it's not it's not the message in the bottle that we're hoping for no no definitely not okay so i this show is big about routines wellness beauty health are there are some things that you do when it comes to wellness and beauty that are non-negotiables I mean, all of it.

38:43I'm a psycho with it. Tell us all the things. Literally, it's so funny because when my son hears my alarm at night, he literally knows it's regiment time. That's good, though, probably for him. It's a routine. It's good. So we do everything. We do everything together. But like we take our little walk at night. So the first one goes off at 530. So we have or six. Actually, we have dinner at 530. We take our walk and we say I have a horse. So we take him out. We go for a little walk. He takes a bath and then I'll take a shower and I'll do the full care. So he'll sit there and And he'll like be like, what's that, Bobby?

39:13And I'm like, it's under eye mask. He's like, why? So I'll do the whole thing. I change it throughout the week. There's like so many like from retinols to the eye patches to the leave on mask, which he calls the monster mask, you know, the the full one. And I try to literally I do them the at home microneedling like I do it all. So I literally have a breakdown for every night of the skin care that I'm going to do. What do you mean? You got to you got to make a full breakdown. So like Monday's one day and Tuesday's. So tell us what the week is. This show will love it. Okay. So I only go from like Monday through Friday because the weekends are just too crazy.

39:49And it's my one-on-one time with my son to just do whatever he wants all weekend. But I would say Monday, I think it's Monday, Wednesday, and Friday is the retinol for the under eye cream that I do. And then I have the sheet mask, which was Tuesday and Thursday. But then after you're also doing like the lip exfoliator, you're doing the full exfoliating before you do that. Okay. And then when it comes off, you're doing all the serums. Are you writing this down or is this like in your brain? That's why I'm like trying to rack it because I have it literally written out and all of the bottles will say on there like Monday, Wednesday, Friday, nighttime, daytime.

40:22And I do like the crazy, the label machine. You seem like you're really like organized. I am. I'm very type A. Yeah, I can tell. Like it seems like you are like have everything ready to go. But if you can't, you can't get it all done. It's too much. I know my brain's a little more like it's organized chaos. Like I feel like I love how you like have the labels and it's organized and it's written down. That's like Michael. Michael has this. What is organized chaos in your definition? Like it makes sense to me, but it wouldn't make sense if someone came into my house. I think it's just actually just like you like remove the word organized.

40:57It's just chaos. Yeah, like a little chaos. See, my rule is the opposite. I want where you come into my house that anyone can find anything and do anything within the home. So I literally every bin is labeled every every yeah it's it's a lot it's my OCD I like that though control are you organized that like that when it comes to your time absolutely so it's like full calendar everything what would someone be surprised to hear about you when it comes to motherhood because it seems like you're that's very important to you it is very important to me I think that that organization is how I prioritize him and make sure that I'm still able to take care of the things that I need to take care of.

41:34And I think that people think when you're type A and organized and you're crazy that like you can't enjoy yourself and, you know, all of those things that come with it. But we 1000 % do. And now my son looks forward to like, oh, he knows this weekend. I live in Hidden Hills and they do like this crazy festival thing. And so he's like, this is the fiesta this weekend, mommy. And then Sunday we're doing the pumpkin patch. And he starts to get excited and, you know, has something to like look forward to with the type A. But it's like I make things very fun. And my entire life truly is either my work or my kid.

42:10And Nick gets a little fraction, but like majority it's like a little fraction. Yeah, he could just he can come into the kid's stuff if he wants, you know, and my workouts and stuff. And so like he's just as busy. So we work out together and we make time in different areas when we are. But like, you know, I think that he's has majority of my schedule my son and everything is I will move things I will cancel things I will not do stuff like I want to make sure I stick to my schedule because then he knows those things are coming and when I say I have to be back he knows I'm going to be back and I think that that's really helped where we have a really what is the it's like a positive attachment I forget what the term is for it I know what you're talking about it's fuck yeah like oh sure's gonna drive me crazy talks about it what's that attachment yeah whatever i don't know the terminology yeah but it's like that really healthy attachment that i'm very proud of you have to google it because i literally was just reading a book about it it's like dr yeah dr becky positive there's it's like a positive attachment google um attachment theory for babies yeah and i feel like he's really shown me that we've been able to accomplish that and that's something that i think makes it also very I don't want to say easy, but easy for me to be successful and do what I need to do.

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50:11They got to get in where they fit in. As long as it's not for too long. Yeah. Secure attachment. Why could I not remember that? Secure attachment. What are you doing for diet and fitness? Okay. So I have always been a psycho about both. If I don't work out, I feel like I can't do anything. I feel like it is a non-negotiable for me. It's the first thing I do in the morning. I usually start my workout at 6 a.m. every day, 6.30 sometimes. And then that's at least an hour a day. Weight training. Weight training. I love weight training. I love Pilates. I'll do hot yoga at night. So sometimes it'll be like two a day.

50:47But that's like something I do with my partner. So we usually do it like twice a week. Wait, Nick does hot yoga? Yeah. And Pilates. He comes to both with me. Wow. That's something that I wouldn't think. So he's doing a hot yoga. Why don't you do hot yoga with me? I do the Pilates with you. You do the Pilates. I think you'd actually really like the hot yoga. We don't do like anything crazy. I like when I go in the sauna late at night and I like stretching in there. So you could do yin or flow. I walk in and he's like naked in the sauna stretching with that weird penis hat. It's like too much. It's not a pretty sight.

51:16I know. I'm dead. Not naked. Because I feel like I get loosened up because of the heat. So you would love the yoga. That's the whole point. The hot yoga. I could do the yoga, but I don't like being in the room with all those other sweaty people. Yeah, that is a part of it. I could do it like, you know. So you're doing, you said you're doing weightlifting, Pilates and hot yoga. Yeah. And then I have Peloton at home and I always do the cardio for sure. I love boxing. I really try to kind of switch up my workouts, but I would say those are the ones that I stick to the most. Because it's not easy after you have a baby.

51:48It's not. No, it's not. I've only had one and I still am like, God bless these women that get back after two and three because it's it. I also thought because I was shredded before, like full six pack built, like I thought I'm going to snap back right away. It was not the case. And it was just it's really hard to do when you can't sleep, but you're not getting the proper sleep that you need and you're not eating the right things and taking the supplements and all the things to support yourself. Like it's not going to be easy. There's some kind of statistic that says after you have a child, and people don't have to Google this, but it's basically you're signing up for six years, even if they're sleeping with you or not, of deprived sleep.

52:29Yeah. So then if you stack multiple kids, like you just reset the clock every time. Oof, I can't. I think because like every parent knows you kind of sleep with, like there's something where you're like kind of aware even when you're asleep. You're like kind of half awake in some instances. Yeah. You know? I wake up right before my son wakes up every single time. It's like you just know. It's that instinct of knowing you have to kind of keep an eye on. So you never, I feel like you never get that REM sleep is basically. Yeah, they're just basically saying for six years, your sleep is completely disrupted compared to somebody who does not have that.

52:58Yeah, because yeah. It is a lot of pressure after you have a baby with the weight. And I think I can only imagine how much pressure it is to then also have to go film a show that's on Netflix with a bunch of women. That's not a fucking joke. I was six weeks postpartum wearing a diaper. i do not know i'm four months postpartum and i'm like i'm like i feel like you feel like a blob yeah you do and you just first of all your whole insides are still finding their way back like it's crazy that's a that's a lot yeah that's almost like torture yeah it was they threw you into the pit with chelsea weeks yeah it was awful you also like can't be i feel like you can't get in trouble for your attitude six weeks postpartum you would hope but i think you stretch that to like you're like yeah i'm like three years later she's on postpartum but they say but they do say two years minimum for your entire body and brain to reset it's an actual statistic and then you keep resetting with every new kid exactly and then you go through pregnancy so it's like how can men even blame us we literally are being it's a chemical imbalance and you can't do anything about it joking aside we work with we've worked with a lot of women but we work with a woman here that was out here she's postpartum and she was like maybe not as early as you were like maybe a few months into it and she was filming a tv shot here and she's quitting the show because she's she said it was like really like messing i was like hey you gotta actually because she had really bad postpartum the first one yeah and i said if that's going on you should probably just walk because it has a long-term consequence if you don't it 1000 does and i think that's the hardest part as women is we really sacrifice so much.

54:38And I think that we don't get enough grace to really deal with what postpartum is and like what we're going through. And it's, you know, you're painted that you're crazy. You're painted that it's this. And it's like the statistics of just what it does to your body alone. Nonetheless, these circumstances of people that do what we do in this industry, it's like you can't give a little grace. Like it's it's actually it's pretty fucked up. And I think that that was a big thing for me was the awareness of that because I was a first time mom. It was my first time on a show and I just say what I want to say.

55:12So I was like, no, this has to be said. This is crazy. Like the expectations here for women alone is just diabolical. This is my theory. There's that quote, an able man bears many burdens. I think that women have way more of a capacity for things. And so I think when you're pregnant and then you have the baby, but you're also working 40 hours a week and you're also running a family at home and you have a husband and whatever whatever whatever it's like the husband sort of is like oh they can handle it because they have such capacity yeah and there is a lack of grace that i've seen from no i'll just be honest i didn't understand what was going on the first time and i think a lot of men how would we maybe yeah we don't but it was weird because you you know somebody so well and then they kind of i think there's the wrong way they kind of like switch up on you like what's going on here yeah and you're like snap out of it you're kind of because they're used to you by the way that was the wrong approach oh yeah because i was like hey what my worst is what's wrong with you oh see that's fighting i'll be fighting right there i'll be like i think he said that three days after i gave birth maybe no not that early no i was like what's wrong with me no because it's the first time i'm in a diaper yeah i'm 600 pounds overweight she's like my boobs are leaking my boobs and you're like asking me to like film an ad or something i'm like what's wrong with me yeah it's honestly it's it's like he's so used to me being so capable that it like malfunctions of course i can't believe that i can't just like get through the finish line it's it's that part it's like you're used to somebody being so on it you know strong all the things and then they like to your point they switch up on you and you're kind of like and especially as a guy you don't know now third time around now i just kind of like walk like i do that like homer simpson back into the bushes i'll be back see you later that's what you should do but i think that there i wish that there was more education especially for like new parents because even as a woman i didn't know i was gonna go looney tunes like i was like what just happened like and you and you don't even you don't know how to even stop it like you literally can't so it i understand why people get divorced in a year or so after having a baby because the men are like what the fuck happened to you i don't think we i think it's so it's new for society and i think when you misdiagnose a lot of women in the past especially like our parents generation you look at it's depression absolutely right and you put them on like a prozac or whatever and you you're missing that it's it's actually this postpartum you just you know which is actually normal and it should be supported not you know look down on so yeah there i like that you i i don't like for you that you came back six weeks postpartum because i can only imagine how stressful that was but it was nice to have that shown on television so you could I mean I could relate right away to that yeah I was like I can't believe she's back on screen so quickly and then they're like throwing daggers yeah oh they dragged me for the first year and a half of having my son and then when I got to the two two-year mark I was like all right bitches I'm good now so everybody everybody better relax torch yeah and then I did I did torch the world and so now they've left me alone so sheena shea talks about that too in her book that she just wrote she talks about how she had to go back to filming vanderpump rules 10 days after she had a baby no and then they were like throwing her to the lion's den or what's the line yeah it's crazy um but that's it's insane it's it honestly shouldn't be legal i'm not like there should be like a maternity leave yeah like it's just it's fucked up because especially being on a worldwide show, you don't know what you could say because you're pushed with being sleep deprived or whatever.

58:49And then there's forever consequences for that. And it's like, just think about fights that y 'all could have had between each other, but imagine that to the world and you have no control of that edit. Like that's not right. So I think that I was lucky that I was just too tired to care, but it could have went really left, you know, with people attacking your character and your family and like you're not sleeping. and it's a lot. Petition to have a maternity leave for reality TV for three months. No, and I've said it like a thousand times on this show. We've done a show for a very long time, but we control the environment, right?

59:22And there's no like editors or post-production or network. It's just like, it's our thing. So we can kind of, again, control the environment. And for you guys, obviously you can't do that and you're put in situations. But additionally, I think when you go on reality television, the audience for some reasons feels like they can say way more in a way more vicious way than they would to something like this but we get some shit on this show for sure but it's not to the degree you know we produce shane is a good example we produce her show how do you deal with that yes i don't you know you just don't look like who are you i don't care like i mean even if i see it it's hard to even take that serious like you're not a real person i don't know you no one has ever or will ever say that to my face.

1:00:05So it's kind of just to me, I don't see the internet as being a real place, to be completely honest. Like I think that - Probably healthy. I mean, yeah, it's the only way, if I can't really see it and feel it and you're not a person, like I'm like, eh. So your opinions don't matter. The people that are the closest in my circle matter and that's really it, so. Before you go, give us some juice. Like you gotta give us something juicy about next season. Is there anything juicy that we can get excited for? I feel like I... Oh, we weren't filming, huh? No, we weren't filming. Okay, okay, wait. And I don't know if you can give that juice.

1:00:43Oh, no, it's public. Okay, okay. Okay, I said, I think for me, the juice was that the little trio that was going so strong. It's not a trio anymore. What did that do to the infrastructure of the show? Like, did it make all you guys get close? Like, what was the vibe? Oh, I would say some of us got really close. And then there's some on the outskirts that you'll see play out pretty quickly. It went really left this season. Like I did not expect. I didn't expect that at all. I didn't see that coming. I kind of I personally always felt like these individuals were not genuine and not really your friends.

1:01:22But I can't say I told you so. But I told you so. Who's your favorite on the show? My favorite? Yeah, like your best friend. I think my favorite was always Heather and then she left me. So I've been missing her. But I would say Heather, we interviewed Heather, love Heather. And I would say the next person I'm probably the closest to or was the closest to was Emma. And then Mary. Those are probably like people I'm the closest with. Our new girl, Sandra. She's great. So sweet. Hilarious. And then Alana, I don't hang out with her too much. I see her like here and there. but so when do we get to see the season that I'll be binge watching?

1:02:00October 29th. October 29th. Where can everyone find you? Pimp yourself out. I only do Instagram and TikTok. I'm obsessed with TikTok and actually Snapchat. I've been doing too. We're going to do a TikTok trend right now of your voice. Oh no, not that one. Are you? I don't know which one it is. There's only one really. Which one is it? Yeah, she definitely has a step out. Yep, that's the one. What do they call it in that show? Earmuffs? Uh-huh, earmuffs, yeah. Bri, thank you so much for coming on the show. I'm so excited to watch Selling Sunset. If you guys have not binge-watched the show, go back, start it from the beginning.

1:02:39It's so juicy and so good. And you also learn a little real estate, even though I don't... A little bit. Yeah, a little bit. Thank you, Bri. Thank you. Be sure that you guys go to shopskinnyconfidential.com. We are doing Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and I want you to get everything that you want before everything sells out. Go to shopskinnyconfidential.com.