3 Habits To Build Unshakable Confidence| Lewis Howes

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

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0:49Neuroscience shows repeated actions physically rewire the brain's neuroplasticity, okay? So it teaches that micro behaviors, a clear tone in your voice, eye contact, the ability to look at people in the eye. In a world where we've got cell phones, where no one's looking at each other when we're hanging out over lunch or dinner or on a walk, people are on their phones looking at the phone rather than the person next to them. We have lost the ability to build confidence because we are susceptible to devices that hold us back and break these emotional abilities. So if you're unable to have eye contact when someone's speaking to you, you don't come across as a confident person.

1:35When you're able to look someone in the eyes, not in a creepy way or some like stalkery way, but in a calm, confident way with open body posture, open body stance, It's not, you know, closed off like a hunchback here, you know, with your arms crossed, your legs crossed, and like this insecure little puppy dog, but just a relaxed, open body position, an open posture. You internally, your nervous system, your brain shifts how people perceive you and how you internally feel. Isn't that fascinating? Body language, eye contact, clear voice. These micro behaviors Vanessa Van Edwards talks about shift how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you.

2:22So I want you to do an analysis right now of yourself. Do you speak with a clear voice, with a clear tone? I know I struggle with this most of my life. When you're shy and insecure and you doubt yourself, you talk like shy and insecure and your body language follows. It mimics the belief about you. So this is a process of overcoming this to build unshakable confidence. But you have to ask yourself, do I speak with a clear tone? Do I look in people's eyes when they're speaking to me or when I speak to them? Do I have an open body posture? Or do I have an F you across my face that says, do not talk to me.

3:00And I cross my arms anytime someone talks to me. How you show up is how you're perceived. And it's if you're perceived confidently or not. So something I want you to try is to execute three confidence reps today. So after you watch this or listen to this episode, I want you to have three confidence reps today because confident people take action now. They don't say, I want to start this next week or next month or next year. They take action immediately on what they're given to them so they can implement this and to anchor this into their life because they're going to have to repeat it over and over again for the habit to become second nature.

3:43So right after this episode, three confidence reps. Number one, hold eye contact. The next person you see, I don't care if you go get a coffee at the coffee shop, you're going to connect to the person who's taking your order and you're going to look them in the eyes. You're not going to look down the whole time. You're not going to look at the menu and say, here's my order, blah, blah, blah, blah, and not even look at them. You're going to look at them. If you can, look at the name tag and say, hi, Jeff, and speak clearly and give a genuine compliment. Hold eye contact, speak clearly, and give a genuine compliment.

4:17And if you add into saying the person's name, it creates a stronger confidence connection with that individual. Anytime you hear your name, it makes you light up. It makes you spark. It makes you feel appreciated, seen, valued, and validated. That breeds confidence in the other person as well as in you. You speaking it to someone and someone speaking it to you comes across as a more confident, genuine person. So three confidence reps today. Hold eye contact, speak clearly, give a genuine compliment. Bonus if you say the person's name, whether it's a friend, family member, whoever it might be. So the key takeaway is confidence strengthens through repetition.

5:04Again, you've probably heard a lot of these things before, but confidence strengthens through repetition. Neural pathways become smoother, just like lifting weights builds muscle. Again, you've probably heard the analogy of lifting weights and getting stronger and building the muscle over time. It has to, you have to be willing to put in that effort. You have to be willing to stretch the muscle and almost strain it a little bit. So it has a micro tear and then heals and builds stronger. The more you build your confidence muscle, the more you become unshakable in the psychological warfare of life.

5:47Whatever it is that you're doing at your career, your job, and your business, and your relationship, and walking around the world. The psychological warfare of life, when you are confident with you, you have emotional range, physical range, psychological range, that you are more flexible to what the world throws at you. You are less fragile. And fragile people are not confident people in general.

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