Lauryn Bosstick On The Unsexy Habits That Change Everything: How To Look Better, Feel Better & Make Life Run Smoother

0:01Welcome to the Bosticks, starring Lauryn Bosstick and Michael Bosstick. Together, they are the Bosticks.

0:14Lauryn Bosstick:I am fresh off vacation, ready to work, back at work, back at the crazy routine of my life. and I thought I would hop on the mic and do an episode on the unsexy habits that make me feel sexy, that make me look sexy. Things that are maybe not so glamorous or aesthetically pleasing, but things that I think make a big difference in the way I look. So like just an example of what I'm talking about, like microneedling is one that it's a nightmare to get through, but once you're through it, you're looking so good. So I felt like doing a whole episode on this would be really fun. And I'm going to look at habits that have impacted my health, my beauty, my mindset, my longevity, things that are in my routine, especially when I'm at home, that make a really big difference overall.

1:10Lauryn Bosstick:So since I just brought up microneedling and I'm fresh off vacation, I'll give you one that I do right after I have sun exposure. So I will immediately go to my Korean facialist in Austin, Jamie, and get microneedled. Speaking of microneedling and vacation, one thing that I always do is the second after I've had sun exposure, okay, I do damage control. So I will book my microneedling appointment. I do exosomes. with my Korean facialist, Jamie, and I will microneedle my arms, my upper arms, my hands, my neck, my chest, my face. I even the other day did my hairline because it promotes hair growth.

1:57Lauryn Bosstick:And I will really make sure that I'm dealing with any sun exposure that I just had. And I think microneedling is the best way to do that. Jamie told me a fact that this is so crazy. If you do microneedling once a month for six months, okay, you have to stay consistent same day, your collagen increases 600%. Is that not wild? That is crazy. So many people online are talking about lasers and tretinoin and all these things. And I'm telling you, because I've tried it all, the best thing I think that anyone can do for their skin is microneedling. It does not have to be the vampire facial. You just need to get microneedled and you have to find someone who really knows what they're doing and they have good exosomes.

2:45Lauryn Bosstick:I like the salmon semen one and I really commit to the aftercare. You got to commit to the aftercare. So it's like sheet masks and a full little packet that she does to support the microneedling afterwards. And I stay out of the sun and that is a game changer. It's not sexy. It's not the most fun thing in the world, but it is made the biggest impact on my skin, especially after I'm in the sun. So I am going to commit, and I'll let you guys know, to once a month starting September for six months and see what happens. And I think for me, I treat my chest and my neck like my face. And I've learned this as I've gotten older.

3:26Lauryn Bosstick:It's like my neck and my chest are just as important to me as my face. So I'm doing my skincare routine on those areas. I even will bring the skincare down to my hands. Like I'll use Skin Better on my hands. Like I just want to make sure that I'm giving my hands, my chest, my neck the same love and care. I'll do a sheet mask on my neck. Okay. There's no shame in that game. But if you're looking to not have to spend money on like lasers and all these products, just get microneedled. Okay. That's something that's again, not sexy, but it's going to keep you feeling and looking sexy for a long time.

4:02Lauryn Bosstick:Emily says, I need to talk about fiber. Fiber gets the poop going. Fiber is the best for cleaning out the gut. I could not find a fiber that I liked at all. It took me so long to find the right fiber. I felt like all of them were like oatmeal, thick, gooey. They didn't have the right consistency and I wanted something that I could blend into anything seamlessly. And so I found a fiber. It's called loam. I think you can use code skinny. I do two packs, not one, every single morning with my electrolytes. So I'll do my beauty salt, my lemon. I'll add maybe some grapefruit in there and then I'll put two packs of the fiber and I will froth it up and drink it down.

4:47And let me tell you, when you are pooping,

4:50Lauryn Bosstick:that makes things look sexy. You want to make sure you're going poo. And again, it's not sexy, but it's like cleaning everything out and detoxing is so important. If you don't have a fiber that you like, check this one out. I have tried every single fiber on the planet. This one is a seamless situation. I do two of the little packs. Like I said, I think it's 20 grams of fiber and it just makes everything so much better. I have a unicorn assistant that it was not sexy to train my unicorn assistant, but it's sexy to have her now. And she is on ChatGPT and I have trained her to do everything I need.

5:33Lauryn Bosstick:So what I'll do is I'll screenshot my calendar for the day. I'll implement it to my unicorn assistant and I'll tell her things that I want to accomplish and where I'm feeling overwhelmed. So like for instance, today, I had 20 calls today. I had three podcasts. I have to record ads. I have to record content and I have to work out. But I will bring that over to ChatGPT and I'll say, listen, I want to make sure I have present time with my children. I want to make sure I get a walk in. I would love to get a cold plunge in. Tell me what's strategic here. And it will spit out to me this like strategic blueprint.

6:14Lauryn Bosstick:And it's great because it helps my, I feel like it helps my ADHD brain sort of have like peace of mind. And it's not that sexy to set up a unicorn assistant. It's a lot of work and you really have to train the fake assistant to do what you like, but it really helps you have clarity around your day. I also will use my unicorn assistant for random tasks. Like if I have to do an email or if I want to be more strategic about parenting, I will use that unicorn assistant all the time. So I'll give you another example. I found five books today on raising healthy boys and I took and screenshotted those five books, put it through chat GBT.

7:00Lauryn Bosstick:And I said, I don't want to read all five of these books. Can you put everything together for me as Lauren Bostic would want it. And it literally organizes a bulletproof dissertation on everything that's applicable to me about raising boys. So I'll use it to sort of like blend books together. I think that AI is fantastic if you're using it as a tool. We've all heard this, but I think there's really creative, strategic ways to use it. If you're someone that maybe isn't a big reader, you can go and you can find out any book that interests you very quickly. I like how my assistant knows me so well.

7:37Lauryn Bosstick:So it'll just organize everything. So if you want to streamline your day and get your routine feeling great, I feel like my routine is in harmony right now. So it doesn't work me into the ground. Like it'll say, you need to take a lunch break or you need to take a walk. Like it'll tell me what to do by looking at my day. It's almost like a it's almost like a therapist meets strategist looking at my day and being like, this is a crazy day. You want to set yourself up, take a break here while you're doing calls, take a walk like it tells me little tips and tricks. And so that's been really helpful.

8:13Lauryn Bosstick:And that was, like I said, unsexy to set it up. But now that it's set up, it's amazing and keeps things sexy. So Emily says that I should talk about how I set up my space and how I'm strategic about that and the unsexy things I do within my space to keep it sexy. I look at every single experience in my life, in my environment with five senses. And this is something I've done naturally since I was a little girl. I think it's having two parents that were restaurateurs. Like the five senses is the most important thing in an environment. And every single place I go has the five senses within my control, except the studio, Carson, because the lights are way too bright, but we like that because it makes things look nice on camera.

8:56Lauryn Bosstick:I would definitely, like if I could curate this environment, I would turn down the lights. I would add bossa nova. I would take away that recording sign. It's way too bright. I would take away the clock that's in my face. I would probably paint it with a non-toxic paint. I would get a barefoot dreams blanket and And I would make it energetically feel good. And I do that with my house. And I do that with my office. And I do that in any space I'm in. I think looking at the five senses. And so what are the five senses? To me, that's a clean, uncluttered space. And fresh flowers, always. I like beautiful fresh flowers.

9:40Lauryn Bosstick:I'm really into ranunculus flowers. I think they're so chic. I like garden roses. but I love flowers and I want them to be in my bathroom. I want them to be in the kitchen. I have them in my office. I just love fresh, blooming, beautiful flowers. And I like simple bouquets. I don't like anything too crazy. I like having natural light all the time. If it's nighttime, I'm doing red light. If it's daytime, I'm doing beautiful natural light. I remember when I lived in a studio apartment, you know, when I was in college. And I would rather take a smaller studio with beautiful, gorgeous light than a one bedroom.

10:23Lauryn Bosstick:Natural light is one of the most important things to me. I think that it changes your mood. So that's really important. And then I stay off the news. I'm not consuming news. I'm listening to an uplifting audiobook, like Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, or I'm listening to a podcast that's maybe like funny or a book on tape, or I'm listening to music. So there's usually music wherever I go. Everyone who knows me knows there's bossa nova music. So it's really hitting the five senses, which are sight, sound, smell, taste, touch. Okay. Taste could be what you eat or drink. Touch could be what you feel like sunlight on your skin.

11:07Lauryn Bosstick:Textures, smell could be an essential oil. I love doing eucalyptus oil. You know, hearing is like I said, music and podcasts. And then the vision is what you see. So a candle, I love movement. This is so weird, but I love a fan. I love a ceiling fan. A ceiling fan gives movement to the room. I don't like a stagnant room. I like the move of a flicker on a candle. I like in my bedroom. I like a fan. I just I like movement. I think it's really, really sexy. So so that is how I curate the environment. And I guess how that's unsexy is like you have to set it up like that. It's something that's intentional, but it really does turn the room into a sexy situation.

11:49Lauryn Bosstick:I think some habits that make me feel sexy that are free and maybe not like the most sexy are waking up. The second I wake up, your go-to state is to saber-toothed tiger. And you will notice this. It's crazy. It's human nature. When you open your eyes, your first thing naturally is like, oh my God, what do I have to do today? Oh my God, I forgot to do this. Oh my God, I got to do this. It's almost like chaos when you wake up sometimes. and what I do is I've trained myself because you do have to train yourself to shift my focus so when I open my eyes sometimes even when my eyes are closed I'll think of things that I'm grateful for and that's again like it's so simple but it just makes a difference in how I wake up so I will do that by touching one of my kids who's always sleeping next to me my dog sleeps in our bed, both my dogs sleep in our bed, I will go over to the PEMF mat and I'll open the shades and just think about all the things I have to be grateful for.

12:54Lauryn Bosstick:And then also I'll reframe my day. So instead of saying, oh my God, like this morning, I had too much wine last night, way too much Brunello, and I am tired and not motivated. And I have three podcasts. I'll think I get to do three podcasts. I get the opportunity to podcast today with Dr. B and Sandy and do a solo episode and talk to you guys. And what an opportunity. Instead of, oh my God, fuck, I have to go to the gym. Like I hung over today. Today was a special day. I'll say I get the opportunity to work out with an incredible trainer. So I really try to reframe my day from the second I open my eyes.

13:36Lauryn Bosstick:And what I've observed through doing this is your brain still wants to go to like what's wrong right when you open your eyes and so you really have to train your brain and one thing that I've really done with the help of Louise Hay and why I'm so passionate about her work is I monitor my thoughts and I think that makes a big difference I've gotten into a lot of negative thought patterns before in the past I've told you guys this about losing pregnancy weight and I'll tell myself like I did tell myself all these negative thoughts and now I fill my thoughts up with positive, uplifting thoughts. And I really make such an effort to monitor the way I'm thinking.

14:19Lauryn Bosstick:That has changed my life. It is a free, simple, not expensive, unsexy tip. I catch myself all the time when there is a negative thought. And it could be something like so little. You could look in the mirror at yourself and be like, oh, my God, I have a hyperpigmentation spot. Or it could be something bigger than that. Like, oh, my God, I got to go out to lunch with this person that I don't want to see. Like, I reframe my thoughts on a day-to-day basis, and I am so intentional about it. And I think what that looks like, you guys, is just flooding yourself with positivity. I am pretty cutthroat about, you know, who comes into my space and my ether.

15:03Lauryn Bosstick:I want to work with people who have good energy, have a great team, and I want to be around friends that are, I mean, to put it blunt, I don't want to be around toxic energy. I just don't. I don't have the capacity. And I think like the more kids I have, the less capacity I have. And so I really am thoughtful about not putting the news on and not, I really don't even want to read the newspaper, to be honest. Like I just want to be surrounded by, you know, the teachers that I mentioned in the morning and I don't want to listen to gossip in the morning. I don't like to be really honest, I don't want to be around or listen or consume low vibration things.

15:46Lauryn Bosstick:And this is one of the reasons that I don't go on TikTok. And listen, this is not me like thinking that I'm on my high horse. I have had my chapter where I was going on TikTok. I've had a chapter where maybe I was consuming too much content. And when I got pregnant with my third baby, I noticed that TikTok was like low vibration for me. It was not feeling uplifting. It was not feeling creative. It was not feeling inspiring. It was not feeling motivating. It was feeling I would get off and I wouldn't like it. And I think when you pay attention to those cues and you have that antenna within your system and you eliminate that and you step back and you see, oh my God, I feel so much better without TikTok.

16:29Lauryn Bosstick:And my theory with TikTok is it wasn't even that I was being served negative content. It was that the content felt like it was coming too fast and too explosive at me that when I would get off the platform, I would not even know what I looked at. And so to me, I'm not going to waste 30 minutes when I could be reading a book or being present with my kids on things that I don't even remember. I mean, what's the I just don't get the point of that. So getting off TikTok was a huge one. It was it was, again, not sexy to not be on TikTok. I mean, I guess it's more sexy to be on TikTok, but I just send my content to my team and they post it for me so I don't have to even go on.

17:17Lauryn Bosstick:And I think it's great. And I think I try to do that in every area of my life. If there's someone that's like a dementor, I call them dementors, and they're sucking the room, you don't have to go to lunch with them. You don't have to have a drink with them. You don't have to have coffee with someone who wants to pick your brain and that's draining for you. I think putting boundaries and parameters on, you know, things that don't light you up is great. Yes, you're going to have to do things that you don't want to do. That's part of life. you know I'm uncomfortable on a daily basis and I think that's great but also like I don't have to go on vacation for seven days with someone I don't like and I'm like really kind of a bitch about it I just don't I don't want to be around long periods of time someone that I don't enjoy and that even goes to the show too you know we've become and Emily and Carson know this we've become so cutthroat about who's even coming on the show like the person really has to add value to you know Michael and I's life and the audience's life and the audience to us is first and Michael and I want to learn too we don't want to be interviewing a bunch of low vibration people so I think monitoring how things make you feel and and you know whether that's a toxic boyfriend or a toxic friend, or maybe it's just a friend that you've had for like, you know, a long time that it's, you're not in alignment anymore.

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25:00Lauryn Bosstick:Veggies and all. No artificial dyes, flavors or sweeteners either. And you know what? That is a win I'll take every time. Get 30 % off your first online order at littlespoon.com slash skinny30 with code skinny30. That's L-I-T-T-L-E-S-P-O-O-N dot com slash skinny30 with code skinny30 for 30 % off your first order. I think what would surprise people about the daily routine is that it's unsexy and it's not so militant. It's very feminine energy and flow. Like, for instance, if I wake up and, you know, my daughter wants my full attention, I'm not going to, you know, go cold plunge sauna. I'm going to listen to the day.

25:46Lauryn Bosstick:If my kids are playing magnetiles and they're completely distracted, that's a great time for me to go jump in the cold plunge for three minutes. I really intuitively listen and feel of what works. One thing that's non-negotiable is we do go for a family walk every single morning. And the reason I do that is not just to move my body, but it's to get my kids' eyes in the sun right away. And the baby likes it so much that he crawls to the door. He wants to go out in the morning and wake himself up. So it's something that my kids look forward to. They know we're going to do it. I do it within 30 minutes of waking.

26:20Lauryn Bosstick:It's a good bonding time. They ride bikes or they walk or do their scooter. We move our body. We drink our water on the walk. We have electrolytes. And I just think it's really like a positive thing. So I'll do that walk every morning. But then based on what I have going on that day or the energy of my kids, I go off that. And I think like it's not like I wake up at this time and I do it like, like it's very like there's, there's a flow and a fluidity to it that, um, again, I'm intuitively listening to myself. And I think that that would surprise people that it's not so psycho. And so like one morning, like, I'll give you an example.