Gary Vaynerchuk: The Truth About AI, Social Media, & How to Think Clearly in a Digital World

29:32I love making people feel safe. I have to be careful because my big vulnerability is superhero syndrome where I'm just going to take care of everything. So that's something I try to watch out for. One of the things that I love most about you that I think is so attractive is that you're so comfortable with your energy and yourself. how would you tell people to get to that place listen this has been the theme of this talk this is why it's fun to continue to show up to places that are home so it's nice to be with you guys you never know where the combo will actually go this is the theme of today like i don't know how to break through to all of you that are listening but i i desperately ask you deeply i i pray on you like deeply i ask you you've got to understand that everybody else sucks too that's it yes that's the answer what do you mean meaning like why are you nitpicking why am i comfortable with myself because i like myself and and i'm very accountable that i have very many shortcomings because i don't know i'm a human like all of you have many shortcomings many and she reminds you of all of yours i don't even have to think tell myself because i just get told yes you just get told and and i i promise all of you Everyone is short, whoever you admire the most.

30:52My sister definitely put me on an uncomfortably big pedestal. I'm knocking on wood, I don't know why, I'm so grateful. I was a very good big brother. I think that happens with, I have a sister three years younger. I think that happens. If it's a big brother. Especially if you're a good person. And like you really, I really did write by my sister. And we have like 13 of those classic stories of like things that I'm very proud of. but like I'm like I got happy in the last 10 years where my sister started to like see me for having some shortcomings that was like good for me like I was happy for her like because I don't I think the most unhappy people and not that my sister was so unhappy but I know her unhappiness was grounded in her putting me and my mom on a pedestal that was too high and I ask all of you to put no one on a pedestal, even if, listen, I put people on pedestals, but not too high.

31:49Like I, you know this, I talk about my, I already done it multiple times. I think my mom is like the single best mother of all time. And yet I'm very aware of her shortcomings. Many she passed on to me DNA wise. And so why am I comfortable? It's because I know everyone else has shortcomings too. And I also know I have no negative intent towards others. What are your shortcomings? things candor candor candor has been the kryptonite of my life what do you mean candor and being able to tell people what you really think to their face which is bananas because as a public figure it's my ultimate strength because when i'm on this podcast i'm talking to 8.3 billion people okay yeah that's our that's our listener base

32:35even you guys have now crossed over into a friendship place where it would be harder for for me to tell you something real. Uh-oh, because I have, I need to pick your brain after this. Oh, don't say pick your brain. I hate when people say that. Don't say that. That's not the right word. No, no, no, no, no. Say pick your brain. Fuck her. She says dumb shit too. Yeah, fuck you, Lauren.

32:58Yeah, you're like, uh-oh, don't build him up too. I know her so well. She's like, don't do it, Gary. I'm gonna have to hear about it all dinner. Candor crushed me. Everything bad in my life. in my life personally and professionally was because I was not able to tell someone I cared for what I actually thought and I tried to get around it and I tried to figure it out and put it all on me without realizing resentment was being built and my issues in my life you know have been around that and then you know about five six seven eight maybe eight years ago it started to really come to a head in both my professional and personal life i realized my company had become entitled i want to talk to you about that but keep going um i realized some of my relationships were not where they needed to be and you know i you know at 42 43 i was like uh-oh like it was it was actually great like this is why i wish on everyone i wish everyone can face their truth.

34:01Like, and so candor has been massive. I use kryptonite because I do think I was uncomfortably blessed with DNA and parenting and circumstance, you know? Not only did I have the greatest mother who gave me all of her great traits, and I took my dad's best traits. Like, it's a big joke in my family that I was first and I just kind of rolled up on my mom and dad and just took all their best shit because I was first. And like, really, I you know, I really am it's really wild. Like, you know, I speak about this detached from it, but it is very clear if you knew everything about me. If we hang out in heaven where you can get every answer, if there was some AI graph up there that was like, what did Gary take from his parents?

34:40His parents have good and bad attributes. What did he take? It's like 98 % good. I took all the good shit from both, and my dad has a ton of bad shit, and I love him, but he has a lot of shortcomings. And by the way, I'm not mad at him because I knew my grandma real well, and she parented him, and she had those same things. and you want to hear something even crazier because everybody in Russia had kids at 20. I knew my great grandma well. And she gave it to my grandma. So I always say this, my favorite keynote speech moment, maybe of my career was at VCon two or three, two. And my opening line to the keynote, like 10 ,000 people in the crowd.

35:17I'm like, I just want to start with, fuck your grandparents. And like the crowd was like shook. Everyone in the crowd was like, what the fuck is going on? And my point was a lot of you right now in the crowd are struggling because you're mad at one of your parents. And you don't have the grace or empathy or compassion to your parent to realize one of their parents did it to them. This is my favorite topic in the world. I actually have a meditation that I do about this every day. It's just having grace and forgiveness for the fact that you're right, that there probably is something that the grandparent or the great-grandfather.

35:52Not probably. There is. What your parent did to you is what one of their, like, and you know what pisses me off is like, you're like, oh, grandma, because grandma now is on the, by the way, a lot of times grandma is sweet to you because she's still fucking, you know, up her daughter. Or she feels guilty about. Correct, it's one of the two. It's either they're like, fuck, they're trying to make amends with you, the grandchild, or believe it or not, they're still in it and they want you to side with, this is fucked up, but it's real. They want granddaughter to side with grandma on this fucking 40 year debate.

36:23so they're sweet to you. So you're like, grandma, you're the sweetest and she's giving you cookies and five bucks and she's the fucking best. Meanwhile, everything you're mad at in life is based on this thing you're mad at your mom for and your poor mom got fucked by this grandma.

36:40But by the way, by the way, it's, you know, why I love, it's so true, right? And you know why I'm happy right now is I know someone's in a car driving and this might be the first, this is why I'm motivated to do what I do. I know someone's driving right now had never heard this concept and literally just had a bananas aha and it's the seed that's going to lead to them calling their mom in six months because it's going to fester you know not everything's right away and they haven't talked to her for four years and it's going to allow them to have amends and enjoy each other's company it'll be rocky roads you know when you have a tough relationship you know but right now they're completely zero and it's and they didn't realize what grandma did and then you're gonna be like fuck grandma and then i'm gonna be like no no no great grandma you didn't know grant grandma grant great grandma gertrude but she was the worst of the bunch so it's about being aware of that so when you're aware of that you can understand it and have being aware and awake to everything is good yeah being aware is realizing if you're highly political, both sides are doing the same thing.

37:50That's being aware. They're both scaring you and telling you you're not capable and they're going to take care of you. Both of them. They're just scaring you on different issues. I think I agree. You know, when I think about you and like one of the themes of your life, I just think that like extreme self-awareness is at the top of the heap with your qualities. I mean, there's a million great qualities, but I think like you're just you're you're you have an honest assessment about yourself and the world. And I think that's a superpower for you. It allows you to grow and make impact. You guys know this, including the three wonderful people off the camera know this.

38:27When you start to get known, people have opinions of you. There are people who have full-formed opinions of me who've never met me. And I understand. If you grew up in a household where over-the-topness and cursing were demonized, how could you possibly like me at first? if your parents taught you that self-promotion and be quiet. You don't have to put yourself out there, which is a beautiful, I'm literally getting goosebumps. I think it's beautiful to say your work should speak for itself and you don't have to be out. I think it's a beautiful virtue. Speaking in a respectful manner. I think these are nice things.

39:08I am not that. I am very out there. I'm very Jersey potty mouth. but it's me and and i'm okay with people misunderstanding me at first in a world where everyone wants to be understood immediately i do not have the audacity to think that people should understand me right away i actually enjoy the process many people listening right now when they first came across me did not like me and now really like me that's my favorite thing ever is when you you do get a judge you judge a book by its cover and then you get to know the person and it's an onion correct people are complex what happens to you too all the time it's my favorite thing ever and i let him go down the rabbit hole and see me with blonde hair and big fake tits and like let them judge that and that's right i'm actually fine with it i i think a little bit of part of me gets off on it yeah of course because i think you know who you are inside yes like again but this is an important thing there's a lot of people listening right now who think they're rotten inside and i tell everyone to listen to me you are not rotten if your voice tells you that you are bad someone put that voice in you that is not your voice right i said something yesterday i'd never said out loud before and i i'm excited to repeat it i literally believe there's no losers in life i really believe that i just believe that are people that are currently losing right it's like sports like sometimes you're losing 13 to nothing but i don't know if you've ever watched sports like sometimes you come back and win like like Like, no matter where you're at right now, alcoholism, fired four times,$150 ,000 in debt.

40:40Like, this is what's amazing about life. Like, you actually can get out of it. And then what's crazy, like, if you show me someone, like, if someone emails me that heard this podcast ever, right now when you launch it, or in 10 years, if you're a person that emails me and says, I was$150 ,000 in debt, I battled alcoholism, I spent six months in jail, I, like, all these things, and now I'm here, that's the person I most admire on earth. The people I most admire are the ones that really get out of the muck. Not the people that kind of, like me? Like it's kind of always been chill. Like meaning like my adversity was my youth.

41:21Fights all the time because I grew up in bad neighborhoods, bad grades, every adult said you're gonna be a garbage man loser, which was funny because garbage men make a lot of money, more than teachers. you know all this other crazy stuff by the time I got to 18 I was so beat up by every grown up I was like I like losing so my life from after like regular school life childhood life and don't forget inside my house I had nothing but love and then selling and all the business stuff was showing me I wasn't a loser but you know for me I've kind of just like cruised along like success on success on success, happiness and joy.

41:57Like, yes, I think I'm, for some people, it might be like, oh, I want to achieve that. But I am, I personally am more impressed with someone who's in a real fucked up spot right now and gets to like some sort of basic tangible place than I am with what I've done. And I'm not kidding. If you woke up tomorrow and you felt rotten inside, what would you do? What's your self-talk? If me, myself, with the things I know, I would immediately say that it's not true. And that somebody, especially if it's me, some like evil demon lord was able to manipulate my brain somehow. It must be like some weird Emperor Darth Vader-like character was able to penetrate my brain or somebody slipped me like some weird version of an AI roofie that remixed my brain because I don't understand how this happened.

42:53But however it happened, someone oust, I, Gary, do not think I'm rotten. Someone tricked me into thinking I'm rotten. So that's, if someone's listening and they feel rotten, you would tell them to understand? That their mother or father likely told them they were rotten. So how did they get out of it? By realizing their mother and father was broken and they can start the process of getting out. They have to not believe them. when your mother there are people maybe even this room just six of us and definitely people listening there are people who have parents that tell them you'll never be anything you know how fucking sad that is but i again do not get mad at that you know scene right now i don't look at that woman or man of like you're i feel bad for them they are so broke to be a parent that says that to your own child do you know how fucking broken that person is this is why i love negative comments in social.

43:47Do you know that most people don't post because they're scared of negative comments and I secretly love them? Why do you secretly love negative comments? Because it gives me an opportunity to DM some of them and try to help them. What do you DM them? Like, hey man, I saw what you just wrote. Like, first, sorry that you think I'm a scam artist, but on some real shit, like, if you're taking time to write that, like, you're clearly not in good places. Is there anything I can do for you? Literally six out of 10 people are like, whoa, and like pumped. and four out of ten people double down like fuck you Gary you're not gonna fucking pull your shit on me I'm like my shit is compassion like I'm right here when you're ready I like doing that and you've always done that um I want to talk to you a little bit about entitlement that's a great segue thank you and you've always done now let's talk about this thank you you're welcome it's only taking a thousand um no but you know there's all these articles now about gen z and this and I I I hate to pick on young people because I know a lot of people in that generation that are really hardworking and do very well.

44:44I would actually argue to your point to double down, just to jump in. It's actually a very wildly mixed generation because Gen Z has so many options. Gen Z is the most millionaires of a generation under 20 in the history of time because of technology. There's people working their faces off. I actually think they're just very split. Not a lot of in between. You have these gangster 19 year olds who are streaming for 19 hours a day every day of their life or building AI businesses. And then you have the ones that are like, well, the boomers fucked it up for us. Hey, politicians, take care of me. As if we didn't have enough things that we don't like each other about.

45:18Gender wars, race, religion. This is how fucked up things are. I do not believe that people are conscious to what's happening. There are many people on earth that try to make us not like each other for their self-interest, politicians. And so literally as if we didn't have enough things to not like each other about, this is the first era when I was growing up guys I didn't even know I was in Gen X and I never heard the term boomer I didn't know what that was right now you literally have Gen Z being like you boomers fucked it up and they're like pointing at some poor 71 year old lady who's just minding her own business she's just going to the store to buy a banana she's like what do you mean I ruined it but I wanted so I think to your point it's I think there's just entitlement across all sorts of different demos correct and um i think within that i don't i don't want to blame social media because i don't think i think that's a cop-out but i think people see people with things or maybe that are further along and they say hey they have it why shouldn't i but yeah but the rise of socialism and marxism and communism like the 40s the 60s the 20s had these same dynamics we friends actually here's a good one please this will really make your life a lot better you need to stop blaming social media yeah it's an empty pipe you need to start blaming yourself like people like it's never been worse i'm like the holocaust was pretty bad like like like hitler didn't have twitter like i don't understand why people don't understand what's actually happening which is we have become incredibly non-accountable we have become wildly judgmental and this is not a social media issue this is modern parenting issue consequences matter

47:10literally in five minutes we went from parents actively smacking and spanking i had a belt hanging in my apartment when i first came to america as a kid and like my mom pointed to it and said you know the wooden spoon like wooden spoon i got the wooden spoon like Literally, I've been smacked. I've been spanked. Grounded? Do you know this phenomenon? You guys are young, modern parents. People don't ground. I ground. We ground. I ground. How? I ground, I say, I say, fuck around and find out. No, no, no. That's threatening. Do you? I'll tell you. I'll tell you. My daughter the other day, she was misbehaving.

47:52She was playing Mario Kart on the Wii. I said, you keep doing that. It's gone for a week. it's gone for a week she comes to me two days later she goes where's the big eyes it's gone tears in them no it's gone for a week you have five more days and by the way if you do another it's another week but 30-40 years ago it was not just the Wii it was no phone no friends no TV it was real she's like thanks dad you took away the Wii yeah she wanted the next day now she's doing 1700 other things She's watching Rugrats. Correct. That's true. He's not wrong. I'm talking about when we really grounded in the 70s and 80s, 60s.

48:32Like, you were going to jail. God forbid you heard, I'm going to go get your father. Scared the fuck out. I was scared of my dad as if he was like an assassin. Same. Like, no, no, we don't have kids grow up. And this is why people talk so much shit. I grew up in neighborhoods where if you like said one thing to someone, like it was after school, punch, blood, fight. Like, people are saying all sorts of shit. in the comment section because there's no ramifications so what's your vibe on gentle parenting can't wait listen i i i love the idea of being friendly and warm like i had a gentle parent who would smack the fuck out of me when i did something wrong i believe that we need purple i think that we've this concept of like when parents are like i want to be friends with my child they're hurting them you want to be friendly but you need to be their father or mother yeah And I'm telling you the biggest issue in the world right now is lack of consequences.

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57:48You have people literally blaming boomers on TikTok whose parents are paying their rent. It's funny because one of the best things my dad ever gave me was your book. Yeah. Not money. It was your book. Isn't that funny? it's humbling and funny and awesome and like it's how i see the world like it's just very easy to see what's going on right now like we are soft we are over coddled we've become addicted to this people love this you're ugly you're stupid well you you should my favorite you should pay more taxes like okay like like what about you where did this like i i never i don't i literally I really don't even know how to start a sentence of you should.

58:33It never in my brain do I look at someone and say, you should, other than the framework of like, kindness and humanity. It would be great, like, not this like you, like we just, and like you suck and like, you think you're so hot, back to the fake tits and blah. Like, what's, whose business are your tits? Kind of mine, maybe a little. Yeah, you're maybe in the mix a little bit. Maybe a little bit in the mix. You're half here. I'm pulling that clip. I'm totally pulling that clip out of context. Go ahead. You know, like, whose business is it how, you know, and by the way, this is why I don't tell people how to raise their child.

59:12I talk about parenting as a macro theme as someone who's receiving 10 to 50 ,000 DMs a month from people that are struggling who are saying the same themes, which is mommy and daddy are over coddling me. it's all the same theme so the kid is dming you that so let me want the weirdest one yeah one of the biggest breakthroughs of my life was when i started really talking about this six seven years ago i was getting dms from rich kids blaming their parents for paying for their life i have heard this yes and i was like my first reply ever literally i didn't understand they're like gary i'm super depressed you know i read my dms super depressed let me tell you about me my parents pay for everything i'm 25 i live in la i remember like yesterday they just bought me a brand new bmw and i'm deeply depressed and and it keeps going and i don't remember the rest but it ends with and all of this just shows me that they don't think i'm capable oh they think i'm a loser so it's a dog whistle from the parent saying that you're not capable and that's the self-esteem that's interesting to me to me too very interesting it blew me away then the next part was funny i said i literally read this thing and i kind of like i'm shook because i'd never heard it i didn't know what rich kids were dealing with kind of and i replied i think i can help and this person replies oh my god please gary what should i do and i replied stop taking the money and that's when the convo got interested this was like a fucking two hour dm back and forth one of the few times i've ever done this and literally for an hour and a half over fucking indiana and michigan and on my way home from the west coast i convinced this person to call their father and give back everything but most kids want to shit on their parents and do nothing about it yep and i think it's you know i've on this show i've talked about this where i actually have a little bit of empathy and sympathy for people that are rich kids that are put in that situation because they don't actively make that choice their parent does for them yeah but when you're when you're seven and nine and 13 you're right but when you're 22 you gotta be you gotta break you gotta step away everybody's listening if you're in a great situation financially where your parents have this situation if it's bothering you you do have control and I agree with you I understand that you're conditioned to fucking have caviar on Sunday brunch but you don't need caviar unless you're Russian like me you do need caviar the victim mentality that's it why is it everyone's fault but yours literally everything that's wrong in my life is my fault and it makes me happy as fuck well because then you can do something about it yes because then the power is with you if it's always somebody else's fault that puts you in a helpless position this is why everyone's so upset right now they think a politician's in charge that's they're crippled they're like they're not in charge like like let's use america you're upset like i don't know if you know this but sweden and peru portugal like australia lovely places a big election in new york as we're filming today a lot of people are about to have a lot of feelings in this city oh yeah one way or another good news like i think this is the best city in the world but if i ever god forbid thought of the mayor or governor of new york state really controlled me and fucked me up i'd move connecticut's lovely like i don't like i don't like like i don't get this i mean you know we moved from california to texas and it's not that's right we just said okay oh Oh, and people had all sorts of judgment on you guys early on because you were a little early.

1:03:05And then everyone's like, you're pioneers. You went from shit faces to pioneers. And then it goes back and forth. Depends who you ask. We might still be shit faces with some people. And by the way, you may go back to California. Probably not, but I like being closer here. No, no, you appreciate what I'm about to say. Probably not because you're viewing it what it is today. Yeah. What if the state of California changes three policies in the next 18 years that you'd like? And you might be like, wait a minute. by the way on the record la has many things better than austin oh yeah and if three or four things that matter to you change maybe you will we're gonna move next door to you and mona well that'd be lovely yeah new york has many things better than both of those new york has better things than everything but new york's the fucking best city in the world let there be no confusion i've been slowly moving okay so let me let me go back to what i was asking you when somebody comes to you manage a lot of people and their output is not matching what they actually are going to then earn or want to earn and they're entitled and they say, Gary, I'm working for you.

1:04:07I've been here for a year or two. Like I want this. I tell them that unfortunately, I'm making a subjective opinion. You might be right. This is very powerful. This has really worked for me because I actually believe this. This may really help a lot of bosses. I say, let's just have the combo. Hey, unfortunately brother, I have to make a subjective choice here because it's my company. And subjectively, I don't agree with you. And not because I want to suppress you and not make money. You can go talk to other employees who've gotten raises. Just subjectively, I don't think you're up to snuff. Like your content doesn't get views.

1:04:38Like you come in at 9.13 when everyone's here at nine. Like you kind of mope around when like someone else does well on a post and your post doesn't. Like you're not really living it. And so I don't think we're there yet. But good news, like you know me, I'm Gary. Like I'm a good dude. Like maybe this isn't the right spot and I will try to help you get a spot that's better for you. Or you can subjectively agree with me now because you can tell that you're not tricking me because I just gave you three examples. And let's maybe work on it together and see if we can rectify this in the next six months.

1:05:09And if not, let's figure out a great spot for you. It's interesting to me how much you're paying attention. When you say you get here at 913 and you have 8 million employees, that's interesting to me. People think you're not paying attention because you're so busy and you've got so much going on. I wish you could interview all my employees. It literally freaks some, like some of my employees literally think I have a spy network. I'm very intuitive. Like my intuition is my great gift. Actually, let's speak about that. This will be really good. I know a lot of ladies listening to this are gonna really find this interesting.

1:05:45Ladies, you know how like in the last decade, we've really started to talk about gut health? Really big topic, thank God. And men too, I mean many, But like gut health has become a big conversation. We're starting to get more educated on gut health as like a primary driver of your overall health. I have a wild one that I really hope I live to watch this clip because the world figured it out. I'm completely commenced intuitively that your intuition and your gut is your primary brain and your brain is your secondary brain. And I don't think the world knows that. And I think there's something big, big there.

1:06:21like your intuition is coming from your gut which is actually guiding you not your brain that's right but he's saying the first the first indicator of whether something's off or on or good or bad what did i get called the other day on the podcast michael gary might be it too what did i get called i mean you get called a million no the prolific oh no no no no she keeps trying you're not a prophet no what is it because she wants to be a prophet what's it called prophetic prophetic Yeah, you both have that. Yeah. Intuition. And I think the people that are willing to lean into it, I think a lot of people listening have talked themselves out of it.

1:06:53And you know what sucks is when you go against your intuition and it doesn't work out, it hurts triple. Because you knew. Yeah. And so for me, and for me. Wow, say that again. Uh-huh. The number one thing that really fucks with people is where they used someone else's opinion that they trust or logic to make a decision versus their intuition that was really going off. Yep. So then when it fails, you're like devastated because you're really mad at yourself for not listening, which is why I only listen to my intuition. Oftentimes it's not worked out, but it feels nice because I died on my own sword.

1:07:29It's much more fun to die on your own sword than someone else's sword. And a lot of the times it does work out and your intuition, spidery senses antenna is 100 % right. Most of the time. I'm just saying a lot of times it didn't because there's something you didn't see. you're into it like something else was a variable you might have actually been right but it ended up being wrong like things happen but one of my favorite things that you've ever talked about and I forgot where it was I think on Instagram but you said that when people say social media is negative open up your feed open up your your content page and look at your content you have created that and I'm not saying it as eloquent as you said it can you talk to our audience about that?

1:08:13Every one of you that thinks social media is bad or that the algorithms are manipulating you, I want you to open your phone and go to TikTok or Instagram right now and go to search. Go to the search function. In search, I want you to do this. Like literally pause the podcast right now. Get yourself situated. Let's see. Yeah, do this. This is nice. Friends, feel free to jump in. Okay. So I go here? You're on search? Yeah. I really want you to do this. This is really important. Thank you, everyone. I want you to search, you're in search? Yep. Type in kittens. Okay, got it? Okay. I need you to like four posts right now.

1:08:50I mean it. Please. Oh no, I know what's gonna happen. You know, when Ozzy Osbourne passed away, I was watching like a million things because I love Black Sabbath and my whole feed for weeks was Black Sabbath and Ozzy. I'm liking four posts. I know what's gonna happen. I know what's gonna happen. I don't care, I need.

1:09:06So cute. All right, now back out. Okay. I want you to type in love. Everybody who's listening to this podcast, I need you to do this. This is real. If you really believe that social media is the devil or the algorithms against you or things are bad, I really need you to like this one's important. Michael, are you typing in love? Yeah, Michael's faking it. I can see it. Don't fake it, Michael. I did it. I did it. All right. I need you to like, please everyone, follow this. I need you to like three posts. and this, I know this one will hurt a lot of you. I know this will hurt a lot of you but I need you to follow one of those accounts in the love read.

1:09:44I know a lot of people are very precious about who they follow. This is going to fuck people up but I need you to do it. Please just pick one. Michael, go follow Louise Hay affirmations. Oh, I don't know if I want to follow that one that popped up at the top. What? It was Diddy that popped up at the top of the research though. It happens. It happens. Listen, he might be like, you know, learning a lot of things in this new sitch. Yeah. Michael, follow Louise Hay affirmations. Okay, I don't know where that one is. Look, Louise Hay affirmations. All right, back out, everyone. Back out. This is very important.

1:10:12This is actually profound. This might be, Lauren, I really mean this. This might be the thing that we're most stopped in public about, this segment right now. Now I need you to put sunshine. Okay. Sunshine. Sunshine. Okay. It makes me happy. It is nice. Five likes. I need it. I need click into the grid. Pick which ones you like. Like it. Like it. all right i don't want to eat up the entire podcast but 15 minutes of this uh actually let's do the last one this is probably the most important one you'll ever do in your life ready okay need everybody to type in gary i need you to like four posts that is by the way positive shit you're all over my algorithm so that's good because it's all positive.

1:11:03So friends, this is super important. I believe a lot of you have done this just now. I really think a lot of people did it. I think a lot of you will continue and put hiking and things you like cooking. Mona has really, in the last couple of years, realized how much joy she gets from cooking. So like cooking, sports highlights. Now we can go a little bit less deep. You can add sports highlights, fashion. I'm telling you within 30 seconds like tomorrow if you really do 15 minutes of what I just said you will and close your phone tomorrow morning your feed's different your feed is not changing you the platforms are not manipulating you they're exposing who you are your feed is a reflection of who you are our producer Taylor's feed is all buttholes it's all buttholes and this is how I knew your theory was right because I asked him to go on his feet.

1:11:59He said, show us your algorithm. He was complaining about social media and I said, pull it up and all of it was twerking butthole. And I'm like, well, this is a reflection. It sounds like he should be loving social media. Why is he upset? No, he loves it. Ariel, wait till you see his feet. Everything you just said is going to... We just did this dinner or Dermit did a dinner. He likes big butts and he can't lie. He can't. The algorithm doesn't let you lie. We did a dinner with... Adam who the head of Instagram over there and he was talking about this and he said the algorithm is an interest based algorithm.

1:12:33It follows your personal interest. Friends, social media doesn't exist anymore. I've been saying this for a couple months now. We are in the ear of interest media. You're not getting content from who you follow. You're getting content of the things you like. And remember when I said you were in control? People are like Gary you don't get it though. It's addicting. Endorphins. They fucking got the system. I'm like motherfucker I just told you how to fix it in three minutes. what are you fucking talking about we've given up our control completely to the algorithm to instagram to tiktok to china to trump to kamala to to mandani to fucking the system the vortex the deep state the illuminati the fuck are you guys talking about bunch of fucking crying wow bitches who don't want to take accountability for their actual life don't blame people you're the someone that likes buttholes.

1:13:26I'm going to pull that whole clip in just one segment. That's going to be the opener of this. That's the teaser for this show. Brother, that's it, man. Like, I don't understand. Like, can we please use, can this podcast please, for thousands of you, be the moment where you realize it's two thumbs in. It's fucking two thumbs in. It's you. Yeah, and I think, you know. Okay, you don't get it. My boyfriend. Break up. If your boyfriend's a fucking delusionally negative fucking loser break up.

1:14:00Or if like, if you like, if you like hooking up with him so much because he's the most handsome dude, then realize you're choosing dick over happiness. I don't know. And by the way, you're allowed for a couple of months, but just get out of there eventually. Like, I don't know. Like, no judgment, but like, don't blame. and don't choose dick over happiness it's not worth it get a vibrator this was not on my note card or choose it for like one week yeah like again ride it for a week and then get off the ride yeah like it's life is not like like locked in forever and like like i don't know like accountability is the most addicting word to me i'm obsessed with accountability i would inject the accountability into my lips.

1:14:47No, I think that, I mean, like I said, it's what we appreciate for such a long time about you is, and whether the message when you hear it sometimes for the first time might be like, whoa, whoa, it's like a cold splash of water in your face. But what you're saying is basically like you have as an individual, the power to dictate the outcome of your life. End of story. I watch politicians right now say, you're not capable. You're not capable. You need you need to be scared of this. You're not capable, you need to be scared of this. You're not capable, you need to be scared of this. I can help you.

1:15:20I live a life of here is all this good information. Here's how you make money, here's how are you get happy. Here's how you make money, here's how you can make happiness. Happiness, money. Happiness, money. And then I finish with saying I can't help you, you can help you. the end. That right there is what's going on. And by the way, I'm not special. There are other people like me. And I implore people that are listening right now to find those people and stop consuming the other people. Mic drop, Gary Vee. Third time on the show. Always a charm. This one was a lot of range, Gary. Yes, we definitely, you know.

1:16:05It's a lot of range. Yeah, yes, that was. butthole dick tits like we definitely it was a like a little bit of a sixth grade show um i don't know if you're promoting anything right now but i'm gonna call you out and say that i actually read your book to my kids and they love it me in the middle yes and there's two different sides and they love how it switches over yeah i think for all the moms if you go to veefriends.com slash cartoons this whole theme you know i can sit and talk about it or i can do something about it four years ago i decided that i was not only the byproduct of a great mom jersey immigration like you know entrepreneurship the american dream but i was also the byproduct of kids television that was pushing good agenda i used to watch he-man and it was super cool and at the end all 80s boys stand up on this one remember this you'd watch he-man it was cool it wasn't virtue too signaling, like it was like beat the Skeletor and like cool shit.

1:17:07And then at the end, He-Man would show up on the screen at the end of the cartoon as Adam, which is who he was before He-Man and be like, hey kids, don't forget, be nice to your sister. I was like, oh fuck, He-Man told me to be nice to my sister. I'm like, Liz, get over here. You're the best. So five years ago, I started VFriends. We have 20 cartoons right now on YouTube Kids. If you have kids between three and eight, I could not recommend it more. VEEfriends.com slash cartoons I gotta put that on please put it on guys oh my gosh we gotta go to the cartoon channel and by the way I've really built this IP so it's 250 characters it's my Pokemon meets Marvel meets Sesame Street but you'll like this I really made two of the girl characters like the alphas of the whole world the fearless fairy and the ambitious angel cute are two of like the five most important characters but also the competitive clown so like my cartoons and parents please watch the cartoons you're gonna laugh the cartoons for the kids but it's also poking at you guys okay some of the stuff we talked like when you watch the cartoon it's a little bit like yeah i'm like eighth place trophies lead to suicidal thoughts not really but but it's like i'm really poking at it okay i'm like really poking at it so i think it's fun for parents do you voice anything i i did you know what's funny i didn't but ai sora 2 i don't know if you guys know what sora 2 is so everybody needs to download sora 2 it's open ai's tiktok where all the content is ai watch this so you'll love this oh your phone so cute look at this so this you're gonna love this this is me in ai form what do you mean it's like not it's that's him ai How do you make your That doesn't look like you Well you know what

1:19:00So literally I just So that's not you This one's even better

1:19:07Can you give it feedback Tell them your voice is a little too high Your voice is lower They know like it's early But the fact that it's already that good Where is it going to be in two years That was me typing Gary V motivating penguins to not be scared of the sun enter and that was made. With Sora. With Sora 2. So you used your voice from Sora for the cartoon? So where I was going is there's a character in Be Friends called Gary B. Okay. B-E and I'm gonna be the voice of him. And is it a B? It's a B. It's a B. That's genius that you have a cartoon. I think that's so smart and I think it's. You ever need some cameo voices?

1:19:44Yeah can I do a cameo? Yeah for sure. Can I be like like ambitious angel or one of the characters that's alpha? Yes, you can. Can I actually? Yes. I will do it for free. You will do it for free and voice whatever. Not when she's in. You need to audition. I want to be, I know, I want to be, I want to be, what's the character I want to be? Humble hedgehog. No, no, no, no, no. No? What about helpful hippo? I'll be helpful hippo. Helpful hippo. I love helpful hippo. All right, Gary. Anyway, Love you guys. I got to run. Thank you so much. Before you go, you have to go stock the Skinny Confidential face towels.

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