How To Become Your Most Aligned Self: Healing, TMS Pain, Manifestation & Self-Accountability Ft. Elizabeth Endres Orrigo

25:09Right. So like, listen, again, people parent and it's hard, but I think you have to be even more intentional when you have children because the time gets tighter and you're constantly interrupted and somebody always needs something from you. And so it's harder. And I think for parents listening out there, like it's easy to let a lot of this stuff fall by the wayside and stop taking care of yourself because all of a sudden you have these kids that are demanding so much of you. And so like, I think having these practices in advance and just like being a little bit kinder to yourself, knowing that like, it's not going to be perfect, especially when the kid's here.

25:40Yes. Your recent engagement was something that you said you manifested. Talk to us about that. Yes. Okay. So going back to when I discovered journal speak end of 2023, I think it was, I was in a relationship that I knew was like coming to an end that had been very long term. And I ended up ending that relationship. I actually saw, and I feel like you'll appreciate this, a psychic around that time who was like, so this was February of 24. And she said, I was going through the breakup, looking for a little guidance. And she was like, at this time next year, you're going to be engaged. And I was like, Jamie, you're out of your skull.

26:28There's no way. Like, I just got out of a relationship. I also moved very slowly. She described my now husband literally perfectly to a T. I'm going to need the psychic number. I got you. But we got to keep Jamie tight. And I know a lot of people are going to reach out about her. Oh, by the way, she's in Texas. Perfect. Can't wait. Right. So, so I have that call. Simultaneously, I'm doing a lot of manifestation work because I had gone through this breakup and I had just discovered journal speak and I was starting to feel better. And I was, um, I was just feeling motivated. Right. I had started actually the to be magnetic, you know, Lacey Phillips.

27:05I don't, I saw that on our notes. She's amazing. Okay. Tell us about that as you're telling the story. So she has this program called to be magnetic that I actually started at the end of 23. And she has like an end of year challenge that's, she is like the queen of like neural manifestation and neural plasticity, was very early to the manifestation game. And she has these programs where she basically like helps you to rewire your thoughts. She has these things called deep imaginings that are like sort of self-hypnosis. And the idea is that we manifest from our subconscious, not from our thoughts.

27:41And so this is where I think it gets really interesting with the nervous system stuff, because I believe that our external world is a reflection of our internal reality. And it makes so much sense because when I was in so much pain, I was also in the wrong relationship. I also felt stuck with work. And when I started to shift that, like there was just this momentum that could not be stopped. You're out of alignment. Exactly. All of a sudden my health problems got better. I met my now husband. I started a podcast that's like definitely aligned with my purpose. everything shifted. And so I think meeting Clayton was a big part of that.

28:14And I really like worked hard at it. I did the To Be Magnetic Challenge. I made this list of my perfect partner and I worked on changing myself internally so that like my vibration matched the person that I wanted to be with. Yes, that is so important. That, in my opinion, is how you meet the right partner. You cannot sit there and ask for all this stuff from a partner and have this laundry list of things and not be vibrating and having the same things within you. It's like one of my friends, I was, I told the story before on air. He's sitting there telling me that he wants a girl with perfect teeth.

28:52She's got to have perfect teeth and a perfect ass and a thigh gap. And I'm like, let me see your ass. Let's see your thigh gap. And what your teeth are literally rotting out of your skull. They're yellow. I said that to him. I'm like, this is not fair. You cannot expect all these things when you are not embodying the things as well. No, but really what it is, is like Lauren, like if you explain it in vibration or alignment, whatever it's, it's fine. But for people that are not into those words, it's really this, it's, it's really this like false expectation that you deserve greatness when you're also not taking care of the things that you need to be taking care of yourself.

29:29And it's this, it's this idea that like, it's an external problem and that you are not the problem. That's the thing that I see and hear so much with my girlfriends. And just, I was that. I was like, there's no men in New York. You know, it was like the narrative is a them problem. It's always, the problem always is beyond them and outside of them. Yes. Not men and women. Or it's the government. Or it's the way they were raised. Or it's the place they live. But until anyone takes personal accountability for the things that are not going right in their life and realizes that they are to blame most likely and that it's not external circumstances, nothing will change.

30:07Imagine if I was running this company and every time something went wrong, I'm like, oh, this team member, oh, fucking Carson didn't produce the show. Oh, that's just brand. The company would go to the ground. A lot of leaders do that and they wonder why they don't have companies. But if instead you say, you know what? Everything's my fault. I didn't give the right direction. I didn't look at that the right way. I didn't listen. I didn't hear. I cannot wait to replay this clip when we get in a fight. Yeah, but and vice versa. But the point is, is like, I think sometimes people are talking about like alignment and vibration, all that.

30:35It really is a personal accountability thing. Absolutely. Yeah. I think it really is required of us to take accountability for ourselves and see where, you know, a lot of people look at breakups or past relationships as these failures. And it's like, what was I doing wrong? That like, that's where I was at, that that's what I attracted. Yeah. Well, it's much easier to blame things around you than to look inward and say, oh, you know, I'm probably not living the way that I know I could be if I actually took some personal account. Yeah. I think that's an important point, though, when you're if you're dating someone and you break up, it's like what you mentioned early.

31:10What frequency were you vibrating at to attract that? And if you change that. And by the way, that's a good point. Your partner may be a total piece of shit, but you are the one that is attracting and putting up with that piece of shit. Right. Like it's not. So I'm not I'm not saying that, like, there aren't bad partners or bad circumstances or bad parents or bad jobs or bosses. but you have to own your part in that and like why you're staying or why you're accepting or why you're still participating. We're not blaming, but there is some level of tolerance that happens in these relationships, even if it's just a stale relationship.

31:43So what happens when you get engaged? The psychic was right. Psychic was right. She was off by four weeks. I mean, that's pretty insane. Really cool. She also said that I was going to be pregnant and I am. I know, right? and she called out the gender. She also said that my next round of kids will be twins. So let's just put that here right now and we'll see what happens, but that would be insane. Is there twins in your husband's family? My dad's a twin, my grandpa's a twin, and I have twin cousins. Oh, wow. Twins are wild. Wild. I don't know. We haven't experienced that, but whenever I see people doing that, I'm like, whoa, that's intense.

32:23It's crazy. You have to basically double up on everything at the same time. And they're feeding off of each other and it's madness. Yeah, that is madness. Yeah, parents that can do that, I'm like, damn, you're on a different level. Superheroes. So now you get engaged and what are you vibrating at? What's the differences between you with your previous relationship to now with the person you're with? I would say that with Clayton, there has always been, from the day I met him, a certainty that he was my person. And I know that that's not the case for everyone. So I'm not saying that that's prescriptive.

33:01But I think he and I had just been holding out for it to feel really, really right and to not ever settle. I think, unfortunately, a lot of people settle. And we both felt that way from the beginning. And then with engagement, it was also not one of those things where I was like, when are we going to get engaged? Like, what's the timeline, And blah, blah. I just knew. There was just this confidence and knowingness in the relationship, I think, on both of our sides. There was never any pressure. We just knew how it would go. We knew we'd get married. And that's how it all worked out. I think that that's attractive, too.

33:34When you have the confidence that you don't, you're not like, where's the ring? When's this? That confidence, I think, to me, is sexy. I'm not touching that topic with a 10-foot pole. Touch it. No, not. Why? Next question. I'm just going to do that. Give your perspective. You're the male in the room. That's why I'm not giving the perspective. Why? Because I don't want to hear about. You can use us as an example. I'm not commenting. What's your perspective? I'm not commenting. Why? Because I already get enough flack as it is. All right. All right. It's also, I'll save Michael here. It is also applicable to dating, I think.

34:07This, again, energetics, vibration. Is there this desperation to your dating patterns where you're like, I have to meet a husband, like the clock is ticking, blah, blah, blah. or are you like where I was when I met him? Confident in who you are, really happy living alone and being solo and being like, God, if I bring somebody into my life, they've got to really add to it because it's good. Okay, no, I will say something. I think subconsciously, nobody wants to feel like you're a person's only option. Yeah. Like, I don't want to date someone and feel like I'm the only option for them. And I think vice versa, you don't want to be with someone where you feel like you're their only option.

34:48Like I think - It's a weird energy. I've been married for a hundred years and I still have options. Don't ever forget it. Hell yeah. My options are going up by the day. Options. My dating profile would be like Lauren Bostick's ex. That's all I would say. They'll be like, are we doing Thanksgiving with Lauren? I'd probably use photos of you. Who cares about you? I'd use photos of you and me. Yeah, I'd use photos of - You'd use a photo of you and me? Yeah, for sure. For sure. You just like put the default so it's just my face? Of course, because you validate me as the guy. They'd be like, if she would have wanted this guy, then maybe there must be something going on.

35:22That's actually insanity. It's not insanity. The girls out there know it's true. All the girls know it's true. You're just some guy holding a fish. That's not good. But if you got - So your Raya profile is going to say Lauren Bostick's ex? Yes. Okay. For sure. Just so we're clear. I got the profile reserved. All right. I don't like sloppy seconds. So whoever gets them, it's fine with me. you never know if it's your sloppy seconds people might say the stock is rising maybe maybe um okay so talk to me a little bit about what you just said about inner confidence and and not attracting people things relationships because i think that's really important um okay so outside of the relationship piece i'm going to talk about it as it pertains to my job because i think that's kind of like another area that i've grown in through this sort of just getting my inner world rearranged confidence in work, in the way that you speak about things, in the way that I feel like now with my work, I only do things that feel really good.

36:21There's like a different level of self-worth, I think, that has increased in all these areas. Dating definitely was one of them where you're like, I don't know. I just I have no choice but to be authentically myself. And so I just feel like it shows up in a different way and people have a different level of attraction to it. There's like a different level of magnetism that I think people that are just super authentically themselves because you're no longer like fighting who you innately are. I think you are so spot on. You know what else I think it is? I think people feel safe with those people because they feel there's a lack of judgment.

37:00Yeah. Like whenever I'm around people that are just themselves with all their quirks and weird things, but also like just them, I feel like those people are much more open to not judging my weird quirks or what's strange about like, you know what I mean? There's a safety to it. Yeah. I think that's why we're attracted to those people because there's nothing worse than feeling like somebody's judging you. They're super stiff, right? And they're like looking at you for perfection. Yes. And you hear it in the way that they talk about other people because none of us are immune to that if they're talking shit or judging other people, then you're probably doing it to me too.

37:35Yeah. It's like a person who's constantly criticizing. It gets tiring. And by the way, it's because they're probably criticizing themselves. Right. Right. When you talk to your girlfriends in New York City and they sit there and they say, oh, easy for you to say, Elizabeth, you found your person in a year. You're pregnant now. There's no guys in New York. You mentioned they say that. How do you coach them? And someone's listening and they're doing that. That's a great question. I mean, I think it is getting really clear on what they want. A list of things is very helpful. Agreed. And not just the perfect smile and the perfect butt.

38:16Like we're talking how does that person actually make you feel? So those kinds of qualities. Obviously, looks are part of it too. And like play around, have fun with it. but getting really really clear and then to your guys point earlier like doing the own work on yourself so that you match that this is not fair if you're just expecting someone to be this perfect specimen but you're kind of like not treating yourself or your body or your life or works and taking yourself seriously um and then i would also say energetically opening yourself up to this kind of stuff really helps um whether that means getting on a dating app even though you've kind kind of not been feeling it or going out with your friends more.

38:55You do have to like, to some degree, kind of be about the town a little bit. Like you got to be moving. You got to be moving. You got to what Lacey Phillips always say says is you have to take aligned action. You can't just make the list and then sit back and go, God, why is nothing happening? Aligned action is important. I think there's a lot of people who want, I call it forever students that want to do the list and listen to the podcast and do all the wellness things, but they don't want to take that action. Yes. No, but as it relates, even to some of my guy friends, they complain about not being able to meet certain kinds of women.

39:29And then like, but the only time they're trying is like, if they're out at a bar or a nightclub, not to say that people shouldn't do that. But I'm like, do you ever go like the woman you're describing is maybe not out at 2 a.m. like at that bar, right? I always say that to my friend. You think your husband is at that club? Yeah. It's like, well, my husband, if I was looking for a husband right now, it's not at a club. I hate to break it up. I will see some of the behaviors that they're doing and some of the like, maybe a boardroom. Things they're describing. And I'm like, does that person exist in these places?

40:00I don't know that this time of night, it's maybe. Absolutely not. Maybe randomly, but. Yeah. I feel like my person would be having a leisurely lunch in a boardroom at a bookstore traveling. I think I would meet my person between the hours of like 12 and 7. I don't think any later. Daylight hours. I feel like my guy would be on a veranda. Maybe he's reading a beat up book. Playing tennis. He's probably journaling. You're my only girl, so I'm not going to describe where my person would be. That's where I would be. I wouldn't be at the club. I will also just add because it's on brand. I met my husband in a Pilates class.

40:41So your husband was doing Pilates. See, that's a good move. Let me tell you about that. Your husband's smart, number one. And number two, a man that does Pilates, zoom in on the camera. Limber guy. No, that's quiet confidence. I like that. No, but think about it. Class of girls. Amazing. By the way, probably strategic also. Yeah, of course. It's very strategic. I mean, think about it. You got some of these guys are running around at 2 a.m. at last call and you got this guy and he's in the Pilates class with all girls. So does he walk up to you in like the sticky socks? Okay. So the craziest part is we had a friend that was like trying to set us up and she put us in the same place at the same time at Casa Cipriani years ago.

41:23And we met, we had like a cute conversation over the table. I said to my friends, I'm going to marry that guy, which like their jaws were on the table. I'm not the kind of person that has literally said that about a man ever. And I went home that night. I couldn't sleep because I was like, like that was just, I just had a weird feeling that Monday morning. That was a Saturday night. My assistant set up a class. I was reviewing workouts at the time for sweats in the city. She set up a random Pilates studio. I'd never been to. I go to the class. It's a six reformer class and he's on the machine next to me.

41:54He was a regular in that class. We still go to the studio now together. What's the pickup line when he's on the reformer? I can't remember because all I can think about is the fact that I wore a purple romper to the class and I was so upset about my outfit. I feel like you would like that though. Purple romper. That sounds kind of hot. He says he was into it. But you know when you just don't, you're not feeling yourself in a class. Yeah. It was one of those days. Okay. That's me every time in a Pilates class. In a purple romper. No, no, meaning not feeling myself. Just looking not flexible and flopping all over the place.

42:26I want to talk to you about, and we're taking a right turn, about business. You left a stable corporate job at Bloomberg to co-found Sweats in the City. How did that happen and how did it get you to here? Because you're doing other things now. I want to hear the business journey. Yes. Okay. So I moved to New York City in 2015 to start a job at Bloomberg after graduating from University of Michigan. And I worked that job for several years. my roommate and I at the time started sweats in the city which was like a um a review platform for boutique fitness studios in New York City which was like really growing at the time um and I remember sitting at my desk at Bloomberg and we got an Estee Lauder partnership this was like partnerships were just starting to come through and it was like a daytime event and my partner at the time Dale and I were emailing back and forth like on the Bloomberg computer which I got in trouble for.

43:25And we had to skip the event because we both had day jobs. And I remember in that moment being like, we have to turn this into our full time gig. Like, I can't keep turning things like this down. It felt like a huge deal. I was like, Estee Lauder wants us to come and pay us to come to do this day. And so fast forward, we started getting organized. We started figuring out partnerships and, you know, working on like our monthly average so we could support ourselves. I had zero financial support from my family or anybody. So I really needed to make it work if we were going to do it. And eventually we got there and we grew it together and she was able to quit her job at the same time.

44:02And so we did it for almost 10 years. Wow. We survived COVID, which was really challenging because we couldn't review workouts. We started a fitness app during that time and sourced all the different instructors from all the studios that we had been reviewing. and then this past summer I was simultaneously doing my podcast that I started in 24 and I felt that same feeling of when I was at Bloomberg and I was like I don't feel aligned with what I'm doing every day anymore I feel like I'm someone who needs to be like I'm all in or I'm all out you know there's like no gray area in career for me and I just started to feel like you know the stuff that I really wanted to talk about, the alternative healing modalities, the chronic pain, like the stuff that I really felt like had happened to me because it was my purpose to be talking about, felt like there wasn't fully a place for it if I was doing both.

44:58And so this past August, I transitioned to doing my podcast and Instagram account full time, the wellness process. And yeah, I mean, it's been an evolution. And I really wouldn't have thought that a girl from a small town in Michigan who could barely afford to live in New York City on my Bloomberg salary could be working for myself, let alone like starting multiple companies. And does Sweats in the City still exist? Yes. So Dale is still running it in L.A. and it's more L.A. focused now. And she's doing like fitness reporting and holding it down. So you guys are both doing what feels harmonious for you.

45:34Exactly. And I think people feel that. Well, what's cool about the previous experience, too, is I think when people get into this business and they're creating things and from the outside, sometimes it looks easy. Yeah. Right? If you've never done it, it's like, oh, it must be nice. It's like take pictures or talk on a mic. But there's a lot of work. And I think that what people quickly realize is it requires a lot of work ethic. So the Bloomberg experience, like I'm sure that was a grind all the time. And so it sets you up to understand, like it's not just, you have the work ethic and the discipline to carry on your own thing and to stay consistent with it.

46:04Where a lot of times people get into this space, not even just this medium. And they're like, oh, there's real work that takes place here. A hundred percent. I'm so grateful for my background. I studied economics. I've always been like a finance girl. I was selling Bloomberg terminals. So it was very financially focused. And then I switched over into ad sales, which then really applied to when I was managing myself with Sweats in the City, because that's basically what you're doing is ad sales. You know, you're selling your own ad space. So it was definitely a grind, not easy, but doable if it's something that you really feel like your purpose is tied in.

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53:16So now I keep it to just things that I purely am enjoying. And I feel like I leave feeling totally refreshed. Lymphatic drainage. By the way, I saw your girl yesterday, Irina. Yes. For the face body. Okay. Oh my God. Yeah. That was crazy. I've tried a hundred lymphatic drainage massages and it was spectacular. Two best lymphatic in Austin is Josie. I love her for the body. And then also Irina does the best face massage. It is like insane. It's a Russian technique. She's special. Yeah. So thank you for that gem. And then things like acupuncture and I mean, honestly, I don't do a ton. I do Pilates.

54:00I do acupuncture every couple of weeks. If there's a great massage, I'll dabble. But I'm not into, we were talking in the beginning about like extensive routines. I'm not an extensive routine girl anymore because I just find that it was becoming stressful. Well, I feel like once you clear out a lot of the stuff in the mind and the subconscious and the way you talk to yourself, like what a lot of people do is they have these huge routines, which are great and fine because they are not addressing a lot of the stuff that they need to address. And so you need those routines to feel good. You need intense.

54:31You need all these things to kind of distract you. But once you deal with that, like, and you're in a good place, then you can kind of just enjoy those things sporadically. You know what I mean? Your baseline raises. And so I feel like you become a lot more resilient to other things. Like I used to be so sensitive. I would get allergies. That's another big TMS thing. Seasonal allergies. Like so many things where I would eat dairy and gluten and my stomach would be so bloated. It doesn't happen anymore. Like I'm pretty, I'm pretty thick skinned now. um i don't know if that's the right word but i just feel like um i'm less fragile and less in need of all these services yeah i mean like even things like and again i know it's important don't touch the phone for an hour in the morning but people talk about like if you do it like oh my god my day's derailed and i can't then i went so i'm like guys if the phone is affecting you that much again like it shouldn't like i could pick up my phone first thing in the morning look at it like yeah it's probably not good i put it down and i go about my day i'm not like oh my god my life is derailed and I don't know what to do for them.

55:29These things should not be this disruptive. Exactly. There was literally people raiding villages and killing your family in past generations. Like we got to be able to look at the phone. Whenever I hear this shit, I'm like, God damn, people got to talk. I don't want to look at my phone. By the way, me either. But you get my point. I'm like, you were like, literally you got a cold in the past and you died in two days. I just don't. I just don't. I don't want to look at it. I understand. I'm not compelled by it in the morning. Honestly, to be honest with you, it's a turnoff. It's like, ugh. It is.

55:59The point is, is that like we got to like get to a place where like not everything is so disruptive to our mental state of being. You know what I do feel like you would like though, just from talking to you? Tell me. Cranial sacral. Love. Okay. Literally did it. You feel like a cranial sacral person. Such a cranial sacral. And actually I just sent my husband a screenshot of a girl that I found in New York who does it for babies. I was just going to tell you that I bet you it's the same person I have a person in New York member that came to see Bond I bet you it's the same person if it's not though I'm going to tell you who it is off air but there's a woman that sees babies and you have to do it I think everyone do what you think for me I did it right when he was born and we've been doing it and it's amazing Great.

56:49It's amazing for tongue ties. It's amazing if they had a traumatic birth, which most births are obviously traumatic. Of course. And there's so many benefits to it. I don't like that you have to do the disclaimer saying, do what works. But my whole thing is sometimes people will give shit to people that you talk about these things that you're doing, what works for you. Oh, yeah, of course. A lot of people just say, like, drink lemon water and exercise. But they're not telling you about the whole thing. Again, you don't have to do it, but I don't feel this disclaimer. or like when people say it's overwhelming, it's too much.

57:18Like you don't have to do any of that, but at least we're going to tell you what it is we're doing. The way that I like to look at it, and I totally get that. And having a wellness podcast myself, it's like I like to provide people with a menu. Here's what's working for me. Here's what's not. Here's some ideas. Take with it what you will. I don't believe wellness should be a copy and paste. I think there was an era of everyone sharing their morning routine and their nighttime routine and all of us beating ourselves up because ours didn't look like that. It needs to be fluid. It needs to be, okay, I like what Lauren was doing there.

57:48I'm going to take it. And it also needs to change with the seasons. This rigidity is actually way worse for us than grabbing your phone in the morning or not having the lemon water. I posted about nicotine the other day, which by the way, for people that are wondering about that, I smoke cigars for years. I take nicotine. He loves a cigarette. Not anymore. It's too much. I drink alcohol regularly. I like the occasional cigarette. We had a bottle of wine last night and we came over here. But my point is, I'm not saying people need to do that. I'm very well aware that there are negative effects if you have too much nicotine, if you have too much alcohol.

58:22Also, we have our friends and Maha friends come on the show. I have no interest in going and sitting at an alcohol-free dinner and talking about peptides with them. None whatsoever. Boring. Going to drink multiple alcohol drinks when I'm out and going to have fun. But the point is, we also, 80 % of the time, are into all of these wellness things. We're into taking care of it. we worked out this morning as well. Like some of these practices and people like, oh, you're a wellness person. It drives me nuts because I'm like, listen, like the reason that I take care of myself and I'm well is so that I can also enjoy vices once in a while.

58:55Like if I can't do that, like for me, you also like there's there's a component of being free and enjoying and having fun and being social that I think is being lost sometimes on the wellness community. 100 % I do not want to go and sit in a sweaty sauna and cold plunge with nine of my bros all the time maybe once in a while but there's other things that I want to do and so like people write in like I can't believe you would talk about nicotine and I'm like if anyone has a good cigar recommendation I will take it I do I think that for us and we are often put in the wellness category we are well 80 % of the time, but you better bet your ass the other 20 % I'm having fun.

59:37I like to have fun. I would drink people under the table. I love it. No problem. I like a shot of tequila. I like to have fun. The point is, is I love listening to people that are deep into wellness because to your point, I'm taking things and elements from what they're doing. It's like, oh, that's a really good idea. Or I'd love to try that. Or yeah, like that's, of course I want to get my sleep under control, like all these things. Yeah. But I'm not beating myself up if I decide to go on vacation with my friends or go out for a night and have a glass of wine with my wife or smoke an occasional cigar.

1:00:07You know, like I don't I don't look at it as a failure. I look at it as like, OK, that's why you take drugs and rock and roll 20 percent of the time. I think that wellness is not black and white and people love to bucket it as such. And I get a lot of flack for that because I get Botox. I take an SSRI things that don't necessarily mesh with Being a little bit more crunchy and the other things that I love It's okay to have a blend You don't have to be married to being one way or the other and you're we are all allowed to pick what works for us You don't have to be anything. I think that's what makes people uncomfortable is uh, i'm blowing up the box I'm lighting it on fire.

1:00:45I'm smashing it and throwing it away. I I want to work with mcdonald's so bad i love mcdonald's and i eat mcdonald's and my manager told me lauren they don't think you eat mcdonald's i love mcdonald's i used to work at mcdonald's employee of the month 2004 delmar location guys i'm learning a lot but no but the point is is i i think that people they i think the majority of people that we all speak to the the majority of viewers listeners on your show on this show, they want to adopt this 80-20. They want to have fun sometimes. They also want to take care of themselves and their family. They want to avoid the things consistently that they know are causing long-term harm.

1:01:30But once in a while, they're going to go out and let it loose a little bit and they don't want to beat themselves up about it. And I think sometimes people that have shows like this that lean too far and are maybe too extreme with something, you can make people feel bad about themselves and you can make them feel like they're not doing enough and that they're not taken care of. And I just don't think that's realistic. So my message to I think the majority of people is enjoy your life. Take care of yourself the majority of the time. Do the things you know you should be doing. Don't go over the rails.

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1:07:37Head to pvolve.com slash skinny and use code skinny for 15 % off site-wide or on class packs at a Pvolve studio near you. And definitely grab this kit, you guys. Because like I said, once it's gone, it's gone. Lauren Bostic for Pvolve. Where are you at now? You obviously are pregnant. What does your life look like today? Tell us about your podcast, where your energy is going today. Okay. So my podcast is called The Wellness Process Podcast. It's on Dear Media. which was one of my big manifestations, as was this conversation. So thank you guys. That's how this happened. Remember? You have to tell them how this happened.

1:08:14Okay. So I did a post at the end of last year, a reel, I think it was, on my Instagram at the wellness process pod. And I was talking about all the things I was showing my mood board versus my reality. And there were so many things. It was like my wedding day. It was my engagement ring. And I was like, going on your podcast was on the mood board. And you commented and you were like let's make it happen that's cool that's so cool i died when i saw that i saw i got served your content like it was on my um for you page and i saw and i watched it and i thought holy shit she has to come on and i had followed you and stuff but it also got served to me that's a wild followed you yes but then it got served that's wild no but we love stuff like that i mean there's like there's a lot of people that we've admired along the way we're same thing we're like we hope one day that we could be featured with them and then it happens it's like like I never want to forget that feeling like I think it's super important to to continue to do that and to bring other people up right like absolutely you have your own incredible platform but like we know firsthand what it's like to like do that same thing with that same process or thought process so go on with where you're at today okay so doing the podcast I do a lot of Instagram content around wellness things.

1:09:34I'm having a baby in the fall, which is definitely going to be my focus at that time. And I will just tease that I'm simultaneously building something that actually I want to talk to you about afterwards, Lauren, because it's a problem that I know you've had. And it solves something that I've talked a lot about. And it's not matcha. It's not matcha. Are you a matcha person? Huge. What's the best matcha? Well, I just left Japan last week, so it's really hard to say because I just got back to New York and everything tastes like trash. And I just had a really bad one at the Santa Monica proper this morning, or the Austin proper.

1:10:09Somebody said the other day that if it's Japanese, it's probably good. Like if you're a novice and you don't really know. General rule of thumb, you want like a single origin from Japan. My sister told me that when she was in Japan, there was a guy on the side of the road making matcha and he was making a marshmallow and stretching the marshmallow to put in the matcha. She said she is fucked for life after going there. How do we get the marshmallow here? I don't know, but she said it's not the same. It messes you up. Big time. Yeah. Okay. So there's no brand. You're constantly comparing to that over there.

1:10:43Yeah. I mean, it's fantastic. It's so vibrant and green and delicious and it just hits me so much better than coffee. Huh. All right. Are you on the train or no? I love Chroma. Okay. Chroma has this matcha powder that I'm obsessed with. And I really like it because, one, I'm an investor, but I invested because I'm such a fan. Yeah. It has protein in it. Khalil at Sun Life Organics does a good matcha. He does do it. I love that guy. He does a good matcha. Because he's fanatical about the sourcing. I think he hiked the mountains in Peru. He was definitely in there. There you go, Khalil. Another free one for you.

1:11:18but chroma has a good one you do two scoops and i think it's like 20 grams of protein with some raw milk oh i love that it's so good because then you're also having like a simultaneous breakfast yeah it's perfect especially pre-workout it's perfect i like much and i can't do coffee i figured out after 12 it's such a bummer wait what do you mean i just can't do it after 12 because she slams like these espresso drinks or something afternoon yeah and she was like 12 sleep. No, don't make me out to be like a coffee psycho. I have two. No, I know. But the timing is too late. And so then she can't sleep and she was wondering why.

1:11:52And I said, it's just too late to consume it. Yeah. If you're sensitive to it. I'll be interested when you start your journal speak if the sleep improves. I'm going to try journal speak. I think the best time for me is before bed. There's more material. Yeah. I would do a first thing in the morning before you interact with me. Really? Get it out of the way. Yeah. Okay. Are you going to do yours first? I do mine. you do you do a journal yeah i do all the time i'll be snooping around your office to find it oh i'm a snoop no see that's messed up right because i would not read your journal i'd feel like you should not do it i feel like your husband knows not to read it you know like i am quite nosy like my husband you really want to see what's like bouncing around in my brain absolutely i don't personally i want to see you gotta get the demons i'll be looking around where's the composition notebook or is it in the black one with the thing that's wrapped around decoy journals that just compliment you and then I have the real one no little snoop never heard a fly you don't do a little snoop you do the whole she's so invasive all my stuff yeah she's like deep in my text I like to take the cadaver lay it on the table and play operations yeah of course no she's like deep in there with like messages for like she's like why are you sending this I'm like what that's from like 2009 what are you doing in there what do you got into my old Facebook messages from when I I was in college.

1:13:09I like to like remind him like who he married and like how on it I am and that I could be juggling a lot. But don't forget I'm an octopus. Options. Yeah. You never know what you're going to get. I know. Well, all right. That's what it takes to be married to me. Elizabeth, where can everyone find you, follow you, support you, watch your pregnancy experience? Where can everyone see, say hi, all the things? Okay, so my podcast is called The Wellness Process Podcast. It's on Dear Media, so you can find it anywhere that podcasts exist. My Instagram is at the wellness process pod or my personal account is at Elizabeth Arrigo, my new name.

1:13:51And I also am on Substack, The Wellness Process, which I have been loving. Everyone's loving Substack. Oh, it is so fun. I go so deep on there. It is such a safe space. I love it. Is it safe just because of like it's curated to the people that are only there for you? You don't get like. Barriers to entry help. I mean, listen, the Internet can only be so safe, but it just feels like a more supportive community because it's more effortful to get there and to read. Love Substack, but I can tell when someone's writing it on AI. I got to call it out. I'm so sick of the chat GPT. It's so obvious. And it's not just the double line dashes because I just use those in general.

1:14:27It's the style. It's the two sentences and then another line down. and it's like, it's painful. There is a rhythm and a stucco that's like cadence. And it's, you can smell it. So - You know how I think about AI and I could be completely wrong about this and somebody will maybe play it in the future. You know, in the early days of Facebook advertising when you would see like Dr. Oz on there and you'd be like, oh my God, it's Dr. Oz talking about a supplement. And it turned out it was not and it was total bullshit and it was like a total fake landing page with like some whatever. Yes. I feel like that's where we're at with AI right now where people are like still confused.

1:15:00like is it AI or not? But I think humans over time will get so good at spotting when it is versus when it's not and that we are going to crave more of when it's not, not more of when it is. Does that make sense? We're getting attuned to it. Yeah. And like you'll start to see like you'll in like you now like I'm noticing running the company. I can tell if someone's doing a chat GPT email to me. I can tell if it's a chat GPT or or Claude response. And so what I think over time we will be so in tune to when it's AI versus when it's human and people are going to crave the human more. It's like the new version of like Facetune.

1:15:35Remember back in the day when we were all just Facetuning the shit out of everything? And then we all got an eye for it and we were like, oh, I can see right through that. Or like FaceApp when everyone was doing FaceApp. Everyone had a new face and new teeth. Or you know now, even when you see like an AI, like you can tell much faster now, even if it's getting better, like the assets are getting better, but you're there's something that we just inherently recognize is not human and i think that maybe i'm wrong maybe someone will play this and like no you're completely wrong it's gonna get so good but i all your friends will be fucking robots in a couple years but even then like when you're fucking a robot you're also aware that you're fucking a robot and you have to really look deep in yourself like you're like it's gonna be hard to you're gonna realize that what you're gonna you're gonna read like i am gonna be aware that i'm doing that behavior oh you're gonna fuck robot i'll probably try it if it's not considered you're gonna try it i'm just kidding i won't i consider that cheating so everyone gets that on film i consider fucking robots cheating i think that okay you know like we have instincts and and animal instincts because we're animals and there's something about and like a knowing energy when you can tell if something is manufactured versus when it's not of course and i think that that is never going to go away elizabeth came on here to share her story and you're talking about fucking robots at the end so sorry about you're talking about it you asked if i would do it and i said well i just gotta make i gotta try things out more like i can't no not experience too much for me conversation with range yeah all right elizabeth thanks for coming on the show definitely come on again after you become a mom i would love that because i think you're gonna have so many tips and tricks and takeaways for the audience 100%.

1:17:16Thank you guys so much for having me. You're welcome. Congratulations.