Paris Hilton: The Truth Behind The Persona — Fame, Trauma, & Reclaiming Her Story

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29:37I don't want to give them an iPhone or a phone or anything for a very long time. I just feel like I can't imagine being like 13 years old and having social media and just like all the pressures and then all these weird people who can try to contact them. And like, it's just so dangerous in so many ways and so toxic. so I just want to like make my daughter feel as confident and like I don't know just like not care about those type of things I don't know it comes out get very addictive as well I think yeah let's give them a razor like the phone remember like a razor or Nokia I just released my Motorola Paris Hilton razor it's pink and it's iconic that's what we should give them because then they can't go on social media.

30:32But it goes on social media. Oh, it goes on social media. I feel like this... A Nokia with Snake on it. Like Gen Z probably got it the worst because none of the parents really knew what these platforms were, right? Even for us, like we were like the last generation to kind of grow up without these things and we kind of learned along the way. But if you became a parent in the last, call it decade, there was nobody that's like put their kids through social before. So they had to, it was like they were the experiment generation. So true. And I think now in a weird way, we're better armed, but also the internet's become more and more creepy.

31:05Yeah, it is scary out there. Just like seeing some of these stories and like. What are you doing your advocacy work with? You were mentioning off air with AI, with creepy people. Well, I've just realized so much, just the power and using my voice to make a difference, you know just really making it to protect others from things that have happened to me in life and like as a little girl I've never imagined I'd be standing on the you know steps of Capitol Hill and testifying in Congress and now passed two federal bills and 20 state laws to protect children and now I'm going to be going next week because you know right now with AI and deep fakes and everything that's happening.

31:56It's just the technology is moving so fast and the laws have not caught up with it yet. So my team and I have been talking with legislators, senators, and working with other advocates on this legislation, which is going to basically make it so that these type of things are illegal because there's so many explicit videos being made and deep fakes of underage children, of celebrities, of women, and people all around the world. and there's nothing to protect anyone. So this will basically make it so that the platforms and the people who are profiting off of this, there's going to be repercussions for this, make it illegal.

32:35Almost like everything you've been through has set you up to do this. Because who knows what you've been through with the media being so toxic, you're the perfect person to step up and be the voice for this. Thank you. That's why I like to think about it, that maybe everything in life happens for a reason. And God gave me a special gift. So one day I could use it to make a difference for others. What's your red flags? I think just from going through so much of my life, I've just like, I have a sense where I could just feel it. Like an antenna. Yeah. Like I could just like, I could, I don't know, like a red flag, like barometer or something, or I could just like even look in someone's eyes and like tell like what type of person they are.

33:20And just like lying to me is like, I can tell right away. And I hate that more than anything. And like when I can't trust someone, it's just like so hard for me to be around them ever because I've just had so many people do bad things to me in my life that now it's just like has made me just see it all before it happens. That's what seems like is so strong about your marriage. It seems like you really trust each other. Yeah. When you met Carter, did you know that he was the one right away? I knew there was something really special about him. It was Thanksgiving day and I just walked into my mom's friend's house for lunch on Thanksgiving and he was sitting there with this huge smile on his face and with his mom and he was so sweet.

34:09And right away, I just thought he is so like just nice and different and I loved watching him with his mom and I'm so happy that I met him that day because my life has changed so much ever since and he's the first one that like really like tore those walls down that I had surrounding my heart and he's lifted me up in so many ways that no one ever has and supports me he's like my biggest cheerleader he's like Oh, he is everything. If I ever talk to Carter, we have to first talk for about three minutes about how much he loves you and how great you are, which is amazing. But that's... You could take note though, Michael.

34:47I got to get there. I'm like, hey, Carter, I have an idea about this deal. And he's like, let me tell you about Paris and how amazing he is. I'm like, okay, we'll get through this for a minute, but for sure. It's very sweet like that. He's the best. He's setting the bar too high for the rest of us. I'm like, tone it down. He does seem like a really good husband. Yeah. And he's a good person. He's a good person. He is a good person. He has amazing family values and he's just the best. I'm so lucky. How do you guys work together with everything you're doing? Well, he, we don't like work, work together.

35:16Work, you mean business wise? Yeah. He always jokes that he's my unpaid intern who gets paid in kisses and hugs. But he's incredible. Just like, he's so smart and just one of the most brilliant and most hardworking people I've ever met. and he has just been amazing just to learn so much about investing and he really helps with my team as well, just helping lead so much of it. And of course he runs his investment, M13, but he helps me so much, which is so amazing. So I feel lucky to have someone who wants the best for me because a lot of men would get jealous and emasculated being with a powerful, successful woman And he's not like that at all.

36:04He just wants me to be as successful as possible. And he really just makes me feel safe enough where I can just go for my dreams and really the sky is the limit. There's so many powerful women that have come on the show that say that it's so hard to find a man that doesn't want to just push them back in the jack-in-the-box. they just want to they they make fun of them to make themselves feel better yeah and try to control yeah and it's the the hottest guys are quietly confident i'm sitting in a giant pink room when i think like just saying you're quietly confident no but i think it's for a lot of guys especially if you grew up in a more traditional household it's maybe a mindfuck for some of them to be like hey maybe i'm not the main breadwinner or i'm not the main draw or like somebody else has a bigger career than me.

36:57So I think it requires a certain shifting of mindset. Maybe if you grew up in a household where that wasn't the case, you know what I mean? A lot of guys have, I think, a rough time dealing with that. Do you ever clock when someone realizes that they've misjudged you? Can you see it in their eyes? Yeah. Because being in this industry for so long, I've spent most of my life being underestimated. One of my favorite things is to prove people wrong. So yeah, that's happened a lot of times in my life. Do you feel now, I could imagine that you've proved everyone wrong? Yes. Like you feel like you checked the box?

37:37100%. Is there more that you want to do on your list to prove people wrong or do you feel like you've done it? I've done that part. So now everything I do is... Frinkles? Yeah. It's just like, I love everything I do. And everything I do now is for my fans, for my kids to be proud of me and for me to be proud of myself. You know, one thing that's also extremely fascinating about you is the longevity that you've had. Like you've had a long, still very relevant career. If you were coaching the next generation or someone who kind of wants to follow in your footsteps, what do you think some of the things that you've done in order to stay relevant, and build such a big career, like continue to grow?

38:20Like what are the, how do you think about that? Well, definitely it's about working hard, about surrounding yourself with the right team of people that you can trust and who are capable and people who want to lift you up and not try to pull you down because that can happen as well. And it's also about being authentic, being vulnerable. There's such a power in being vulnerable and real. And I think people want more and more of that and do finding what your passion is, what you love to do and try to make that what you do for a living. What mistakes do you see younger people making when they're trying to build a career in this lane or this fashion?

39:06Definitely hooking up with the wrong teams. I think there's a lot of con artists in this business with products. I think it's so important to like see where things are made, you know, what like you just need to like know where everything is coming from. You need to know to trust everyone on your team because a lot of times I've seen people where they, you know, they've made such a career and then they have a business manager who's been stealing all the money in the background. So you need to be just on top of everything because it can all just come crashing down if you are not aware of everything that's happening around you.

39:41or people just who surround themselves with negative energy or who are just not good people or if they just let things get to their head and they just become not a good person. I think being kind is one of the most important things as well. And I've always led with kindness. You have always led with kindness with your fans too. To see you interact with the fans, it's a very different strategy because some people, as you know, will put themselves on a pedestal. You, I feel like you really like connect. Has that just been something that you've done naturally always? Always naturally. It's never a strategy.

40:23Like my fans, I really consider them like my family, like my brothers and sisters all around the world. I love them so much. And especially, you know, being in this industry and feeling so alone. So many of the times I I used to travel over 250 days out of the year for two decades. And mostly I would just be alone or with like a tour manager. And I would meet up with my fans all around the world. And they have just been there with me through everything and always just have loved me unconditionally. And we've all grown up with each other because I've been around for so long. So all of us have grown up with each other for so long.

41:02And it's amazing just to have fans that are like that. and they call themselves my little Hiltons. And I just, I love and adore them so much. And I love making fun experiences for them. And anytime I go to another country, I'll always have them come meet up or like I'll get them a hotel or I've had them stay at my house, like in Ibiza. A lot of my friends are like, are you crazy? Like, why do you, are you so close with your fans? I was like, because I love them. And I, back then I used to trust them more than I trusted most people in my life. one of I think Ariel or Mimi was telling me off air that you have like given cars and like crazy giveaways to the fans too.

41:44Last year, this woman named Viviana, she her car burned and I saw this TikTok video and the only thing that survived was her pink Paris Hilton Tumblr that she had bought at Walmart. She made great, great, great products. Yeah. So that was the only thing it did not burn. great product but I just was so touched by her story I went and surprised her in Texas and brought her a car and she was so sweet so kind so lovely we still talk now on social media I love her so much and being able to do something like that for someone just I love just making people happy and bringing sparkle to people's lives and it's fun to do those types of like surprises for people You'd probably freak out.

42:33That's really cool. Just like, I really see fame as like a superpower where you can just, just by showing up, saying hello, taking a photo, anything just to bring so much happiness and just mean the world to someone. And that's something that I love to do all the time. It's one of my favorite things. What are the, a lot of people wonder about this and obviously like aspire to get to the level that you've gone to. What are some of the things that you would caution people against when it comes to fame? I guess, what are some of the things that you have to navigate that people just maybe don't think about?

43:04The night before The Simple Life aired, my mom said, when this airs on television tomorrow, your life is going to change forever. And I just want you to never forget the sweet, down-to-earth girl that you are and never let this get to your head. And that's something that I always really kept close to my heart. And I've never changed, never let it get to my head no matter what. And I've been in this business a long time. I've seen so many people come and go because they end up like feeling like they're better than other people and they just completely change and forget who they are and where they came from.

43:36And I think that is an important piece of advice just to not become like that because they also know like you never know when the rug can just be pulled from under their feet and everything's taken away. And then they've lost even their real friends just by the way they treat people. and another piece of advice would be be careful because there's going to be so many people you don't know their intentions if they really like you for you or they're just using you to you know be around or be able to go to the events or go on the trips or use you so i think those are important things and lessons that i've learned right you have to be so much more thoughtful about that because you can't really tell if the intention is to truly just be your friend and get to know you or if they're looking for something from you.

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51:59I mean, that's crazy for how long you've been in this business to still do that. I've always been that way. Even when I do like a book signing or a perfume signing and they'll say, okay, Paris, this is like two hours. And then it will be like maybe five, six, seven hours. Like the mall will be closing and they'll be like, Paris, we need to leave. I was like, no, I need to take a picture of every single person. And I don't like, I see a lot of people, they do the signings and they just sign and don't even take a photo like I will sometimes spend like 20 minutes with a person and just they're talking to me giving me letters like I literally cry just like hearing the stories from people and just them telling me like you shaped who I am today and just how meaningful I've been in their lives and like I am very I have such empathy for people as well and I'm so sensitive to other people's feelings where I literally care about other people's feelings more than myself.

52:56So that's something that's so important to me. And I always tell my team, I always tell my security, like never push anyone away. Don't ever tell anyone no. Like I just would feel so guilty. And I would think about it, even if they're like the mall's closing, but we can't do it anymore. I will then feel so sad the rest of the night being like, oh my God, those people were waiting and I'll just feel so sad for them. But then I'll meet them outside the mall. What like your mother came on and told a story about how you and your sister will literally stay at appearances like the way you're describing.

53:26What other lessons did you, and you've mentioned it to your mother a few times, did you take from her growing up? Because it sounds like she gave you and gives you a lot of great advice. Do you have the tiny pillow that she has? Which one? Those tiny pillows, the port halt pillows. Yes, of course. I bought three because of her. They're so cute. I love them. My mom is the best. And my mom has ADHD too. She's an ADHD queen. Your mom is one of the funnier people we've ever met. She's so funny. She's just so funny. She has such a big heart. She's so caring. She is an amazing mother. I love how she makes every holiday so special.

54:07She makes me laugh like no other. She's so much fun to prank call people with. She's the life of the party, lights up every room when she walks in. She tried to prank call Howard Stern live on our show. She did. Yeah. I was like, I don't know if this is going to go over well. I'd be scared to prank on him. Yeah, she wasn't. So when you were a kid, was she pushing you to kind of chase after the life that you now lead? Or was it like kind of do what you, what was? No, she was, did not want me to be like moving to New York. Every model agency was reaching out. They all wanted to work, do the runway shows, fashion, magazines, everything.

54:51and my mom just say, no, like you need to go to school. Like she just didn't want me to be like, I don't know, in that world, like modeling any of that. Do you want it for your daughter? I want her to be able to do whatever she wants in life. I'm hoping that she'll follow in my footsteps of being like an entrepreneur, business woman. Yeah, it is like a scary world out there too, even with the modeling world and all of that, because just some of these creepy guys are around And I just don't want my daughter to ever be like exposed to any of those types of people. Yeah. When my daughter turns 12 or 13, we're going to become Amish.

55:28And we're going to just live to the middle of the country. When you have a daughter, you start to understand your parents more. Totally. Yeah. You start to understand where they're coming from. 100%. Well, and I think being close to this world, a lot of people that are not in it, you glamorize it because you see a lot of the things, right? You see the carpets, you see the parties, you see a lot of the stuff. but you don't see a lot of the dark stuff that comes with it. And I, you know, there is a lot that come anytime you have a platform and people feel like they can utilize that platform or use it to their benefit.

56:01It's just like, you know, people can be dangerous. And so I think like with our child, we have to have like a lot of big conversations. Why did you decide to open up about what happened at Provo? Was that something that you had wanted to open up a long time or was it something that you just decided one day, I'm just going to let it out. After going through that, I was so traumatized that I made a promise to myself when I get out of here, I'm never going to talk about this, not tell anyone, pretend it didn't happen. Like I didn't even tell my parents, my sister, my best friends, like no one. And it wasn't until my documentary, This Is Paris, where probably like six months into filming, we were in South Korea.

56:53I was launching one of my lines out there. I forgot it was like a fragrance. I was having severe nightmares, which I had had every single night since being in there. And I kind of like went into it a little with her and I was like, but don't film this and don't put this in the documentary. Like, I don't want this being part of my story. And then she was like, Or then the next day she came to me with all this research and showed me that it had now boomed into this$28 billion a year industry. And there was thousands of these schools and hundreds of thousands of children were being sent to these places.

57:30And hundreds of kids were dying and they were being sexually abused and just the most horrific stories. I had no idea it was still happening. and I just knew that she basically said to me Paris like I think by you telling your story it could really help a lot of other kids and I was so scared and nervous because I had never spoken it out loud to anyone before and I started telling her the story you know for that documentary that wasn't even the original premise of the film it wasn't even supposed to be about that at all it all just really happened because I felt close to her and like I could trust her But I'm so grateful that I did tell that story because it's really changed my life in so many ways and has been so healing for me.

58:17And it was so painful to go through. But the fact now that I've told my story and now it's illegal for the things that happened to myself to happen to kids today has been the most meaningful work of my life. when you opened up about that did you have so many people reaching out that were thanking you because they had maybe been through a similar experience yes all the time like right away when it was about to air I was so so scared and nervous because I had no idea how the world was going to react you know because they had known me for so long as this character like this blonde bubbly you know thing person they thought that had like this perfect life and they had no idea what had happened.

59:01So I didn't know what people would say or think, but right away, just thousands of people writing me letters, reaching out to me, coming up to me on the street, saying, thank you so much for telling your story. I went the same thing and nobody ever believed me. And what you've done has really saved my life and healed me and my family. And then so many families coming up to me. And even yesterday I was just doing this interview and the writer told me that he was about to send his daughter to one of these schools, but then he saw me speaking in Congress and then he decided not to. And he's like, you saved my daughter from going through, you know, probably torture and severe trauma.

59:45And then just so many people all the time, just thanking me and just saying I've really healed them. So it's just been incredible just to see the power in being vulnerable and real and really turning the pain into a huge purpose and impacting millions of children's lives. Why do parents think they need to send their kids to these places in the first place? What are parents under the assumption that these places do? Maybe if a parent's thinking about needing to do this for their kid. It depends. For me, moving to New York and then my life being just completely changed from Los Angeles, a sheltered life, moving to New York.

1:00:24All of a sudden, I'm being invited to every party, every nightclub, going out all the time, ditching school. So my parents hired this educational consultant and they referred to the school and they said it's an emotional growth boarding school. They show brochures and it's kids smiling with rainbows, riding horses, and it looks like this very happy place. And these people who referred the children there are all getting commission and they get paid for each kid that's being sent to these places. That's disgusting. So that happens a lot. And a lot of kids in there, they only had ADHD. They couldn't focus in class.

1:01:03None of these kids deserve to be in a place like this. So a lot of the kids there were just kids who were just misunderstood. Parents are under the assumption, like this place is this great place that'll change and like discipline them and give them structure. It almost makes it more fucked up though, because it's like, I could imagine as, as a child, it's hard to even then blame the parent because the parent thinks that they're doing something good. Oh yeah. The parents are just as much victims in the situation because they're manipulating both sides and they're saying to the parents, kind of priming them because they are abusing the kids.

1:01:36But then they say to the parents, like, by the way, they're all the kids in here, they lie and they're manipulators and they're going to say that we're abusing them. but it's not really happening. So in advance, they say, okay, you're going to get a call and it's going to sound really bad, but that's part of the process. But they won't even let you do the call. Like when you're sitting there, if you even say one word, you have someone sitting next to you and they immediately slammed on the phone and then you either get like beaten, thrown in a room, locked away. And then they say, you can't talk to your parents for six months.

1:02:05So what happened to all these people? Like, are there consequences for them or? now people are finally being believed and the stories are coming out but for so long these kids were not believed because they're just called troubled kids so it's like the perfect situation for an abuser to get away with and they instill such shame in the children that they're like myself you're so ashamed by the time you get out of there you don't even want to tell anyone because you're like embarrassed for like what they've done to you you know the shame should be on these people and that's another powerful message that I want to spread to people that it should not be that you hold on to that shame.

1:02:41The people who should be ashamed are the ones that hurt you. And my parents and I have just, I'm so grateful that my parents have been so supportive of me. My mom's been coming up to me to DC, also to speak to the other parents, because some of these, it has ruined so many lives of children. And a lot of these kids, when they get out of these places, committed suicide and they can't even move on in life because they've just been so broken down by these places and these schools. And in the laws that I've passed to protect children, we've made it as one of the parts of it that they're not allowed to do calls where someone is sitting there.

1:03:18Like the kids can have an unsupervised call with their parent without someone there who's going to punish them right away, which is something that's so important for people to be able to explain when they're being abused in these places. And Provo's closed, right? No. What? No, it's still open. Whoa. Even after the documentary. Yeah. And thousands and thousands of people report so much abuse at that school. I don't know how it's still open. 60 % of these places have shut down because of this work, which is incredible. But more keep popping up because it's such an unregulated business and anybody can just open a school or a wilderness camp and do this.

1:03:57It's really, really terrifying. And it's not only happening in the U.S. It's happening all over the world. Thank God you came out with the story. As you have told your story and discussed it more, have the nightmare stopped for you? Yeah. That's interesting. Amazing. It was like just getting it out there and off your chest. Yeah. Wow. Which I never thought I would ever, ever not have a nightmare. It was every single night since I was 16 years old. and then two years ago I just went to Jamaica and they had these eight boys that they were locking in dog cages burning cigarettes throwing bleach on them starving them it was the most horrific situation I went there and helped save those boys so how does that get on your radar now and how do you choose you know what to focus on and how and where to help well when I started my media company.

1:04:53We have the second hire of the company was Rebecca, who's my head of impact. And I have 1111 Impact, which is all of my advocacy work that I do. And we have a whole network of people and we work with other survivors. So people are constantly reaching out to us, parents, children, ex-employees who have left these places. And just every day, people are coming with stories and then I go and shine my big spotlight on them and show people if you're going to abuse children I am going to expose you and there will be repressions. That must be very liberating. Yes I messed with the wrong girl. I love it.

1:05:36Underestimated. Yes I have just a random question that's a total tangent. What is a hungry tiger? Hungry tiger is someone who's desperate and hungry. And that's what we used to call people all the time. It's like those people who are just like, not hungry for food. It's like hungry for everything. I'm sure you know some hungry tigers. Oh my God. Who told us that you guys? I don't remember. So I think I heard her say it. And I was just like, you know, I just feel like it's one of those things. It's an energy, you know? Everyone knows the energy. There's a lot in this town. This town's got a few.

1:06:25In your documentary, you said that music saved my life. Can you expand on that for the audience? Just how just going through so much as a teenager and getting out of the school. and I remember just going out that first night. The first song I heard was the song Free by Alternate and just those lyrics. I just felt like it was my anthem. And then just how music has always just brought me so much happiness. Just going through all of that and going out at night and just escaping from the pain and not having to think about it and just like losing myself in the music. And then doing this documentary and being on stage and performing, like I realized even more, just like how music has just been such a huge part of my life and how it just like, I don't know, just like music is such a powerful thing.

1:07:28And I like a lyric and just like change your mood or even change your life. When you decided to do your new documentary, it's behind you, it's called Infinite Icon. what was the process like? This is obviously something that takes a long time. What's the behind the scenes of what it takes to get here? A lot. Especially going through my archive of thousands of hours of videos. So when I was eight years old, my dad bought me a camcorder for Christmas and I would film everything, do plays at the house or just me running around doing adventures or whatever. And then when I got older, like going out at night, I would always just bring my camera with me everywhere.

1:08:12So I just have all of this unseen footage. So that was like, so interesting just to like, go and look back on all of that and like, see who I was before and see like what I went through and all the fun times as well. But it was very like therapeutic in such a way. And then obviously filming like a whole concert, the whole process of getting into it. And then I started also just like reflecting back on the 2000s and just so many people were coming up to me and just always saying like, oh my God, your first album is the most underrated pop album of all time. Jealousy. That's the best song ever. It's so good.

1:08:52Thank you. So it's just like, I don't know. I wanted to like really reflect back on that and then I just started thinking about the 2000s about how myself other women were treated and it was just like I don't know I just wanted to tell that story and just in a way but through the lens of music and I really see this as like a trilogy like the first part the first documentary my memoir and now this and also like a love letter to all my fans because they've been the ones who really, like their love has carried me through so much of this. And yeah, I feel like I've seen a lot of music documentaries, but I've never seen one like this.

1:09:32It like has it all. I can't believe that you said that you were nervous to get on stage to perform. That was crazy to me. I wouldn't think you would be nervous. A lot of people don't believe that. I'm such a shy person. So I always feel a little bit shy and especially like doing my first concert. like I was so nervous and I'm so happy that I had right before that performed as Sia and Miley I was talking with them and they told me that they both get nervous too so to hear that like these incredible artists that that's all they do all the time like they get nervous as well I was like okay no we get nervous even to do this today right it's like I think Mel Robbins is on the show recently says if you get nervous or anxious about something it's because you care about it.

1:10:19Because you care. That's what Sia told me as well, which is like a really good way to think about it. Because if you didn't give a shit, you would just be like, whatever. Yeah. Like imagine if we're like, oh, we're sending good parents. Whatever. So it's a good thing. So I like to think of it that way. I think it's a really great way to reframe it. Like I want to teach my kids that. Because I don't want to hold them back from things in life, like feeling shy or embarrassed. It just means you care. If you could talk to your younger self or anyone who's listening that feels misunderstood, understood, what would you tell yourself and them?

1:10:48If I could talk to my younger self, I would say, Paris, you're going to go through a lot of things in life. And sometimes it's going to be really difficult and scary and hard. I promise you one day it's going to be worth it. So you're going to use your voice, make a difference for millions of people. and one day you're going to have beautiful children, amazing husband, build an incredible business and inspire people all around the world. So stay strong and don't be afraid to show the world the real you. Where can everyone watch your documentary and support what you're doing, Infinite Icon? Infinite Icon, a visual memoir, will be out in theaters January 30th.

1:11:39And where can everyone come say hi to you? I'm sure everyone already follows you, but what's all your social handles? My name. Also, I do want to say this. Everyone should go buy your book. Your book is so good. Thank you. I love reading biographies. It's like my favorite thing to do. And your biography is 10 out of 10. Thank you so much. So also buy the book, you guys. Which will be a television series soon. Wow, cool. don't you also I feel like you have a cartoon out I do what's that it's called Paris and Pups it's an animated series on YouTube and it's based on my life with me as a little girl with my puppies living at a hotel going on adventures and my kids are obsessed with it we watch it all the time and it's so much fun I'm going to show it to Zaza and Towns Paris thank you so much for coming on the show thank you thank you Paris infinite icon forever Thank you.

1:12:37Thank you. Slay.