Mastering Your Mind with Ryan Albury | Ep 50

23:06Ryan Albury:It's got all its little components. It's got a heart. It's got lungs. It's got a thumb, all the things, eyes, ears. And then it gets subtler and subtler. There's a nervous system in the brain. There's these chemicals, and there's this information that's being transferred at all times. And we live in a world of information, of course. Of course, the internet is information, but a tree is information. It's got wisdom and intelligence to it because a walnut will never turn into a... A strawberry, yeah. A strawberry. Definitely not a strawberry, but definitely not a peach tree either. So when you start to look at it mechanically, okay, there's all this physical stuff, body, nervous system, brain, but then there's all this mental stuff.

23:48Ryan Albury:The joining point is the mind because the mind and the brain are so often like, oh, you're up in your head. That's just your mind. But the brain and the mind are correlated. There's a lot of science on that. There's a lot of Eastern stuff where the Buddhists are being measured while they meditate and their brainwave frequency is massively changing. The brain communication coherence is improving, so the brain is functioning at a higher rate. higher rate, but they will say, oh, I'm having this experience of clarity of my mind or peace in my mind or even a spiritual experience. And so I really like to take people on a journey where they're putting their body into a relaxed state of the nervous system when most of the world is running on fight or flight, caffeine, adrenaline, cortisol, fight or flight.

24:35Ryan Albury:We're really fired up. We're really worried about things and that's affecting the physical body. So when I work with people, I say, okay, let's get you into a relaxed physical state. Literally, your muscles are relaxing. Your nervous system is untangling. It's going into parasympathetic nervous system or rest and digest rather than fight and flight. and your brain is going to slow down. The measurable brainwave frequency is slowing down, which is from anxious, urgent thoughts and actions to calm, restful, open perception, ease, whatever you want to call it. And so we're really getting the mind and the body into a calm state.

25:17Ryan Albury:From there, we can actually travel through the labyrinth of the mind down into where the core beliefs are and find out what are the core beliefs around money, around business, around clients, around love, sex, romance, God, whatever it might be in someone's life. And you find those packets of information that are literally stored in the operating system that is on the phone. Think of the smartphone as the mind and all the different apps as your core beliefs. Because your phone's going to look differently than mine when you turn it on. You're going to have different background, different apps, different whatever, different battery percentage, capacity, energy.

25:56Ryan Albury:So when we start to look at it mechanically like that, and you really break down, okay, there's all this stuff, and we get to these core beliefs, we go a little bit further, because a lot of people talk about core beliefs. And we say, oh, this phrase that we hear so often, oh, there's a part of me that believes that I can, and there's a part of me that doesn't believe that I can, or that I can't, it believes that i can't and we start to say oh well what are these parts okay these parts are literally different programs within the psyche different aspects of your personality different levels of yourself that have literally uh and we're talking about the negative side here they have different beliefs or opposing beliefs this one says i can this one says i can't i love the

26:39unknown host:michael singer in the untethered soul when he walks through like just observing your thoughts thoughts and then when you have a negative thought asking what part of me is having this thought and I remember did that when my kids were little we were out playing in a in the cul-de-sac on a weekend morning and my Michelle had bought this big styrofoam glider for like three dollars at the dollar tree and like I was chucking it and Chloe and Caleb would just run and compete with each other and I was starting to get angry because I was like they're gonna step on it they're gonna to break it. Our fun's going to be over.

27:12unknown host:I'm like, I stopped. I was like, what part of me is angry, right? Like, why am I getting angry over having fun with my kids? Right? Like, and a part of me just comes up from childhood and a pattern and I could neutralize it. And then it was gone. And I could talk to him calmly and be like, Hey guys, we're having so much fun. But when you guys race together, you're going to trip or push one of each other and you're going to break the stack in the plane. And then we're going to be done and it's not going to be as much fun. So how about we take turns. And so that worked for another five or so minutes until of course they forget and they go running after it and they stepped on it and they broke it and we were done, but I wasn't mad and I didn't ruin the experience with that anger part, whatever part of me was angry, like, which is absurd.

27:55unknown host:There should be no part of me that's angry while I'm playing with a three and five year old on a sunny Saturday morning and in a beautiful day, throwing a glider around that was three dollars right so i love that experience that that exercise that singer talks about of just like asking what part of me is having this reaction and that's kind of the just the very beginning of the surface level of tuning into what you're talking about and the thing about

28:24Ryan Albury:these parts is yes they're programs they're programmed in whether genetically or from our conception or from our birth or from when we're one year old or 10 years old but our experiences are constantly programming our minds so that we can adapt and be in this world. So some of it is like impersonal, mechanical, programmed information. If mom or dad or whatever was saying, money is evil, money is evil, money is evil, money is evil forever because of their own psychological construct, well, what do you think is going to get into the kids? They're going to carry on these beliefs. And so part of it is programmed, but then part of it is personal.

29:00Ryan Albury:We start to say, okay, yes, that was programmed into me, but now it's me. It's an aspect of me that actually, whether I'm conscious of it or not, has these beliefs built into my system. Now, the thing with these parts is that they can literally come up and take over your identity, your experience, your body and your mouth and your mind and be like, I'm really perceiving it this way. Just like you mentioned, I was angry about this glider thing. It's like, oh, something came up and the word that I use is hijacked. If you look at internal family systems, they say blended. But to me, it's like a hijacking, like someone, some little kid literally came up and ripped the driver out of the bus and he's in the driver's seat now.

29:41Ryan Albury:And he's angry, he's afraid, he's in shame. He's got some belief that's running the show, whatever it might be. And so that really is, I think one of the most important things that I can share with your audience is like, hey we get hijacked by things that are less mature less intelligent less confident less powerful than our like come on present moment adult mature self and that's not the majority of the world is

30:04unknown host:living i think the hijack is such a great term because yeah like in that moment with my kids i was not in control of whatever that anger was representing and i just did a session with you in the fall. Like I've always been, I've always had, when I finally tuned into it in the fall was like, it felt like a dragon inside of my belly that would fly out of my mouth. When somebody would challenge me on something that I was responsible for, that I knew how to solve. And they were questioning me. That's just always been a pattern that I like, I'll respond and be like, I got it, or here's the answer. And then if they question me again, it's like this dragon takes over, hijacks everything out of my mouth and it flies out.

30:45unknown host:And all I can do, the only control I had up to that point was to just bite my tongue, just grit my teeth and bear it, stop the dragon from driving the bus, so to speak. And yeah, that hijacking. So as you listen to this, I think it'd be interesting for you to pay attention to where do those hijack moments come in where it's not quite full dissociation and you black out and you don't remember any details, right? Like we're not multiple personality disorder stuff here, but where do you have something that is so visceral, all the way from your toes to your nose, whatever, like that you can't stop this emotional reaction.

31:26unknown host:And I think Ryan will agree with me that like you don't have to be held hostage by that anymore. Like that's programming, that's trauma, that's operating system level stuff that can be cleared. And I know that 100 % is true because I've cleared so many things and that dragon doesn't fly out of me anymore. When somebody questions my responsibility or ability to solve something that I'm in charge of and all the thousand other things that I no longer get hijacked by that I've cleared over the years. so pay attention to that where you feel like and it's going to be hard to notice because it is so normal it's like asking a fish what it thinks of water it's like what do you mean what's water it's all around me i don't i don't even know that there that it's there because i'm living in it so it'll be hard at first to start paying attention to those things that come out but it's the irrational reactions that are just hair triggered that are extreme and negative those are things that are part of the programming that are just running the show and a tool that's really

32:33Ryan Albury:great for that it's so basic but it's so powerful is to just get not don't use your phone but you just get a little pocket-sized notebook you know something with the hard cover so when it goes in and out of your pocket a hundred times that it's not destroyed. And you get one of those pens that's got four different colors on it. And every time you have a negative thought, you write it in red. And every time you have a positive thought that you remember, you write it in green. So you're setting the intention to start tracking what your mind is doing. And you're taking it out of your mind and you're putting it on paper.

33:03Ryan Albury:And then you can look back throughout the day. Oh, I thought my coworker was an effing moron. Or I thought that my wife just looks so fantastic. Or how are we ever going to do this financially? We're ruined. And you just start writing down as, I mean, you don't make a career of it, but you just write down as many significant thoughts as possible. It's just tracking.

33:22unknown host:It's basic tracking just to get an inventory.

33:24Ryan Albury:Yeah, totally. And that gives you the information. You can measure the information. You can look at the information and say, whoa, like there's something in me that's excessively negative because, you know, Jimmy, my assistant didn't actually do anything there, but I lost it on him or, or even just inside. I was livid inside, but I didn't say anything. That still is that same reaction. It just doesn't come out of you. So there's lots and lots of great little tools to build awareness because that's what we're doing is becoming more aware of what sort of thoughts are there. And you can travel with the thoughts down into the emotions and then to the beliefs.

33:58Ryan Albury:And that's really where we want to get to. You talked about anchors. I use like the ball and chain. We want to get to those anchors and ball and chains, which are emotions, thoughts, and beliefs about a specific situation or category of life like business or finances or whatever. Yeah.

34:14unknown host:And I outlined in my book what Justin Fairman taught me the same concepts, but he just has a framework called BETDAR and it's the beliefs and the emotions lead to the thoughts, decisions, actions, and produce our results. So this is all foundational stuff that the more self-aware you become, the more you're willing to look internally. And I think like, obviously, if you're listening to this and you've gotten this far, you're pretty open. I don't find very many closed-minded people or people that want to stick their head in the sand put up with me very long. So you've already got the beginnings and the desire to be aware.

34:54unknown host:And so it's just walking through that awareness to then say, oh, these are things that I'm carrying, I'm holding that aren't serving me. I don't need to live with this burden any longer, the ball and chain or the boat anchor any longer. I'm willing to go through the exercise to release it.

35:12Ryan Albury:That really is the freedom that we were talking about at the beginning of the show here, where it's like, yes, there's time, freedom, money, freedom, all that geographical freedom, but really freedom of the mind is - There's nothing greater in my opinion.

35:27unknown host:I mean, I say it's worth all the gold in the world to release these things. I remember early on in 2011, 12, 13, when I was just really getting squeezed and I could see these things come up. My mom always used a line that if you don't deal with this issue, God's just going to take you around Mount Sinai again, like he did the Israelites in the desert for 40 years, like just going around in loops and loops and loops. And so for me, it was like I had these patterns that showed up. And when I started realizing like, oh, the only common denominator is me, I'm like, okay, it's clearly not them. It's me that I realized I would, I would dive headlong into getting through that issue.

36:12It almost felt like trying to, to climb a mountain or fight

36:17unknown host:through a portal of some kind, like that if I could just get through the issue that I knew on the other side would be a new form of a new layer of freedom, a new layer of ease, a new layer of peace. And so I learned early on that the faster I would dive into these issues to release them, to get freed of them, the better life got and it compounded. And so for me, I'm not making comparisons. Everybody's journey's completely unique to their own. So I'm not saying that I I had more baggage or trauma than you did or had less or whatever. But for me, I just found that the faster that I went through the stuff, the boat anchors that I wanted to release, the faster that things compounded and improved.

37:02unknown host:And it is the most addicting feedback loop because it doesn't matter how painful something is to clear or how much effort it takes or intensity. It's like I just know once I get to the backside, it's worth all of the effort. Everything was worth it. And the faster I can shed it, the better life gets. And it can feel disorienting for a lot of people. Obviously, I'm unique in that I'm completely comfortable with uncertainty. And I'm completely comfortable with not being in control in certain parts of my life. And so I joke with clients that when I would do a lot of heavy lifting and consulting and fixing businesses, they'd always apologize because we'd be a month or two in and then some massive detail would come up and they're like, sorry, sorry we didn't get to this sooner.

37:53unknown host:And I'm like, it's okay, I'm fine sewing my parachute on the way down. And that level of uncertainty and willingness to deal with the unknown is unique for me. I don't find a lot of people that are at that level of comfort with just diving off a cliff and knowing it's going to work out. So there's no judgment of how long it takes you. There's no judgment of your journey and your experience and your personality and what you're comfortable with or what you're willing to tolerate. I just know for me, the faster I went, the more that I leaned in, the better everything got in a rapid way. And it shows up in all parts of my life.

38:36unknown host:Like that's the beauty of dealing with mindset as a business owner is, yes, your business runs more smoothly. Yes, your lousy employees disappear. They just run away. They won't put up with your health and your ability to confront dysfunction and all the things I talk about in my book. But your marriage gets better. Your friends get better. Your relationship with your kids gets better. Like all parts of life get better when you heal internally. I mean, I was in September, I was back in Chicago, Perry Marshall and I run a program together and we meet twice a year and we're sitting at dinner and his daughter, Tana, she's more involved in the business now and she's 27 and bright gal.

39:17unknown host:We've always gotten along, but she said we were talking, I was talking with a few of the members about mindset stuff. One of them ended up reaching out to Ryan and working with him for the last six months and he's gotten great results. But because of that discussion at dinner and I told him like the changes that happened in my life and Tana goes, well, it's obvious it's working. I'm all, oh, really? Why is that? She's all, well, I like working with you now and I didn't in the past. I was like, thanks. I appreciate the feedback. Didn't mean that 21-year-old Tana may have been a little more immature too and didn't enjoy blunt Josh at the time, but I appreciated the feedback.

39:56unknown host:And so it literally does bleed in every part of your life. And I'd even say that the conflicts that you may have that are repetitive just disappear. Like, I just don't have the arguments or the people that want to argue with me around various topics in my life anymore. And it's not because I'm living in an echo chamber or intolerant to dissidents or differing opinions. It's literally just whatever was inside me that needed that confrontation, that battle is gone. So they just don't even show up anymore.

40:32Ryan Albury:There's one more level that I think is beneficial to hit on here, which is we talked a lot about actions and mind and emotions and so on. There's a problem in the business, let's say, there's a problem with your finances, let's say, and you want to move towards changing that. And so most of the world is going to say, okay, hustle, grind, fix, all that type of stuff. we're presenting here okay first yes to all that but first go in and find out what is it about you that created this problem in the first place or got you here in the first place so that's all really good and we've talked about how when you take that approach you're going to get quote unquote better results but what we didn't talk about yet is goals and what people actually want the desires that they actually want what do you actually want out of your business i want to make 50k a month i'll make 100k a month whatever it might be to say okay but what is it in you that actually wants those goals is it a want or a need is it to keep up with the joneses is it to impress dad who never gave you a word of affirmation in your life whatever it might be

41:37unknown host:quit talking about alex ramosi that way

41:42unknown host:sorry alex i'm still love you bud it's just so obvious that when he talks about his dad and that stuff that comes out and you just see the fruit. I'm not bashing the guy, it's just these are patterns that become so obvious when you do this kind of work.

41:56Ryan Albury:Absolutely. So our goals will actually change once we've quote-unquote rectified and there's levels to the rectification. You know Josh, I say the word purification all the time. It's like how much silt is there in the water? Muck or almost solid or is there just a little bit in the bottom? What level are you at in your purification process, reprogramming process, becoming your authentic self, connecting with your spirit, even beyond that, to talk at that level. What level are you at with all that? So as we do our purification process, which I think is part of what the meaning of life is, is to have this challenging environment that we get put into as children and to figure it out in some way and then to let go of it some way, earn our freedom physically, yes, of course, mentally, emotionally, but also spiritually.

42:42Ryan Albury:And then you'll notice, and I've noticed, and I think that's the same for you, Josh, and I'll let you speak for yourself, of course, but you'll notice that your goals change or the reason for what you want changes anyway. It's like, oh, of course I still want to make 30 grand a month or whatever it is for you or for anybody else. But now I have a completely different reason for wanting that. It's because I want to build something for somebody else because I want to contribute to the world. It's because I want to do the right thing. Yes, Yes, of course, everybody likes yachts and everybody likes palm trees and everybody likes sunshine and all that stuff.

43:15Ryan Albury:But as you purify within yourself, what you start to see, what I start to see with my clients and people that I do this work alongside is that they have more freedom of what they want to have as well. And I think that's just so beautiful because this whole world has been programmed by the marketing industry. And of course, the economics, the economy of the world plays into that. And yes, we have to pay our rent and our mortgages and so on, but we want different things for different reasons. And that's another type of financial freedom, not just having tons of money, but not having to have tons of money to kind of bandaid over some wound or some lack within yourself or even some lack spiritually that is basically running our goal setting process.

43:56Ryan Albury:Why do you want to achieve that? Okay, sometimes it's very, very beautiful. People want to build something for the homeless or they want to build something for save the whale, save the rainforest, whatever it might be. But a lot of times it's because we don't feel good and we have to keep striving for something. And so, yeah, that piece is really important to highlight here is that our goals change and we get into more of a life of mission and purpose and service and thinking outside of ourselves, even thinking outside of our family or even our group of friends, our small community. We start to think at the worldly level.

44:31Ryan Albury:And I think that really is one of the solutions, not the only solution, but one of the solutions for making this world a better place. Of course, there's levels to that conversation too, but that's definitely one of them.

44:42unknown host:Yeah. I think it goes along the lines of those who want to be in power should never be allowed to be in power. Because as you get healthier, as you get more balanced, you realize there's no need to be in power, to have power over others. and that it's almost like the enlightenment journey takes away so much of the striving and objects that we just get implanted in us. I remember there was a, I was looking for it. I was trying to recall it, but there was a really funny meme I shared with a wealthy friend the other day and it, it showed a picture of somebody driving a Porsche and a Bugatti drove by.

45:20unknown host:They're like, Oh, I wish I had enough to get a Bugatti. And then the Bugatti is driving and he sees a yacht and he's all, Oh, I wish I had enough to get a yacht. And then it shows somebody driving like a Toyota pickup and says, man, my Toyota is awesome. It's like, and there was a play on it that was even better. That was then the yacht owner goes and sees the Toyota truck. It's like, man, that's a sick Toyota. Like just that it, it doesn't matter. There's always striving. If somebody wants something, there's always something bigger, better, faster, nicer to always strive for. And, um, it was funny cause I have a Toyota truck and I'm completely content with it.

45:54unknown host:I would, wouldn't mind having a Porsche 911 someday and race around in it. But I've got no stress around it. I've got no depression or despondence about it. And my buddy's like, yeah, that's exactly right. Him and all of his friends that are at that level of trying to figure out, how can I get a private jet? How do I justify having a private jet that costs$10 ,000 an hour to fly? And that'd be nice, but I'm not changing my life for it. I'm not going to make any decisions to try to calibrate for getting more stuff. Can't take it with you. Nope. So what's an exercise we can walk through here as we wrap up that helps somebody that's listening to get a little deeper, get a little further on the journey of awareness of what's driving them?

46:43Ryan Albury:So we can do the sort of intro to the sessions that I do with people to help get into a more relaxed physical state and a more calm, aware mind or state of mind, state of identity. I think that would be a really good one to walk people through here on the show.

46:59unknown host:Yeah, go for it.

47:00Ryan Albury:So this is okay if you're sitting up, if you're driving, I would recommend this because there is an eyes closed component, but you can actually take yourself down into a deeply present, relaxed state with your eyes open. That is something that is achievable. So if you -

47:16unknown host:I wouldn't practice it for your first time right now while you're driving.

47:19Ryan Albury:No, no. But later on, after a bunch of practice, You can do this with your eyes open and be fully present while you're operating life. But yeah, for now, if you're sitting up, that's great. If you want to pause this and go find a lying down position, then that's going to be even better. However you can be comfortable, however you can feel supported by the chair or the couch or the floor for that matter, then that's good. So wherever you are, one of the things that's really important in these types of experiences, but also as you move through life, is your body posture. There's a big bone down below called the pelvis, and out of that comes the spine.

47:57Ryan Albury:And so when we live our life with the pelvis and the spine in correct orientation, literally just that is going to create a different outcome to our physiology and how our body affects our brain and mind and so on. So your posture is far more important than you think. So right now, just notice where your pelvis is in relationship to your spine. If you want to move it around a little bit, you can get a feel for where you are in space or in the room. What's the orientation of your body relative to other parts of your body? So just take a moment to notice where your pelvis is. It can tip forward and back.

48:34Ryan Albury:Your spine has natural curves to it. So just move your body around feeling where you are in relationship to the pelvis. You can notice where your shoulders are. Are they rolled forward? Are they pulled up towards the ears? Is there spaciousness between your elbows and your ribs? You can just sort of flap your wings a little. You can straighten your arms, bend your arms, roll your wrists. Just opening and closing your hands, but as you open your hands, try to open them further than you normally would, just sort of backstretching the hands, wiggling the fingers, bending the fingers at all the joints.

49:09Ryan Albury:We're just sort of starting to, quote-unquote, get into the body here. so just noticing this you can you can move your legs as well the ankles and toes and knees and hip joints just sort of moving yourself around as you get settled and then go up into the neck check where the head is at relative to the spine check where your skull is at relative to the shoulders is there clenching in your jaw or is the jaw relaxed and I mentioned this word clenching go through your body now notice at your shoulders at your biceps at your hands if there is tension in your body at first we're just going to notice it we're just going to see that it's there you don't have to change it or soften it or anything just notice that it's there simply noticing what is happening in your body is a huge awareness builder so in the show we talked about becoming more aware of our thoughts and our emotions one of the ways you could do that is becoming more aware of tensions and pressures and constrictions or sensations in your body.

50:15Ryan Albury:So just take a moment to notice what tension is in the body. Maybe it's in the back or in the chest or in the jaw, wherever it might be, just notice it for now. And also noticing any other sensations. Maybe there's a twitch happening or a gentle warmth rising, or maybe there's discomfort.

50:35unknown host:If there is discomfort, feel free to adjust however you need to. But you're just

50:40Ryan Albury:noticing here, what is it that's happening at the level of sensation in the body? Tension, pressure, yes. Also, a little deeper, what are the other sensations that you're noticing? So already, your nervous system has begun to unwind. Already, your brain has began to slow down. If you haven't closed your eyes yet, please do so. Closing the eyes removes about 80 % of the information that your brain has to process. So immediately your brain starts to slow down when you close your eyes. Give it five minutes or 10 minutes, your brain has gone into a different brainwave frequency. It's becoming more relaxed.

51:20Ryan Albury:It's not having to process the world, to deal with the world, to figure out the world, to succeed in the world. So just allowing the eyes to close, the brain is slowing down, the nervous system is unwinding. It's kind of fun. Just like you have the ability to lift your arm in this moment, you have the ability to slow your heart rate in this moment. You have the ability to go into the rest and digest nervous system in this moment. With practice, you'll be able to be more and more in control of your physiology, which is more and more in control of your brain, which is more and more beneficial for your mind and your emotion and and the way that you move in the world.

51:58Ryan Albury:Just take note of what's happening within your body in this moment. Now start to relax. Soften your jaw. Soften your hands. Soften your forearms, your biceps, and your shoulders. Any points where there's tension being held for you, scanning through your body. And just set the intention, whether you have to move that area of your body or whether you can just focus your mind there and indicate to the body that it is time to surrender and it is time to soften in that space. However it works for you, just soften wherever that tension is. And it's totally okay if you can't. It's totally okay if it only softens a little bit.

52:42Ryan Albury:Totally okay if it doesn't work at all. Try it again next time, it'll be different. And the time after that will be different as well. So there's no right or wrong here. it's just about going in it's just about becoming aware it's just about softening now we have this secondary faculty that kind of links other faculties the breath the lungs are breathing the diaphragm is pulling the ribs are expanding the chest is rising and falling so just take a moment here to notice, again, not changing notice what's happening with your breath is it rhythmic is it stuttered is there pausing is it long and slow and deep is it shallow just notice what's happening with your breath here again building awareness focusing more on these more subtle aspects of yourself so as you notice what's happening with your breath continue to scan your body, relaxing your body, softening your body.

53:48Ryan Albury:You're still actively working with the body as you notice the breath. Now we're building awareness and also splitting awareness. Deepening the breath.

54:01Ryan Albury:Pulling more air into the lungs, pushing more air out of the lungs on the exhale. You're starting to get into the breath work side now. First aspect was body awareness, body work now we've done breath awareness breath work deepening the breath very simple breath work just longer slower more rhythmic breaths circular breathing no pauses breathing more and deeply breathing more rhythmically back to the body for a moment soften even more relax even more set the intention to soften top to bottom back to front deeper and deeper layers soften the body deepen the breath deepen the breath

54:50Ryan Albury:just noticing what it feels like to soften the body and deepen the breath at the same time I'll be quiet for 10-15 seconds or so just notice without my voice what's going on as you soften and deepen

55:20Ryan Albury:Notice what you're experiencing in the body. Just noticing.

55:32Ryan Albury:and so as we work with the body and as we work with the breath we come into a greater state of relaxation now the mind may have been running all over the place in this experience so far what is this why are we doing this am i doing it right doesn't feel good feels great the mind may have flared up and started doing its narrative even more that's okay the mind may have slowed down quieted down, became more spacious. You may have become more present. That's okay too. No, there's no right or wrong. It's just what you're programmed to do in the mind with this type of experience. It will change. It can change over time with these types of practices.

56:13Ryan Albury:But just for a moment, notice what it is that your mind is doing. What is it saying? What types of words or images is it producing in response to this experience? Maybe this is your first type of experience like this. Maybe this is your thousandth. Just notice what your mind wants to do right now. What is it saying? What is it showing you? Is it going into the past or into the future? Where is your mind going? What is it showing you? Just take a look.

56:58Ryan Albury:and coming back into the body, softening the body once more all through the body, the neck, the back, the shoulders, the pelvis, the spine the legs, the feet, the hands, soften everything as if you were butter that's came out of the fridge, softening over time

57:18Ryan Albury:breathing more deeply again, once more

57:24Ryan Albury:and now indicate to your mind time to slow down time to produce less thought time to produce less image time to come out of the past and future step into a place of leadership and tell your mind from a place of love not force it's time to slow down

57:46Ryan Albury:still softening the body still deepening the breath work with the mind this might be new for you. That's okay. Just experiment with it. Just play with it. Just like I can lift up my arm or my leg or tilt my head side to side, can I reclaim dominion over my mind, benevolent dictatorship over my mind to indicate that it doesn't have to do all that? It doesn't have to work so hard. It doesn't have to try so hard. It doesn't have to hectically scan across all the options and all the problems that might happen, it can just relax. Just indicate to your mind that it's time to soften. Even if it softens 0.01 % right now, it's a win.

58:27Ryan Albury:So just tell your mind it's time to sit down, slow down. Relax your body, deepen your breath while you do this.

58:45Ryan Albury:And now let's take one more moment to indicate to the mind what it could do right now. Start to think of something that you're grateful for. Maybe it's your spouse. Maybe it's your dog. Maybe it's something that someone said to you or an experience that you had spiritually. Just start to think of something that you're grateful for. Indicating to the mind what to think about. This is the power that we have. We are not the mind. We are the users of the mind. It's a tool that's been programmed. It's not your identity. Indicate to the mind to think of something that you're grateful for. Hold that thought.

59:27Ryan Albury:Hold that image just for a few seconds.

59:34Ryan Albury:See if you can even bring up the body sensations of gratitude. let the gratitude grow into a physiological experience almost turning up the volume knob of the gratitude if it's at a 1, take it to a 2 or 3 if it's at a 5, take it to a 7 or an 8, turn it up there's so many things to be grateful for running water, lights, power the invention of the automobile Amazon, whatever it might be for you

1:00:08Ryan Albury:And so in conclusion to close, let's just bring the corners of your mouth up towards your eyes, smiling. Just allowing that gratitude and that smile to be the mental and the physiological experience.

1:00:29Ryan Albury:Notice if you are feeling greater peace, greater freedom in the moment.

1:00:37Ryan Albury:and when you're ready you can start to bring movement to your body you can start to wake up the body coming back into the space and when it's right for you you can open up your eyes

1:00:52unknown host:yeah i love doing these every time i mean this is we don't go as deep every session but But when I worked with Ryan, that's how they start. Throughout this whole conversation, I keep thinking of the actor Bill Murray. I saw an interview of his once and he always has these fantastic stories, these fantastic life experiences. The host asked him, why does this keep happening to you? Why do you keep having these wonderful outcomes in life? He said, early in my career, I had a mentor tell me that the more relaxed we are, the the better we perform. And he says, I've just decided to adopt that to my entire life.

1:01:32unknown host:And I got to meet him once. It was at a basketball tournament in 2017. I was there at a conference with a friend and Bill was sitting across the dining hall from us, the dining room of this restaurant. And my friend was like, oh, let's go get our picture. I'm like, let's leave the man alone. He's eating lunch. And at the end of our lunch, somebody had been bugging Bill to get a picture and so he's standing up so my buddy's like let's go and I'm like okay so I walk over and Bill's about to sit down and I was like hey Bill you got one more in you and in his caricature kind of way he kind of shrugs his shoulder and nods and so I put my arm around him and my friend's on his left I'm on his right and I've got my camera up and right before I take the picture I tell him I said you know that interview you had you talked about relaxing being a key to increased performance I said that was really meaningful for me he smiled at me and he nodded and we took the picture and parted ways.

1:02:23unknown host:But it is like, I don't know about you, but for me when I was just following Ryan's lead, everything's so much easier. Everything's so much more relaxed when I get into that state. And I find that when I'm in that state more consistently, serendipity, provision, flow, grace, whatever you want to call it, keeps happening. Doors keep opening. Things keep unfolding. There's no force. There's no effort. I don't have to do anything. I'm just being and the stuff unfolds. And so if that resonates for you and if you're interested in working with Ryan, the journey from this exercise then gets into dealing with parts, talking and interacting with parts of yourself, the negative parts, the parts that are defending yourself, protecting yourself.

1:03:14unknown host:And that's the journey that I've gone on with him to release them and be freed of them. That's how his sessions work. And they go from that warmup, essentially getting your body into an open state to then welcome those parts in and interact with them. And so if you're interested, you can reach out to him. His email is welcome at ryanalbury.com. So R-Y-A-N-A-L-B-U-R-Y.com. And I think he's got a website coming. And if you have questions, you can obviously reach out to me, shoot me a note and I'm happy to answer any questions but Brian this was fantastic thanks for sharing your brilliance and thanks for pouring into me over these years and appreciate our

1:03:55Ryan Albury:friendship as do I yeah I appreciate you having me here and hopefully we could do it again sometime

1:04:00unknown host:yeah that was the other thing I was thinking of if this was useful for you and you like this kind of content if you'd like Brian to come back and just shoot me a note leave a comment somewhere and I'm happy to keep evolving this podcast to be as useful as possible for you. I get zero benefit from hearing my own voice. So I do not.

1:04:22Ryan Albury:We're asking a little bit.

1:04:22unknown host:I do not need to hear my own voice.

1:04:25Ryan Albury:You're a better man than I then.

1:04:28unknown host:I've been told my whole life that I should go into voice work with this, what did somebody call it? These dulcet tones, deep voice, but I've tried it. I don't care for it. but it doesn't do anything for me. So I exist to serve everybody here. So let me know.

1:04:45Ryan Albury:Thanks again, Ryan. Have a great day. Cheers.

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